Healthy RGV Issue 114
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HEALTHY LIFESTYLE · MAY 2018<br />
Just as you should reach out to others you've hurt and tell them you're<br />
sorry, you need to extend forgiveness to those who reach out to you.<br />
It's funny because this can be equally if not more challenging sometimes<br />
because we tend to want to hold on to our anger and our bitterness.<br />
Except, guess<br />
who it's hurting?<br />
Yep, you. Refusing to forgive someone is like<br />
drinking poison and expecting the other person<br />
to suffer - it's just not going to happen. Instead,<br />
all it does is fester inside of you where it leads<br />
not only to emotional fatigue but to physical<br />
ailments as well.<br />
This is a BIG one. And the good news is, it<br />
involves no one else but me, myself and I.<br />
Well... actually, you, yourself and... you. The<br />
slightly bad news is that this one requires work.<br />
But, it is SO worth it in the end!<br />
We all have limiting beliefs - things we believe<br />
about ourselves that prevent us from going<br />
after dreams, taking chances or achieving<br />
goals. And 9 times out of 10, these beliefs are<br />
100% false. Unfortunately, what begins as<br />
an occasional doubtful thought becomes an<br />
obsessive, repetitive thought until it becomes<br />
so familiar that it becomes a full-blown belief.<br />
You may start out just doubting that you can be<br />
a public speaker... but the more you tell yourself<br />
that you can't, the more you believe yourself.<br />
Until eventually, you are absolutely positive that<br />
you can not and should not be a public speaker,<br />
and the thought of it absolutely terrifies<br />
you. This might not be too big of a<br />
problem... until you get that<br />
dream job that you've<br />
always wanted<br />
and you<br />
find<br />
Don't worry if it takes a little while to undo<br />
them. It did take awhile for those thoughts to<br />
dig themselves into your brain, so it will take<br />
some time for them to get out of there too.<br />
But the more consistently and actively you<br />
"retrain your brain," the easier it will become.<br />
Love Yourself.png<br />
Last, but definitely not least, it's time to start<br />
loving yourself. For who you are now. Not<br />
later, when you've lost the weight... not once<br />
you get your hair cut... not once you buy a new<br />
wardrobe or get a better job... NOW.<br />
If ever there was something that you don't<br />
want to put off until later, it's this. The way you<br />
feel about yourself affects every single part<br />
of your life. It affects how you work, how you<br />
relate to other people in friendships and love<br />
relationships and most importantly, it affects<br />
how you speak to yourself every day.<br />
Longing for a version of yourself that you used<br />
to be is pointless. Time has passed, you have<br />
changed, and that is okay. In fact, it's more<br />
than okay. Because I'm guessing if you really<br />
took a moment to think about it, you'd realize<br />
that you've gained a lot of wisdom and life<br />
experience since back "then." So,<br />
it's time to stop being stuck<br />
in the past.<br />
It's time to stop holding on<br />
to past grudges and extend<br />
forgiveness. Remember,<br />
forgiving someone does<br />
NOT mean that you are okay<br />
with what they did or that it<br />
wasn't wrong. What it does<br />
do, however, is release you<br />
from the imaginary prison<br />
you've had yourself trapped<br />
inside (I'm guessing, for far<br />
too long).<br />
(Note: I would hope that this is obvious, but again,<br />
please do not reach out to someone that is dangerous<br />
in order to forgive them. Although it is indeed<br />
healthier for you to forgive them and move on, you<br />
can do so without actually speaking to them or seeing<br />
them. Again, you can write a letter to them - that you<br />
don't send - or have an imaginary conversation with<br />
them out loud. The point is to get all those pentup<br />
emotions out of you, so you can truly move on.<br />
Without putting yourself in harm's way.)<br />
out<br />
that one<br />
of your tasks<br />
will be to give weekly<br />
presentations to the rest of the<br />
staff. Ugh.<br />
This is only one example of thousands of<br />
possibilities - limiting beliefs can be about<br />
anything from our abilities and talents to our<br />
physical appearance or what others think of us.<br />
But, I'm guessing you probably already have an<br />
idea of what yours are and even if you don't - it<br />
probably won't take you long to figure them<br />
out.<br />
So, once you know what those limiting beliefs<br />
are (dig deep!), you can start letting go of them<br />
by challenging them when they pop into your<br />
head instead of just mindlessly agreeing with<br />
them. Speak truth over yourself, fight them off<br />
with positive affirmations and if you're feeling<br />
really brave, prove those limiting beliefs wrong<br />
by going out and doing what they said you<br />
couldn't do!<br />
But, it's important<br />
not to get too caught up with<br />
who you want to be in the future either.<br />
Although it is good to have goals and things to<br />
work toward, make sure that you're not basing<br />
your worth or your self-value on achieving<br />
those things.<br />
Love yourself for who you are right now - flaws<br />
and all. You are a work in progress. A perfectly<br />
imperfect human being.<br />
Just the way you are.<br />
By Jenn Baxter<br />
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