L&R May 2017 Magazine1

By way of introduction to this story you should know that there is in fact a
dynamic above and beyond the traditional marriage whether that be same
sex or heterosexual (referred to as vanilla). it is not a new phenomena either,
being in my view a returning to the natural order of things. you should know
too that this isn't about the well known Hollywood porn industry portrayal of
whips and chains, gimp masks and straps so many people naturally assume
is at the core of the lifestyle.. Oh and if I did like that? what business would it
be of anyone outside the bedroom?
Oh and please be clear I do not attempt to convert within these writings so
should you be reading them please at least offer those within the pages the
respect and courtesy of not being judged. My only other stipulations are as
follows:
1) Have an open mind.
2) Please don't try this at home.
I am a Dominant. A Dom holds the keys to his Submissives mind body and
soul. My Submissive gave me that power freely and with an open mind and
more importantly with full consent born out of a knowledge of all that it
entailed. Consent is the single most important factor here and it is wise for
everyone to remember that. It must be given and is never to be taken for
granted.
This joining is called a collaring. In most cases it involves the physical placing
of a collar around the neck of the submissive in a deeply personal ritual that
symbolises much much more than a traditional swapping of rings typical of
Vanilla marriages. At this point the submissive becomes the property of the
Dominant who placed the collar and yes that means exactly what it says.
Their life is no longer their own. Yet there is a freedom within this captivity
found in no other type of dynamic.
I can sense a few horrified glances at this so let me also say that before the
collaring the terms or ownership are always negotiated and consent is sought
for all aspects of this control. Oh and if you are considering it as a lifestyle
choice? Make sure you don't rush things at this stage.
What I will say is this. In my view if you seek a relationship that has a high
chance of standing the test of time, has resolution built into the framework to
handle all its problems, is built of 100% trust and never has issues of
infidelity, boredom or suspicion then the D/s is the only place you are
guaranteed to find it. I will warn you though it's not easy and requires a great
deal of commitment.
This is not to say that mistakes are not made. Gods I have made tons of
them. I am not perfect by and means and I do not always make the right
choices. This is about the type of relationship you want and the will to make it
work.