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is a matter of great honour for us to
follow their model.
What would the people say? Would
they say: Mirza Sahib is walking
with his wife! Well, this is fine with
me. I do not believe in such
restrictive purdah that a women
may not even walk with her
husband.”
Obviously, Maulawi Abdul Karim
Sahib was very embarrassed. When
he returned where his friends were
waiting for the report as to what
had transpired, Hadrat Maulawi
Nooruddin Sahib (ra) asked him,
“Maulawi Sahib, did you get your
answer?” He said, “Yes, I got it!”
A Spoiled Dish:
How many a time, peace of a home
has been shattered just because the
husband did not like the meals
prepared by his wife! This foolish
reason is responsible for ruining the
peace of many families. Let us see
how the Promised Messiah (as)
handled a similar situation.
Hadrat Ummul Mo’minin (ra)
relates an incident of the early
period of her marriage. She
says:
“In the beginning when I came from
Delhi, I learnt that Hadrat Sahib was
fond of gur ke chawal, i.e. sweet rice
made with dried molasses.
Intending to give him a pleasant
surprise, I arranged for cooking of
the dish. I got some rice and added
four times the amount of gur, i.e. the
dried molasses. It became a thick
sticky mass. When I took the pot off
the stove and put the rice in the
plate, I was shocked and deeply
saddened when I realized that the
rice had been ruined. It was almost
mealtime and there was no time to
prepare something else. I was not
sure what to do?
In the mean time Hadrat Sahib came
in. When he saw my face, I was
close to tears due to the
embarrassment and the shock that
there I was with a ruined dish for
Hudhur. When he saw what had
happened, he laughed and said:
“Are you distressed because the rice
did not turn out good?”
Then he said: “No, this rice is very
tasty. It is cooked according to my
taste. I like it when it is more sweet.
It is very good.”
And then he ate happily. Hadrat
Sahib said so many things to make
me happy that I felt happy
too.” (Seerat Hadrat Amma Jan,
page 14)
Extra Care for Wife’s Point of View:
The Promised Messiah (as) used to
consider Amma Jan (ra) as one of
the signs of God and whatever she
used to say, he tried his best to fulfill
it. He used to say that wives should
be treated with extra care.
Let me relate an incident about the
caring nature of Hudhur (as). In
Darul-Masih, there was a courtyard.
In the summer, at nighttime,
Hudhur and all his family members
used to sleep in that courtyard. But
in the rainy season, it created a lot of
problems, because all the beds
needed to be taken into the rooms.
Therefore, Hadrat Amma Jan
proposed that a roof should be put
on a part of the courtyard. Thus, a
verandah should be made so that
when it rains, all the beds should be
pulled under it. Hudhur ordered
that this should be done. Hadrat
Maulawi Abdul Karim Sahib (ra)
and a few other companions, who
also lived in the same house,
suggested that this should not be
done as it will ruin the beauty of the
courtyard. But after listening to
every one, Hadrat Sahib said,
“That’s fine. But, since my wife is
one of the signs of Allah and she is
the mother of my sons about whom
God has given me glad tidings,
therefore, I listen to whatever she
says. This verandah should be
constructed.”
More Light in the House:
Hadrat Amma Jan herself tells a
story that when she came newly to
Qadian, she was used to sleeping
with the lights on. But Hudhur was
used to sleeping with the lights off.
When she would go to sleep,
Hudhur used to put out the light.
When she would wake up at night,
the darkness would cause her
anxiety and Hadrat Sahib used to
put on the light again. Eventually
Hudhur got used to sleeping in the
light. Then it so happened that all
the corners of the house were lit,
stairs, bathroom, all the rooms,
courtyard, all the places were lit and
a servant was specially appointed
for this purpose. Sometimes Hadrat
Amma Jan used to remind Hudhur
with love that:
“Do you remember the time when
you could not sleep in the light and
now if all the corners of the house
are not lit, you cannot sleep?”
Hadrat Sahib would smile with
happiness, in agreement.
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