What God Joined Together - Family Radio
What God Joined Together - Family Radio
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There are instances wherein a child of <strong>God</strong> has had the glad experience of<br />
seeing a steady date become saved. These unusual exceptions provide no<br />
sound basis for a believer to date an unbeliever because so many emotions are<br />
involved in romantic love. Unless there is clear, immediate, and continuing<br />
evidence that the one being dated is a child of <strong>God</strong>, the only wise action is to<br />
cease dating right away.<br />
Suppose at the start of dating there is good evidence that he is not a child<br />
of <strong>God</strong>, but the dates continue because many attractive qualities can be seen<br />
in him. The Christian knows the importance of salvation and encourages the<br />
unsaved person to read the Bible, and pray. Because the unsaved person is<br />
falling in love with the saved person, he increasingly tries to please her. She,<br />
as the saved person, will become increasingly convinced that <strong>God</strong>’s Spirit is<br />
working in the heart of her steady date. After all, why does he appear to be so<br />
interested in the Bible<br />
At times he says or does things that are quite alien to a saved person, but<br />
because she is falling in love with him, she overlooks her fears and tries to see<br />
<strong>God</strong>’s grace in his life. When parents and friends express concern, she will not<br />
listen. By the time she has fallen in love, she has convinced herself that <strong>God</strong>’s<br />
grace is present in his life. She is sure that after they are married, he will grow<br />
in the things of the Lord.<br />
So they marry each other. Now he has her as his wife. By the time the<br />
honeymoon is over, he knows he does not have to try as hard to please her.<br />
Going to fellowship and studying the Bible bore him, and he soon ceases doing<br />
these things. The bride discovers to her utter consternation that she is married<br />
to an unsaved husband. She realizes, too, that she is married to him until death<br />
parts them.<br />
Because her husband does not care about <strong>God</strong>’s rules against divorce,<br />
there is a strong likelihood that when he gets tired of living with a wife who puts<br />
a high premium on going to fellowship and reading the Bible, he will seek a<br />
divorce. This may come after the family has grown to include several children.<br />
So the believing wife becomes divorced. According to the Bible, she may<br />
never marry again as long as her husband lives. In his rebellion against <strong>God</strong>, he<br />
marries someone else, and she is left with the heavy responsibility of rearing<br />
the children.<br />
Unfortunately, this sad scenario is being repeated again and again in our<br />
day. If only those who are free to marry would realize the enormous<br />
consequences of marriage! One can never be too careful in deciding whom to<br />
date.<br />
Some may argue that dating is quite innocent and does not necessarily have<br />
to point to marriage. But all dating, however innocuous, superficial, and<br />
innocent it may appear to be, is a preliminary step toward marriage. Ordinarily,<br />
every marriage begins with a first date. Dating is a ritual that prepares the<br />
couple for a successful marriage.<br />
Therefore, during courtship the chief focus should be on spiritual<br />
concerns, such as: <strong>What</strong> is salvation <strong>What</strong> does it mean to be born again<br />
<strong>What</strong> is the true Gospel <strong>What</strong> about the education of children <strong>What</strong> kind of<br />
Chapter 9 / Courtship<br />
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