Women and Separation (Booklet) - Relationships Australia

Relating to your former partnerSome people believe when they separate, they will no longer have todeal with their former partner. However, if you have children this isnot possible – you remain linked as parents.The challenge is to make the ongoing parenting relationship asmanageable and constructive as possible.Be civil to your former partner, irrespective of how he/she approachesyou, but never compromise safety.Constructive co-parenting involves establishing a business-likerelationship with your former partner. Below are some practical tips toassist you.• Focus on the children, not the pastrelationship.• Hold meetings at a neutral location ifpossible.• Use the telephone, email or acommunication book if face-to-facediscussion is a problem.• Consider legal advice, family disputeresolution or counselling if you havedifficulties.• Be flexible – children have commitmentsand special occasions will arise.• Consider special days in advance, such asChristmas and children’s birthdays.• Do not breach or allow any breach of aCourt order that prohibits contact withyour former partner.23