Healthy Dating & Relationship Tips - Peterjasie

pretty much deal with others as you would want them to deal withyou.For example, let’s look at fictitious John and Mary, out on theirfirst date at a restaurant. A drunk man passes by their table andaccidentally spills Mary’s glass of water. John gets upset and sayssomething along the lines of, “That makes me mad! I hate drunks.They should all be put in jail.”Mary, on the other hand, who has an alcoholic father (unknownas this point to John), may feel embarrassed and saddened by John’srevelation and get quiet, giving only brief “yes” or “no” answers fromthat point on.Hopefully, John picks up on this. He can use finesse and conflictresolution and say, “Mary, I’m sorry for my outburst and really didn’tmean that. Actually, a drunk driver caused an accident that I readabout recently, and I’d really like to learn about alcoholism andunderstand it more.”A statement like this could help ease the conversation into amore productive stage. Then instead of having an argument aboutsocial versus addictive drinking and possibly ending or breaking up therelationship because of conflict, the relationship between two peoplecould actually develop a little farther along or deepen. And John andMary could both learn more about each other and broaden their