Women and Separation (Booklet) - Relationships Australia

Women and Separation Managing New HorizonsWhat if there isn’t a good working relationship?In some situations, a business-like interaction may not be possible.Some parents, for a variety of reasons, are not supportive of thechildren's relationship with the other parent. In these situations, theother parent can feel distressed, powerless and angry and may feel his/her children are being denied the right to a relationship with him/her.If you are in such a situation:• do not use the children as a way of getting even• view your conflict 'through the eyes of the children'• consider family dispute resolution with your former partner andfocus on practical issues• examine your own behaviour and what you can do to help thesituation, such as speaking with a counsellor• debrief with friends or family members• consider legal advice and action• remain realistic• use family relationship services and children's contact services.No matter how hostile the situation, many women find strength inmaintaining their position and dignity.• Stop any negotiation if the discussion becomes abusive.• Stay away from your former partner if either of you is affected byalcohol or other drugs.You must obtain legal advice if you are not going to comply with acourt order.24