What God Joined Together - Family Radio
What God Joined Together - Family Radio
What God Joined Together - Family Radio
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Chapter 9<br />
COURTSHIP<br />
The potential awfulness of a marriage between a believer and an unbeliever<br />
is so great that a word of caution must be directed to those who are thinking<br />
about marriage. How careful must a person be who is unmarried and who is<br />
becoming romantically inclined toward someone The answer is that he must<br />
be exceedingly careful.<br />
It is of absolute importance that each knows as much about the other as<br />
possible before marriage. Dating and engagement as we know them in our land<br />
are designed to provide time to acquire this knowledge.<br />
TAKE CARE WHOM YOU DATE<br />
Obviously, if a person discovers that the other person is divorced and their<br />
spouse is still living, then it is foolish to date that person. Even if the divorced<br />
person has become a beautiful child of <strong>God</strong>, marriage should not take place.<br />
Even if the divorce took place before the person became saved, there cannot<br />
be remarriage. It would be exceedingly reckless to date such a person. It would<br />
place huge temptation before both persons.<br />
Before two people become romantically interested in each other, it is<br />
imperative that they pay careful attention to the spiritual condition of the<br />
potential partner. How awful it would be if one person seemed to be saved but<br />
after the honeymoon, the saved spouse discovered that their mate was unsaved.<br />
If on the first few dates the saved person finds no substantial evidence that<br />
the other person is a child of <strong>God</strong>, then dating should cease. Romantic love has<br />
a way of blinding people more than they are willing to admit. Because an<br />
unsaved person can seem to be interested in Christian things and can have many<br />
attractive qualities, it is easy to focus only on attractive qualities.<br />
Many a wife, who has discovered after the wedding that she was married<br />
to an unsaved man, had not been careful enough when she dated. She might have<br />
realized at first that all was not spiritually well with the handsome man she was<br />
dating, but as she became increasingly attracted to him, she began to<br />
rationalize about what he could become. Surely, she reasons, her influence is<br />
so great in his life that if he is not saved, she will witness to him and pray for<br />
him, and he will eventually become saved. Meanwhile, she becomes more and<br />
more blinded by romantic love.<br />
She has already violated two important rules. First, dating, engagement,<br />
and marriage are not missionary endeavors. If she wants to minister to the<br />
unsaved, there are thousands of people around her who need her witness. The<br />
arena of romance is not the place for missionary work; it is designed to<br />
provide, by <strong>God</strong>’s grace, a godly marriage. This must remain the single focus<br />
of the dating agreement.<br />
46 <strong>What</strong> <strong>God</strong> hath joined together...