What God Joined Together - Family Radio
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threaten, bully, or beat her, but this only makes his wife even more<br />
unresponsive to his advances, and as a result, deepens his frustrations and<br />
anger.<br />
Without realizing it, the wife is laying the groundwork for another day of<br />
estrangement, quarreling, silent treatment, or cruelty which the husband uses<br />
to try to get even for the tremendous battle he lost in the bedroom. The husband<br />
and wife are not rationally thinking about what is happening. They are reacting<br />
with the intuition of the sinful tendencies that dwell within them.<br />
The husband might strike back to even the score. <strong>What</strong> can he take from his<br />
wife that she loves the most Aha! She is a Christian and always makes a big<br />
point of going to fellowship, or listening to <strong>Family</strong> <strong>Radio</strong>, or reading the<br />
children Bible stories. He knows how he can really hurt her. He will forbid her<br />
to do these things.<br />
All her Christian friends can see is an unregenerate tyrant of a husband who<br />
is in rebellion against <strong>God</strong>. They, of course, do not have the slightest idea of<br />
what is going on in the marriage bed.<br />
Meanwhile, the wife goes about appearing to be a martyr and receiving the<br />
sympathies of her friends. She may not realize that her conduct in the marriage<br />
bed (as legitimate and logical as it may seem to her), is reprehensible to <strong>God</strong>.<br />
She is violating <strong>God</strong>’s rule that she is to be in quiet submission to her husband.<br />
She is violating <strong>God</strong>’s rule that she is to continuously forgive her husband. She<br />
is violating <strong>God</strong>’s rule that her body belongs to her husband.<br />
The weapon of unresponsiveness in the marriage bed should never be used.<br />
It will drive the husband into the arms of another woman quicker than anything<br />
else. It will serve to destroy the marriage more quickly than anything else<br />
because it is tampering with <strong>God</strong>’s design that makes the two one flesh.<br />
On the other hand, consider the wife who loves the Lord and lives by <strong>God</strong>’s<br />
rules. Her unsaved husband may begin to wonder, “How can I be married to<br />
such a wonderful, forgiving, thoughtful woman” He may become<br />
increasingly embarrassed by his own thoughtlessness and cruelty. So, when<br />
she asks if she can go to fellowship on Sunday, he has no reason to deny her.<br />
He does not need to get even with her.<br />
One could ask at this point, “Are you saying that all the problems of<br />
marriage begin in the marriage bed” The answer is that they may not<br />
necessarily begin there, but it is there that they can be greatly advanced, and<br />
it is there they can to a very high degree be solved.<br />
The idea of becoming one flesh with one’s spouse embraces much more<br />
than the marriage bed, but it is there that it is the most obvious that the two<br />
become one flesh. That is why it is one of the most sensitive areas in the<br />
marriage relationship.<br />
When the lady married her husband, she was quite sure she loved him. After<br />
the honeymoon was over, and after living with him in the confines and intimacy<br />
of the marriage relationship, she found that he had many qualities she did not<br />
like. He made unwise decisions. He was self-centered. He squandered the<br />
money that should have been used to buy groceries. He was lazy. He could not<br />
hold a job. She found that all her dreams about a pretty white house with a white<br />
40 <strong>What</strong> <strong>God</strong> hath joined together...