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PW OPINION PW NEWS PW LIFE PW ARTS Bulletin Board By Carl Kozlowski FRIGHTFUL FAMILY FUN Old Pasadena hosts Halloween, Day of the Dead events The Old Pasadena Management District (OPMD) is hosting a series of events for families to celebrate Halloween and the Day of the Dead. From 10 a.m. to noon Saturday, Oct. 27, One Colorado hosts its annual Pumpkin Decorating Extravaganza in which kids can get busy with glitter glue, pipe cleaners and washable markers to decorate their own pumpkin to take home. From 5 to 8 p.m. Wednesday — Halloween night — costumed ghosts and ghoulies are invited to trick or treat store-to-store in Old Pasadena. Look for the Ambassador Guides in the yellow shirts and friendly costumed characters who will be handing out treats, greeting visitors and posing for photos. All activities are free and open to all. Also on Halloween evening, One Colorado offers free “haunted photos” in the courtyard for costumed kids and families. Families are asked to arrive early because the photos will end at 8 p.m. and are first-come, first-served. One Colorado will also host a free screening of the animated film “Coraline” at 7 p.m. From Nov. 2 to 4, Old Pasadena will host a Day of the Dead Weekend, featuring a self-guided tour of 20 altars honoring the dead at stores throughout the district. There will also be three community altars at which anyone can leave memorial items to honor their own ancestors, at the following locations: * Big Bang Theory Way, 109 E. Union Street. This location will be staged only during the Salsa on the Alley event from 6 to 8:30 p.m. Friday, Nov. 2. * Indiana Colony, 59 E. Colorado Blvd. * CTRL Collective, 45 S. Arroyo Parkway. For more information on all the events, call OPMD at (626) 356-9725 or visit oldpasadena. org/halloween. GREAT GIFTS Holiday gift season begins Friday through Sunday at Contemporary Crafts Market Those seeking hand-crafted, American-made holiday gifts can shop to their heart’s content Friday through Sunday at the Contemporary Crafts Market, located at the Pasadena Convention Center, 300 E. Green St., Pasadena. The market will feature hand-crafted furnishings, ceramics, jewelry, textiles, blown glass, hand-forged metalwork, wood, fiber arts, basketry and more. The event also provides the opportunity to meet acclaimed artisans and learn the human stories behind everything they see. “We are a celebration of fine craft. The artisans take center stage with their hand-crafted works of wearable, functional and decorative art,” says Roy Helms, CEO/founder of the Contemporary Crafts Market. “Our three-day public, juried show is an oasis from the ordinary. Nothing is mass produced. Everything is unique, one-of-a-kind and available for purchase.” The market will be open from 10 am to 6 pm Friday and Saturday, and from 10 am to 5 pm Sunday. Admission is $8 at the door. Visit craftsource.net. SWEET SCARES South Pasadena-based Sugarmynt Gallery hosts tribute exhibit to classic horror film ‘Halloween’ Forty years ago, the tree-lined suburban streets of South Pasadena formed the locations for the independent horror film “Halloween.” It also inspired 10 follow-up films under the “Halloween” brand name, including a new sequel this past weekend that broke box office records by making nearly $80 million in just three days. Those wishing to get a spooky, fun and informative look at how the series began can stop by the South Pasadena art gallery Sugarmynt now through Oct. 31 to see the “Haddonfield 4” exhibit. Named after the fictional Illinois town that South Pasadena filled in for, it features a fascinating mix of framed behind-the-scenes photographs by the official set photographer Kim Gottlieb Walker and more than 30 artworks inspired by the film and its vicious killer, Michael Myers. Best of all, the gallery is located right next door to the actual building used as Michael Myers’ house in “Halloween,” and a list of other key locations (all in walking distance) is also offered at the gallery. “Haddonfield 4” runs through Oct. 31 at Sugarmynt Gallery, 810 Meridian Ave., South Pasadena. Admission is $10 to see the exhibit, and $15 on Halloween. Call (626) 222-7257 or visitsugarmynt.com. n 14 PASADENA WEEKLY | <strong>10.25.18</strong>
PW OPINION PW NEWS PW LIFE PW ARTS •ADVICE• BY PATTI CARMALT-VENER HARD TO GET ADULT ATTACHMENT THEORY MAY EXPLAIN OBSESSION WITH DISTANT BOYFRIEND Dear Patti, I’ve been dating Trevor for seven months and the relationship is very good in many ways. He’s intelligent, handsome, interesting, musical, athletic, artistic and academic. Due to all his pursuits, he has lots of fascinating friends. Unfortunately, he seems to want to spend more time with all his various communities than he does with me. I’m the one who always wants more time together and he wants less. He says it’s not true, but it appears he’s pulling away more and more. I’m afraid I’ll never find someone I could feel this same way about. The more he distances himself, the more anxious and insecure I get and keep reaching out to him. I keep asking if I’ve done something to make him angry, but he assures me everything is fine and that he’s just very busy. He keeps breaking off dates. When he’s with me, he seems aloof. I worry I can never be interesting enough. How can I ever compete with his friends? I talk to his best friend’s girlfriend and she’s positive Trevor isn’t seeing anyone else. She also believes he loves me but commonly acts distant with a girl after he’s dated her for a while. He’s all I think about and the only person I want to be with. I am afraid my neediness will push him away even further. My friends say I should play” hard to get,” but I’ve never been the type to play games. — Marina Dear Marina, I’d like you to consider a psychological theory which might be relevant to your situation. Adult attachment theory describes three basic personality types relative to behavior in romantic relationships: (1) secure attachment style, (2) avoidant attachment style and (3) anxious or insecure attachment style. Those in the secure group normally feel safe and happy when becoming close or intimate with another. Avoidant persons are prone to distancing themselves from intimate partners due to a fear of being trapped, smothered and losing their independence. Anxious individuals constantly desire closeness, commitment and are preoccupied with their romantic partner whom they often fear losing. There’s a possibility Trevor might lean toward the avoidant attachment style since it appears he’s becoming more aloof as your relationship deepens. Further, his friend’s girlfriend reports that it’s been his pattern to “commonly act distant with a girl after he’s dated her for a while.” What’s the likelihood you lean toward the anxious/insecure attachment style? While you valiantly try to keep your worries in control and allow the relationship with Trevor room to grow by keeping these feelings to yourself, it appears you tend to be preoccupied with your relationship and the fear of him leaving or no longer loving you. If you find there might be some truth to this, explore exactly what triggers your dayto-day insecurities. What are your typical thoughts, emotions and reactions? Reviewing your own personal process can give you a different perspective. It’s also helpful to identify a few people in your life that you see as secure and confident in how they handle intimate relationships. It can be helpful to use them as role models. Becoming secure is an ongoing process and, of course, different people at different times in their lives have varying needs to be close and emotionally attached to another. It’s important, though, to understand what happens when their different needs clash with one another; i.e., one partner wants intimacy and the other feels uncomfortable with it. It can then be difficult to move toward a more stable relationship because there’s a repeated pattern where each person’s insecurities keep becoming exacerbated. If you and Trevor can start to understand your own attachment insecurities, you both might be able to view your relationship differently as well as take responsibility for how you’re each negatively contributing to the relationship. Is Trevor ignoring your genuine needs and — by dismissing them — triggering more neediness/dependency? Are you distancing Trevor by becoming more demanding for contact? I recommend further exploration by reading and possibly attending a few psychotherapy sessions with a professional schooled in these attachment principles. An excellent book to help you get started is “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. Take heart, as it’s possible to become more secure as you continue with your emotional growth. n Patti Carmalt-Vener, a faculty member with the Southern California Society for Intensive Short Term Psychotherapy, is a psychotherapist in private practice with offices in Pasadena, Santa Monica and Canoga Park. Contact her at (626) 584-8582 or email pcarmalt@aol.com. Visit her website, patticarmalt-vener.com. <strong>10.25.18</strong> | PASADENA WEEKLY 15
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