Getting Unstuck - Ayelet Baron

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What Are You Doing Wrong?The main thing you are doing wrong is channeling your energy into this type of thinking. It is easy to cri)cize and see fault in almost anything. It is much more difficult to create and share with others. At the end of the day, it's a choice. You can choose to read the 7-‐step manual and apply it to yourself like the pair of pants you so desperately want to fit into or you can put your energy in what works for you. Do you get up in the morning and ask what needs to get done today? If so, what gets your )me and aSen)on? Is it being closer or farther from your goal?Dare to do Somethingfor the First TimePeople don't like change. Seth framed it simply as "the idea of change is difficult because we like being competent. To change we have to become incompetent and do something we’ve never done before." He asked us if the risks we were taking ones that make...1. Fortune or Forbes magazine happy, 2. Your personal bank account saturated, or3. You feel like you are doing what maSers? Are you being true to yourself?I remember interviewing a woman who told me that if she got the posi)on, she would measure the project's success by whether she could get it on the cover of Fast Company and talk about her role. I didn't hire her. And I didn't even have to ask her the silly interview ques)on about her strengths and weaknesses. She didn't have the values we needed.It is hard work to create and build and walk away from what is safe. It is easy to stay stuck in our own reality. Ask yourself: ★ What is it that you think you are doing wrong, if anything? ★ What gets you stuck?★ What is it that you really want?★ How can you do the scariest thing out there? How do you fail in the most flamboyant way, survive and learn from it?★ How do you spend your )me? What gets your aSen)on? Who gets your )me?★ Do you need to change anything to do more of what you want to do?★ Who are you trying to please?Photo: Tony DeMartile“There has never been a statue erected to honor acritic.”— Zig ZiglarGetting Unstuck32
How Important Is Status And Pres;ge To You?Choosing WiselyDo you want to be famous? Do you want everyone to go "ooh ahh, did you know who that is?" Do you want the status and pres)ge of people knowing who you are when you are in public? Be honest. It's a fantasy that most people have. It comes part of the myths created by Hollywood, adver)sing and the magazine industry. The spotlight. The center of the stage is so invi)ng and intoxica)ng. There are people who live their whole lives trying to figure out how to be picked for that spot because they get a rush being recognized. It's valida)on. And millions of ar)cles and books have been wriSen about "famous" people. But what is ge[ng more aSen)on recently is the ques)on of what is happiness? A few years ago, I was picked to go on a private jet for a vaca)on in Costa Rica with a very wealthy family. As a million mile flyer, it was a nice change. There were 6 adults, 4 kids (2 who never flew on a commercial airline) under the age of 7 and 3 nannies. I won't bore you with all the details of how lovely it looked on the outside and how much unnecessary drama we experienced. All I can say is that I witnessed the unhappiness of the world of the wealthy who talked about buying a $50,000 fish tank for their new home as a way to bring joy. And yes, I did have to put my social good hat on and talk about how far that money could go if they gave it to youth who wanted to develop their skills. So I spent a week of my life with mul)-‐millionaires and when I got off the private jet aRer the flight home, I ran for my life. And I never looked back. "Prestige is especially dangerous to the ambitious. If you want to make ambitious people waste their time on errands, the way to do it is to bait the hook with prestige. That’s the recipe for getting people to give talks, write forewords, serve on committees, be department heads, and so on. It might be a good rule simply to avoid any prestigious task. If it didn’t suck, they wouldn’t have had to make it prestigious.” — Paul Graham Finding joy is becoming increasingly important to many of us. The challenge is that human beings have a hard )me le[ng go of the past and are aSached to status and pres)ge as a way to feel beSer about ourselves. Growth is painful. Change is never easy. And you hope that one day you would have it all figured out already. It's the hardest and most wonderful thing about being alive, that no maSer how much you learn, grow or change, you're never done.Getting Unstuck33
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