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e Justin Bieber’s personal assistant.) As I looked around the popular culture I kept finding the same messages everywhere: You are special. Trust yourself. Be true to yourself. Movies from Pixar and Disney are constantly telling children how wonderful they are. Commencement speeches are larded with the same
clichés: Follow your passion. Don’t accept limits. Chart your own course. You have a responsibility to do great things because you are so great. This is the gospel of self-trust. As Ellen DeGeneres put it in a 2009 commencement address, “My advice to you is to be true to yourself and
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Copyright © 2015 by David Brooks A
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ISBN 978-0-8129-9325-7 eBook ISBN 9
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CONTENTS Cover Title Page Copyright
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CHAPTER 9: EXAMINATION CHAPTER 10:
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INTRODUCTION: ADAM II Recently I’
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Most of us would say that the eulog
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Rabbi Joseph Soloveitchik in 1965.
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sense of right and wrong— not onl
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forth, Adam II wants to return to h
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different logics. Adam I— the cre
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order to fulfill yourself, you have
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The competition to succeed and win
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you turn into a shrewd animal, a cr
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attached to the moral purposes that
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one mindset that people through the
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vague moral aspiration— vaguely w
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must be good enough. In the process
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The Plan The plan of this book is s
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Page 45 and 46: The message is the person, perfecte
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Page 51 and 52: see in people who have lived a litt
Page 53 and 54: They perform acts of sacrificial se
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Page 57 and 58: to success has surrendered to the s
Page 59 and 60: programs. A few years ago I was dri
Page 61 and 62: triumphal arches. “Well, it looks
Page 63 and 64: een killed just a few months before
Page 65 and 66: district were five inches deep in c
Page 67 and 68: week for Time magazine. But the mod
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Page 79 and 80: When Franklin Roosevelt’s aide Ha
Page 81 and 82: published memoirs, almost all of th
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Page 85 and 86: percent said yes. The same question
Page 87 and 88: largest gains have been in the numb
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Page 93 and 94: messages of a timid world.” In he
Page 95 and 96: pointed out, the tone was very diff
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Page 101 and 102: about that sort of humility, too. W
Page 103 and 104: limitation. The people we think are
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Page 117 and 118: ones. We all love and desire a mult
Page 119 and 120: loves out of order. If someone tell
Page 121 and 122: have an acute awareness of their ow
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Page 125 and 126: or revealing some vulnerability. So
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ack in the uplands of joy and commi
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coherence, solidity, and weight. Pe
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has endured some internal temptatio
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aesthetic or a style. The more I lo
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inarticulate. We’re not more self
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That’s false. Adam I’s desires
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ourselves in the lives of outstandi
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CHAPTER 2 THE SUMMONED SELF Today,
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the nice homes was owned by Mrs. Go
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the old Marx Brothers movies or Mrs
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Some saw what they thought were bun
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sidewalk,” she recalled. “Every
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One young man tenderly helped a you
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cigarette or a match into one of th
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work desks. He ordered workers to d
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dressing room to retrieve their coa
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with the other. 6 A clerk, who was
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single choke point in order to get
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described her own part in the vicio
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the elevators. But they were small,
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immigrant named Rose Schneiderman h
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something wrong. It shouldn’t hav
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iron teeth are our necessities, the
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much blood has been spilled!” 10
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genteel progressives went about ser
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Today, commencement speakers tell g
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What are the things that I truly va
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leading a purposeful life. You will
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from life? You ask a different set
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y God into a specific place with sp
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other died in the camps. Frankl spe
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instead think of ourselves as those
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past. But some prisoners struggled
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events had assigned to him, he unde
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fellow prisoners, and, if he surviv
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upward: “I called to the Lord fro
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disappointed. 13 Life, he concluded
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gifts. Your ability to discern your
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looking for something that will pro
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she is a guitarist. Playing is not
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some cost-benefit analysis. Such pe
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about the pursuit of happiness, if
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O Lord, that I may not break as I s
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task to its utmost perfection—the
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ut it was a major one. This horror
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Perkins was born on Beacon Hill in
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through the centuries, mostly near
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plopped a low-crowned, simple, thre
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narrower above the temples than it
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motivated by and intermixed with a
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The Yankees also combined what you
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United States. New Englanders have,
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estrictions, many of which seem abs
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look for their students’ intellec
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enforced discipline: “For the fir
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undergraduate mind should concentra
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students discover new things to lov
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Then it told them that the heroes i
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missionary and service jobs in nort
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poise.” Today, the word “poise
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Woolley quoted the Stoic philosophe
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churches. It is not enough, Rausche
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class motto, “Be ye steadfast.”
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her natural weaknesses. It pushed h
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Perkins knew she wanted some sort o
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destroyed by the disruptions of ind
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inner life. Not long ago, I asked t
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number? How can I have impact? Or,
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allowed the rich to feel good about
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exercise scientific patience as the
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Their ambitions have shrunk. At sch
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the elements of tragedy.” 25 Adda
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into boardinghouses, sometimes drug
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unconventional.” 27 While at the
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tougher at every step along the way
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their emotions and their identity a
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party pols. You have to be practica
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moaning about the shameful work he
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Perkins was then thirtythree, and p
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confidence of the old men around he
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way you say they work. I’d like t
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ejecting it. Instead, she took half
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slowly won her over. “Before you
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Wilson informed their families, but
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liked life better in a single harne
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deteriorate. John Mitchel was voted
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organization that sought to lower m
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and was wiped out. Perkins was some
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family fortune “this accident,”
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philosophic dispositions, what the
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educed to banality when it is parad
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particularly happy private life. It
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when she was sixteen, when Perkins
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chose a flamboyant green dress and
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vice. The virtue of reticence can y
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across the Empire State. The job br
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this,” but more often her diction
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uoyant optimism. But when he was yo
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cover his awkward movements as he l
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necessity that Franklin Roosevelt b
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econsider, to consult with others.
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situations of what was fair. She wa
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my ‘kick’ out of the gratifying
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terms if she was to become his labo
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major force behind many of the New
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Perkins wrote a biographical work,
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have called him an instrument of th
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ahead with this? Are you sure?” T
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she needed it. He was too slippery
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You mustn’t put this on me now,
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But at the time, that wasn’t so c
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In January 1939, J. Parnell Thomas
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Perkins’s grandmother had always
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would have been scattered, and I wo
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mop her floor, they sometimes had t
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poor will often be ungrateful, and
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detailed recitation of the administ
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vague and elliptical. It generated
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eginning to infringe on privacy and
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for her daughter’s mental health
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etain one’s integrity while navig
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any trouble.” 50 She died alone,
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illnesses of her husband and daught
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a fervent liberal activist, of the
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felt necessity. A person who embrac
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lifetime; therefore we must be save
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CHAPTER 3 SELF-CONQUEST Ida Stover
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and her father died when she was el
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educated beyond eighth grade at the
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to remain the most treasured posses
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extremely optimistic nature, and th
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their religious garb. One day Ida a
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solitary and difficult. He seems to
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had $24.15 in cash and few possessi
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her gentleness with all and her tol
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eading about the battles of Maratho
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conscience and not to be imposed on
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essential, self-discipline a daily
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pocketknife open on a windowsill. E
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later lose his own firstborn son, D
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drought, or disease, or betrayal co
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much less emphasis on it than ours
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permission to go out trickor-treati
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and sat silently rocking in the cha
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to me that she talked for hours, bu
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is the drama to construct character
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acism, and so on—not in the human
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live joylessly and censoriously.
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those who, for whatever reason, fet
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instinct that is captured in big da
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about these choices less clearly, a
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fighting our own individual sins by
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of omission, but, in the words of t
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The danger of sin, in other words,
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have an unchecked problem of sympat
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against. The person involved in the
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spending, debt, and bankruptcy. In
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order. Social harmony can be rewove
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Character Ida Eisenhower was funny
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habit of small, constant self-repre
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he wrote, you want to make your ner
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discipline every day. Follow arbitr
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your behavior and eventually you re
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school for character. In Abilene, e
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wiring the house when electricity c
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After his bankruptcy he had a horro
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and that’s the way he lived it, s
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as well. Fortunately, love is the l
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ehaving better. The parent focusing
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Chronicles 7:14: “If my people, w
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ut who are not religious themselves
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discipline. Once he was demoted fro
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furnace,” one of his aides, Bryce
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expletives, but he almost never cur
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smoking, tortured by throat infecti
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knockdown,’ the coach said, ‘yo
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considerations. I did my best to me
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emotion. Eisenhower was not an auth
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told Ike it was the first time he h
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lives explaining why we didn’t ge
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in American life. His career stagna
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way it smothered his opportunities
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hand.” 22 As a staff officer—ne
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adaptation: “The plans are nothin
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Be proud of yourself, but remember,
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formal, and polite—a general who
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likewise, to give them credit, publ
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the comments and discourses of a ma
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with Blackie—and earlier with all
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General Connor arranged for Eisenho
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grandiosity. He described MacArthur
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was far more important than anythin
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incomprehensible that after 8 years
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mind. He’s a fool, but worse he i
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endured. He had learned to focus le
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credit for victories on to his subo
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creative thinker. In war, he was no
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epellent. Summersby had served, and
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so practiced at suppressing his own
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the mature Eisenhower, traits that
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man’s nature. We start out with r
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affability, optimism, and farm-boy
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simple, unlearned charm. As preside
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most people realized, and in the be
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confuse them.” Predictably, the q
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some day face a president. 40 After
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natural desires and to fulfill the
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land equanimity. It’s not just ha
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moderate, either. You can just head
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impulse was entirely useless and ne
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divisions and rival tendencies, but
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weight the other way when it tilts
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goods, and you just have to accept
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cultures are traditions of conflict
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that it is necessary to legislate a
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lower than the highs are high—the
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crucial pivot point in American pol
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hardship….” He called on his li
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prudence. Whereas Kennedy exhorted
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seeks balance and progress; lack of
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“mortgage the material assets of
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might do if they have unchecked pow
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ush into anything before its time.
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living in Oakland, California. She
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in her brass bed as it rolled back
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and chimney. The city was in ruins,
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loneliness can be filled by love an
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despair with the rapturous consciou
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house without permission or to invi
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spontaneous in their affections.”
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high endeavor. One verse of the Psa
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the summer break. She tried to ease
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heart.” In the next passage, she
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of heaven.” The letter has all th
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without ceasing to overcome all phy
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desire to dedicate herself to somet
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indifferent student. She threw hers
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lonely: “In all that great city o
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desire, a dream, a vision— withou
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attended a rally celebrating the Ru
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formed a deep friendship with the r
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the most vital dramas of her life w
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evelation. The cognitive sciences h
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esulted in a love for one’s broth
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apartment to another, but even she,
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military unit. When the head nurse
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which she did (also neglecting to m
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had used Tobey for a chance to go t
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y hunger, soon slipped into a deep
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prisoners would be locked up for si
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esidence for members of the IWW, th
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found out, branded, publicly humili
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was evil? It is easy enough to stif
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found it. She was incapable of livi
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enunciation of self, commitment to
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not cure the longing, either, and t
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politics. 19 But Day’s love for h
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she wrote to him, “I made myself
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longing could not be contained with
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it occurred to Day that most of the
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murmur of the nurse in my head. In
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to adore.” 20 But whom to thank?
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life of a radical was a life of ass
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comfortable with theology or tradit
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their generosity toward those who w
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her life, and she hoped it would pr
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what could be described as sexual e
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under her became melancholy, she ha
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that even though she would have fou
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ackward institution like the Church
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posture, then raised his clasped ha
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kisses and it is torture to me, but
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other. Conversion The conversion pr
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phrase in her head: “The opiate o
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was doing was right. It was just so
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over the following months and years
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She experienced it as difficult sel
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the secular domain which is filled
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eligious communities are inclined t
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complexity, there you find its grea
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is not, at the outset, a refuge of
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moral problems, with the principles
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I could go on…. I do not always a
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and apply Catholic social teaching
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and inspired more than thirty other
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also advocated for economic change.
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constantly urging her coworkers to
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on the newspaper and serving bread
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comfort of her own home. She lived
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ethereal, living in a higher spirit
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the bookkeeping, read some literatu
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sense of how much they were giving
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herself to be with people, almost a
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journal: “Drunkenness and all the
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sometimes,” she wrote. “I have
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followed the mode of Dostoyevsky—
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order to have a big impact; she was
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people we call deep have almost alw
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eyond itself, suffering shrinks or
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attuned awareness of what others ar
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Suffering opens up ancient places o
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narratives we tell about ourselves
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moments when grief eases, it is not
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should in fact be a cause for thank
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call. They are not masters of the s
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alance my hedonic account by going
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us to see life in the widest possib
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deeper and more gratefully into the
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ased, in part, on the idea that eac
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ecame famous, her houses attracted
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Catholicism. After Forster, she nev
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sadness and desolation and it seems
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Tamar she was too young to marry. S
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periods and struggled with mental i
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Torn between competing demands and
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series of communities, around the n
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community,” she wrote. “The liv
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others say. We are not alone anymor
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It may seem from the outside as if
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okenness, that people served. “Go
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the poor and toward God, and the fu
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some sense this is a false impressi
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an enormous capacity for close frie
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would see that in her. She didn’t
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very hard time,” Day recounted in
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a ministry of presence. Next, they
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sensitive person grants the suffere
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Day found herself suffering with Na
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Apotheosis When the radicalism of t
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complained about all the rebellious
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‘community.’…They call them
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cheap on this market.” All around
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not only the values of the mainstre
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and building a “lifestyle.” In
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Through The Long Loneliness and her
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moral act with a public moral purpo
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and master of my life, take from me
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moment when she tried to make a lit
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great luck was to have had Him on m
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CHAPTER 5 SELF-MASTERY George Catle
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southern family. Supreme Court Just
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dog food and the occasional stew. I
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of state, and won the Nobel Peace P
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mischievous and troublesome. After
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When I was begging to go to VMI, I
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that conversation; it had a psychol
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offering unconditional love and sup
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drawn to its southern traditions. V
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sense of reverence, the imaginative
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ourselves, imitating their actions
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of reverence—for ancient heroes,
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truth made sacred, abiding as an au
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e as close to flawless in all thing
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The week before he was due to arriv
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the business, and the only thing to
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to the medical center, fearing what
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outward manifestation of inner self
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world were more likely to believe t
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person might desire sweets, but wou
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—and all his life, Marshall was o
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to keep a diary, because he thought
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The whole object of VMI training wa
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without a single demerit. He develo
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may be,” Cicero wrote in Tusculan
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To get an appointment to the U.S. A
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loomer. He worked professionally, h
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combat commands. He suffered grievo
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As he later observed, “The truly
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not come, Marshall began to develop
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American Army in Europe, and, contr
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operation, he organized the movemen
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then a captain, decided it was time
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and everyone stood amazed by Marsha
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General Staff at its headquarters i
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seemed to bind us very close to one
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1st Division, were casualties, eith
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meet someone with an institutional
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it suits our needs. Meaning is foun
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to expect that the boxes themselves
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Life is not like navigating through
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time. Teachers treat all their stud
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practical tips on how to best do so
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covenant. It is an inheritance to b
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Marshall did, even in his own lifet
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work emails on our phones. But for
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the reigning belle of Lexington.
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devotion and gratitude to his wife
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Hospital, and on August 22 an opera
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a little office where Marshall took
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out at him from nearly every vantag
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other intimacies with men outside o
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oke off work in late afternoon to g
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to the larger population was define
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Sponville argues that politeness is
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disciplined people who find both in
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Marshall finally found respite from
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Army, too. The lesson plans he inhe
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ead them out to the class. Marshall
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The General In 1938, Franklin Roose
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president would presume to call Mar
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was Harry Hopkins, an FDR intimate
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Sentiment is for others. I cannot a
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and problems where I must do the di
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generals, like MacArthur and Patton
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unnatural genius, and the integrity
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with everybody. He held a soldier
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envied him this. I think that the b
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assignment and was widely accepted
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would go to London. FDR may also ha
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Civil War, but practically no one e
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made.” 30 In an interview with Fo
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importance. Then he asked Marshall
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Somewhat gracelessly, Roosevelt ask
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to express his own desires. But tha
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into the background and let Ike tak
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was a simple ceremony at the Pentag
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The phone call had been President T
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ut its official name, the European
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want. Some people seem to have been
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Nonetheless, he wrote to his wife,
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when I know that with my own joys I
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Sarah, my love for you is deathless
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eath escapes me on the battlefield
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formed by the moral traditions of c
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good fortune. This understanding st
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of granting favors but ashamed to r
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can only really be expressed in pub
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public benefit on a grand scale. He
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In 1958, Marshall checked in to Wal
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the earth seemed to respond to the
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eightieth birthday. General Tom Han
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ody lay in state at the Bethlehem C
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CHAPTER 6 DIGNITY The most prominen
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Methodist Episcopal church, but the
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Douglass. The family lived lives of
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Jervis Anderson wrote, “was, very
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that would last. In the final decad
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walk erect. You almost never saw hi
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women threw themselves at him durin
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say to him, ‘Chief? You kidding m
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kind. When some donors tried to rai
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that later surrounded him. Randolph
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Randolph’s life were: How do you
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people. They were led by a man, Mos
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opinions in order to achieve a larg
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he answered, ‘Bayard, we must wit
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College, where he read Karl Marx vo
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violating antisedition legislation,
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waitresses, and other disaffected g
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eaten back by the company. Randolph
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got to thinking what he had said, y
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any employee who voted to strike. B
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not for myself but for 12,000 porte
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a city job paying $7,000 a year, bu
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increase the company’s total pay
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lacks. On January 15, 1941, Randolp
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House. “Hello, Phil,” the presi
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want to talk with you about is the
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yours. Questions like this can’t
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discrimination in the defense indus
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around him could threaten organizat
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helped form the League of Non-Viole
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enunciation of the sort Randolph ha
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no role in Rustin’s life. Rustin
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that when it came to matters of the
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school’s oratory prize. By senior
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induce too much emotional turmoil
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for Rustin. It provided him with bo
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Throughout his late twenties, Rusti
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ecome an American Gandhi.” 20 In
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lock. Sometimes his agitation got h
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as a “notorious offender,” in t
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eliefs. On October 24, 1944, he fel
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him in bed with somebody else was n
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circles nationwide. Some of his sup
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and—in a sense— moral superiori
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thy loving kindness— wash me thor
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order to reach “the discipline, t
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stopped progress…. I have misused
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my willingness to go into the non-v
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cover, so that he could continue hi
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Men must see the goodness that pote
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offer, but he regarded it as a sign
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a barricade against lust and promis
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him. When A. Philip Randolph called
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apartment. Then, in 1953, while on
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Some people try to recover from sca
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King, introduced King to labor lead
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demands on a certain tactical matte
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one who had stuck by him most stead
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ights organizations such as the Urb
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movements. The first was northern a
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nature. As education levels increas
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iblical prophetic tradition. Its le
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Evil, King declared, is “rampant
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practice idolatry. They worship man
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themselves could not rely on their
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from pain and suffering, but it exp
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Instead, change comes through relen
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work against them as they were expo
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danger of being corrupted by their
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choices as they got closer to power
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keeping one’s arms curled around
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corrupted by their own righteousnes
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of modern man, against moral compla
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Niebuhr wrote in the middle of the
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achieve good ends. But if you adopt
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administration to prepare civil rig
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outmaneuvered. Rustin oversaw every
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inadvertently became one of the mos
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tightly controlled aggression. The
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continue the struggle: “I pledge
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apartheid in South Africa, bucking
Page 1167 and 1168:
looking for a person who was compat
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extremely dignified in their bearin
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CHAPTER 7 LOVE “A human life, I t
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Warwickshire, in the middle of Engl
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knowledge, unlettered wisdom, a loy
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infuriating mix of attention-seekin
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older, got a pony, and lost interes
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mother’s health, was called back
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“fed from within,” soared after
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time when society was in great reli
Page 1187 and 1188:
services and emphasizing individual
Page 1189 and 1190:
adopted a severe and puritanical mo
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all. It was she who started putting
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would that I could claim / The priv
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all my actions proceed.” 6 At som
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widely in the sciences, including J
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twenty-one. Hennell parsed through
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condition: “nonimpartitive.” Sh
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intellectual, unconventional thinke
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immediately recognized her as a kin
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that glorious crusade that is seeki
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earthy passion that she had trouble
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choosing to dishonor her family and
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predictions had no effect on her. H
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a Christian. She said she regarded
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shall go with deep gratitude for al
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concluded with a declaration of lov
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conscience, an amazing bravery in t
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of his daughter. He bent. Meanwhile
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little subtlety and management. Yes
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of social niceties and conventions.
Page 1229 and 1230:
were reconciled. Her admiration for
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impressive depth of knowledge and a
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some man, usually a married or othe
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series of men simply couldn’t get
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Men came. Mary Anne fell. Men went.
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morrow. Friends would invite Mary A
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would leave the house or she would.
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drama by showing a love letter from
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depth, and savoring the sense of he
Page 1247 and 1248:
had that kind of soul. Feeling and
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ugliness. “The lack of physical a
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would be very glad and cheerful and
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neediness, the iron was beginning t
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This agency moment can happen, for
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active, busy, and sleepless, but in
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One True Love The story of George E
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married to one woman in Liverpool a
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journeyman writer. The American fem
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wasn’t British. He had a genuine
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after that. Agnes had a long-runnin
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Mary Anne, for her part, was also l
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foam at the mouth if we are crossed
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the same circles. They both had a c
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often together) and also because El
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his messy private life. This probab
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transcendence, and defeat the sinfu
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even subjective human being (that i
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We don’t have access to the exact
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publish nothing. Her first husband
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ends of her room. She told him abou
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Akhmatova confessed her loneliness,
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a certain sort of communication. It
Page 1293 and 1294:
emotional judgments. They were spir
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Ignatieff, they barely touched. The
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prison. She was desolated but remai
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control of ourselves. In most cultu
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your energy levels, reorganizing yo
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utterly and hopelessly. Love is a s
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nakedness and the other rushes to m
Page 1307 and 1308:
person in love finds that the ultim
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person in love who receives a gift
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it was some mysterious quintessence
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against pain and vulnerability, to
Page 1315 and 1316:
ecstasy, jealousy, hurt, and so on
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assume the aura of holy days. The e
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she. Moreover, love doesn’t seek
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oth a higher and a lower plane than
Page 1323 and 1324:
an infinity beyond what can be know
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love (and I don’t mean merely whe
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exposes the soft fertile soil of Ad
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We all know people who were brittle
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urrowing into the vulnerability of
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logic of self-interest and uncondit
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This is the kind of love that Georg
Page 1337 and 1338:
Agnes was bearing children by anoth
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Lewes collapsed with dizziness, hea
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oken ties are what I neither desire
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All love is narrowing. It is the re
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each…. Love is, or should be, ind
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accurate perception of oneself. Mar
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must not disappear: The way is cert
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Will not be either sensible or chea
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would begin their life together abr
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welcomed by the leading writers and
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morals for others. One former acqua
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philosophically she believed in the
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silent unspeakable memories at the
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Eliot had always been a sensitive o
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gotten the big thing right. She had
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genius for description and characte
Page 1369 and 1370:
me, saying, ‘I think your pathos
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have felt nothing but selfless deli
Page 1373 and 1374:
and cried alternately and then rush
Page 1375 and 1376:
most fulsome praise. Lewes’s rule
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through him that I learned to know
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else so well; and that is a point t
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ill health and depression were mark
Page 1383 and 1384:
lessed hope, to be rejoiced in with
Page 1385 and 1386:
thought-through observation. The bo
Page 1387 and 1388:
from growing insight and sympathy.
Page 1389 and 1390:
concerned with the lofty and the he
Page 1391 and 1392:
are few prophets in the world; few
Page 1393 and 1394:
things are not so ill with you and
Page 1395 and 1396:
an attentive listener. Because she
Page 1397 and 1398:
talent isn’t as great as he think
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Her books were aimed to have a slow
Page 1401 and 1402:
they dwelt, but you are almost sure
Page 1403 and 1404:
might be or just how to go about it
Page 1405 and 1406:
which ties one down but gives one c
Page 1407 and 1408:
“must be accepted as they are: yo
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associated with Eliot’s work is
Page 1411 and 1412:
ever love her, as a friend, I don
Page 1413 and 1414:
way into other people’s minds and
Page 1415 and 1416:
his love has conferred on my life.
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Husband, this thirteenth year of th
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CHAPTER 8 ORDERED LOVE Augustine wa
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his life, caught in the tension bet
Page 1423 and 1424:
Augustine’s mother, Monica, has a
Page 1425 and 1426:
dismissing the unworthy with biting
Page 1427 and 1428:
When Augustine joined a philosophic
Page 1429 and 1430:
Augustine to receive the rites of b
Page 1431 and 1432:
state than when she had given birth
Page 1433 and 1434:
that were a constant feature of sch
Page 1435 and 1436:
world. A person in this frame of mi
Page 1437 and 1438:
Hellenistic frame of mind is afraid
Page 1439 and 1440:
men who refused themselves nothing,
Page 1441 and 1442:
teenage years, Augustine seems to h
Page 1443 and 1444:
cauldron of illicit loves leapt and
Page 1445 and 1446:
those painful bonds around me, and
Page 1447 and 1448:
addiction: I was bound not by an ir
Page 1449 and 1450:
divided against himself. Part of hi
Page 1451 and 1452:
een a studious and responsible youn
Page 1453 and 1454:
version of a successful young Ivy L
Page 1455 and 1456:
eternal conflict between all that i
Page 1457 and 1458:
you accepted its premises, Manichae
Page 1459 and 1460:
and ate only certain foods. They av
Page 1461 and 1462:
All in all, Augustine was living th
Page 1463 and 1464:
crafted. There was nothing in his l
Page 1465 and 1466:
superabundance of neat things to do
Page 1467 and 1468:
lose the ability to say a hundred n
Page 1469 and 1470:
to refer to sexual desire, but a br
Page 1471 and 1472:
taking a fifteen-year intimate rela
Page 1473 and 1474:
where we are told she vowed to rema
Page 1475 and 1476:
who did none of these things, was h
Page 1477 and 1478:
Augustine responded to this crisis
Page 1479 and 1480:
had observed before: “Who can map
Page 1481 and 1482:
silence, in my memory I can produce
Page 1483 and 1484:
and not within? And how then does i
Page 1485 and 1486:
the dessert tray or in the late-nig
Page 1487 and 1488:
Small and Petty Corruptions In the
Page 1489 and 1490:
compelled by no hunger, nor poverty
Page 1491 and 1492:
Augustine, the very small purposele
Page 1493 and 1494:
that the reality of sin can be seen
Page 1495 and 1496:
unattached to the right ends, commu
Page 1497 and 1498:
attitude here, you might say that h
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creation. Centuries later, C. S. Le
Page 1501 and 1502:
upward, the desire to live a life o
Page 1503 and 1504:
to life in obedience to the divine
Page 1505 and 1506:
thought, describes the mottled natu
Page 1507 and 1508:
were infected with pride. Having a
Page 1509 and 1510:
had always been the basis for his a
Page 1511 and 1512:
promotion or an advanced degree—b
Page 1513 and 1514:
captain of your own life, you will
Page 1515 and 1516:
effectively enough to be master of
Page 1517 and 1518:
more self-help books is proof that
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By another definition, pride is bui
Page 1521 and 1522:
people who have low selfesteem. The
Page 1523 and 1524:
with extreme anxiety. The proud per
Page 1525 and 1526:
Burned in my bosom with a kind of r
Page 1527 and 1528:
absentmindedly or intentionally tre
Page 1529 and 1530:
Elevation Augustine later wrote tha
Page 1531 and 1532:
etter way to live, if only he could
Page 1533 and 1534:
want to close his options and renou
Page 1535 and 1536:
heart was self against self only.
Page 1537 and 1538:
system lived for themselves. “Wha
Page 1539 and 1540:
eating on his insides, inflicting a
Page 1541 and 1542:
vision of a woman, Lady Continence.
Page 1543 and 1544:
Alypius didn’t follow but let Aug
Page 1545 and 1546:
a light flooding his heart and eras
Page 1547 and 1548:
more precious and purer way than sh
Page 1549 and 1550:
it seemed to involve that. It’s a
Page 1551 and 1552:
agency and action, it’s through s
Page 1553 and 1554:
days you provide evidence for the p
Page 1555 and 1556:
performance to us as if it were our
Page 1557 and 1558:
surrendered posture. That posture f
Page 1559 and 1560:
to look down on. Throughout his ear
Page 1561 and 1562:
there’s majesty; where there’s
Page 1563 and 1564:
of voice, not the peremptory comman
Page 1565 and 1566:
image and possesses a dignity that
Page 1567 and 1568:
in one more crucial way. In Augusti
Page 1569 and 1570:
impulse that you can win a victory
Page 1571 and 1572:
indifference, our weakness, our hos
Page 1573 and 1574:
name of which you do not know. Do n
Page 1575 and 1576:
estrangement. And nothing is demand
Page 1577 and 1578:
her all the time. You want to buy h
Page 1579 and 1580:
self, in this view, is not won by s
Page 1581 and 1582:
you reordered your loves, and as Au
Page 1583 and 1584:
eceive God’s grace. That gift aro
Page 1585 and 1586:
The Old Loves After his “conversi
Page 1587 and 1588:
not writing them as genial reminisc
Page 1589 and 1590:
transcendent love. Augustine’s pr
Page 1591 and 1592:
love, and a food, and a kind of emb
Page 1593 and 1594:
of self-understanding in context, a
Page 1595 and 1596:
feel of a group of scholars meditat
Page 1597 and 1598:
life take place in gardens), and he
Page 1599 and 1600:
ealm of pure spirit.” In describi
Page 1601 and 1602:
speaks, not through men or women, b
Page 1603 and 1604:
“glad hidden depths.” One imagi
Page 1605 and 1606:
— TO BE HEALED IS to be broken op
Page 1607 and 1608:
happens only as a byproduct of a st
Page 1609 and 1610:
nine days to carry her off. She tol
Page 1611 and 1612:
struggle it went very hard with me
Page 1613 and 1614:
handmaid, remembering how loving an
Page 1615 and 1616:
fighting and arguing. He achieved t
Page 1617 and 1618:
CHAPTER 9 SELF- EXAMINATION Samuel
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mother, being unacquainted with boo
Page 1621 and 1622:
an incision, without anesthesia, in
Page 1623 and 1624:
he could measure his step. When a t
Page 1625 and 1626:
others—he began groping his way t
Page 1627 and 1628:
complaints about the beatings. But
Page 1629 and 1630:
memory was tenacious. He could read
Page 1631 and 1632:
ambition, panting, as he would late
Page 1633 and 1634:
Johnson was recognized as a brillia
Page 1635 and 1636:
Johnson became a Christian at Oxfor
Page 1637 and 1638:
fill the heart. Christianity didn
Page 1639 and 1640:
aware of his inadequacy, fearing hi
Page 1641 and 1642:
developed a series of tics and gest
Page 1643 and 1644:
novelist Fanny Burney would write,
Page 1645 and 1646:
generate more ridicule than respect
Page 1647 and 1648:
for empathy and affection, but they
Page 1649 and 1650:
Street hack was hand-tomouth, chaot
Page 1651 and 1652:
1738, the House of Commons passed a
Page 1653 and 1654:
disavow them. They were taken as au
Page 1655 and 1656:
the rootedness of extended family l
Page 1657 and 1658:
he wants, when there are a thousand
Page 1659 and 1660:
solitude, but he was stuck in a lit
Page 1661 and 1662:
faculty that provides us with creat
Page 1663 and 1664:
us to make envious comparisons, ima
Page 1665 and 1666:
ideas of our own concoction rather
Page 1667 and 1668:
and he was a blockhead and I told o
Page 1669 and 1670:
copy boy would be standing at his e
Page 1671 and 1672:
torn. His life, as he put it, had b
Page 1673 and 1674:
Johnson also used his writing to tr
Page 1675 and 1676:
anging from Adam Smith to Joshua Re
Page 1677 and 1678:
iographer Jeffrey Meyers put it, wa
Page 1679 and 1680:
— JOHNSON PROCESSED THE WORLD in
Page 1681 and 1682:
Oliver Goldsmith once said, “for
Page 1683 and 1684:
man is tired of London he is tired
Page 1685 and 1686:
virtues and vices, with the vices w
Page 1687 and 1688:
anything you have to look at it fro
Page 1689 and 1690:
He did not believe knowledge was be
Page 1691 and 1692:
chambers. “The true state of ever
Page 1693 and 1694:
with unconcern on a man struggling
Page 1695 and 1696:
social conditions. He is, after all
Page 1697 and 1698:
notion that “He who can talk only
Page 1699 and 1700:
Emerson would later observe that
Page 1701 and 1702:
oaden the range of awareness and be
Page 1703 and 1704:
Johnson lived in a world of hack wr
Page 1705 and 1706:
moralist because of his deficiencie
Page 1707 and 1708:
Johnson, just look at the subjects
Page 1709 and 1710:
• A man of genius is but seldom r
Page 1711 and 1712:
lay open to themselves. • Read ov
Page 1713 and 1714:
are depressed, they often feel over
Page 1715 and 1716:
otherwise than it has been, a torme
Page 1717 and 1718:
combat to Johnson,” Fussell write
Page 1719 and 1720:
cured by another. But envy is such
Page 1721 and 1722:
since their desires are always leap
Page 1723 and 1724:
only were his worldly accomplishmen
Page 1725 and 1726:
limits of human knowledge, he was c
Page 1727 and 1728:
Johnson’s method of selfformation
Page 1729 and 1730:
understand himself and pursue virtu
Page 1731 and 1732:
sweetly each morning by the sound o
Page 1733 and 1734:
seclusion of his own tower library,
Page 1735 and 1736:
etired to a life of contemplation,
Page 1737 and 1738:
are, I know not how, double within
Page 1739 and 1740:
to work at our will, and does not o
Page 1741 and 1742:
essays to arrive at himself. He wou
Page 1743 and 1744:
and through selfexamination hoped t
Page 1745 and 1746:
easy, but he did not take his missi
Page 1747 and 1748:
himself in order to lead a coherent
Page 1749 and 1750:
espect. “Every one can play his p
Page 1751 and 1752:
to rationalize them away. Most of t
Page 1753 and 1754:
of others.” He notes that most of
Page 1755 and 1756:
know.” As Sarah Bakewell observes
Page 1757 and 1758:
in agony. Inside, though, the menta
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it.” 19 It’s almost as if Monta
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and relaxed,” he writes at one po
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himself a moderating slogan: “I h
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trouble refuting him (he doesn’t
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escape it; and in fleeing I dodge.
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ond he shared with his dear friend
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construct a perfect society, he con
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Johnson is all emotional extremes;
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zealotry. Johnson tried to lift peo
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his estate. Most important, Johnson
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he was slowly bringing order to his
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these copied onto slips of paper an
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disturb the quiet of others by cens
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But he had left, and she would neve
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He was in the Club, a group of men
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collection of indigents and the mar
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spent years trying to come up with
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him out by ghostwriting his law lec
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friend to hold a padlock for him th
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and self-deception. But it was fuel
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almost every anxiety and fear the h
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town called Uttoxeter. Johnson, fee
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Johnson never triumphed, but he int
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afraid I may be one of those who sh
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Later Johnson got some scissors and
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He became a universal thinker. The
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highest human felicity,” he wrote
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Johnson’s genius for epigram and
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which nothing has a tendency to fil
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sidelines in Super Bowl III. Both J
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“You’ll make a good truck drive
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construction gang, playing semipro
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crew cut above his rough face. If y
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he’d rip into his receivers for s
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the antithesis of all that. Footbal
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made himself the center of attentio
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against his immigrant family by bei
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He cultivated a personal brand that
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the perfect subject. Without a reti
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up culture. “I don’t like to da
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outshone the team. Cultural Change
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1960s. The conventional story goes
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who nonetheless led a people, and b
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moral stupidity, taking the world a
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moral: There are bugs in our souls
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omanticism. While moral realists pl
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early twentieth century America, yo
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need to distrust oneself even while
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and 1950s. It was the Greatest Gene
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ook that offered a more upbeat and
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attain.” 9 He struck a chord. His
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wildly popular book titled The Matu
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weeks. Then came humanistic psychol
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describe human nature, he continued
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posters on school walls everywhere
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1950s and 1960s confronted a differ
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those years, many social groups, no
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family in Washington, D.C. She atte
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conscious. “Had I said the right
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later, Katharine was elected presid
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Within: A Book of Self- Esteem. Dr.
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actualization and selfesteem gave m
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memoir is a masterwork, understated
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“the culture of authenticity.”
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this culture, “comes from recover
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personal feelings as a guide to wha
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I’ve got to do is believe.” Sta
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ecology that have inflated the Big
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today. We reach for the smartphone.
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oriented around their own needs. A
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they hope will impress and please t
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inferior. The Soul of Man Under Mer
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of emphasis on individual achieveme
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ealists saw the self as a wildernes
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in ways good and bad. But it also h
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your status and professional life p
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to be completely sure of yourself,
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animal. The shrewd animal has strea
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y a Fear of Missing Out. The shift
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which a cult of busyness develops a
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different career paths and differen
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Let me just describe one way the me
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average, according to UCLA surveys
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more per year per child on out-of-s
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their child studies hard, practices
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straightforward system of rules and
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communicate constantly. With only q
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certain way to be worthy of another
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decisions about their own interests
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This cultural, technological, and m
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changed us. In the first place, it
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words, students felt it was importa
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enough, there has been a steady dec
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But in the 1990s the distrusters ha
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going back decades. You can type in
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of the twentieth century. 26 Usage
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lives of American college students.
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position was that moral choices are
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individualist, since the ultimate a
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Adam I. The Wrong Life In 1886, Leo
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good-natured and sociable, though s
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adulthood, the less satisfactory it
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eally attended to them. He now real
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hole and there at the bottom was a
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must be to join a counterculture. T
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Each society creates its own moral
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of the moment and it shapes the peo
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a moral ecology based on the ideas
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together and recapitulate them here
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purpose, righteousness, and virtue.
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hedonistic one. 2. Proposition one
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shallow and vain. Furthermore, we o
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ecognize sin, to feel ashamed of si
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accurate assessment of your own nat
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us to our own weaknesses and mislea
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satisfied, the struggle against sin
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Contending with weakness often mean
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dispositions, desires, and habits t
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disorganized choices, then you are
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ecome constant and dependable. 8. T
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attachments to important things. In
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selfishness, pride, greed, and self
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feel in certain circumstances. We w
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space that others might fill. And g
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often means quieting the self. Only
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epistemological modesty. The world
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manners, moral sentiments, and prac
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wisdom is not knowledge. Wisdom eme
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just on being excellent at that, yo
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arrangements that are low and stead
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keep the boat moving steadily forwa
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person will become mature. Maturity
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person has moved from fragmentation
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Modes of Living The characters in t
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had a lighter and more relaxed atti
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many differences of temperament, te
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vulnerability, and undertook a life
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The good news of this book is that
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the selfishness, the selfdeceit, th
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eceive and offer care. He is vulner
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that gives dignity to her failing.
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admiration. There’s joy in freely
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Adam I and Adam II, when there is t
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life.
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS Anne C. Snyder was
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the sensitivity of her observations
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useful suggestions. Campbell Schneb
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made the first two days of every we
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publishing house. I’ve been fortu
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connector of people and ideas. She
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mentor. Kirsten Powers read crucial
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children, Joshua, Naomi, and Aaron,
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CHAPTER 1: THE SHIFT 1. Wilfred M.
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3. David Frum, How We Got Here: The
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Woman’s Search for Everything (Pe
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Fosdick, On Being a Real Person (Ha
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University online archives. http://
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8. Von Drehle, Triangle, 146. 9. Pe
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Should Do and Who We Should Be (Eer
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Colleges,” Household Ledger, 1905
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27. Frances Perkins, “My Recollec
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66. 35. Martin, Madam Secretary, 23
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Knew, 156. 45. Downey, Woman Behind
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American History (University of Chi
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2012), 7. 3. Smith, Eisenhower in W
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Legal Profession (Harvard Universit
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33. 15. State of the Union message,
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21. Eisenhower, At Ease, 155. 22. E
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Kansas, 1984), 4. 28. Eisenhower, A
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38. Quoted in Steven J. Rubenzer an
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CHAPTER 4: STRUGGLE 1. Dorothy Day,
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16. 8. Day, Long Loneliness, 87. 9.
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79. 16. Elie, Life You Save, 38. 17
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24. Coles, Radical Devotion, 53. 25
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Diaries of Dorothy Day (Marquette U
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41. Forest, All Is Grace, 178. 42.
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CHAPTER 5: SELF-MASTERY 1. Forrest
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On Education: The Future in Educati
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for Peace: General George C. Marsha
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18. Mosley, Hero for Our Times, 64.
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25. Cray, General of the Army, 278.
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33. John S. D. Eisenhower, General
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39. Faulkner, Case for Greatness, 4
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CHAPTER 6: DIGNITY 1. Cynthia Taylo
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6. Anderson, Biographical Portrait,
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from the Rails: Pullman Porters and
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Rustin (Simon and Schuster, 2003),
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23. D’Emilio, Lost Prophet, 172.
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32. Chappell, Stone of Hope, 55. 33
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Portrait, 332.
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3. Hughes, Last Victorian, 18. 4. F
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Biography (Oxford University Press,
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II, Scene I. 18. Karl, Voice of a C
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CHAPTER 8: ORDERED LOVE 1. Peter Br
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Hippo, 13. 8. Garry Wills, Saint Au
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14. Niebuhr, Nature and Destiny of
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(University of Chicago Press, 2008)
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CHAPTER 9: SELF- EXAMINATION 1. Jef
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7. Bate, Samuel Johnson, 211. 8. Me
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15. Fussell, Johnson and the Life o
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2010), 21. 20. Bakewell, How to Liv
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the American Spirit (Madison Books,
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Middlemarch (Penguin, 2003), 211. 9
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The Carl Rogers Reader (Houghton Mi
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Survey, “Sixty-five Per Cent of C
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University of California, Los Angel
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Analysis” (University of Michigan
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27. Christian Smith, Kari Christoff
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PERMISSION CREDITS GRATEFUL ACKNOWL
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© 1952 by Harper & Row Publishers,
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DAVE JOLLY: Email from Dave Jolly t
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IMPRINT AND DIVISION OF PENGUIN RAN
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Peace by Jean Edward Smith, copyrig
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By DAVID BROOKS On Paradise Drive:
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