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CONTENTS<br />
WELCOME 6<br />
USING THIS WORKBOOK (READ THIS FIRST) 8<br />
OUTLINE FOR EACH SESSION 10<br />
SESSION ONE: RIGHT-SIDE UP OR UPSIDE DOWN 14<br />
SESSION TWO: THE CLASH OF TWO KINGDOMS 30<br />
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SESSION THREE: TRUSTING IN GOD’S GOODNESS 44<br />
SESSION FOUR: DEALING WITH DESIRE 58<br />
SESSION FIVE: ACCEPTING THAT WE ARE TEMPORARY 72<br />
SESSION SIX: DYING TO LIVE 86<br />
<strong>40</strong> DAILY CHALLENGES 100<br />
APPENDICES<br />
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS 111<br />
SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT 114<br />
SMALL GROUP CALENDAR 116<br />
SPIRITUAL PARTNERS 117<br />
MEMORY VERSE CARDS (CLIP AND REVIEW) 118<br />
SMALL GROUP LEADERS<br />
HOSTING AN OPEN HOUSE 121<br />
LEADING FOR THE FIRST TIME 122<br />
LEADERSHIP TRAINING 124<br />
PRAYER AND PRAISE REPORT 126<br />
SMALL GROUP ROSTER 128<br />
NOTES 129
HE MUST BECOME GREATER;<br />
I MUST BECOME LESS.<br />
JOHN 3:30 (NIV2011)
WELCOME<br />
FROM DAVID ALEXANDER<br />
I’m so glad you are joining us for this study with your small group. This<br />
series will take us on a journey together for a season of <strong>40</strong> days.<br />
There is an obvious pattern throughout scripture that highlights a <strong>40</strong>-<br />
day period as a time of testing. Moses, Elijah, Ezekiel, and Jonah all lived<br />
through <strong>40</strong>-day trials. Jesus spent <strong>40</strong> days in the wilderness following His<br />
baptism. It’s not surprising that the early Christians adopted this <strong>40</strong>-day<br />
concept as a way to commemorate the death and resurrection of Jesus. This<br />
<strong>40</strong>-day season leading up to Easter is now referred to as the season of Lent.<br />
The earliest expressions of Lent was a time of prayer and preparation for<br />
new Christians who would experience their baptism at sunrise on Easter.<br />
On the day that Jesus was raised to life, new Christians would celebrate<br />
their own new birth.<br />
Here is what I want you to remember: forty is a number with biblical<br />
significance.<br />
The practice of establishing a window of time in which we intentionally<br />
dedicate ourselves to prayer and reflection is one of the earliest practices<br />
of the Christian faith.<br />
Participating in this study is an invitation to experience Christ in an even<br />
more full way in your own life.<br />
Our emphasis is on one singular verse of scripture that we find in the Gospel<br />
of John: “He must become greater; I must become less” (John 3:30).<br />
We’re going to explore what John the Baptist meant by that statement and<br />
discuss how it applies to our lives.<br />
What we decide may take <strong>40</strong> days to clarify, but it will take a lifetime to live.<br />
Let’s do it together.<br />
Grace & Peace,<br />
Rev. David Alexander<br />
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1. Notice in the Table of Contents there are<br />
three sections: Sessions and <strong>40</strong> Daily<br />
<strong>Challenge</strong>s; Appendices; and Small Group<br />
Leaders. Familiarize yourself with the<br />
Appendices. Some of them will be used in<br />
the sessions themselves.<br />
USING THIS WORKBOOK<br />
TOOLS TO HELP YOU HAVE A GREAT SMALL GROUP EXPERIENCE!<br />
2. If you are facilitating/leading or coleading<br />
a small group, the section Small<br />
Group Leaders will give you some hardlearned<br />
experiences of others that will<br />
encourage you and help you avoid many<br />
common obstacles to effective small<br />
group leadership.<br />
3. Use this workbook as a guide. If the group<br />
responds to the lesson in an unexpected<br />
but honest way, go with that. If you think<br />
of a better question than the next one<br />
in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the<br />
insights included in the Frequently Asked<br />
Questions pages and the Small Group<br />
Leaders section.<br />
4. Enjoy your small group experience.<br />
5. Pray before each session—for your group<br />
members, for your time together, or<br />
wisdom and insights.<br />
6. Read the Outline for Each Session on the<br />
next pages so that you understand how the<br />
sessions will flow.<br />
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OUTLINE<br />
OF<br />
EACH<br />
SESSION<br />
A TYPICAL GROUP<br />
SESSION FOR THE<br />
<strong>40</strong>-DAY CHALLENGE<br />
STUDY WILL INCLUDE<br />
THE FOLLOWING<br />
SECTIONS:<br />
WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES.<br />
Each session opens with a memory verse that emphasizes an important<br />
truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we believe that<br />
memorizing scripture can be a vital part of filling our minds with God’s<br />
truth. We encourage you to give this important habit a try. The verses for<br />
our six sessions are also listed in the appendix.<br />
INTRODUCTION.<br />
Each lesson opens with a brief thought that will help you prepare for the<br />
session and get you thinking about the particular subject you will explore<br />
with your group. Make it a practice to read these before the session.<br />
COME TOGETHER.<br />
The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and<br />
God’s family. You build that connection by sharing your experience with a<br />
few people who really know you and who earn your trust. This is helpful<br />
preparation for being able to share what Christ has done in your life with<br />
anyone you meet—which is what a disciple is ready to do. This section<br />
includes some simple questions to get you talking—letting you share as<br />
much or as little of your story as you feel comfortable doing. Each session<br />
typically offers you two options. You can get to know your whole group by<br />
using the icebreaker question(s), or you can check in with one or two group<br />
members, your spiritual partner(s), for a deeper connection and encouragement<br />
in your spiritual journey.<br />
GROW TOGETHER.<br />
In this section, you’ll read the Bible<br />
and listen to teaching, in order to hear<br />
God’s story—and begin to see how His<br />
story aligns with your story. When the<br />
study directs you to, you will start the<br />
video and watch a short teaching segment.<br />
You will then have an opportunity<br />
to read a passage of scripture,<br />
and discuss both the teaching and the<br />
text. The focus of this time is not on<br />
accumulating information but on how<br />
you can go deeper in your life with<br />
God. We want to help you apply the insights<br />
from scripture practically and<br />
creatively, from your heart as well as<br />
your head. At the end of the day, allowing<br />
the timeless truths from God’s<br />
Word to transform our lives in Christ<br />
should be your greatest aim.<br />
STUDY NOTES.<br />
This section provides additional<br />
commentary, background or insights<br />
on the passage you will study in the<br />
Grow Together section.<br />
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SERVE TOGETHER.<br />
God wants you to be a part of God’s Kingdom—to weave your story into<br />
God’s story. That will mean change. It will require you to go God’s way<br />
rather than your own. This will not happen overnight, but it should<br />
happen steadily. By making small, simple choices, we can begin to<br />
change our direction. This is where the Bible’s instructions to “be<br />
doers of the Word, not just hearers” (James 1:22) comes into play.<br />
Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it’s<br />
scary, relationally awkward, or simply too much work for their busy<br />
schedules. But Jesus wanted all of His disciples to know him personally,<br />
carry out His commands, and help others connect with him. This<br />
doesn’t necessarily mean preaching on street corners. It could mean<br />
welcoming newcomers, hosting a short-term group in your home, or<br />
walking through this study with a friend. In this study, you’ll have an<br />
opportunity to go beyond Bible study to biblical living.<br />
SHARE AND WORSHIP TOGETHER.<br />
This section will have a question or two that will challenge you to live<br />
out your faith by serving others, sharing your faith, and worshiping God.<br />
There will be suggestions for different ways to worship together and thank<br />
God for what God is doing among you and ways you can end the session<br />
in His presence.<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES.<br />
Each week you will be directed to the section in the workbook that includes<br />
the <strong>40</strong> Daily <strong>Challenge</strong>s to break down the big issues we are thinking about<br />
into smaller, practical actions/decisions. These may include some scriptures<br />
to read and reflect on between sessions. These daily challenges will<br />
provide you with a chance to slow down, consider a practical step to take<br />
each day, and reflect and pray through it. You will then have a chance to<br />
journal your experience. Use this section to seek God on your own throughout<br />
the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Try not<br />
to be in a hurry. Take enough time to hear God’s direction.<br />
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SESSION ONE<br />
RIGHT-SIDE UP OR<br />
UPSIDE DOWN<br />
MEMORY VERSE:<br />
“HE MUST BECOME GREATER;<br />
I MUST BECOME LESS.”<br />
JOHN 3:30<br />
WELCOME TO THIS <strong>40</strong>-DAY CHALLENGE.<br />
It’s exciting to see what God is doing through small<br />
groups in our church. We trust this six-week journey<br />
will be a Christ-centered, God-honoring experience<br />
of greater discipleship in your life. Look for ways<br />
to encourage those around you to join you in acknowledging<br />
the greatness of Jesus and the “lessness”<br />
of ourselves. Review the <strong>40</strong> Daily <strong>Challenge</strong>s<br />
on page 100 to find practical ways of incorporating<br />
this idea into your life.<br />
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COME TOGETHER<br />
Open your group with prayer. Rotate this<br />
duty from week to week with those who are<br />
comfortable praying out loud.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
WATCH THE VIDEO TEACHING FOR THIS SESSION NOW.<br />
The videos for this series are also available online at<br />
https://vimeo.com/channels/<strong>40</strong>daychallenge.<br />
We have provided space for notes below, so you can record any key thoughts<br />
or questions you want to remember or follow up on. After watching the video,<br />
have someone read the scripture passage and the discussion questions<br />
in the Grow Together section, and direct discussion within the group. As you<br />
go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the<br />
questions and direct the discussion.<br />
1. When you hear the word <strong>Challenge</strong>, what comes to mind?<br />
2. Has anyone had a positive or negative experience connected<br />
with a challenge that you’d be willing to share?<br />
3. Whether your group is new or ongoing, it is always important<br />
to reflect on and review your values together. On pages 112–<br />
113 there is a Small Group Agreement with the values we’ve<br />
found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups.<br />
We recommend that you choose one or two values—ones you<br />
have not previously focused on or have room to grow in—to<br />
emphasize during this study. Choose ones that will take your<br />
group to the next stage of depth and spiritual health.<br />
a. If your group is new, you may want to focus on welcoming<br />
newcomers or on sharing group ownership. Any group will<br />
quickly move from being the leader’s group to our group, if<br />
everyone understands the goals of the group and shares<br />
a small role.<br />
b. We have come to realize that healthy groups rotate leadership.<br />
This helps to develop every member’s ability to<br />
shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus<br />
gave others the opportunity to serve alongside him (Mark<br />
6:30–44). Look at the FAQs in the Appendix for additional<br />
information about hosting or leading the group.<br />
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GROW TOGETHER<br />
As Pastor David said, our entire <strong>40</strong>-day<br />
challenge will revolve around a simple<br />
statement John the Baptist made about Jesus:<br />
“He must become greater; I must become less.”<br />
In a world where “more” is almost always<br />
considered better and “less” is almost always<br />
considered worse, we’re going to have to<br />
stay on our toes to avoid jumping to certain<br />
conclusions in the way we use these words. In<br />
fact, maybe we will finally discover that “less<br />
is more” actually makes a lot of sense!<br />
20 MINS.<br />
PASTOR DAVID GAVE SOME BACKGROUND ABOUT JOHN AND<br />
THEN FOCUSED ON THE WAY HIS RESPONSE “HE MUST BECOME<br />
GREATER; I MUST BECOME LESS” REVEALS A PROFOUND SENSE<br />
OF HUMILITY AND SUBMISSION. HE THEN OFFERED THE<br />
BACKGROUND QUESTION FOR THIS SESSION: IS IT POSSIBLE<br />
THAT WE ARE LIVING OUR LIVES UPSIDE DOWN?<br />
What are some of the<br />
characteristics of an<br />
upside-down life?<br />
READ: JOHN 3:22-30<br />
After this, Jesus and his disciples went out into the Judean<br />
countryside, where he spent some time with them, and<br />
baptized. Now John also was baptizing at Aenon near<br />
Salim, because there was plenty of water, and people were<br />
constantly coming to be baptized. (This was before John was<br />
put in prison.)<br />
An argument developed between some of John’s disciples and<br />
a certain Jew over the matter of ceremonial washing. They<br />
came to John and said to him, “Rabbi, that man who was with<br />
you on the other side of the Jordan—the one you testified<br />
about—well, he is baptizing, and everyone is going to him.”<br />
To this John replied, “A person can receive only what is given<br />
them from heaven. You yourselves can testify that I said, ‘I am<br />
not the Messiah but am sent ahead of him.’ The bride belongs<br />
to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom<br />
waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the<br />
bridegroom’s voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete.<br />
He must become greater; I must become less.”<br />
In the Bible passage we<br />
just read, what examples of<br />
humility and submission do you<br />
see in John? How are these two<br />
qualities apparent in a person?<br />
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In what other ways do you think<br />
John was living a right-side up<br />
kind of life?<br />
How do you think someone<br />
would recognize they were<br />
living an upside-down life?<br />
Pastor David quoted C.S. Lewis’<br />
statement, “True humility is<br />
not thinking less of yourself;<br />
it is thinking of yourself<br />
less.” What was Lewis’ point?<br />
How do you see this in John<br />
the Baptist?<br />
MAYBE WE WILL FINALLY<br />
DISCOVER THAT “LESS IS<br />
MORE” ACTUALLY MAKES<br />
A LOT OF SENSE!<br />
In launching the <strong>40</strong>-day<br />
challenge, Pastor David<br />
reaffirmed a favorite<br />
statement: A faith that has<br />
not been tested is a faith that<br />
cannot be trusted. Why do you<br />
think it will be important to<br />
remember these words in the<br />
weeks to come?<br />
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STUDY NOTES<br />
This section provides additional commentary, background,<br />
or insights to use as you study the Bible passage in the<br />
Grow Together section.<br />
AFTER THIS.<br />
The episode with John the Baptist is frequently lost in this<br />
chapter because the “After this” refers to the first 19 verses<br />
containing the story of Nicodemus and his beginning as a<br />
follower of Jesus.<br />
A PERSON CAN RECEIVE ONLY WHAT IS GIVEN THEM<br />
FROM HEAVEN.<br />
John was fully aware of his unique and specific role, given<br />
by God for that moment in time. He was living out his responsibilities<br />
without asking for more or ever assuming he<br />
deserved more.<br />
“THAT JOY IS MINE, AND IT IS NOW COMPLETE.”<br />
John was telling his disciples it had been a great privilege to<br />
serve as Christ’s herald, and it was now a privilege to watch<br />
him emerge for his own ministry. He realized his job was over.<br />
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SERVE TOGETHER<br />
One significant aspect of <strong>40</strong>-day experience is the<br />
corporate aspect of living through these weeks<br />
alongside others. The life of faith is a shared<br />
experience rather than an individualized one. We<br />
will serve one another throughout these weeks to<br />
heighten our awareness of the weight of the cross<br />
and the opportunities we have to bear one another’s<br />
burdens. Here are some starting places:<br />
15 MINS.<br />
TAKE A LOOK AT THE CIRCLES OF LIFE DIAGRAM BELOW AND<br />
WRITE THE NAMES OF TWO OR THREE PEOPLE YOU KNOW<br />
WHO MAY BENEFIT FROM A DEEPER RELATIONSHIP WITH<br />
GOD. COMMIT TO PRAYING FOR GOD’S GUIDANCE AND AN<br />
OPPORTUNITY TO SHARE WITH EACH OF THEM.<br />
1. Pastor David pointed out that both John and Jesus faced a similar<br />
challenge at the height of their ministry when things seemed about to<br />
change radically and the followers didn’t like the idea. When something<br />
is working, why is it so hard to change or even consider changes?<br />
2. It might be noted that every time a new person joins a small group, the<br />
group changes, and it might even feel like the group loses something.<br />
How would a small group practice John’s statement: “He must become<br />
greater; I must become less” in the way we welcome others or even<br />
split up to create more groups?<br />
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Developing our ability to serve God according to<br />
the leading of the Holy Spirit takes time and persistence<br />
in getting to know God. We must take<br />
time in prayer, in God’s word, and in meditation<br />
to let God speak to us daily. As you read through<br />
these, which of the following next steps are you<br />
willing to take for the next few weeks?<br />
PRAYER.<br />
Commit to personal prayer and daily connection<br />
with God. You may find it helpful to write your<br />
prayers in a journal.<br />
PRAY<br />
CONTINUALLY<br />
1 THESSALONIANS 5:17 (NIV2011)<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES.<br />
The daily challenges provided for the <strong>40</strong> days of<br />
this study are an opportunity for you to experience,<br />
“He must become greater, and I must become<br />
less.” Some are more challenging than others, but<br />
try as many as you can. As you engage in these,<br />
write down your insights and experiences.<br />
MEDITATION.<br />
Try meditation as a way of internalizing God’s word<br />
more deeply. Copy a portion of scripture on a card<br />
and tape it somewhere in your line of sight, such<br />
as your car’s dashboard or the kitchen table. Think<br />
about it when you sit at stop lights, or while you’re<br />
eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you<br />
through these words.<br />
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SHARE AND<br />
WORSHIP TOGETHER<br />
Group members may be hesitant, reluctant,<br />
or excited about this <strong>40</strong>-day challenge during<br />
this time in their busy lives. Pull them back<br />
together for this final segment.<br />
10 MINS.<br />
1. Allow everyone to answer this question: “How can<br />
we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer<br />
requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on<br />
page 124.<br />
2. What kind of worship fits your group? Spend a few<br />
minutes worshiping God together. Here are two ideas:<br />
a. Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the<br />
group in a worship song focused on the theme of<br />
discipleship.<br />
b. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or<br />
have someone accompany your singing with a<br />
musical instrument.<br />
3. Read a passage of scripture together, making it a<br />
time of praise and worship as the words remind you<br />
of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other<br />
favorite verse.<br />
4. Encourage your group members to incorporate the<br />
daily challenges in their lives this week. These will<br />
offer reinforcement of the principles we are learning,<br />
and develop or strengthen your habit of time alone<br />
with God throughout the week.<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES<br />
Each day, read one of the <strong>40</strong> Daily<br />
<strong>Challenge</strong>s that begin on page 100 and give<br />
prayerful consideration to how you might<br />
take that small step in your life. Take some<br />
specific action. Then record your thoughts,<br />
insights, or prayer in the Reflect section<br />
below the daily challenge description.<br />
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SESSION TWO<br />
THE CLASH OF<br />
TWO KINGDOMS<br />
MEMORY VERSE:<br />
“WHOEVER WANTS TO BE MY DISCIPLE MUST<br />
DENY THEMSELVES AND TAKE UP THEIR CROSS<br />
DAILY AND FOLLOW ME. FOR WHOEVER WANTS<br />
TO SAVE THEIR LIFE WILL LOSE IT, BUT WHOEVER<br />
LOSES THEIR LIFE FOR ME WILL SAVE IT.”<br />
LUKE 9:23-24 (NIV2011)<br />
WELCOME BACK TO THIS WEEK’S STUDY IN THE<br />
<strong>40</strong>-DAY CHALLENGE.<br />
We’re going to be doing some thinking about kingdoms<br />
in this session. The fact that we don’t live in a monarchy<br />
makes it a little difficult for us to immediately relate to<br />
the term. We know Jesus talked a lot about the Kingdom<br />
of God, but we may not have a very clear idea about where<br />
that is and what our role is in it. We need to add “kingdom”<br />
to our thinking and living to better understand Jesus’<br />
teachings. Here’s one way to describe what God has<br />
done for us: “For he has rescued us from the dominion<br />
[kingdom] of darkness and brought us into the kingdom<br />
of the Son he loves” (Colossians 1:13).<br />
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COME TOGETHER<br />
Open your group with prayer.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
WATCH THE VIDEO TEACHING FOR THIS SESSION NOW.<br />
The videos for this series are also available online at<br />
https://vimeo.com/channels/<strong>40</strong>daychallenge.<br />
We have provided space for notes below, so you can record any key thoughts<br />
or questions you want to remember or follow up on. After watching the video,<br />
have someone read the scripture passage and the discussion questions<br />
in the Grow Together section, and direct discussion within the group. As you<br />
go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the<br />
questions and direct the discussion.<br />
1. Before we hear from Pastor David, let’s take a few minutes to<br />
think about kingdoms. Have everyone name kingdoms they<br />
know of, past or present. What would you say it means to live<br />
in a kingdom like England?<br />
2. Based on history you’ve studied, novels you’ve read, or movies<br />
you’ve seen, what would be one reason life in a kingdom might<br />
be better than life in a democracy?<br />
3. Most people want to live a healthy, balanced life. A regular<br />
medical check-up is a good way to measure health and spot<br />
potential problems. In the same way, a spiritual check-up is<br />
vital to your spiritual well-being. Pair up with another person<br />
(men with men/women with women) and briefly share one<br />
personal challenge you are currently experiencing. Make a<br />
note on the Spiritual Partner’s Check-In on page 115. You will<br />
touch base with this person each week.<br />
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GROW TOGETHER<br />
So, as Pastor David made it clear, it’s easy to<br />
equate the kingdom of God with heaven rather<br />
than thinking about how God’s kingdom might<br />
be present here and now. We are going to<br />
delve a little more into the main scripture for<br />
the lesson.<br />
20 MINS.<br />
In his teaching, Pastor David<br />
said, “I can remember in my<br />
early readings of the Gospels<br />
making the assumption that in<br />
each of these instances, Jesus<br />
must have been talking about<br />
heaven, that future place we<br />
believe we get to experience<br />
someday when our earthly<br />
existence comes to a close.”<br />
How have you pictured the<br />
“kingdom of God” to this point?<br />
READ: MATTHEW 6:9-13 AND 6:31-34<br />
“This, then, is how you should pray: “ ‘Our Father in heaven,<br />
hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be<br />
done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily<br />
bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our<br />
debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from<br />
the evil one.’”<br />
“So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall<br />
we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after<br />
all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you<br />
need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness,<br />
and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore<br />
do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about<br />
itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”<br />
When you hear the definition:<br />
“The Kingdom of God is the<br />
place where God’s will is done”<br />
how does it change the way<br />
you pray the Lord’s Prayer,<br />
especially the line about the<br />
kingdom?<br />
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Note also the second passage,<br />
“Seek the kingdom” implies<br />
we can find examples of it as<br />
we move through life. How do<br />
we know if we’ve spotted the<br />
kingdom in action?<br />
BUT SEEK FIRST HIS KINGDOM<br />
AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS, AND<br />
ALL THESE THINGS WILL BE GIVEN<br />
TO YOU AS WELL.<br />
MATTHEW 6:33<br />
In each Bible passage<br />
above, “kingdom” is paired<br />
with something else:<br />
“God’s will” and “God’s<br />
righteousness.” How do “will”<br />
and “righteousness” help us<br />
understand the character of<br />
God’s kingdom?<br />
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STUDY NOTES<br />
This section provides additional commentary, background,<br />
or insights to use as you study the Bible passage in the<br />
Grow Together section.<br />
THIS, THEN IS HOW YOU SHOULD PRAY.<br />
This prayer is part of the extended passage from Matthew 5:1<br />
to 7:27, known as the Sermon on the Mount. It may be three or<br />
four pages of red type in your Bible, indicating Jesus’ words.<br />
It’s worth remembering that Jesus wasn’t establishing a rote<br />
prayer to be mindlessly repeated; He was showing a pattern<br />
and framework for what should be included in prayer.<br />
OUR FATHER.<br />
Among the implications of this opening, besides the intimacy<br />
with God that it can allow, is the realization that our heavenly<br />
father is also the King. We are praying as members of the royal<br />
family with access to the highest authority.<br />
YOUR KINGDOM COME.<br />
As Pastor David indicated, we often pray this, hoping heaven<br />
will arrive rather than asking for an immediate state of affairs<br />
where God’s will is done today. And the place where this might<br />
be most immediately true is in our own lives.<br />
BUT SEEK FIRST HIS KINGDOM AND HIS<br />
RIGHTEOUSNESS.<br />
In the broader context of Jesus’ teaching about worry, He is<br />
saying that an effective way to avoid the distractions and disappointments<br />
of the world is to first and always look for where<br />
God is working. Look for where God’s will is being done. This<br />
is sometimes in the most unexpected places.<br />
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SERVE TOGETHER<br />
Again, it’s important to remember that the body<br />
of Christ and the kingdom of God is a shared<br />
experience rather than just an individualized one.<br />
We serve one another so that others benefit, but<br />
we do too. An authentic citizen of the kingdom<br />
makes his or her own contribution to the life of the<br />
kingdom even as she or he is relying on the rest of<br />
the kingdom to sustain them.<br />
One of the keys to healthy application of our<br />
learning is to realize that when God teaches us<br />
something, living out that lesson will almost always<br />
involve other people. Note how the following<br />
questions move you in that direction.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
2. Have you noticed a recent example of a situation or relationship that<br />
was kingdom oriented; one in which God’s will was clearly being done?<br />
3. How are some of the <strong>40</strong> Daily <strong>Challenge</strong>s opportunities to see the kingdom<br />
come more authentically in our lives or seek it out as we move<br />
through the world?<br />
1. How can praying for the kingdom to come to our present reality affect<br />
our daily lives?<br />
4. What are some obstacles in wanting God’s will to be done or in being<br />
able to see the kingdom in action around us? What makes it hard for<br />
you to keep a kingdom mindset?<br />
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SHARE AND<br />
WORSHIP TOGETHER<br />
Group members may be thoughtful or eager<br />
to get on with kingdom living for this next<br />
week. But pull them back together for this<br />
final segment.<br />
10 MINS.<br />
1. Allow everyone to answer this question: “How can<br />
we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer<br />
requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on<br />
page 124.<br />
2. What kind of worship fits your group? Spend a few<br />
minutes worshiping God together. Here are two ideas:<br />
a. Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the<br />
group in a worship song focused on the theme of<br />
discipleship.<br />
b. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or<br />
have someone accompany your singing with a<br />
musical instrument.<br />
3. Read a passage of scripture together, making it a<br />
time of praise and worship as the words remind you<br />
of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other<br />
favorite verse.<br />
4. Encourage your group members to incorporate the<br />
daily challenges in their daily lives this week. These<br />
will offer reinforcement of the principles we are<br />
learning, and develop or strengthen your habit of time<br />
alone with God throughout the week.<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES<br />
Each day, read one of the <strong>40</strong> Daily<br />
<strong>Challenge</strong>s that begin on page 100 and give<br />
prayerful consideration to how you might<br />
take that small step in your life. Take some<br />
specific action. Then record your thoughts,<br />
insights, or prayer in the Reflect section<br />
below the daily challenge description.<br />
5. Ask a volunteer to close the meeting in prayer.<br />
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WELCOME BACK TO OUR <strong>40</strong>-DAY<br />
CHALLENGE SERIES.<br />
SESSION THREE<br />
TRUSTING IN<br />
GOD’S GOODNESS<br />
MEMORY VERSE (REPRISE):<br />
“HE MUST BECOME GREATER;<br />
I MUST BECOME LESS.”<br />
JOHN 3:30 (NIV2011)<br />
Last week we got a major dose of the kingdom of God!<br />
Hopefully it helped us realize how much is at stake<br />
during these days, seeking a healthier view of ourselves<br />
as Christ-followers. We’re using a repeat memory verse<br />
this week to emphasize the theme of these forty days.<br />
The “He” in “He must become greater” is Jesus who is<br />
King of kings. He is Lord of the kingdom we are seeking<br />
and praying will come.<br />
One of the reasons John could humble himself and accept<br />
the role of being less was because he understood<br />
what we want to grasp more firmly in this session—the<br />
goodness of God. Sometimes our reluctance to trust<br />
God with certain aspects of our lives boils down to our<br />
uncertainty about God’s goodness. But the sobering fact<br />
of the matter is that we won’t trust God until we realize<br />
God is good, and always has our best interests at heart.<br />
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COME TOGETHER<br />
Open your group with prayer. Ask someone who<br />
hasn’t prayed in the group yet.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
WATCH THE VIDEO TEACHING FOR THIS SESSION NOW.<br />
The videos for this series are also available online at<br />
https://vimeo.com/channels/<strong>40</strong>daychallenge.<br />
We have provided space for notes below, so you can record any key thoughts<br />
or questions you want to remember or follow up on. After watching the video,<br />
have someone read the scripture passage and the discussion questions<br />
in the Grow Together section, and direct discussion within the group. As you<br />
go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the<br />
questions and direct the discussion.<br />
1. Now that we’re two weeks into the daily challenges, it might<br />
be good to share with each other how it’s going. Since we’re<br />
in this <strong>40</strong>-day challenge together, let’s share a challenge we<br />
took on and how it has been working out.<br />
2. What have you discovered in the past two weeks about upsidedown<br />
living and seeking the kingdom of God out there in<br />
the world?<br />
3. Take a few minutes to share with your spiritual partner. If<br />
your partner is absent or if you are new to the group, join<br />
with another pair or someone who does not yet have a partner.<br />
If you have not established your spiritual partnership yet,<br />
do it now. (Refer to the Session Two, Come Together section<br />
for help.)<br />
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GROW TOGETHER<br />
Pastor David began by sharing an experience that<br />
looked like a terrible ordeal and in fact wasn’t easy,<br />
but turned out to be a lasting lesson about the<br />
goodness of God. This goodness transcends even the<br />
most difficult situations and experiences we<br />
might go through.<br />
Let’s look closer at the passage of scripture Pastor<br />
David shared to illustrate that life is going to demand<br />
we clarify whether or not we really believe that God<br />
is good.<br />
READ: MATTHEW 14:22-33 (NIV2011)<br />
Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of<br />
him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowd. After he had dismissed<br />
them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night,<br />
he was there alone, and the boat was already a considerable distance from<br />
land, buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it.<br />
Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the<br />
disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,”<br />
they said, and cried out in fear.<br />
But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.”<br />
“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”<br />
20 MINS.<br />
Before Jesus showed up<br />
walking on the waves, how<br />
would you describe conditions<br />
in the boat?<br />
If there were twelve guys in the<br />
boat and only Peter jumped at<br />
the chance to walk on water,<br />
what do you suppose he was<br />
thinking at that point that the<br />
others weren’t?<br />
How did Peter’s view of Jesus<br />
change from the moment he<br />
left the boat until they got<br />
back in?<br />
“Come,” he said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water<br />
and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and,<br />
beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”<br />
Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,”<br />
he said, “why did you doubt?” And when they climbed into the boat, the wind<br />
died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly<br />
you are the Son of God.”<br />
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In explaining this transition,<br />
Pastor David said, “In that<br />
singular moment, Peter knew<br />
with every fiber of his being<br />
exactly who Jesus was - a<br />
friend that Peter could trust<br />
with his entire life. I want you<br />
to hear this last part carefully.<br />
Remember last week we talked<br />
about this clash between two<br />
kingdoms and the idea that if<br />
the kingdom of God is the place<br />
where God’s will is done, then<br />
His kingdom may also be the<br />
place where our will must be<br />
surrendered.” What are some<br />
areas where your will may<br />
need to be surrendered?<br />
“LORD, IF IT’S YOU,” PETER REPLIED, “TELL<br />
ME TO COME TO YOU ON THE WATER.”<br />
MATTHEW 14:28<br />
In what ways did Peter and<br />
perhaps the other disciples<br />
learn a little bit about<br />
becoming less so that Christ<br />
would be seen even more<br />
clearly as greater?<br />
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STUDY NOTES<br />
This section provides additional commentary, background,<br />
or insights to use as you study the Bible passage in the<br />
Grow Together section.<br />
BUFFETED BY THE WAVES.<br />
Only about half of the disciples were experienced fishermen.<br />
The rest were landlubbers. But Galilee had a proven reputation<br />
as dangerous water. It’s hard to know who was more<br />
scared, the non-sailing disciples, or the fishermen who knew<br />
they might be in big trouble.<br />
WHEN HE SAW THE WIND.<br />
See John 3:8 where Jesus describes the Holy Spirit like a wind<br />
which we can’t see but whose effects are apparent in the moving<br />
leaves. Peter was distracted by the waves and lost sight of<br />
why he was walking on the water in the first place.<br />
“YOU OF LITTLE FAITH,” HE SAID, “WHY DID YOU<br />
DOUBT?”<br />
Jesus didn’t ask this question to find out information He didn’t<br />
know; He asked it to provoke a reflection on what causes us<br />
to slip into doubt—letting ourselves be distracted by the immediate<br />
appearance of powerful opposition (like rogue waves)<br />
rather than the far greater truth of God’s goodness.<br />
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SERVE TOGETHER<br />
When you started this <strong>40</strong>-day challenge you may<br />
have assumed this would be a solitary and maybe<br />
lonely experience. And certainly many of the daily<br />
challenges are actions or choices you must make on<br />
your own. But you’re not alone. The Bible doesn’t<br />
see us succeeding or sinning apart from everyone<br />
else. What we do affects others even when it isn’t<br />
immediately apparent. The health and vitality of<br />
each of our souls contributes to the vitality of the<br />
whole body of Christ, and immediately to those<br />
closest to us. Let’s talk about how we can encourage<br />
one another to persevere and be patient with those<br />
of us who are struggling with this whole idea of<br />
becoming less so that Christ can become greater.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
2. He followed that up with another question we must all consider: “Do<br />
you know - as Peter did - that your life is safe and secure when you<br />
place it in God’s hands?” And whether you nodded ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to that<br />
question, what are some ways you have actually practiced (or struggled<br />
to practice) that knowledge about the goodness of God?<br />
1. How did you personally respond to Pastor David’s statement: “Have you<br />
been fully persuaded of the goodness of God? Have you put your whole<br />
trust in God’s grace and love for you?”<br />
3. Why does understanding God’s greatness and goodness put us in a<br />
better place to be OK with being less?<br />
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SHARE AND<br />
WORSHIP TOGETHER<br />
Pull them back together for this final segment<br />
in which we focus outward toward our<br />
neighbors and upward towards our God.<br />
10 MINS.<br />
3. What kind of worship fits your group? Spend a few minutes worshiping<br />
God together. Here are two ideas:<br />
a. Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship<br />
song focused on the theme of discipleship.<br />
b. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have someone accompany<br />
your singing with a musical instrument.<br />
4. Read a passage of scripture together, making it a time of praise and<br />
worship as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose<br />
a psalm or other favorite verse.<br />
1. In Session One we asked you to write some names in the Circles of Life<br />
diagram. Who did you identify as the people in your life who need to<br />
meet Jesus? Go back to the Circles of Life diagram on page 25 to help<br />
you think of the various people you come in contact with on a regular<br />
basis who might benefit from a deeper life with God. Consider the<br />
following ideas for action and make a plan to follow through on one of<br />
them this week.<br />
a. This is a wonderful time to welcome a few friends into your group.<br />
Which of the people you listed could you invite? It’s possible that<br />
you may need to help your friend overcome obstacles to coming<br />
to a place where he or she can encounter Jesus. Does your friend<br />
need a ride to the group? Help with child care?<br />
b. Consider inviting a friend to attend a weekend service with you<br />
and possibly plan to enjoy a meal together afterward. This can be<br />
a great opportunity to talk with someone about your faith in Jesus.<br />
c. Is there someone who may not be ready to participate in your group,<br />
but who would still benefit from you connecting with them? Would<br />
you be willing to have lunch or coffee with that person, catch up on<br />
life, and share something you’ve learned from this study? Jesus<br />
doesn’t call all of us to lead small groups, but He does call every<br />
disciple to spiritually multiply his or her life over time.<br />
5. Encourage your group members to incorporate the daily challenges in<br />
their daily lives this week. These will offer reinforcement of the principles<br />
we are learning, and develop or strengthen your habit of time<br />
alone with God throughout the week.<br />
6. Ask a volunteer to close the meeting in prayer.<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES<br />
Each day, read one of the <strong>40</strong> Daily<br />
<strong>Challenge</strong>s that begin on page 100 and give<br />
prayerful consideration to how you might<br />
take that small step in your life. Take some<br />
specific action. Then record your thoughts,<br />
insights, or prayer in the Reflect section<br />
below the daily challenge description.<br />
2. Allow everyone to answer this question: “How can we pray for you this<br />
week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise<br />
Report on page 124.<br />
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SESSION FOUR<br />
DEALING WITH<br />
DESIRE<br />
MEMORY VERSE:<br />
“SO I SAY, WALK BY THE SPIRIT, AND YOU WILL<br />
NOT GRATIFY THE DESIRES OF THE FLESH.”<br />
GALATIANS 5:16 (NIV2011)<br />
WELCOME BACK TO THE <strong>40</strong>-DAY CHALLENGE.<br />
We have passed the halfway point in our study and<br />
hopefully you are experiencing a new level of awareness.<br />
We’ve been at this long enough to have some high<br />
and low points. By now you’ve probably run up against<br />
that part of yourself that has no interest in becoming<br />
less; it relishes getting more, doing more, and being<br />
more! Like the disciples, we are fully capable of thinking,<br />
“I wonder if I’m the greatest at being less.” There’s<br />
a part of us that knows we’re our own worst enemy. This<br />
is the session where we get serious about our inability<br />
to become who we were designed to be without God’s<br />
help. How do we walk the Christian walk when our desires<br />
are hurdles blocking our way?<br />
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COME TOGETHER<br />
Open your group with prayer. Make it a point to<br />
thank God for what God is doing in your group.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
WATCH THE VIDEO TEACHING FOR THIS SESSION NOW.<br />
The videos for this series are also available online at<br />
https://vimeo.com/channels/<strong>40</strong>daychallenge.<br />
We have provided space for notes below, so you can record any key thoughts<br />
or questions you want to remember or follow up on. After watching the video,<br />
have someone read the scripture passage and the discussion questions<br />
in the Grow Together section, and direct discussion within the group. As you<br />
go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the<br />
questions and direct the discussion.<br />
1. This session’s memory verse (Galatians 5:16) is one that<br />
should be put into practice every day. Read it aloud as a group.<br />
2. Let’s explore more about what it means to “walk by the Spirit.”<br />
To walk by the spirit also means living by the spirit. What are<br />
some other common things we “live by”? What should it look<br />
like if we try to live our lives by those things?<br />
3. Take a few moments to check in with your spiritual partner(s),<br />
or with another partner if yours is absent. Share something<br />
God taught you during your time with God or the daily<br />
challenges this past week. Be sure to write down your notes<br />
on page 127.<br />
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GROW TOGETHER<br />
Pastor David used three significant passages from<br />
the New Testament in his teaching for this session:<br />
Philippians 2:1-8; Romans 7:18-21, and Galatians<br />
5:16-24. Each of these passages provides evidence<br />
for the importance of becoming less and the process<br />
of getting there.<br />
READ: GALATIANS 5:16-24<br />
So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify<br />
the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is<br />
contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to<br />
the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that<br />
you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led<br />
by the Spirit, you are not under the law. The acts of<br />
the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and<br />
debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord,<br />
jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions,<br />
factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I<br />
warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this<br />
will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of<br />
the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness,<br />
goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.<br />
Against such things there is no law. Those who belong<br />
to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its<br />
passions and desires.<br />
20 MINS.<br />
Paul tells us in Philippians 2:5,<br />
“In your relationships with<br />
one another, have the same<br />
mindset as Christ Jesus.”<br />
How did Jesus himself set the<br />
pattern of humility for us?<br />
As Pastor David pointed out,<br />
knowing a goal is not quite<br />
the same as getting there.<br />
How does Paul’s statement<br />
in Romans 7:21 provide a<br />
reality check? “So I find this<br />
law at work: Although I want<br />
to do good, evil is right there<br />
with me.”<br />
Scan the passage from Paul<br />
to the Galatians again. How do<br />
the three phrases “walk by the<br />
Spirit” (v.16), “led by the Spirit”<br />
(v.18), and “fruit of the Spirit”<br />
(v.22) work together?<br />
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Based on Galatians 5:16-<br />
24, how would you describe<br />
the two sides in the conflict<br />
between the Spirit and the<br />
flesh? What are clues that one<br />
side or the other is winning?<br />
“Sin—acts of the flesh—leads<br />
to death. Sin has the power to<br />
suck the life out of you.” How<br />
is this true in your life? How<br />
would you explain this truth to<br />
someone else?<br />
THOSE WHO BELONG TO CHRIST JESUS<br />
HAVE CRUCIFIED THE FLESH WITH ITS<br />
PASSIONS AND DESIRES.<br />
GALATIANS 5:24<br />
As his closing application<br />
Pastor David said, “This is<br />
not a battle of the will. This<br />
is a battle of the spirit and as<br />
you begin to live more in tune<br />
with the Spirit - this awesome<br />
power that the scriptures say<br />
is the same power that brought<br />
Christ back to life - when that<br />
power gets released in your<br />
life, those unhealthy desires<br />
do not stand a chance. We don’t<br />
produce the fruit of the Spirit;<br />
God’s spirit in us does that!”<br />
In what ways does this speak<br />
hope into your life?<br />
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STUDY NOTES<br />
This section provides additional commentary, background,<br />
or insights to use as you study the Bible passage in the<br />
Grow Together section.<br />
SPIRIT.<br />
Paul is talking specifically about God’s Holy Spirit, the third<br />
person of the Trinity, who takes up residence in the life of a<br />
Christ-follower.<br />
FLESH.<br />
This word represents the desires in us that are mixed up because<br />
of sin. Verse 24 presents a vivid picture of what has to<br />
happen with that in us that is flesh (see below).<br />
ACTS OF THE FLESH.<br />
Paul lists a sample fifteen acts with the open ended note, “and<br />
the like.” Each one of these is a misused or abused good desire<br />
given to us by God. For example “sexual immorality” is the<br />
pollution and distortion of God’s gift of sex. “Idolatry” takes our<br />
inner need to worship and twists it into making gods of things.<br />
FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT.<br />
Paul lists nine of these side effects of the Spirit’s presence.<br />
“Forbearance” is another word for patience. All of these are<br />
qualities without borders; we never get to the place where we<br />
can’t use more of any one of these fruit.<br />
BELONG TO CHRIST JESUS.<br />
The closest parallel to this connection is the relationship of<br />
marriage. Marriage originates at a point of commitment and<br />
exchange of promises, followed by a lifetime of daily living out<br />
that commitment.<br />
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SERVE TOGETHER<br />
This side of eternity there won’t be any days that we<br />
don’t experience the reality of living in the tension<br />
between flesh and Spirit. Every day we are called to<br />
choose. Every single day. That process will always be<br />
easier if we are surrounded by others who are daily<br />
choosing Christ as well.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
2. Would anyone like to share the point in your life when you know you<br />
chose to side with Christ? Who are the people in your life that made<br />
that decision possible?<br />
1. Pastor David made this statement about the struggle we all<br />
face: “Trying to fight this battle against the flesh alone is<br />
like getting into the ring with a giant pro wrestler. You don’t<br />
stand a chance, but here is the good news. This is a tag team<br />
event. Help is available and there is no power in this world<br />
that can defeat the Spirit - your partner that is waiting for<br />
you to tag into this great battle.” Are you in the battle alone<br />
or are you allowing the Spirit to fight with and for you?<br />
3. As far as other parts of life, how have your relationships been impacted<br />
by your involvement in this <strong>40</strong>-day challenge? For example, share how<br />
you have done with relating to or inviting the people you listed on the<br />
Circles of Life to church or your small group.<br />
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SHARE AND<br />
WORSHIP TOGETHER<br />
The sharing of stories of personal change and<br />
spiritual commitment take us to the heart of a<br />
small group impact. Here we laugh with those<br />
who laugh and weep with those who weep.<br />
The best joys are shared ones. Pull them back<br />
together for this final segment.<br />
10 MINS.<br />
1. Allow everyone to answer this question: “How can we<br />
pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests<br />
on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 124.<br />
2. What kind of worship fits your group? Spend a few minutes<br />
worshiping God together. Here are two ideas:<br />
a. Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the<br />
group in a worship song focused on the theme of<br />
discipleship.<br />
b. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have<br />
someone accompany your singing with a musical<br />
instrument.<br />
3. Read a passage of scripture together, making it a time of<br />
praise and worship as the words remind you of all God<br />
has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.<br />
4. Encourage your group members to incorporate the daily<br />
challenges in their daily lives this week. These will offer<br />
reinforcement of the principles we are learning, and<br />
develop or strengthen your habit of time alone with God<br />
throughout the week.<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES<br />
Each day, read one of the <strong>40</strong> Daily<br />
<strong>Challenge</strong>s that begin on page 100 and give<br />
prayerful consideration to how you might<br />
take that small step in your life. Take some<br />
specific action. Then record your thoughts,<br />
insights, or prayer in the Reflect section<br />
below the daily challenge description.<br />
5. Ask a volunteer to close the meeting in prayer.<br />
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SESSION FIVE<br />
ACCEPTING THAT WE<br />
ARE TEMPORARY<br />
MEMORY VERSE:<br />
“TEACH US TO NUMBER OUR DAYS, THAT WE<br />
MAY GAIN A HEART OF WISDOM.”<br />
PSALM 90:12 (NIV2011)<br />
WELCOME BACK TO THIS WEEK’S<br />
INSTALLMENT OF <strong>40</strong>-DAY CHALLENGE.<br />
In this session, our theme is the dwindling amount of<br />
time each one of us has. Last week we talked about the<br />
lifelong battle with desire; this week we get to think<br />
about the fact that the end of the fight may come sooner<br />
than we expect.<br />
Someone has said that failure to live with the end in<br />
mind often results in a failure to live. We want to be<br />
more intentional as we seek to become less so that<br />
Christ can be seen as greater. One of Jesus’ great statements<br />
for our encouragement is found in John 16:33,<br />
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may<br />
have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take<br />
heart! I have overcome the world.”<br />
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COME TOGETHER<br />
Open your group with prayer.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
WATCH THE VIDEO TEACHING FOR THIS SESSION NOW.<br />
The videos for this series are also available online at<br />
https://vimeo.com/channels/<strong>40</strong>daychallenge.<br />
1. Let’s have a check-in here. How did the last week of daily<br />
challenges go for you? Any unusual events or happenings<br />
to report?<br />
We have provided space for notes below, so you can record any key thoughts<br />
or questions you want to remember or follow up on. After watching the video,<br />
have someone read the scripture passage and the discussion questions<br />
in the Grow Together section, and direct discussion within the group. As you<br />
go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the<br />
questions and direct the discussion.<br />
2. Now as a way of shifting gears into what Pastor David has for us<br />
today, what was the most unusual or meaningful funeral you’ve<br />
ever attended and why was it that way for you?<br />
3. Check in with your spiritual partner, or with another partner if<br />
yours is absent. Talk about any challenges you are currently facing<br />
in reaching the goals you have set throughout this study. Tell your<br />
spiritual partner how he or she has helped you follow through<br />
with each step. Be sure to write down progress on page 115.<br />
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GROW TOGETHER<br />
It is hard to have a “together” experience as one<br />
person. It is also hard to be “with” a huge crowd.<br />
That’s the power of small groups. It’s a setting<br />
where we can open up without feeling like we’re<br />
exposing ourselves to the whole world. Hopefully<br />
you have been discovering a new sense of freedom<br />
in sharing your thoughts and experiences from<br />
week to week in this small group. As difficult as it<br />
is to talk about our mortality and the end of life,<br />
we’ve got good reasons to leap into that discussion<br />
if we’re going to keep learning to be less.<br />
READ: PSALM 39:1-8<br />
I said, “I will watch my ways and keep my tongue from sin; I will put a<br />
muzzle on my mouth while in the presence of the wicked.”<br />
So I remained utterly silent, not even saying anything good. But my<br />
anguish increased;<br />
my heart grew hot within me. While I meditated, the fire burned; then I<br />
spoke with my tongue:<br />
“Show me, LORD, my life’s end and the number of my days; let me<br />
know how fleeting my life is.<br />
You have made my days a mere handbreadth; the span of my years<br />
is as nothing before you. Everyone is but a breath, even those<br />
who seem secure.<br />
20 MINS.<br />
At the end of his teaching,<br />
Pastor David asked each of us<br />
to think about our life’s end<br />
and what you would want a<br />
stranger to understand about<br />
you and how you chose to live<br />
out your days. Take a moment<br />
to jot down your response.<br />
(2-3 minutes)<br />
So, let’s come clean. What are<br />
some of the thoughts that went<br />
through your mind as Pastor<br />
David began to talk about his<br />
history with funerals? Anything<br />
you hadn’t realized about<br />
that unavoidable aspect of a<br />
pastor’s life?<br />
Verse 4 says, “Show me, LORD,<br />
my life’s end and the number<br />
of my days; let me know how<br />
fleeting my life is.” What is<br />
King David asking the Lord to<br />
do for him?<br />
“Surely everyone goes around like a mere phantom; in vain they rush<br />
about, heaping up wealth without knowing whose it will finally be.<br />
“But now, Lord, what do I look for? My hope is in you.<br />
Save me from all my transgressions; do not make me the<br />
scorn of fools.<br />
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During his teaching, Pastor<br />
David said, “The acceptance<br />
that our lives are in fact<br />
temporary not only leads to<br />
wisdom, it also helps keep us<br />
focused on the kind of life that<br />
is in line with this vision we<br />
have been talking about the<br />
last five weeks. A life where<br />
‘He becomes greater and we<br />
become less.’” What are some<br />
“lessening” outcomes in a<br />
person’s life who has come to<br />
terms with their temporary<br />
status on the planet?<br />
SHOW ME, LORD, MY LIFE’S END AND THE<br />
NUMBER OF MY DAYS; LET ME KNOW HOW<br />
FLEETING MY LIFE IS.<br />
PSALM 39:4<br />
How does the audience change<br />
for King David between verses<br />
1-3 and verses 4-8? What’s<br />
happening inside David in those<br />
first three verses? In what<br />
different ways does he describe<br />
the brevity of life in verses 4-6?<br />
In what ways do verses 7-8<br />
summarize what ought to be<br />
our underlying attitude toward<br />
God and God’s role in our lives?<br />
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STUDY NOTES<br />
This section provides additional commentary, background,<br />
or insights to use as you study the Bible passage in the<br />
Grow Together section.<br />
I SAID.<br />
David was involved in self-talk about his life situation. He was<br />
monitoring his thought patterns and trying to design his own<br />
daily challenge to speak more carefully among others.<br />
UTTERLY SILENT.<br />
There’s a time to be quiet and a time to speak. David discovered<br />
that by shutting up completely, he was shutting himself off from<br />
others and things that needed to be said.<br />
ANGUISH INCREASED…HEART GREW HOT…THE<br />
FIRE BURNED.<br />
The king had a growing and troubling realization that life was<br />
too short for silence. But breaking silence involved speaking<br />
to God about what was troubling him.<br />
SHOW ME.<br />
David wasn’t expecting a “flash forward” to his death or a number<br />
he could post on his mirror. He was asking God to show him<br />
the reality of the brevity of his own life, not as a concept but a<br />
deeply personal acknowledgement.<br />
SAVE ME.<br />
The life of a person who has accepted their temporary status<br />
before God is marked by hope and a reliance of God for salvation.<br />
That person realizes there is not enough time, energy, or<br />
means to make themselves right with God and rescue themselves<br />
from transgressions; instead they have cast themselves<br />
in faith on God’s grace and mercy as we must all do.<br />
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SERVE TOGETHER<br />
The whole experience of living through this <strong>40</strong>-<br />
day challenge together is another confirmation that<br />
the body of Christ is a shared experience rather<br />
than an overly individualized one. At both levels<br />
(individually and with others) we have been working<br />
through daily challenges each week to understand<br />
the lessons and practice the habit of becoming<br />
less. It doesn’t appear in the Psalm we’ve studied<br />
this time that David had much of a regular support<br />
group. Clearly he was frustrated by many of those<br />
around him.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
2. If there was one verse of the Bible you would want your loved ones to<br />
connect with your life, what would it be? Why? (If you don’t have that<br />
kind of “life-verse” perhaps we could brainstorm one for you as a start<br />
or simply make some suggestions).<br />
1. Look again at the things you jotted down a few minutes<br />
ago that you would want a stranger to know about your life.<br />
What are the items on that list you are willing to share with<br />
your group?<br />
3. As a way of including our broader experience of the body of Christ, who<br />
have you known along the way that really lived with an acceptance of<br />
their own temporary status? How did that acceptance manifest itself<br />
in their lives?<br />
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SHARE AND WORSHIP<br />
TOGETHER<br />
In this final part of the session we want to continue<br />
to explore ways of worship among ourselves. Let<br />
God guide your attention to God by allowing each<br />
other to suggest songs, silence, a certain kind of<br />
prayer, reflection and ways to say “Thank You” to<br />
God and one another for this journey together. The<br />
best joys are shared ones. Pull them back together<br />
for this final segment.<br />
10 MINS.<br />
1. Allow everyone to answer this question: “How can we<br />
pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests<br />
on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 124.<br />
2. What are some things we could do together right now in<br />
the spirit and truth of worship that would acknowledge<br />
our fleeting lives and God’s everlasting presence among<br />
us in a special way? [Give some silence for people to<br />
listen to the Spirit’s leading here.]<br />
3. Our next session is the last in this study. It may be a<br />
good idea before you end this meeting to talk a little<br />
about your plans for that session and beyond. Will this<br />
group continue to meet and what will be the focus of your<br />
time together?<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES<br />
Each day, read one of the <strong>40</strong> Daily<br />
<strong>Challenge</strong>s that begin on page 100 and give<br />
prayerful consideration to how you might<br />
take that small step in your life. Take some<br />
specific action. Then record your thoughts,<br />
insights, or prayer in the Reflect section<br />
below the daily challenge description.<br />
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SESSION SIX<br />
DYING TO LIVE<br />
MEMORY VERSE:<br />
“VERY TRULY I TELL YOU, UNLESS A KERNEL<br />
OF WHEAT FALLS TO THE GROUND AND DIES,<br />
IT REMAINS ONLY A SINGLE SEED. BUT IF IT<br />
DIES, IT PRODUCES MANY SEEDS.”<br />
JOHN 12:24 (NIV2011)<br />
WELCOME BACK TO THE FINAL SESSION OF<br />
THIS <strong>40</strong>-DAY CHALLENGE.<br />
One common point the four Gospels share is that Jesus’<br />
life led to sacrifice. No one has ever had to live with the<br />
end in mind like He did. That’s not the end of the story,<br />
though. Resurrection puts a radically different spin on<br />
dying and sacrifice. We begin this session by reminding<br />
ourselves that with Jesus Christ, every sacrifice is made<br />
with resurrection in mind. Jesus said, “For whoever<br />
wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses<br />
their life for me will find it.” Matthew 16:25 (NIV2011)<br />
Hopefully you have been challenged and encouraged by<br />
your fellow travelers as you pursue the full life. These<br />
<strong>40</strong> days have been a short leg in a longer journey. The<br />
truth lies in this, “What no eye has seen, what no ear<br />
has heard, and what no human mind has conceived”—<br />
these are the things God has prepared for those who<br />
love him. (1 Corinthians 2:9 (NIV 2011)<br />
Enjoy this final time together and make plans for the<br />
next leg of the journey.<br />
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COME TOGETHER<br />
Open your group with prayer.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
WATCH THE VIDEO TEACHING FOR THIS SESSION NOW.<br />
The videos for this series are also available online at<br />
https://vimeo.com/channels/<strong>40</strong>daychallenge.<br />
1. When you think about travel or a journey, what’s the most fun for<br />
you and why?<br />
We have provided space for notes below, so you can record any key thoughts<br />
or questions you want to remember or follow up on. After watching the video,<br />
have someone read the scripture passage and the discussion questions<br />
in the Grow Together section, and direct discussion within the group. As you<br />
go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the<br />
questions and direct the discussion.<br />
2. How has this actually been a <strong>40</strong>-day challenge for you? What did<br />
you find the most challenging? How has that made you stronger?<br />
3. Take time in this final session to connect with your spiritual partner.<br />
What has God been showing you through these sessions<br />
about learning to be less so Christ can be greater? Check in with<br />
each other about the progress you have made in your spiritual<br />
growth during this study. Make plans about whether you will continue<br />
in your mentoring relationship outside your group.<br />
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GROW TOGETHER<br />
Watching the video reminds us that we have<br />
come a long way in six weeks. We started out<br />
trying to grasp the idea that we could be better<br />
by learning to be less. This week’s exercise is<br />
about facing our mortality. It is meant to set us<br />
up for thinking about the way we might need to<br />
die each day.<br />
20 MINS.<br />
In this passage, how is Jesus<br />
accepting the fact that He<br />
must become less in order<br />
for His true objective to be<br />
accomplished?<br />
READ: JOHN 12:23-33<br />
Jesus replied, “The hour has come for the Son of Man to be<br />
glorified. Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls<br />
to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if<br />
it dies, it produces many seeds. Anyone who loves their life<br />
will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world<br />
will keep it for eternal life. Whoever serves me must follow<br />
me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will<br />
honor the one who serves me. “Now my soul is troubled,<br />
and what shall I say? ‘Father, save me from this hour’?<br />
No, it was for this very reason I came to this hour. Father,<br />
glorify your name!”<br />
Then a voice came from heaven, “I have glorified it, and will<br />
glorify it again.” The crowd that was there and heard it said it<br />
had thundered; others said an angel had spoken to him.<br />
Jesus said, “This voice was for your benefit, not mine. Now<br />
is the time for judgment on this world; now the prince of this<br />
world will be driven out. And I, when I am lifted up from the<br />
earth, will draw all people to myself.” He said this to show<br />
the kind of death he was going to die.<br />
What does Jesus say about<br />
himself (vs. 23, 26-28, 32 and<br />
what does He say that applies<br />
to all of us (vs 24-26, 30, 32)?<br />
Using your own words, how<br />
would you express the points<br />
Jesus is making in verses<br />
25-26? Consider the following<br />
words: “loves,” “hates,”<br />
“follow,” and “be.”<br />
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Pastor David pointed out that<br />
no one wanted Jesus to die (not<br />
even him), but Christ willingly<br />
laid down His life for us. The<br />
act which brought about our<br />
redemption from our sins and<br />
our full reconciliation with God,<br />
also points to one of the great<br />
paradoxes that is at the heart<br />
of the Christian faith. It is in our<br />
dying that we begin to really<br />
live. What are some practical<br />
illustrations of the way this<br />
works out in life?<br />
Pastor David mentioned<br />
Jesus’ prayer in Matthew 26<br />
in which He asked to have the<br />
cup withheld as an example<br />
of Jesus, the human, being<br />
repelled by death. How does<br />
John 12:27 express another<br />
part of Jesus’ sentiment and<br />
resolution?<br />
In explaining the principle of<br />
dying in order to live, Pastor<br />
David referred to Galatians<br />
5:24, “Those who belong to<br />
Christ Jesus have crucified<br />
the flesh with its passions<br />
and desires.” Then he added,<br />
“The place where we allow<br />
ourselves, our passions, our<br />
plans to die is the same place<br />
where God’s spirit begins<br />
to come alive.” How did you<br />
understand his last statement?<br />
How does a passion or a<br />
plan die?<br />
What comes to your mind<br />
when you read the phrase<br />
from Jesus, “And I, when I am<br />
lifted up from the earth” (John<br />
12:32)? How does this help you<br />
relate to Jesus?<br />
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STUDY NOTES<br />
This section provides additional commentary, background,<br />
or insights to use as you study the Bible passage in the<br />
Grow Together section.<br />
HOUR.<br />
Jesus was continuously and acutely aware of what was ahead<br />
for him. He often talked about the “hour” as the appropriate<br />
time for the next step in His mission. But the ultimate hour of<br />
His death and resurrection was coming.<br />
GLORIFIED.<br />
John bore witness that the disciples repeatedly saw Christ’s<br />
glory (John 1:14) in glimpses as He moved through His ministry,<br />
but the resurrection involved Jesus taking up His full glory<br />
again since He had made himself nothing in order to take on<br />
humanity (Philippians 2:7-8).<br />
LOVES THEIR LIFE…HATES THEIR LIFE.<br />
In context, loving here implies holding on to something in an<br />
unhealthy way and hating means realizing the limitations of life<br />
even at its best. This is not hating because we wish it was better.<br />
A VOICE CAME FROM HEAVEN.<br />
On occasion, God the Father made himself audible within history,<br />
particularly to honor the Son.<br />
WHEN I AM LIFTED UP FROM THE EARTH.<br />
Jesus endured the cross on behalf of all other humans. His<br />
death is the point to which we must come in order to die to<br />
ourselves and receive eternal life.<br />
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SERVE TOGETHER<br />
When we depend on one another, sacrifices will<br />
be made. Schedules will be adjusted, priorities will<br />
shift, and a willingness to cooperate with Christ in<br />
the lives of others will grow. Some things about us<br />
will become less—and rightly so, the quality of our<br />
life together might be measured by the number of<br />
us who are willing to sacrifice in small and large<br />
ways for the benefit of all. When we find ways to be<br />
generous with each other, bonds develop that are the<br />
true sign of “one spirit.”<br />
In this last application time, think together not only<br />
about the immediate practical aspects of this lesson,<br />
but also how it might make a difference for you a<br />
year or decade from now.<br />
15 MINS.<br />
3. Pastor David said of his own experience in learning to be less, “When I<br />
recognized my willingness to die, I also got a glimpse of what it means<br />
to truly live. I knew in the moment there were things much bigger<br />
than me.” Missionary martyr Jim Elliot expressed this truth in his<br />
well-known statement, “He is no fool who gives up what he cannot<br />
keep in order to gain what he cannot lose.” What does Elliot mean by<br />
that statement?<br />
1. Pastor David concluded his teaching by explaining that living<br />
‘life to the full,’ where Jesus becomes greater and we<br />
become less is really as simple as this: It’s learning to die<br />
so that we can learn to really live. How have you already<br />
experienced that truth in your life?<br />
4. As long as we insist on holding on to our little kernel of life with its dying<br />
passions and desires we are dead; but something amazing begins to<br />
happen when we willingly lay down that life for the sake of whatever<br />
God has for us. How have you personally confronted this challenge to<br />
let go of that “little kernel of life” in order to take hold of Christ?<br />
2. What is an area in your life where you have seen this multiplying<br />
effect in the way that others have “died to themselves”<br />
on your behalf or in the way you have done that for others?<br />
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SHARE AND WORSHIP<br />
TOGETHER<br />
Come together for this final moment in this last<br />
session of the series.<br />
10 MINS.<br />
1. Allow everyone to answer this question one last time: “How<br />
can we pray for you this week and into the future?” Be sure<br />
to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report<br />
on page 124.<br />
2. What kind of worship has fit your group during this study?<br />
Maybe you’ve discovered a favorite worship chorus or hymn.<br />
This is the time to enjoy what’s really impacted the group in<br />
praise and worship together. Spend a few minutes worshiping<br />
God together. Here are several previous ideas:<br />
a. Have an extended prayer time, emphasizing thanksgiving<br />
for what the group has been through and individuals<br />
expressing gratitude for what God has taught or given<br />
them through the group.<br />
b. Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group<br />
in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, using a worship<br />
CD, or have someone accompany your singing with<br />
a musical instrument.<br />
c. Read a passage of scripture together, making it a time of<br />
praise and worship as the words remind you of all God<br />
has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.<br />
3. Before you close in prayer, make sure there is some sense<br />
of what is next. Either plan to meet next week to simply celebrate<br />
this experience, announce what the next study will be<br />
and when you will meet, or present a range of other opportunities.<br />
Be sure to thank everyone for sharing in the journey.<br />
DAILY CHALLENGES<br />
Each day, read one of the <strong>40</strong> Daily<br />
<strong>Challenge</strong>s that begin on page 100 and give<br />
prayerful consideration to how you might<br />
take that small step in your life. Take some<br />
specific action. Then record your thoughts,<br />
insights, or prayer in the Reflect section<br />
below the daily challenge description.<br />
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PREFACE:<br />
<strong>40</strong> DAILY CHALLENGES<br />
FOR THESE <strong>40</strong> DAYS<br />
As we journey through the next <strong>40</strong> days, we invite you to<br />
try each one of these daily challenges. Pick one each<br />
day and do your best to live it out for 24 hours. Each day<br />
you will be asked to make some sort of small sacrifice<br />
of your time, your money, or your efforts. Some of these<br />
challenges are more difficult than others. I encourage<br />
you to do each one, even if you have to adapt it to meet<br />
your circumstances or rearrange the order. If a challenge<br />
seems too difficult, I encourage you to especially<br />
try that one. The idea is sacrificial living. It means our<br />
pocketbooks, our bodies, and our emotions may all be<br />
stretched to new limits.<br />
In order for Jesus to become greater and you to become<br />
less, you will be challenged to dig deep. But as you are<br />
challenged, your soul will be strengthened and your<br />
faith will be deepened. Pray before you begin these <strong>40</strong><br />
days. Ask God to give you strength and perseverance.<br />
Pray each day before you look at the daily challenge, so<br />
that God will guide you as you read and plan for the day.<br />
Consider looking each evening at the next day’s task so<br />
you can better prepare.<br />
If one or more of these activities resonates with you,<br />
consider making it a daily, weekly or monthly habit.<br />
Remember, this is about a way of life that continually<br />
points to Jesus, as we saw in the example of John the<br />
Baptist. May God bless you on this journey!<br />
100 <strong>40</strong>-DAY CHALLENGE<br />
daily challenges 101
1. Pray the Lord’s prayer, slowly, morning, noon and night.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
2. Think of the least-acknowledged, unpopular, marginalized person<br />
you know. Reach out to them today with a smile, hug, or<br />
note of kindness. Pray for them all day.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
3. Give up TV, surfing the web, or social media today. Use the extra<br />
time to talk and listen to God.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
4. Identify a culture of someone you know that is different from<br />
yours. Ask the person about their culture. Be genuinely interested.<br />
Research the culture and find at least two positive attributes<br />
of that way of life. Pray for that person, and try to refrain<br />
from thinking of them as the “other” or as different from you.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
5. Memorize these words from Jesus in Mark 9:35, “Anyone who<br />
wants to be first must be the very last, and the servant of all.” Put<br />
it on a notecard or paper and carry it with you all day. Get it out<br />
every free moment and commit it to memory.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
6. Give up luxuries (expensive coffee, manicure, eating out, unnecessary<br />
purchases, etc) today. Give the saved money to a charity<br />
or someone in need.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
7. Reflect on what it means to be humble today. Look up definitions<br />
and scriptures. Utilize CS Lewis’ definition, “Humility is<br />
not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” Pray<br />
for humility.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
8. Recite this scripture from John 3:30, “He must become greater, I<br />
must become less.” Repeat it 2 more times slowly, thinking about<br />
the meaning. Do this every time you sit down today.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
9. Prepare or purchase a meal or treat for someone who is ill, alone,<br />
sad, or struggling. Let them know you will bring it in advance,<br />
and then visit with them before leaving. Perhaps pray with<br />
them as well.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
10. Instead of listening to the radio on your drive to work, drive<br />
quietly, praying for people as you pass them.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
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11. Eat only fresh, in-season, locally produced foods today. This may<br />
take some research and effort, but do the best you can. Thank God for<br />
the farmers and ranchers. Pray that they may use healthy, humane,<br />
holistic practices.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
16. Memorize: Philippians 2:3 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or<br />
vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”<br />
When you find yourself thinking about your own needs, concerns,<br />
etc. today, repeat this verse.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
12. Read Psalm 139. Focus on the final two verses, 23-24: “Search<br />
me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious<br />
thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in<br />
the way everlasting.” Pray these verses several times then sit<br />
quietly waiting for God to reveal anything you may need to work<br />
on, resolve, or seek forgiveness for.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
17. Give up one meal or regular snack today (if health allows). Rely<br />
on God to give you strength. During that meal time, pray for<br />
those in our community, country and world who do not have<br />
enough food to eat today. Ask God to show you how you can<br />
make a difference.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
13. Offer at least 10 compliments today to 10 different people.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
18. Take time today to intentionally share with a loved one what you<br />
appreciate most about them. Do this through email, text, handwritten<br />
note, phone call or face-to face if possible.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
14. Fast from anger, frustration or aggressive speech today. Each<br />
time you find yourself feeling these emotions, sit quietly for a<br />
moment and pray for peace. Ask God to show you where your<br />
soul needs work.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
19. Today spend time in prayer for each of your co-workers. Pray<br />
that they would achieve to the best of their abilities and that<br />
they might find joy in their work. Ask God to show you ways to<br />
be a loving co-worker.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
15. Spend 10 minutes at the beginning of your day and the end of<br />
your day writing down things you are grateful for. Thank God<br />
for these things.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
20. Look for an opportunity today to bless a stranger. Share an<br />
unexpected smile, hold open a door, give extra tip to your<br />
waitress, etc.<br />
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21. Write a note of gratitude or encouragement to someone today.<br />
Consider sharing your gratitude publicly on social media or<br />
at dinner.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
26. Identify someone you would like to know better. Invite them to<br />
lunch or dinner later this week. Pray about how God might work<br />
in this new relationship, and be open to God’s promptings.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
22. Read Ephesians 4:29, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come<br />
out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others<br />
up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”<br />
Pray about this one verse throughout today.<br />
27. Reach out to a neighbor you haven’t met. Take them a baked<br />
treat, or stop by to introduce yourself.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
REFLECT:<br />
23. Today when you see someone who seems different from you,<br />
someone you might normally avoid, pray for that person, smile,<br />
and show them kindness.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
28. Drive to the nearest hospital and sit in the lobby. Pray for each<br />
floor, each room, or each family. Pray for the doctors and nurses<br />
to have clarity of mind and ability. Pray for the chaplains to<br />
bring the presence of God to their patients. Pray for the administrators<br />
to offer compassion and resources. Pray for the volunteers<br />
to bring joy, compassion, and peace to their patients.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
24. Take a Prayer Walk around your neighborhood. Pray for each<br />
family as you pass their home. Ask God to bless them with<br />
health, love, and joy. Ask God to show you how to connect to<br />
each family so that you may love your neighbors well.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
29. Fill at least one box with items from your home to donate to a<br />
mission center, Salvation Army, or similar organization.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
25. Memorize: Galatians 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love,<br />
joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness<br />
and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Put<br />
it on a notecard or paper and carry it with you all day. Get it out<br />
every free moment and commit it to memory.<br />
30. Plan 15 minutes to sit outside today. If it is too cold or warm,<br />
sit near a window with an open view. Take mental note of the<br />
nature you are able to observe. Reflect with God about the wonder<br />
of creation.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
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31. Handwrite a letter to someone who made a significant impact in<br />
your life. Maybe it’s a coach, a teacher, a grandparent or mentor.<br />
Express your gratitude for the way they helped or guided you.<br />
Pray for that person through the day.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
36. Bring an extra lunch to work or pay for someone’s lunch today.<br />
Perhaps pay for the person behind you in the drive-through or<br />
counter line.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
32. Memorize: Matthew 25:<strong>40</strong>, “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you,<br />
whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters<br />
of mine, you did for me.’” Put it on a notecard or paper and<br />
carry it with you all day. Get it out every free moment and commit<br />
it to memory.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
37. Be generous with your time today. Spend time listening to someone.<br />
Offer to help someone carrying groceries or boxes. Initiate<br />
impromptu conversations with co-workers about their life.<br />
Spend time reading or playing with your kids or grandkids. Go<br />
to lunch with an old friend.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
33. Add up every luxury you have in your home (TV’s, electronics,<br />
expensive furnishings, landscaping, extravagant foods, internet<br />
access, etc.). Anonymously give 50 cents or $1 for every luxury<br />
item to your church or favorite charity.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
34. Refrain from gossip, put-downs, sarcasm, or negative language<br />
today. If you slip up, put a predetermined amount (a quarter, 50<br />
cents, $1) in a jar to give to someone in need.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
38. Commit to spend more time listening than talking today. Count to 3<br />
before adding to a conversation to ensure the other person is done.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
39. Memorize: Romans 8:38-39, “For I am convinced that neither<br />
death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present<br />
nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor<br />
anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the<br />
love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Put it on a notecard<br />
or paper and carry it with you all day. Get it out every free<br />
moment and commit it to memory.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
35. Spend a few minutes searching the Internet or news sources to<br />
identify injustices (slavery, poverty, starvation, orphans, racism,<br />
or others) occurring throughout the world. Select one injustice,<br />
learn about the causes of the injustice, and pray for those who<br />
are affected by it.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
<strong>40</strong>. Admit a mistake today, out loud. Apologize if necessary or share<br />
a previous mistake and what you learned from it. Be vulnerable.<br />
REFLECT:<br />
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APPENDICES<br />
GREAT RESOURCES TO HELP<br />
MAKE YOUR SMALL GROUP<br />
EXPERIENCE EVEN BETTER!<br />
FREQUENTLY ASKED<br />
QUESTIONS<br />
WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF<br />
OUR GROUP?<br />
Like all fun things in life—have a party! A “get to know<br />
you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch<br />
a new study. You may want to review the Group Agreement<br />
(pages 112–113) and share the names of a few<br />
friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly,<br />
have fun before your study time begins.<br />
WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR<br />
OUR GROUP?<br />
This can be troubling, especially for new groups that<br />
have only a few people or for existing groups that lose<br />
a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray<br />
with your group and then brainstorm a list of people<br />
from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s<br />
school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have<br />
each group member invite several of the people on<br />
his or her list.<br />
No matter how you find members, it is vital that you<br />
stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. All<br />
groups tend to go through healthy attrition—the result<br />
of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry opportunities,<br />
and so forth—and if the group gets too small, it<br />
could be at risk of shutting down. If you and your group<br />
stay open, you will be amazed at the people God sends<br />
your way. The next person just might become a friend<br />
for life. You never know!<br />
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HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET?<br />
It’s totally up to the group—once you come to the end of this<br />
6-week study. Most groups meet weekly for at least their first 6<br />
weeks, but every other week can work as well. We strongly recommend<br />
that the group meet for the first six months on a weekly<br />
basis if at all possible. This allows for continuity, and if people<br />
miss a meeting they aren’t gone for a whole month.<br />
At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he<br />
or she wants to continue on for another 6-week study. Some<br />
groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are<br />
stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy<br />
the journey.<br />
CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN?<br />
Absolutely! This may sound crazy, but one of the best ways to do<br />
this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may<br />
choose to gather with another couple who would enjoy some<br />
relational time (perhaps going to the movies or having a quiet<br />
dinner) and then walking through this study. Jesus will be with<br />
you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20).<br />
WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US?<br />
That is OK! This could be the result of a personality conflict, life<br />
stage difference, geographical distance, level of spiritual maturity,<br />
or any number of things. Relax. Pray for God’s direction, and<br />
at the end of this 6-week study, decide whether to continue with<br />
this group or find another. You do not typically buy the first car you<br />
look at or marry the first person you date, and the same goes with<br />
a group. However, don’t bail out before the 6 weeks are up—God<br />
might have something to teach you. Also, don’t run from conflict<br />
or prejudge people before you have given them a chance. God is<br />
still working in your life, too!<br />
WHO IS THE LEADER?<br />
Most groups have an official leader. But ideally, the group<br />
will mature and members will rotate the leadership of<br />
meetings. We have discovered that healthy groups rotate<br />
hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis. This model<br />
ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution,<br />
and develop their gifts. This study guide and the<br />
Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate<br />
leaders. Christ has promised to be in your midst as you<br />
gather. Ultimately, God is your leader each step of the way.<br />
HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILDCARE NEEDS IN<br />
OUR GROUP?<br />
Very carefully. Seriously, this can be a sensitive issue. We<br />
suggest that you empower the group to openly brainstorm<br />
solutions. You may try one option that works for a while and<br />
then adjust over time. Our favorite approach is for adults<br />
to meet in the living room or dining room and to share the<br />
cost of a babysitter (or two) who can watch the kids in a<br />
different part of the house. This way, parents don’t have to<br />
be away from their children all evening when their children<br />
are too young to be left at home. A second option is to use<br />
one home for the kids and a second home (close by or a<br />
phone call away) for the adults. A third idea is to rotate the<br />
responsibility of providing a lesson or care for the children<br />
either in the same home or in another home nearby. This<br />
can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the most<br />
common solution is to decide that you need to have a night<br />
to invest in your spiritual lives individually or as a couple<br />
and to make your own arrangements for childcare. No matter<br />
what decision the group makes, the best approach is to<br />
dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.<br />
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SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT<br />
OUR PURPOSE<br />
To provide an engaging environment where participants experience authentic<br />
community and spiritual growth.<br />
OUR VALUES<br />
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Group Attendance<br />
To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will<br />
be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar on page 114 will<br />
minimize this issue.)<br />
Safe Environment<br />
To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved.<br />
(Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)<br />
Respect Differences<br />
To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity,<br />
personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections” in fellow group<br />
members. We are all works in progress.<br />
OUR EXPECTATIONS<br />
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Refreshments/mealtimes<br />
Childcare<br />
When we will meet (day of week)<br />
Where we will meet (place)<br />
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We will begin at (time) and end at<br />
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Confidentiality<br />
To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the<br />
group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside<br />
the group.<br />
Encouragement for Growth<br />
To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply<br />
our life by serving others with our God-given gifts.<br />
Shared Ownership<br />
To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each<br />
participant will share a small team role or responsibility over time.<br />
Rotating Hosts/Leaders<br />
To encourage different people to rotate the responsibility of facilitating<br />
each meeting. (See the Group Calendar on page 114.)<br />
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We will do our best to have some or all of us attend a worship service<br />
together. Our primary worship service time will be<br />
Date of this agreement<br />
Date we will review this agreement again<br />
Who (other than the leader) will review this agreement at the end of<br />
this study<br />
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GROUP CALENDAR<br />
Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at<br />
every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure<br />
to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and do not forget<br />
birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects.<br />
SPIRITUAL PARTNERS’ CHECK-IN<br />
Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress<br />
targets for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could<br />
be done before or after the meeting, on the phone, through an e-mail message,<br />
or even in person from time to time.2<br />
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MEMORY VERSE CARDS<br />
SESSION ONE • JOHN 3:30 (NIV2011)<br />
He must become greater; I must become less.<br />
SESSION FOUR • GALATIANS 5:16 (NIV2011)<br />
So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the<br />
desires of the flesh.<br />
SESSION TWO • LUKE 9:23-24 (NIV2011)<br />
Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must<br />
deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For<br />
whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses<br />
their life for me will save it.<br />
SESSION FIVE • PSALM 90:12 (NIV2011)<br />
Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.<br />
SESSION THREE • JOHN 3:30 (NIV2011)<br />
He must become greater; I must become less.<br />
SESSION SIX • JOHN 12:24 (NIV2011)<br />
Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the<br />
ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it<br />
produces many seeds.<br />
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HOSTING AN OPEN HOUSE<br />
If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first<br />
formal group meeting. Even if you have only two to four core members, it is<br />
a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be<br />
open to joining you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off<br />
meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each<br />
other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray<br />
for each other.<br />
SMALL GROUP LEADERS<br />
KEY RESOURCES TO HELP YOUR<br />
LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCE BE THE<br />
BEST IT CAN BE.<br />
A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun.<br />
After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at<br />
the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have<br />
everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions:<br />
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What is your favorite family vacation?<br />
What is one thing you love about your church/our community?<br />
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What are three things about your life growing up that most people here<br />
don’t know?<br />
Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study.<br />
You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each<br />
person’s expectations and priorities.<br />
Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain<br />
that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group<br />
but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about inviting someone to join the<br />
group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write<br />
an invitation or two. Do not worry about ending up with too many people;<br />
you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in<br />
the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report<br />
prayer requests and progress at the end of the session.<br />
You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience<br />
a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other<br />
in this way.<br />
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LEADING FOR THE FIRST TIME<br />
TEN COMMON LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES.<br />
1. Sweaty palms are a healthy sign. The Bible says God is gracious to the<br />
humble. Remember who is in control; and soften your heart to the Holy<br />
Spirit. Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty palmed) are those whom<br />
God is sure to speak through.<br />
2. Seek support. Ask your leader, co-leader, or close friend to pray for you<br />
and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will<br />
help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics.<br />
3. Bring your uniqueness to the study. Lean into who you are and how God<br />
wants you to uniquely lead the study.<br />
4. Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Go through the session several times. If you<br />
are using the video, listen to the teaching segment. Consider writing<br />
in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what God wants<br />
to do. Do not wait until the last minute to prepare.<br />
5. Ask for feedback so you can grow. Perhaps in an email or on cards<br />
handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did<br />
well and one thing you could improve on. Do not get defensive. Instead,<br />
show an openness to learn and grow.<br />
6. Prayerfully consider launching a new group. This does not need to<br />
happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to take place over time.<br />
Not all Christians are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all<br />
called to be “shepherds” of a few.<br />
7. Share with your group what God is doing in your heart. God is searching<br />
for those whose hearts are fully His. Share your trials and victories. We<br />
promise that people will relate.<br />
8. Prayerfully consider whom you would like to pass the baton to next<br />
week. It’s only fair. God is ready for the next member of your group to<br />
go on the faith journey you just traveled. Make it fun, and expect God<br />
to do the rest.<br />
LEADERSHIP TRAINING 101<br />
TOP TEN IDEAS FOR NEW LEADERS<br />
Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’<br />
flock. There are few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the<br />
contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one<br />
session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We<br />
encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion<br />
leader before he or she leads.<br />
1. Remember that you are not alone. God knows everything about you, and<br />
He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it<br />
is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead.<br />
Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy were all reluctant to lead. God<br />
promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews<br />
13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or<br />
for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve.<br />
2. Do not try to do it alone. Pray right now for God to help you build a<br />
healthy leadership team. If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead<br />
the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your<br />
chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group.<br />
All you have to do is call and ask people to help. You will probably be<br />
surprised at the response.<br />
3. Just be yourself. If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use<br />
your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like<br />
another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you<br />
do not have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your<br />
group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!<br />
4. Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. Review the session<br />
and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to<br />
each question. Pay special attention to exercises that ask group<br />
members to do something other than engage in discussion.<br />
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These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not<br />
just talk about it. Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and<br />
bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting.<br />
If the exercise employs one of the items in the appendix, be sure to look<br />
over that item so you will know how it works. Finally, review “Outline<br />
for Each Session” so you will remember the purpose of each section<br />
in the study.<br />
5. Pray for your group members by name. Before you begin your session,<br />
go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name.<br />
You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God<br />
to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely.<br />
Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or<br />
challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead!<br />
6. When you ask a question, be patient. Someone will eventually respond.<br />
Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the<br />
question. Keep in mind, if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother<br />
anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple<br />
“thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or<br />
“Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive<br />
to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do<br />
anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.<br />
7. Provide transitions between questions. When guiding the discussion,<br />
always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask<br />
the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage.<br />
Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until<br />
someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.<br />
8. Break up into small groups from time to time for deeper discussion. If<br />
your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to<br />
have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four<br />
people during the Grow Together or SERVE TOGETHER sections of the<br />
study. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will<br />
connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning<br />
and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet<br />
person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal<br />
or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your<br />
group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have<br />
one person summarize the highlights from each circle. Small circles<br />
are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed<br />
to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or<br />
three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles<br />
will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the<br />
whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update<br />
everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in<br />
small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer<br />
requests.<br />
9. Rotate facilitators weekly. At the end of each meeting, ask the group<br />
who should lead the following week. Let the group help select your<br />
weekly facilitator. You may be perfectly capable of leading each time,<br />
but you will help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give them<br />
opportunities to lead. You can use the Small Group Calendar to fill in<br />
the names of all meeting leaders at once if you prefer.<br />
10. One final challenge (for new or first time leaders): Before your first<br />
opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below.<br />
Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself with a<br />
shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more<br />
than ready for your first meeting.<br />
MATTHEW 9:36<br />
1 PETER 5:2-4<br />
PSALM 23<br />
EZEKIEL 34:11-16<br />
1 THESSALONIANS 2:7-8, 11-12<br />
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PRAISE REPORTS<br />
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SMALL GROUP ROSTER<br />
NOTES<br />
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