Seven Choices: Finding Daylight After Loss Shatters Your World
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By JoDee Coulter, MT-BC<br />
19201 Villaview Road<br />
Cleveland, Ohio 44119-3064<br />
(216) 486-6838<br />
Hospice House & Headquarters<br />
300 East 185th Street<br />
Cleveland, Ohio 44119-1330<br />
Serving Northern Ohio with offices<br />
throughout Ashtabula, Cuyahoga, Geauga,<br />
Lake, Lorain and Summit Counties.<br />
Hospice Resale Shop in Lyndhurst<br />
Information: 800-707-8922<br />
Hospice Connect: 800-707-8921<br />
hospicewr.org<br />
Copyright 2009 Hospice of the Western Reserve<br />
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED<br />
The Elisabeth Severance Prentiss Bereavement Center is a community-based grief support program that<br />
provides services throughout Northern Ohio. We offer support to anyone who has experienced a loss due to death.<br />
<strong>Seven</strong> <strong>Choices</strong>: <strong>Finding</strong> <strong>Daylight</strong><br />
<strong>After</strong> <strong>Loss</strong> <strong>Shatters</strong> <strong>Your</strong> <strong>World</strong><br />
By Elizabeth Harper Neeld, Ph.D.<br />
As we journey through grief, we often struggle with feeling<br />
out of control - that we have no choice, and when we do have<br />
decisions to make we are too overwhelmed or full of self-doubt<br />
to make them. In her book, <strong>Seven</strong> <strong>Choices</strong>: <strong>Finding</strong> <strong>Daylight</strong><br />
<strong>After</strong> <strong>Loss</strong> <strong>Shatters</strong> <strong>Your</strong> <strong>World</strong>, Elizabeth Harper Neeld, Ph.D.<br />
helps put the pieces back together. In the chapter, “Impact:<br />
Experiencing the Unthinkable,” she shares her story about the<br />
loss of her husband, as well as the experiences of others. She<br />
discusses seven phases she lived through during her grief, and<br />
the decisions she had to make as well as the challenges she<br />
faced. She offers choices for each of these challenges which<br />
will enlighten and empower the reader to take a more positive<br />
approach - creating more hope for those looking for daylight.<br />
From identifying life as it was to feeling freedom from the<br />
Domination of Grief, Dr. Neeld supports the bereaved reader.<br />
She devotes a special section to helping grieving children and<br />
teens, and completes her work with a discography, bibliography<br />
and Internet resources. No matter what type of loss you have<br />
experienced, you will find this book to be a great resource.<br />
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Volume 18 / No. 4 / Winter 09<br />
THIS ISSUE<br />
From The ediTor<br />
misguided “ground rules” oF grieF<br />
isn’T grieF CompliCaTed enough?<br />
Book review<br />
a Child’s view<br />
EDITOR<br />
Diane Snyder Cowan, MA, MT-BC<br />
Director<br />
VOLUNTEER EDITOR<br />
Thelma Morris<br />
EDITORIAL ASSISTANT<br />
Felicia Dunlop-Stanley<br />
CONTRIBUTING WRITERS<br />
Laurie Mason, MSSA, LISW-S<br />
Bereavement Coordinator<br />
Megan Davis, LISW-S<br />
School Liaison<br />
JoDee Coulter, MT-BC<br />
Bereavement Coordinator<br />
Amalie Clausen, MSSA, LSW<br />
Children’s Bereavement Coordinator<br />
A Publication of The Elisabeth Severance Prentiss Bereavement Center<br />
Winter is nearly<br />
here. We feel the<br />
cold as we move<br />
about from home<br />
to work to school to<br />
community. The snow blankets us and the<br />
winter months can bring a certain comfort<br />
during our time of grief.<br />
Be kind to yourself this December. The<br />
glitz and jingle of the season can be<br />
overwhelming, but know that there are<br />
others out there who have experienced the<br />
death of a loved one and are feeling a heavy<br />
heart this holiday season. You are not alone.<br />
Welcoming in the New Year can be anything<br />
but welcoming when you are grieving. For<br />
many, the season can be difficult. Others<br />
find that the New Year is a relief and look<br />
at it as a “fresh start.” Sometimes it seems<br />
unreal that time has marched on. We may<br />
have been used to counting the time since<br />
About<br />
Grief<br />
from the Editor<br />
our loved one died in weeks or months.<br />
Suddenly we are saying “my loved one died<br />
last year” and that can come as a shock. It<br />
is normal to feel afraid that your memories<br />
will fade: the reality is you will always hold<br />
the memory of your loved one in your<br />
heart. You will remember what you need to<br />
when you need it.<br />
We hope you enjoy this issue of About Grief.<br />
We encourage you to review the support<br />
group listings and hope you will attend. It is<br />
our wish that the upcoming year will bring<br />
you strength, hope and peace.<br />
We continue to be here with comfort<br />
and support.<br />
Diane Snyder Cowan, MA, MT-BC<br />
(216) 486-6312<br />
dscowan@hospicewr.org<br />
Visit The Bereavement Center's Blog at:<br />
http://bereavementcenter.blogspot.com<br />
C o m f o r t | H o p e | H e a l i n g<br />
19201 Villaview Road | Cleveland, Ohio 44119-3064 | 216-486-6838 | 800-707-8922 | hospicewr.org<br />
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Misguided “Ground Rules” of Grief<br />
By Laurie Mason, MSSA, LISW-S<br />
The death of someone close can lead us to expect and often<br />
receive wonderful support from the people in our lives.<br />
Sometimes however, grieving people discover that society has<br />
established “ground rules” that are not helpful in their grief<br />
journey. Some of these misguided notions include:<br />
Life should return to normal shortly after the funeral<br />
Grieving people often receive great support just after the<br />
loss, during the funeral and the days immediately following.<br />
However, friends return to their lives and may expect that the<br />
grieving person should as well. In reality, the first weeks after<br />
the death of a loved one are just the start of the grief journey.<br />
You must get rid of belongings immediately<br />
Well meaning family and friends may try to “help” by quickly<br />
going through the deceased’s belongings and packing them<br />
up to be discarded, feeling these will only add to the grief.<br />
In reality, many belongings of a loved one can bring great<br />
comfort to the one who is grieving.<br />
Men should not cry but women must<br />
Society often places restrictions on the way a person should<br />
grieve. Men are taught not to cry and to be strong. Therefore<br />
a man who openly weeps may be perceived as “weak.” Women<br />
who do not show tears may be seen as “cold.” In reality, there<br />
is no right or wrong way to grieve, regardless of gender. How<br />
you express your grief is as personal as the loss itself.<br />
The grief of a parent whose child has died trumps your grief<br />
Society often places hierarchical value on different types of<br />
loss. The loss of a pet may be seen as less meaningful than<br />
that of a sister. The death of a distant grandparent may<br />
be perceived as less important than that of a close friend.<br />
Consequently, many grievers are disenfranchised because<br />
society doesn’t recognize their loss as significant. In<br />
reality, every loss is significant and every person has a<br />
right to grieve.<br />
Widows/Widowers must give up their couple friends<br />
because they feel uncomfortable around you<br />
Sometimes a death can be a harsh reminder of your own<br />
mortality. Because of this, couple friends may consciously or<br />
unconsciously avoid the surviving spouse of a friend who has<br />
died. This can be very hurtful to the grieving person who<br />
needs their support now more than ever.<br />
You have exactly one year to get over this<br />
A person’s grief is as individual as his or her loss. There is no<br />
magic in reaching the milestone of one year. However, society<br />
seems to place great stock in the notion that “it’s been a year<br />
so you should be feeling better.” In reality, it may be just the<br />
beginning of the grief journey for some people. The nature<br />
of grief lies in the nature of the relationship one had with the<br />
person who died.<br />
The journey of grief is personal and can’t be directed by<br />
what others say. If you are grieving, know that it is ok for<br />
you to feel how you feel, regardless of the “ground rules” put<br />
in place by society. If you are supporting someone who is<br />
grieving, let them know that you want to help in ways that<br />
are most useful to them. If you don’t know how, ask. It is<br />
also wise to offer help in a way that is comfortable for you.<br />
Recognize your own limitations. Don’t promise things you<br />
cannot deliver. It is difficult to lose someone we love. Start<br />
by just being present and available. This may be the best<br />
gift you have to offer.<br />
The Vista Walk<br />
remember your loved one<br />
The Vista Walk is Hospice of the Western Reserve’s memorial<br />
garden brick pathway located on the shores of Lake Erie at Hospice<br />
House. Anyone who wishes to remember their loved one by<br />
purchasing a brick with a special inscription is invited to call (216)<br />
383-3712 for more information. The Vista Walk at Hospice House<br />
is open for meditation and reflection.<br />
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Isn’t Grief Complicated Enough?<br />
Megan Davis, LISW-S<br />
“My husband died over three years ago…but I still can’t seem<br />
to imagine life without him.” This is one woman’s expression<br />
of how intensely her sorrow continues to affect her life<br />
several years after the death of her spouse. Sometimes when<br />
we experience a death, for various reasons, we are unable to<br />
move through our grief. When a grief experience becomes<br />
so intense, long lasting and severe that it prevents us from<br />
healing, it is called Complicated Grief. Intense emotions<br />
like sadness, anger, guilt and anxiety are common following<br />
the death of a loved one, but when such feelings persist, they<br />
can inhibit our ability to mourn and even prevent us from<br />
accepting that the death has occurred. This makes it very<br />
difficult to go on living and to make meaning out of life.<br />
Anyone can suffer from complicated grief, but common risk<br />
factors include: sudden/unanticipated death, death following<br />
a lengthy illness, death of a young child, feeling that the<br />
death was preventable and experiencing multiple losses.<br />
Relationships that were extremely dependent, angry, or<br />
ambivalent – and particularly when abuse or violence was<br />
present – can leave us with unresolved feelings about the loss,<br />
and lead to complicated grief as well.<br />
C o m f o r t | H o p e | H e a l i n g<br />
Symptoms of complicated grief are similar to normal grief but<br />
last for at least six months. They can include:<br />
• Inability to accept that the death has occurred<br />
• Intense anxiety, anger, guilt or loneliness that persists<br />
over time<br />
• Isolation or withdrawal from others<br />
• Lack of emotion; numbness<br />
• Feeling that life is meaningless or empty<br />
• Flashbacks or intrusive thoughts; upsetting memories of<br />
the deceased<br />
• Severe changes in eating or sleeping habits<br />
• Extreme avoidance of family/friends or activities<br />
associated with the deceased<br />
• Experiencing physical symptoms like those the deceased<br />
experienced prior to or during death<br />
• Phobias/fears of illness or death<br />
• Relentless depression<br />
If you are experiencing any of the symptoms above or are<br />
having difficulty managing your grief, please contact your<br />
hospice bereavement coordinator or a grief counselor in<br />
The Bereavement Center. You do not have to go through<br />
this journey alone! Please call us at (216) 486-6838 to be<br />
connected with someone who can help.<br />
Our eleventh Together We Can bereavement day camp was a great<br />
success. Forty children gathered to spend three days sharing laughter and<br />
tears, honoring loved ones, and learning ways to express feelings and cope with<br />
their grief. Most importantly, they had a great time and met others who have also experienced a loss.<br />
We would like to thank the many paid and unpaid staff who committed their time and talents to<br />
make this a great event, as well as the numerous individuals who contributed funds to purchase<br />
supplies and provide camper scholarships. Many thanks also go to Kaiser Permanente, Stuart and<br />
Associates, David Tavens of MitzvahPhoto, Buckeye Mountain Coffee and Water Company, Miklus<br />
Florists, and our teddy bear ladies, Mary Graham, Margaret Stokes and Gayle Kovach. <strong>Your</strong> support<br />
for our camp is priceless!!<br />
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Massage TherapY<br />
Providing Comfort Through Touch<br />
Stress is a normal part of life. As you move along grief’s journey, you<br />
may face many challenges. Massage therapy is a tool useful in helping<br />
to cope with stress, anxiety and fatigue. To schedule an appointment,<br />
call Felicia Dunlop-Stanley at (216) 486-6335. All appointments<br />
will be held at The Elisabeth Severance Prentiss Bereavement Center.<br />
Basic Fees: $25 for 30 minutes $50 for 60 minutes<br />
Yoga MaTTers<br />
Give yourself the gift of time and attention. The practice of Yoga<br />
helps you tune into yourself and take care of your physical, emotional<br />
and spiritual needs. Classes held at Hospice of the Western Reserve<br />
Headquarters. To register please call (216) 486-6838.<br />
On-going Yoga Class designed for caregivers & bereaved<br />
Wednesdays, 5:30 pm to 7:00 pm<br />
Fee: $40/month or $12 Drop-in (sliding scale fee available)<br />
aLcohoLics anonYMous<br />
Headquarters<br />
Wednesdays, 12:45 pm<br />
For more information, call (216) 241-7387<br />
Bereavement Support Groups<br />
Unless otherwise noted, our support groups are open to anyone who<br />
has had a loved one die. Please note, most Westlake groups will be<br />
held at St John West Shore Community Outreach Center, 29160<br />
Center Ridge Road, Suite R. Groups are subject to change. Call to<br />
verify time and location.<br />
Adult Support Groups<br />
circLe oF hope series<br />
Six-week educational support class for adults who have had a loved<br />
one die. Registration is required. Please call the facilitator listed<br />
below for more information or to register.<br />
ashtabula office<br />
Wednesdays, Jan. 20 - Feb. 24, 1:30 to 3:00 p.m.<br />
Mary McKernan-Gryzmala (440) 997-6619<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
Wednesdays, Feb. 24 - Mar. 31, 10:00 to 11:30 a.m.<br />
Diana Battles (216) 486-6364<br />
hospice of the Western reserve headquarters<br />
Mondays, Feb. 1 - Mar. 8, 1:00 to 2:30 p.m.<br />
Tensie Holland (216) 383-3741<br />
Lakewood office<br />
Mondays, Jan. 18 - Feb. 22, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Judy Beckman (216) 383-3737, ext. 3110<br />
Mentor office<br />
Mondays, Jan. 18 - Feb. 22, 10:30 to 12:00 p.m.<br />
Lisa Florjancic (216) 383-3737, ext. 3041<br />
winter 2009-2010<br />
Community<br />
Support<br />
Groups &<br />
Activities<br />
piece BY piece for young widows and widowers<br />
A four week support group. Registration is required.<br />
Warrensville heights office<br />
Thursdays, Jan. 7 - Jan. 28, 6:00 to7:30 p.m.<br />
Vicki Jackson (216) 383-3737, ext. 3200<br />
parenTs TogeTher<br />
A support group for parents coping with the<br />
death of an adult child. Registration is required.<br />
Lakewood office<br />
six Mondays, Mar. 8 - apr. 12, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Judy Beckman (216) 383-3737, ext. 3110<br />
Warrensville heights office<br />
Four Tuesdays, Mar. 9 - Mar. 30, 2:00 to 3:30 p.m.<br />
Vicki Jackson (216) 383-3737, ext. 3200<br />
hope & heaLing<br />
An on-going monthly support group for grieving adults. Registration<br />
is not required. Please call facilitator for more information.<br />
hospice of the Western reserve headquarters<br />
3 rd Monday of the month, 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.<br />
April Ratcliffe (216) 383-3782<br />
Warrensville heights office<br />
4 th Wednesday of the month, 3:00 to 4:30 p.m.<br />
Joan Tabaj (216) 383-3737 ext. 3105<br />
Mentor office<br />
1 st Tuesday of the month, 1:30 to 2:30 p.m.<br />
Lisa Florjancic (216) 383-3737 ext. 3041<br />
Lakewood office<br />
2 nd Tuesday of the month, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Judy Beckman (216) 383-3737 ext. 3110<br />
For The Young aDuLT (20’s)<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
3 rd Wednesday of the month, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Diana Battles (216) 486-6364<br />
Men’s grieF group<br />
A monthly breakfast meeting for men who are grieving the death<br />
of a loved one.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
1 st Wednesday of the month, 8:30 to 10:00 a.m.<br />
Bob Ballantine (216) 486-6747<br />
neW Beginnings<br />
A monthly support group for young widows and widowers (ages 55<br />
and younger). This group is open-ended and on-going. Registration<br />
is not required.<br />
Westlake<br />
St John West Shore Community Outreach Center<br />
29160 Center Ridge Road, Suite R<br />
2 nd Wednesday of the month, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
JoDee Coulter (216) 383-3737 ext. 3440<br />
Warrensville heights office<br />
1 st Monday of the month, 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.<br />
Vicki Jackson (216) 383-3737, ext. 3200<br />
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neW JourneY<br />
A support group for widows and widowers of any age, adjusting to<br />
life without their spouse. This group is open ended and on-going.<br />
Registration is not required.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
2nd Thursday of the month, 10:00 to 11:30 a.m.<br />
Diana Battles (216) 486-6364<br />
ashtabula office<br />
Thursday, December 17, 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.<br />
Starting January 2010 – twice a month in ashtabula only<br />
2 nd and 4 th Thursday of the month, 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.<br />
Mary McKernan-Gryzmala (440) 997-6619<br />
horiZons<br />
A monthly support group for the older adult widow and widower.<br />
This group is open ended and on-going.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
3 rd Tuesday of the month, 10:30 to 12:00 p.m.<br />
Kathryn Harrison (216) 486-6331<br />
Mayfield Village Baptist church<br />
2 nd Tuesday of the month, 1:00 to 2:30 p.m.<br />
6500 Highland Road, Mayfield<br />
Kathryn Harrison (216) 486-6331<br />
Lakewood<br />
1381 Bunts Road, Lakewood, 4 th floor<br />
2 nd Monday of the month, 1:00 to 2:30 p.m.<br />
Judy Beckman (216) 383-3737, ext. 3110<br />
Branches oF hope<br />
A series for adults who have experienced the death of both parents.<br />
This group will help you move forward while honoring your parents’<br />
memory and identifying their gifts to you. Registration is required.<br />
Westlake<br />
St John West Shore Community Outreach Center<br />
29160 Center Ridge Road, Suite R<br />
six Thursdays, Feb. 18 – Mar. 25, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
JoDee Coulter (216) 383-3737 ext. 3440<br />
“New Group” siBLing connecTions<br />
This four-week group will allow adults who have experienced the<br />
death of a sibling at any time during their lives to explore their grief<br />
and mourn this loss. Registration is required.<br />
Lakewood office<br />
Four Wednesdays, Feb. 3 – Feb. 24, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Judy Beckman (216) 383-3737, ext. 3110<br />
FaBric anD FeeLings<br />
A weekly group where participants use fabric techniques such as<br />
quilting (sometimes involving clothing from loved ones) or photo<br />
transfer to create quilts, pillows, dolls and other types of lasting<br />
memories. Sewing expertise is not necessary.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
Thursdays, 2:00 to 4:00 p.m.<br />
Mary Trivisonno (216) 486-6838<br />
The neXT chapTer<br />
A book discussion for adults who enjoy reading as an avenue to<br />
process loss, grief and hope. Intended for those with a minimum of<br />
six months of healing – whether by individual or group support. Call<br />
to obtain book title and to register.<br />
ashtabula office<br />
Thursday, Feb. 4, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Mary McKernan-Gryzmala (440) 997-6619<br />
Lakewood office<br />
Tuesday, Feb. 2, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Judy Beckman (216) 383-3737, ext. 3110<br />
Warrensville heights office<br />
Wednesday, Feb. 3, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Vicki Jackson (216) 383-3737, ext. 3200<br />
Dinner anD a MoVie<br />
Come join us for a light dinner, a film examining concepts of grief<br />
and loss, and a discussion group connecting fiction with reality.<br />
Registration is required.<br />
Movie – “The Bucket List”<br />
ashtabula office<br />
Thursday, Feb. 18, 6:00 to 8:30 p.m.<br />
Mary McKernan-Gryzmala (440) 997-6619<br />
Holiday Events<br />
hope For The hoLiDaYs<br />
An adult bereavement group providing techniques, dialog<br />
and support for those grieving through the holiday season.<br />
Registration is required.<br />
ashtabula office<br />
Thursday, Dec. 3, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Mary McKernan-Gryzmala (440) 997-6619<br />
Mentor office<br />
Thursday, Dec. 10, 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.<br />
Lisa Florjancic (216) 383-3737 ext. 3041<br />
hoLiDaY FaMiLY nighT<br />
An evening to honor and commemorate your loved one that<br />
died by decorating a candle in their memory. Family members<br />
of any age are welcome to attend. Registration is required.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
Wednesday, Dec. 9, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
To register call Felicia Dunlop-Stanley (216) 486-6335<br />
ashtabula office<br />
Tuesday, Dec. 15, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
To register call Mary McKernan-Gryzmala (440) 997-6619<br />
Support Groups Continued on Page 6 >><br />
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Healing Arts Workshops, Winter 09-10<br />
Healing Arts Workshops provide grieving people with a creative outlet<br />
for their grief and are open to all grieving people. No art experience<br />
is necessary. call Mary Trivisonno at (216) 486-6838 to register.<br />
MeMorY WreaThs<br />
Decorate a grapevine wreath, symbolizing unbroken<br />
life and love, with personal symbols, as well as wishes,<br />
memories and prayers.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
Tuesday, Dec. 8, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.<br />
st. John West shore community outreach center<br />
29160 Center Ridge Rd., Suite R<br />
Tuesday, Dec. 15, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.<br />
ceLeBraTe The LighT<br />
Use glass beads or beach glass to decorate a vigil<br />
light that symbolizes the light brought into our<br />
lives by our loved ones.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
Tuesday Jan. 12, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.<br />
st. John West shore community outreach center<br />
29160 Center Ridge Rd., Suite R<br />
Tuesday Jan. 19, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.<br />
heaLing our hearTs<br />
Using felt and other fabrics, create a small heartshaped<br />
“pillow” that is sewn together with love,<br />
mended with hope and stuffed with thoughts,<br />
memories and prayers.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
Tuesday, Feb. 9, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.<br />
st. John West shore community outreach center<br />
29160 Center Ridge Rd., Suite R<br />
Tuesday, Feb. 23, 6:30 to 8:30 pm.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss<br />
Bereavement center<br />
19201 Villaview Road<br />
Cleveland, OH 44119-3064<br />
hospice house & headquarters<br />
300 East 185th Street<br />
Cleveland, OH 44119-1330<br />
ashtabula office<br />
1166 Lake Avenue<br />
Ashtabula, OH 44004-2930<br />
Children and Family Support Groups<br />
s.T.a.r.s. (Supporting Tears, Anger, Remembrance & Sadness)<br />
A six-week support group for grieving children ages 6-12. While the<br />
children are meeting, there is an adult support group to assist parents and<br />
family members in dealing with their own grief. Registration is required.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
Mondays, Jan. 25 – Mar. 1, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Colleen Thompson (216) 486-6316<br />
Westlake office<br />
Wednesdays, Jan. 13 – Feb. 17, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Amalie Clausen (216) 486-6319<br />
proJecT hope<br />
A four-week group for adolescents aged 12-17, using journaling as<br />
an expressive and safe way to share feelings. Participants will make<br />
their own journals and will be given time to reflect on their grieving<br />
process. This group will also discuss music as a healthy coping<br />
strategy. Registration by a parent or guardian required.<br />
ashtabula office<br />
Tuesdays, Jan. 5 – Jan. 26, 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.<br />
Mary McKernan-Gryzmala (440) 997-6619<br />
Warrensville heights office<br />
Tuesdays, Feb. 2 – Feb. 23, 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.<br />
Vicki Jackson (216) 383-3737, ext. 3200<br />
hospice oF The WesTern reserVe oFFice LocaTions<br />
cleveland office<br />
19201 Villaview Road<br />
Cleveland, OH 44119-3064<br />
hospice care center<br />
at the renaissance<br />
26376 John Road<br />
Olmsted Falls, OH 44138<br />
Lorain county office<br />
2173 N. Ridge Road E., Suite H<br />
Lorain, OH 44055-3400<br />
on eagLes’ Wings<br />
A monthly support group for families who have experienced the death of<br />
a child. <strong>After</strong> pizza, the parents have a support group while their school<br />
age children meet separately with other children who have lost a sibling.<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
3 rd Thursday of each month, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Susan Lakin at (216) 383-3737 ext. 3964<br />
Co-sponsored by Rainbow Babies & Children’s Hospital and Hospice<br />
of the Western Reserve.<br />
heLping hanDs/heaLing hearTs<br />
A monthly support group for children ages 6-13 and adults, who have<br />
experienced the death of a loved one. While the adults are meeting,<br />
there is a co-existing support group for the children. Registration is<br />
not required<br />
The elisabeth severance prentiss Bereavement center<br />
3 rd Tuesday of each month, 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.<br />
Colleen Thompson at (216) 486-6316.<br />
C o m f o r t | H o p e | H e a l i n g<br />
Lakewood office<br />
14601 Detroit Avenue<br />
Suite 100<br />
Lakewood, OH 44107-4214<br />
Mentor office<br />
5786 Heisley Road<br />
Mentor, OH 44060-1830<br />
university circle office<br />
10645 Euclid Avenue<br />
Cleveland, OH 44106-2206<br />
Warrensville heights office<br />
4670 Richmond Road<br />
Suite 200<br />
Warrensville Hts, OH 44128<br />
Westlake office<br />
29101 Health Campus Drive<br />
Building 2, Suite 400<br />
Westlake, OH 44145-5268<br />
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By Amalie Clausen, MSSA, LSW<br />
Hi Kids!<br />
Winter is a great time for sledding, snowmen, snow forts,<br />
and ice skating. However, it’s also cold outside, and the<br />
sun doesn’t stay up for very long. In fact, winter starts on<br />
the shortest day of the year. You are likely to get up for<br />
school when it’s dark outside, and you go to bed when it’s<br />
dark. As winter moves along and spring gets closer adults<br />
may say, “Now the days are getting longer,” but it doesn’t<br />
seem like they are. It’s hard to notice the sun shining<br />
longer when your toes are freezing.<br />
Grief can be like the days of winter. You may feel sad,<br />
angry, or mixed up more than you used to before your<br />
special person died. People may have told you that you’ll<br />
start feeling better, but when you feel bad, it’s difficult to<br />
think it will ever happen. It’s not always easy to remember<br />
Here’s a list of different feelings that<br />
you may experience when a loved one<br />
dies. Find the words in the search.<br />
When you’ve found them all, you can<br />
draw a picture of your special person.<br />
SAD<br />
HAPPY<br />
WORRIED<br />
RELIEVED<br />
LONELY<br />
SCARED<br />
GUILTY<br />
NUMB<br />
SPACED OUT<br />
HURT<br />
TIRED<br />
SILLY<br />
ASHAMED<br />
SHOCKED<br />
SHY<br />
CONFUSED<br />
ANGRY<br />
what happy times feel like, just as it’s not always easy<br />
to remember how hot, summer days feel when it’s 20<br />
degrees outside.<br />
Just like the weather, there will be good days and bad days.<br />
We’ll have days when we want to play with our friends, and<br />
we’ll have days that are hard and we want to be alone.<br />
Eventually, we’ll have more good days than bad days. In<br />
the meantime, do things on those bad days that will help<br />
you feel better—ask for a hug, play with friends, look at<br />
pictures, draw or paint your own pictures, watch a favorite<br />
movie, or whatever works for you.<br />
Take care,<br />
Amalie<br />
A S H A M E D S S E D<br />
A Q I S K A L P I A N<br />
Y S H Y O N W A S C V<br />
W P J E D G G C D F G<br />
H M W O R R I E D A C<br />
G U I L T Y Q D H U O<br />
R O R T A Z T O A D N<br />
E L X T V L I U P E F<br />
L O Y L A D R T P O U<br />
I S H O C K E D Y T S<br />
E I M N S R D N S P E<br />
V L Q E P F R C U A D<br />
E L P L V B W H L M E<br />
D Y O Y S C A R E D B<br />
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