Ali Sina - Understanding Muhammad

Muhammad’s Personality Profile
This explains why a successful and beautiful woman like Khadijah
would become interested in a needy man like Muhammad. Although
inverted narcissists tend to be successful in their businesses, their
relationships are often unhealthy. Vaknin further explains: “In a primary
relationship, the inverted narcissist attempts to re-create the parent-child
relationship. The invert thrives on mirroring to the narcissist his own
grandiosity and in so doing the invert obtains his OWN Narcissistic Supply
(the dependence of the narcissist upon the invert for their Secondary
Narcissistic Supply). The invert must have this form of relationship with a
narcissist in order to feel complete and whole. The invert will go as far as
he needs to ensure that the narcissist is happy, cared for, properly adored,
as he feels is the narcissist's right. The invert glorifies his narcissist,
places him on a pedestal, endures any and all narcissistic devaluation with
calm equanimity, impervious to the overt slights of the narcissist.114
It seems that the marriage of Muhammad and Khadijah was made in
heaven (no pun intended). Muhammad was a narcissist who craved
constant praise, attention and adulation. He was poor and emotionally
needy. He was an adult, but his inner child was still yearning for attention.
He was in need of someone to take care of him and provide for him,
someone to exploit and abuse, the way an infant exploits and abuses his
mother.
The relationship between a mother and her infant is narcissisticcodependent
relationship. A mother is emotionally codependent on her
child. She endures all his abuses joyfully. This is healthy. But it is not
healthy when this dynamism exists between two adults.
The emotional maturity of the narcissist is frozen in childhood. His
infantile needs have never been satisfied. He is constantly trying to satisfy
those childish needs. All babies are narcissists and that is a necessary part
of their growth. But if their narcissistic needs are not satisfied in
childhood, their emotional maturity will freeze at that stage. They seek the
attention they missed during their infancy, in their relationships with their
mates and others, including their children.
Muhammad’s craving for love was expressed by him on many
occasions. Ibn Sa'd quotes him saying, the families of Quraish are all
related to me and even if they do not love me for the message I am
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