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SALCO - Who, If, When to Marry -The Incidence of Forced Marriage in Ontario (Sep 2013)

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CASESTUDYEver s<strong>in</strong>ce N<strong>in</strong>a turned 16, her familyhad been jok<strong>in</strong>g about gett<strong>in</strong>g hermarried as soon as possible. <strong>When</strong> shestarted talk<strong>in</strong>g about go<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> universityafter f<strong>in</strong>ish<strong>in</strong>g high school, her parentssuggested tak<strong>in</strong>g a year <strong>of</strong>f and explor<strong>in</strong>gher options. This seemed odd <strong>to</strong> N<strong>in</strong>aconsider<strong>in</strong>g her parents had alwaysvalued her education highly. As herhigh school graduation approached,N<strong>in</strong>a began <strong>to</strong> dread the summer. Shesuspected that she would be forced <strong>in</strong><strong>to</strong>a marriage with a boy chosen by theelders <strong>in</strong> her family. N<strong>in</strong>a had seen thishappen several times before – all <strong>of</strong> herolder cous<strong>in</strong>s had been married by theend <strong>of</strong> the summer they graduated highschool. Even her older sister had gottenmarried <strong>in</strong> a similar hurried mannerthree years ago. <strong>When</strong> N<strong>in</strong>a overheardher mother talk<strong>in</strong>g on the phone aboutwedd<strong>in</strong>g preparation and saw her fatherperus<strong>in</strong>g dat<strong>in</strong>g websites, she began<strong>to</strong> get worried. Determ<strong>in</strong>ed <strong>to</strong> avoid thesame fate as the other young women <strong>in</strong>her family, she booked an appo<strong>in</strong>tmentwith her high school guidance counselorand divulged her fears <strong>to</strong> her. <strong>The</strong>guidance counselor consulted with<strong>SALCO</strong>. <strong>SALCO</strong> helped N<strong>in</strong>a create asafety plan that she could be carefullyexecuted <strong>in</strong> case <strong>of</strong> an emergency andconnected her with a youth worker. <strong>The</strong>day after N<strong>in</strong>a f<strong>in</strong>ished her last exam,her mother <strong>to</strong>ld her that an old friend<strong>of</strong> her father’s that they had not seen <strong>in</strong>over a decade would be com<strong>in</strong>g <strong>to</strong> visitwith his son and asked N<strong>in</strong>a if she wouldbe able <strong>to</strong> keep him company dur<strong>in</strong>gthe visit. Understand<strong>in</strong>g the mean<strong>in</strong>g <strong>of</strong>this subtle <strong>in</strong>troduction, N<strong>in</strong>a contacted<strong>SALCO</strong>, divulged her fears and <strong>in</strong>formedthem that she had decided <strong>to</strong> executeher emergency plan. <strong>SALCO</strong> connectedher with a hous<strong>in</strong>g worker who foundtemporary hous<strong>in</strong>g for her. N<strong>in</strong>a left thenight before her family’s guests were due<strong>to</strong> arrive.24

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