THE FREEDOM BOOK - Cambridge University Students' Union

CUSU LGBT The Freedom Book 2008 15Relationships“Normally I have girlfriends, but that’s not always the case. Wemet in Unique; I knew some of his friends and spent most of thenight with them. Later on the dance floor we kissed. When the musicstopped and the lights came up we went our separate ways. I think hefelt embarrassed – he couldn’t make eye contact with me for months.As I grew closer to his friends, our friendship groups became one, buthe was still distant with me. I spent a lot of time thinking about himand wondering why he wouldn’t talk to me. Then, about six monthsafter we first met we ended up at the end of a table at a mutual friend’sbirthday. There was no choice but to talk to each other. Two weekslater he asked me out. He was my first ever boyfriend, and”someone I cared for so much.“My last relationship only lasted two weeks, and I didn’t exactlyfeel good when it ended, but we’ve stayed very close friends. Istill care about him and I still want him back, but I don’t think it wasright for him. What he did show me when we were together was thatI wasn’t a lost cause; I was capable of being cared for. He made merealise I wouldn’t be spending my life alone. I’d had a very hard timecoming to terms with my sexuality, I’m not there yet, but he helped methrough a lot of it and, as my best friend, is hopefully going to”help me through the rest.“We’d been friends since she came up to college and we’d metafter a freshers’ event in the bar that I’d been working at. I don’tknow how we ever started talking because I thought she was the mostbeautiful woman I’d ever seen and stuttered around all night like afool. After a torturous month of becoming really close friends andvainly attempting to disguise our mutual adoration, we got to a pointwhere everyone around us knew what was going on better than wedid. We were so sure that the other wasn’t at all interested, but wewere becoming closer and closer, until she took a chance and kissedme. Is sounds terribly corny, ‘she was my best friend, and now”we’re in love’; but sometimes that’s how it happens.