Grief and the Holidays - Hospice of the Western Reserve
Grief and the Holidays - Hospice of the Western Reserve
Grief and the Holidays - Hospice of the Western Reserve
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from <strong>the</strong> Editor<br />
Diane Snyder Cowan, MA, MT-BC<br />
The <strong>of</strong>ficial start <strong>of</strong> winter is just around <strong>the</strong> corner. We know how gloomy Clevel<strong>and</strong><br />
winters are <strong>and</strong> we know how glitzy <strong>the</strong> holidays can be. With only a h<strong>and</strong>ful <strong>of</strong><br />
sunshiny days, but weeks <strong>and</strong> weeks <strong>of</strong> tinsel <strong>and</strong> glitter in <strong>the</strong> stores, we need to ready<br />
ourselves for a roller coaster <strong>of</strong> emotions. This can be a difficult time whe<strong>the</strong>r it is <strong>the</strong><br />
first year <strong>of</strong> your grief or several years without your loved ones present.<br />
It’s up to you how to best approach <strong>the</strong> season. The winter can be a quiet time <strong>of</strong><br />
reflection <strong>and</strong> introspection. It can be a period in which you review <strong>the</strong> past <strong>and</strong> look<br />
to <strong>the</strong> future. It can be <strong>the</strong> point at which you reinvent your life <strong>and</strong> your roles.<br />
There is a sacredness in tears.<br />
They are not <strong>the</strong> mark <strong>of</strong><br />
weakness, but <strong>of</strong> power. They<br />
speak more eloquently than ten<br />
thous<strong>and</strong> tongues. They are <strong>the</strong><br />
messengers <strong>of</strong> overwhelming<br />
grief, <strong>of</strong> deep contrition,<br />
<strong>and</strong> <strong>of</strong> unspeakable love.<br />
– Washington Irving<br />
On <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r h<strong>and</strong>, <strong>the</strong> holidays can be busy <strong>and</strong> hectic, <strong>and</strong> you may welcome <strong>the</strong>m<br />
as a distraction from your grief. Be careful not to overextend yourself. Make sure<br />
you include an “escape” for whatever plans you make. Drive your own car to that<br />
holiday ga<strong>the</strong>ring so you can leave whenever you wish. Keep expectations realistic<br />
<strong>and</strong> know that you can change your mind at any time. Whatever your choice for this<br />
season, it’s important not to isolate yourself from family <strong>and</strong> friends who can <strong>of</strong>fer<br />
companionship, comfort <strong>and</strong> support.<br />
The bereavement center continues to be here to <strong>of</strong>fer support. In addition to<br />
individual counseling, <strong>the</strong>re are a variety <strong>of</strong> groups <strong>and</strong> healing arts workshops that<br />
you may find beneficial.<br />
We wish for peace in your hearts <strong>and</strong> peace in <strong>the</strong> world.<br />
The Elisabeth Severance Prentiss Bereavement Center is a program <strong>of</strong> <strong>Hospice</strong> <strong>of</strong><br />
<strong>the</strong> <strong>Western</strong> <strong>Reserve</strong>, <strong>and</strong> <strong>Hospice</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Western</strong> <strong>Reserve</strong> recently joined Facebook,<br />
Twitter <strong>and</strong> LinkedIn. Please follow us on <strong>the</strong>se sites.<br />
Diane Snyder Cowan, MA, MT-BC<br />
(216) 486-6312<br />
dscowan@hospicewr.org<br />
Visit The Bereavement<br />
Center's Blog at:<br />
http://bereavementcenter.blogspot.com<br />
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