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Instead of recoiling from the sorts of loving commitments that often lead to suffering, they throw themselves more deeply into them. Even while experiencing the worst and most lacerating consequences, some people double down on vulnerability and become available to healing love. They hurl themselves
deeper and more gratefully into their art, loved ones, and commitments. This way, suffering becomes a fearful gift, very different from that other gift, happiness, conventionally defined. The latter brings pleasure, but the former cultivates character.
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Copyright © 2015 by David Brooks A
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ISBN 978-0-8129-9325-7 eBook ISBN 9
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CONTENTS Cover Title Page Copyright
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CHAPTER 9: EXAMINATION CHAPTER 10:
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INTRODUCTION: ADAM II Recently I’
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Most of us would say that the eulog
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Rabbi Joseph Soloveitchik in 1965.
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sense of right and wrong— not onl
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forth, Adam II wants to return to h
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different logics. Adam I— the cre
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order to fulfill yourself, you have
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The competition to succeed and win
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you turn into a shrewd animal, a cr
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attached to the moral purposes that
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one mindset that people through the
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vague moral aspiration— vaguely w
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must be good enough. In the process
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The Plan The plan of this book is s
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great moral drama. We can shoot for
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warmed, when we come into contact w
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within and heal lifetimes of scars
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The message is the person, perfecte
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eligious and secular, literary and
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good, and I summarize this “crook
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see in people who have lived a litt
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They perform acts of sacrificial se
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self-righteous or doggedly certain.
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to success has surrendered to the s
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programs. A few years ago I was dri
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triumphal arches. “Well, it looks
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een killed just a few months before
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district were five inches deep in c
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week for Time magazine. But the mod
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the program was over and listened t
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that this shift might symbolize a s
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prominent then. The research remind
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that there was perhaps a strain of
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no message T-shirts back then, no e
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When Franklin Roosevelt’s aide Ha
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published memoirs, almost all of th
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promotion. The Big Me Over the next
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percent said yes. The same question
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largest gains have been in the numb
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in second, and Paris Hilton third.
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clichés: Follow your passion. Don
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messages of a timid world.” In he
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pointed out, the tone was very diff
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Houston, Texas. “God didn’t cre
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about the self-effacement the peopl
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about that sort of humility, too. W
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limitation. The people we think are
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Every epoch has its own preferred m
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successful company, or doing someth
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ourselves. We will not be as good,
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awareness of the bugs in their own
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default setting, hardwired into our
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desire to use other people as means
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ones. We all love and desire a mult
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loves out of order. If someone tell
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have an acute awareness of their ow
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They are more likely see their life
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or revealing some vulnerability. So
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lower thing. We all have a moral re
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in the previous passages. But it’
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egard. When you experience great ar
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people to tell us when we are wrong
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Fairlie writes, “At least if we r
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character. The road to character of
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quieting the self could they see th
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ack in the uplands of joy and commi
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coherence, solidity, and weight. Pe
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has endured some internal temptatio
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aesthetic or a style. The more I lo
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inarticulate. We’re not more self
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That’s false. Adam I’s desires
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ourselves in the lives of outstandi
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CHAPTER 2 THE SUMMONED SELF Today,
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the nice homes was owned by Mrs. Go
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the old Marx Brothers movies or Mrs
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Some saw what they thought were bun
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sidewalk,” she recalled. “Every
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One young man tenderly helped a you
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cigarette or a match into one of th
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work desks. He ordered workers to d
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dressing room to retrieve their coa
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with the other. 6 A clerk, who was
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single choke point in order to get
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described her own part in the vicio
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the elevators. But they were small,
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immigrant named Rose Schneiderman h
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something wrong. It shouldn’t hav
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iron teeth are our necessities, the
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much blood has been spilled!” 10
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genteel progressives went about ser
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Today, commencement speakers tell g
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What are the things that I truly va
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leading a purposeful life. You will
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from life? You ask a different set
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y God into a specific place with sp
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other died in the camps. Frankl spe
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instead think of ourselves as those
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past. But some prisoners struggled
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events had assigned to him, he unde
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fellow prisoners, and, if he surviv
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upward: “I called to the Lord fro
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disappointed. 13 Life, he concluded
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gifts. Your ability to discern your
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looking for something that will pro
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she is a guitarist. Playing is not
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some cost-benefit analysis. Such pe
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about the pursuit of happiness, if
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O Lord, that I may not break as I s
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task to its utmost perfection—the
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ut it was a major one. This horror
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Perkins was born on Beacon Hill in
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through the centuries, mostly near
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plopped a low-crowned, simple, thre
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narrower above the temples than it
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motivated by and intermixed with a
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The Yankees also combined what you
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United States. New Englanders have,
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estrictions, many of which seem abs
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look for their students’ intellec
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enforced discipline: “For the fir
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undergraduate mind should concentra
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students discover new things to lov
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Then it told them that the heroes i
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missionary and service jobs in nort
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poise.” Today, the word “poise
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Woolley quoted the Stoic philosophe
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churches. It is not enough, Rausche
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class motto, “Be ye steadfast.”
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her natural weaknesses. It pushed h
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Perkins knew she wanted some sort o
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destroyed by the disruptions of ind
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inner life. Not long ago, I asked t
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number? How can I have impact? Or,
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allowed the rich to feel good about
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exercise scientific patience as the
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Their ambitions have shrunk. At sch
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the elements of tragedy.” 25 Adda
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into boardinghouses, sometimes drug
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unconventional.” 27 While at the
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tougher at every step along the way
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their emotions and their identity a
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party pols. You have to be practica
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moaning about the shameful work he
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Perkins was then thirtythree, and p
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confidence of the old men around he
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way you say they work. I’d like t
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ejecting it. Instead, she took half
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slowly won her over. “Before you
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Wilson informed their families, but
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liked life better in a single harne
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deteriorate. John Mitchel was voted
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organization that sought to lower m
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and was wiped out. Perkins was some
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family fortune “this accident,”
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philosophic dispositions, what the
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educed to banality when it is parad
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particularly happy private life. It
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when she was sixteen, when Perkins
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chose a flamboyant green dress and
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vice. The virtue of reticence can y
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across the Empire State. The job br
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this,” but more often her diction
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uoyant optimism. But when he was yo
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cover his awkward movements as he l
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necessity that Franklin Roosevelt b
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econsider, to consult with others.
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situations of what was fair. She wa
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my ‘kick’ out of the gratifying
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terms if she was to become his labo
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major force behind many of the New
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Perkins wrote a biographical work,
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have called him an instrument of th
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ahead with this? Are you sure?” T
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she needed it. He was too slippery
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You mustn’t put this on me now,
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But at the time, that wasn’t so c
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In January 1939, J. Parnell Thomas
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Perkins’s grandmother had always
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would have been scattered, and I wo
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mop her floor, they sometimes had t
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poor will often be ungrateful, and
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detailed recitation of the administ
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vague and elliptical. It generated
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eginning to infringe on privacy and
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for her daughter’s mental health
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etain one’s integrity while navig
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any trouble.” 50 She died alone,
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illnesses of her husband and daught
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a fervent liberal activist, of the
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felt necessity. A person who embrac
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lifetime; therefore we must be save
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CHAPTER 3 SELF-CONQUEST Ida Stover
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and her father died when she was el
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educated beyond eighth grade at the
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to remain the most treasured posses
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extremely optimistic nature, and th
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their religious garb. One day Ida a
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solitary and difficult. He seems to
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had $24.15 in cash and few possessi
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her gentleness with all and her tol
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eading about the battles of Maratho
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conscience and not to be imposed on
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essential, self-discipline a daily
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pocketknife open on a windowsill. E
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later lose his own firstborn son, D
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drought, or disease, or betrayal co
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much less emphasis on it than ours
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permission to go out trickor-treati
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and sat silently rocking in the cha
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to me that she talked for hours, bu
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is the drama to construct character
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acism, and so on—not in the human
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live joylessly and censoriously.
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those who, for whatever reason, fet
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instinct that is captured in big da
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about these choices less clearly, a
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fighting our own individual sins by
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of omission, but, in the words of t
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The danger of sin, in other words,
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have an unchecked problem of sympat
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against. The person involved in the
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spending, debt, and bankruptcy. In
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order. Social harmony can be rewove
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Character Ida Eisenhower was funny
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habit of small, constant self-repre
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he wrote, you want to make your ner
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discipline every day. Follow arbitr
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your behavior and eventually you re
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school for character. In Abilene, e
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wiring the house when electricity c
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After his bankruptcy he had a horro
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and that’s the way he lived it, s
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as well. Fortunately, love is the l
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ehaving better. The parent focusing
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Chronicles 7:14: “If my people, w
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ut who are not religious themselves
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discipline. Once he was demoted fro
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furnace,” one of his aides, Bryce
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expletives, but he almost never cur
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smoking, tortured by throat infecti
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knockdown,’ the coach said, ‘yo
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considerations. I did my best to me
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emotion. Eisenhower was not an auth
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told Ike it was the first time he h
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lives explaining why we didn’t ge
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in American life. His career stagna
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way it smothered his opportunities
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hand.” 22 As a staff officer—ne
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adaptation: “The plans are nothin
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Be proud of yourself, but remember,
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formal, and polite—a general who
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likewise, to give them credit, publ
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the comments and discourses of a ma
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with Blackie—and earlier with all
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General Connor arranged for Eisenho
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grandiosity. He described MacArthur
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was far more important than anythin
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incomprehensible that after 8 years
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mind. He’s a fool, but worse he i
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endured. He had learned to focus le
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credit for victories on to his subo
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creative thinker. In war, he was no
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epellent. Summersby had served, and
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so practiced at suppressing his own
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the mature Eisenhower, traits that
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man’s nature. We start out with r
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affability, optimism, and farm-boy
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simple, unlearned charm. As preside
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most people realized, and in the be
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confuse them.” Predictably, the q
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some day face a president. 40 After
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natural desires and to fulfill the
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land equanimity. It’s not just ha
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moderate, either. You can just head
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impulse was entirely useless and ne
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divisions and rival tendencies, but
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weight the other way when it tilts
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goods, and you just have to accept
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cultures are traditions of conflict
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that it is necessary to legislate a
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lower than the highs are high—the
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crucial pivot point in American pol
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hardship….” He called on his li
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prudence. Whereas Kennedy exhorted
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seeks balance and progress; lack of
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“mortgage the material assets of
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might do if they have unchecked pow
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ush into anything before its time.
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living in Oakland, California. She
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in her brass bed as it rolled back
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and chimney. The city was in ruins,
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loneliness can be filled by love an
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despair with the rapturous consciou
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house without permission or to invi
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spontaneous in their affections.”
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high endeavor. One verse of the Psa
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the summer break. She tried to ease
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heart.” In the next passage, she
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of heaven.” The letter has all th
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without ceasing to overcome all phy
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desire to dedicate herself to somet
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indifferent student. She threw hers
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lonely: “In all that great city o
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desire, a dream, a vision— withou
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attended a rally celebrating the Ru
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formed a deep friendship with the r
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the most vital dramas of her life w
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evelation. The cognitive sciences h
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esulted in a love for one’s broth
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apartment to another, but even she,
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military unit. When the head nurse
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which she did (also neglecting to m
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had used Tobey for a chance to go t
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y hunger, soon slipped into a deep
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prisoners would be locked up for si
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esidence for members of the IWW, th
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found out, branded, publicly humili
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was evil? It is easy enough to stif
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found it. She was incapable of livi
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enunciation of self, commitment to
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not cure the longing, either, and t
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politics. 19 But Day’s love for h
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she wrote to him, “I made myself
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longing could not be contained with
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it occurred to Day that most of the
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murmur of the nurse in my head. In
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to adore.” 20 But whom to thank?
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life of a radical was a life of ass
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comfortable with theology or tradit
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their generosity toward those who w
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her life, and she hoped it would pr
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what could be described as sexual e
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under her became melancholy, she ha
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that even though she would have fou
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ackward institution like the Church
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posture, then raised his clasped ha
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kisses and it is torture to me, but
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other. Conversion The conversion pr
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phrase in her head: “The opiate o
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was doing was right. It was just so
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over the following months and years
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She experienced it as difficult sel
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the secular domain which is filled
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eligious communities are inclined t
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complexity, there you find its grea
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is not, at the outset, a refuge of
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not only the values of the mainstre
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and building a “lifestyle.” In
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Through The Long Loneliness and her
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moral act with a public moral purpo
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and master of my life, take from me
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moment when she tried to make a lit
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great luck was to have had Him on m
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CHAPTER 5 SELF-MASTERY George Catle
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southern family. Supreme Court Just
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dog food and the occasional stew. I
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of state, and won the Nobel Peace P
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mischievous and troublesome. After
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When I was begging to go to VMI, I
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that conversation; it had a psychol
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offering unconditional love and sup
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drawn to its southern traditions. V
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sense of reverence, the imaginative
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ourselves, imitating their actions
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of reverence—for ancient heroes,
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truth made sacred, abiding as an au
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e as close to flawless in all thing
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The week before he was due to arriv
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the business, and the only thing to
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to the medical center, fearing what
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outward manifestation of inner self
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world were more likely to believe t
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person might desire sweets, but wou
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—and all his life, Marshall was o
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to keep a diary, because he thought
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The whole object of VMI training wa
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without a single demerit. He develo
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may be,” Cicero wrote in Tusculan
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To get an appointment to the U.S. A
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loomer. He worked professionally, h
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combat commands. He suffered grievo
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As he later observed, “The truly
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not come, Marshall began to develop
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American Army in Europe, and, contr
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operation, he organized the movemen
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then a captain, decided it was time
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and everyone stood amazed by Marsha
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General Staff at its headquarters i
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seemed to bind us very close to one
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1st Division, were casualties, eith
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meet someone with an institutional
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it suits our needs. Meaning is foun
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to expect that the boxes themselves
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Life is not like navigating through
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time. Teachers treat all their stud
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practical tips on how to best do so
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covenant. It is an inheritance to b
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Marshall did, even in his own lifet
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work emails on our phones. But for
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the reigning belle of Lexington.
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devotion and gratitude to his wife
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Hospital, and on August 22 an opera
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a little office where Marshall took
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out at him from nearly every vantag
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other intimacies with men outside o
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oke off work in late afternoon to g
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to the larger population was define
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Sponville argues that politeness is
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disciplined people who find both in
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Marshall finally found respite from
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Army, too. The lesson plans he inhe
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ead them out to the class. Marshall
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The General In 1938, Franklin Roose
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president would presume to call Mar
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was Harry Hopkins, an FDR intimate
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Sentiment is for others. I cannot a
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and problems where I must do the di
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generals, like MacArthur and Patton
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unnatural genius, and the integrity
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with everybody. He held a soldier
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envied him this. I think that the b
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assignment and was widely accepted
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would go to London. FDR may also ha
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Civil War, but practically no one e
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made.” 30 In an interview with Fo
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importance. Then he asked Marshall
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Somewhat gracelessly, Roosevelt ask
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to express his own desires. But tha
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into the background and let Ike tak
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was a simple ceremony at the Pentag
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The phone call had been President T
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ut its official name, the European
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want. Some people seem to have been
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Nonetheless, he wrote to his wife,
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when I know that with my own joys I
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Sarah, my love for you is deathless
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eath escapes me on the battlefield
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formed by the moral traditions of c
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good fortune. This understanding st
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of granting favors but ashamed to r
Page 993 and 994:
can only really be expressed in pub
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public benefit on a grand scale. He
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In 1958, Marshall checked in to Wal
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the earth seemed to respond to the
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eightieth birthday. General Tom Han
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ody lay in state at the Bethlehem C
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CHAPTER 6 DIGNITY The most prominen
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Methodist Episcopal church, but the
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Douglass. The family lived lives of
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Jervis Anderson wrote, “was, very
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that would last. In the final decad
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walk erect. You almost never saw hi
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women threw themselves at him durin
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say to him, ‘Chief? You kidding m
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kind. When some donors tried to rai
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that later surrounded him. Randolph
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Randolph’s life were: How do you
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people. They were led by a man, Mos
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opinions in order to achieve a larg
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he answered, ‘Bayard, we must wit
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College, where he read Karl Marx vo
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violating antisedition legislation,
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waitresses, and other disaffected g
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eaten back by the company. Randolph
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got to thinking what he had said, y
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any employee who voted to strike. B
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not for myself but for 12,000 porte
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a city job paying $7,000 a year, bu
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increase the company’s total pay
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lacks. On January 15, 1941, Randolp
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House. “Hello, Phil,” the presi
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want to talk with you about is the
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yours. Questions like this can’t
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discrimination in the defense indus
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around him could threaten organizat
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helped form the League of Non-Viole
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enunciation of the sort Randolph ha
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no role in Rustin’s life. Rustin
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that when it came to matters of the
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school’s oratory prize. By senior
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induce too much emotional turmoil
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for Rustin. It provided him with bo
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Throughout his late twenties, Rusti
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ecome an American Gandhi.” 20 In
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lock. Sometimes his agitation got h
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as a “notorious offender,” in t
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eliefs. On October 24, 1944, he fel
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him in bed with somebody else was n
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circles nationwide. Some of his sup
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and—in a sense— moral superiori
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thy loving kindness— wash me thor
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order to reach “the discipline, t
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stopped progress…. I have misused
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my willingness to go into the non-v
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cover, so that he could continue hi
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Men must see the goodness that pote
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offer, but he regarded it as a sign
Page 1107 and 1108:
a barricade against lust and promis
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him. When A. Philip Randolph called
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apartment. Then, in 1953, while on
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Some people try to recover from sca
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King, introduced King to labor lead
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demands on a certain tactical matte
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one who had stuck by him most stead
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ights organizations such as the Urb
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movements. The first was northern a
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nature. As education levels increas
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iblical prophetic tradition. Its le
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Evil, King declared, is “rampant
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practice idolatry. They worship man
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themselves could not rely on their
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from pain and suffering, but it exp
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Instead, change comes through relen
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work against them as they were expo
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danger of being corrupted by their
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choices as they got closer to power
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keeping one’s arms curled around
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corrupted by their own righteousnes
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of modern man, against moral compla
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Niebuhr wrote in the middle of the
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achieve good ends. But if you adopt
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administration to prepare civil rig
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outmaneuvered. Rustin oversaw every
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inadvertently became one of the mos
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tightly controlled aggression. The
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continue the struggle: “I pledge
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apartheid in South Africa, bucking
Page 1167 and 1168:
looking for a person who was compat
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extremely dignified in their bearin
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CHAPTER 7 LOVE “A human life, I t
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Warwickshire, in the middle of Engl
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knowledge, unlettered wisdom, a loy
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infuriating mix of attention-seekin
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older, got a pony, and lost interes
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mother’s health, was called back
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“fed from within,” soared after
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time when society was in great reli
Page 1187 and 1188:
services and emphasizing individual
Page 1189 and 1190:
adopted a severe and puritanical mo
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all. It was she who started putting
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would that I could claim / The priv
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all my actions proceed.” 6 At som
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widely in the sciences, including J
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twenty-one. Hennell parsed through
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condition: “nonimpartitive.” Sh
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intellectual, unconventional thinke
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immediately recognized her as a kin
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that glorious crusade that is seeki
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earthy passion that she had trouble
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choosing to dishonor her family and
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predictions had no effect on her. H
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a Christian. She said she regarded
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shall go with deep gratitude for al
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concluded with a declaration of lov
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conscience, an amazing bravery in t
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of his daughter. He bent. Meanwhile
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little subtlety and management. Yes
Page 1227 and 1228:
of social niceties and conventions.
Page 1229 and 1230:
were reconciled. Her admiration for
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impressive depth of knowledge and a
Page 1233 and 1234:
some man, usually a married or othe
Page 1235 and 1236:
series of men simply couldn’t get
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Men came. Mary Anne fell. Men went.
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morrow. Friends would invite Mary A
Page 1241 and 1242:
would leave the house or she would.
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drama by showing a love letter from
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depth, and savoring the sense of he
Page 1247 and 1248:
had that kind of soul. Feeling and
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ugliness. “The lack of physical a
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would be very glad and cheerful and
Page 1253 and 1254:
neediness, the iron was beginning t
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This agency moment can happen, for
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active, busy, and sleepless, but in
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One True Love The story of George E
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married to one woman in Liverpool a
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journeyman writer. The American fem
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wasn’t British. He had a genuine
Page 1267 and 1268:
after that. Agnes had a long-runnin
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Mary Anne, for her part, was also l
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foam at the mouth if we are crossed
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the same circles. They both had a c
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often together) and also because El
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his messy private life. This probab
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transcendence, and defeat the sinfu
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even subjective human being (that i
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We don’t have access to the exact
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publish nothing. Her first husband
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ends of her room. She told him abou
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Akhmatova confessed her loneliness,
Page 1291 and 1292:
a certain sort of communication. It
Page 1293 and 1294:
emotional judgments. They were spir
Page 1295 and 1296:
Ignatieff, they barely touched. The
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prison. She was desolated but remai
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control of ourselves. In most cultu
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your energy levels, reorganizing yo
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utterly and hopelessly. Love is a s
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nakedness and the other rushes to m
Page 1307 and 1308:
person in love finds that the ultim
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person in love who receives a gift
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it was some mysterious quintessence
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against pain and vulnerability, to
Page 1315 and 1316:
ecstasy, jealousy, hurt, and so on
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assume the aura of holy days. The e
Page 1319 and 1320:
she. Moreover, love doesn’t seek
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oth a higher and a lower plane than
Page 1323 and 1324:
an infinity beyond what can be know
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love (and I don’t mean merely whe
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exposes the soft fertile soil of Ad
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We all know people who were brittle
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urrowing into the vulnerability of
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logic of self-interest and uncondit
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This is the kind of love that Georg
Page 1337 and 1338:
Agnes was bearing children by anoth
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Lewes collapsed with dizziness, hea
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oken ties are what I neither desire
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All love is narrowing. It is the re
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each…. Love is, or should be, ind
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accurate perception of oneself. Mar
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must not disappear: The way is cert
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Will not be either sensible or chea
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would begin their life together abr
Page 1355 and 1356:
welcomed by the leading writers and
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morals for others. One former acqua
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philosophically she believed in the
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silent unspeakable memories at the
Page 1363 and 1364:
Eliot had always been a sensitive o
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gotten the big thing right. She had
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genius for description and characte
Page 1369 and 1370:
me, saying, ‘I think your pathos
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have felt nothing but selfless deli
Page 1373 and 1374:
and cried alternately and then rush
Page 1375 and 1376:
most fulsome praise. Lewes’s rule
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through him that I learned to know
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else so well; and that is a point t
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ill health and depression were mark
Page 1383 and 1384:
lessed hope, to be rejoiced in with
Page 1385 and 1386:
thought-through observation. The bo
Page 1387 and 1388:
from growing insight and sympathy.
Page 1389 and 1390:
concerned with the lofty and the he
Page 1391 and 1392:
are few prophets in the world; few
Page 1393 and 1394:
things are not so ill with you and
Page 1395 and 1396:
an attentive listener. Because she
Page 1397 and 1398:
talent isn’t as great as he think
Page 1399 and 1400:
Her books were aimed to have a slow
Page 1401 and 1402:
they dwelt, but you are almost sure
Page 1403 and 1404:
might be or just how to go about it
Page 1405 and 1406:
which ties one down but gives one c
Page 1407 and 1408:
“must be accepted as they are: yo
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associated with Eliot’s work is
Page 1411 and 1412:
ever love her, as a friend, I don
Page 1413 and 1414:
way into other people’s minds and
Page 1415 and 1416:
his love has conferred on my life.
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Husband, this thirteenth year of th
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CHAPTER 8 ORDERED LOVE Augustine wa
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his life, caught in the tension bet
Page 1423 and 1424:
Augustine’s mother, Monica, has a
Page 1425 and 1426:
dismissing the unworthy with biting
Page 1427 and 1428:
When Augustine joined a philosophic
Page 1429 and 1430:
Augustine to receive the rites of b
Page 1431 and 1432:
state than when she had given birth
Page 1433 and 1434:
that were a constant feature of sch
Page 1435 and 1436:
world. A person in this frame of mi
Page 1437 and 1438:
Hellenistic frame of mind is afraid
Page 1439 and 1440:
men who refused themselves nothing,
Page 1441 and 1442:
teenage years, Augustine seems to h
Page 1443 and 1444:
cauldron of illicit loves leapt and
Page 1445 and 1446:
those painful bonds around me, and
Page 1447 and 1448:
addiction: I was bound not by an ir
Page 1449 and 1450:
divided against himself. Part of hi
Page 1451 and 1452:
een a studious and responsible youn
Page 1453 and 1454:
version of a successful young Ivy L
Page 1455 and 1456:
eternal conflict between all that i
Page 1457 and 1458:
you accepted its premises, Manichae
Page 1459 and 1460:
and ate only certain foods. They av
Page 1461 and 1462:
All in all, Augustine was living th
Page 1463 and 1464:
crafted. There was nothing in his l
Page 1465 and 1466:
superabundance of neat things to do
Page 1467 and 1468:
lose the ability to say a hundred n
Page 1469 and 1470:
to refer to sexual desire, but a br
Page 1471 and 1472:
taking a fifteen-year intimate rela
Page 1473 and 1474:
where we are told she vowed to rema
Page 1475 and 1476:
who did none of these things, was h
Page 1477 and 1478:
Augustine responded to this crisis
Page 1479 and 1480:
had observed before: “Who can map
Page 1481 and 1482:
silence, in my memory I can produce
Page 1483 and 1484:
and not within? And how then does i
Page 1485 and 1486:
the dessert tray or in the late-nig
Page 1487 and 1488:
Small and Petty Corruptions In the
Page 1489 and 1490:
compelled by no hunger, nor poverty
Page 1491 and 1492:
Augustine, the very small purposele
Page 1493 and 1494:
that the reality of sin can be seen
Page 1495 and 1496:
unattached to the right ends, commu
Page 1497 and 1498:
attitude here, you might say that h
Page 1499 and 1500:
creation. Centuries later, C. S. Le
Page 1501 and 1502:
upward, the desire to live a life o
Page 1503 and 1504:
to life in obedience to the divine
Page 1505 and 1506:
thought, describes the mottled natu
Page 1507 and 1508:
were infected with pride. Having a
Page 1509 and 1510:
had always been the basis for his a
Page 1511 and 1512:
promotion or an advanced degree—b
Page 1513 and 1514:
captain of your own life, you will
Page 1515 and 1516:
effectively enough to be master of
Page 1517 and 1518:
more self-help books is proof that
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By another definition, pride is bui
Page 1521 and 1522:
people who have low selfesteem. The
Page 1523 and 1524:
with extreme anxiety. The proud per
Page 1525 and 1526:
Burned in my bosom with a kind of r
Page 1527 and 1528:
absentmindedly or intentionally tre
Page 1529 and 1530:
Elevation Augustine later wrote tha
Page 1531 and 1532:
etter way to live, if only he could
Page 1533 and 1534:
want to close his options and renou
Page 1535 and 1536:
heart was self against self only.
Page 1537 and 1538:
system lived for themselves. “Wha
Page 1539 and 1540:
eating on his insides, inflicting a
Page 1541 and 1542:
vision of a woman, Lady Continence.
Page 1543 and 1544:
Alypius didn’t follow but let Aug
Page 1545 and 1546:
a light flooding his heart and eras
Page 1547 and 1548:
more precious and purer way than sh
Page 1549 and 1550:
it seemed to involve that. It’s a
Page 1551 and 1552:
agency and action, it’s through s
Page 1553 and 1554:
days you provide evidence for the p
Page 1555 and 1556:
performance to us as if it were our
Page 1557 and 1558:
surrendered posture. That posture f
Page 1559 and 1560:
to look down on. Throughout his ear
Page 1561 and 1562:
there’s majesty; where there’s
Page 1563 and 1564:
of voice, not the peremptory comman
Page 1565 and 1566:
image and possesses a dignity that
Page 1567 and 1568:
in one more crucial way. In Augusti
Page 1569 and 1570:
impulse that you can win a victory
Page 1571 and 1572:
indifference, our weakness, our hos
Page 1573 and 1574:
name of which you do not know. Do n
Page 1575 and 1576:
estrangement. And nothing is demand
Page 1577 and 1578:
her all the time. You want to buy h
Page 1579 and 1580:
self, in this view, is not won by s
Page 1581 and 1582:
you reordered your loves, and as Au
Page 1583 and 1584:
eceive God’s grace. That gift aro
Page 1585 and 1586:
The Old Loves After his “conversi
Page 1587 and 1588:
not writing them as genial reminisc
Page 1589 and 1590:
transcendent love. Augustine’s pr
Page 1591 and 1592:
love, and a food, and a kind of emb
Page 1593 and 1594:
of self-understanding in context, a
Page 1595 and 1596:
feel of a group of scholars meditat
Page 1597 and 1598:
life take place in gardens), and he
Page 1599 and 1600:
ealm of pure spirit.” In describi
Page 1601 and 1602:
speaks, not through men or women, b
Page 1603 and 1604:
“glad hidden depths.” One imagi
Page 1605 and 1606:
— TO BE HEALED IS to be broken op
Page 1607 and 1608:
happens only as a byproduct of a st
Page 1609 and 1610:
nine days to carry her off. She tol
Page 1611 and 1612:
struggle it went very hard with me
Page 1613 and 1614:
handmaid, remembering how loving an
Page 1615 and 1616:
fighting and arguing. He achieved t
Page 1617 and 1618:
CHAPTER 9 SELF- EXAMINATION Samuel
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mother, being unacquainted with boo
Page 1621 and 1622:
an incision, without anesthesia, in
Page 1623 and 1624:
he could measure his step. When a t
Page 1625 and 1626:
others—he began groping his way t
Page 1627 and 1628:
complaints about the beatings. But
Page 1629 and 1630:
memory was tenacious. He could read
Page 1631 and 1632:
ambition, panting, as he would late
Page 1633 and 1634:
Johnson was recognized as a brillia
Page 1635 and 1636:
Johnson became a Christian at Oxfor
Page 1637 and 1638:
fill the heart. Christianity didn
Page 1639 and 1640:
aware of his inadequacy, fearing hi
Page 1641 and 1642:
developed a series of tics and gest
Page 1643 and 1644:
novelist Fanny Burney would write,
Page 1645 and 1646:
generate more ridicule than respect
Page 1647 and 1648:
for empathy and affection, but they
Page 1649 and 1650:
Street hack was hand-tomouth, chaot
Page 1651 and 1652:
1738, the House of Commons passed a
Page 1653 and 1654:
disavow them. They were taken as au
Page 1655 and 1656:
the rootedness of extended family l
Page 1657 and 1658:
he wants, when there are a thousand
Page 1659 and 1660:
solitude, but he was stuck in a lit
Page 1661 and 1662:
faculty that provides us with creat
Page 1663 and 1664:
us to make envious comparisons, ima
Page 1665 and 1666:
ideas of our own concoction rather
Page 1667 and 1668:
and he was a blockhead and I told o
Page 1669 and 1670:
copy boy would be standing at his e
Page 1671 and 1672:
torn. His life, as he put it, had b
Page 1673 and 1674:
Johnson also used his writing to tr
Page 1675 and 1676:
anging from Adam Smith to Joshua Re
Page 1677 and 1678:
iographer Jeffrey Meyers put it, wa
Page 1679 and 1680:
— JOHNSON PROCESSED THE WORLD in
Page 1681 and 1682:
Oliver Goldsmith once said, “for
Page 1683 and 1684:
man is tired of London he is tired
Page 1685 and 1686:
virtues and vices, with the vices w
Page 1687 and 1688:
anything you have to look at it fro
Page 1689 and 1690:
He did not believe knowledge was be
Page 1691 and 1692:
chambers. “The true state of ever
Page 1693 and 1694:
with unconcern on a man struggling
Page 1695 and 1696:
social conditions. He is, after all
Page 1697 and 1698:
notion that “He who can talk only
Page 1699 and 1700:
Emerson would later observe that
Page 1701 and 1702:
oaden the range of awareness and be
Page 1703 and 1704:
Johnson lived in a world of hack wr
Page 1705 and 1706:
moralist because of his deficiencie
Page 1707 and 1708:
Johnson, just look at the subjects
Page 1709 and 1710:
• A man of genius is but seldom r
Page 1711 and 1712:
lay open to themselves. • Read ov
Page 1713 and 1714:
are depressed, they often feel over
Page 1715 and 1716:
otherwise than it has been, a torme
Page 1717 and 1718:
combat to Johnson,” Fussell write
Page 1719 and 1720:
cured by another. But envy is such
Page 1721 and 1722:
since their desires are always leap
Page 1723 and 1724:
only were his worldly accomplishmen
Page 1725 and 1726:
limits of human knowledge, he was c
Page 1727 and 1728:
Johnson’s method of selfformation
Page 1729 and 1730:
understand himself and pursue virtu
Page 1731 and 1732:
sweetly each morning by the sound o
Page 1733 and 1734:
seclusion of his own tower library,
Page 1735 and 1736:
etired to a life of contemplation,
Page 1737 and 1738:
are, I know not how, double within
Page 1739 and 1740:
to work at our will, and does not o
Page 1741 and 1742:
essays to arrive at himself. He wou
Page 1743 and 1744:
and through selfexamination hoped t
Page 1745 and 1746:
easy, but he did not take his missi
Page 1747 and 1748:
himself in order to lead a coherent
Page 1749 and 1750:
espect. “Every one can play his p
Page 1751 and 1752:
to rationalize them away. Most of t
Page 1753 and 1754:
of others.” He notes that most of
Page 1755 and 1756:
know.” As Sarah Bakewell observes
Page 1757 and 1758:
in agony. Inside, though, the menta
Page 1759 and 1760:
it.” 19 It’s almost as if Monta
Page 1761 and 1762:
and relaxed,” he writes at one po
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himself a moderating slogan: “I h
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trouble refuting him (he doesn’t
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escape it; and in fleeing I dodge.
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ond he shared with his dear friend
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construct a perfect society, he con
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Johnson is all emotional extremes;
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zealotry. Johnson tried to lift peo
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his estate. Most important, Johnson
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he was slowly bringing order to his
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these copied onto slips of paper an
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disturb the quiet of others by cens
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But he had left, and she would neve
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He was in the Club, a group of men
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collection of indigents and the mar
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spent years trying to come up with
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him out by ghostwriting his law lec
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friend to hold a padlock for him th
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and self-deception. But it was fuel
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almost every anxiety and fear the h
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town called Uttoxeter. Johnson, fee
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Johnson never triumphed, but he int
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afraid I may be one of those who sh
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Later Johnson got some scissors and
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He became a universal thinker. The
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highest human felicity,” he wrote
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Johnson’s genius for epigram and
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which nothing has a tendency to fil
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sidelines in Super Bowl III. Both J
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“You’ll make a good truck drive
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construction gang, playing semipro
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crew cut above his rough face. If y
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he’d rip into his receivers for s
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the antithesis of all that. Footbal
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made himself the center of attentio
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against his immigrant family by bei
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He cultivated a personal brand that
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the perfect subject. Without a reti
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up culture. “I don’t like to da
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outshone the team. Cultural Change
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1960s. The conventional story goes
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who nonetheless led a people, and b
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moral stupidity, taking the world a
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moral: There are bugs in our souls
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omanticism. While moral realists pl
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early twentieth century America, yo
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need to distrust oneself even while
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and 1950s. It was the Greatest Gene
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ook that offered a more upbeat and
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attain.” 9 He struck a chord. His
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wildly popular book titled The Matu
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weeks. Then came humanistic psychol
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describe human nature, he continued
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posters on school walls everywhere
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1950s and 1960s confronted a differ
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those years, many social groups, no
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family in Washington, D.C. She atte
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conscious. “Had I said the right
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later, Katharine was elected presid
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Within: A Book of Self- Esteem. Dr.
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actualization and selfesteem gave m
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memoir is a masterwork, understated
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“the culture of authenticity.”
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this culture, “comes from recover
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personal feelings as a guide to wha
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I’ve got to do is believe.” Sta
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ecology that have inflated the Big
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today. We reach for the smartphone.
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oriented around their own needs. A
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they hope will impress and please t
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inferior. The Soul of Man Under Mer
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of emphasis on individual achieveme
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ealists saw the self as a wildernes
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in ways good and bad. But it also h
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your status and professional life p
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to be completely sure of yourself,
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animal. The shrewd animal has strea
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y a Fear of Missing Out. The shift
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which a cult of busyness develops a
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different career paths and differen
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Let me just describe one way the me
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average, according to UCLA surveys
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more per year per child on out-of-s
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their child studies hard, practices
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straightforward system of rules and
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communicate constantly. With only q
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certain way to be worthy of another
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decisions about their own interests
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This cultural, technological, and m
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changed us. In the first place, it
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words, students felt it was importa
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enough, there has been a steady dec
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But in the 1990s the distrusters ha
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going back decades. You can type in
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of the twentieth century. 26 Usage
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lives of American college students.
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position was that moral choices are
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individualist, since the ultimate a
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Adam I. The Wrong Life In 1886, Leo
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good-natured and sociable, though s
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adulthood, the less satisfactory it
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eally attended to them. He now real
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hole and there at the bottom was a
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must be to join a counterculture. T
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Each society creates its own moral
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of the moment and it shapes the peo
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a moral ecology based on the ideas
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together and recapitulate them here
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purpose, righteousness, and virtue.
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hedonistic one. 2. Proposition one
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shallow and vain. Furthermore, we o
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ecognize sin, to feel ashamed of si
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accurate assessment of your own nat
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us to our own weaknesses and mislea
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satisfied, the struggle against sin
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Contending with weakness often mean
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dispositions, desires, and habits t
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disorganized choices, then you are
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ecome constant and dependable. 8. T
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attachments to important things. In
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selfishness, pride, greed, and self
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feel in certain circumstances. We w
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space that others might fill. And g
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often means quieting the self. Only
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epistemological modesty. The world
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manners, moral sentiments, and prac
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wisdom is not knowledge. Wisdom eme
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just on being excellent at that, yo
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arrangements that are low and stead
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keep the boat moving steadily forwa
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person will become mature. Maturity
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person has moved from fragmentation
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Modes of Living The characters in t
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had a lighter and more relaxed atti
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many differences of temperament, te
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vulnerability, and undertook a life
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The good news of this book is that
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the selfishness, the selfdeceit, th
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eceive and offer care. He is vulner
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that gives dignity to her failing.
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admiration. There’s joy in freely
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Adam I and Adam II, when there is t
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life.
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS Anne C. Snyder was
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the sensitivity of her observations
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useful suggestions. Campbell Schneb
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made the first two days of every we
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publishing house. I’ve been fortu
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connector of people and ideas. She
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mentor. Kirsten Powers read crucial
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children, Joshua, Naomi, and Aaron,
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CHAPTER 1: THE SHIFT 1. Wilfred M.
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3. David Frum, How We Got Here: The
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Woman’s Search for Everything (Pe
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Fosdick, On Being a Real Person (Ha
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University online archives. http://
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8. Von Drehle, Triangle, 146. 9. Pe
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Should Do and Who We Should Be (Eer
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Colleges,” Household Ledger, 1905
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27. Frances Perkins, “My Recollec
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66. 35. Martin, Madam Secretary, 23
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Knew, 156. 45. Downey, Woman Behind
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American History (University of Chi
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2012), 7. 3. Smith, Eisenhower in W
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Legal Profession (Harvard Universit
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33. 15. State of the Union message,
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21. Eisenhower, At Ease, 155. 22. E
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Kansas, 1984), 4. 28. Eisenhower, A
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38. Quoted in Steven J. Rubenzer an
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CHAPTER 4: STRUGGLE 1. Dorothy Day,
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16. 8. Day, Long Loneliness, 87. 9.
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79. 16. Elie, Life You Save, 38. 17
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24. Coles, Radical Devotion, 53. 25
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Diaries of Dorothy Day (Marquette U
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41. Forest, All Is Grace, 178. 42.
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CHAPTER 5: SELF-MASTERY 1. Forrest
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On Education: The Future in Educati
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for Peace: General George C. Marsha
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18. Mosley, Hero for Our Times, 64.
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25. Cray, General of the Army, 278.
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33. John S. D. Eisenhower, General
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39. Faulkner, Case for Greatness, 4
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CHAPTER 6: DIGNITY 1. Cynthia Taylo
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6. Anderson, Biographical Portrait,
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from the Rails: Pullman Porters and
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Rustin (Simon and Schuster, 2003),
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23. D’Emilio, Lost Prophet, 172.
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32. Chappell, Stone of Hope, 55. 33
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Portrait, 332.
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3. Hughes, Last Victorian, 18. 4. F
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Biography (Oxford University Press,
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II, Scene I. 18. Karl, Voice of a C
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CHAPTER 8: ORDERED LOVE 1. Peter Br
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Hippo, 13. 8. Garry Wills, Saint Au
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14. Niebuhr, Nature and Destiny of
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(University of Chicago Press, 2008)
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CHAPTER 9: SELF- EXAMINATION 1. Jef
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7. Bate, Samuel Johnson, 211. 8. Me
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15. Fussell, Johnson and the Life o
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2010), 21. 20. Bakewell, How to Liv
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the American Spirit (Madison Books,
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Middlemarch (Penguin, 2003), 211. 9
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The Carl Rogers Reader (Houghton Mi
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Survey, “Sixty-five Per Cent of C
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University of California, Los Angel
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Analysis” (University of Michigan
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27. Christian Smith, Kari Christoff
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PERMISSION CREDITS GRATEFUL ACKNOWL
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© 1952 by Harper & Row Publishers,
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DAVE JOLLY: Email from Dave Jolly t
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IMPRINT AND DIVISION OF PENGUIN RAN
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Peace by Jean Edward Smith, copyrig
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By DAVID BROOKS On Paradise Drive:
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR DAVID BROOKS write
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