Jun - Ruhani Satsang USA

Concluding Comments on Marriage
N THE last two months we have pub-
I lished a number of sayings, talks and
writings given by Master Kirpal Singh Ji
on marriage and related subjects. Perhaps
it would be helpful now to summarize
and clarify the Master's teachings
on this whole area of human life:
The highest ideal for a human being
in this regard is to live a chaste life;
this Master has made completely clear,
nowherc more so than in "On Lust and
Anger," beginning on page 2 of this
issue. And in "The Power of Ojas,"
published last November, as well as
many other places, he explained that
progress in meditation is dependent in
large measure upon the conservation of
the vital fluid; that without chastity it is
very difficult to go within.
But chastity is not repression; this
must be grasped at once, or hopelcss
confusion results. Repression and indulgence
are two sides of the same coin;
and the coin is sexual desire. A chaste
person is neither repressed nor sensual:
he is functioning on another planc entirely,
and those points of reference have
little relevance for him. A person who
is addicted to heroin, for instance, is
either giving in to his addiction or fighting
it with all his might; a person who is
not addicted is doing neither. Similarly,
a chaste person is one who is free from
desire except when he wishes to make
use of it for the purpose for which it
was intended: namely, the continuation
of the race. Such a person sees people
of the opposite sex as children of God,
not objects of desire. And such a person
relates to other people so as to bring out
their own latent divinity; not in such a
way as to provoke their sexuality.
Of course, such a definition of a
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chaste person excludes about 99% of
the human race; and yet the wonder of
it is that it fits every other animal species
known. Master points this out when he
says "animals observe brahmcharya more
than men." They certainly do. No
male in all the lower creation feels desire
for the female (and vice versa) except
when the female is able to conceive.
Is that not an outstanding fact? Would
not an impartial observer conclude that
perhaps there was something basically
abnormal or unnatural about the human
species in the light of that?
It is because of this addiction to sexuality
among humans, and the terrifying
power that the sex instinct has
achieved over them, that Masters and
avatars have universally decreed the
marriage bond as the best method both
to contain the sex urge within acceptable
karmic bounds, and also to eventually
overcome it, as Master explains in "Holding
the Scales Even" on page 11. The
idea of marriage does not occur among
the lower species, with one or two exceptions
(eagles, geese, and a few other
younger brothers and sisters mate for
life and are totally faithful to their partners);
but, with human beings, it is an
absolute necessity (of course, there are
individual exceptions, as Master pointed
out) in order to avoid a mountain of
heavy karmic complications. Because,
as Master has explained in darshan sessions,
private talks, etc., intimate sexual
relationships between two individuals
register on the astral plane and the same
karmic connection is set up as though
they were married. If this is not worked
through in this life, it remains as a debt
to be paid off in another. And if a person
is promiscuous and has many inti-
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