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Issue 2<br />

Volume 1<br />

Dressing to<br />

suit your<br />

body shape.<br />

Not your average<br />

turban guy<br />

SOCIETAL<br />

PRESSURES ON<br />

WOMEN 40+<br />

AND CHILDLESS<br />

Dubai's leading<br />

plastic surgeon<br />

talks bums, botox <strong>and</strong><br />

beauty secrets<br />

Manscaping<br />

L<strong>and</strong>scaping for men


S H O P<br />

www.out<strong>and</strong>aboutstyle.com<br />

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Quote<br />

of<br />

M onth<br />

the<br />

If you believe it will work out,<br />

you’ll see opportunities.<br />

If you believe it won’t,<br />

you will see obstacles<br />

~ Wayne Dyer<br />

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E D I T O R ’ S M E S S A G E<br />

this issue, we talk PLASTIC SURGERY.<br />

In Yep, I said it - plastic surgery. We go Behind<br />

the Br<strong>and</strong> with one of the UAE’s leading plastic<br />

surgeons to discuss “botox, bums <strong>and</strong> beauty<br />

secrets.” We get the scoop on the most popular<br />

procedures as well as the latest trends. I might<br />

even throw in a secret or two (laugh) over there!<br />

Another one of our core discussions this month<br />

is around societal pressures on women 40+ <strong>and</strong><br />

childless. There are so many stigmas around my<br />

sisters that we wanted to take the opportunity<br />

to address this issue in the best possible way.<br />

Please do give us your feedback on how well we<br />

managed to do this.<br />

I am beyond<br />

chuffed at your response to<br />

the first issue. Thank you,<br />

thank, thank you. Thank you<br />

for every personal message<br />

of congratulations that was<br />

sent, thank you for every click<br />

on the site, thank for taking<br />

the time to read the issue <strong>and</strong><br />

thank you for sharing. The<br />

most resounding messages<br />

I took from it all are the very<br />

same reasons I decided to<br />

create this magazine, hearing<br />

“it sounds very real to me” <strong>and</strong><br />

“I can totally relate” makes me<br />

feel like I am on the right path<br />

here. Watch this space, it will<br />

be getting even more real!<br />

Our style feature this month is taking Punjabi<br />

swag to a new level. In his words, he’s “not your<br />

ordinary turban guy.”<br />

Inside you’ll also find tips on male grooming,<br />

or what we like to call “manscaping”, Makeup<br />

Madness, male <strong>and</strong> female wardrobes musthaves,<br />

dressing to suit your body shape, how to<br />

turn your what-ifs into what-nows, plant-based<br />

eating, fitness features including Yummy Mommy<br />

<strong>and</strong> tips for sticking to your fitness goal, For the<br />

Culture, Travel with Leela – our travel blogger<br />

<strong>and</strong> guru <strong>and</strong> of course, everyone’s favourite, The<br />

Cam - though some of you just won’t admit it -<br />

I see you.<br />

Again, we want our magazine to be entertaining,<br />

informative <strong>and</strong> engaging, but above all, useful.<br />

I hope you will enjoy this issue. We would love<br />

to know if there are any topics you’d like to<br />

see covered in the future. Please also send us<br />

your feedback <strong>and</strong> remember to share on your<br />

social media channels by using the hashtag<br />

#out<strong>and</strong>aboutstylemag.<br />

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C O N<br />

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T S<br />

SECTION<br />

SECTION<br />

SECTION<br />

SECTION<br />

SECTION<br />

SECTION<br />

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2<br />

3<br />

4<br />

5<br />

6<br />

BEAUTY<br />

1 Jasmit “Selfie Singh” - “Not your average turban guy” 05<br />

2 Makeup Madness with Livia 09<br />

BEHIND THE BRAND<br />

1 Behind the Br<strong>and</strong> with Dr Le<strong>and</strong>ro Junqueira 12<br />

FASHION<br />

1 “Manscaping”- L<strong>and</strong>scaping for Men 17<br />

2 Wardrobe essentials for men <strong>and</strong> women 20<br />

3 Dressing to suit your body shape 26<br />

4 The Cam:<br />

• Who wore what to brunch 31<br />

• Watch Cam 32<br />

• C<strong>and</strong>y Cam 33<br />

• Nailed It 34<br />

• Beard Gang Cam 35<br />

LIFE<strong>STYLE</strong><br />

1 Societal pressures on women aged 40+ <strong>and</strong> childless 37<br />

2 How to change your what-ifs to what-nows 41<br />

3 Yummy Mommy 44<br />

4 Plant-based eating 48<br />

5 How to stick to your fitness goals 52<br />

TRAVEL<br />

1 Travel with Leela 53<br />

FOR THE CULTURE<br />

1 The identification of the modern man 55<br />

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5<br />

JASMIT SINGH


NOT YOUR<br />

AVERAGE<br />

TURBAN GUY<br />

TELL US A BIT ABOUT YOURSELF:<br />

Name:<br />

I am a Sikh, born <strong>and</strong> brought up in the Middle East. I earned a B.A. Accounting <strong>and</strong><br />

Finance degree from Heriot-Watt University (Dubai). I’m currently chasing my passion<br />

as a turbaned fashion model. I’m also the founder of Fit Bhangra Abu Dhabi where<br />

I train fitness dance routines. I also work in the events industry, often producing <strong>and</strong><br />

hosting advertising <strong>and</strong> br<strong>and</strong>ing events.<br />

HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONAL <strong>STYLE</strong>?<br />

1. In your cultural dress?<br />

My personal style in my cultural form would be the most popular traditional<br />

wear of Punjab which is Kurta <strong>and</strong> Pyjama. Kurta is a long shirt with slashes on<br />

both sides along with long sleeves. Pyjamas are loose baggy pants tied with a<br />

drawstring. I wear my turban in various colours to match my pocket square <strong>and</strong><br />

jutti. The traditional dress of my culture includes the traditional shoes called<br />

jutti. It is a type of h<strong>and</strong>crafted footwear typically associated with Punjabis. The<br />

juttis have no left-foot or right-foot distinction <strong>and</strong> take the shape of the feet<br />

over a period of time.<br />

2. <strong>Out</strong>side cultural dress?<br />

My personal style is smart casuals AND street style. Also, I am very fond of<br />

adding special elements to my outfits like lapel pins, matching pocket squares,<br />

suspenders, etc.<br />

WHICH TWO ACCESSORIES ARE YOUR MUST-HAVES?<br />

I am very fascinated by fashion accessories, but the two<br />

must-have accessories for me are:<br />

1 The Kara (a bangle) which is a symbol of unbreakable<br />

attachment <strong>and</strong> commitment to God<br />

2 A watch<br />

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ARE YOU INTO LABELS? IF SO, WHAT IS<br />

YOUR BRAND OF CHOICE?<br />

Yes. I am into labels<br />

but not loyal towards<br />

any singular br<strong>and</strong>. I<br />

particularly like:<br />

Zara<br />

Adidas Originals<br />

Pull <strong>and</strong> Bear<br />

Under Armor<br />

Gucci<br />

Bachelors<br />

Hermes<br />

Emporio<br />

Armani<br />

Under Armor<br />

Calvin Klein<br />

GROOMING SEEMS TO BE A BIG PART OF<br />

YOUR ROUTINE. SHARE 3 IMPORTANT<br />

STEPS IN THE GROOMING PROCESS<br />

Well, there are more than 3 steps that I follow to<br />

stay groomed, from staying fit by working out to<br />

following hygienic methods.<br />

Three important steps in my daily grooming<br />

process would be:<br />

1- Shower, spraying on deodorant followed by a<br />

small amount of cologne<br />

2- Tying my turban with perfection <strong>and</strong> making<br />

sure it looks fresh <strong>and</strong> neat<br />

3- Brushing <strong>and</strong> grooming my beard<br />

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT FASHION IN<br />

DUBAI?<br />

Dubai has no doubt stepped up its fashion game<br />

by having fashion-forward initiatives to promote<br />

local talent in the region. The Arab Fashion Week<br />

was developed to showcase international talent by<br />

bringing designers from Europe <strong>and</strong> beyond. With<br />

tourism numbers thriving, Dubai’s fashion industry<br />

is in a growth period. And with its big ideas of<br />

becoming a globally recognised fashion city,<br />

there’s no reason why Dubai can’t crack that fashion<br />

barrier <strong>and</strong> be listed with the likes of London, Paris<br />

<strong>and</strong> New York as a key fashion city in the future.<br />

IT IS NOT ALWAYS EASY TO “LOOK<br />

DIFFERENT” IN TODAY’S SOCIETY. HOW<br />

DO YOU INSPIRE SOMEONE WHO HAS NOT<br />

REACHED YOUR LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE?<br />

For most of my life growing up, the fear of what<br />

other people thought of me, being raised in<br />

a town where people like me (Sikh) were not<br />

common, had kept me trapped. I feared going<br />

out. At my lowest point, even walking down<br />

the street became a struggle because my mind<br />

would run wild with images of people talking<br />

about <strong>and</strong> laughing at me as I went by.<br />

I lived a half-life, being harassed, bullied <strong>and</strong><br />

teased for my appearance. I knew I was missing<br />

out. I also knew I had so much more to contribute<br />

to this world. But I was so conscious <strong>and</strong> trapped<br />

in the fear that if I put myself out there, I’d be<br />

ridiculed <strong>and</strong> rejected. I couldn’t bring myself to<br />

perform, host, dance, meet new people, be out<br />

there in public, fearing that people would point<br />

towards me <strong>and</strong> laugh. Having two or more<br />

people staring, judging me on the basis of my<br />

appearance, scared me.<br />

The fear of what other people think of us is<br />

like a cage. Over time, you become so used<br />

to being inside that cage you eventually come<br />

to forget what the outside might be like. You<br />

resign yourself to living within its walls. Freedom<br />

from the fear of what others think is possible.<br />

By stepping up your fashion, carrying your<br />

outfit with your personality will boost up your<br />

confidence in facing the world <strong>and</strong> will help you<br />

overcome the fear of what others think of you.<br />

You will slowly regain your freedom <strong>and</strong> escape<br />

from the confines of the prison you’ve created<br />

for yourself <strong>and</strong> live outside that cage.<br />

“People will stare. Make it worth their while” is<br />

the quote that always got me going. I have never<br />

let my identity <strong>and</strong> my turban stop me from<br />

being creative with my fashion sense. In fact,<br />

wearing a turban always compliments my outfit.<br />

Men with turbans can be just as fashionable as<br />

anyone else. It’s pretty awesome! I did it <strong>and</strong> I<br />

am sure you can too.<br />

If you are one of those people who are going<br />

through the same, believe in yourself, be out<br />

there, be outspoken.<br />

Y’all beautiful, y’all humans. You might look<br />

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different, dress differently but hey! It’s good to<br />

be different. Overcome fear <strong>and</strong> face the world.<br />

ACHIEVEMENTS ON A BIG SCALE<br />

called “Sikh chic” <strong>and</strong> was featured in a hugely<br />

successful exhibition of evocative photographs<br />

by Amit <strong>and</strong> Naroop called the ‘The Singh<br />

Project.’<br />

Featured in SinghStreetStyle blog. In 2014, I got<br />

the opportunity to be featured with Pradeep<br />

Singh Bahra (known as The Turbaned Fashion<br />

Blogger) <strong>and</strong> The Sikh Sartorialist (the one in<br />

the middle). His work has been featured in<br />

Vogue, GQ, Time <strong>Magazine</strong>, Times of India,<br />

The Guardian, MTV <strong>and</strong> New York Daily. And<br />

he recently became an instantly recognisable<br />

face after appearing in a national advertising<br />

campaign for Samsung called ‘Shadwell Chic.’<br />

Pradeep became the first Singh to be the face<br />

of a national campaign for a global firm <strong>and</strong> it<br />

propelled the turban centre stage. Pardeep also<br />

won the Sikh Awards for 2014 for highlighting<br />

the fashion appeal of the Sikh style, catchily<br />

A small piece of advice to people aiming to<br />

enhance their creative skills would be – “Always<br />

listen to your gut feeling <strong>and</strong> go about gathering<br />

the right resources, be it in the form of contacts<br />

or related information in pursuing your goal. If<br />

you’re really interested in reaching your goals,<br />

laziness <strong>and</strong> a laid back attitude are your biggest<br />

enemies. Change the way you look at things <strong>and</strong><br />

the things you look at, change. It’s all about your<br />

perspective. IT’S ALL ABOUT THE WAY YOU<br />

SEE THINGS.”<br />

FOLLOW JASMIT<br />

selfiesingh<br />

fitbhangraabudhabi<br />

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M A K E U P<br />

M A D N E S S<br />

WITH<br />

PRODUCTS<br />

I’M “OBSESSED” WITH<br />

MAKEUP ATELIER<br />

PARIS LIQUID<br />

HIGHLIGHTER<br />

NYX CONTOUR<br />

PALETTE<br />

DERMACOLOR<br />

CAMOUFLAGE<br />

FOUNDATION<br />

BEN NYE<br />

BANANA<br />

POWDER<br />

KIKO<br />

BRONZER<br />

ANASTASIA BEVERLY<br />

HILLS SOFT GLAM<br />

PALETTE<br />

PUPA METALLIC<br />

LIPSTICK<br />

ANASTASIA<br />

BEVERLY HILLS<br />

SULTRY PALETTE<br />

FENTY BEAUTY<br />

HIGHLIGHTERS<br />

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M A K E U P<br />

M A D N E S S<br />

WITH<br />

M Y F A V O U R I T E<br />

M A K E U P L O O K S<br />

S O F T G L A M<br />

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M A K E U P<br />

M A D N E S S<br />

WITH<br />

M Y F A V O U R I T E<br />

M A K E U P L O O K S<br />

E V E N I N G G L A M O U R<br />

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B E H I N D<br />

T H E<br />

DR. LEANDRO<br />

Plastic Surgeon <strong>and</strong> CEO of Junqueira Medical Clinic,<br />

talks bums, botox <strong>and</strong> beauty secrets<br />

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1 Tell me about yourself<br />

I am Le<strong>and</strong>ro Junqueira, a Brazilian plastic surgeon here in UAE. I am 46 years old <strong>and</strong><br />

married to an amazing Brazilian woman. Ten years ago, I came to Dubai with a happy<br />

heart after closing 5 branches of my clinic in Brazil. I looked forward to making a life in<br />

this beautiful country. After coming here, I worked in a couple of places until I got the<br />

right opportunity to start my own business. The moment came along with the right set<br />

of investors <strong>and</strong> the best team. Now we have established the Junqueira Medical Clinic<br />

in a beautiful location in Dubai.<br />

2 Plastic surgery is huge in this part of the world. Why do you think that is so?<br />

I think that everything is connected to<br />

globalisation because today everyone wants<br />

to look great. I believe our life spans are now<br />

longer. In most families, you will find at least<br />

one elderly person. This was not the same<br />

decades ago. This has opened opportunities<br />

for people wanting to look great <strong>and</strong> having<br />

good figures. Globalisation has also brought<br />

about opportunities. Today, you could be a<br />

stay at home parent <strong>and</strong> tomorrow, you are a<br />

businesswoman or businessman. Therefore,<br />

people want to look their best. Also, with the<br />

weather in this part of the world <strong>and</strong> all the<br />

beautiful beaches around, people want to look<br />

fantastic when going to the pool <strong>and</strong> shores.<br />

3 What are your specialities?<br />

My professor in plastic surgery developed an<br />

effective facelift technique - full facelift. We<br />

open from one ear to the other <strong>and</strong> pull the face<br />

upwards. However, today only a few people can afford this. No one has a month of<br />

downtime. Most people don’t want a big change. The focus is mainly on small procedures<br />

with big results. Today, it must be something short, quick <strong>and</strong> shouldn’t show much.<br />

Due to my professor’s teachings, I have fallen in love with face <strong>and</strong> breast surgeries;<br />

bums not so much. Note that I do all types of surgeries, but my passion lies in face <strong>and</strong><br />

breast operations.<br />

4 What should we look for when choosing a good plastic surgeon?<br />

The first thing a person should seek out before finalising a surgeon is an existing patient<br />

of the doctor in question. Secondly, check if the doctor has a good reputation within the<br />

community <strong>and</strong> the plastic surgery society. Ensure you know enough about them before<br />

stepping foot into their clinic. That way, you are already aware of what to expect. Once<br />

at the consultation, look for that chemistry between you <strong>and</strong> the doctor. That is vital!<br />

Even if they are very talented, don’t go for them unless you feel that chemistry. It must<br />

be someone you feel confident in, connected to <strong>and</strong> comfortable with.<br />

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5 Plastic surgery is still considered vanity.<br />

What is your take on this?<br />

I don’t see plastic surgery as vanity. I see it<br />

as something that helps people with their<br />

confidence. It is not like it was before, say<br />

15 years ago, where some people were<br />

crazy <strong>and</strong> over-the-top with plastic surgery<br />

as a means of finding happiness. Today,<br />

people are not equating confidence with<br />

plastic surgery. Of course, there are still<br />

a few extremes, but it’s a minority. Mind<br />

you, I am quite a conservative doctor. I<br />

don’t stimulate. If I see that the patient is<br />

unsure, I am not going to convince them,<br />

because it may not be the right moment<br />

for them to have the surgery. I am not a<br />

salesperson. I am not here to sell products<br />

<strong>and</strong> procedures. I am here to prepare the<br />

patient for the changes in his or life after<br />

the surgery. It is for the patient to be ready<br />

for that change.<br />

6 How honest are you with your patients?<br />

You know, when I moved to the UAE, my<br />

intent has always been to make life here<br />

- to build a great name, reputation <strong>and</strong><br />

br<strong>and</strong>. I would never pursue someone in<br />

doubt because that is a lot of responsibility.<br />

Sometimes, the patient has other things<br />

they need to deal with before surgery. I<br />

see beauty in every situation <strong>and</strong> in every<br />

person. I see God’s beauty in every person,<br />

therefore would never push a patient to<br />

get a procedure done for financial gain.<br />

7 Some people go overboard at times<br />

with plastic surgery. When is it time to<br />

stop? How do you break that to your<br />

patients?<br />

The best thing is to explain to the person<br />

that everyone has limits <strong>and</strong> that beauty<br />

is not in the amount of stretch. Beauty<br />

is a combination. Everyone has limits.<br />

Our bodies have limits. We must respect<br />

our bodies. If I see I will not be able to<br />

offer a good result based on the patients<br />

expectations, I will definitely opt out of<br />

carrying out the procedure. Overdoing is<br />

not my thing.<br />

8 What are the most popular treatments<br />

in this part of the world?<br />

• Aesthetics - The number one<br />

requested aesthetic treatment<br />

is botox. Following that is fillers.<br />

Today, the techniques are more<br />

advanced, quality of the products<br />

much better, therefore, the results<br />

are great too.<br />

• Surgery – For plastic surgery, the<br />

number one requested operation<br />

is breast augmentation; secondly<br />

liposuction, then breast lift,<br />

abdominoplasty, facelift <strong>and</strong> nose<br />

jobs. That is usually the sequence.<br />

9 Are men getting as many treatments<br />

or surgeries as women? What is the<br />

proportion? What do men tend to have<br />

done?<br />

Today, the number of male patients that<br />

visit the clinic is about 15-20% of our<br />

total clients. Men have started to realise<br />

they need to do something to reduce the<br />

speed of aging <strong>and</strong> to take care of their<br />

existing age marks. However, men are<br />

not like women. Women are usually less<br />

bothered about scars <strong>and</strong> the downtime<br />

required to heal. But with men, it’s not that<br />

simple. They care a lot more about these<br />

things. Recently, men have started taking<br />

care of their hair <strong>and</strong> doing gentle botox,<br />

a little filler <strong>and</strong> sometimes, liposuction or<br />

even a nose job at times. Men have begun<br />

taking towards plastic surgery, but at a<br />

slower pace than women.<br />

10 What is your definition of beauty?<br />

I see beauty in everything. I think beauty<br />

is looking at something <strong>and</strong> not feeling<br />

bored, seeing the wow factor in that thing.<br />

It could be in a face, shape or even in a h<strong>and</strong>.<br />

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I think beauty is connected to simplicity.<br />

Being humble <strong>and</strong> simple is so important.<br />

If the person is physically beautiful, but not<br />

humble, what is the point? If you can’t talk<br />

to this person, what’s the point? Beauty<br />

is connected to a person’s personality,<br />

character <strong>and</strong> attitudes. Beauty is like a<br />

flower - you want to look at it, not touch<br />

it. However, sometimes the flower needs<br />

to be positioned to get sunlight <strong>and</strong> be<br />

watered.<br />

11 What advice would you give to someone<br />

who is thinking about getting surgery?<br />

After you are sure about the doctor, the<br />

patient must think very carefully about<br />

why they want this surgery. Is this for<br />

the pleasure of someone else or for<br />

themselves? If the patient is not in a<br />

good mental space, it is not time for a<br />

procedure. Because sometimes, changing<br />

the face or body is not what’s needed. If<br />

the patient is not stable mentally, how will<br />

the person deal with the changes after<br />

surgery? The patient must know why they<br />

want to have surgery. They should consult<br />

with family <strong>and</strong> friends before reaching a<br />

final decision.<br />

12 What is your general message about<br />

beauty, health <strong>and</strong> well-being?<br />

I believe it is very important for a person<br />

to take care in all aspects of life. Beauty<br />

reflects what’s inside, who you are <strong>and</strong><br />

how you live. You can look great if you<br />

look after your face. But facial beauty will<br />

not last very long. The lasting beauty is in<br />

taking care of your spiritual, physical <strong>and</strong><br />

mental sides. If you can connect these,<br />

then that’s beauty. But of course, plastic<br />

surgery can help in two of these areas,<br />

the physical <strong>and</strong> mental. But spirituality is<br />

something only the patient can look after.<br />

The real beauty comes from an equilibrium<br />

between these three pillars.<br />

So my general message is to eat good<br />

food, have adequate water, make time<br />

for yourself, enjoy being with loved ones,<br />

have time for your faith <strong>and</strong> of course, time<br />

with us (laugh).<br />

13 Where can readers get more information<br />

about you <strong>and</strong> the services you offer?<br />

Today, our clinic in a beautiful location in<br />

Jumeirah on Al Wasl Road in Dubai. We<br />

occupy about 400 square metres of the<br />

Galleria Mall which has good parking<br />

<strong>and</strong> other facilities. Many members of<br />

our fantastic team has been together for<br />

years. We all underst<strong>and</strong> the vision of the<br />

Junqueira Medical Clinic. Every detail of<br />

our clinic aims to offer our patients the<br />

very best. I believe our patients must feel<br />

embraced, comfortable, confident <strong>and</strong><br />

happy. This is why when you approach the<br />

clinic, you find a beautiful garden with a<br />

mirror behind. This is to indicate that you<br />

are a flower in the midst of all others in<br />

the garden. We want you to begin to feel<br />

happier the minute you enter the premises.<br />

Find Dr. Le<strong>and</strong>ro at:<br />

JUNQUEIRA MEDICAL CLINIC<br />

Galleria Mall, 1st Floor, Al Wasl Road,<br />

PO Box 213143, Dubai<br />

+971 4 229 7766<br />

+971 4 223 3622<br />

www.junqueiramedicalclinic.com<br />

info@junqueiramedicalclinic.com<br />

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B E A U T Y<br />

M I L L A R D S H U K R E E<br />

TALKS “MANSCAPING” - LANDSCAPING FOR MEN (MALE GROOMING)<br />

millshukree<br />

Millard Q. Shukree<br />

far back as I can remember,<br />

As “manscaping” was <strong>and</strong> is one<br />

of the most sacred traditions. When<br />

you pull up to a humble home, the first<br />

thing you usually notice is the front<br />

lawn. As a man arrives on any scene,<br />

one of the things that st<strong>and</strong> out is his<br />

hairstyle - his facial bush or lack thereof.<br />

Whether clean cut, shaven to precision<br />

or lengthy locs with heavy shrubs on<br />

his face, it is a must to customise his<br />

look!<br />

Before a manscaping session with your<br />

tonsorial artist, share what you want<br />

about your look as a client. At the same<br />

time, get his opinion. This process<br />

ensures that the end result will add<br />

to your swag. There is nothing more<br />

rewarding for than to hear “Thanks for<br />

putting me back in the game!” Or the<br />

thank-you texts from satisfied wives<br />

that read “Wow! You got my hubby<br />

lookin’ right!”<br />

See the detailed edge lines... The<br />

fades with smooth transitions <strong>and</strong> the<br />

tapered napes are an extension of a<br />

man’s confidence. Suited or casual, an<br />

amazing mane can boost his bravado<br />

while putting his pride for being<br />

attractive on display. A manscaper’s<br />

intention is to relay good vibrations<br />

through the skill of barbering. It’s as if<br />

I want to carve away negative energy,<br />

leaving highlights of plush growth.<br />

As an artist, I make sure I am familiar<br />

with the latest trends. I also take<br />

pride in classic ministrations. There is<br />

nothing like a hot towel treatment with<br />

a straight razor shave. I am cut from<br />

the fabric of a fraternity of manscapers<br />

abroad. It is my ultimate pleasure to<br />

change the face of men worldwide!<br />

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HERE ARE MY TIPS<br />

to help you keep your face <strong>and</strong> skin in<br />

tip-top shape:<br />

• FOR STRAIGHT HAIR:<br />

<br />

<br />

Use a styling gel with firm hold or pomade for<br />

textured cuts. Hair talc is great for height <strong>and</strong><br />

volume.<br />

Shampoo <strong>and</strong> condition at least every other<br />

day with an oat protein base (adds volume <strong>and</strong><br />

removes build up).<br />

• FOR CURLY TO EXTRA CURLY HAIR:<br />

<br />

<br />

<br />

Clean shaven men should use an aloe vera<br />

based facial scrub daily. Along with a normal<br />

to dry skin moisturiser to prevent irritation<br />

between shaves.<br />

DO NOT use a straight razor if you have bumps<br />

in the desired area to be shaved. Use an electric<br />

trimmer only. Some men have skin that is too<br />

sensitive for blades.<br />

Bearded men should always comb the beard<br />

daily <strong>and</strong> use a moderate amount of beard oil<br />

for healthy str<strong>and</strong>s <strong>and</strong> fragrance.<br />

<br />

<br />

<br />

Use coconut, almond or black seed oil every other<br />

day to prevent dry scalp <strong>and</strong> to enhance sheen.<br />

Shampoo <strong>and</strong> condition at least four times<br />

weekly. Use products with a tea tree oil base to<br />

reduce oil build up.<br />

Clean shaven clients should use a normal to dry<br />

skin astringent daily to prevent ingrown facial<br />

hair. Exfoliate the skin at least three times a<br />

week to reduce irritation. Moisturise according<br />

to the skin type.<br />

<br />

DO NOT use straight blades if razor bumps<br />

appear in patches. Your skin is too sensitive!<br />

Electric trimmer only!<br />

<br />

Bearded men with curly hair should also comb<br />

daily. Shea butter oil is an excellent type of beard<br />

oil for this type of hair. It gives an awesome<br />

sheen <strong>and</strong> prevents matting <strong>and</strong> patching.<br />

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F A S H I O N<br />

W A R D R O B E<br />

E S S E N T I A L S<br />

F O R<br />

M E N<br />

A N D<br />

W O M E N<br />

Fashion is an ever-evolving arena,<br />

<strong>and</strong> sometimes, all its trends are<br />

simply too overwhelming. And often,<br />

following these trends religiously can<br />

be impractical due to their seasonality.<br />

That is why it’s important to stack up a<br />

couple of wardrobe essentials that will<br />

work in every season <strong>and</strong> occasion.<br />

Revamp a closet full of clothes to create<br />

your own capsule wardrobe that defines<br />

both style <strong>and</strong> practicality. Here are the<br />

must-have items in your wardrobe that<br />

will surely save you time <strong>and</strong> prevent<br />

any possible fashion mishaps.<br />

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F A S H I O N<br />

M E N<br />

S U I T S<br />

For a classic men’s wardrobe, suits are simply valuable.<br />

Why? It’s a versatile item that never goes out of style!<br />

Your suit jacket can step up a casual shirt <strong>and</strong> pants<br />

pairing <strong>and</strong> further add a dash of sophistication to the<br />

entire ensemble. As one of the most important garments<br />

for men’s styling, start by choosing monochrome<br />

colours. Opt for a pit black, a navy blue, or textured<br />

grey shade that can smoothly transition between seasons.<br />

You can wear these neutral shades anywhere,<br />

anytime. Plus, one-tone suits allow you to incorporate<br />

other colours into your outfit. Still, whichever your colour<br />

choice, suits assure you of a more tailored appeal.<br />

P O L O S H I R T S<br />

Invest in some basic white or classic black polo shirts<br />

that you can wear at the beach, at the office or to any<br />

sporty event. Polo shirts never go out of fashion <strong>and</strong><br />

they can be polished with seasonal accessories like<br />

Panama hats <strong>and</strong> trainers. Or you can also pair them up<br />

with other classical garments like white chinos or formal<br />

trousers. Certainly, these style staples deserve a little<br />

more space in your wardrobe.<br />

J E A N S<br />

Dressing down does not mean it’s any less fashionable.<br />

It’s just equal comfort <strong>and</strong> equal style. And if you’re<br />

looking for the best item for everyday wear, then a pair<br />

of jeans is the best bet. When choosing the right set<br />

of jeans, make sure to account for the size, cut, <strong>and</strong><br />

colour. You’ll never go wrong with neutral shades like<br />

grey, black or navy. These colours are easy to match<br />

with almost every kind of top garment like a statement<br />

tee, a coloured button-down or a simple polo shirt.<br />

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F A S H I O N<br />

M E N<br />

T I E S<br />

Ties could be man’s low-key best friend. These small<br />

yet stylish accessories bring out that essential sense of<br />

style, confidence <strong>and</strong> sophistication in your entire look.<br />

With an array of colours <strong>and</strong> patterns, choosing the<br />

right tie for your outfit can be a challenge. Hence, opt<br />

for neutral shades that can match with most outfits. And<br />

if you want a dash of pop, you can stock a couple of<br />

vibrant hues for a more fun <strong>and</strong> stylish getup.<br />

W A T C H E S<br />

There’s more to sporting a watch than it being an expression<br />

of personal fashion sense. It’s a lucrative investment<br />

that’s worth the splurge a timeless piece you<br />

can wear every day for years to come. And even if you<br />

wear just a basic t-shirt <strong>and</strong> pants, finishing off the<br />

outfit with a stylish watch can definitely upgrade your<br />

look. That is why men always consider this accessory as<br />

a must-have item. Just strap on this classic piece <strong>and</strong><br />

you’re good to go.<br />

L E A T H E R<br />

S H O E S<br />

Complete your collection of essentials with a pair of<br />

polished leather shoes. Remember, shoes do speak the<br />

most about your personality. Leather shoes, in particular,<br />

are perfect for all occasions whether it’s a casual<br />

dinner date or a formal business meeting. This staple<br />

item gives you that classic polished look!<br />

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F A S H I O N<br />

W O M E N<br />

W H I T E<br />

BUTTON-DOWN<br />

Gracing the list for women is the classic white button-down.<br />

This versatile outfit is both comfy <strong>and</strong> modish,<br />

hence on the top list of your wardrobe essentials.<br />

The styling options for a white-button-down are endless!<br />

Pair this with your favourite wide-leg jeans <strong>and</strong><br />

buckled boots for a snappy appeal. Or unleash your<br />

sassiness with a basic button-down, a patterned skirt<br />

<strong>and</strong> pump heels. Truly, this white canvas is such a prized<br />

piece that it deserves a spot or two in your closet.<br />

L I T T L E<br />

B L A C K D R E S S<br />

But of course, your wardrobe wouldn’t be complete<br />

without your go-to LBD. This simple yet highly sophisticated<br />

cocktail dress can complement any style from<br />

rock to formal. For a sexy, edgy ensemble, team it up<br />

with a leather jacket <strong>and</strong> trainers. And for a charming<br />

appeal, simply throw on a pair of stilettos <strong>and</strong> some<br />

striking accessories. A bright, patterned blazer is also<br />

an easy way to accessorise your little black dress.<br />

H E E L S<br />

Another key piece you should add into your wardrobe<br />

is a pair of heels. From block to wedge to st<strong>and</strong>ard high<br />

heels, this rather popular footwear style remains to be a<br />

cherished possession among women. Heels are not just<br />

used to accentuate your height but also to bring out<br />

your style. Plus, they give you lots of styling options.<br />

Match your floral dress with your favourite high-heeled<br />

s<strong>and</strong>als or add a sophisticated twist to your shirt-<strong>and</strong>trousers<br />

duo with a pair of stiletto heels. Clearly, there<br />

are no strict rules when it comes to heels.<br />

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F A S H I O N<br />

W O M E N<br />

B L A Z E R S<br />

Wrap-up your clothes collection with blazers worth the<br />

second stare. Blazers are not just meant to add comfort<br />

but also enhance your style. It has that fashion power<br />

which effortlessly alters your styling in a matter of<br />

seconds. By draping a blazer on your simple shirt, it<br />

transforms your overall look into a more regal one. So<br />

make sure you keep a few eye-popping blazers in your<br />

wardrobe to upscale your fashion game.<br />

F L A T S<br />

Let’s face it wearing heels all day isn’t an easy deal…..<br />

unless you are me :-. It’s challenging <strong>and</strong> extremely tiring!<br />

Hence, a pair of flats is a practical alternative if you<br />

still want to look <strong>and</strong> feel good. Walk in style <strong>and</strong> comfort<br />

with your lace-up pumps, elegant ballerina shoes<br />

or sophisticated loafers. Without a doubt, flats are the<br />

kind of footwear every woman should own.<br />

S T A T E M E N T<br />

A C C E S S O R I E S<br />

If you’re running out of time <strong>and</strong> there’s no chance for a<br />

clothing mix <strong>and</strong> match, why not ace your style with some<br />

head-turner embellishments? Show off your personal<br />

style with those statement accessories! From bangles to<br />

hoop earrings to clutches, these are guaranteed to st<strong>and</strong><br />

out from the crowd <strong>and</strong> make your own statement.<br />

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SHOP<br />

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F A S H I O N<br />

DRESSING TO SUIT YOUR<br />

B O D Y S H A P E<br />

Dressing up is fun <strong>and</strong> exciting–simply because the<br />

options are endless! You have the luxury to choose<br />

anything to wear, be it your favourite LBD or your<br />

go-to sweatshirt. But sometimes, what feels good<br />

does not always look good on your frame.<br />

That is why you need to embrace your body<br />

first. Trends come <strong>and</strong> go, but it’s your body<br />

that stays. So find the best style that flatters your<br />

body that makes you feel <strong>and</strong> look good at the<br />

same time. Here’s how to dress according to your<br />

body shape:<br />

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DRESSING TO SUIT YOUR<br />

B O D Y S H A P E<br />

A P P L E<br />

(TRIANGLE DOWNWARD)<br />

Probably the most popular yet challenging<br />

body type. Apple-shaped women often<br />

feature a body with a bit of a belly–hence<br />

the name ‘apple’. Plus, this shape comes with<br />

broader shoulders <strong>and</strong> bust, <strong>and</strong> narrower hips<br />

<strong>and</strong> legs.<br />

With no defined waist, you tend to conceal<br />

the excess weight on your stomach with<br />

loose garments. But there are plenty of ways<br />

to dress up if you have a triangle downward<br />

shape! Accentuate your assets, which are your<br />

cleavage <strong>and</strong> slender legs. Play with colours<br />

<strong>and</strong> layers to create an appealing illusion of a<br />

leaner midsection.<br />

Make the most out of your neckline because<br />

you have a broader bust. Opt for clothes that<br />

draw emphasis to your bust section like flares,<br />

off-the-shoulders, tunic tops <strong>and</strong> V-necks. You<br />

can also tuck in tops to bring out some style.<br />

And don’t forget to pick a well-fitting bra to<br />

create a nice silhouette. Take advantage of<br />

tailored jackets to spell out your personal<br />

fashion sense, as well as hide the unwanted<br />

weight on your mid-area.<br />

Pair your shirts with short skirts or bodyhugging<br />

shorts to emphasise your legs. Skinny<br />

jeans <strong>and</strong> flared pants are a great match too.<br />

High-rise styles with a nice stretch can also<br />

work wonders. And to draw the attention away<br />

from your tummy, spark some dimensions to<br />

the bottom section of your body. Let prints<br />

<strong>and</strong> patterns do the talking. If you love wearing<br />

skirts, you can take maximum advantage of<br />

these elements.<br />

Dresses that do not cling too much on your<br />

body are another best option. Cocktail dresses<br />

with loose bottom fittings give you the comfort<br />

<strong>and</strong> style most suitable for your body.<br />

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DRESSING TO SUIT YOUR<br />

B O D Y S H A P E<br />

BANANA OR STRAIGHT<br />

(RECTANGULAR)<br />

Banana-shaped women have a wellbalanced<br />

proportion, from the shoulders<br />

down to the hips. Sometimes, their waist<br />

measurement is less than 9 inches than the<br />

bust <strong>and</strong> hip dimension. Even if they are<br />

not principally curvy, they have one of the<br />

easiest body shapes to style. They can create<br />

a beautiful silhouette if they maximise styling<br />

options to fit their rectangular shape. For those<br />

with straight body type, your legs <strong>and</strong> arms are<br />

your assets. Technically, banana is similar to an<br />

hourglass form, less the well-defined waist <strong>and</strong><br />

smaller hips.<br />

Lean towards solid colours, but occasionally<br />

strike some drama with the help of tailored<br />

blazers or long jackets. If you have a longer<br />

neck <strong>and</strong> smaller bust, work on high necklines<br />

to add definition to your upper body.<br />

Sleeveless, halters, strapless <strong>and</strong> ruffles are<br />

styles that complement this body type. Plunge<br />

dresses are great too!<br />

Note that you have to define your lower body<br />

well, so pay attention to picking the right pair<br />

of bottoms. Choose slightly flared pants or<br />

A-line skirts that add dimension to your legs.<br />

Skinny jeans are also nice but make sure that<br />

these perfectly fit your booty area to create<br />

that needed balance.<br />

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DRESSING TO SUIT YOUR<br />

B O D Y S H A P E<br />

PEAR, SPOON OR BELL<br />

(TRIANGLE UPWARD )<br />

Pear-shaped bodies have smaller bust<br />

dimensions <strong>and</strong> bigger hip measurements.<br />

With this body type, the focus is on your<br />

lower part. So that’s where you accentuate<br />

your appeal. Your fuller hips can help create<br />

a beautiful illusion of well-balanced shape.<br />

Accentuate your curvy waist by wearing<br />

clothes that enhance its shape. Flaunt your<br />

wide hips <strong>and</strong> full booty like a pro!<br />

Fitted tops are perfect for this body shape.<br />

So are crop tops, boat <strong>and</strong> V-necks. Buttondown<br />

shirts can also complement this body<br />

type because they provide a striking balance<br />

to your body outline. And because you have<br />

a smaller bust, opt for tops that add a dash<br />

of style <strong>and</strong> sophistication to your upper <strong>and</strong><br />

mid-section like those embellished necklines<br />

<strong>and</strong> flares. Throw some features to your<br />

shoulders with a cardigan or blazer. Utilise<br />

layering to maintain that balance <strong>and</strong> nice<br />

silhouette. Ruffles <strong>and</strong> patterned tops do<br />

well to provide you with a more defined <strong>and</strong><br />

stylish aura.<br />

For your bottom, high-rise pants <strong>and</strong> A-line<br />

skirts match your upper body. But since you<br />

have a narrower waist <strong>and</strong> wider hips, you<br />

can take advantage of skinny jeans <strong>and</strong> pencil<br />

skirts. These bottoms highlight your natural<br />

shape.<br />

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DRESSING TO SUIT YOUR<br />

B O D Y S H A P E<br />

HOURGLASS<br />

SHAPE<br />

(TRIANGLES OPPOSING,<br />

FACING IN)<br />

Hourglass body shape is often the most<br />

coveted body type because it features<br />

equal measurement of the bust <strong>and</strong> hip. The<br />

properly-balanced body dimensions allow you<br />

to throw in different styles. With a chiseled<br />

body <strong>and</strong> a narrow waist, trail your curvy<br />

outline <strong>and</strong> don’t be afraid to flaunt your very<br />

feminine shape to the fullest. And if you want<br />

to achieve this body, exercise is the key!<br />

Add some drama to your well-balanced figure<br />

by picking clothes that fit your curves well.<br />

Because you have a fuller bust, plunge tops<br />

<strong>and</strong> high neckline dresses look good on you.<br />

Peplum blouses <strong>and</strong> wrap tops as well as<br />

body-con dresses <strong>and</strong> fitted jumpsuits, help<br />

you emphasise your curves. And since you<br />

have thicker hips, you can wear almost any<br />

kind of bottom, ranging from high-waist pants<br />

to straight-cut trousers to pencil skirts. And to<br />

draw more attention to your figure, you can<br />

add a belt to the getup.<br />

In a nutshell, knowing <strong>and</strong> loving your body<br />

type is the first step to appreciate the trends<br />

<strong>and</strong> love fashion. Remember, style becomes<br />

useless without the proper fit. So, accept your<br />

body shape <strong>and</strong> don’t aim to be like others. Be<br />

your own kind of beautiful. From there, you’ll<br />

see that fashion is truly an art a fascinating way<br />

to express your style <strong>and</strong> be comfortable in<br />

your own body.<br />

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T H E C A M<br />

WHO WORE WHAT<br />

TO BRUNCH<br />

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T H E C A M<br />

WATCH CAM<br />

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C A N D Y C A M<br />

Name: FREDDY<br />

Age: 26<br />

Nationality: CAMEROONIAN<br />

Occupation: INTERNATIONAL MODEL<br />

Fun fact: I LIKE CARS MORE THAN GIRLS<br />

fredy_endang<br />

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N A I L E D I T<br />

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B E A R D G A N G<br />

EDUARDO MATTOS<br />

Favourite beard product :<br />

DON ALCIDES BALM CALICO JACK<br />

Favourite beard product :<br />

BEARD BUTTER<br />

KEITH WILLIAMS<br />

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PRAJVAL JAGIRDAR<br />

Favourite beard products :<br />

BEARDO AND GODFATHER<br />

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L I F E S T Y L E<br />

S O C I E T A L P R E S S U R E S<br />

ON WOMEN AGED 40+ AND CHILDLESS<br />

IN TODAY’S SOCIETY,<br />

WOMEN WHO ARE<br />

40+ AND CHILDLESS<br />

ARE OFTEN LOOKED<br />

DOWN ON. THE<br />

STIGMAS ASSOCIATED<br />

WITH THE LACK OF<br />

CHILDREN ARE MANY.<br />

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I recently heard a friend say, “People tell me ‘You are<br />

not Janet Jackson nor Halle Berry.’ Hearing this made<br />

me numb <strong>and</strong> as if my chances were really short <strong>and</strong> I<br />

should’ve started years ago.”<br />

As if there isn’t enough pressure questioning or<br />

suggesting about:<br />

• Getting into a relationship<br />

• Adoption<br />

• The purpose of womanhood being to reproduce<br />

• Having a fertility check<br />

And so on ...<br />

A woman’s world is not transparent for the outside<br />

society to see <strong>and</strong> sympathise. And when others view<br />

you through their expectations, it does a lot to shatter<br />

the confidence we have inside.<br />

In this article, let’s explore the realities of societal<br />

pressure <strong>and</strong> life choices.<br />

• A few may have experienced trauma <strong>and</strong> are<br />

struggling with its outcomes.<br />

IF WE WERE IN YOUR SHOES ...<br />

<br />

Whenever we encounter women in this situation,<br />

take a minute to pause <strong>and</strong> reflect on how you<br />

would feel if you were in her shoes. Following are a<br />

few questions that you should never ask a childless<br />

women over the age of 40:<br />

1. “Do you like children?”<br />

It sounds like a question from a first date or a<br />

dating app chat mate. Of course, they do like<br />

children! They simply have a personal circumstance<br />

why they don’t have one of their own. And what<br />

if they replied ‘no’? Should they be ridiculed<br />

or humiliated? Don’t they have a choice in this<br />

matter? Just like the rest of us, they do. And it<br />

is time society owns up to respecting people for<br />

their choices.<br />

THE ‘WHY’ - REASONS FOR BEING CHILDLESS<br />

AT THE AGE OF 40:<br />

2. “Has fostering or adopting a child ever crossed<br />

your mind?”<br />

• Some women don’t have partners.<br />

• Some cannot be pregnant due to medical<br />

conditions.<br />

• Many do not want to be pregnant without<br />

getting married.<br />

• Some do not want to have children, period.<br />

Adopting a child is always an option. However,<br />

have you thought that this question can offend<br />

someone who wants to have a biological child?<br />

The difference is just a few words for you, but<br />

could be a drop in honour for the woman.<br />

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3. “Why are you childless at this age?”<br />

“‘You’re still young’ - they say I always feel confused by<br />

all of this because I don’t know what I am anymore. Am<br />

I still young or am I too old??”<br />

The words of KC, aged 40<br />

4. “Is there something wrong with you?”<br />

Nobody would ever like to answer that question!<br />

Would you?<br />

If you are struggling with the issues of having a child<br />

at the right time, this piece of guidance can open your<br />

mind:<br />

“Being childless in your 40’s is not a punishment nor<br />

depiction of your woman. It just means that my Creator<br />

is orchestrating the perfect moment for my family to<br />

begin. During this time, I’m encouraged to put the love<br />

I have stored up into practice to those that cross my<br />

path.”<br />

The words of KR, aged 41<br />

5. “Are you struggling with fertility?”<br />

This is none of anyone’s concern or business. Childless<br />

women might also be in pain <strong>and</strong> have a reason for not<br />

having a child – perhaps personal or medical.<br />

THE CELEBRATION OF LIFE<br />

PEARLS OF WISDOM FOR THE CHILDLESS WOMAN<br />

So what if you’re 40 <strong>and</strong> childless? Your life is a<br />

celebration! There is no reason not to enjoy the<br />

years! Not being a mother over 40 doesn’t determine<br />

happiness nor does it define you.<br />

You’re significant alone. You’re a woman of value.<br />

All those thoughts <strong>and</strong> assumptions are absolutely<br />

wrong! So instead of filling your days desperately<br />

seeking validation that it’s okay to be childless over 40<br />

or weeping over your status, why don’t you consider<br />

the unlimited opportunities <strong>and</strong> advantages awaiting<br />

women like you?<br />

After all, growth <strong>and</strong> self-indulgence can be at your<br />

fingertips - anytime you want it! You can do anything<br />

your heart desires, travel where you want to go, invest<br />

in ventures you are passionate about <strong>and</strong> grow in the<br />

manner you want to.<br />

Are you convinced yet? Here are more reasons to<br />

celebrate being childless over 40:<br />

1) Real self-discovery<br />

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Childless women can easily afford chances to find<br />

out the good, the bad, the unique <strong>and</strong> the weird<br />

(<strong>and</strong> so on) about themselves. They can uncover all<br />

those things, laid bare, before their eyes <strong>and</strong> get<br />

to know their strengths <strong>and</strong> weaknesses.<br />

Being childless is about discovering the person<br />

<strong>and</strong> reasons you are that person. And you have all<br />

the opportunities <strong>and</strong> time in the world to iron out<br />

any creases.<br />

<br />

Who knows? This new person who is super sure of<br />

herself <strong>and</strong> her abilities might have a chance at a<br />

new relationship. Getting to know who you are can<br />

really help before you enter a new relationship.<br />

2) Unseen opportunities<br />

“I am 44, married with no children by choice. I adore<br />

other people’s children (including my now two adult<br />

stepsons) <strong>and</strong> have many god-children, but I never<br />

thought of having my own. I love my work, I finally got<br />

to have my own business when I was 41 <strong>and</strong> it is takes<br />

almost all of my time. I love the fact that I have freedom<br />

(at least in theory) about decisions in my life <strong>and</strong> that I<br />

am almost only responsible for myself (<strong>and</strong> four cats).<br />

(Husb<strong>and</strong> does not count as responsibility). Sometimes<br />

it has crossed my mind will I regret this decision when I<br />

am old, but I don’t think that is a good reason to change<br />

a life I enjoy as it is! I have also seen many friends have<br />

children with the wrong men <strong>and</strong> their life not really<br />

turning better afterwards. And if someone asks me<br />

what is the best thing I have done for our planet, I can<br />

cheekily answer that I have decided not to populate it<br />

with more people!”<br />

- Katia, aged 44<br />

Have you thought of the sacrifices a mother has<br />

to make? Her mind is constantly overrun with<br />

worries about running a family, taking care of all<br />

its members, the finances, juggling jobs <strong>and</strong> a<br />

home life <strong>and</strong> throwing in drama from extended<br />

relatives. There is a lot of stressors that she has <strong>and</strong><br />

you don’t.<br />

This could be a blessing in disguise. You can use<br />

your energy positively by volunteering in the<br />

community, or if you enjoy being around children,<br />

can try tutoring or babysitting them.<br />

3) Growing in confidence <strong>and</strong> learning to love<br />

yourself<br />

<br />

Being childless over 40, you can further develop<br />

the talents <strong>and</strong> skills which you might not have<br />

given much attention to before. Plus, you can learn<br />

new ways of doing things <strong>and</strong> adapting to any<br />

change. Share your skills <strong>and</strong> make new friends.<br />

Growing old alone can raise doubts about dependency<br />

<strong>and</strong> health struggles. But remember, there are many<br />

in the world who have chosen this same path. Talk to<br />

them, find networks that host childless women, talk<br />

to employers who are pro-women <strong>and</strong> communities<br />

that support the growth of individuality.<br />

Childlessness is a chance to love yourself more. In time,<br />

you realise that you have so much power in you that all<br />

you need to rely on is ultimately “you.”<br />

Also, you cannot purely love anyone who would enter<br />

your life if you were shaken by regret <strong>and</strong> lack of selfconfidence.<br />

You have to live by <strong>and</strong> love yourself first,<br />

no matter what your future decisions may be.<br />

Besides, having a child does not guarantee happiness<br />

because happiness is a choice. It’s in your h<strong>and</strong>s, not in<br />

someone else’s pocket. Never underestimate your value<br />

as a woman just because you’re childless.<br />

FINAL THOUGHTS<br />

It is a shame that society views mothering a child to be<br />

the best part of a woman’s life. But you cannot change<br />

the world - all you can change is yourself <strong>and</strong> how you<br />

view it.<br />

So instead of weeping, feeling discontent <strong>and</strong> taking<br />

the societal pressures on for being childless at 40+,<br />

embrace your life! Use your time to grow <strong>and</strong> develop<br />

<strong>and</strong> not be caged by the expectations of others.<br />

Remember that every woman is unique <strong>and</strong> so are you<br />

<strong>and</strong> your situation.<br />

The golden words to engrave in your mind are –<br />

you have you <strong>and</strong> that’s all you will ever need.<br />

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L I F E S T Y L E<br />

H O W T O<br />

C H A N G E<br />

YOUR WHAT-IFS TO WHAT-NOWS<br />

Those who constantly worry simply cannot have peace<br />

of mind. They sweat even on the small stuff <strong>and</strong> always<br />

anticipate things going wrong.<br />

Worry is extremely common, <strong>and</strong> even those living happily<br />

<strong>and</strong> well may worry excessively on a given occasion.<br />

However, one in four people suffer from anxiety disorders<br />

at certain points in their lives.<br />

And if you have anxiety, everything you want to do<br />

is followed by the two words – ‘What if’ …<br />

• What if I get on stage, deliver my speech <strong>and</strong><br />

somewhere along the way, I suffer from mental block<br />

forgetting everything I memorised?<br />

• What if I travel <strong>and</strong> get lost?<br />

• What if I go on this date <strong>and</strong> make a bad first<br />

impression?<br />

• What if I start a business <strong>and</strong> lose all my money?<br />

• What if I accept this offer but later receive a better<br />

one with a higher salary?<br />

The mere two-word question is so powerful. No<br />

wonder it racks your mind.<br />

Your mind is so brilliant <strong>and</strong> imaginative that it can<br />

concoct a series of terrible scenarios that can go<br />

beyond what’s possible - from embarrassment to<br />

death.<br />

Those two words can stop you from travelling the<br />

world, saying yes to a suitor or getting married.<br />

It can also hinder you from being open with your<br />

feelings, nodding to attend special events, joining<br />

contests <strong>and</strong> simply enjoying the life that you’re<br />

supposed to be living, had you not been too worried<br />

or anxious about unfavourable outcomes.<br />

So in short, ‘what if’ is almost always linked with fear<br />

<strong>and</strong> worry, indicating that things will always go wrong.<br />

How Do You Defeat Those ‘What-ifs’ In Your Life?<br />

It is perfectly normal to analyse each situation before<br />

making a decision or taking the next step.<br />

After all, we’re intellectual humans who have adapted<br />

to this system.<br />

This being said, humans have also acquired one trait<br />

along with development - <strong>and</strong> that is FEAR.<br />

There are so many things people fear – losing<br />

reputation, being unaccepted in society, being judged<br />

by other people, feeling the inability to survive <strong>and</strong><br />

fearing dying due to unknown causes.<br />

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But are your fears justifiable? Do you think the<br />

cause of your anxiety or fear is justified? Or are<br />

those worries just products of over-thinking?<br />

Turn those negative what-ifs into positive what-ifs<br />

If you cannot help but ask yourself certain what-ifs,<br />

try to convert them to positive questions.<br />

• What if I get on stage, deliver my speech well <strong>and</strong><br />

inspire so many people?<br />

• What if I travel <strong>and</strong> learn a new culture?<br />

• What if I go on a date <strong>and</strong> be asked for the next one?<br />

programmed for that. Your body will also cooperate so<br />

that you can get there.<br />

• What if I get rich…?<br />

• What if I succeed…?<br />

• What if I reach my goal…?<br />

Think of those possibilities. Form them in your mind. Let<br />

the what ifs help you visualise <strong>and</strong> achieve your dreams. In<br />

short, try to visualise the best case (not the worst) for every<br />

situation.<br />

Of course, sometimes, things can go south. But that’s<br />

just a probability, not the 100% possibility.<br />

Bring it on <strong>and</strong> say “So what!”<br />

• What if I start a business <strong>and</strong> it does exceptionally<br />

well?<br />

• What if I accept this offer, improve my skills <strong>and</strong><br />

later be promoted?<br />

The next time a negative ‘what-ifs’ comes to mind, you<br />

can also use another technique – <strong>and</strong> that is to use the<br />

brave phrase – “so what!”<br />

“So what if that bad scenario really showed up?”<br />

So when negative what-ifs enter your mind, try<br />

to reverse them <strong>and</strong> think of positive outcomes<br />

instead of the other way around.<br />

Your brain is so brilliant that it can create just the most<br />

horrible picture. When it does, you can also st<strong>and</strong> up,<br />

face it with your chin up <strong>and</strong> say “so what?”<br />

After all, using these what-ifs to think positive might<br />

even serve as a great motivator to reach your goals <strong>and</strong><br />

become successful, as they can help you visualise the<br />

great things you want coming your way.<br />

It is like conditioning <strong>and</strong> feeding your mind with what<br />

you want to achieve – <strong>and</strong> eventually, your brain will be<br />

And then, think of a solution even if the problem<br />

has not surfaced yet.<br />

After all, this proactive attitude of making a contingency<br />

plan beforeh<strong>and</strong> can help you face the situation because<br />

you are prepared with a conditioned mind. And you’re<br />

NOT AFRAID.<br />

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L I F E S T Y L E<br />

Recognise that everything will be okay, even if<br />

something goes wrong.<br />

Know that things might not be favourable, but you will<br />

get through it. Whether or not you fail the job interview<br />

(which you probably won’t), you need to tell yourself that<br />

things will turn out okay <strong>and</strong> that you will do better next<br />

time.<br />

Answer <strong>and</strong> believe in yourself.<br />

Face your life’s what-ifs to prevent them from<br />

haunting your thoughts.<br />

Instead of allowing them to haunt you because<br />

you’re scared, learn how to answer them <strong>and</strong> face<br />

the truth.<br />

Be brave enough to answer your doubts <strong>and</strong><br />

courageous enough to face the reality.<br />

If you do master it, no problem will ever bother<br />

you again because you’re not scared <strong>and</strong> are ever<br />

ready to come up with a solution.<br />

Have faith in yourself – so that doubts <strong>and</strong><br />

insecurities won’t pull you down.<br />

Keep your focus <strong>and</strong> eye on the prize you want to<br />

achieve.<br />

Walk with self-belief <strong>and</strong> confidence.<br />

As at the end of the day, you are your worst enemy.<br />

Don’t let self-doubt stop you from achieving greatness just<br />

because you’re always anxious about things going wrong.<br />

Final Thoughts<br />

It’s normal to feel anxious. But too much anxiety is<br />

no good for you. These “what-ifs” can stop you from<br />

enjoying life, achieving your dreams <strong>and</strong> living a happy<br />

life. Learn how to take risks, believe in yourself <strong>and</strong> use<br />

those what ifs to visualise what you want to gain - not<br />

what you are to lose.<br />

Follow these tips <strong>and</strong> learn how to convert the<br />

“what-ifs” to “what-now” today!<br />

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Y U M M Y M O M M Y<br />

Yummy Mommy is a recurring feature in the<br />

wellness section of <strong>Out</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>About</strong> <strong>STYLE</strong><br />

<strong>Magazine</strong> that serves to shine a spotlight on<br />

the supermoms who combine raising a family<br />

with their own career <strong>and</strong> life goals — <strong>and</strong> look<br />

FABULOUS while doing it.<br />

MAUSMI JADHAV<br />

Age: IT’S JUST A NUMBER…. LET’S SHAKE IT!<br />

Marital Status:<br />

HAPPILY MARRIED TO THE MAN OF MY DREAMS<br />

Number of children:<br />

AN ADORABLE SON<br />

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Y U M M Y M O M M Y<br />

TELL US A BIT ABOUT YOURSELF.<br />

Throughout my life, I have followed a healthy, active<br />

lifestyle, keeping fit <strong>and</strong> eating a varied <strong>and</strong> balanced<br />

diet. I do not follow any restrictive diets <strong>and</strong> throughout<br />

my pregnancy, I continued to eat a well balanced diet,<br />

as opposed to eating a high calorie diet for two. I was<br />

driving around 84 kms to <strong>and</strong> from work everyday,<br />

working 50+ hours a week, until the day I delivered. I<br />

was at the top of my fitness while I was pregnant <strong>and</strong> had<br />

the most amazing, beautiful <strong>and</strong> blessed nine months.<br />

one of the healthiest kid she had delivered in recent<br />

times.<br />

When Micah was around 6 <strong>and</strong> a half months old, I left<br />

my job because I felt I needed to bond with him <strong>and</strong><br />

watch him grow. I decided to focus my energy on my<br />

son as I wanted him to grow up happy <strong>and</strong> healthy.<br />

Nowadays, I am busy travelling <strong>and</strong> exploring new<br />

cities <strong>and</strong> cultures with Micah. We have been to three<br />

continents, six countries, <strong>and</strong> have explored nine cities<br />

in the past twelve months <strong>and</strong> I am loving every bit of<br />

time I am spending with my 15-month-old son.<br />

During pregnancy, I gained 13.5 kilos <strong>and</strong> faced no<br />

complications during delivery. Micah, my son, was born<br />

in the 40th week <strong>and</strong> weighed around 3.63 kilos. I was<br />

a proud parent, when the doctor remarked that he was<br />

On the other h<strong>and</strong>, losing the pregnancy weight <strong>and</strong> the<br />

flab has been a slow but consistent process. Today, after<br />

15 months, I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight <strong>and</strong><br />

feel amazingly fit <strong>and</strong> blessed as always.<br />

1. Have you always been fit?<br />

What inspired you to live a fit lifestyle?<br />

<br />

I have been into fitness since the age of 6 or 7. As I grew<br />

older, I never gave up on fitness <strong>and</strong> have always been<br />

fit <strong>and</strong> have considered myself to be very healthy. I love<br />

myself <strong>and</strong> I respect my body. The Bible says that our<br />

bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit, who resides in<br />

you, <strong>and</strong> we are called to honour <strong>and</strong> take care of His<br />

temple. So, if my body is a place where God dwells, then<br />

it is my responsibility to maintain it, look after it, nourish<br />

it, <strong>and</strong> keep it “clean” inside out. Taking care of my body<br />

is also my way of showing gratitude to the whole cosmos.<br />

2. Describe what you’re doing to stay in<br />

shape. How often <strong>and</strong> how long do you<br />

workout?<br />

With a 15-month old toddler, no househelp <strong>and</strong> being<br />

constantly on the move, I don’t get as much time to<br />

exercise like I use to in the past. At the moment, I<br />

go for a walk with my son (with him in the stroller of<br />

course), or go for a swim with him. I do few reps of<br />

lunges, squats <strong>and</strong> planks at home along with a couple<br />

of stretches. I also attend group exercise classes as<br />

much as I can. My daily goal is to do 10,000 steps a<br />

day. I can’t wait for my son to get a little older so that<br />

we can do bike riding, rock climbing, hiking, kayaking<br />

<strong>and</strong> more. together. There are numerous different<br />

ways to train your body. You just have to enjoy it.<br />

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3. What is your diet like?<br />

Real food. Basically, my diet varies depending on where<br />

in the world I am. I try to eat local as much possible.<br />

But I don’t compromise on certain things like; I do not<br />

consume labelled food, especially if I can’t pronounce<br />

what is written. Processed foods are another no-no. I<br />

consume minimum dairy <strong>and</strong> dairy products. I have<br />

substituted milk with unsweetened almond milk. I prefer<br />

low GI foods <strong>and</strong> opt for free range or organic produce<br />

whenever possible.<br />

When at home, I start my day with warm lemon-gingertumeric<br />

water as I think it’s detoxifying. I shop <strong>and</strong> cook<br />

all my meals thrice a day, i.e., breakfast, lunch <strong>and</strong> dinner.<br />

I try to incorporate at least seven colours throughout the<br />

day in my meals. I haven’t consumed red meat for as<br />

long as I remember as I am more inclined towards lean<br />

protein such as free range chicken or eggs. I get my<br />

omegas through wild caught fish - preferably salmon or<br />

tuna. With every meal, I have either freshly squeezed<br />

juice, green juice or homemade smoothie. Occasionally,<br />

I treat myself with dark chocolate <strong>and</strong> sencha tea.<br />

Oh yes <strong>and</strong> I never eat my meal alone. We try to have<br />

our meals together as a family whenever possible. The<br />

motive is to spend time with your loved ones, respect<br />

food <strong>and</strong> food sources, be grateful, relax, enjoy every<br />

meal <strong>and</strong> feel satisfied, not stuffed.<br />

4. How do you stay motivated?<br />

I enjoy group exercises as they are so much fun! And<br />

more so, they are great motivators because you meet<br />

people with similar lifestyle goals <strong>and</strong> needs. There is<br />

nothing better than a great group workout class like<br />

aerobics, pilates, abs, dance or body pump. I enjoy<br />

good music <strong>and</strong> challenging, sweaty workouts. The<br />

bonus is you get to stay fit.<br />

5. Do you have any mental tricks that you<br />

use when you just don’t feel like working<br />

out?<br />

Balance diet <strong>and</strong> exercise have become a way of life.<br />

A good workout followed by a healthy, nutritious meal<br />

makes me feel positive <strong>and</strong> happy about life in general.<br />

And most importantly, I do what I enjoy <strong>and</strong> do it<br />

alongside people whose company I enjoy. So it’s a winwin<br />

situation for me.<br />

6. What advice do you have for moms who<br />

say they don’t have time for exercise?<br />

There is no such thing as no time for your own wellbeing.<br />

Workout at home if you don’t like to hit the gym<br />

or go out for a walk or jog. Download fitness apps, which<br />

will remind you periodically to exercise. Plus, they come<br />

with a whole range of workout sessions which you can<br />

play on dem<strong>and</strong>. And most importantly, get your kids<br />

involved <strong>and</strong> be a role model to your family. When your<br />

children will see you exercising, they will also realise<br />

the importance of keeping fit. It will be an essential life<br />

lesson for them. They will learn to look after themselves,<br />

respect <strong>and</strong> listen to their bodies.<br />

I started working out when Micah was 41 days old. I<br />

use to carry him in my arms <strong>and</strong> do squats <strong>and</strong> lunges.<br />

He use to lie down besides me when I use to do my<br />

stretches. It was so much fun!<br />

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7. Things you’ve tried <strong>and</strong> hated — diets <strong>and</strong> working out?<br />

Hmmm… I am not sure. I have only done things that appeal to me to begin with.<br />

8. What are your top tips to help women get into shape?<br />

As much as possible, try to get enough sleep. A balanced diet, exercise <strong>and</strong> getting as much<br />

sleep as possible are important in weight management. Overcome postpartum depression. Take<br />

professional help if necessary. Well-balanced diet, sleep <strong>and</strong> exercise helps to improve your mood<br />

which fights depression.<br />

Try to find any way to be active starting with 10,000 steps a day - walking, jogging, swimming, cycling,<br />

house chores, cooking, jumping, running behind your toddler - anything that you enjoy. If you don’t<br />

enjoy, you are going to give it up sooner rather than later. Remember to aim for 10,000 steps a day.<br />

, .<br />

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IS A PLANT-BASED DIET<br />

THE WAY TO A<br />

HEALTHIER LIFE?<br />

Is a diet with minimally processed<br />

foods <strong>and</strong> more of plant-based<br />

ingredients the key to a healthier <strong>and</strong><br />

longer life?<br />

A plant-based eating pattern focuses<br />

on consuming unrefined, minimally<br />

processed whole foods in their<br />

original <strong>and</strong> unadulterated form.<br />

Staples include legumes, tubers,<br />

vegetables, fruits, seeds, nuts <strong>and</strong><br />

whole grains. These are loaded<br />

with phytochemicals, antioxidants,<br />

vitamins <strong>and</strong> minerals <strong>and</strong> can supply<br />

the body with all the nutrients for<br />

healthy functioning.<br />

WHY A PLANT-BASED DIET<br />

MAY BE GOOD FOR YOU<br />

Plant-based diets offer plenty of<br />

benefits for the body. One of its<br />

significant advantages is weight<br />

management. As foods included<br />

on this diet are loaded with fibre<br />

<strong>and</strong> contain lots of water, they can<br />

promote a feeling of fullness <strong>and</strong><br />

lessen food cravings.<br />

In addition, plant-based foods are<br />

packed with vitamins, minerals,<br />

healthy fats <strong>and</strong> phytochemicals<br />

which can promote healthy skin with<br />

more radiance.<br />

Plant-based foods have other skin<br />

benefits as they are loaded with<br />

antioxidants, including vitamin<br />

C. A few sources of this essential<br />

vitamin are apricot <strong>and</strong> papaya, two<br />

fruits that assist in repairing <strong>and</strong><br />

stimulating collagen production to<br />

reduce wrinkles <strong>and</strong> fine lines.<br />

A plant-based diet also improves<br />

blood glucose levels especially<br />

among pre-diabetics <strong>and</strong> diabetics. It<br />

can also lessen one’s risk of diabetesrelated<br />

complications.<br />

It aids in digestion because it is full<br />

of fibre <strong>and</strong> can prevent constipation.<br />

Whole foods can also promote<br />

regular bowel movement <strong>and</strong> lower<br />

blood pressure.<br />

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PLANT-BASED<br />

RECIPES YOU<br />

SHOULD TRY<br />

If you’re interested in trying<br />

a plant-based diet, check<br />

out the following simple<br />

<strong>and</strong> easy recipes that are so<br />

yummy, even your kids will<br />

love them!<br />

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EASY PEANUT NOODLES<br />

Beginner or not in the kitchen, you cannot go wrong with this<br />

super easy peanut noodles recipe that’s both nutrient-dense<br />

<strong>and</strong> delicious! Your tummy will love it.<br />

It’s a satisfying recipe that is made tastier with a touch of<br />

peanuts that infuse the dish with fibre <strong>and</strong> protein. If you love<br />

pasta, you should definitely try this recipe. Don’t forget to<br />

load it up with your favourite vegetables!<br />

Get the video instructions for this recipe here.<br />

FRENCH BREAD PIZZAS<br />

This time around, you don’t have to order your favourite pizza<br />

treat, as you can now create a French bread pizza, as tasty as<br />

the store bought ones, right within the comfort of your own<br />

home. You can get as creative with ingredients as you want.<br />

After all, this recipe is versatile enough to accommodate<br />

whatever your heart desires. Just keep things green <strong>and</strong><br />

choose natural plant-based ingredients.<br />

Check out the video instructions here.<br />

VEGAN TUNA MELT<br />

Use chickpea tuna to create yummy-licious s<strong>and</strong>wiches, have<br />

on crackers or with toast. It can be a great topping for your<br />

salads or in a delicious melt. Your choices are endless!<br />

Click here for the video instructions.<br />

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AVOCADO PESTO PASTA<br />

You will love this pesto pasta made healthier with versatile,<br />

creamy <strong>and</strong> nutritious avocados. Add in some fresh basil <strong>and</strong><br />

other herbs of your liking if you want to.<br />

NUTRITION TIDBITS: Also called butter fruit or alligator<br />

pear, avocados are one of the most nutritious foods on<br />

the planet. It is packed with monounsaturated fat <strong>and</strong> has<br />

almost 20 vitamins <strong>and</strong> minerals. By adding it to your diet,<br />

you can get vitamins C, E, K <strong>and</strong> B6 along with potassium,<br />

magnesium, pantothenic acid, niacin <strong>and</strong> riboflavin. And<br />

that’s not all! Avocados can also supply your body with<br />

omega-3 fatty acids, beta-carotene <strong>and</strong> lutein. This fruit is<br />

also loaded with beneficial fat, which can aid in weight loss,<br />

because it can keep you satiated <strong>and</strong> full for a longer time.<br />

The fat in avocados can slow down carbohydrate breakdown, maintaining a stable blood<br />

sugar level. Eating avocados can enhance fat-soluble vitamin <strong>and</strong> mineral absorption, support<br />

skin health <strong>and</strong> boost the immune system.<br />

Get the video instructions for this recipe here.<br />

VEGAN MASHED POTATOES<br />

Reinvent your favourite comfort food! Take it to the next level <strong>and</strong><br />

add it to your plant-based diet. These mashed potatoes are simple<br />

<strong>and</strong> easy to make. It can be eaten as a side dish, a snack or whichever<br />

way you want. You can also be creative with what ingredients to add<br />

to it.<br />

Are potatoes healthy? Yes, potatoes are naturally cholesterol <strong>and</strong><br />

fat-free. What’s even better – it’s low in sodium.<br />

You will also love to give them as a treat to your kids as potatoes are<br />

rich in vitamin C - a boost for improving immunity.<br />

And if consumed with skin, you can get potassium too. Being low in<br />

sodium <strong>and</strong> a good source of potassium, potatoes may help reduce<br />

risk of stroke <strong>and</strong> high blood pressure.<br />

So what are you waiting for? Try these vegan-mashed<br />

potatoes. Get the recipe in this video.<br />

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Getting Started With A Plant-Based Diet<br />

Before anything else, consult your doctor especially if you<br />

have a medical condition. He or she can give you sound<br />

advice on whether a plant-diet is right for you or not. If<br />

given the go-ahead signal by the doctor, you can start<br />

slowly by adding plant foods in your diet.<br />

Consume more vegetables. At lunch <strong>and</strong> dinner, fill half<br />

of your plate with veggies. Choose from a wide range of<br />

colours or have veggies as a snack with guacamole, salsa<br />

or hummus.<br />

In addition, add more green leafy vegetables such as<br />

Swiss chard, kale, spinach <strong>and</strong> collards to your plate. You<br />

can grill, steam, stir-fry or braise them as you like.<br />

Try building a meal around a salad. At first, you can fill a<br />

medium-sized bowl with greens such as bibb, spinach or<br />

romaine, <strong>and</strong> then add other ingredients, such as tofu,<br />

peas or beans.<br />

Have whole grains for breakfast. You can start with quinoa,<br />

barley, oatmeal or buckwheat. Plus, add some seeds, nuts<br />

or fresh fruits too.<br />

Final Thoughts<br />

Plant-based diets offer a host of health benefits, including<br />

for skin <strong>and</strong> digestion. These foods are also loaded with<br />

vitamins, minerals, antioxidants <strong>and</strong> phytochemicals,<br />

which promote better health <strong>and</strong> immunity as well as<br />

keep you looking young <strong>and</strong> feeling good.<br />

Try the above recipe ideas <strong>and</strong> reap the rewards of a<br />

nutrient-dense plant-based diet today!<br />

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TIPS<br />

TO HELP YOU<br />

STICK TO YOUR<br />

FITNESS GOAL<br />

Personal trainer<br />

MARIUS CRISTIAN<br />

shares his tips for sticking to your<br />

fitness goal.<br />

The best tip to help you stick to your<br />

fitness goal I would say is for you to<br />

underst<strong>and</strong> why are you doing it.<br />

Otherwise, it’s like being on a road<br />

going straight, but you don’t know<br />

where you are going. So put in your<br />

mind or on a piece of paper - “why?”<br />

Whether your fitness goal is getting that summer body,<br />

looking good at the pool or getting healthier, put it<br />

down on paper or make a mental list.<br />

My other top tips would be:<br />

1. Clear your fridge <strong>and</strong> cupboards of all the soft<br />

drinks, processed foods <strong>and</strong> sweets as what you<br />

have in the house is what you are most likely to<br />

eat.<br />

2. Leave your comfort zone. Stop making excuses …<br />

‘’I don’t have time! I’m too lazy; too sleepy; too<br />

tired; my dog is feeling sick...’’ These excuses will<br />

get you nowhere on the fitness journey. If you are<br />

serious about your fitness, workout will become<br />

a priority. You are unlikely to hear a motivated<br />

person making excuses for not working out.<br />

Instead, they creating a balance between keeping<br />

fit <strong>and</strong> managing family <strong>and</strong> work.<br />

3. Cook your meals at home! You say you don’t have<br />

time? Instead of waking up at 8 am every day,<br />

wake up an hour early to cook your meals. This<br />

way you keep track of what you eat <strong>and</strong> you know<br />

exactly what you put into your body.<br />

4. Get into the gym. Put your headphones on (this<br />

is what I do <strong>and</strong> I turn off the world completely),<br />

leave your thoughts <strong>and</strong> whatever issues you are<br />

facing <strong>and</strong> give the exercise as much as you can.<br />

5. Your body can take a lot of ‘’torture’’... Your mind<br />

would be the problem. Try fixing that issue <strong>and</strong><br />

you will see things changing.<br />

Follow Marius Cristian on<br />

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T R A V E L<br />

TRAVEL WITH LEELA<br />

CHARMED BY LISBON<br />

As with many of the places I’ve travelled to, Portugal was on my bucket list for a long time before I<br />

finally got the opportunity to go. I can’t remember what sparked my interest. Maybe it was a picture<br />

or something I’d heard about Lisbon. What I did know is that eventually I would find my way there.<br />

To say that Portugal was everything I expected would be an understatement. I was absolutely<br />

smitten with the vibrant colours of the city as well how alive it was even at two o’clock in the<br />

morning. I enjoyed every single moment I spent there. Most of our time was spent in Lisbon with<br />

a short trip to Porto.<br />

To be honest, there is so much I could write about Lisbon. This would end up being a long article<br />

<strong>and</strong> it wouldn’t be good use of your time or mine. Instead, I’m just going to share with you the<br />

highlights of the trip.<br />

HIGHLIGHTS OF LISBON<br />

TIMEOUT MARKET<br />

I definitely recommend going to the Time <strong>Out</strong> Market at<br />

least twice while in Lisbon. It’s an open seating space with<br />

different restaurants boasting of extensive menus. There<br />

is something for everybody to enjoy. We went there too<br />

many times to mention as we were determined to sample<br />

as much of the food as we could. I recommend going there<br />

for dinner because it gets really crowded during the day.<br />

FOOD TOUR<br />

When I travel, I always book a food tour or a cooking<br />

class. I’m a huge foodie <strong>and</strong> I think food is an<br />

important part of any culture. To better underst<strong>and</strong><br />

the people, it’s good to underst<strong>and</strong> their food.<br />

Portugal is no different. The Portuguese love their<br />

food especially Bacalhau, which is salted cod fish. We<br />

booked this food tour through Viator (through which<br />

I always book) <strong>and</strong> it was one of the best parts of our<br />

trip! Not only did we learn about the food, but also<br />

much about the history <strong>and</strong> l<strong>and</strong>scape of the country.<br />

It was fantastic!<br />

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SINTRA<br />

I remember seeing pictures of Pena Palace plastered all over social<br />

media <strong>and</strong> fell in love with it immediately. I knew that I had to go<br />

Sintra once I went to Portugal. We booked this tour through Viator<br />

as well. It was combined trip to Cascais as well as to Cabo da Roca,<br />

which is the westernmost part of Europe. The weather was great<br />

for the most part. A little chillier than we had expected, but it was<br />

beautiful nonetheless.<br />

Pena Palace is breathtaking <strong>and</strong> unique - an absolute must see.<br />

The beaches in Cascais are superb, boasting of crystal clear waters.<br />

I highly recommend booking a tour <strong>and</strong> going. I know people take<br />

public transportation <strong>and</strong> go on their own. Logistically it’s more<br />

convenient to get the tour. Plus, the tours take you to other parts of<br />

Portugal. So you get to see more of the country which is awesome.<br />

IBO RESTAURANT<br />

Apart from Time<strong>Out</strong> Market, this place provided one of our favourite<br />

meals in Lisbon. Located at Cais do Sodre in a former warehouse,<br />

this beautiful space overlooks the Tagus River <strong>and</strong> draws culinary<br />

inspiration from Mozambique. The food was amazing. Probably one<br />

of the best restaurants I’ve ever been to in life. The service was topnotch<br />

as well. Please check it out if you’re ever in Lisbon. Be sure to<br />

make reservations because it’s a very popular restaurant.<br />

BAIRRO ALTO<br />

This is the place to be if you want to have a good time. There<br />

are lots of bars <strong>and</strong> bustling nightlife. I love the live music <strong>and</strong><br />

the cheap but good drinks that keeps this part of town alive well<br />

into the wee hours of the morning. There are also tons of little<br />

restaurants that serve yummy tapas. We spent quite a few nights<br />

exploring the narrow streets, popping in <strong>and</strong> out of bars. We<br />

even discovered an authentic Brazilian restaurant called Acaraje<br />

da Carol with awesome live music.<br />

I admit that this review by no means comes close to capturing<br />

all the charm of Lisbon. There is so much to see <strong>and</strong> do <strong>and</strong> I<br />

guarantee that you won’t be bored even for a minute. This is a<br />

city you need to visit for yourself. Add it to your list <strong>and</strong> go ASAP.<br />

Besos<br />

Kathleen Hamilton<br />

KATHLEEN HAMILTON is an international educator, travel enthusiast<br />

<strong>and</strong> guru who hails from New York City. Follow Kahleel on<br />

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F O R T H E C U L T U R E<br />

THE IDENTIFICATION<br />

OF THE MODERN MAN<br />

JEROME DOUGLAS<br />

There are a plethora of questions that linger<br />

around the identity of the modern man.<br />

These questions set you on a journey, a journey<br />

that exemplifies the words of Lao Tzu, “a journey<br />

of a thous<strong>and</strong> miles begins with the first step.”<br />

This quote can be further explained with regards<br />

to our current muse like this - the journey to true<br />

identification of the modern man is more abstract<br />

than you think. The journey of a thous<strong>and</strong> miles<br />

actually begins with the first thought of the<br />

definition of… well… YOU!<br />

Since the beginning of time, the man, a soulful,<br />

poignant <strong>and</strong> emotional being, was meant to<br />

lead, love, fight <strong>and</strong> hunt. Additionally, he was<br />

also meant to honour, care, share, be feared, to<br />

decide <strong>and</strong> befriend.<br />

by society, culture <strong>and</strong> psychological intellect.<br />

His power rested in his will, skill <strong>and</strong> the thrill of<br />

stamping his authority, leading the charge on the<br />

expedition, being the comm<strong>and</strong>er in chief, first<br />

part taker of the kill. He liked to have a level of<br />

dominance <strong>and</strong> be a hardworking breadwinner.<br />

The concept of being a breadwinner was defined<br />

As time passed by <strong>and</strong> the world become modernised, the concept of man also changed. With<br />

liberation of women, men began to question who they are even more. Or rather, who they are<br />

not.<br />

What is a man’s role in modernity? What is his reality now? There is a freedom to choose. Is he<br />

the leader from the front, a relic, or a follower who leads from the middle of the pack? What is<br />

the identity of the modern man? Who defines him?<br />

Many factors contribute to a man’s development <strong>and</strong> sustenance - his willpower, upbringing,<br />

family status, early childhood experiences, etc. Someone rightly said, “It takes a village to raise<br />

a child.” Today’s man is raised by the global village. The modern man is instinctively more<br />

adventurous. And he knows that the globalised world is his playground.<br />

Likewise, a modern man’s mind is a kaleidoscope; a web of variety, a web of the same fabric,<br />

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much for less; the modern man is self-sustained. The<br />

modern man is confused for being egotistical <strong>and</strong> calm,<br />

but he underst<strong>and</strong>s more than most that liberation is the<br />

truest form of creativity.<br />

The identity of the modern man says that he is<br />

passionate. His passion is a religion, a god. He goes<br />

for what brings him enjoyment <strong>and</strong> life. He realises that<br />

having a passion brings romance to life.<br />

The true reflection of a modern man’s image is portrayed<br />

by his level of integrity; the modern man knows his<br />

beliefs <strong>and</strong> values should align with whom or what he<br />

wants to be.<br />

The modern man has empathy from perception <strong>and</strong><br />

less from reality. He is able to feel the emotions, taste<br />

the quality of tears (fake or real), <strong>and</strong> dissect jolly from<br />

the act of being folly. He can see situations from the<br />

st<strong>and</strong>point of all else.<br />

Similarly, the modern man is driven by goals set for<br />

success. He recognises that competition makes the<br />

heart stronger, the soul purer <strong>and</strong> the spirit steadier. He<br />

gives his best version to the goal. He sets his sails on<br />

overcoming all adversities, comm<strong>and</strong>ing strong rational,<br />

insight, foresight <strong>and</strong> hindsight. The modern man is in<br />

control of his own destiny.<br />

He can use his weaknesses as his greatest strength. His<br />

will to exp<strong>and</strong> his consciousness is unparalleled. He<br />

believes that learning is a never ending cycle. He must<br />

never stop adding to his scope, or else will never really<br />

live.<br />

He knows that he is the owner of his troubles. He<br />

knows being vulnerable is the beginning of his inner<br />

strength. Failure is not a deterrent. So he is unafraid to<br />

express his limitations. His ability to be honest about<br />

his disappointments, socialisation, feelings on certain<br />

principles or circumstances, or similar characteristics<br />

with people, broadens his respect for self.<br />

The modern man is not shy to express his sexuality.<br />

He knows fear is the greatest killer of acceptance. He<br />

is man enough to appreciate his trinity (mind, body<br />

<strong>and</strong> soul), <strong>and</strong> he is not afraid to lose himself to win.<br />

He underst<strong>and</strong>s both tradition <strong>and</strong> modernity <strong>and</strong> he<br />

redefines himself for his own greater good. He will love<br />

who he will with or without your approval.<br />

Consequently, the modern man knows that desperation<br />

is the key that unlocks the door to moral failure. He<br />

knows that this race called life is set for a 100M sprint.<br />

In this sprint, it is the speed of thought that is most<br />

important.<br />

The modern perception of a man says that he knows<br />

what he means when he says what he wants. The modern<br />

man is strong on values that mean much to him. After<br />

all, only when he follows his values can he be the best<br />

version of himself.<br />

Equally, the modern man is prepared to take risks.<br />

Risks are lessons if the outcome is perceived by others<br />

as failure. The modern man knows that success is not<br />

defined by first place trophies or gold medals. He knows<br />

showing heart <strong>and</strong> fight are not consequences or losses,<br />

but they are rewards for a new view <strong>and</strong> new ideas.<br />

Winners always win.<br />

The modern man defines himself as a role model or a<br />

father figure. The one a son looks up to as brave <strong>and</strong><br />

resilient, a man his daughter knows as her first true love,<br />

a husb<strong>and</strong> to the alluring eyes of his wife <strong>and</strong> a reigning<br />

champion for his people. He demonstrates modern<br />

thought in processes, actions <strong>and</strong> deeds.<br />

Finally, the world has liberated the modern man. His<br />

identification is not restricted to anyone’s beliefs,<br />

practices, ideologies, thoughts or purpose. He is who<br />

he is without fear of what your definition of him is. He<br />

is open-minded, unconventional <strong>and</strong> untraditionally<br />

traditional. Hence, he doesn’t care to identify with your<br />

perception. He appreciates your opinion of him, just<br />

much less than his of himself.<br />

He is not a victim of the system. He instead identifies<br />

himself outside of the normative codes. He is progressive<br />

enough to respect culture, but creative enough to add a<br />

new paradigm to a way of life. Therefore, the modern man<br />

is not defined by opinions <strong>and</strong> perspective. He knows that<br />

change is a constant factor that results in a new reality.<br />

The modern man accepts that leaders can assume any<br />

position, but nothing will stop him from leading. He is<br />

an all-rounder, a h<strong>and</strong>yman - he plays any position on<br />

the court, but he will never divorce himself from victory.<br />

The modern man is demarcated by his acceptance of<br />

his time <strong>and</strong> his will to progress through process; the<br />

definition of the modern man, no less.<br />

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