THE FREEDOM BOOK - Cambridge University Students' Union

CUSU LGBT The Freedom Book 2008 21Sex between menoutside or inside the anus. You can use lubricant (“lube”) and latex gloves– most importantly, take it slowly. To reduce the risk of tearing the liningof the anus, avoid fingernails which are too sharp.Oral sex; going down; blow jobs; giving head or fellatio is usingthe tongue and mouth to stimulate the penis. It’s a little less risky thananal sex without a condom, but if you have cold sores around yourmouth and don’t use a barrier you can give your partner herpes. It’s alsosafer if you don’t get semen or pre-cum in your mouth, especially if youhave cuts or ulcers or a throat infection. It’s best to use a condom – a flavouredcondom if you don’t like the taste – but if you don’t use one, remembernot to brush your teeth immediately before or after as this canmake small cuts in your gums. If necessary, chew gum instead.Anal sex or fucking is inserting your penis into your partner’s anus,or the other way round. Most importantly, to minimise the risk of STIs,you should always use a condom unless you have both been tested fora range of STIs at your local clinic. There’s no natural lubricant so makesure you use lots of KY Jelly or another water-based lube as oil-based lubricants(such as Vaseline) will degrade the latex of the condom, causingit to tear. Get in a comfy position and start off slowly and gently – if it ispainful, stop and take a break. It can take time to relax and start enjoyingit, so be patient and don’t try to rush things. Unprotected anal sexcan carry a very high risk of HIV transmission – make it safer by using acondom.Rimming is licking and penetrating your partner’s anus with yourtongue. There’s a risk of Hepatitis and many other STIs so it’s best to usea latex oral shield, which are available from CUSU or often also your localpharmacist.Fisting is penetration of the anus with your fist. It’s easy to tear the skininside the anus and it’s possible to seriously rupture the anus if not careful.It can take much experimentation in order for your partner to be ableto fit his entire hand in your anus without pain or tearing, so if trying thisgo very slowly, and use gloves and plenty of lube.