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Never t ell a fem ale colleague ?You look nice,? if you w ouldn?t say it t o
a m ale colleague.
?There?s heightened sensitivity to propriety when it comes to gender relationships,? said
Dattner. ?There could be subjective aspect to that. It depends on context. If a male boss
tells a female subordinate that she looks good? if he does it in ways that can seem
inappropriate, that could be a challenge. So the same statement uttered by different
people or the same people in different context or different people in the same context
can be taken very differently. But you just have to be careful,? said Dattner.
Greenberg agreed that you?re better off not commenting on appearance and weight of
colleagues. ?You shouldn?t say anything to a woman that you wouldn?t say to a man,?
said Greenberg.
When you tell a colleague, ?You look nice today,?or ?Your haircut looks nice,?you have to
consider how it might be taken. Does that mean their old haircut looked terrible? Does
that mean they normally don?t look nice every day? What was intentioned to be an
innocent compliment can get out of hand quickly.
Here?s how to get better paying clients this year. Never t ell your boss, ?It ?s not
m y fault .?
When your boss comes to you with a concern they have about your work, not taking
responsibility is a big no-no, said Greenberg. ?When you?re blaming other people, being
hostile, defensive, and not taking responsibility, it?s like you?re attacking other people on
your team,? said Greenberg. This makes you look like you are a whiner, you blame
others for any performance issues or problems and you don?t take constructive
feedback. These are all qualities your boss will remember when it?s time to add you to
bigger team projects or time for a promotion. Never act like you?re in a realit y
TV show w hen you disagree w it h colleagues.
It can be entertaining (and cringe-inducing) to watch chefs and restaurateurs yell at
subordinates or real estate agents scream at colleagues on reality TV or call to mind
those days of yesteryear when contestants undercut one another on ?The Apprentice
?Just the fact that people turn on TV watch real estate shows with people arguing with
each other and kind of attacking each other because that makes TV more compelling.