ExodusMagFeb2017

E-WOMAN | Woman of Strength
you are a bread winner continue being the bread winner, everything is well known by God. What
we don’t realise is that God can use any of us in a marriage, so we always have to be sensitive.
Sooner or later your husband will realise that you have been good to him and the marriage is
where it is because of you. The blessing can come through either.
As women we are empowered. God has placed in us power to shape and direct our marriages
and take them to where we want them to be through prayer. Avoid saying negative things to
your husband no matter what the circumstances. Words are powerful.
You are a mentor to younger women. What advice can you give to women to strive to be the
best versions of themselves in both self and wife areas?
As a lady, the most important thing you should value is yourself. Just be who you are. Don’t try
and wrestle yourself with what you have, lacking or haven’t done. We are talking about even
your past, background or upbringing. Blaming yourself for what could have happened. Just be
who you are. Make the best of what God has given you. Aim for what God wants you to be.
Make the best of the situation God has put you in. He has a reason. Don’t regret as that will pull
down your condence, instead be the best of the current you. Always thank God for the
marriage you are in. Doing that will make you avoid the unexpected pieces of advice which will
lead you to go astray from what God has planned for you. People can tell you what they think
you want to hear.
It’s usually said that for a man and woman to be in marriage, the man has to be at least 3 years
older. You and your husband are the same age. What makes it easy for you to show him respect
and obedience as your husband and the leader of your household?
This is where spiritual maturity comes in. You have to exercise a lot of spiritual maturity and
unfortunately with this generation the stigma is not only about age. It is also about the levels in
their professions; the amount of money they earn etc. If the wife makes more money than the
husband, the belief is that the woman can boast saying that ‘I am the breadwinner’ because she
is bringing in more money and is entitled to more say.
It brings a lot of problems into marriage. You have to understand what God says about
marriage. When He ordained marriage He put principles which have to be adhered to if the
marriage is going to work. Money, age and profession don’t matter, even the stigma of a wife
giving birth to only girl or boy children, or no children at all doesn’t matter, what matters is what
God says about marriage. The importance of making sure that marriage works is to understand
what God says and not rely on our own understanding.
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