Getting Unstuck - Ayelet Baron

Does One Size Really Fit All?Un-conditioningWe spend so much )me wai)ng. Some of us are wai)ng for the “right” job that someone will pick us for, the “right” man or woman to spend our lives with, the “right” opportunity to leave a bad situa)on, or the “right” )me to take that life changing vaca)on so we can de-­stress. We also spend a lot of our energy and money trying to live someone else’s instruc)on manual on “how to” be more produc)ve, “how to” do more with less, “how to” run more effec)ve mee)ngs, “how to” get ahead and "how to" do what we love.There is a plethora of ar)cles and books to make us more like everyone else. They range from "the 5 things to say when you hear a new idea" to "the 5 things your iPhone can teach you about happiness" and the "7 things you should not ignore to be successful." How can anyone else know you and what you need? Are you living your life or following a recipe in a cookbook? Why is it so important to fit in as a brand, a service or a human being? This is how we have been trained and educated to operate. Authority figures and ins)tu)ons ins)lled in us that we need to earn the right and wait to be recognized and acknowledged. Society is so obsessed with external valida)on. We are surrounded by people pursuing celebrity status and fame; being “known” is how so many measure their self-­‐worth and success. And today celebri)es go beyond athletes, musicians and actors to celebrated experts in yoga, self-­‐help and even our very own social media “gurus.” In this world, success is determined by how we get chosen. The past decade has been a )me of introspec)on and there is a shiR today to becoming more mindful about what we want versus the cookie cuSer approach to life. The good news is the world is changing. We have moved from scarcity to abundance and many people are more willing to try and fail fast or succeed (how ever they choose to define success). The sense of loyalty is shiRing and there are those who can no longer simply follow a singular leader who limits their dreams. That's why we are witnessing an increase in entrepreneurism and people op)ng to take more risks. We are star)ng to realize that safe can be very risky.THERE IS NO MAPNo map to be a leaderNo map to be an artistI’ve read hundreds of books about artand how to do it.And no one has a clue about the map.BECAUSE THERE ISN’T ONESeth GodinPhoto: Ayelet Baron< Naka IslandWe can’t wait for everyone else to change. The only one who you can fully expect to change is you. You have the keys to knowing what works and what doesn't work for you. Do you want more than just to fit into someone else's manual? What do you need to do to craR your own map? Do you ever admit to yourself what absolutely terrifies you?Getting Unstuck8