BALANCE THE WORLD
This is a feminist guide for millennials. Here are some concrete examples from all around the world to shift the balance and contribute to making it a better place. This fun and visual guidebook will give you necessary tools to effectively navigate this seemingly controversial topic and provide you with concrete examples of best in class strategies. I invite you to be part of the gender revolution! Let’s shift the balance together!
This is a feminist guide for millennials. Here are some concrete examples from all around the world to shift the balance and contribute to making it a better place. This fun and visual guidebook will give you necessary tools to effectively navigate this seemingly controversial topic and provide you with concrete examples of best in class strategies. I invite you to be part of the gender revolution! Let’s shift the balance together!
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Aurélie Salvaire<br />
Balance<br />
the world!<br />
Tactics to help you launch a<br />
gender revolution
Aurélie Salvaire<br />
Balance<br />
the world!<br />
Tactics to help you launch a<br />
gender revolution
Preface<br />
I grew up in a world where, as the recently deceased French anthropologist<br />
Françoise Héritier observed, men are worth more than women. As a Libra child,<br />
keen on balance and justice, this infuriated me. I saw how my feminist mum<br />
would smash her face against the walls of patriarchy when she tried to voice a<br />
different opinion. Growing up, I realized that my individual story was actually a<br />
collective one, global and systemic. And that we hardly talk about it because it is<br />
so embedded in us that we don’t question it anymore, we don’t see it. And when<br />
we do, we focus on the problem, and its insurmountable size makes us feel<br />
helpless.<br />
So I wrote this book as an antidote. An antidote to our feeling of helplessness in<br />
front of the magnitude of the problems. An antidote to our collective denial or our<br />
apathy in situations of injustice. An antidote to fear and depression.<br />
There are so many valuable men and women out there who are willing to balance<br />
this world. So, even if many times I feel like tiny David against giant Goliath, I<br />
wanted to offer you hope through concrete solutions any of us can implement.<br />
Because I do believe that the sum of the smallest individual changes will<br />
ultimately trigger a systemic transformation.<br />
So I dedicate this book to my late mum Martine, who instilled in me a fighter’s<br />
spirit.<br />
Let’s not give up the fight!<br />
– Aurélie Salvaire<br />
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table of contents<br />
Introduction -----------------------------------------------------------------<br />
Before We Start -----------------------------------------------------------<br />
3<br />
15<br />
Education ----------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
Media and Art ---------------------------------------------------------------<br />
Advertising<br />
Language<br />
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Public Speaking -----------------------------------------------------------<br />
Cities<br />
Sports<br />
Politics<br />
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Leadership -------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
Investors<br />
Pay Gap<br />
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Science and Technology ---------------------------------------------<br />
Sex --------------------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
Violence ------------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
Manhood ------------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
47<br />
73<br />
97<br />
115<br />
133<br />
151<br />
181<br />
205<br />
233<br />
271<br />
289<br />
311<br />
333<br />
357<br />
405<br />
Conclusion --------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
Bibliography ------------------------------------------------------------------<br />
437<br />
447<br />
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Introduction<br />
3
<strong>THE</strong> SECRET OF<br />
CHANGE IS TO<br />
FOCUS ALL OF YOUR<br />
ENERGY, NOT ON<br />
FIGHTING<br />
<strong>THE</strong> OLD, BUT<br />
ON BUILDING <strong>THE</strong><br />
NEW.<br />
— Dan Millman<br />
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This is a feminist guide for millennials.<br />
Have you been outraged by Trump’s election?<br />
Are you tired of the violence and intolerance plaguing many spheres of our<br />
androcentric world?<br />
Do you want to do something about it?<br />
Here are some concrete examples from all around the world to shift the balance<br />
and contribute to making it a better place.<br />
This fun and visual guidebook will give you necessary tools to effectively<br />
navigate this seemingly controversial topic and provide you with concrete<br />
examples of best in class strategies.<br />
I invite you to be part of the gender revolution!<br />
Let’s Shift<br />
The Balance<br />
Together !<br />
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Lilith will guide you in this quest.<br />
Contrary to the folklore, Lilith is regarded as a true feminist icon. Legend says,<br />
she is considered to be the first woman ever, created equal to Adam. When she<br />
refused to submit to Adam's authority, she was thrown out of paradise and<br />
replaced by a more docile Eve. Since then, she has been portrayed as a demon,<br />
even though her only crime was to question:<br />
“Why should I lie beneath you when I am your equal since both of us were<br />
created from dust?”<br />
Source: Genesis, Hebrew Talmud<br />
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Your life in the Matrix<br />
We live in a Matrix. So embedded in us that we are completely oblivious to it. We<br />
even deny its existence. A world of fear and domination. A world of aggression<br />
and war where military spending massively exceeds education spending.<br />
A world of deep suffering.<br />
PATRIARCHY IS LIKE <strong>THE</strong><br />
MATRIX. YOU ARE LIVING IN IT<br />
EVERYDAY, BUT YOU DON’T SEE IT.<br />
— Carolina Criado-Perez<br />
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To prepare people for this world, we force them to conform, to fit into little<br />
boxes.<br />
Women have been conditioned to believe that their worth is less than… this<br />
condition begins in early childhood. “It’s a girl” is still a lethal phrase in many<br />
places around the world.<br />
Even in more lineal societies like Europe or the US, girls are more likely to be<br />
interrupted by her parents or teachers, to be socialized to be calmer and<br />
partake in quieter activities, and to learn to conform and obey.<br />
A little boy, in contrast, will be conditioned by his toys, language, and TV to<br />
deal with conflict in a violent manner and to disconnect from his emotions<br />
unless he feels anger.<br />
A world where one half of the population is trained to dominate and oppress the<br />
other half is not a happy place. Both sexes are trapped into boxes.<br />
What can we<br />
do about it ?<br />
I’M NO LONGER ACCEPTING<br />
<strong>THE</strong> THING THAT<br />
I CAN NOT CHANGE.<br />
I AM CHANGING <strong>THE</strong> THINGS<br />
I CANNOT ACCEPT.<br />
— Angela Davis<br />
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This book is about solutions.<br />
Today, more than ever, we need everyone to be a “balancemaker.”<br />
We identified 15 key topics. For each topic, we state the problem, share existing<br />
solutions, and propose some concrete actions you can take.<br />
01 — Education<br />
02 — Media and art<br />
03 — Advertising<br />
04 — Language<br />
05 — Public speaking<br />
06 — Cities<br />
07 — Sports<br />
08 — Politics<br />
09 — Leadership<br />
10 — Investors<br />
11 — Pay gap<br />
12 — Science and technology<br />
13 — Sex<br />
14 — Violence<br />
15 — Manhood<br />
Tactics for a revolution.<br />
Imagine you live in a world where most of the resources, power, media, and<br />
myths are owned by one part of the population.<br />
And you’re not a part of it. What would you do?<br />
Which tactic would you use to shift the power balance?<br />
Here are some tactics that we will illustrate in this book.<br />
Visualize<br />
We say an image is worth a thousand words. Visualizing data or a shocking<br />
statistic in an infographic can be extremely powerful. You can also portray what<br />
the world would be like, the utopia you aspire to, as with the prophetic front page<br />
of a newspaper. Show, don’t tell.<br />
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Data Mining<br />
Gather relevant data so that no one can deny the reality of the problem.<br />
Tech 4 Good<br />
Leverage technology to crowdsource information in real time, geolocalize data,<br />
or create useful wearables.<br />
The Power of the Crowd<br />
Campaigning platforms like Change.org and social media like Twitter and Facebook<br />
allow anycitizen to make noise and unite people around a cause. What was<br />
once an isolated individual complaint online can now rally thousands.<br />
Humor<br />
Humor can defuse the situation, making dry topics accessible to connect with<br />
people. Humor opens hearts and minds.<br />
Gaming<br />
Leverage the power of play to raise awareness on complex issues.<br />
Naming<br />
A simple yet powerful tactic is to give a name to a previously unnoticed<br />
phenomenon. (Mansplaining, Manspreading, Manterrupting, etc.)<br />
New Skill<br />
Train women in a new skill in order to infiltrate male-dominated sectors.<br />
Counter-storytelling<br />
Choose a new angle to portray a problem, provide a female gaze to a traditional<br />
story, show what a different world would be like. New media channels allow<br />
each of us to become a storyteller.<br />
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New Heroes<br />
Portray new role models and new stories of women and men striving for peace<br />
and balance.<br />
Stage<br />
In a forum theater, actors perform a scene with a negative outcome. Audience<br />
members become "spectActors" in order to solve the situation. This tactic was<br />
developed by the Theatre of the Oppressed in Latin America in the 1970s.<br />
Speak Up<br />
Mainstream icons, famous actors and actresses, and heads of state openly<br />
supporting gender equity is a strong method to invite these topics into<br />
mainstream media and to leverage their visibility for a social impact.<br />
Toolkit<br />
Disseminating case studies, toolkits, and manuals with concrete tips and advice<br />
is a great way to guide people.<br />
Infiltrate<br />
Progressively infiltrate the power structures in order to switch the power balance<br />
from within. This requires stamina and resilience.<br />
Quotas<br />
Affirmative action measures that impose a target for representation within the<br />
organization can accelerate the diversity of leadership circles and help shatter<br />
the "glass ceiling," but they also create tensions and frustrations within the<br />
organization.<br />
Revolution<br />
Revolution represents a fundamental change in political power in a short period<br />
of time. Revolution is a fast-paced tactic that creates massive wounds and<br />
extremely uncertain outcomes.<br />
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Boycott<br />
Refrain from buying products or using services from companies who do not<br />
respect your values.<br />
Rate<br />
Attribute a mark or a rank to an organization according to its compliance with<br />
diversity objectives.<br />
Outlaw<br />
Ban certain practices from an organization, city, or country.<br />
Unite<br />
When women unite, they prove that they are powerful. Remember, women<br />
paralyzed Iceland in 1975, and Lysistrata's sex strike stopped the Peloponnesian<br />
Wars.<br />
Street Action<br />
Guerrilla activism costs little, but, if well publicized, these actions create a viral<br />
effect.<br />
Symbolic Claim<br />
Focus your protest or campaign on a small but very symbolic illustration of the<br />
power system.<br />
Disobey the Rules<br />
It is good to be an ally but sometimes you have to be a rebel. If you believe some<br />
rules are not fair, why follow them?<br />
Occupy<br />
Occupy a public and symbolic place to raise awareness of an issue, for example<br />
Occupy Wall Street, the Indignados in Madrid, or Nuit Debout in Paris.<br />
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New Products<br />
Gender imbalance can be perceived as a market opportunity to create products<br />
addressing an unsatisfied need.<br />
Awareness<br />
Focus on growth. Learn. Question. Speak. Act.<br />
Reverse<br />
Reverse the roles to shed light on the incongruity of cultural rules.<br />
Empathy<br />
Invite others to put themselves in your shoes to be more aware of your reality.<br />
Dilute<br />
Instead of fighting the existing structure, create alternative models that become<br />
so numerous that they dilute the old system in a sea of new ones.<br />
Nonviolence<br />
Many changemakers use peaceful walks, civil resistance, and disobedience<br />
tactics to prove their point and challenge the existing power structures.<br />
A true systemic change will only arise from a combination of these tactics<br />
triggered by a symbolic event. It will require planning, strategy, and cooperation.<br />
If you are passionate about changing the system, read Gene Sharp's<br />
groundbreaking work, From Dictatorship to Democracy, or consult the Albert<br />
Einstein Institution, which lists 198 methods of nonviolent action!<br />
NON-VIOLENCE IS A POWERFUL AND<br />
JUST WEAPON. INDEED, IT IS A WEAPON<br />
UNIQUE WHICH CUTS WITHOUT WOUNDING<br />
AND ENNOBLES <strong>THE</strong> MAN WHO WIELDS IT.<br />
— Martin Luther King Jr<br />
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Now it's your turn!<br />
Pick the topic you are most passionate about, choose one of the tactics you<br />
feel more comfortable with, and imagine what you could start!<br />
The world is full of opportunities!<br />
Learn about them in the coming pages!<br />
BABY, SHALL WE SMASH<br />
CAPITALISM AND<br />
PATRIARCHY<br />
TOGE<strong>THE</strong>R ?<br />
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Before We Start...<br />
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Feminism:<br />
A belief in the social, political, and<br />
economic equality of the sexes.<br />
Men and women are different, regardless of this, they should have access<br />
to the same rights and opportunities.<br />
Do you think men and<br />
women should be equal?<br />
Yes<br />
No<br />
Congratulations!<br />
You’re a Feminist<br />
Not<br />
A Feminist<br />
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TEST: How much of a feminist are you?<br />
Check all that apply.<br />
I would be willing to give up some of my salary if I had to, so that equal pay<br />
in my workplace could be a reality.<br />
I believe that men and women should be equal.<br />
I can’t help but be bothered when a song includes misogynistic lyrics, even<br />
when I otherwise like the song.<br />
I know who bell hooks is.<br />
I can define intersectional feminism.<br />
I don’t use the phrase “hey guys” when referring to a group of people that<br />
includes men and women.<br />
I have taken a women’s and/or gender studies class.<br />
I think it’s important to encourage girls to pursue science and math as a<br />
career.<br />
I think we should change women’s bathroom symbols to not include<br />
traditionally “feminine” clothing (skirts, dresses, etc).<br />
I believe trans people should be able to use whichever bathroom they<br />
identify with.<br />
I believe it’s important to encourage women to negotiate.<br />
I believe Jennifer Lawrence should earn as much as her male costars.<br />
I do not think a movie should be released unless it passes the Bechdel test.<br />
I believe all genders are entitled to the same social and political rights.<br />
I can explain why “78 cents to the dollar” is not a fully accurate description<br />
of the gender wage gap.<br />
I believe that women who possess certain types of privilege are responsible<br />
for advocating for women who don’t have their level of privilege.<br />
In an instance of sexual assault against a female, I am inclined to believe the<br />
assaulted person is telling the truth until proven otherwise.<br />
I believe that women should be able to dress however they want without it<br />
dictating how they are treated by society.<br />
I have never said that a woman “asked for it.”<br />
I am offended by catcalling.<br />
I don’t think women should get VIP treatment at nightclubs and bars just for<br />
being women.<br />
I think police brutality and its correlation with race is a feminist issue.<br />
I think we should stop promoting models as the ideal female body type.<br />
I think we should stop photoshopping women’s bodies in the media.<br />
I have never called a woman bossy.<br />
I think companies should offer more child-friendly programs for parents.
I believe that a woman should be offered the same opportunities for<br />
promotion as her male co-workers.<br />
I believe that if a woman wants to pay on a date, her date should let her.<br />
I believe that women should have easy access to birth control.<br />
I believe the domestic duties should be shared in a relationship.<br />
I think that a couple should have equal responsibility over the cleanliness of<br />
their home.<br />
I believe that men and women have the same emotional strength.<br />
I do not think that it is the responsibility of a man to protect a woman<br />
physically.<br />
I believe that men and women should be equally encouraged to express their<br />
emotions.<br />
I have never asked a woman why she does not have children.<br />
I would be equally excited to have a son or a daughter.<br />
I think women have a responsibility to help and encourage other women to<br />
pursue their goals.<br />
I think women are equally capable as men to be the President of their<br />
countries.<br />
I believe that women have no responsibility to make a conscious effort to<br />
always be friendly and polite.<br />
I have never criticized a woman for not wearing makeup or wearing too much<br />
makeup.<br />
I believe a woman is a woman if that is what she calls herself, regardless of<br />
her physical attributes and makeup.<br />
What’s your score?<br />
Source: Buzzfeed - How much of a feminist are you?<br />
Some say “I am a humanist, not a feminist” but how do you want to fight<br />
discrimination if you don’t name it?<br />
BEING A FEMINIST IS LIKE BEING PREGNANT.<br />
YOU EI<strong>THE</strong>R ARE OR YOU ARE NOT.<br />
— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie<br />
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Many of us reject the feminist label without knowing its true meaning.<br />
Do you consider yourself a feminist or not?<br />
Pre-definition<br />
Post-Definition<br />
Male Female Male Female<br />
Yes<br />
15% 35%<br />
Yes<br />
51% 69%<br />
No<br />
85% 65%<br />
No<br />
49% 31%<br />
Data: yougov.com<br />
WE SHOULDN'T BE AFRAID OF <strong>THE</strong> WORD FEMINIST.<br />
MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD USE IT TO<br />
DESCRIBE <strong>THE</strong>MSELVES.<br />
— Justin Trudeau<br />
Two books to read in case of doubt.<br />
1<br />
2<br />
Feminism is for Everybody, Bell Hooks.<br />
With her characteristic clarity and directness, Bell Hooks encourages<br />
readers to see how feminism can touch and change their lives to see that<br />
feminism is for everybody.<br />
We Should All Be Feminists, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.<br />
The highly-acclaimed and provocative New York Times bestseller is<br />
adapted from the much-admired TEDx talk of the same name. The<br />
award-winning author of Americanah offers a modern version of what<br />
feminism means for her.<br />
I AM A FEMINIST. I’VE BEEN A FEMALE FOR A LONG TIME<br />
NOW. I’D BE STUPID NOT TO BE ON MY OWN SIDE.<br />
— Maya Angelou<br />
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When talking about gender, two different points of view tend to emerge.<br />
Nature<br />
Sociobiologists<br />
Gender is in our DNA.<br />
Patriarchy is natural.<br />
Human biology and genetics explain male control.<br />
Bateman's principle: male dominance is a human<br />
universal as a result of our biological makeup.<br />
Females invest more energy into producing<br />
offspring than males, and, as a result, females are<br />
a resource over which males compete.<br />
Culture<br />
Social constructionists<br />
Gender is a social construct.<br />
Patriarchy is learned.<br />
We have very similar hardware,<br />
just the software is different.<br />
Since the feminist movement and the<br />
flood of women into the workforce,<br />
social constructionism has<br />
gained even greater traction.<br />
Essentialism is the view that every entity has a<br />
set of attributes that are necessary to its identity<br />
and function. In gender studies, the essentialist<br />
idea that men and women are fundamentally<br />
different (some qualities being essentially male<br />
and some female) continues to be a matter of<br />
contention.<br />
ONE IS NOT BORN,<br />
BUT RA<strong>THE</strong>R<br />
BECOMES<br />
A WOMAN.<br />
— Simone De Beauvoir, The Second Sex<br />
Judith Butler is the most influential gender theorist.<br />
Judith Butler is best known for her books Gender Trouble: Feminism and the<br />
Subversion of Identity and Bodies That Matter: On the Discursive Limits of<br />
Sex. In these books, she challenges conventional notions of gender and develops<br />
her theory of gender performativity. This theory has had a major influence<br />
on feminist and queer scholarship. Butler conceives of gender as a reiterated<br />
social performance rather than the expression of a prior reality.<br />
YOUR BEHAVIOR CREATES YOUR GENDER.<br />
WE ACT AND WALK AND SPEAK AND TALK<br />
IN WAYS THAT CONSOLIDATE AN IMPRESSION<br />
OF BEING A MAN OR BEING A WOMAN.<br />
— Judith Butler<br />
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We need to differentiate gender identity, biological sex, and gender<br />
expression.<br />
Sex Gender Sexual Orientation<br />
Biological traits that<br />
society associates<br />
with being male or<br />
female.<br />
Cultural meanings attached to being<br />
masculine and feminine, which influences<br />
personal identities. Gender identity is usually<br />
established by age three.<br />
Cisgender people identify with the sex<br />
assigned at birth, transgender people don’t.<br />
Sexual attraction,<br />
practices and identity that<br />
may or may not align with<br />
sex and gender.<br />
A RECENT SURVEY OF A THOUSAND MILLENNIALS<br />
FOUND THAT HALF OF <strong>THE</strong>M THINK<br />
GENDER IS A SPECTRUM<br />
Social movements tend to use different tactics to reach their objective.<br />
Like any social struggle, feminism is also multi-faceted. It has used different<br />
tactics and strategies over time.<br />
There is a full spectrum of feminist activists.<br />
EMMA<br />
WATSON<br />
More<br />
consensual<br />
tactics<br />
More<br />
radical<br />
tactics<br />
FEMEN<br />
And different waves.<br />
First Wave:<br />
Second Wave:<br />
Third Wave:<br />
Women’s right to vote.<br />
Equal pay and reproductive rights.<br />
Media portrayal, gender roles, sex positivity, pay inequality,<br />
glass ceiling, sexual harrassment, domestic abuse,<br />
reproductive rights, androcentric world.<br />
Fourth Wave:<br />
Social media activism. Fourth wave feminism is defined by<br />
technology.<br />
#MeToo #YesAllWomen #AskHerMore<br />
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It’s important to be aware of the danger of white feminism.<br />
White feminism is a form of feminism that focuses on the struggles of white<br />
women while failing to address the distinct forms of oppression often faced by<br />
women of color and women lacking other privileges.<br />
Feminism can easily turn into<br />
neocolonialism.<br />
Image: Janna Yashchuk<br />
Just look at this French campaign used in<br />
Algeria in 1958.<br />
Image: whitefeministcollectionagency.tumblr.com<br />
Revealing our society’s double<br />
standards.<br />
Image: everydayfeminism.com<br />
Image: Malcolm Evans<br />
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As the famous feminist slogan says: Don’t liberate me, I can do it!<br />
IF YOU HAVE COME HERE TO HELP ME, YOU ARE<br />
WASTING YOUR TIME. BUT IF YOU HAVE COME<br />
BECAUSE YOUR LIBERATION IS BOUND UP WITH<br />
MINE, <strong>THE</strong>N LET US WORK TOGE<strong>THE</strong>R.<br />
— Lilla Watson<br />
Intersectionality is the belief that oppressions are interlinked and cannot<br />
be solved alone.<br />
Opressive institutions (racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism,<br />
xenophobia, classism, etc.) are interconnected. The term intersectionality was<br />
coined by the American feminist, Kimberlé Crenshaw.<br />
IF YOU'RE STANDING IN <strong>THE</strong> PATH OF MULTIPLE FORMS<br />
OF EXCLUSION, YOU'RE LIKELY TO GET HIT BY BOTH.<br />
— Kimberlé Crenshaw<br />
Some books explain the rise of black feminism.<br />
Ain't I a Woman? by Bell Hooks is deeply critical of the racism inherent in the<br />
thought of many middle-class white feminists who have failed to address issues<br />
of race and class.<br />
Christine Delphy co-founded the journal Nouvelles Questions Féministes with<br />
Simone de Beauvoir in the 1970s and became one of the most influential figures<br />
in French feminism.<br />
Today, Delphy remains a prominent and controversial thinker, a rare public voice<br />
denouncing the racist motivations of the government’s 2011 ban of the Muslim<br />
veil.<br />
<strong>THE</strong>RE IS NO SUCH THING AS A<br />
SINGLE-ISSUE STRUGGLE BECAUSE<br />
WE DO NOT LIVE SINGLE-ISSUE LIVES.<br />
— Audre Lorde Co-Founders of Ms. Magazine:<br />
Gloria Steinem and Dorothy<br />
Pitman Hughes.
Islamic feminism is a form of feminism concerned with the role of women<br />
in Islam.<br />
It aims for the full equality of all Muslims, regardless of gender, in public and<br />
private life. Islamic feminists advocate women's rights, gender equality, and<br />
social justice grounded in an Islamic framework.<br />
Advocates of the movement seek to highlight the deeply rooted teachings of<br />
equality in the religion and to encourage a questioning of the patriarchal<br />
interpretation of Islamic teaching through the Quran, Hadith (sayings of<br />
Muhammad), and Sharia (law) towards the creation of a more equal and just<br />
society.<br />
Moroccan Fatima Mernissi was largely concerned with Islam and women's<br />
roles in it, as in her essay Beyond the Veil.<br />
Leila Ahmed is an Egyptian American writer on Islam and Islamic feminism.<br />
In her seminal work, Women and Gender in Islam (1992), Ahmed argues that<br />
the oppressive practices to which women in the Middle East are subjected<br />
are caused by the prevalence of patriarchal interpretations of Islam rather<br />
than Islam itself.<br />
Islamic doctrine developed within an androcentric, misogynist society, that of<br />
Abbasid Iraq, the customs of which were largely inherited from the Sasanian<br />
Empire after its conquest.<br />
According to Ahmed, veiling was prevalent in pre-Islamic society to<br />
differentiate veiled free women from non-veiled slaves.<br />
Colonial feminism was a Western discourse of dominance that, "introduced<br />
the notion that an intrinsic connection existed between the issue of culture<br />
and the status of women, and that progress for women could be achieved<br />
only through abandoning the native culture."<br />
Amina Wadud is an American scholar of Islam with a progressive focus on<br />
Qur'an exegesis.<br />
Wadud decided to lead Friday prayers (salat) for a<br />
congregation in the United States, breaking with Islamic<br />
laws, which allows only male imams (prayer leaders) in<br />
mixed-gender congregations. In her essay Qur’an and<br />
Women, she reads the sacred text from a woman's<br />
perspective.<br />
Musawah ("equality" in Arabic) is a global movement<br />
for equality and justice in the Muslim community.<br />
Angela Davis
BUT WHAT IS PATRIARCHY?<br />
Patriarchy is a social system in which men are considered to have a monopoly<br />
on power and women are expected to submit.<br />
The rule of the father.<br />
Patriarchy is a social system in which males hold primary power,<br />
predominately in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege,<br />
and control of property; in the domain of the family, fathers or father figures<br />
hold authority over women and children.<br />
Patriarchy is a system of domination enforced through violence and the threat<br />
of violence.<br />
It is a system developed and controlled by powerful men, in which women,<br />
children, other men, and nature itself are dominated.<br />
Patriarchy is everywhere.<br />
It is a power structure.<br />
Trickling down from the myths and archetypal stories down to the choice of<br />
your razor blade.<br />
Thinking that we are free of gender is the biggest denial of our times.<br />
PATRIARCHY HAS NO GENDER.<br />
— Bell Hooks<br />
I KNOW ENOUGH WOMEN WHO ARE TOTALLY PATRIARCHAL,<br />
WHO ARE TOTALLY ANTI-WOMEN, WHO DO NASTY THINGS<br />
TO O<strong>THE</strong>R WOMEN, AND I HAVE KNOWN MEN WHO HAVE<br />
WORKED FOR WOMEN’S RIGHTS <strong>THE</strong>IR WHOLE LIFE.<br />
FEMINISM IS NOT BIOLOGICAL: FEMINISM IS AN IDEOLOGY.<br />
— Kamla Bhasin<br />
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We need to work on many levels.<br />
Meta Cultural Level<br />
Universal Stories/Myths<br />
/Archetypes/Religions<br />
Create new belief systems, images, roles.<br />
Global Level<br />
Media<br />
Words<br />
Education<br />
City<br />
Leadership/Workplace<br />
Relationships<br />
Literature, Advertising, Cinema, Music, Comics, Art, TV,<br />
Photography.<br />
Language, Jokes, Common Expressions, Insults.<br />
Household Chores, School, Playground, Toys, Sports, Body<br />
Posture, Sex Education, Clothes.<br />
Urbanism, Transport.<br />
Boardrooms, Political Representation, Equal Pay, Money and<br />
Investment, Tech and Science, Public Speaking.<br />
Dating, Sex Practices, Porn, Sexual Assault, Sex Trade,<br />
Domestic Violence, Harrassment, Rape, Prostitution.<br />
Individual Level<br />
Girls<br />
Boys<br />
Body Image, Self-Esteem, Confidence, Talkativeness.<br />
Emotional Intelligence, Repressed Feelings, Violence.<br />
Simply put, patriarchy is a system of domination and control that privileges<br />
cisgender men at the expense of everyone else (though notably to varying<br />
degrees and in different ways, since the benefits of patriarchy exist at<br />
intersections of other forms of domination and oppression).<br />
Patriarchy, as is the case with other related systems of oppression like white<br />
supremacy, relies on violence (both literal and symbolic) deployed against<br />
cisgender women, transgender people, and gender non-conforming people in<br />
order to maintain supremacy.<br />
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If you believe that…<br />
There is a hierarchy between races,<br />
you are racist.<br />
There is a hierarchy between sexual<br />
orientation, you are homophobic/transphobic.<br />
There is a hierarchy between genders, you<br />
are sexist.<br />
SEXISM IS STILL<br />
CONFUSED WITH NATURE<br />
AS RACISM ONCE WAS.<br />
— Gloria Steinem<br />
Yet, many men and women do not consider themselves as feminist<br />
because...<br />
They don’t know the exact definition.<br />
They assume it means women are superior to men.<br />
They assume it means women are identical to men.<br />
They assume it means being a violent and aggressive activist.<br />
They are afraid to be badly perceived by others.<br />
Patriarchy is generally not an explicit ongoing effort by men to dominate<br />
women.<br />
It is a long-standing system that we are born into and participate in, mostly<br />
unconsciously.<br />
A QUESTION OF PRIVILEGE<br />
PRIVILEGE IS INVISIBLE TO THOSE WHO HAVE IT.<br />
— Michael Kimmel<br />
PRIVILEGE IS REVEALED MORE CLEARLY TO THOSE<br />
WHO DON’T HAVE IT.<br />
— Hugo Schwyzer<br />
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Most men (and some women) around the world think sexism is not an<br />
issue anymore.<br />
PRIVILEGE IS WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING<br />
IS NOT A PROBLEM BECAUSE IT’S<br />
NOT A PROBLEM TO YOU PERSONALLY.<br />
This is what Roland Barthes calls “exnomination.” Male gender is considered the<br />
norm, so the problem then lies with the other, which men feel they do not belong<br />
to.<br />
A few examples of male privilege:<br />
Privilege of a gender that confers authority.<br />
Privilege to show skin and dress as you wish.<br />
Privilege of seeing yourself widely and positively represented in the media.<br />
Privilege of having political officials fight for issues that pertain to your sex.<br />
Privilege of having major religions in the world led by individuals of your sex.<br />
Privilege to move or date without fear of harassment, assault, or rape.<br />
Prevalence of Street Harassment in the U.S.<br />
65%<br />
57%<br />
41%<br />
25%<br />
18%<br />
16%<br />
Overall Prevalence<br />
of Harassment<br />
Verbal Harassment<br />
Physically Agressive<br />
Harrassment<br />
Data: Stop Street Harassment, 2014 Study<br />
Becoming aware of your privilege should<br />
not be viewed as a burden or a source of<br />
guilt but rather an opportunity to learn and<br />
be responsible so that we may work toward<br />
a more just and inclusive world.<br />
FEMINISM IS FOR<br />
EVERYBODY.<br />
— Bell Hooks<br />
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Most common reactions to male privilege.<br />
Defensiveness: “I’m not going to feel guilty for what I inherited. If some people<br />
don’t have those same privileges, tough luck!”<br />
Paralyzing guilt: “This is just so unfair, but what am I supposed to do about it!?<br />
I never asked for this, and one little person can’t change a system that’s been<br />
around for hundreds of years!”<br />
Reacting with guilt or defensiveness does not help.<br />
“Guilt is a profoundly conservative emotion and as such is not particularly<br />
useful for bringing about change. From a position of insecurity and guilt,<br />
people do not change or inspire others to change.”<br />
“If we inherit injustice, we should never feel guilty. We are not responsible for<br />
that past. However, if we choose to do nothing about it going forward, then<br />
we have plenty to feel guilty about.”<br />
Source: The Construction of Masculinity, Michael Kaufman<br />
Let's be clear. Not everybody is in favor of equality.<br />
Men’s rights activists, white supremacists, or groups like the Return of the<br />
Kings consider feminism to be evil.<br />
The famous “anti-diversity memo” from a former Google employee argued<br />
that women are underrepresented in the tech world due to biological<br />
differences.<br />
The “Mariage pour tous” movement in France is campaigning against any<br />
gender awareness teaching in schools.<br />
So, yes, there is a conservative backlash wishing to return to “the good ol’<br />
times.”<br />
WHEN YOU’RE ACCUSTOMED TO PRIVILEGE,<br />
EQUALITY FEELS LIKE OPPRESSION<br />
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Change triggers fear.<br />
Standard gender roles are safe and comforting.<br />
Change is uncomfortable:<br />
Will I lose my privilege?<br />
What is my new role?<br />
What is my identity?<br />
What is OK and not OK now? I am lost.<br />
A lot of men fear losing their power.<br />
According to Hanna Rosin in The End of Men, men in the US are set to<br />
dominate just 2 of the 15 categories of jobs projected to grow in the next<br />
decade: computer engineering and janitoring.<br />
According to Grayson Perry in The Descent of Man, “men are sold a big<br />
dream of power, but it goes only to a privileged few. A lot of men are sold the<br />
narrative of power and domination but lead lives of frustration and servitude.<br />
No wonder they get angry. Anger is a response to the feeling of powerlessness.<br />
The idea that gender is in our genes is convenient. It leaves us off the<br />
hook, with no need to think or reflect. Feminism has always been<br />
forward-looking. We believe women’s rights will come, that change shall be<br />
embraced. Many men are nostalgic. Masculinity so far is harking back to<br />
some mythical age when “men were men.” A time when men dominated<br />
women. A positive change in masculinity would be a massive positive change<br />
for the world.”<br />
Denial is still widespread.<br />
A way to avoid change is to refuse to acknowledge the problem.<br />
Denial takes many forms:<br />
Questioning the figures.<br />
Relativizing the situation.<br />
Saying it’s already better now.<br />
Making jokes.<br />
Being cynical about the situation.<br />
Blaming the other.<br />
Leveraging different strategies as defense mechanisms and protection.<br />
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We need to differentiate between equality and equity.<br />
Equity means acknowledging one’s privilege and accepting that extra help is<br />
given to those who have less.<br />
HE WHO ACCEPTS EVIL<br />
WITHOUT PROTESTING<br />
AGAINST IT IS REALLY<br />
COOPERATING WITH IT.<br />
— Martin Luther King Jr.<br />
HOW WAS THIS POWER<br />
SYSTEM CREATED?<br />
In The Creation of Patriarchy, Gerda Lerner explains how the patriarchal<br />
system was created.<br />
The first step was the realization of the male role in procreation.<br />
The first signs of patriarchy ocurred in the Neolithic Era between 10,200 BCE<br />
and 2,000 BCE. Neolithic humans relied on a system where men were the<br />
hunters of a tribe and women were the gatherers.<br />
During this time, the realization occurred that it took a male and female to<br />
produce offspring.<br />
It is theorized that with this realization, these Neolithic men first became aware<br />
of their role in paternity.<br />
With the domestication of animals and the development of animal husbandry,<br />
the function of the male in the process of procreation became more apparent<br />
and better understood.<br />
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PRIVATE PROPERTY IS <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong> HISTORIC<br />
DEFEAT OF FEMALE SEX.<br />
— Friedrich Engels<br />
With this new concept of ownership came the desire to leave private herds<br />
to the descendants of the owner.<br />
These same men also began to take private ownership over their individual<br />
herds. Prior to this development, the people of the Paleolithic Era had shared<br />
both land and supplies.<br />
Because of this new desire, it became necessary for women to be virgins<br />
before marriage and for them to abstain from adultery after marriage so that<br />
men could be sure their offspring were their own.<br />
With this new control over women began the earliest patriarchal families.<br />
Patriarchy was furthered at the end of the Neolithic Era when women<br />
began to be traded as commodities.<br />
The commodification of women could be seen in arranged marriages between<br />
families or villages, women being forced to have sex with visitors as a deed of<br />
hospitality, and ritual rapes during festivals to insure prosperity.<br />
Women were treated as commodities, and they became accustomed to this<br />
identification from a young age.<br />
Women’s values lay in their reproduction, especially in farming villages. In<br />
these villages, more people were needed to work the land and sustain the<br />
population, so women were expected to produce a large amount of offspring.<br />
Children became an economic asset, and if women were unable to produce<br />
them, they were seen as worthless. The idea of women being good only for<br />
their womb remains even into today’s society.<br />
Patriarchal dominance moved from private practice into public law.<br />
Sales contracts appear in the Bible and the Code of Hammurabi.<br />
Marriage becomes wife purchase.<br />
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The decisive transition was the institutionalization of slavery.<br />
Women were the majority of the first enslaved people.<br />
The veil helped to distinguish married and respectable women from slaves.<br />
Commercial prostitution derived from the enslavement of women.<br />
The practice of raping women of a conquered group became essential to the<br />
structure of patriarchal institutions — Rome was built on the rape of the<br />
Sabines.<br />
As culture evolved, patriarchal society grew increasingly misogynistic.<br />
Ancient Greece played a large role in the increase of patriarchal practices.<br />
As men gained equal rights, women lost many of theirs.<br />
Women were the legal wards of either their father or their husband and had no<br />
rights of their own; they could not inherit property.<br />
A woman during this time did not even have custody over her children, as they<br />
belonged to her husband.<br />
Additionally, if a woman committed adultery, she would either be banished or<br />
executed. While men were able to find sexual freedom with legal sexual<br />
outlets, most women could not leave their homes without permission from a<br />
father or husband.<br />
Source: The Creation of Patriarchy. Gerda Lerner<br />
AND NEW MYTHS AND STORIES WERE<br />
WRITTEN TO SHAPE FUTURE<br />
GENERATIONS<br />
There is an invisible “storage unit” for our habits.<br />
These invisible information fields are called morphogenetic fields. DNA isn’t<br />
the only way evolution pass on critical information.<br />
There is a collective storage, like the Internet, where you put in information<br />
that can be accessed by everyone else.<br />
How can we tap into it and change the ideas of patriarchy?<br />
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Joseph Campbell explains how myths create reality.<br />
Myths present ideas that guide perception, conditioning us to think and<br />
perceive in a certain way, especially when we are young and impressionable.<br />
We learn what is socially acceptable.<br />
Myths maintain ideals and values. They justify rules and traditional practices.<br />
Leading metaphors define and shape our cultural heritage.<br />
Symbolic construct is key to the acceptance of the system.<br />
Subordination of women became completely accepted since it seemed<br />
natural to both men and women.<br />
It is seen as natural, and thus invisible.<br />
Thanks to myths and stories, women did not realize they were oppressed.<br />
So, myths have an important role in the creation of a power system.<br />
Gender symbolism in creation stories proves a reliable guide to sex roles<br />
and sexual identities in a given society.<br />
According to research by Peggy Reeves Sanday, out of 112 world creation<br />
stories collected in different countries, 50% identified a male deity at the<br />
origin of the world, 32% a divine couple, and 18% a female deity.<br />
When the world was created by a male deity, 17% of fathers cared for infants.<br />
When the world was created by a couple, 34% did.<br />
And when the world was created by a female deity, 63% did.<br />
CREATION MYTHS ARE NOT ABOUT <strong>THE</strong> ORIGINS OF <strong>THE</strong><br />
<strong>WORLD</strong> AT ALL, BUT ABOUT <strong>THE</strong> ORIGINS OF PATRIARCHY<br />
WHICH HAS CLAIMED ITSELF AS <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong>.<br />
— Jane Caputi<br />
So, in antiquity, major god figures and symbols underwent a sex change.<br />
The power of creation and fertility was progressively transferred from<br />
Goddess to God.<br />
Who creates life?<br />
Who brings evil into the world?<br />
Who mediates between humans and the supernatural?<br />
The masculinizing of religion resulted, always and everywhere, in hostility
towards the woman and the body.<br />
The symbolic devaluing of women is one of the founding metaphors of<br />
Western civilization.<br />
Major gender symbols and metaphors of Western civilization are derived from<br />
Mesopotamian and Hebrew sources.<br />
Two key metaphorical constructs:<br />
Bible<br />
Greek philosophy<br />
The Book of Genesis contains the most significant symbols concerning<br />
gender.<br />
There is no longer any maternal source for the creation of the universe.<br />
Man is the mother of the woman.<br />
The Bible served as divine sanction for the subordination of women for<br />
2,000 years.<br />
Starting with Eve, created from man's rib, and her temptation that caused<br />
humankind's fall from Paradise.<br />
Women are inferior human beings who lie and seduce men into committing<br />
sins.<br />
Women cannot speak to God anymore. It is still the case today. In 2016, Pope<br />
Francis reiterated women will never be Roman catholic priests.<br />
Strong women are dangerous.<br />
In Jewish folklore, Lilith appears as Adam's first wife, who was created at the<br />
same time and from the same dirt as Adam. Lilith left Adam after she refused to<br />
become subservient to him. She coupled with the archangel Samael and would<br />
not return to the Garden of Eden. She later becomes a winged female demon<br />
who kills infants. Her legend serves to demonstrate how, when unchecked,<br />
female sexuality is disruptive and destructive.<br />
Abraham's will to sacrifice his beloved son Isaac proves that obedience is<br />
superior to love.<br />
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In Greece, the Theogony defines Zeus's ascension to power.<br />
Male gods take power from the forces of the chaos identified with fertility<br />
goddesses. From all powerful Zeus swallowing his wife Methis and giving birth<br />
by himself to Athena to Pandora who opened the box that contained all evil<br />
(Hesiod).<br />
According to Riane Eisler, Greece was built on a "dominator system."<br />
In Greek mythology, cruel and barbarian Zeus maintains supremacy by raping<br />
goddesses and mortal women.<br />
Socrates, who supported the education of women, was sentenced to death<br />
for corrupting the youth.<br />
According to Aristotle: Some are meant to rule and others to be ruled. Slaves<br />
and women shall be ruled by men, the rest violates the natural order.<br />
Passive princesses like Andromeda wait for the liberation and protection by<br />
courageous princes. And married women wait patiently and faithfully for their<br />
men to return from war/work/travel, like Penelope.<br />
And religious systems have perpetuated these myths.<br />
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the<br />
head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God.”<br />
— Bible, Corinthians 11:3<br />
“Blessed are you, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, who has not made me<br />
a woman.”<br />
— Jewish Morning Blessings.<br />
“The pagans pray to females.” — Quran<br />
MAN ENJOYS <strong>THE</strong> GREAT ADVANTAGE OF<br />
HAVING A GOD ENDORSE <strong>THE</strong> CODE HE WRITES;<br />
AND SINCE MAN EXERCISES A<br />
SOVEREIGN AUTHORITY OVER WOMEN<br />
IT IS ESPECIALLY FORTUNATE THAT<br />
THIS AUTHORITY HAS BEEN VESTED<br />
IN HIM BY <strong>THE</strong> SUPREME BEING.<br />
— Simone de Beauvoir<br />
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HOW DID THIS SYSTEM MAINTAIN ITSELF?<br />
For nearly 4,000 years, women have shaped their lives under paternalistic<br />
dominance.<br />
The basis of paternalism is an unwritten contract of exchange: Economic<br />
support and protection given by the male in exchange for sexual service and<br />
unpaid domestic service given by the female.<br />
It was a rational choice for women under conditions of public powerlessness<br />
and economic dependency.<br />
Women also shared class privileges with men in exchange for their special<br />
economic political and intellectual subordination.<br />
Ignorance of our own history keeps women subordinate.<br />
For over a millennia, women have unconsciously participated in their own<br />
oppression because psychologically they’ve been taught to internalize the<br />
idea of their own inferiority.<br />
This indoctrination begins in early childhood and continues through<br />
adulthood.<br />
Patriarchy is secured through various means: gender indoctrination,<br />
educational deprivation, denial to women of knowledge of their history,<br />
dividing of women, coercion, discrimination in access to economic and<br />
political resources, and by awarding class privileges to conforming women.<br />
You will not be loved unless you obey: mothers have been shaping their<br />
children to conform “for their own good.” Conform or be rejected.<br />
Some women play an important role in keeping the patriarchy alive.<br />
As recently as November 8, 2016, 53% of American white women who voted,<br />
voted to support the presidential campaign of Donald Trump, despite his use of<br />
racist and sexist rhetoric. Again, it is hard to let go of privilege.<br />
Source: The Creation of Patriarchy. Gerda Lerner<br />
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According to Riane Eisler, the problem is not men as a sex but men and<br />
women socialized in a dominator system.<br />
Our dominator-dominated way of relating to other human beings is so<br />
internalized by early childhood that we are not aware of it anymore.<br />
We consider it obvious that some people rule and other people are meant to<br />
be ruled.<br />
A mind socialized to submit to male authority will tend to turn to the protection<br />
of a strong leader in times of crisis.<br />
In religious books, as in totalitarian regimes, obedience is the supreme virtue.<br />
All is not hopeless if we recognize it is not human nature but a dominator<br />
model of society that drives us to war.<br />
Source: The Chalice and the Blade, Riane Eisler<br />
The great chain of being taught us how to rank people.<br />
God<br />
Culture — Rights<br />
Man<br />
Woman<br />
Children<br />
Nature — Resources<br />
People of Color<br />
Animals<br />
Nature<br />
<strong>THE</strong> FIRST STEP IS TO<br />
DEBUNK <strong>THE</strong> MYTHS<br />
Source: The Chalice and the Blade, Riane Eisler<br />
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FALSE<br />
MYTH #1:<br />
PATRIARCHY IS NATURAL<br />
Man the hunter, superior in physical strength, naturally protects and defends the<br />
more vulnerable female.<br />
Big game hunting was an auxiliary pursuit. The main food supply came from<br />
gathering fruit and small game-hunting.<br />
Cooperation was necessary between the hunter who provided the meat while<br />
the gatherers collected food for subsistence.<br />
Roles were different but not hierarchical.<br />
We should not mistake what is habitual for what is natural.<br />
FALSE<br />
MAN <strong>THE</strong> HUNTER IS A MYTH TO PRESERVE MALE SUPREMACY<br />
AND HEGEMONY.<br />
— Elise Boulding<br />
MYTH #2:<br />
PATRIARCHY HAS BEEN HERE FOREVER<br />
Patriarchy developed over a period of 2,500 years from 3,100 BC to 600 BC, at<br />
different paces in different societies.<br />
Patriarchy is a system that originated in history, which means that it is neither<br />
eternal nor inevitable.<br />
Equality between the sexes was the general norm in the Neolithic Era.<br />
Pre-patriarchal society was remarkably egalitarian, as the archeological sites<br />
of Catal Huyuk and Hacilar in Turkey confirm.<br />
The primary purpose of life was not to conquer and loot but to cultivate earth<br />
and provide for a satisfying life.<br />
There was no sign of warfare in over 15 centuries. In Crete, for example, power<br />
was not equated with dominance, destruction, and oppression. Power was a<br />
responsibility and represented the interests of people.<br />
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MYTH #3:<br />
ANATOMY IS DESTINY<br />
Woman’s reproductive capacity confines her chief goal in life to motherhood.<br />
FALSE<br />
This is ahistorical: Anatomy was destiny.<br />
Due to bipedalism, female hominids developed a narrow pelvis and birth<br />
canal. Thus, human babies are born at an earlier stage of maturity and require<br />
support for years to move, eat, etc.<br />
In prehistoric times, this required a division of labor necessary for group<br />
survival.<br />
Today, men and women do not live in the same state of nature as Neolithic<br />
humans. To claim that only female nurturance is unchanging among all human<br />
activities is to consign half the human race to a lower state.<br />
FALSE<br />
MYTH #4:<br />
GOD HAS ALWAYS BEEN MALE<br />
Before the secret of fecundity was understood, the female was revered as the<br />
giver of life.<br />
According to Merlin Stone, in her book When God Was A Woman, the Great<br />
Goddess or the Divine Ancestress was worshipped from the beginning of the<br />
Neolithic Era in 7,000 BC until the closing of the last Goddess temples in AD<br />
500.<br />
From India to the Mediterranean, the Goddess reigned supreme.<br />
Ashtoreth or Astarte was known in Canaan as the Near Eastern Queen of<br />
Heaven. Archaelogical evidence shows that her religion flourished thousands<br />
of years before the arrival of the patriarchal Abraham.<br />
The same religion flourished all around the Mediterranean for at least 7,000<br />
years in Iraq, Iran, India, Saudi Arabia, Lebanon, Jordan, Palestine, Egypt,<br />
Sinai, Libya, Syria, Turkey, Greece, and Italy.<br />
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In this world of peace and creativity, women were self-confident.<br />
Religion supports and perpetuates the social organization it reflects.<br />
In societies where the supreme Goddess was perceived as a wise provider,<br />
women would internalize a very different self-image.<br />
They would see themselves as competent, independent, creative, inventive.<br />
Society recognized its oneness with nature, an interconnected life system.<br />
The power began shifting with the northern invasions of the Indo-Aryan<br />
warriors in 2300 BC.<br />
Conquerors brought with them the concept of light as good and dark as evil.<br />
They introduced a supreme male deity, a storm god high on a mountain,<br />
blazing with fire.<br />
Female deities were associated with snakes or dragons, most of the time evil.<br />
Gospel says: “I have come to destroy the works of the female.”<br />
AD 300: Emperor Constantin suppresses worship of Ashtoreth in Canaan and<br />
declares it immoral.<br />
AD 380: Theodosius closes The Temple of Artemis at Ephesus, one of the<br />
Seven Wonders of the Ancient World.<br />
AD 450: The Parthenon of the Acropolis in Athens, dedicated to the Goddess<br />
since 1300 BC, is transformed into a church.<br />
In Arabia, Prophet Muhammad brought to an end the national worship of Sun<br />
Goddess Al Lat and Al Uzza (Allah God, Allat Goddess).<br />
So our memory is very short.<br />
We only remember the past 3,000 years of the dominator system.<br />
But the partnership system of the Paleolithic Era goes back over 30,000 years!<br />
Source: The Chalice and the Blade, Riane Eisler<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> END OF AN ERA<br />
We are reaching the limits of the system.<br />
Our masculine militarism is the most energy-intensive activity in the world.<br />
World military budgets amount to roughly $800 billion per year. We live in an<br />
economic system based on war.<br />
IF <strong>THE</strong> WHOLE <strong>WORLD</strong> STOPPED SPENDING MONEY<br />
ON <strong>THE</strong> MILITARY FOR JUST EIGHT DAYS,<br />
WE COULD PROVIDE 12 YEARS OF FREE,<br />
QUALITY EDUCATION TO EVERY CHILD ON <strong>THE</strong> PLANET.<br />
— Malala Yousafzai<br />
Now even nature seems to be rebelling against androcracy.<br />
Rational man subdues nature and poisons his physical environment.<br />
We see the limits of the system: destruction of rain forests, extinction of<br />
species, loss of arable soil, population growth at a fantastic rate.<br />
Ecofeminism relates the oppression and domination of all subordinate groups<br />
(women, people of color, children, the poor) to the oppression and domination<br />
of nature (animals, land, water, air, etc.).<br />
When challenged, the androcratic system reasserts masculine stereotypes<br />
Fundamentalism is also an androcentric reaction.<br />
Neither capitalism nor communism has fulfilled its promises.<br />
Disillusionment leads to a return to fundamentalism.<br />
Patriarchy crushes male and female.<br />
WOMEN<br />
Limited freedom (especially sexual).<br />
Reduced visibility and<br />
representation.<br />
MEN<br />
Inner sensitive child crushed by<br />
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Who do you decide to be?<br />
LUKE/LEIA<br />
Hero looking for his identity.<br />
Teaming up with his sister.<br />
Uniting with others to fight<br />
authority and power.<br />
DARTH<br />
VADER<br />
Powerful father trying to murder his son.<br />
Fearful of superior power.<br />
Looking for prestige and power.<br />
Under armor and a mask.<br />
Supressing feelings and emotions.<br />
NOW IS <strong>THE</strong> TIME<br />
Today we are living in an age of unprecedented transformation.<br />
Patriarchy is inextricably linked to militarism, hierarchy, and racism.<br />
Patriarchy threatens the very existence of life on Earth.<br />
A feminist world view will enable women and men to free their minds from<br />
patriarchal thoughts and practice and to build a world free of dominance and<br />
hierarchy, a world that is truly human.<br />
Source: The Chalice and the Blade, Riane Eisler<br />
FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN, THIS RANKING<br />
OF ONE HALF OF <strong>THE</strong> HUMANITY OVER <strong>THE</strong> O<strong>THE</strong>R<br />
IS POISONING ALL HUMAN RELATIONS.<br />
— Alfred Adler<br />
WE NEED A CRITICAL MASS OF NEW IMAGES<br />
We need to create new myths, new stories, new symbols.<br />
Introducing a feminist reading of religious texts, for example.<br />
Jesus said nothing about strengthening male power over women. Mary<br />
Magdalene was a major figure in early Christian leadership, not a prostitute.<br />
The Woman's Bible is a two-part nonfiction book that was written by
Counter Storytelling<br />
Elizabeth Cady Stanton and a committee of 26 women in 1895. It challenges<br />
the traditional position of religious orthodoxy that woman should be<br />
subservient to man. By producing the book, Stanton wished to promote a<br />
radical liberating theology, one that stressed self-development. The book<br />
attracted a great deal of controversy and antagonism at its introduction.<br />
Challenging exclusive male access to the divine, as the new women-led<br />
mosque in Denmark does.<br />
In Women Priests Project, Italian artist Nausicaa Giulia Bianchi visually<br />
documented 70 self-ordained female priests in an attempt to highlight what<br />
many see as blatant misogyny within the Catholic hierarchy.<br />
Reclaiming stories of female goddesses.<br />
In Goddesses in Everywoman, Jean Shinoda Bolen uses seven archetypal<br />
goddesses to describe behavior patterns and personality traits. She explains<br />
how to tap the power of these enduring archetypes to become a better<br />
“heroine” in your own life story.<br />
In Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild<br />
Woman Archetype, Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés explores rich intercultural<br />
myths, fairy tales, folk tales, and stories, many from her own traditions, in<br />
order to help women reconnect with the fierce, healthy, visionary attributes of<br />
this instinctual nature.<br />
IF YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN CALLED A DEFIANT,<br />
INCORRIGIBLE, IMPOSSIBLE WOMAN… HAVE FAITH…<br />
<strong>THE</strong>RE IS STILL TIME.<br />
— Clarissa Pinkola Estés<br />
A critical mass of people can create a new archetype.<br />
From individual change to collective influence, until we create a new model<br />
where we trust love more than power.<br />
Source: Gods in Everyman. Jean Shinoda Bolen<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> TRUE FOCUS OF REVOLUTIONARY CHANGE IS<br />
NEVER MERELY <strong>THE</strong> OPPRESSIVE SITUATIONS THAT WE<br />
SEEK TO ESCAPE, BUT THAT PIECE OF <strong>THE</strong> OPPRESSOR<br />
WHICH IS PLANTED DEEP WITHIN EACH OF US.<br />
— Audre Lorde<br />
From power over to power with.<br />
Riane Eisler proposes a radical reformulation of economics, one that<br />
supports caring and caregiving at the individual, organizational, societal,<br />
and environmental levels.<br />
This "caring economics" takes into account the full spectrum of economic<br />
activities from the life-sustaining activities of the household to the life-enriching<br />
activities of caregivers and communities to the life-supporting processes of<br />
nature. Eisler exposes the economic double standard that devalues anything<br />
stereotypically associated with women and femininity and shows how this<br />
distorts our values and our lives.<br />
<strong>THE</strong> ACHIEVEMENT OF FULL EQUALITY<br />
BETWEEN SEXES IS A PREREQUISITE<br />
FOR <strong>WORLD</strong> PEACE<br />
The power of the blade and the dominator model is threatening all of human<br />
civilization now.<br />
Male dominance, male violence, and authoritarianism are not eternal givens.<br />
A more peaceful and egalitarian world is achievable in our future.<br />
Are we finally reaching the end of a 5,000-year androcratic detour?<br />
Source: The Chalice and the Blade, Riane Eisler<br />
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SOCIETIES ADHERING CLOSELY<br />
TO <strong>THE</strong> DOMINATION SYSTEM<br />
SOCIETIES ADHERING CLOSELY<br />
TO <strong>THE</strong> PARTNERSHIP SYSTEM<br />
CORE CONFIGURATION:<br />
Authoritarian control in both the family and state<br />
or tribe.<br />
The subordination of the female half of humanity<br />
to the male half.<br />
The devaluation of caring, nonviolence, and other<br />
stereotypically "soft" values.<br />
Hierarchies of domination based on “power over.”<br />
A high degree of institutionalized or built-in fear,<br />
coercion, and violence.<br />
CORE CONFIGURATION:<br />
A more democratic organization in both the family<br />
and state or tribe.<br />
The male and female halves of humanity are equally<br />
valued.<br />
Values such as caring and nonviolence are highly<br />
regarded in both women and men.<br />
Hierarchies of actualization based on “power to”<br />
and “power with” - a low degree of institutionalized<br />
or built-in fear, coercion, and violence, as they are<br />
not needed to impose and maintain rigid rankings.<br />
Man over man, man over woman, race over race,<br />
religion over religion, and so on.<br />
Source: Riane Eisler. Center for Partnership.<br />
A good place to start is with ourselves.<br />
We need to become watchful of our inner programming. Most of our hidden<br />
written history carries a heavy dominator stamp. If you have only experienced<br />
relations of domination, you believe there is only one alternative: either you<br />
dominate or you are dominated, either patriarchy or matriarchy. It is not true. The<br />
domination model leads to imbalanced relations with ourselves, our planet, and<br />
those with whom we share the planet. Once we become aware of what we carry<br />
unconsciously, we can change. Challenging ingrained notions of masculinity and<br />
femininity is a healing experience. It helps to reclaim our own inner balance, to<br />
live happier and more meaningful lives. We need to do inner and outer work to<br />
transcend our dominator upbringings. And then we will change the stories. We<br />
can cultivate the spiritual courage to challenge religious dominator stories and<br />
rules that are inhuman. We can create partnership fables and myths.<br />
The movement to shift from domination to partnership in all aspects of our<br />
lives - from the personal to the political - is the fastest growing and the<br />
most powerful movement in the world today.<br />
Source: Riane Eisler. The Power of Partnership<br />
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Chapter 1 – Education<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
GENDER-NEUTRAL<br />
PARENTING IS AN ILLUSION<br />
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From a very young age, our children are trapped in boxes.<br />
IF WE<br />
THINK WE<br />
RAISE OUR<br />
GIRLS AND BOYS<br />
EQUAL, WE NEED A<br />
REALITY CHECK.<br />
— Laura Bates, founder of Everyday Sexism<br />
Starting with children's clothes. Some examples:<br />
Hipercor Spain launched baby clothes saying: Smart like Daddy, Cute like<br />
Mummy.<br />
Avenger’s T-shirts slogans: Be a hero/I need a hero.<br />
And Gap had to withdraw a campaign where the girl was labeled the social<br />
butterfly next to a boy called the little scholar.<br />
But it’s not only about the messages. Our clothes are gendered and favor<br />
autonomy or dependence.<br />
Boys’ clothes are supposed to be comfortable while<br />
girls’ clothes ought to be pretty. Girls’ clothes hinder<br />
movement and exploration (dresses or skirts). Adults<br />
tend to tell girls to respect their clothes, e.g. "eat<br />
properly," "don't climb trees." Boys' clothing is easier<br />
for boys to take on and off, like Velcro, while girls<br />
clothing requires help, like laces and delicate outfits.<br />
On special school days, girls are encouraged to stick<br />
to princess outfits while boys have more choices.<br />
Girls are reminded by schools that they are not allowed to wear what they<br />
want.<br />
Frequently, female students are told to "dress for their bodies.”<br />
Wearing shorts and a tank top does not impede upon a female student's ability<br />
to learn, nor should it impede upon the ability of a teacher to teach. This strict<br />
dress code perpetuates rape culture by suggesting to girls that their way of
dress is punishable and justifies their sexualization.<br />
Girls are responsible for dressing modestly to avoid “distracting” their male<br />
counterparts.<br />
Source: Rapport sur l'égalité entre les<br />
filles et les garçons dans les modes<br />
d'accueil de la petite enfance.<br />
Rebekah Lowin. TODAY<br />
Children's movies shape our kids’ psyche<br />
What Disney princes<br />
teach boys about<br />
attracting women: Be<br />
rich, famous,<br />
good-looking.<br />
What Disney princesses<br />
teach girls about attracting<br />
men: If you're beautiful<br />
enough, you may be able to<br />
escape your terrible living<br />
conditions by getting a<br />
wealthy man to fall for you.<br />
The widespread exposure of young girls to Disney princesses could lead young<br />
children, and girls especially, to believe that they cannot do certain activities and<br />
jobs that they associate with being more masculine in nature. Mulan is actually<br />
the first female character defying gender stereotypes.<br />
WE HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO MAKE HISTORY.<br />
WE HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO MAKE ART.<br />
WE HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO MAKE A STATEMENT.<br />
TO MAKE MONEY IS OUR ONLY OBJECTIVE.<br />
— Michael Eisner,<br />
Former CEO of The Walt Disney Co.<br />
This cynicism is linked to a growing concentration of the media industry. In 1983,<br />
90% of the media in the US was owned by 50 companies. In 2015, only 6<br />
companies (Comcast, Walt Disney, AOL Time Warner, News Corporation,<br />
Viacom, CBS Corporation) own 90% of the media. Today, we witness an<br />
increasing concentration of media ownership in fewer and fewer hands and a<br />
narrowing of sources of news and opinions.<br />
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And children's cartoons mostly portray males as the protagonists.<br />
According to the True Child Institute, only 15% of the characters on US<br />
Saturday morning cartoon shows are female. Of those, almost all are<br />
stereotypes, often portrayed as romantic, frail, and concerned about their<br />
appearance. Male characters are more likely to answer questions, order others<br />
around, achieve a goal, and eat!<br />
What about books?<br />
Books have an important role in children’s socialization.<br />
Women in children's books are mostly non-working mothers. When women<br />
work, they occupy stereotypical positions and they don’t have children.<br />
Children's literature is a vehicle for sexist stereotypes.<br />
Compared to females, males are represented nearly twice as often in titles<br />
and 1.6 times as often as central characters.<br />
Researchers talk about a “symbolic annihilation of women.”<br />
“One thing that surprised us is that female representations did not<br />
consistently improve from 1900 to 2000; in the mid part of the century it was<br />
actually more unequal. Books became more male-dominated.”<br />
Source: Gender in Twentieth-Century Children’s Books Patterns of Disparity in Titles and Central Characters<br />
Masculine is universal.<br />
In the US, 100% of popular children's books featuring animated animals have<br />
male characters, but only 33% have female characters.<br />
Female characters are mostly described through external attributes (clothes,<br />
hair style, jewels).<br />
The average number of books featuring male characters in the title of the book<br />
is 36.5% versus 17.5% for female characters.<br />
Male characters feature in book titles twice as much as female characters,<br />
36.5% for males to 17.5% for females.<br />
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Even in higher quality children’s literature, more subtle stereotypes<br />
remain.<br />
The adjectives used are different: girls are beautiful, sweet,<br />
weak, and scared, while boys are big, horrible, fierce, great,<br />
brave, and proud.<br />
Girls are often left out of the adventure, the thrill, the plot.<br />
It is easier to find an adventurous girl than a fearful boy.<br />
Children receive the impression that girls are not very important<br />
because no one has bothered to write books about them.<br />
Mothers label gender-neutral characters in picture books as male.<br />
We have a tendency to think of people or creatures as male unless otherwise<br />
indicated.<br />
Men are people, women are women.<br />
Boys are not encouraged to immerse themselves in books about girls.<br />
Exposing boys to female protagonists is crucial but difficult, given that these<br />
characters are highly under-represented in children's literature.<br />
Source: Soraya Chemaly. Huffington Post 2013. What Does it Mean that Most Children’s Books<br />
Are Still About White Boys?<br />
Books for girls are for girls only.<br />
Shannon Hale created the Twitter hashtag #BoysReadGirls and<br />
encouraged users to generate a list of books featuring female<br />
protagonists and start a conversation about the issue.<br />
"The more we read books about people different from us, the<br />
more empathy we have for them." – Shannon Hale<br />
Source: MIC<br />
Children’s ability to cross-gender empathize is a one-way street — girls<br />
have to do it and boys learn not to.<br />
Hale agrees that exposure to books in which women are secondary or erased<br />
altogether only reiterates a cultural landscape in which young women are valued<br />
more for their appearance and sex appeal than for their intellect.<br />
As she writes on her website, this perpetuates "the myth that women only have
things of interest to say to girls while men's voices are universally important."<br />
Failing to encourage boys to empathize with women and reinforcing the notion<br />
that women only exist to bolster men's experiences creates a reality in which,<br />
"boys aren't expected to understand and empathize with the female population<br />
of the world," Hale writes.<br />
Source: Mic 2015. Julie Zeilinger. This Author Is Exposing the Sexist Double Standard in Children's Literature.<br />
Even classroom books and material are biased.<br />
Children's books are filled with social constructs: the girl is a nurse; the boy<br />
is a firefighter.<br />
Only 5% of texts studied in French secondary schools have been written by<br />
women.<br />
Only 1% of philosophy books reference female philosophers.<br />
While 59% of European university students are women, women run just 11% of<br />
universities in France and 10% of universities in Europe.<br />
Toys exaggerate gender division.<br />
What about TOYs?<br />
Toys most associated with boys are related to<br />
fighting or aggression (wrestlers, soldiers, guns, etc.),<br />
and toys most associated with girls are related to<br />
appearance (Barbie dolls and accessories,<br />
ballerina costumes, makeup, jewelry, etc.).<br />
Toys for boys are more diverse than those for girls.<br />
Boys' toys are more likely to be associated with the external world and can be<br />
manually manipulated.<br />
Girls’ toys are less diverse and mostly linked to domestic or “maternal”<br />
activities.<br />
Girls' toys (shops, kitchens, dolls) invite role playing and the development of<br />
verbal abilities.<br />
Boys' construction toys encourage manipulation and exploration to develop<br />
spatial and analytical skills.<br />
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How to tell if a toy is<br />
for boys or girls.<br />
YES<br />
This toy<br />
is not for<br />
children.<br />
Do you<br />
operate the toy<br />
with your<br />
genitalia?<br />
NO<br />
It is for<br />
either girls<br />
or boys.<br />
Young children don't distinguish the<br />
gender of toys.<br />
Boys aged 2-3 are as likely as girls to use dolls.<br />
Researcher Isabelle Cherney found that half of<br />
boys aged 5-13 picked “girl” and “boy”<br />
toys equally... unless they were being watched.<br />
Boys were especially concerned about what<br />
their fathers would think of them if they saw<br />
them.<br />
Over time, boys’ interests in toys and media<br />
become more rigidly masculinized, whereas<br />
girls’ interests stayed relatively open-ended<br />
and flexible.<br />
Source: Rapport sur l'égalité entre les filles et les garçons<br />
dans les modes d'accueil de la petite enfance<br />
No dolls for boys<br />
Boys are especially stigmatized for crossing the gender aisle in toys and clothes.<br />
This fact seems to arise from a deep misogyny, homophobia, and transphobia. A<br />
boy who embraces femininity is perceived as weak and subordinate. Unlike the<br />
term “tomboy,” there is nothing positive about being a “sissy." There are far too<br />
many stories of children being bullied or taunted for selecting toys that are<br />
perceived as gender non-conforming.<br />
Segmenting the toy market brings greater profits by making it harder for<br />
parents to pass down items between siblings of a different sex.<br />
The division of the market into pink and blue aisles helps companies<br />
increase sales, but this color division is a recent concept.<br />
In the Victorian era, both boy and girl babies were dressed in white gowns, and<br />
there was no attempt to signal a child's gender. In the first half of the 20th century,<br />
rules began emerging for pink and blue, but they were loose. Pink was a<br />
lighter version of red, a rather masculine color. By the 1950s, pink had become<br />
strongly associated with femininity, and the creation of the Barbie doll in 1959<br />
anchored the pink dictatorship.<br />
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Pink helps to lure girls away from more active toys and games that encourage<br />
the development of spatial and analytical skills.<br />
As caregivers, which<br />
attitudes do we<br />
encourage?<br />
If you let him play with<br />
dolls, he might be...<br />
a dad one day.<br />
The illusion of gender-neutral parenting.<br />
When women did not know the sex of their baby during pregnancy, no<br />
particular pattern was perceived.<br />
Women who knew the sex of their unborn baby described the baby's<br />
movements differently:<br />
– Males were active, vigorous, strong.<br />
– Females were NOT violent, NOT excessively energetic.<br />
Even the voice mothers used to speak to the baby was different.<br />
Parents of boys expressed more pride in the news, and parents of girls<br />
expressed more happiness.<br />
So children are unequal even before birth. And then parenting begins.<br />
Source: Delusions of Gender. Cordelia Fine.<br />
Caregivers interpret babies' reactions differently.<br />
In an experiment, two groups were shown the same<br />
video of a crying baby. One group was told the baby<br />
was a girl, the other a boy. The “girl” group thought the<br />
baby was crying out of fear while the “boy” group<br />
thought it expressed anger.<br />
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When mothers underestimate girls and overestimate boys.<br />
According to research by Francoise Héritier, gendered expectations also bias<br />
mothers’ perceptions of their infants’ physical abilities:<br />
Mothers of 6-8 month-old babies were asked to estimate the steepness<br />
of the slope their babies could manage.<br />
Girls and boys had the same crawling ability, but mothers<br />
underestimated girls’ and overestimated boys’.<br />
Even though parents sincerely claim to hold the two sexes as equal, they<br />
simultaneously devalue the feminine and limit boys’ access to it.<br />
Parents talk less to baby boys and are less likely to use numbers when<br />
speaking to little girls.<br />
Babies are sensitive to the emotional reactions of caregivers.<br />
Facial expressions and tone of voice tell babies which toys should be<br />
approached or avoided.<br />
Mothers talk more to girls than to boys, and they talk about emotions<br />
differently to the two sexes.<br />
Parents’ implicit attitudes about gender might be subtly transmitted to their<br />
children.<br />
Babies learn from what is not said but expressed in more subtle ways, even if<br />
this contradicts the spoken message.<br />
Parents encourage gender-specific activities and play, which discourages<br />
cross-gender behavior.<br />
Children learn not to follow their interests or preferences for certain toys for<br />
fear of being teased.<br />
Little boys are more often invited to finish their plate than little girls. A small<br />
appetite, a control of their cravings, is valued in little girls, while voracity is<br />
praised in little boys. As a consequence, according to the UN, women suffer<br />
malnutrition twice as much as men.<br />
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Traditional gender stereotypes.<br />
Feminine<br />
Masculine<br />
Not aggressive<br />
Dependent<br />
Easily influenced<br />
Submissive<br />
Passive<br />
Gentle<br />
Talkative<br />
Home-oriented<br />
Emotional<br />
Indecisive<br />
Easily hurt emotionally<br />
Sensitive to others’ feelings<br />
Desires security<br />
Cries a lot<br />
Verbal<br />
Kind<br />
Tactful<br />
Nurturing<br />
Aggressive<br />
Independent<br />
Tough<br />
Analytical<br />
Dominant<br />
Active<br />
Worldly<br />
Decisive<br />
Cruel<br />
Blunt<br />
Not at all talkative<br />
Less sensitive to others’ feelings<br />
Risk-taking<br />
Rarely cries<br />
Logical<br />
Not nurturing<br />
Not easily influenced<br />
Not easily hurt emotionally<br />
Classroom management techniques reward obedience versus<br />
assertiveness, which puts highly active children at a disadvantage.<br />
Males demand and receive more attention from their<br />
teachers and, therefore, receive more specific and<br />
instructive feedback from teachers (Erden & Wolfgang, 2004).<br />
In comparison, females become less demanding of the<br />
teacher’s attention; that results in lower levels of achievement<br />
and self-esteem, which therefore limits their career goals<br />
to more traditional, nurturing, and often lower-paying careers.<br />
Source: Olaiya E. Aina and Petronella A. Cameron.<br />
Teachers use a different language for girls and boys.<br />
“Honey” and “Sweetie” are used to address girls, and “you guys” is used<br />
when speaking to the entire class.<br />
Teachers ask boys to speak more often, give them more time to answer,<br />
and spend more time answering their questions.<br />
Boys and girls are socialized to different activities.<br />
Boys are encouraged to join team sports involving competition and space<br />
occupancy, while girls are encouraged to engage in individual activities with<br />
less competition.<br />
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An agitated little girl will get scolded more than a boy.<br />
Girls are more oriented towards calm, seated activities<br />
while boys are engaged in mobile activities.<br />
Inside vs outside. Occupy the space vs share the space.<br />
Even storytelling is gendered.<br />
Sons are more likely to be told stories of autonomy and achievement.<br />
Daughters are more likely to be told stories of relationships or support.<br />
Fathers more often tell stories of mastery and success.<br />
Mothers’ stories are usually a direct expression of emotion.<br />
TEACH GIRLS BRAVERY, NOT PERFECTION.<br />
— Reshma Saujani, Founder of Girls Who Code<br />
And what do children see at home?<br />
Household chores are still not evenly shared.<br />
In France, women spend 1.5 hours more on household chores than men every<br />
day.<br />
In Australia, the average minutes per day of unpaid work are 311 for women<br />
and 172 for men.<br />
85% of working Indian women feel they have two jobs, one at work and<br />
another at home.<br />
This is called “the second shift,” which leads to severe burn-outs. Girls<br />
understand from a young age that the order and cleanliness of the house is<br />
their responsibility.<br />
In India, Ariel even launched a campaign called Dads #ShareTheLoad.<br />
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% of fathers and mothers who are married or living with a partner saying...<br />
Mother does more Father does more Shared equally<br />
Managing children’s schedules/activities<br />
Fathers<br />
53 6 41<br />
Mothers<br />
64 4<br />
31<br />
Taking care of children when they’re sick<br />
Fathers<br />
47 6 47<br />
Mothers<br />
62 2<br />
35<br />
Household chores and responsibilities<br />
Fathers<br />
32 12 56<br />
Mothers<br />
50 4<br />
46<br />
Source: Pew Research Center survey of parents with children under 18.<br />
And it is not only a question of time, it is also a mental load.<br />
The French comic artist Emma illustrates the concept of the mental load. The<br />
mental load is the running commentary that plays in the minds of (mostly)<br />
women, of all the things that need doing that no one else sees but you. “The<br />
problem is this is a whole job in itself,” Emma says in the comic. “So when we<br />
ask women to take on this task of organisation, and at the same time execute<br />
a large portion, in the end it represents 75 per cent of the work. It’s permanent<br />
and exhausting work. And it’s invisible.”<br />
Like all forms of inequality, the people who profit from it tend not to see it.<br />
According to research by sociologist Dr Leah Ruppanner, “when women start<br />
to cohabit, their housework time goes up while men’s goes down, regardless<br />
of their employment status.”<br />
What happens inside the house is still considered women's responsibility while<br />
men's sphere is outside the home. This idea comes partly from the 19th<br />
century, when women's mental space was voluntarily saturated to keep them<br />
under control. If women are busy running the household, they have less time<br />
to fight for their rights in the outside world.<br />
According to Titiou Lecoq, author of Libérées, le combat féministe se<br />
gagne devant le panier de linge sale, "letting go some of the power in the<br />
inner sphere is also the condition to taking more power outside."<br />
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Globally, girls spend 160 million more hours on household chores than<br />
boys their age.<br />
Worldwide, girls aged 5–9 and 10–14 spend, respectively, 30% and 50% more<br />
of their time helping around the house than boys of the same age.<br />
Globally, girls aged 5–14 spend 550 million hours every day on household<br />
chores, 160 million more hours than boys their age spend.<br />
In some regions, the gender disparities can be even more severe: In the<br />
Middle East, North Africa, and South Asia regions, girls aged 5–14 spend<br />
nearly twice as many hours per week on household chores than boys of<br />
the same age.<br />
Imagine what they could do with this time!<br />
Source: UNICEF. Harnessing the power of data for girls.<br />
Which Impact?<br />
Children build their gender stereotypes very early.<br />
Children begin to form concepts of gender beginning around age 2, and most<br />
children know if they are a boy or girl by the age of 3 (Martin & Ruble, 2004).<br />
Between the ages of 3 and 5, children develop their gender identity and begin<br />
to understand what it means to be male or female.<br />
Almost immediately after becoming gender aware, children begin developing<br />
stereotypes, which they apply to themselves and others, in an attempt to give<br />
meaning to and gain understanding about their own identity.<br />
These stereotypes are fairly well developed by the age of 5, and become<br />
rigidly defined between ages 5 and 7 (Martin & Ruble, 2004), making the<br />
preschool years a critical period to deal with gender stereotypes.<br />
Stereotypes and sexism limit potential growth and development because<br />
internalizing negative stereotypes impacts self-esteem and, ultimately,<br />
academic performance (Narahara, 1998).<br />
Long-term gender bias effects become most apparent in students during<br />
adolescence (Carlson, Egeland, & Sroufe, 2004).<br />
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Through our choice of toys, clothes, activities, and verbal or nonverbal<br />
messages, we foster the development of different skills.<br />
Playing dress-up encourages imagination and offers opportunities for the<br />
development of social skills as children engage with one another, acting out<br />
often elaborate made-up stories with one another.<br />
Activities such as riding scooters help children develop physically and<br />
personally, teaching skills like balance, spatial awareness and confidence,<br />
while strengthening their muscles.<br />
Constructing model toys and building things helps develop fine motor skills,<br />
problem solving, and language development and fosters concentration.<br />
Girls learn to...<br />
Boys learn to...<br />
Conform and be quiet.<br />
Direct energy towards physical appearance.<br />
Be of service.<br />
Use seduction as a way to get what you want.<br />
Overcompensate and overdeliver.<br />
Take risks.<br />
Speak up.<br />
Be brave.<br />
Occupy the space.<br />
Be overconfident in their abilities.<br />
Early sexualization damages children.<br />
Girls feel worse about their bodies and have lower self-esteem after exposure to<br />
sexualization.<br />
More than 70% of girls, starting as young as third grade, are unhappy with<br />
their bodies.<br />
Many report dieting by age 12. Boys, in contrast, are much happier with their<br />
bodies.<br />
Combine these statistics with studies showing that girls who were asked to play<br />
with Barbies have a worse body image after a brief play period compared to girls<br />
who were asked to play with normally-proportioned dolls.<br />
Source: Dove campaign<br />
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GENDER STEREOTYPES<br />
TAKE ROOT EARLY.<br />
ACCORDING TO A STUDY<br />
IN CHILD DEVELOPMENT,<br />
GIRLS’ AND BOYS’ ATTITUDES<br />
ABOUT MATH BEGIN TO DIVERGE<br />
AS EARLY AS SECOND GRADE.<br />
Academic aspirations start to differ.<br />
The hidden messages that girls receive about math, science, and technology<br />
shape their self-image, confidence, and interest in those subjects (Ebach, et al.<br />
2009).<br />
These messages can come from bias in the media, from family or teachers who<br />
may exhibit lower expectations for females in these subject areas, or even<br />
from the medium itself, as in the case of computer software demonstrating<br />
a high level of gender bias favoring males (McNair, Kirova Petrova, &<br />
Bhargava, 2001).<br />
Ask children to draw some professionals and you would be surprised.<br />
Children were asked to draw a nurse, a builder, a lawyer, and a banker,<br />
as well as the job they aspire to have when they grow up.<br />
Where gender was identifiable, the drawings showed a clear gender<br />
skew for specific roles:<br />
– 81% of children drew nurses as female<br />
– 88% of children drew builders as male<br />
– 80% of children drew bankers as male<br />
The most gender-balanced of the professions? 65% of children drew lawyers<br />
as male.<br />
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Impact on future perspectives.<br />
When asked to nominate jobs that they would not want, both girls and boys<br />
rejected more traditionally female occupations than male and neutral careers.<br />
Girls as young as 4 have already internalized the belief that women’s work is<br />
neither as valuable nor as desirable as men’s.<br />
How can children ignore gender when they continually watch it, hear it, see<br />
it, are clothed in it, sleep in it, eat off it?<br />
<strong>THE</strong> FIRST<br />
PROBLEM FOR<br />
ALL OF US, MEN AND<br />
WOMEN, IS NOT TO<br />
LEARN, BUT TO<br />
UNLEARN.<br />
— Gloria Steinem<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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The Power of the Crowd<br />
Some parents are leading campaigns to fight back against gendered toys.<br />
In the UK, the Let Toys Be Toys campaign is asking the<br />
toy and publishing industries to stop limiting children’s<br />
interests by promoting some toys and books as only<br />
suitable for girls, and others only for boys.<br />
Pinkstinks confronts the damaging messages that<br />
bombard girls though toys, clothes, and media through<br />
different campaigns.<br />
Play Unlimited was founded by<br />
concerned Australian parents who<br />
wanted to take action.<br />
The message is clear: give gifts not<br />
stereotypes.<br />
Some toy companies are starting<br />
to propose gender-neutral<br />
catalogs.<br />
In France, Collectif 52 (women<br />
represent 52% of the world’s<br />
population) challenges sexist<br />
stereotypes.<br />
TELLE MÈRE,<br />
TELLE FILLE<br />
DÉBALLEZ LES CADEAUX,<br />
REMBALLEZ LES CLICHÉS.<br />
#PARENTSMODELESANOEL<br />
NOUS SOMMES 52%,<br />
NOUS SOMMES PUISSANTES.<br />
WWW.NOUSSOMMES52.ORG<br />
TEL PÈRE,<br />
TEL FILS<br />
DÉBALLEZ LES CADEAUX,<br />
REMBALLEZ LES CLICHÉS.<br />
#PARENTSMODELESANOEL<br />
NOUS SOMMES 52%,<br />
NOUS SOMMES PUISSANTES.<br />
WWW.NOUSSOMMES52.ORG<br />
Citizen activism is fighting back.<br />
Many consumers use platforms like<br />
Change.org to make brands change their<br />
marketing strategy.
New Products<br />
Famous brands are starting to adapt their products<br />
or communication.<br />
This Audi Spain ad for Christmas challenges<br />
stereotypes with the hashtag<br />
#cambiemoseljuego (Let’s change the game).<br />
Lego introduced female scientists and<br />
stay-at-home dads.<br />
Even Mattel recently launched a Game<br />
Developer Barbie and paired up with the<br />
organization She Should Run to create a<br />
president doll.<br />
Image: Mattel<br />
Brands are starting to<br />
propose gender-neutral toys.<br />
Mattel has seen a 23% rise in sales after the<br />
company changed Barbie from an exclusively<br />
blond bombshell-style doll to one that<br />
represents a variety of races and body types.<br />
Goldie Blox wants to inspire young girls to<br />
become engineers.<br />
Parents are setting up new clothing brands.<br />
In France, the Maydee application<br />
allows individuals to track the time<br />
spent on household chores and<br />
share it equally.<br />
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New Heroes<br />
New children's literature is emerging.<br />
A new illustrated children’s book from iconic City Lights<br />
Publishers, Rad American Women A-Z, offers kids the<br />
chance to educate themselves on women’s history and<br />
the alphabet at the same time.<br />
Written by Kate Schatz and illustrated by Miriam Klein<br />
Stahl, the book was inspired by Schatz’s two-year-old<br />
daughter.<br />
Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls, which tells<br />
stories of iconic women all around the world, has<br />
become the most crowdfunded book on<br />
Kickstarter ever.<br />
On A Mighty Girl's website, you<br />
can find the world's largest<br />
collection of books, toys,<br />
and movies for smart, confident,<br />
and courageous girls.<br />
And female superheroes are starting to become mainstream.<br />
Wonder Woman became the 11th superhero movie<br />
in history to pass $800 million at the global box<br />
office.<br />
This success is important because superheroes<br />
promote the idea that anyone can do good deeds,<br />
that hidden talents lie in us all, and that one person<br />
can make a difference. And they validate our sense<br />
of justice.<br />
So new superheroes emerge, like<br />
Burka Avenger in Pakistan, fighting for the<br />
right of girls to go to school.
Toolkit<br />
Or Qahera in Egypt, who is raising<br />
awareness of street harassment.<br />
Some tools help you develop media literacy in your kids.<br />
Like the Ban Bossy toolkit by Lean In.<br />
Movie Night:<br />
You Be the Critic!<br />
While you watch the movie, tally<br />
how many times male and female<br />
characters do the following:<br />
Speak (even a<br />
single word!)<br />
Speak to a character<br />
of the same gender<br />
Talk about love or<br />
relationships<br />
Take the lead in a group<br />
Dress in fancy or<br />
revealing clothing<br />
Act aggressively or<br />
violently<br />
Add your own:<br />
Add your own:<br />
1<br />
#BANBOSSY<br />
banbossy.com girlscouts.org/banbossy<br />
Take the time to ask your daughter what she’s watching and reading and why<br />
she likes it. Pick a movie or television show and ask: What kinds of messages<br />
about girls and women does it send? How are girls and women portrayed and<br />
what do they do and talk about? How are girls’ and women’s relationships<br />
portrayed?<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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If you are a teacher<br />
Remove any material that promotes gender-stereotyped play.<br />
Select non-sexist books that produce positive changes in self-esteem,<br />
attitudes, and behavior.<br />
Critically evaluate books for gender bias.<br />
Guide children to recognize stereotypes and to increase independent<br />
critical thinking about gender and perceptions of gender.<br />
When planning learning experiences, challenge potential stereotypes by<br />
presenting non-traditional images and role models.<br />
Request speakers from children’s families.<br />
Give equal praise and encouragement to females and males in math<br />
and science.<br />
If you are a parent<br />
Be more mindful about your language and expressions. Are you<br />
over-protective with your daughter? Over-tolerant with your son?<br />
Stop using gender to label children, to sort children, and to guide<br />
purchases for children. No more “What a smart girl!” comments<br />
and boys-only birthday parties.<br />
Correct children whenever they make a stereotypical comment, no<br />
matter how minor. Stop statements like “Boys are gross!” and “Girls<br />
can’t play basketball!” This type of group-based thinking is limiting.<br />
Edit the toy closet and donate or throw away the toys that don’t<br />
reinforce positive traits and skills.<br />
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Buy new empowering books. Read girls’ stories to your boys.<br />
Show them new movies.<br />
Challenge brands through campaigns and social media.<br />
Read the comic about mental load by Emma.<br />
Monitor your household chores for one full week to see who is doing<br />
what (including the mental load of the organization) and renegotiate<br />
the balance of responsibilities.<br />
Dads, be a good example to your kids and share the load!<br />
Read some books (Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue and<br />
The Achilles Effect).<br />
Here are some leadership tips<br />
from the Ban Bossy toolkit<br />
Source: Ban Bossy Leadership Tips for Parents<br />
Encourage girls and boys equally to lead.<br />
Reflect on the different messages you may be giving a daughter or son about<br />
ambition, future success, and leadership.<br />
Be conscious of the way you and she talk.<br />
Notice how you communicate in front of your daughter or granddaughter and<br />
avoid hedging or softening your opinions with disclaimers or apologies.<br />
Make your home an equal household.<br />
The wage gap starts at home: Girls get paid less than boys for household<br />
chores. If certain chores receive more allowance, distribute those chores equally.<br />
Talk about the word “bossy.”<br />
Calling a girl “bossy” when she asserts her voice—a word we rarely use for little<br />
boys—sends the message that girls should not speak up.<br />
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Teach her to respect her feelings.<br />
Show her by example: avoid denying, second-guessing, or questioning her<br />
feelings with phrases like “It’s not a big deal” or “Don’t overreact.”<br />
Mothers and grandmothers: model assertive behavior.<br />
Try turning down a request to volunteer when you’re overloaded—and explain<br />
why to your daughter. Let your daughter watch you move constructively through<br />
a conflict with a close friend, family member, or colleague and emerge<br />
successfully on the other side.<br />
Fathers and grandfathers: know your influence.<br />
Girls whose fathers are positively involved in their lives also tend to have higher<br />
self-esteem and be more willing to try new things.<br />
Help her commit small acts of assertiveness.<br />
Encourage her to order her own food at a restaurant or shake hands and make<br />
eye contact with a new acquaintance.<br />
Seize the power of organized sports and activities.<br />
Embrace the sports field as a classroom where your daughter will learn an<br />
invaluable set of social and psychological skills. Whether it’s debate, band, or<br />
chess, there is a group out there for everyone.<br />
Talk about mistakes.<br />
Help your daughter get comfortable with mistakes by asking her to evaluate her<br />
performance objectively.<br />
Encourage her to step outside her comfort zone.<br />
Encourage your daughter to try new things, whether it’s going to an event where<br />
she doesn’t know a lot of people or asking her to check out with a cashier at the<br />
grocery store.<br />
Cultivate her passion.<br />
Finding something she’s extra passionate about can give your daughter a greater<br />
sense of purpose and leadership experience she will use throughout her life.<br />
YOUNG GIRLS ARE TOLD YOU HAVE TO BE <strong>THE</strong> DELICATE<br />
PRINCESS. HERMIONE TAUGHT <strong>THE</strong>M THAT YOU CAN BE<br />
<strong>THE</strong> WARRIOR.<br />
— Emma Watson<br />
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Chapter 2 – Media and Art<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
YOU CAN’T<br />
BE WHAT YOU<br />
CAN’T SEE<br />
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For 2,500 years, our storytelling has been extremely androcentric.<br />
Thucydides and Herodotus were among the<br />
first historians.<br />
For 2,500 years, the construction of history has<br />
been a male product.<br />
Women’s acts and experiences have been<br />
largely unrecorded and ignored, as Michelle<br />
Perrot explains in her book, Les femmes ou<br />
les silences de l'histoire.<br />
So we end up perceiving historical events from<br />
a mostly white, Catholic, heterosexual, male<br />
perspective.<br />
Image: Slate 2016, Andrew Kahn and<br />
Rebecca Onion<br />
Examples:<br />
Columbus day: Geographical error or historical turning point? Genocide or<br />
discovery?<br />
Crusades: Holy war or terrorism and slaughter?<br />
FOR MOST OF HISTORY,<br />
ANONYMOUS WAS A<br />
WOMAN.<br />
– Virginia Woolf<br />
Image: synopticgospel<br />
In the past, our religious texts have been written and assembled by men.<br />
And today men own most of our media outlets.<br />
MEN RECEIVE<br />
62%<br />
OF BYLINE AND O<strong>THE</strong>R<br />
CREDITS IN PRINT, INTERNET,<br />
TV AND WIRE NEWS.<br />
EVENING BROADCAST<br />
68% vs 32%<br />
Source: Women Media Center<br />
PRINT<br />
62% vs 37%<br />
INTERNET<br />
58% vs 42%<br />
WIRES<br />
62% vs 38%
On TV, men speak, women listen.<br />
Only 20% of the experts in business and economic newscasts are women.<br />
Only one Palme d'Or prize in Cannes has been awarded to a woman so far.<br />
92 Palmes d'Or<br />
1 woman (Jane Campion)<br />
In France, literary prizes are mostly<br />
awarded to men (76% since 1900).<br />
At the last Angoulême International Comics<br />
Festival, no woman was even nominated,<br />
triggering many reactions. #WomenDoBD<br />
Image: Philippe Pochep<br />
In museums, most of the exhibited<br />
artists are male, as Guerrilla Girls<br />
show us.<br />
Concerts and festivals follow the same trend...<br />
...as well as the DJ world.<br />
The female:pressure FACTS study found that women<br />
comprise less than 10% of all DJs at festivals, labels,<br />
and clubs worldwide.<br />
Source: The Guardian
Photojournalism is also male-dominated...<br />
A 2015 study by World Press Photo, that<br />
canvased 1,556 photographers from over<br />
100 countries, estimated that only 15% of<br />
professional news photographers were<br />
women.<br />
...as is investigative journalism.<br />
According to the Op-Ed Project, in 2011,<br />
women authored only 19% of op-eds in<br />
the Wall Street Journal, 22% in the<br />
New York Times and 24% in the Los<br />
Angeles Times. Another way to look at the status quo: a woman over 65 is less<br />
likely to be cited as an expert in the media than a 13 to 18-year-old boy. A report<br />
by the Women’s Media Center found that men were quoted three times more<br />
often than women on the front page of The New York Times.<br />
Image : Women in the World<br />
The Op-Ed Project and Media Matters for America conducted an analysis of<br />
foreign policy guests on major news programs. The results read like a time<br />
capsule from the 1950s: In 2014, women made up just 22% of guests. Of trained<br />
experts networks called upon, the figure is even lower. If you see a woman on<br />
cable news talking about foreign affairs or national security, she’s likely a<br />
reporter or news personality, not a trained expert or a diplomat.<br />
Source: Foreign Policy Interrupted<br />
So, at the end of the day, stories are mostly written by men…about men.<br />
Women are not heard or seen.<br />
If you don't tell your story,<br />
someone else will tell it for you<br />
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According to UN Women, only 23% of movies feature female protagonists.<br />
31% of speaking roles<br />
are held by women.<br />
23% of films feature a<br />
female protagonist.<br />
Only 1 in 4 people heard<br />
or read about in the news<br />
are women.<br />
Women are the subject of less than a<br />
quarter of all news stories (24%), an<br />
increase of just 17% since 1995.<br />
Only 9% of stories evoke<br />
in(equality) issues.<br />
Only 4% of the stories clearly<br />
challenge gender stereotypes.<br />
Source: UN Women<br />
The 2017 Oscars still lacked gender representation among the nominees.<br />
#oscarssomale<br />
“Four out of five nominees are men — meaning male voices and perspectives<br />
are largely responsible for what we see on screen.”, says Julie Burton, president<br />
of the Women’s Media Center. For the seventh year in a row, no female directors<br />
were nominated in the directing category.<br />
All Nominees<br />
5 Women<br />
21 Movies 12 Movies<br />
38 Men<br />
Director's Gender<br />
Passed the<br />
Bechdel Test<br />
In Academy Award history, four female filmmakers have been nominated<br />
for best director, and only Kathryn Bigelow won, in 2010.<br />
Only 6.4% of Hollywood films in the past years were directed by women.<br />
The 2017 annual report from the Center for the Study of Women in Television and<br />
Film found that 35% of films employed no women in key roles behind the<br />
camera, such as writer, producer, executive producer, editor, or cinematographer.
Women also accounted for just 3% of composers. Some even say that<br />
Hollywood could be sued for discrimination against female directors.<br />
Oscar-nominated movies are mostly directed by men and rarely pass the<br />
Bechdel test.<br />
BECHDEL TEST CRITERIA:<br />
DURING <strong>THE</strong> WHOLE MOVIE,<br />
TWO NAMED FEMALE CHARACTERS TALK<br />
TO EACH O<strong>THE</strong>R ABOUT SOMETHING<br />
O<strong>THE</strong>R THAN A MAN.<br />
So we grow up listening and watching male stories.<br />
Or if women are portrayed, it is through the male gaze.<br />
Laura Mulvey, a UK feminist film theorist, coined the term the male gaze.<br />
Mulvey states that, “the gender power asymmetry is a controlling force in<br />
cinema and constructed for the pleasure of the male viewer, which is deeply<br />
rooted in patriarchal ideologies and discourses.”<br />
This means that the male viewer is the target audience; therefore, their needs<br />
are met first, and this problem stems from an old-fashioned, male-driven<br />
society. Mulvey's theory on how women are portrayed in film and the media is<br />
just as relevant today as it was in 1975, when her work was first published.<br />
Mulvey believes that women are in fact, “the bearer of meaning and not the<br />
maker of meaning,” which suggests that women are not placed in a role where<br />
they can take control of a scene. Instead they are simply put there to be<br />
observed from an objectified point of view. In addition, she believes that this<br />
way of watching film is never alternated so that the men are in fact the ones<br />
who are being viewed in this manner. This inequality reinforces the ancient<br />
and outdated idea that “men do the looking, and women are to be looked at.”<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MORE A GIRL SPENDS TIME WATCHING TV,<br />
<strong>THE</strong> LESS IT FEELS SHE HAS A CHOICE IN LIFE.<br />
AND <strong>THE</strong> MORE A BOY WATCHES TELEVISION,<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MORE IT TENDS TO BECOME SEXIST.<br />
– Geena Davis 79
The male gaze theory, in a nutshell, shows how women in the media are<br />
viewed through the eyes of a heterosexual man, and how these women are<br />
represented as passive objects of male desire. Audiences are forced to view<br />
women from the point of view of a heterosexual man, even if they are<br />
heterosexual women or homosexual men.<br />
Typical examples of the male gaze include medium close-up shots of women<br />
from over a man’s shoulder, shots that pan and fixate on a woman’s body, and<br />
scenes that show a man actively observing a passive woman.<br />
One reason for this is simply that the movie companies producing these films<br />
are male-dominated, as cinema is predominantly a male-run industry. When<br />
Mulvey originally wrote this critical analysis of film, producers were churning<br />
out the same work that had proved to be commercially successful with<br />
audiences in the past.<br />
They believe that they are giving the public what they want, when that isn’t<br />
necessarily true.<br />
Studios are giving audiences what a proportion of males want, and what the<br />
rest of society has been brainwashed to accept.<br />
Source: Film Inquiry. Film Theory 101 – Laura Mulvey: The Male Gaze Theory by Rachael Sampson<br />
When we see the world through only one eye:<br />
Stories are incomplete.<br />
Stereotypes are pervasive.<br />
Stories are biased.<br />
This can be illustrated by the way Muslim women are portrayed in<br />
mainstream media.<br />
Appearance overload: The media has become fixated with the<br />
way Muslim women look — what they are or are not wearing<br />
instead of who they are and what they are doing.<br />
Always the victim: Muslim women have been portrayed in the<br />
mass media as voiceless, submissive, passive, and oppressed<br />
victims instead of the powerful and creative leaders that they are.<br />
All the same: Despite having diverse opinions, cultures, and<br />
occupations, Muslim women are portrayed all alike.<br />
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There is a contradiction between women’s central active role in creating<br />
society and their marginalization in meaning-giving processes.<br />
Women are essential and central to creating society.<br />
Women have made history, yet they have been kept from knowing it.<br />
Women have been excluded from creating symbol systems and theory<br />
formation.<br />
Yet, women's significance in history is key for women's empowerment.<br />
The myth that women are marginal to the creation of history and civilization<br />
has profoundly affected the psychology of women and men.<br />
The denial of women about their history has reinforced their acceptance of the<br />
ideology of patriarchy and has undermined the individual woman’s sense<br />
of self-worth.<br />
Men’s version of history has become the universal truth.<br />
One cannot think universal when oneself is excluded from the generic.<br />
Source: Gerda Lerner. The Creation of Patriarchy.<br />
Women are the daily targets of negative narratives, repeated so often by<br />
everyone that they become unquestionable truths.<br />
You are fat.<br />
You can’t please<br />
your partner.<br />
You are a bad<br />
mother.<br />
You are not<br />
enough.<br />
Women change<br />
opinion all the time.<br />
Women don’t<br />
know how to<br />
drive.<br />
Women lie.<br />
Women are<br />
emotional.<br />
And they are silenced by<br />
different means.<br />
Speaking louder.<br />
Speaking on behalf of them.<br />
Occupying the space.<br />
Interrupting the conversation.<br />
Not listening to them.<br />
Making fun of them.<br />
These constant messages have a<br />
huge impact in terms of self-esteem.<br />
Image: Ban Bossy
In The Confidence Code, Katty Kay and Claire Shipman<br />
interview different female world leaders and explore their<br />
own confidence gap.<br />
And imposter syndrome appears.<br />
Imposter Syndrome<br />
Reality<br />
What<br />
I<br />
know<br />
What I think<br />
others know<br />
What<br />
I<br />
know<br />
But this confidence gap is not individual, it’s collective!<br />
How could it be different with the stories we listen to?<br />
The patriarchal lens limits our vision in both range and depth.<br />
Men and women live on a stage.<br />
But men have written the play and directed the show.<br />
Equal parts will not make women equal if the script is still written by men.<br />
From “you are invisible” to “you are half of the reality.”<br />
WOMEN’S HISTORY<br />
IS A PRIMARY TOOL<br />
FOR WOMEN’S EMANCIPATION.<br />
— Gerda Lerner<br />
As Hillary Clinton rightfully said, it’s time to make herstory!<br />
BECAUSE THOSE WHO TELL <strong>THE</strong> STORIES<br />
RULE <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong>!<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
83
New Products<br />
We need to reclaim the power of the narrative at both the individual and<br />
the collective levels.<br />
Women’s history is indispensable and essential to the emancipation of women.<br />
It changes their lives.<br />
We need a shift of consciousness.<br />
As we shifted from the Ptolemaic to the Copernican vision of the universe...<br />
SUN<br />
SATURN<br />
VENUS<br />
EARTH<br />
MERCURY<br />
JUPITER<br />
EARTH<br />
MOON<br />
SATURN<br />
VENUS<br />
SUN<br />
MERCURY<br />
JUPITER<br />
WE ARE<br />
<strong>THE</strong> STORIES<br />
WE TELL<br />
OURSELVES.<br />
MOON<br />
— Joan Didion<br />
MARS<br />
MARS<br />
...so we need to change the stories we tell<br />
about ourselves.<br />
And we need to reclaim women’s role in history.<br />
YOU ARE<br />
<strong>THE</strong> HERO<br />
OF YOUR<br />
OWN STORY.<br />
— Joseph Campbell<br />
In Spain, Animosa is celebrating<br />
amazing women through different<br />
products.<br />
Giving new role<br />
models to our<br />
daughters.<br />
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New Skill<br />
New Heroes<br />
And we need more female storytellers!<br />
We need to show the world through a woman’s lens.<br />
DON'T HATE<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MEDIA,<br />
BECOME<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MEDIA.<br />
– Jello Biafra<br />
Global Girl Media teaches young girls to be citizen journalists.<br />
Lensational uses recycled and donated cameras to organize photography<br />
workshops for underserved women, allowing them to capture their world<br />
and tell their own stories.<br />
Women whose voices are rarely heard, from domestic helpers in Hong Kong to<br />
children of sex workers in Pakistan, are taking photos thanks to Lensational’s<br />
photography training.<br />
We need to celebrate the women who have<br />
made it and learn about their work.<br />
And we need to create specific communities.<br />
The collective Women who draw is showcasing<br />
women illustrators.<br />
Rawiya is a photography cooperative made up<br />
of six female photographers from across the<br />
Middle East who have pooled their resources, contacts, and talents to<br />
strengthen their work and to expand their reach.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
Visualize<br />
Tanya Habjouqa, part of Rawiya, wants her<br />
photographs to say: “Put aside your pre-conceived<br />
notions, come and take a closer look at our region.”<br />
Future of Women creates original<br />
multimedia by and about women from<br />
around the world, empowering women<br />
and girls to act on their dreams.<br />
Designed for future of women by @4ur3lia<br />
Women Photograph is a website featuring<br />
more than 400 female photo journalists<br />
from 67 countries.<br />
SheSays is an award-winning<br />
organization running free mentorship and<br />
events to women in the creative industry.<br />
We need to tell more stories about women from a female perspective.<br />
The Atlas Of Beauty is a project about our planet’s<br />
diversity shown through portraits of women.<br />
For nearly four years, Mihaela Noroc has been<br />
photographing natural women surrounded by<br />
their environment in more than 50 countries.<br />
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Visualize<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
New Heroes<br />
Political is personal, reversing the famous feminist slogan from Kate Millet, is<br />
an initiative that conducts in-depth interviews with Israeli Jewish and Palestinian<br />
women in which they safely and freely share how their lives have been affected<br />
by the realities of this conflict.<br />
Because an image is a powerful tool to challenge stereotypes…<br />
Like the exhibition Same look, same rights in Morocco.<br />
Or another Moroccan project, Macho Mouchkil, denouncing everyday sexism.<br />
We need more women painting our streets.<br />
Girl Power is a documentary that presents<br />
female graffiti writers from 15 cities – cities as<br />
diverse as Prague, Moscow, Cape Town, Sydney,<br />
Madrid, Berlin, Toulouse, Barcelona and New<br />
York. The graffiti community is predominantly a<br />
man's world, and men often share the view that<br />
graffiti – namely the illegal kind – is not for girls.<br />
And yet women have become increasingly more<br />
emancipated in recent years. There are female<br />
graffiti shows, magazines, and websites. Girl<br />
Power captures the stories of women who have<br />
succeeded in the male-dominated graffiti world.<br />
Street Heroines is a documentary film that<br />
looks at the courage and creativity of female<br />
graffiti and street artists from around the world.<br />
From New York City to São Paulo and Mexico<br />
City, Street Heroines gives voice to women<br />
fighting social injustice with creativity in this<br />
male-dominated subculture.<br />
Shamsia Hassani, Afghanistan’s first female street artist, has emerged as<br />
a spokesperson for women’s rights in Kabul.<br />
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Data Mining<br />
New Heroes<br />
This piece is a well-known reference to the uprising of<br />
women in the Arab world social media campaign that<br />
aims to empower Arab women through digital media<br />
such as photographs, story sharing, and memes.<br />
The Fearless Collective creates space to<br />
move from fear to love using participative art.<br />
The Fearless Collective was started in 2012 by<br />
artist Shilo Shiv Suleman and has grown under<br />
the love and guidance of a network of artists and<br />
activists from around the world.<br />
Panmela Castro is a Brazilian artist who utilizes graffiti as a<br />
platform to raise awareness of women's rights and the<br />
prevalence of domestic violence against women in Brazil.<br />
We need more female DJs, rappers, and musicians.<br />
The Tumblr blog Very Male Line-ups is highlighting<br />
all-male or mostly-male club/gig/festival line-ups and<br />
helping bromoters do better.<br />
female:pressure is an international network<br />
of female, transgender, and non-binary artists<br />
in the fields of electronic music and digital<br />
arts founded by Electric Indigo.<br />
female:pressure has created a database with<br />
more than 2,000 members from 74 countries<br />
to boost communication with and<br />
representation of female electronic artists.<br />
The network comprises over 2,000 members<br />
from 74 countries as of August 2017.<br />
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Data Mining New Heroes Infiltrate<br />
And rap is becoming the new feminist weapon.<br />
Paradise Sorouri became Afghanistan's first female rapper after being forced to<br />
flee her country twice, and Sonita Alizadeh is an Afghan rapper and activist who<br />
has been vocal against forced marriages. Listen to them!<br />
In Russia, Pussy Riot is challenging the power of the state and the orthodox<br />
church.<br />
NEVER FORGET THAT ROCK N’ ROLL WAS INVENTED BY A<br />
QUEER BLACK WOMAN.<br />
– Sister Rosetta Tharpe<br />
We need more movies and TV shows<br />
created by women.<br />
Because media is shaping our world view.<br />
Founded by Academy-Award® winning actor and advocate Geena Davis, The<br />
Institute on Gender in Media is the first research-based organization working<br />
within the media and entertainment industry to engage, educate, and influence<br />
content creators, marketers and audiences about the importance of eliminating<br />
unconditional bias, highlighting gender balance, challenging stereotypes,<br />
creating role models and scripting a wide variety of strong female characters in<br />
entertainment and media that targets and influences children ages 11 and under.<br />
Research informs and empowers.<br />
Children are engaging with media up to 7 hours a day and consuming massive<br />
amounts of unconscious bias in the programming they’re consuming.<br />
Media can greatly influence children’s social and cultural behaviors and<br />
beliefs.<br />
Negative stereotypes children see in media can create life-long imprints that<br />
can affect their attitudes toward male and female roles in our society as well<br />
as career occupations and self-esteem.<br />
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Data Mining New Heroes Infiltrate<br />
This is the only research-driven organization collaborating with the media and<br />
entertainment industry to expose gender.<br />
Source: Geena Davis Institute<br />
We need to restore diversity in the media.<br />
For example, Shonda Rhimes is incorporating feminist<br />
values in mainstream media.<br />
YOU SHOULD GET<br />
TO TURN ON <strong>THE</strong><br />
TV AND SEE<br />
YOUR TRIBE.<br />
— Shonda Rhimes<br />
Her TV show Scandal is the first network drama with a black woman as its lead<br />
in nearly four decades.<br />
Viola Davis is the first black woman to win the Emmy for best lead actress in a<br />
drama.<br />
New inspiring female protagonists are starting to appear...<br />
Katniss Everdeen in the Hunger Games<br />
Marjane Satrapi in Persepolis<br />
Merida in Brave<br />
...with a real impact.<br />
68% of viewers of Commander in Chief, a TV show portraying Geena Davis as<br />
the first female President of the United States, say they were more likely to<br />
accept a female president.<br />
Reese Witherspoon's Pacific Standard production company is supporting new<br />
female voices in film. Pacific Standard has produced the movies Gone Girl, Wild,<br />
and HBO series Big Little Lies, which all include female protagonists and portray<br />
reality from a female perspective.<br />
Meryl Streep also funded a Lab for Women Screenwriters over 40.<br />
We Do It Together is a nonprofit production company created to finance and<br />
produce media uniquely dedicated to the empowerment of women.<br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
We need new media channels featuring the other half of the story.<br />
Since the larger media channels are mostly run by men and follow traditional<br />
cash cow strategies, women leverage new media to create their own channels,<br />
thus bypassing traditional structures.<br />
"Women represent half the global population, and it reflects probably about half<br />
the Netflix member population as well," Netflix's Vice President of Original<br />
Content, Cindy Holland, points out. "So excluding women from seeing<br />
themselves and their issues dramatized on screen doesn’t seem like a good<br />
idea."<br />
Source: Glamour 2017. Jessica Radloff.<br />
The streaming platform has delivered with shows like Grace and Frankie,<br />
Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Orange Is the New Black, The OA, The Crown,<br />
Marvel's Jessica Jones, One Day at a Time, Fuller House, and GLOW.<br />
In fact, with 91 Emmy nominations for Netflix this year (second only to HBO),<br />
more than half of those nominations are either for a series with a female lead or<br />
feature a female nominee.<br />
New media has been a game-changer for feminism.<br />
In France, newsletters like the Georgette Sand, madmoiZelle, les Glorieuses<br />
ou Les Nouvelles News are focusing on the other side of the story.<br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
Les Internettes is a collective of women<br />
producing videos.<br />
The Washington Post launched The Lily, a new publication for millennial women<br />
with a mission to inform, empower and expose diverse voices and perspectives.<br />
Vice and Unilever teamed up to launch Broadly, a female-focused channel.<br />
BitchMedia's mission is to provide and encourage an engaged, thoughtful<br />
feminist response to media and popular culture.<br />
We are the XX is a media collective featuring women’s stories.<br />
Many feminist podcasts are rocking the scene, like Sex<br />
Nerd Sandra, Women of the Hour with Lena Dunham,<br />
the Guilty Feminist, Black Girls Talking or, in France, La<br />
Poudre.<br />
Blogs are also a powerful channel to challenge mainstream narratives.<br />
Lallab is a French online magazine and<br />
association aiming at giving voices to muslim<br />
women experiencing sexist and racist<br />
comments every day.<br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
Muslim Girl is a website for young Muslim women to talk about their identities<br />
and other aspects of their lives.<br />
Guerrilla Girls is reiventing the F word.<br />
They consider themselves as feminist masked avengers in the tradition of<br />
anonymous do-gooders like Robin Hood, Wonder Woman, and Batman. How do<br />
they expose sexism, racism and corruption in politics, art, film, and pop culture?<br />
With facts, humor, and outrageous visuals. They reveal the understory, the<br />
subtext, the overlooked, and the downright unfair.<br />
And we need those who have the most visibility to speak up and fight.<br />
Ever since Patricia Arquette won Best Supporting Actress at the 2015 Oscars<br />
and used her acceptance speech to address unequal pay in Hollywood, gender<br />
disparity has been a hot topic. Cheered on in the audience by Meryl Streep,<br />
Arquette announced that it was “time for equal rights for women.”<br />
Stars such as Keira Knightley, Carey Mulligan, Jessica Chastain, Romola Garai,<br />
Geena Davis, and Amanda Seyfried have also raised the issue of Hollywood<br />
sexism.<br />
British director Amma Asante has hit out at the film industry’s “misguided<br />
distrust” of female fi lm-makers.<br />
Keira Knightley has spoken out over the lack of women working behind the<br />
camera in Hollywood, in a new interview.<br />
Ava DuVernay, who made "Selma," pointed out that only two of the 100<br />
top-grossing films in 2014 were directed by women.<br />
She urged constant vigilance and proactive searching within the industry:<br />
‘‘We have to ask our agents about that script by the woman screenwriter. We<br />
have to ask, ‘Hey, are there any women agents here that I could talk to?.’ We<br />
have to ask our lawyers about women in the office. We have to ask, when we’re<br />
thinking about directors or D.P.s, ‘Will women interview?”<br />
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Madonna gave a powerful speech on being a woman in the music industry<br />
Billboards awards.<br />
An excerpt:<br />
“I stand before you as a doormat. Oh, I mean, as a female entertainer.<br />
Thank you for acknowledging my ability to continue my career for 34 years in the<br />
face of blatant sexism and misogyny and constant bullying and relentless abuse.<br />
There are no rules — if you’re a boy. If you’re a girl, you have to play the game.<br />
What is that game? You are allowed to be pretty and cute and sexy. But don’t<br />
act too smart. Don’t have an opinion. Don’t have an opinion that is out of line<br />
with the status quo, at least. You are allowed to be objectified by men and dress<br />
like a slut, but don’t own your sluttiness. And do not, I repeat, do not, share your<br />
own sexual fantasies with the world.<br />
Be what men want you to be. But more importantly, be what women feel<br />
comfortable with you being around other men. And finally, do not age. Because<br />
to age is a sin. You will be criticized, you will be vilified, and you will definitely not<br />
be played on the radio.”<br />
WOMEN HAVE BEEN SO OPPRESSED FOR SO<br />
LONG <strong>THE</strong>Y BELIEVE WHAT MEN HAVE TO<br />
SAY ABOUT <strong>THE</strong>M.<br />
— Madonna<br />
Oprah Winfrey gave a powerful speech about sexual harassment, racial<br />
injustice and press freedom which brought the Golden Globes audience to<br />
their feet:<br />
“For too long, women have not been heard or believed if they dare speak the<br />
truth to the power of those men. But their time is up. So I want all the girls<br />
watching here, now, to know that a new day is on the horizon!”<br />
The recent initiative Time's Up seeks gender parity at movie studios and has<br />
started a legal-defense fund for women in other industries who are sexually<br />
harassed and assaulted in the workplace.<br />
TIME IS UP!<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Watch movies or TV shows<br />
portraying inspiring female<br />
characters.<br />
Read female authors.<br />
Buy art work from female<br />
artists.<br />
Subscribe to feminist<br />
newsletters.<br />
Listen to a feminist podcast.<br />
Write to artists on Twitter<br />
about sexism in their lyrics or<br />
videos.<br />
Launch a campaign to raise<br />
awareness about it.<br />
Stop watching regular TV or<br />
be more aware of the<br />
programs you watch.<br />
Read about female historical<br />
figures.<br />
Set up a feminist musical<br />
playlist to listen to on your way<br />
to work.<br />
Ask concerts and festivals you<br />
attend for a diverse<br />
representation of artists.<br />
Read The Confidence Code<br />
and rewire your brain.<br />
Challenge your own imposter<br />
syndrome.<br />
Be more mindful about the<br />
stories you tell about yourself.<br />
Perform the Bechdel test on<br />
movies and shows you are<br />
watching.<br />
Explain to your friends what<br />
the male gaze is.<br />
Boycott sexist movies, shows,<br />
festivals...and be vocal about<br />
it.<br />
Write a play, a blog, a novel.<br />
Publish your photos, paintings,<br />
podcast.<br />
Grab a camera, a pen, or a<br />
mic and start producing your<br />
own story!<br />
STORIES HAVE <strong>THE</strong><br />
POWER TO<br />
<strong>BALANCE</strong> <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong>!<br />
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Chapter 3 – Advertising<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MAD<br />
MEN <strong>WORLD</strong><br />
Image: Moderna de pueblo
We live in an ocean of sexist messages.
We are bombarded by approximately 3,000 commercials per day.<br />
Producing strong subliminal influences,<br />
unconsciously reinforcing sexist stereotypes. The<br />
effects are especially damaging for developing<br />
minds.<br />
In 2007, Dove released the Onslaught video,<br />
showing a young girl bombarded with images<br />
from TV, print, and outdoor advertising<br />
campaigns for lingerie, weight loss, lipstick,<br />
exercise regimes, skin treatment, and plastic<br />
surgery. With the final message: “Talk to your<br />
daughter before the beauty industry does.”<br />
65% of women and girls have an eating<br />
disorder in the US.<br />
According to UN Women, 50% of girls aged<br />
6-8 are unhappy with their weight.<br />
The average American woman is a size 14, but<br />
the average plus-size model is a size 8.<br />
95% of anorexics and bulimics are women.<br />
Source: Body Positive Movement. The Representation Project<br />
Despite the progress of the women's movement, writer and<br />
journalist Naomi Wolf is troubled by a different kind of social<br />
control, which, she argues, may prove just as restrictive as the<br />
traditional image of homemaker and wife. It's the beauty myth, an<br />
obsession with physical perfection that traps the modern woman<br />
in an endless spiral of hope, self-consciousness, and self-hatred,<br />
as she tries to fulfill society's impossible definition of "the flawless<br />
beauty.”<br />
According to Susie Orbach: “TV appeared in Fiji islands in 1995 with its multiple<br />
American TV shows. In 1998, only 3 years later, 11.9% of teenage girls were<br />
suffering bulimia, a behavior unknown up to that moment."<br />
The book Face Value: The Hidden Ways Beauty Shapes Women’s Lives<br />
takes aim at a culture of paradox that tells women they should be beautiful, but<br />
that they should never feel beautiful enough.<br />
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$16.4 billion was spent on cosmetic procedures in the U.S. in 2016. Women<br />
comprise the vast majority of people who opt for plastic surgery and cosmetic<br />
procedures, accounting for 92% of all operations in 2016.<br />
Source: American Society of Plastic Surgeons<br />
Negative portrayals of women in ads take a toll.<br />
60 seconds of exposure to ads featuring underweight models can decrease a<br />
woman's self-image.<br />
41% of 18-to-24-year-old women retouch their own photos before posting<br />
them to social media sites.<br />
93% of women believe portraying females as sex symbols in advertising is<br />
harmful.<br />
33% of young women are dissatisfied with their looks, up from 26% just two<br />
years earlier.<br />
Cultural norms make women believe that caring for their external appearance<br />
answers their deepest needs and aspirations, that spending more time and<br />
money helps them to feel better. Patriarchy feeds itself on perpetual female<br />
insecurity. Just look at the message from beauty and luxury brands that finance<br />
women’s magazines. And imagine the mental load and the budget dedicated to<br />
shaving, waxing, hairdressing, and losing weight! Being a feminist saves you time<br />
and money!<br />
Source: She Knows Media<br />
Brands not only foster gender stereotypes,<br />
they alsoprice women's and men's products<br />
differently.<br />
Products marketed for women and girls are more<br />
expensive. This is called the Pink Tax.<br />
48%<br />
57%<br />
MORE ON<br />
HAIR PRODUCTS<br />
MORE ON<br />
HAIR CUTS<br />
<strong>THE</strong> PINK TAX PRICE DIFFERENCE<br />
PERSONAL CARE PRODUCTS<br />
13%<br />
92%<br />
MORE ON<br />
DRY CLEANED<br />
SHIRTS<br />
ADULT CLOTHING<br />
TOYS AND ACCESSORIES<br />
8%<br />
7%<br />
13%<br />
MORE ON TERM<br />
LIFE INSURANCE
WHY?<br />
According to a study by The 3% Conference,<br />
the advertising industry is still disproportionately<br />
run by middle-aged white men.<br />
ADVERTISING IS<br />
DOMINATED BY<br />
WHITE GUYS<br />
TALKING TO<br />
WHITE GUYS.<br />
— Cindy Gallop<br />
Percentage of women in these roles<br />
11.6%<br />
Copywriters<br />
9.6%<br />
Art Directors<br />
3.6%<br />
Creative Directors<br />
So why are there so few women in Creative Director roles?<br />
The climate for women at many agencies is often unsupportive and can even<br />
be outright discriminatory.<br />
25% personally experienced gender discrimination.<br />
23% personally experienced or witnessed sexual harassment. Only 8% who<br />
experienced it said the responsible party was punished.<br />
The advertising industry does not have a recruitment problem, but a retention<br />
problem when it comes to gender diversity in creative departments. Portfolio<br />
schools are graduating equal (if not greater) number of women than men. Yet<br />
these same women “disappear” from the field right around the time they have<br />
the appropriate level of experience to be CDs (lack of mentorship, lack of<br />
visibility of female CDs, or lack of support for motherhood).<br />
Source: The 3% conference<br />
And it’s a terrible strategic mistake.<br />
Women control 73% of consumer purchasing and $20 trillion of the world’s<br />
annual consumer spending.<br />
They are more active on social networks and more likely to share a brand’s<br />
message with others. Women also represent the majority of early tech<br />
adopters, social gamers, and are amassing wealth at rates that will culminate<br />
in control $22 trillion of US wealth by the end of this decade.<br />
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And 91% of women reported they<br />
didn’t think that advertisers<br />
understood them.<br />
Source: The 3% conference<br />
Last year, Unilever analyzed the stereotypes<br />
that still exist in advertising:<br />
<strong>THE</strong> ADVERTISING<br />
BUSINESS IS A<br />
$33B INDUSTRY.<br />
MISUNDERSTANDING<br />
FEMALE CONSUMERS,<br />
FROM A BUSINESS<br />
PERSPECTIVE,<br />
IS SHEER LUNACY.<br />
— Kat Gordon,<br />
Founder of The 3% Conference<br />
Just 3% of ads featured women in a leadership or managerial role.<br />
Other findings revealed almost all women (90%) felt they were<br />
presented as sex symbols.<br />
And 40% of women did not identify with the portrayal of women in<br />
advertising spots.<br />
Unilever spends nearly $10 billion a year on ads, and 85% of all brand<br />
purchases are made by women. There is a problem here.<br />
More progressive ads generate more engagement, visibility, and brand<br />
impact.<br />
Companies that provide more authentic portrayals of both sexes could be<br />
rewarded by customers.<br />
That's what happened to Unilever's Dove brand after it rolled out its "real<br />
beauty" campaign more than a decade ago, which featured women of all<br />
shapes and sizes.<br />
At the campaign's 10-year mark, the brand had seen sales increase from $2.5<br />
billion to $4 billion.<br />
Keith Weed, Chief Marketing & Communications Officer at Unilever, has<br />
pointed to the success of the “real beauty” campaign as evidence that there's<br />
a business incentive for ad stereotypes to change.<br />
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Femvertising sells!<br />
Femvertising is organized by SheKnows Media as, “advertising that employs<br />
pro-female talent, messages and imagery to empower women and girls.” Nike<br />
saw a 15% increase in quarterly revenue, largely due to its efforts to cater to<br />
women. Dove sales jumped from $2.5 billion to $4 billion when its Campaign for<br />
Real Beauty initially launched. Sales for Getty Images’ Lean in Collection grew<br />
54% from February to June 2014.<br />
Source: She Knows Media<br />
ADVERTISING CAN BE <strong>THE</strong> MOST POWERFUL<br />
CHANGE-MAKER IN <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong> BECAUSE<br />
OF ITS UNIQUE RELATIONSHIP TO TELEVISION.<br />
— Madeline Di Nonno, Geena Davis Institute<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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The Power of the Crowd<br />
Visualize<br />
Speak up<br />
Some consumers are creating an online response to sexist ads, such as<br />
Macholand in France...<br />
...or Pinkstinks in Germany.<br />
Some websites allow you to rate the<br />
sexism of ads.<br />
Some body positive movements portray more realistic ads and images.<br />
The Body Positive movement is a movement that encourages people to adopt<br />
more forgiving and affirming attitudes towards their bodies, with the goal of<br />
improving overall health and well-being.<br />
All Woman Project (AWP) improves the life<br />
of girls and women worldwide by displaying<br />
a true, beautiful, positive and un-retouched<br />
image of women in photo and video<br />
campaigns throughout the year.<br />
The AWP is also taking actions where body image and self-esteem is most<br />
challenging — in schools — by organizing events, workshops, and meetings<br />
with school girls from elementary school to college age.<br />
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The Power of the Crowd<br />
Boycott<br />
All bodies are good bodies.<br />
Filmmakers and activists are also raising awareness<br />
on this issue.<br />
Written and directed by Jennifer Siebel Newsom, the 2011<br />
award-winning documentary Miss Representation<br />
exposes how mainstream media and culture is selling<br />
young people the idea that girls’ and women’s value lies in<br />
their youth, beauty, and sexuality rather than their capacity<br />
as leaders.<br />
Following the documentary, The<br />
Representation Project launched different<br />
social media campaigns.<br />
And they even released the Notbuying it app<br />
where users can upload sexist or inspiring<br />
media they see, scroll through images posted<br />
by others, and immediately let brands on Twitter<br />
know how they feel!<br />
The impact of the campaign<br />
was massive.<br />
You can also use your purchasing power<br />
to pressure brands.<br />
Purse Power has released a list of<br />
companies to help you make purchasing<br />
decisions.
Specific Communities<br />
Toolkit<br />
New agencies are created.<br />
The 3% Movement came along when only 3% of all U.S. Creative Directors<br />
were women. The movement is publishing different reports, organizing an annual<br />
inspiring event, consulting different agencies and gathering a powerful<br />
community.<br />
Their motto: Diversity = Creativity = Profitability<br />
The 3% conference issued a list of 100 things you can do right now to<br />
increase gender diversity in the advertising industry. Here are<br />
some examples:<br />
Launch a company-wide audit to measure whether your efforts at diversity are<br />
fruitful.<br />
Get trained. Act on the new awareness by calling out bias when you see it.<br />
Transparency around pay is key to workplace satisfaction so agencies should<br />
conduct a wage audit, equalize pay where necessary, and publicize the<br />
results.<br />
Evaluate policies and workloads to identify ways in which the agency can be<br />
more family-friendly and human-focused.<br />
Enforce a No-Tolerance Policy on sexual harassment. Stick to it. The existence<br />
of policies is not what creates change, enforcement is.<br />
Offer "returnships" to women who have paused their careers to provide care<br />
for those they love. Great talent is ready to come back to work.<br />
Regularly evaluate your teams, accounts and award show entries to ensure<br />
that all employees are given a fair share of high-visibility work opportunity.<br />
Include women and people of color in the recruiting, interviewing, and hiring<br />
process.<br />
Invite clients to your office expressly to discuss the issue of diversity and how<br />
you can both work together to support it.<br />
Check to see how many women are on the board of your holding company. If<br />
none, or few, shoot the CEO an email.<br />
Establish a clear, unbiased, non-retaliatory grievance policy that allows<br />
employees to comment or report on treatment in the workplace.<br />
Banish the term “women’s account” from your vocabulary. Virtually every<br />
consumer category is dominated by female influence, including automotive
and electronics.<br />
Enable telework and make it a company policy that flexible work schedules<br />
should not affect anyone’s opportunity for advancement.<br />
Amplify the ideas of women in meetings. By reiterating a thought shared and<br />
attributing it to the woman who offered it, you endorse worthy ideas and<br />
ensure the appropriate person is remembered for them.<br />
Appoint a clearly accountable person for Diversity and Inclusion at your<br />
agency.<br />
Report publicly about your agency’s diversity progress.<br />
Refuse to speak at conferences with a speaker lineup that doesn’t include at<br />
least 20% women. Be vocal when you attend conferences that fall short on<br />
diversity, tweeting and posting your observations. Conference organizers need<br />
to know that attendees value women on the power panels, not just on the<br />
“women’s panels.”<br />
Encourage your CEO to make a public statement and his or her commitment<br />
to gender equality via a blogpost, speech, op-ed piece, or annual report.<br />
Have your female CDs pledge to speak at one conference every year.<br />
Consider amending your creative brief to include language that makes a<br />
dedicated commitment to a respectful depiction of women.<br />
Don’t wait for a sexual harassment lawsuit to have a stated policy about your<br />
agency’s stance about how such behavior will be handled.<br />
Enter work from all your teams into award shows, not just from established<br />
hotshots.<br />
Help all your creatives become persuasive presenters.<br />
Revamp your recruitment ads: Feature female managers (instead of stock<br />
photos of men) and send a message of innovation, vision, and enthusiasm.<br />
Write your recruitment ads with an understanding of top items that motivate<br />
women in the workforce: making a difference, being challenged, believing in<br />
the company’s direction, a sense of satisfaction in their team, and recognition.<br />
Host exit interviews and ask departing women why they’re going and what the<br />
agency could have done to retain them.<br />
Create a maternity leave policy and a paternity leave policy.<br />
Source: The 3% Conference<br />
Some brands have begun to propose new types of ads.
And the recently-launched Unstereotype Alliance has set out to eradicate<br />
outdated stereotypes in advertising.<br />
At the Cannes Lions Festival of Creativity, Unilever<br />
and UN Women convened the inaugural session of<br />
the Unstereotype Alliance. Alliance<br />
members—Johnson & Johnson, Procter &<br />
Gamble, Microsoft, Diageo, AT&T—vowed to try to<br />
proactively address and eliminate stereotypes in<br />
advertising worldwide.<br />
The Alliance will build on Unilever’s 2016 “Unstereotype” campaign, which aims<br />
to accelerate progress around how women and men are portrayed in ads and<br />
brand-led content.<br />
Cannes Lions Festival of Creativity even<br />
created a new award to recognize<br />
advertising that challenges gender norms.<br />
SheKnows Media launched the #Femvertising Awards in 2015 to honor brands<br />
that are challenging gender norms by building stereotype-busting, pro-female<br />
messages and images into ads that target women.<br />
BRANDS HAVE<br />
IMMENSE POWER<br />
TO SHATTER<br />
STEREOTYPES<br />
AND OVERTURN<br />
CLICHÉS.<br />
— Sheryl Sandberg. Lean In.<br />
Image: Pantene<br />
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City mayors have started to take a stand.<br />
The mayor of London, Sadiq Khan, has moved to ban from the city’s transport<br />
network ads that promote unrealistic expectations about body image and health.<br />
And even countries are stepping up!<br />
Britain’s Advertising Standards Agency announced in July 2017 that it will ban<br />
sexist ads, such as spots that depict women as solely responsible for cleaning<br />
or ones that show men as clumsy parents.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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As a brand<br />
Challenge the sexist stereotypes in your own communication material.<br />
Step out of classic outdated messages!<br />
As an advertising agency<br />
Propose ads challenging classic stereotypes.<br />
Advise brands on how to communicate with the people who manage<br />
85% of purchases: women!<br />
Create an event/community of women working in advertising.<br />
As a consumer<br />
Use your purse power.<br />
Interact with brands on social media.<br />
Denounce sexist ads.<br />
Launch a social media campaign.<br />
Watch Miss Representation.<br />
Stop buying women’s magazines.<br />
Love your body!<br />
Boycott brands who do not respect your values.<br />
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As a parent<br />
Limit the exposure of your children to ads.<br />
Stop criticizing your own body in front of your children.<br />
Be mindful of your remarks to your children on their appearance.<br />
As a professional<br />
Start your own agency!<br />
<strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong><br />
IS A DANGEROUS<br />
PLACE NOT BECAUSE<br />
OF THOSE WHO DO<br />
EVIL, BUT BECAUSE<br />
OF THOSE WHO LOOK<br />
ON AND DO NOTHING.<br />
— Albert Einstein<br />
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Chapter 4 – Language<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
OUR LANGUAGE<br />
IS ANDROCENTRIC<br />
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In our language, male is generic: mankind, manpower, man-made, etc.<br />
The masculine, by the presence of even one male, is the default.<br />
"Every student in the classroom did his best on the exam."<br />
We even address groups of female friends with “You guys.”<br />
And the parody Twitter account @manwhohasitall shows how ridiculous<br />
the opposite would be:<br />
Masculine is universal.<br />
Images: © The Man Who Has it All<br />
In our gendered language, “Mr.” can refer to any man, whether he is single or<br />
married, but “Miss” and “Mrs.” define women by their marital status.<br />
Women are identified as appendages both of a man and of an institution:<br />
Corporate wives, Senate wives, faculty wives.<br />
Writers sometimes refer to women using only their first names in contexts<br />
where they would typically refer to men by their full names, last names, or<br />
titles.<br />
From air hostesses to firemen, it's time to drop gendered job titles.<br />
In many countries around the world, women adopt their husband's name<br />
when they get married, erasing their former identity.<br />
HUMANITY IS MALE AND MAN DEFINES WOMAN<br />
NOT IN HIMSELF BUT AS RELATIVE TO HIM;<br />
SHE IS NOT REGARDED AS AN AUTONOMOUS<br />
HUMAN BEING.<br />
— Judith Baxter<br />
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Language shapes our thinking.<br />
Culture defines reality. And language determines how we interpret it.<br />
When our language excludes women, the mental image created also excludes<br />
women.<br />
ON TOP OF IT ALL, EVERY DAY,<br />
WE USE WORDS AND EXPRESSIONS WITH SEXIST<br />
CONNOTATIONS WITHOUT EVEN<br />
BEING AWARE OF IT<br />
When doing something like a girl is an insult.<br />
MY COACH SAID I<br />
RAN LIKE A GIRL,<br />
AND I SAID IF HE<br />
RAN A LITTLE FASTER,<br />
HE COULD DO TOO.<br />
— Mia Hamm, former professional soccer player,<br />
two-time Olympic gold medalist, and two-time<br />
FIFA Women's World Cup champion.<br />
WHY IS HE CALLED BOSS BUT<br />
SHE'S CALLED BOSSY?<br />
When your genitals dictate your courage and inner strength.<br />
It’s a business,<br />
grow a pair.<br />
Have some balls.<br />
Don’t be a pussy.<br />
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When we suppose that women are in constant competition.<br />
When two men or groups of men are vocally<br />
disagreeing, we call it debating, or discussion. If<br />
they yell, we call it robust or heated. Or Parliament.<br />
When two groups of women are debating, let’s call<br />
it debating, too.<br />
#Malegaze<br />
When we “tone police” women.<br />
“I would listen to you if you were not so aggressive / angry / hysterical …”<br />
“I will talk to you when you have calmed down.”<br />
Image: © The Man Who Has it All<br />
When we provide unsolicited instructions for how others should look,<br />
think, and act.<br />
And dismissing it all as if it did not<br />
matter.<br />
THIS WAS LOCKER<br />
ROOM TALK.<br />
— Donald Trump<br />
Image: © The Man Who Has it All<br />
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BUT SOMETIMES SEXISM<br />
IS MORE SUBTLE<br />
A few examples of sexist expressions from the Women’s Media Center:<br />
Trophy wife: Introduced in Fortune magazine’s 1989 article, “The CEO’s<br />
Second Wife,” this term describes a pattern among chief executives to discard<br />
longtime spouses for women typically younger, “sometimes several inches<br />
taller, beautiful and very often accomplished.” (There are so far no trophy<br />
husbands, although the “toyboy” may represent the practice stage.)<br />
Family man: Homebody, stay-at-home, family head, home-lover,<br />
family-oriented/family-centered/home-centered person, someone devoted to<br />
the family. Note the lack of parallel for women; all women are evidently “family<br />
women.”<br />
Blonde: The use of “blond” as a noun is reserved for women, whereas<br />
equating a man with his hair color is uncommon. We say, “She’s such a<br />
blond,” to describe a woman’s personality, usually derogatorily, but never a<br />
man.<br />
Bombshell/blonde bombshell (woman): These terms are militaristic, violent,<br />
and sexist (there is no parallel for a man); they portray women as destructive<br />
to men, even though superficially, they appear complimentary.<br />
Brunette: Although the base (male) term is “brunet,” it is rarely used, most<br />
likely because referring to people’s hair color is largely reserved for women.<br />
Can you imagine calling a man “a brunet”? Question the labeling of women by<br />
facets of their appearance and the need to talk about their hair.<br />
Source: Unspinning the Spin: The Women’s Media Center Guide to<br />
Fair & Accurate Language, by Rosalie Maggio<br />
Defining women by their relationship<br />
to men and children:<br />
Commenting on other people’s<br />
sexuality or sexual expressions:<br />
Spinster<br />
Barren<br />
She wears the pants<br />
Housewife<br />
Houseproud<br />
Soccer mom<br />
Mistress<br />
Kept woman<br />
Slut<br />
Frigid<br />
Easy<br />
Tease<br />
Loose<br />
Cougar<br />
Asking for it<br />
Prude<br />
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These words are used to describe women, while the same behavior by men goes<br />
unremarked.<br />
Using patronizing words of praise:<br />
Career woman<br />
Feisty<br />
Supermom<br />
Working mother<br />
Yummy mummy<br />
Caring<br />
Compassionate<br />
Hard-working<br />
Conscientious<br />
Dependable<br />
Diligent<br />
Tactful<br />
Interpersonal<br />
Warm<br />
Helpful<br />
Celebrating women for a<br />
behaviour that is unthreatening to<br />
the patriarchy:<br />
Ladylike<br />
Bubbly<br />
Vivacious<br />
Flirty<br />
Sassy<br />
Chatty<br />
Demure<br />
Modest<br />
Image: © The Man Who Has it All<br />
Dismissing women as pawns of their<br />
hormones and physicality:<br />
Emotional<br />
Hysterical<br />
Hormonal<br />
Menstrual or pre-menstrual<br />
Flaky<br />
Moody<br />
Over-sensitive<br />
Neurotic<br />
Irrational<br />
Baby brain<br />
Baby weight<br />
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Because a woman should not be…<br />
Bossy<br />
Abrasive<br />
Ball-buster<br />
Aggressive<br />
Shrill<br />
Bolshy<br />
Intense<br />
Stroppy<br />
Forward<br />
Mannish<br />
Gossipy<br />
Dramatic (as in Drama Queen)<br />
Catty<br />
Bitchy<br />
Nag<br />
Cold<br />
Ice queen<br />
Shrew<br />
Humourless<br />
Man-hater<br />
Feminazi<br />
Militant<br />
Bridezilla<br />
Diva<br />
Prima donna<br />
Gold digger<br />
Banshee<br />
Fishwife<br />
Lippy Ditzy<br />
Source: 122 subtly sexist words<br />
about women. Sacraparental.<br />
FEMINAZI: BECAUSE EXPECTING<br />
GENDER EQUALITY IS JUST LIKE<br />
COMMITTING GENOCIDE<br />
And it happens at all levels.<br />
SUCH A NASTY<br />
WOMAN.<br />
— Donald Trump<br />
Image: © The Man Who Has it All<br />
In French as well.<br />
Avoir des couilles.<br />
Etre hystérique.<br />
Elle a ses règles?<br />
Bon père de famille.<br />
Le sexe faible.<br />
Il faut souffrir pour être belle.<br />
Mal baisée.<br />
Elle a dû coucher pour réussir.<br />
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Nique ta mère.<br />
Garçon manqué.<br />
Fais pas ta pute.<br />
Femme au volant, mort au tournant.<br />
Tu ne vas pas te laisser battre par<br />
une fille.<br />
La ménagère de moins de 50 ans.<br />
Derrière chaque grand homme, se<br />
cache une grande femme.<br />
Fais pas la gonzesse.<br />
Fée du logis.<br />
Ecole maternelle.<br />
ADD ON TOP OF IT ALL <strong>THE</strong><br />
SUBLIMINAL CONTAMINATION<br />
OF SONG LYRICS<br />
When blurring the lines between consensual sex and rape becomes the<br />
summer anthem.<br />
“I'm trying to find the words to describe this<br />
girl without being disrespectful. Damn girl<br />
who's a sexy bitch.”<br />
– David Guetta<br />
“Turn around, bitch, I got a use for you,<br />
besides, you ain’t got nothing better to do,<br />
and I’m bored.”<br />
– Guns 'N Roses<br />
“I'll give you something big enough to tear<br />
your ass in two. Do it like it hurt, like it hurt.<br />
What, you don't like work?”<br />
– Robin Thicke<br />
“Slut, think I won't choke no whore 'til her<br />
vocal chords don't work in her throat no<br />
more?”<br />
– Eminem<br />
“Fuck a bitch; don't tease bitch, strip tease<br />
bitch. Eat a bowl of these bitch, gobble the<br />
dick.”<br />
– Dr. Dre<br />
“Le comble enfin, misérable salope/<br />
Comme il n’restait plus rien dans le<br />
garde-manger/T’as couru sans vergogne,<br />
et pour une escalope/Te jeter dans le lit du<br />
boucher!”<br />
– Georges Brassens<br />
“La misogynie, c’est interessant vous savez.<br />
Il faut être misogyne. (...) Il faut savoir<br />
mettre les femmes à leur place. (...) Et<br />
quand on a fini de les adorer, il faut qu’elles<br />
nous foutent la paix.”<br />
– Léo Férré<br />
“J’ai envie de violer des femmes/De les<br />
forcer à m’admirer/Envie de boire toutes<br />
leurs larmes/Et de disparaître en fumée.”<br />
– Michel Sardou<br />
I KNOW YOU WANT IT!<br />
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WHAT IS <strong>THE</strong> IMPACT OF THIS<br />
VIOLENT COMMUNICATION MODE?<br />
We bully ourselves, we use violent communication patterns, we criticize more<br />
than we praise, and humiliate others constantly because we have been trained to<br />
see the universe as hierarchical.<br />
Multiple studies suggest rude language can impair cognition.<br />
We just don’t think as clearly when we’re insulted, and we also seem to like<br />
each other less.<br />
In one study from 2001, women kept diaries of the sexist or demeaning<br />
comments they heard. The more such comments women heard in a day, the<br />
more they felt angry and depressed, and the less they thought of themselves.<br />
Male-dominated language reinforces sexist attitudes and behaviors.<br />
Women are ignored and deprecated every day in general conversations as<br />
well as important discourse. How could this not have an effect on women's<br />
status and mental state?<br />
7% of women in the United States are depressed, which is twice the rate of<br />
depression among men (3.5%).<br />
Depression in women often stems from gender inequality, role strain, tendency<br />
to ruminate, stress response, child birth, dietary problems, body image, and<br />
poverty.<br />
Sexualization of girls is linked to common mental health problems in girls and<br />
women: eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression.<br />
Source: https://thelanguageweuse.wordpress.com<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Toolkit<br />
Humor<br />
As a journalist, make sure you can reverse the expressions you use.<br />
Leverage humor again!<br />
Source: Women Media Center, Media Guide<br />
Hilarious and thought-provoking, the Man Who Has It All<br />
account on Twitter and Facebook highlights the ridiculousness<br />
of the patronizing advice thrown at working mothers every day<br />
by reimagining it with fathers in mind.<br />
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Humor<br />
Reverse<br />
Visualize<br />
I’VE LEARNED THAT PEOPLE WILL FORGET<br />
WHAT YOU SAID, PEOPLE WILL FORGET<br />
WHAT YOU DID, BUT PEOPLE WILL NOT<br />
FORGET HOW YOU MADE <strong>THE</strong>M FEEL.<br />
— Maya Angelou<br />
Make parodies of offensive songs!<br />
Three Auckland law students made a shot-for-shot parody of Robin Thicke's<br />
"Blurred Lines" video. They replaced topless female models with nearly naked<br />
men and changed the lyrics to voice their frustration with the sexualization and<br />
objectification of women in the original video.<br />
The tongue-in-cheek satire – entitled Defined Lines – immediately went viral,<br />
but YouTube removed the video for indecency and inappropriate content, even<br />
though the original remained intact. #doublestandard<br />
Avoid gender bias in reference writing.<br />
Letters of reference for women are 7 times more likely to mention personal life.<br />
Keep it professional. Mention research and publications.<br />
On average, letters for men are 16% longer than letters for women. Emphasize<br />
accomplishments, not effort.<br />
Avoid adjectives as caring, compassionate, hard-working, helpful, diligent,<br />
dedicated, warm.<br />
Include adjectives as successful, excellent, accomplished, outstanding, skilled,<br />
knowledgeable, insightful, confident, ambitious, independent, intellectual.<br />
Source: University of Arizona. Commission on the Status of Women.<br />
Students from Duke University decided to launch the #YouDontSay social<br />
media campaign to challenge sexist expressions.<br />
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Visualize<br />
When leadership skill is seen as a<br />
turn-off.<br />
When we unconsciously shame<br />
women for their behavior.<br />
When being strong is a burden.<br />
When we associate strength and<br />
courage with masculinity.<br />
WORDS MATTER. WHEN A LITTLE GIRL IS CALLED<br />
BOSSY WHEN SHE LEADS, IT’S TELLING HER TO<br />
BE QUIET. I DON’T WANT GIRLS TO BE QUIET.<br />
I WANT <strong>THE</strong>M TO ROAR!<br />
— Jennifer Garner<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Being mindful of your language is the easiest thing you can do.<br />
Four simple steps to use more inclusive language.<br />
1<br />
Know your situation! Upon entering a room or a crowd, note the people<br />
who are there. Stop using “You, guys” to address a mixed crowd!<br />
2<br />
Try using plurals to avoid using gendered pronouns.<br />
3<br />
Correct your “man” words into their more appropriate and more inclusive<br />
forms: chairman into chairperson, fireman into fire fighter, policeman into<br />
police officer, post man into postal worker, etc.<br />
4<br />
Stop using identities as insults.<br />
<strong>THE</strong> LANGUAGE WE USE NOT ONLY<br />
REFLECTS OUR CULTURE<br />
BUT ALSO CONSTRUCTS IT.<br />
— Judith Baxter<br />
IF WE USE NON-GENDERED WORDS<br />
MOST OF <strong>THE</strong> TIME WE BEGIN TO<br />
SEE PEOPLE AND PROFESSIONS<br />
AS NON-GENDERED TOO.<br />
— Judith Baxter<br />
DO NOT JUDGE, AND YOU WILL NOT BE JUDGED.<br />
— Luke 6:37<br />
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Use gender-neutral language.<br />
Gendered Noun<br />
Culture<br />
Man<br />
Mankind<br />
Freshman<br />
Man-made<br />
The Common Man<br />
Chairman<br />
Policeman<br />
Steward, Stewardess<br />
Actor, Actress<br />
Congressman<br />
Sir (In “Dear Sir”)<br />
Waiter, Waitress<br />
Businessman, Businesswoman<br />
Mailman<br />
Salesman<br />
Person, Individual<br />
People, Human beings, Humanity<br />
First-year Student<br />
Machine-made, Synthetic, Artificial<br />
The average person<br />
Chair, Chairperson, Coordinator, Head<br />
Police Officer<br />
Flight Attendant<br />
Actor<br />
Legislator, Congressional Representative<br />
Dear Sir or Madam, Dear Editor, Dear Members<br />
of Search Committee, To whom it may concern.<br />
Server<br />
Businessperson, People/Person in business<br />
Mail Carrier, Letter carrier<br />
Salesperson, Sales associate, Salesclerk<br />
Changing terms is only the tip of the iceberg, but it has huge symbolic<br />
importance.<br />
As a woman, be more aware of your self-deprecating language!<br />
Learn to accept compliments. Just say thank you! Like in the hilarious<br />
Compliments video from Amy Schumer.<br />
Stop apologizing.<br />
Stop using shrinking language.<br />
DON’T SHRINK – DON’T<br />
PUFF UP. STAND ON<br />
YOUR SACRED GROUND.<br />
— Brené Brown<br />
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Stop criticizing others! It spreads bad energy.<br />
Stop insulting yourself! You will feel better!<br />
Read more about Non-Violent Communication.<br />
Choose at least one sexist expression that you commit to stop using.<br />
Speak up when a sexist expression is used around you.<br />
Stop dancing to sexist songs!<br />
Tweet to artists and production studios when songs are offensive to you.<br />
Set up a social media campaign on Change.org to raise awareness of<br />
sexist lyrics.<br />
Read The Four Agreements<br />
1<br />
2<br />
3<br />
4<br />
Be impeccable with your word.<br />
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak<br />
against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the<br />
direction of truth and love.<br />
Don’t make assumptions.<br />
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.<br />
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings,<br />
sadness, and drama.<br />
Don’t take anything personally.<br />
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of<br />
their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and<br />
actions of others, you won’t be a victim of needless suffering.<br />
Always do your best.<br />
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when<br />
you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your<br />
best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.<br />
Source: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz<br />
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Chapter 5 – Public Speaking<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
MEN SPEAK,<br />
WOMEN LISTEN<br />
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Historically, women have been socialized<br />
to be quiet.<br />
Even the Bible says so:<br />
AN ELOQUENT WOMAN<br />
IS NEVER CHASTE.<br />
SILENCE IS GOLDEN,<br />
PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE.<br />
“Let your women keep silence in the<br />
churches: for it is not permitted unto them to<br />
speak; but they are commanded to be under<br />
obedience as also saith the law.<br />
And if they will learn any thing, let them ask<br />
their husbands at home: for it is a shame for<br />
women to speak in the church.” – Corinthians<br />
14:34-35<br />
“A woman should learn in quietness and full<br />
submission. I do not permit a woman to teach<br />
or to assume authority over a man, she must<br />
be quiet.” – Timothy 2:11-12<br />
Homer labeled speech as “the business of men”<br />
and Sophocles wrote that “silence is a<br />
woman’s garment.”<br />
And this is still a reality today.<br />
KNOW YOUR LIMITS!<br />
I CAN HEAR<br />
<strong>THE</strong> ROAR OF<br />
— WOMEN’S<br />
SILENCE.<br />
– Thomas Sankara<br />
According to the Ban Bossy project, girls get less airtime<br />
in class, are called on less, and interrupted more.<br />
Suppressing women’s voices is still part of everyday life.<br />
According to Soraya Chemaly in The Huffington Post, “male doctors invariably<br />
interrupt patients when they speak, especially female patients, but patients rarely<br />
interrupt doctors in return. Unless the doctor is a woman. Parents interrupt girls<br />
twice as often and hold them to stricter politeness norms. Teachers engage<br />
boys, who correctly see disruptive speech as a marker of dominant masculinity,<br />
more often and more dynamically than they engage girls.”<br />
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The larger the group, the more likely men are to speak.<br />
Scholars at Brigham Young and Princeton<br />
Universities examined whether women<br />
speak less than men when a group<br />
collaborates to solve a problem.<br />
In most groups that they studied, the<br />
time that women spoke was significantly<br />
less than their proportional representation<br />
– amounting to less than 75% of the time that men spoke.<br />
STUDIES SHOW:<br />
MEN DOMINATE<br />
75% OF<br />
CONVERSATIONS<br />
IN DECISION<br />
MAKING GROUPS.<br />
Source: American Political Science Review<br />
Male students tend to be more talkative than female students, which affects their<br />
visibility, their grades, and their future professional opportunities.<br />
Having a seat at the table is not the same as<br />
having a voice. The website<br />
arementalkingtoomuch.com offers ways<br />
to check who is dominating the<br />
conversation.<br />
WHY?<br />
Three explanations have been popular since the 1970s, according to<br />
Debbie Cameron.<br />
“First, women are socialized to be unassertive: they’re reluctant to speak in<br />
public, and when they do enter public forums they don’t have the confidence to<br />
compete with men.<br />
Second, women aren’t interested in competing with men: they prefer a<br />
co-operative and supportive style of discourse to the adversarial mode that’s<br />
typical of male-dominated public forums.<br />
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Third, women are silenced by men’s sexist behaviour. Men interrupt<br />
women, talk over them, mansplain to them, ignore their<br />
contributions when they do manage to get a word in, and give<br />
credit to the man who makes the same point two minutes later.”<br />
WE REALIZE <strong>THE</strong> IMPORTANCE OF<br />
OUR VOICE WHEN WE ARE SILENCED.<br />
– Malala Yousafzai<br />
Is making a speech a fate worse than death?<br />
According to the Daily Mail, public speaking is the third most common fear after<br />
losing family members and being buried alive.<br />
Women's lower self-esteem translates into language patterns.<br />
Women are verbally less assertive than men, in the sense that they are more<br />
likely to use hedges, qualifiers and questioning intonations. Women also use<br />
more phrases like “kind of,” “probably”, or “maybe,” as well as more filliers like<br />
“um,” “ah”, and “I mean.” They also turn sentences into questions, seeking<br />
affirmation: “Isn’t it?”<br />
Women worry about “negative consequences” and backlash if they are<br />
more voluble as they can easily be perceived as too aggressive.<br />
In other words, men are rewarded for speaking, while women are punished.<br />
Women are also often considered to be not ready enough.<br />
At TED Global 2013, TED former executive producer June Cohen wondered:<br />
“Where are the women speakers?” The main reason, she believes, is that women<br />
are more likely to say no. When turning down an offer to speak, women often<br />
say, “I’m not ready,” citing a lack of experience or underdeveloped research.<br />
Another explanation is that women prove to be extremely vulnerable to<br />
interruption.<br />
Numerous studies have demonstrated that in mixed-sex conversations, women<br />
are interrupted far more frequently than men are. By men AND by women.<br />
Women’s "bursts" last only a few seconds, while male students typically keep
on talking until they had finished.<br />
Moreover, once interrupted, women sometimes stay out of the discussion for<br />
the remainder of the conversation.<br />
“Interruptions can be used to display or gain dominance”, says Adrienne Hancock,<br />
linguist at George Washington University.<br />
How to bro-propriate?<br />
You probably have come across the cartoon<br />
saying: “That's an excellent suggestion,<br />
Miss Riggs. Perhaps one of the men here<br />
would like to make it.”<br />
Image: Kathleen Edison<br />
Many women are also familiar with<br />
experiences of "mansplaining."<br />
Mansplaining is when a man explains<br />
something to a woman in a patronizing way,<br />
especially something that he actually knows<br />
less about than she does. This expression<br />
comes from the essay by Rebecca Solnit,<br />
Men Explain Things to Me.<br />
Women often feel voluntarily or involuntarily silenced and invaded by men’s<br />
occupation of the vocal space.<br />
Silencing women’s voices takes many shapes:<br />
shushing young girls<br />
grabbing the mic<br />
speaking louder<br />
yelling at women<br />
belittling or patronizing the women who speak<br />
laughing at women's comments<br />
Image: Kaye Blegvad<br />
interrupting<br />
labeling more vocal women as aggressive or bossy<br />
not believing women when they speak out<br />
denying the reality of women's testimonials or experiences<br />
insulting women or threatening them on social media.<br />
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Far too many conferences feature talks exclusively hosted by men.<br />
At the 2017 World Economic Forum in Davos, only 20% of the participants were<br />
women.<br />
And the Brookings Institution noted that women were entirely absent from the<br />
2017 US congressional US-Iran deal hearings, even though women were key<br />
players in structuring the deal.<br />
Where are the women?<br />
Many high-profile conferences, events, and taskforces lack gender balance,<br />
despite there being no shortage of qualified women.<br />
15% OF <strong>THE</strong><br />
PANELISTS IN<br />
AUSTRALIA ARE<br />
WOMEN<br />
Source: The Panel Pledge<br />
So we end up with all-male panels…<br />
Image: All-male panel Tumblr<br />
Women speakers still earn less<br />
than male speakers.<br />
Event organizers negotiate more<br />
harshly with female speakers,<br />
asking them to lower their fees or<br />
even to speak for free. Since<br />
women speak at fewer events,<br />
female speakers have less visibility<br />
and attract smaller audiences,<br />
which justifies lower speaker's fees<br />
from event organizers. It's a<br />
negative feedback loop.<br />
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What conference organizers answer when asked for female speakers:<br />
Female Conference Speaker<br />
B I N G O<br />
Women just<br />
aren’t<br />
interested in<br />
this field<br />
There aren’t<br />
enough<br />
qualified<br />
female<br />
spaeakers<br />
We need bigname<br />
speakers,<br />
and few of<br />
those are<br />
women<br />
It’s a maledominated<br />
field<br />
There aren’t a<br />
lof of women in<br />
C-level<br />
positions<br />
Both women<br />
we called were<br />
booked that<br />
weekend<br />
Both women<br />
we booked<br />
bailed at the<br />
last minute<br />
All the women<br />
were probably<br />
busy<br />
Female<br />
speakers are<br />
always burnt<br />
out from<br />
speaking so<br />
much<br />
Trying to get<br />
more female<br />
speakers is<br />
sexist<br />
The organizers<br />
just wanted to<br />
get the best<br />
speakers they<br />
could find<br />
You can’t kick<br />
out a male<br />
speaker just to<br />
fit a women in<br />
there<br />
FREE<br />
You can’t<br />
shoehorn in a<br />
women where<br />
she doesn’t fit<br />
Women never<br />
volunteer to<br />
present<br />
You have to be<br />
bold; people<br />
arenn’t just<br />
going to invite<br />
you to present<br />
Women are shy<br />
Women only<br />
ever want to<br />
talk about<br />
women-stuff<br />
Women need<br />
to act more like<br />
men<br />
No one has<br />
complained<br />
about this<br />
before<br />
Attendees want<br />
to hear from<br />
people like<br />
themselves<br />
Well, there<br />
aren’t that<br />
many female<br />
attendees,<br />
either<br />
We’re ony<br />
responding to<br />
demand<br />
Fine, YOU tell<br />
me who they<br />
should have<br />
invited<br />
Who? I’ve<br />
never heard of<br />
her.<br />
Image: David Sipress. The New Yorker<br />
Image: Caperton Gillett and Feministe<br />
It’s a self-reinforcing cycle. Few women getting hired to speak means fewer can<br />
become stars, which means fewer will get hired to speak.<br />
Yet, the odds that a panel might "randomly" be all men are astronomical.<br />
Work by mathematician Greg Martin suggests that all-male lineups don’t “just<br />
happen,” despite what conference organizers might claim.<br />
Source: Lauren Bacon, The Atlantic<br />
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Conferences are a business, and the social media backlash can be drastic.<br />
Here is an example of a tech conference in the US that became a target of<br />
social media:<br />
It was pointed out on Twitter that the lineup was all white men.<br />
Twitter erupted with allegations of racism/sexism.<br />
This put the sponsors in an awkward position regarding commitment to the<br />
conference.<br />
This meant the venue contract couldn't be signed because of a potential lack<br />
of financial security.<br />
Since the team couldn’t take on personal liability for the costs, there was a<br />
hard decision to made.<br />
That decision was: Cancel the event.<br />
The gender gap in public speaking is<br />
not random.<br />
It is the consequence of internalized<br />
cultural norms:<br />
Women’s lower inclination to<br />
speak in public and/or<br />
self-promote.<br />
Men’s greater visibility in<br />
public eye.<br />
Conference organizers’<br />
unconscious bias.<br />
Consequences of (in)visibility.<br />
Since speakers are usually male,<br />
audiences are given a narrow<br />
perspective. Fewer women choose to<br />
speak, and fewer are chosen.<br />
Without the opportunity for women to<br />
serve on panels as thought leaders,<br />
women lack profile-building speaking<br />
opportunities, an important<br />
contributor to experience and<br />
recognition.<br />
Source: The Panel Pledge<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Humor Speak up<br />
Boycott Toolkit<br />
Some websites have started to make fun of this situation, like Learn-to-search.com.<br />
Image: learn-to-search.com<br />
Image: © Man Who Has It All<br />
Their point is clear: "In 2012, only 7% of men organizing tech conferences had the<br />
search skills to book male and female speakers in equal number. Poor internet<br />
search skills result in homogeneous communities."<br />
The Women’s Leadership Institute in Australia put<br />
together a handy toolkit for those who want to<br />
say no.<br />
In Sweden and Norway, male speakers are now refusing to<br />
participate in conferences and panel discussions without female<br />
representation.<br />
70-80% of all the experts in media today are men. If we continue to organize<br />
all-male panels and juries, we keep reproducing the image of an expert as a<br />
man.<br />
Saying no to all-male panels is an easy way to let more people contribute to a<br />
concrete change.<br />
Benja Stig Fagerland, Founder and CEO of Women Speakers, sees the Say<br />
No campaign as part of a new international wave of feminism that is driven by<br />
social media.<br />
Five of Australia's most booked male conference speakers will boycott panels<br />
that don't include women, criticizing organizers for taking the lazy way out by<br />
opting for "dude fests."<br />
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Speak up<br />
SAY NO TO<br />
#MANPANELS<br />
Source: www.tackanej.se<br />
When President Obama held his last news conference of 2014, he called on<br />
eight reporters — all women.<br />
It made headlines worldwide. Had a politician given only men a chance to ask<br />
questions, it would not have been news; it would have been a regular day.<br />
Some staff members developed the amplification strategy.<br />
When President Obama took office, two-thirds of his top aides were men. Women<br />
complained about having to elbow their way into important meetings. And when<br />
they got in, their voices were sometimes ignored. So female staffers adopted a<br />
meeting strategy they called “amplification”: When a woman made a key point,<br />
other women would repeat it, giving credit to its author. This forced the men in the<br />
room to recognize the contribution — and denied them the chance to claim the<br />
idea as their own. The “amplification” strategy seems to have paid off: During<br />
Obama’s second term, women finally gained parity with men in Obama’s inner<br />
circle.<br />
Some tech conferences have started to commit to a 50:50 speaker<br />
representation.<br />
For example, Collision Conference offered free tickets to anyone who referred<br />
women speakers to them.<br />
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Data Mining<br />
Infiltrate<br />
Some campaigns raise<br />
awareness of the need for<br />
women’s voices, such as<br />
#ElevatePak in Pakistan.<br />
New speakers’ bureaux are exclusively dedicated to find more diverse<br />
speakers.<br />
Bulbula is a free online directory of<br />
brilliant female commentators and<br />
speakers from the Middle East, North<br />
Africa, and South Asia. Bulbula brings<br />
these diverse voices to a wider audience,<br />
connecting them with journalists,<br />
producers, and bookers in a dynamic<br />
meeting of cultures.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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If you attend a conference:<br />
Leverage social media!<br />
Point out gender imbalances when you see them.<br />
Use #allmalepanels.<br />
Use the amplification method with your female friends or colleagues.<br />
Call out mansplaining and mansplainers.<br />
If you speak at a conference:<br />
Ask the organizers who else is speaking.<br />
Tell the organizers you’ve made a pledge to avoid all-male panels and<br />
can’t speak if there are no women going.<br />
Then suggest some women that might be great for the event.<br />
Reserve the right to bail out at the last minute if your requirements aren’t<br />
met.<br />
And speak up about the need for a diversity of voices!<br />
If you are a conference organizer:<br />
Issue a call for presentations (CFP).<br />
Select proposed talks anonymously, and state in the CFP that you do so.<br />
Encourage people from under-represented groups to respond to the CFP.<br />
Monitor your data.<br />
Reach out to specific speakers bureaux.<br />
Distribute topics so that women’s voices are heard on “hard” topics, not<br />
just “soft” topics.<br />
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Ask around. Ask other panelists, industry insiders, and specialist<br />
women’s organizations. Use Google. Look at previous conferences,<br />
government boards, and industry associations.<br />
Infographic: Kathleen Edison inspired by Jessica Bennett’s column.<br />
For women speakers: Dare!<br />
Get trained to speak better.<br />
If you want your seat at the table to<br />
count, you need to become a better<br />
speaker.<br />
Start small, and build your confidence: “Find local events, pitch a talk, and<br />
practice a lot. It really does get easier each time. It's just about practice.”<br />
Get in touch with experienced professional speakers and ask them for advice<br />
and guidance about:<br />
How to book more gigs and gain more speaking experience.<br />
How to gain the confidence to ask for money.<br />
How to price your talks competitively in an industry where women and<br />
minorities are consistently underpaid.<br />
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Register for a theater or improvisation class now!<br />
Join a Toastmasters club.<br />
Attend a storytelling night.<br />
Join a poetry club.<br />
Write or blog about a subject to demonstrate your expertise and to<br />
prompt organizers to contact you.<br />
Submit your ideas to conferences.<br />
Register for a female speakers bureau.<br />
Nominate yourself or someone you know at:<br />
https://morewomensvoices.com/<br />
And men: Be more aware of your privilege!<br />
You have been socialized to talk more, to occupy the floor. Be mindful about it!<br />
Be aware of the length of your interventions, of your interruptions, of your own<br />
unconscious dominant behavior. In other words, learn to shut up and to listen<br />
more.<br />
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AS WOMEN WE MUST<br />
SPEAK OUT, SPEAK UP,<br />
SAY NO TO OUR INHERITANCE<br />
OF LOSS AND YES TO A<br />
FUTURE OF WOMEN-LED<br />
DIALOGUE ABOUT<br />
WOMEN’S RIGHTS<br />
AND VALUE.<br />
— Zainab Salbi<br />
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Chapter 6 – Cities<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
OUR PUBLIC SPACE<br />
IS MALE<br />
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All around the world, street signs of male silhouettes<br />
invite us to cross the street.<br />
Maya Barkai, the artist behind the public art<br />
project Walking Men Worldwide, has been<br />
collecting images of crosswalk light symbols<br />
from cities across the world since 2004.<br />
She estimates that of 180 different symbols<br />
in her collection, roughly 10 are gendered<br />
female.<br />
Only a few cities have female signs: Odense<br />
in Denmark, Zaragoza and La Coruña in Spain,<br />
Zwickau and Dresden in Germany.<br />
Source: Walking Men 99, New<br />
York 2010-2013 / Photography:<br />
Maya Barkai, Walking Men<br />
Worldwide<br />
STREET NAMES SORT OF DEFINE <strong>THE</strong><br />
IDENTITY OF A PLACE.<br />
– Aruna Sankaranarayanan, Mapbox<br />
Mapbox mapped 7 world cities and<br />
found that only 28% of the streets<br />
were named after women.<br />
Paris<br />
A new interactive map from Mapbox<br />
developer Aruna Sankaranarayanan and<br />
her colleagues shows just how scarce<br />
female streets are in major world cities.<br />
Mumbai<br />
San Francisco<br />
Images: Mapbox<br />
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Only 2% of French streets are named after women, most of them being<br />
wives and daughters of famous men.<br />
3% of Paris metro stations (9 stations) have a female name.<br />
The situation is similar in Spain.<br />
90% of Spanish streets are named<br />
after men. And those honoring<br />
women usually reference saints.<br />
Only 7 out of 273 metro stations in<br />
Madrid are named after women.<br />
The gender gap also applies to monuments.<br />
In her new book, Nonstop Metropolis: A New York City Atlas, Rebecca Solnit<br />
sums it up: "Almost every city is full of men’s names, names that are markers of<br />
who wielded power, who made history, who held fortunes, who was<br />
remembered; women are anonymous people who changed fathers’ names for<br />
husbands’ as they married, who lived in private and were comparatively<br />
forgotten, with few exceptions."<br />
Just have a look at the Modulor Man, the mascot of Le Corbusier's system<br />
for re-ordering the universe.<br />
Women's absence from city features like streets and metro stations is<br />
shaping the role of women in history.<br />
In a more global perspective, cities are not designed for women.<br />
The Modulor was meant as a universal system of proportions.<br />
The ambition was vast: it was devised to reconcile math, the human form,<br />
architecture, and beauty into a single system.<br />
This system could then be used to provide the measurements for all aspects<br />
of design, from door handles to cities, and Corbusier believed that it could be<br />
further applied to industry and mechanics.<br />
As is often said, a six-foot rule is hardly fair to women and children.<br />
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And this can be illustrated in our daily lives.<br />
Let’s take the classic example of the public bathroom.<br />
Signs tell us who is using which space for what.<br />
Baby changing stations are usually located inside women's<br />
bathrooms, which precludes fathers from participating.<br />
The inevitable lines for women’s bathrooms illustrate the lack of<br />
human-centered design.<br />
Disproportionately long lines not only drain women’s time, the wait can be<br />
physically painful. The equitable provision of public toilet facilities for women and<br />
men within a public space is called "potty parity.” On average, men take 30<br />
seconds to use the bathroom, according to a Time magazine report about potty<br />
parity. Women take 90 seconds.<br />
According to Soraya Chemaly, women are socialized to quietly deal with<br />
physical discomfort.<br />
Women need to use bathrooms more often and for longer periods of time<br />
because:<br />
Women sit to urinate (urinals effectively double the space in men’s<br />
bathrooms),<br />
Women menstruate,<br />
Women are responsible for reproducing the species (which makes us<br />
pee more),<br />
Women continue to have greater responsibility for children (who have to<br />
use bathrooms with women), and<br />
Women breastfeed.<br />
Additionally, women tend to wear more binding and cumbersome clothes,<br />
whereas men’s clothing provides significantly speedier access.<br />
But in a classic example of the difference between surface “equality” and<br />
genuine equity, many public restrooms continue to be facilities that are equal<br />
in physical space, while favoring men’s bodies, experiences, and needs.<br />
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Legislation to address the design and provision<br />
of public restrooms in new construction<br />
often requires more spaces for women’s<br />
rooms. But that has hardly made a dent in<br />
many of our oldest and most used public<br />
spaces.<br />
So our cities are mostly designed by and<br />
for men.<br />
A city’s layout imposes a significant time burden on women.<br />
Where resources like water or schools are located matters as well.<br />
WHO estimates that 72% of the burden of collecting water at standpipes,<br />
wells, rivers,<br />
and other storage units falls on women.<br />
Multiple daily trips to and from water sources eats up women’s time, drawing<br />
them away from other activities like education and employment.<br />
Women and men use public spaces, buildings, and even access basic<br />
services differently.<br />
In areas where resources of all kinds are more limited, these disparities<br />
become especially acute, affecting women’s safety, movement, and income.<br />
This is particularly true in parts of the global south, where urban planning<br />
struggles to keep up with basic use, much<br />
less encourage gender equality.<br />
Image: The Guardian
Nowhere in the world has a city yet been conceived and constructed along<br />
the lines that these women planners would like.<br />
Nowhere in the world do women, and others who share the inclusive goals of<br />
gender planning, have the political power or access to capital that such an<br />
urban renewal project would require: lack of workplace creches, continuing<br />
arguments about breastfeeding in public places, concerns that women<br />
cyclists are more vulnerable to being killed and injured on the roads.<br />
Top-down planning is never effective.<br />
The women who are potentially the worst affected in unsafe conditions are the<br />
very ones who have no voice in deciding the contours of the city or ways to<br />
make it safer.<br />
Urban design should better reflect the aspirations, imaginations, and<br />
requirements of all sections of the population.<br />
Where should the public toilet be? Where should the water source be located?<br />
Which is the best site for the school?<br />
Fewer than one-fifth of U.S. cities with populations over 30,000 have female<br />
mayors.<br />
There aren’t many women in political power or at the helm of influential organizations<br />
that steer cities’ futures, writes Daphne Spain, author of Constructive<br />
Feminism: Women’s Spaces and Women’s Rights in the American City.<br />
Women are often at the forefront of grassroots efforts to address issues that<br />
affect themselves and their families, like tenants’ rights and environmental<br />
hazards, but they’re under-represented in leadership roles.<br />
The number of women council members in the largest cities has decreased<br />
from 33% to 30% since 2010.<br />
In France, only 15% of mayors are female. And, among cities with more than<br />
100,000 people, only 3 out of 43 cities are run by women (Paris, Rennes, and<br />
Nantes).<br />
Women are under-represented in the fields of planning, architecture, and real<br />
estate development, particularly at the top.<br />
“We basically do not have good examples of gender-sensitive planning in the<br />
U.S.,”Mildred Warner, the Cornell planning professor who led the survey with<br />
the APA, told HuffPost.<br />
Stop Street Harassment founder and Executive Director Holly Kearl described<br />
the challenge of getting her message to the Washington Metropolitan Area
Transit Authority several years ago: They were “saying that one person’s<br />
harassment was another person’s flirting, and it wasn’t a problem on their<br />
system.”<br />
Because design is a feminist issue.<br />
There is no feminist or minority-friendly city yet.<br />
In many parts of the world, women can’t even go out on their own without<br />
beingharassed, points out Caren Levy, a professor at University College<br />
London.<br />
Levy studies public transport, an area of heightened concern for policymakers<br />
in light of horrific crimes like the gang rape and murder of Jyoti Singh Pandey<br />
on a Delhi bus in 2012.<br />
Despite such tragedies, and the<br />
proof they provide that women<br />
must be taken into account when<br />
strategic decisions around transport<br />
planning are made, Levy says gender<br />
remains at the fringe of policy<br />
debate, if it is there at all.<br />
Men are raised to go out, to live<br />
outside and explore the world, while<br />
women are raised to stay at home<br />
and to develop an inner fear of<br />
the outside world, perceived as a threat to their integrity.<br />
Prevalence of Street Harassment<br />
50% of US Women<br />
under 40 have been<br />
groped or fondled in<br />
the last year.<br />
77% of US Women<br />
under 40 have been<br />
followed by a man or<br />
group of men in the<br />
last year.<br />
Data: Hollaback<br />
In France, 100% of women have<br />
experienced harassment in the<br />
transportation system. In<br />
Paris, 8 out of 10 women believe<br />
they would receive no help in a<br />
case of aggression in the metro.<br />
In 2016, ActionAid conducted a<br />
survey about street harassment in a<br />
number of countries.<br />
They found that 79% of women living in cities in India, 86% in Thailand, and 89%<br />
in Brazil have been subjected to harassment or violence in public, as had 75% of<br />
women in London, UK.
A right to safety.<br />
Every woman wants to feel safe while going to work, school, or running an<br />
errand.<br />
Sexual violence and harassment are another reason women and girls<br />
experience cities differently than men.<br />
The space issue: The individual with more power tends to occupy more<br />
space.<br />
In a waiting room, men tend to occupy more space than women.<br />
On airplanes, men tend to occupy the armrests.<br />
Women tend to have smaller offices and smaller cars.<br />
Men tend to invade the personal space of women more than the other way<br />
around.<br />
Men tend to touch women more often than the other way around, establishing<br />
the domination relationship.<br />
When men feel their personal space is invaded, they react aggressively;<br />
women withdraw and flee.<br />
Femininity is valued by how little space<br />
women can occupy, while manhood<br />
requires spreading.<br />
This space occupying strategy affects<br />
leisure space as well.<br />
Young men get the power to make public<br />
space their own and to model it according<br />
to their values.<br />
In France, 75% of the equipment in urban<br />
public recreational space is designed for boys.<br />
Free recreational spaces (skateparks, city stadiums)<br />
are predominantly occupied by young boys.<br />
Girls rapidly don’t feel welcomed.<br />
This is reinforced by parents who limit their daughters' use of public space.<br />
When we say public space is neutral, it means it is male. Urban recreational<br />
equipment is used by boys two-thirds of the time, so collective investment<br />
goes to men.<br />
Image: Joe Dator<br />
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Women are taught to be more cautious,<br />
to take fewer risks, and that bikes are<br />
for boys.<br />
At the end of the day, a family’s concerns<br />
for limiting women's safety ends up<br />
limiting their movements.<br />
Women are also socialized to think<br />
that they are poor drivers.<br />
Consider the common expressions in our<br />
language about women drivers, the<br />
comments made when a woman is behind<br />
the wheel, the patronizing help from male<br />
passengers, and beliefs that women tend<br />
to be “distracted by things,” can’t park in<br />
narrow spaces, or the big car must belong<br />
to the husband. Yet all these stereotypes should, theoretically, be long gone<br />
by now, especially because statistically women ARE better drivers than men.<br />
Men typically drive more miles than women and more often engage in risky<br />
driving practices, including not using safety belts, driving while impaired by<br />
alcohol, and speeding.<br />
Over the course of his lifetime, CBS News reports, a man could pay $15,000<br />
more for driver's insurance than a woman.<br />
The IIHS, a nonprofit created by car insurance companies to decrease<br />
accidents, compiled 2015 accident data based on gender. The study found<br />
that 71% of car accident casualties were men. The same study found that<br />
twice as many men died in crashes between 1975 and 2015 than women. The<br />
IIHS findings are even more grim when it comes to motorcycle-related deaths,<br />
where men make up 91% of fatalities.<br />
So women get to drive less and practice less, thus feeling less confident<br />
driving.<br />
Add to that the stereotype threat. When women spend their lives listening to<br />
remarks about women being bad drivers, it easily affects their confidence<br />
behind the wheel.<br />
Source: Broadly<br />
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Women are expected to care more about their outfit, especially since<br />
women’s clothes restrict movements and behaviours.<br />
Tight clothes prevent large movements, and<br />
women with skirts or dresses have to be<br />
careful so that their underwear is not seen.<br />
Women’s clothes and footwear have long limited their movements, from<br />
foot binding to stilettos.<br />
Foot binding, a widespread custom in China that<br />
lasted for more than a 1,000 years, involved<br />
incredibly tight cloth bindings being applied<br />
to the feet of young girls to stifle growth.<br />
Women with small feet were deemed beautiful<br />
and could marry better if they had “lotus feet.”<br />
as they were often referred to.<br />
Imperial Chinese<br />
foot binding<br />
21st Century western<br />
foot binding<br />
The process typically took place between ages 4 and 9. The toes were bent<br />
backwards, pressed downwards, and finally squeezed into the sole. Over<br />
time, the bones in the toes would break, and the foot arch would rise to the<br />
extent that the heel would almost touch the metatarsals.<br />
Source: Telegraph. Jemimah Steinfeld<br />
And today, women turn to botox to<br />
repair feet damaged by high heels.<br />
I REGRET BINDING<br />
MY FEET. I CAN’T<br />
DANCE. I CAN’T<br />
MOVE PROPERLY.<br />
I REGRET IT A LOT.<br />
BUT AT <strong>THE</strong> TIME, IF<br />
YOU DIDN’T BIND YOUR<br />
FEET, NO ONE WOULD<br />
MARRY YOU.<br />
— Zhou Guizhen, survivor of foot-binding, 2007<br />
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Men’s clothing has been designed for utility; women’s clothing has been<br />
designed for beauty.<br />
British activist and academic Sheila Jeffreys, a former political science professor<br />
at the University of Melbourne and author of Beauty and Misogyny: Harmful<br />
Cultural Practices in the West, says: "Men have traditionally demanded that<br />
women walk and dance in pain and gained great sexual satisfaction from this.<br />
The fashion industry that creates the rules is dominated by men, many of whom<br />
are shoe fetishists. They project their interest on to women's broken feet."<br />
<strong>THE</strong> CORE OF MY<br />
WORK IS<br />
DEDICATED<br />
NOT TO<br />
PLEASING WOMEN<br />
BUT TO PLEASING<br />
MEN.<br />
MY JOB IS<br />
NOT TO<br />
CREATE<br />
SOMETHING<br />
COMFORTABLE.<br />
— Christian Louboutin<br />
— Christian Louboutin<br />
The concept of beauty is dictated by culture, and fashion trends remain<br />
defined by male designers to satisfy male pleasure over female comfort.<br />
Even Barbie dolls have feet designed for high heels.<br />
Elizabeth Semmelhack, Senior Curator at Toronto’s Bata Shoe Museum, said<br />
one of her biggest concerns is equating high heels with power. “I question that a<br />
great deal because the power that high heels seems to convey is very<br />
sexualized power. And very sexualized power is false power, because in order to<br />
be sexy someone has to find you sexy, and so the power actually is in the<br />
beholder.”<br />
Beauty practices are not only just as persistent, but in many ways more<br />
extreme.<br />
Beauty and Misogyny examines the pervasive use of makeup, the misogyny of<br />
fashion and high-heeled shoes, and looks at the role of pornography in the<br />
creation of increasingly popular beauty practices such as breast implants,<br />
genital waxing, and surgical alteration of the labia.<br />
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Common beauty practices are damaging the health of women.<br />
Since the 19th century, feminists have condemned fashion trends harmful<br />
to women’s health.<br />
From the late 1860s to the early 1890s, The Lancet published at least one<br />
article a year on the dangers of tight lacing, a custom held responsible for<br />
curvature of the spine, rib deformity, displacement of internal organs, respiratory<br />
problems, circulatory diseases, birth defects, fertility issues, broken ribs,<br />
and puncture wounds.<br />
The corset-opposing Rational Dress Society, founded in 1881, included heels<br />
as part of its campaign against, "dress that either deforms the figure, impedes<br />
the movements of the body, or in any way tends to injure the health."<br />
Today, NHS podiatric surgeon Emma Supple decries the current vogue for<br />
"Killer, statement, gladiatorial heels" as "warfare on your feet." Thousands of<br />
British women are rendered immobile by high heels, she says.<br />
Corrective surgery is occurring to the tune of $38 million a year. Four out of 10<br />
women admit to having had accidents, with statistics suggesting that as many<br />
as 20,000 women a year are hospitalised by their heels. “There has to be a<br />
change,” Supple says, “because this really is a form of self-torture. We have<br />
enormous rates of obesity, and osteoporosis. Women have to be able to get<br />
out of their cars and pound pavements.”<br />
From corsets to burkas, we are limiting women’s movements in the public<br />
space.<br />
Women’s clothes are designed everywhere in the world to limit freedom of<br />
movement (veils, abayas, burkas, short skirts, high heels, tight clothes,<br />
pocketless trousers, heavy handbags and so much more). This supposes a<br />
constant mental load for women to be watchful of their appearance. Women<br />
shall not move around easily.<br />
“Protection” has often been used to repress people.<br />
In previous centuries, women weren’t allowed to go out without a chaperone,<br />
under the guise of needing protection.<br />
In modern times, women in countries like Saudi Arabia still live under<br />
protective rules, e.g. they can’t drive a car alone, they must travel with a male<br />
guardian in public.<br />
When you take away a woman’s agency, you take away her freedom.<br />
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This phenomenon is what Glick called “the protection racket.”<br />
To protect women from potential dangers, we limit their freedom.<br />
Why don’t we work on the source of danger?<br />
Because, whatever they wear, whatever vehicle they drive, women<br />
experience everywhere the dominating and intimidating power of stares.<br />
Men staring at you (even silently) does not<br />
make you feel welcomed in the public<br />
space. Especially if men are in groups.<br />
Women learn from a very young age to<br />
adapt their behavior:<br />
– Lower the gaze.<br />
– Avoid eye contact.<br />
– Dress to be less noticeable.<br />
– Change sidewalks.<br />
But the discomfort remains.<br />
Staring is “power over” as well.<br />
So numerous messages in our public space end up sending a clear<br />
message to women: You don’t belong here.<br />
AS A WOMAN,<br />
YOU ARE NOT<br />
ACCESSIBLE<br />
TO EVERY <strong>WORLD</strong>.<br />
— Zaha Hadid<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Humor<br />
Reverse<br />
Speak up<br />
Naming<br />
A song satirizing Saudi Arabia’s driving ban on women has been seen by 15<br />
million people on YouTube.<br />
Hisham Fageeh, the 26-year-old comedian behind<br />
the hit, has adapted Bob Marley’s famous reggae hit,<br />
“No Woman, No Cry,” with his friends Fahad Albutairi<br />
and Alaa Wardi.<br />
Saudi activist Manal al-Sharif decided to encourage women to drive by<br />
doing so and filming herself for YouTube.<br />
In response to the Cannes Film Festival<br />
reportedly barring women from attending<br />
film screenings if they were not wearing<br />
high heels, Emma Thompson decided<br />
to take off her Louboutin heels at the<br />
Golden Globes.<br />
I’VE TAKEN MY<br />
HEELS<br />
OFF AS A FEMINIST<br />
STATEMENT REALLY,<br />
BECAUSE WHY DO<br />
WE WEAR <strong>THE</strong>M?<br />
<strong>THE</strong>Y’RE SO<br />
PAINFUL. AND<br />
POINTLESS, REALLY.<br />
BUT TO PLEASING<br />
MEN.<br />
—Emma Thompson<br />
Each year, an ever-increasing number<br />
of men, women, and their families are<br />
joining the award-winning Walk a Mile<br />
in Her Shoes: The International Men's<br />
March to Stop Rape, Sexual Assault &<br />
Gender Violence.<br />
Different cities implement<br />
campaigns against manspreading.<br />
Manspreading, or man-sitting, is the<br />
practice of men sitting in public<br />
transport with legs wide apart, thereby<br />
covering more than one seat.<br />
New York<br />
New York City's Metropolitan Transit Authority and<br />
Seattle's Sound Transit instituted poster campaigns<br />
encouraging respectful posture on crowded buses and<br />
trains to increase seating availability.
Naming Visualize<br />
The Power of the Crowd<br />
Seattle<br />
Madrid<br />
Seoul<br />
In Madrid, Clara Serra of Podemos, the political<br />
party that presented the manspreading motion,<br />
said “We believe that putting a name to and<br />
making visible these kinds of daily sexist<br />
behaviour that go unnoticed is the way ahead<br />
to become more aware, seeing what we used<br />
not to see and leaving inequality and machismo<br />
behind.”<br />
The campaign was inspired by an online petition promoted by a women’s rights<br />
group, Microrrelatos Feministas, that had garnered more than 13,000 signatures.<br />
UN Women and the Government of Mexico City launched the campaign<br />
#NoEsDeHombres to tackle sexual harassment in public transport.<br />
Authorities in Mexico City took an<br />
unusual approach to teaching men<br />
a lesson about misogynist<br />
behaviour by installing a<br />
“penis seat” on an underground<br />
train. The seat, moulded to mimic<br />
a seated man (including his penis),<br />
was labelled for men only and<br />
accompanied by a sign that said: “It is annoying to travel this way, but not<br />
compared to the sexual violence women suffer in their daily commutes.”<br />
Image: ONU Mujeres<br />
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Visualize<br />
Street Action<br />
UN Women and the Mexican government collaborated on a second video,<br />
called “Experimento Pantallas” or “Experiment Screens.” It emphasized the<br />
same message by filming men’s butts on the platform and broadcasting the<br />
footage on TV screens in the subway.<br />
In Paris, a feminist group decided to<br />
rename 60 streets in honor of women.<br />
The idea was to raise awareness and to<br />
show the world as it should be.<br />
Now led by a female mayor, Paris is trying to<br />
assign female names to its new streets.<br />
THIS IS A MAN'S <strong>WORLD</strong><br />
BUT IT WOULD BE NOTHING,<br />
WITHOUT A WOMAN OR A GIRL.<br />
— James Brown<br />
Some artists also redesigned Paris and New York subway maps<br />
exclusively with female station names.<br />
“It’s a map that reflects the remarkable history of charismatic women who have<br />
shaped New York City from the beginning,” wrote author Rebecca Solnit In her<br />
new book Nonstop Metropolis: A New York City Atlas.<br />
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Data Mining Tech 4 Good<br />
The Power of the Crowd<br />
Image: Silvia Radelli<br />
In Spain, cities are replacing former<br />
fascist names with local female heroes.<br />
In Barcelona, the total number of streets<br />
named after women increased from 7% in<br />
1996 to 28% in 2010.<br />
The 1,961 streets in Catalonia named after<br />
women can be geolocalized thanks to<br />
#nomenclator website.<br />
Since most signs of women’s influence in history have been erased from<br />
the physical world, some apps have started to recall it in the digital world.<br />
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Street Action<br />
Disobey the Rules<br />
The citizens of some cities have<br />
begun to ask for a change in<br />
public statues.<br />
Some celebrities have started to<br />
speak up about the discrepancies<br />
in public space.<br />
In China, some women occupy the men’s<br />
toilets to raise awareness of the issue.<br />
As Rosa Parks once defied city law by refusing to<br />
give up her bus seat to a white passenger, why<br />
not use men’s bathrooms if the line for women’s<br />
bathrooms is too long?<br />
Some activists advocate for gender-neutral<br />
bathrooms.<br />
In India, the Why Loiter<br />
initiative is re-occupying<br />
public space.
Street Action<br />
Tech 4 Good<br />
When society wants to keep a woman safe, it never chooses to make public<br />
spaces safe for her.<br />
It instead tries to limit her right to this space.<br />
It highlights the way in which the media, as well as general discourse, tends to<br />
focus on the dangers that face women who “dare to cross prescribed lines.”<br />
Being in a public space without any apparent reason is not appropriate for<br />
females.<br />
So women gather in cafes, public benches, or beaches and post photos of<br />
themselves on social media.<br />
And they do the same in Pakistan…<br />
...in France...<br />
...or Tunisia.
New Skill<br />
Toolkit<br />
Take Back the Metro invites transport<br />
system users to inform fellow passengers<br />
about sexist violence (and not<br />
only about pickpockets or minding the<br />
gap).<br />
In Cairo, Harassmap helps to geolocalize street harassment in real time to<br />
identify the most dangerous streets and to work in collaboration with<br />
shopkeepers and residents.<br />
Harassmap recently trained male Uber drivers about recognizing, preventing,<br />
and taking positive action against sexual harassment.<br />
In the US, Hollaback app allows users to<br />
share stories of street harassment.<br />
In Pakistan, the project Women on Wheels<br />
is training women to ride scooters and get<br />
their own transportation.<br />
And around the world women-only<br />
transportation schemes are beginning to<br />
flourish.
Toolkit<br />
Even if many claim that segregation is only a bandage not a solution.<br />
How do we transform our world’s culture to one in which women are not<br />
constantly harassed by men?<br />
One of the pioneers in gender-sensitive urbanism is the city of Vienna,<br />
where gender mainstreaming has been in place since the early 1990s.<br />
In practice, this means city administrators<br />
create laws, rules, and regulations that<br />
benefit men and women equally.<br />
The goal is to provide equal access to city<br />
resources.<br />
In the 1990s, a simple survey in Vienna led urban planners to rethink their<br />
whole approach to infrastructure development.<br />
The questionnaire asked residents why and how they used public<br />
transportation, and the results were striking because men and women had<br />
very different responses.<br />
– Men’s typical route was short and simple: to and from work.<br />
– Women’s responses, however, were complex and varied, including multiple<br />
trips a day on the metro as well as on foot: dropping off children at school,<br />
going to the doctor, getting groceries, visiting an older family member, back to<br />
school for pick up.<br />
This prompted a moment of realization for Vienna’s city planners:<br />
infrastructure has a gendered aspect to it because women and men have<br />
different needs and uses for public structures and systems.<br />
As a result, the planners adapted transportation projects to women’s needs,<br />
adding street lights so women felt safer walking at night and widening<br />
sidewalks to make it easier to move around with walkers, strollers, or wheelchairs.<br />
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Concrete examples from Vienna’s experience.<br />
The researchers observed that boys were often more assertive than girls.<br />
When both tried to lay claim to a sports field or ball court, the boys usually<br />
won.<br />
So planners from the Gender Unit hired landscape architects for six new parks<br />
that included features such as: high perches for girls where they could see<br />
across the park; fences that had gaps in them, so girls wouldn’t feel trapped;<br />
and different ball and sports courts, so if one space was taken over by boys,<br />
girls would have other options to play.<br />
They widened sidewalks and built huge ramps near a major intersection to<br />
make movement easier for people with strollers, wheelchairs, or walkers. They<br />
added lighting to streets to make women feel safer at night, and they moved<br />
bus stops to spots where women felt comfortable waiting.<br />
Today, in a policy known as “gender mainstreaming” or “fair-shared cities,”<br />
every design decision in Vienna takes into account the needs of girls and<br />
women, as well as other overlooked groups, such as immigrants and the<br />
disabled.<br />
“As Vienna has transformed, the<br />
political aspect of the change has<br />
become increasingly clear”, says<br />
Eva Kail, the Head Planner of the<br />
Gender Unit. “In Europe, starting with<br />
Greek democracy, all the revolutions<br />
started in public places. Political history<br />
is always connected with specific spots in<br />
IF YOU ARE USING<br />
PUBLIC SPACE, YOU ARE<br />
ALSO BECOMING A<br />
PUBLIC PERSON.<br />
— Eva Kail, the Head Planner<br />
of the Gender Unit.<br />
the city. To be able to be in the city, in the way you want to be, shows in a really<br />
clear way what your chances in society are.”<br />
What is Gender Mainstreaming.<br />
Gender mainstreaming has been embraced internationally as a strategy towards<br />
realising gender equality. It involves the integration of a gender perspective into<br />
the preparation, design, implementation, monitoring, and evaluation of policies,<br />
regulatory measures and spending programmes, with a view to promoting<br />
equality between women and men, and combating discrimination. It is a<br />
transversal approach not restricted to urbanism.<br />
Source: http://eige.europa.eu/<br />
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Toolkit<br />
Vienna even released a toolkit to allow other cities to replicate<br />
their experience.<br />
Gender budgeting means preparing or analyzing budgets from a gender<br />
perspective.<br />
The City of Vienna spends a lot of money for its citizens every day. Which<br />
proportion of that money benefits women and men?<br />
– Applying gender mainstreaming and promotion of women in procurement<br />
ensures that the money also contributes to the equality of women and men in<br />
private business.<br />
– Governments should introduce gender budgeting. Gender budgeting sets<br />
out to quantify how policies affect women and men differently. For example,<br />
Austria lowered income tax on second earners, which has encouraged women<br />
to join the labor force, boosting growth and tax revenues. Cutting programs<br />
that reduce domestic violence would create greater costs in the form of<br />
medical treatment and lost workdays.<br />
The goal is to distribute the budget equally among women and men.<br />
Oxfam also released a toolkit on how to<br />
include more women in urban planning.
Toolkit<br />
Mixed communities, mixed neighborhoods, and mixed land use make for a<br />
greater sense of safety.<br />
Women in public spaces reported feeling safer when there were “eyes on the<br />
road”: vendors, shopkeepers, rickshaw drivers, and others who use the<br />
streets and make a living on them.<br />
Women feel safer when they can freely use local transport and move around<br />
without any threat or fear of sexual harassment.<br />
The “sanitization” or “beautification” of cities, where working class communities<br />
are re-located to distant sites and street vendors are taken off the road,<br />
makes these communities more prone to crime and generates a feeling of<br />
insecurity.<br />
Incorporating women’s needs starts with better data.<br />
The good news is that cities around the world have made progress<br />
incorporating the needs of both genders in infrastructure planning, but this<br />
has not yet been institutionalized everywhere.<br />
One of the encouraging areas of change is public transit.<br />
Several U.S. cities have acknowledged the issue of sexual harassment and<br />
are working to combat it with publicity campaigns and tools that allow victims<br />
to easily report it. However, there’s more that can be done.<br />
For example, a Toronto-based organization created a “safety audit” program,<br />
which allows women to identify where they feel unsafe. This program has<br />
been replicated in several cities around the world.<br />
In Nantes and Montreal, bus drivers stop on-demand at night to reduce<br />
walking distance for passengers.<br />
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Infiltrate<br />
NYC Service offers safe<br />
transportation for women.<br />
Some cities have proposed<br />
women-friendly public bathrooms.<br />
Women are also infiltrating the fields of architecture and urban planning to<br />
bring their views to city design.<br />
World-renowned British architect Zaha Hadid was named “Queen of the curve”<br />
by The Guardian as it appears in her designs of the Heydar Aliyev cultural centre<br />
in Baku, Azerbaijan or the future stadium to be built in al-Wakrah for the 2022<br />
World Cup in Qatar.<br />
I DON’T THINK <strong>THE</strong>RE<br />
ARE MANY WOMEN<br />
WHO THINK,<br />
‘OH, MY IDEAL<br />
PROJECT WOULD<br />
BE A MASSIVE<br />
TOWER.’<br />
— Fiona Scott<br />
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How to build fairer cities?<br />
The project Womenability has been<br />
searching the world for solutions to<br />
urban challenges.<br />
Like exploratory walks allowing<br />
citizens to explore a neighborhood and<br />
assess its needs.<br />
Exploratory walks were created at the beginning of the 1990s in Montreal by<br />
METRAC2 to help prevent violence targeted at women and children. Since<br />
then the approach has been broadened into a general tool enabling decision<br />
makers to gain “users knowledge” on the city, and residents to transmit their<br />
experience directly to decision makers. It is a situational and participative<br />
approach that is particularly useful to analyse safety and security issues at stake<br />
in some neighborhoods.<br />
Cyvette Gibson, Paynesville, Liberia’s first female mayor says: “I always say<br />
women build differently than men. Men build for today but women build for<br />
tomorrow because we’re interested in making sure we have some form of<br />
security for our children. That’s why we elected a woman as president in Liberia<br />
– we knew we needed a woman to rebuild our nation.”<br />
We also need more female mayors around the world.<br />
Today, 9 female mayors out of 57 high-profile cities provides some hope for<br />
change.<br />
Women build cities with the future in mind.<br />
And women offer a different perspective.<br />
Sarah Childs, Professor of Politics and Gender at Bristol University explains:<br />
“While not every woman mayor is a feminist with the goal of improving the lives<br />
of women in her city, women bring with them experiences that differ in important<br />
ways from those of their male peers.” “If you’ve never tried to put a buggy on a<br />
bus, you don’t really understand what many women’s experience of public<br />
transport is,” Childs says, adding that there’s a burgeoning argument for<br />
infrastructure to include childcare, not just roads and rail.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Write to your city representative about gender issues in your city.<br />
Request your city start implementing gender-budgeting.<br />
Mention the city of Vienna as an example and share their replicable<br />
toolkit.<br />
Launch an exploratory walk in your neighborhood.<br />
Map the current gender balance of street names in your city.<br />
Propose some names for new streets.<br />
Ask for different toilet signage and safe public bathrooms.<br />
Run tours of the powerful women in your city’s history.<br />
Loiter with friends in public spaces or male-dominated areas (if you’re a<br />
woman).<br />
Write to your school, airport, or train station representative to ask for<br />
more women’s toilets or gender-neutral bathrooms.<br />
Launch a campaign on Change.org to raise awareness of manspreading.<br />
Ditch your high heels.<br />
Wear comfortable clothes that do not limit your movements.<br />
Learn to ride a bike, a motorbike, a scooter, a horse, whatever suits you!<br />
Get as much experience as you can as a driver.<br />
Intervene if you witness harassment while using public transport.<br />
Run for the city council or local representation!<br />
IF YOU CAN CHANGE <strong>THE</strong> STREET,<br />
YOU CAN CHANGE <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong>.<br />
— Janette Sadik-Khan, former New York City Transportation Commissioner<br />
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Chapter 7 – Sports<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
SPORTS ARE NOT<br />
FOR GIRLS<br />
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Physical activity has long been deemed “unsuitable” for women.<br />
Image: Matt Bors<br />
The roots of this myth lie in the birth of modern sports, 150 years ago.<br />
Victorian society viewed sports as, “inseparable from the philosophy of<br />
muscular christianity, which defined itself against femininity and softness,”<br />
says Tony Collins, the author of Sport in Capitalist Society. Victorian Society<br />
did not think much of the notion of women playing sports.<br />
Nor did Pierre de Coubertin, who founded the modern Olympic Games in<br />
1896. He described women’s sports as, “the most unaesthetic sight human<br />
eyes could contemplate,” and advocated that The Games be reserved for<br />
men, though a few females were allowed to compete from 1900.<br />
In 1921, the Football Association in England deemed the sport “quite<br />
unsuitable for females” and banned its clubs from loaning pitches to women.<br />
Even today, many conservative societies deem women's engagement in<br />
physical activities to be less acceptable.<br />
And female attire makes it sometimes even more complicated.<br />
Sports are traditionally associated with "masculine" characteristics.<br />
Physical strength and resilience, speed, and a highly<br />
competitive, sometimes confrontational spirit.<br />
In many societies, women who engage in sports are<br />
perceived as “masculine,” while men who are not<br />
interested in sports are considered “unmanly.”<br />
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Sports are predominantly divided into “male” and “female” domains.<br />
In many sports, mixed gender participation is not accepted. For example, St.<br />
Andrew's Links in Scotland only began admitting female members in 2014,<br />
and, as of 2017, the clubhouse still does not have a women's changing room.<br />
In many cases, sports organizations and the media have sent messages that<br />
confirm these divisions rather than challenge them.<br />
Moreover, the portrayal of female and male athletes by the media reinforces<br />
stereotypical perceptions of gender roles.<br />
Women athletes are still depicted in a way that contributes to the<br />
marginalization of women’s achievements in sports, due to the emphasis<br />
placed on femininity and sexual attraction instead of strength and skills.<br />
The presence of this type of coverage devalues women’s accomplishments.<br />
Despite the considerable increase in girls’ and women’s participation in sports<br />
and a growing audience interested in women’s elite sports, there are still<br />
significant differences in media coverage.<br />
Female athletes receive less media<br />
coverage.<br />
Female Olympic athletes still garner far fewer<br />
column inches and receive less TV airtime than<br />
their male counterparts.<br />
Yet, people are interested in women’s sports.<br />
The U.S. Women’s National Team set a television ratings record during its victory<br />
in the final of the 2015 FIFA Women’s World Cup against Japan, making the<br />
game the most-watched soccer match in U.S. history with 23 million viewers!<br />
Men’s sports are often considered the default.<br />
Overt gender marking is more common for<br />
women's sports, for both the sport itself<br />
(ladies’ singles) and the athletes (woman<br />
golfer). For example, men playing football is<br />
called football, while women playing football<br />
is called women's football.<br />
Image: © The Man Who Has it All
Aesthetics over athletics when it comes to women in sports.<br />
Language around women in sports focuses disproportionately on the<br />
appearance, clothes, and personal lives of women, highlighting a greater<br />
emphasis on aesthetics over athletics.<br />
Words commonly used for women in sports include: aged, older, pregnant,<br />
and married or unmarried.<br />
The top words for men in sports, by contrast, are adjectives like: fastest,<br />
strong, big, real, and great.<br />
Female athletes’ physical appearance and personal lives are frequently<br />
mentioned.<br />
When it comes to performance, it seems as though men also have the<br />
competitive edge.<br />
We see men associated with verbs such as mastermind, beat, win, dominate,<br />
and battle; whereas, women are associated with verbs such as compete,<br />
participate, and strive.<br />
Research by Cambridge University Press found higher levels of infantilization<br />
and traditionalist language for women in sports. Women are more likely to be<br />
referred to as “girls” or “ladies” than men are to be referred to as “boys” or<br />
“gentleman.”<br />
At Rio, descriptions of some female athletes have been called offensive.<br />
After Hungarian swimmer Katinka Hosszu won gold in the 400m individual<br />
medley with a new world record, a journalist referred to her partner, who is<br />
also her trainer, saying: "This is the man responsible.”<br />
One gymnast was criticised when her leotard "failed to complement her skin<br />
tone.”<br />
A BBC commentator was criticised too when he referred to the judo final<br />
between Kosovan Majlinda Kelmendi and Italian Odette Giuffrida as a "cat<br />
fight."<br />
Meanwhile American swimmer Katie Ledecky was praised as being the<br />
"female Michael Phelps."<br />
When women are world champions, why do we still need to compare them to<br />
men?<br />
FEMALE ATHLETES ARE STEREOTYPED BY<br />
<strong>THE</strong> GENERAL POPULATION – AND USUALLY<br />
AS HOMOSEXUALS.<br />
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Athletes face many biases from sports journalists.<br />
Olympics Media Sexism Bingo<br />
A female athlete's<br />
accomplishments<br />
are credited to a<br />
man (husband,<br />
coach, etc.).<br />
The press uses a<br />
photo of a female<br />
athlete which<br />
primarily focuses<br />
on her butt.<br />
Female athlete's<br />
motherhood is<br />
mentioned in main<br />
description and/or<br />
with implication of<br />
"having it all."<br />
A woman over the<br />
age of 21 is called<br />
a "girl."<br />
A Black female<br />
athlete's hair is<br />
criticized.<br />
The women's event you<br />
want to watch is not<br />
being televised, but the<br />
men's version is.<br />
Female athlete’s non<br />
-gendered actions<br />
(ie, talking to each other,<br />
standing next to each<br />
another) are<br />
condescendingly<br />
feminized (ie, "gabbing",<br />
"ladies at the mall")<br />
A female reporter (of<br />
the 21% of the<br />
Olympic media who<br />
are actually women)<br />
is criticized for her<br />
appearance or<br />
clothing.<br />
A woman is called<br />
"the female (insert<br />
male athlete’s<br />
name here)"<br />
The press debates<br />
whether a<br />
transgender athlete<br />
has an "advantage/<br />
disadvantage."<br />
The men's event is<br />
just called “Sport<br />
Name” as a<br />
default, but the<br />
women's is called<br />
“Women's Sport.”<br />
A Muslim woman's<br />
hijab is up for<br />
debate/commentary.<br />
A female athlete's<br />
"feminine" qualities<br />
(grace, beauty, etc.)<br />
are presented as<br />
remarkable in<br />
comparison to her<br />
athleticism.<br />
Reference is made to<br />
a female athlete's<br />
husband or<br />
boyfriend as part of<br />
her main description.<br />
A country's<br />
women's team<br />
places higher than<br />
the men's, but<br />
there is more<br />
coverage of the<br />
men's win.<br />
Female athlete’s are<br />
commended for<br />
performing "like a<br />
man" or "just as<br />
good as the men."<br />
Source: Megan Ford<br />
This is also due to the lack of women in sports journalism.<br />
Internationally, women represent only 10% of positions in print media and<br />
media production.<br />
At the 2012 London Olympics, only 15% of the journalists and photographers<br />
were women.<br />
Gender inequalities extend into media organizations, where women hold only<br />
27% of senior management positions.<br />
In the US, 88% of sports reporters are men and 90% of them are white.<br />
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WHAT ARE <strong>THE</strong> FIGURES ABOUT<br />
FEMALE PARTICIPATION IN SPORTS?<br />
Traditionally, sports have been dominated by men, in terms of both<br />
participation and governance.<br />
Worldwide, women’s participation rates in sporting activities are lower than<br />
men’s.<br />
Yet, significant changes have occurred over the last 20 years, and the<br />
difference in involvement between the genders is becoming narrower.<br />
Men are more likely than women to<br />
exercise or play sports.<br />
In the EU, 37% of men never exercise<br />
or play sports, compared with 47% of<br />
women.<br />
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Female participation at the Olympics remains low but has increased<br />
rapidly since the Games’ inception.<br />
60%<br />
50%<br />
Equal male and female participation<br />
40%<br />
30%<br />
20%<br />
10%<br />
0%<br />
1896<br />
1900<br />
1904<br />
1908<br />
1912<br />
1916<br />
1920<br />
1924<br />
1928<br />
1932<br />
1936<br />
1940<br />
1948<br />
1952<br />
1956<br />
1960<br />
1964<br />
1968<br />
1972<br />
1976<br />
1980<br />
1984<br />
1988<br />
1992<br />
1996<br />
2000<br />
2004<br />
2008<br />
The 2012 Olympic Games in London were a historic turning point. For the<br />
first time in Olympic history, all participating teams had female athletes.<br />
100% Male<br />
Athens, Greece<br />
1900 Paris, France<br />
1st Female Participation<br />
1920 Antwerp, Belgium<br />
95% Male, 5% Female<br />
2008 Beijing, China<br />
55% Male, 45% Female<br />
And women and girls are participating in more and more physical<br />
activities.<br />
In the US, girls’ participation in high school sports grew from 1 in 27 in 1971 to<br />
1 in 2, 4 in 2008.<br />
In 1971, 1% of Boston marathon runners were women. Today, it’s 42%.<br />
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Cities also offer less equipment for girls' activities.<br />
Recreational equipment in cities is used by boys two-thirds of the time, so<br />
collective investment goes to men in priority.<br />
Edith Maruejouls studied the distribution of space in playground schools: boys<br />
occupy more space, especially ballgames in the center; girls play at the<br />
periphery, in smaller spaces where they play static games with less<br />
competition.<br />
While participation by girls in sports has increased at all levels (Olympic,<br />
professional, college, high school and youth), and society is more accepting<br />
than ever of female athleticism, the fact that girls continue to drop out of<br />
sports at six times the rate of boys is an indication that we still have a long<br />
way to go as a society in reaching the goal of gender equality in sports.<br />
Girls sometimes don't receive the support they need from their family.<br />
Middle school and high school sports are about winning, not participation.<br />
Teenage girls still think sports are unfeminine.<br />
Poor coaching has an impact.<br />
Teenage girls experience a crisis of confidence.<br />
Girls are less tolerant of poor sports behavior than boys.<br />
With adolescence comes a greater desire for cooperation and<br />
connectedness overcompetition.<br />
Source: Brooke De Lench, Home Team Advantage: The Critical Role of Mothers in Youth Sports<br />
We still lack equal representation and gender sensitivity in<br />
decision-making.<br />
In 2015, only 14% of all top decision-making positions in sports federations in<br />
the EU were occupied by women, ranging from 3% in Poland to 43% in<br />
Sweden.<br />
Within the International Olympic Committee (IOC), progress has been<br />
made, yet it remains slow.<br />
There were no women on the committee between 1896 and 1981, and women<br />
still occupied less than 25% of IOC members as of 2014.<br />
Moreover, fewer than 20% of the members of the governing bodies of<br />
affiliated bodies, such as the National Olympic Committees (NOCs) and the<br />
Association of National Olympic Committees (ANOC), are women.<br />
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As a profession, sports coaching is also dominated by men.<br />
Based on figures in 7 EU Member States, it is estimated that only 20% to 30%<br />
of all sports coaches in Europe are women.<br />
At the most recent women’s football FIFA World Cup and UEFA European<br />
Cup, there were 3 male team coaches for every woman.<br />
Women coaches are more often found in sports that have a high proportion of<br />
women participants (e.g. dance, gymnastics, figure skating and equestrian<br />
sports), and they predominantly work with women, adolescents, or children<br />
who compete at local and regional levels.<br />
However, the number of women coaches in almost all sports seems to be<br />
disproportionally low in relation to women’s overall participation in sports.<br />
Men commonly coach women and girls, but few women coach men, even in<br />
women-dominated sports.<br />
<strong>THE</strong>RE’S NOT ENOUGH WOMEN WHO REALIZE COACHING IS AN<br />
OPPORTUNITY. FOR A LOT OF WOMEN IN SOCCER, IT’S LIKELY<br />
BECAUSE <strong>THE</strong>Y’VE NEVER HAD A FEMALE COACH SOMEWHERE<br />
ALONG <strong>THE</strong> WAY. A LOT OF <strong>THE</strong>SE GIRLS HAD MALE COACHES<br />
GROWING UP AND NEVER REALIZED<br />
<strong>THE</strong>Y COULD BE A COACH.<br />
— Kelly Bryan, Women’s soccer coach, Kenyon College.<br />
And female athletes face a huge funding disparity.<br />
Women have fewer opportunities to play sports, receive lower-quality coaching<br />
and facilities compared with those enjoyed by men, and are paid meager sums,<br />
even for playing international sports.<br />
American soccer is a good example.<br />
U.S Men’s Team Pay<br />
for losing in the first<br />
round of the world cup<br />
U.S Women’s Team Pay<br />
for winning the<br />
world cup<br />
$ $<br />
$8 Million $2 Million<br />
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YET, PLAYING SPORTS HAS MANY BENEFITS<br />
It makes you feel happier!<br />
Physical exercise is not only important for your body's health, it also helps your<br />
brain stay sharp.<br />
Helps alleviate depression<br />
Improves your memory<br />
Helps you de-stress<br />
Makes you more focused<br />
Helps you stick to your goals<br />
And of course, it reduces the odds of developing heart disease, stroke, and<br />
diabetes!<br />
Having agency over your own body feels extremely liberating!<br />
Whether it's running, dancing, or jumping.<br />
It builds inner confidence.<br />
Image: Women Fast Forward. Ernst & Young.<br />
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Sports can contribute to gender equality through the establishment of<br />
values like fair play, non-discrimination, and teamwork.<br />
It can also be used to increase opportunities for girls, if local contexts and<br />
gender relations are taken into account and addressed.<br />
Sports can give women and girls access to public spaces where they can<br />
gather, develop new skills, gain support from others, and enjoy freedom of<br />
expression and movement.<br />
It can promote education, communication, negotiation skills, and leadership,<br />
all of which are essential to women’s empowerment.<br />
Sports can also increase women’s and girls’ self-esteem and enable them to<br />
make choices about their lives. Moreover, sports can provide a channel to<br />
inform girls and women about reproductive health and other health issues.<br />
Image: Skateistan<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Speak up<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
Some athletes are becoming vocal about the biases and discrimination<br />
they face.<br />
I AM NOT <strong>THE</strong> NEXT USAIN BOLT OR<br />
MICHAEL PHELPS. I’M <strong>THE</strong> FIRST SIMONE BILES.<br />
— Simone Biles, American artistic gymnast and gold medalist.<br />
IT’S SCARY TO STEP UP TO<br />
YOUR EMPLOYER BUT AT<br />
SOME POINT YOU HAVE TO<br />
PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN.<br />
— Hope Solo, American soccer goalkeeper,<br />
two-time Olympic gold medalist, and World<br />
Cup champion.<br />
This Girl Can is a UK national campaign.<br />
It’s a celebration of active women up and down the country who are doing their<br />
thing no matter how well they do it, how they look, or even how red their face<br />
gets.<br />
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Visualize<br />
New Skill<br />
"When I Play," espnW's women-created and<br />
produced short film, gives voice to every<br />
woman and girl who sees their physical<br />
movement as part of a wider social movement.<br />
Some organizations teach women how to ride motorbikes! Because<br />
female motorbike riders report being freer and happier.<br />
Whether it’s for freedom, adventure, spiritual experience, confidence,<br />
independence, or community, women are taking to motorcycles with a growing<br />
voracity.<br />
Source: Liz Jansen. FIX<br />
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New Skill<br />
Women Win is the global leader in girls’<br />
empowerment through sports. They<br />
leverage the power of play to help girls<br />
build leadership skills and become better<br />
equipped to exercise their rights.<br />
Boxgirls develops programs to support<br />
women and girls in developing life skills,<br />
learning self-defense and de-escalation<br />
strategies, and becoming leaders in their<br />
schools and communities.<br />
SheFighter is the first self-defense studio<br />
for women in Jordan and the Middle East,<br />
designed to empower women both<br />
physically and physiologically through<br />
self-defense training. SheFighter’s<br />
self-defense techniques give women the<br />
opportunity to learn to defend themselves<br />
in difficult situations as well as build up<br />
their self-esteem.<br />
Skateistan is a global community of<br />
supporters, staff, students, and skaters<br />
who share the dream of empowering<br />
youth through skateboarding and<br />
education.<br />
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New Skill<br />
New Heroes<br />
Waves of Freedom teaches<br />
women to surf in southern Iran.<br />
Nike is changing its communication<br />
strategy, celebrating female athletes.<br />
Sarah Marquis is a Swiss adventurer and<br />
explorer who walked 20,000 kilometers<br />
alone from Siberia to the Gobi Desert, into<br />
China, Laos, Thailand, and then across<br />
Australia.<br />
Hajra Khan is the captain of Pakistan's<br />
all-female national football team and she<br />
plans to launch a grassroots football<br />
training academy for female players in the<br />
future.<br />
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Toolkit<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
Some initiatives promote female solo travel.<br />
Something happens to us when we step<br />
outside. She Explores is a website for<br />
creative outdoor women, from being outdoors<br />
to being on the road.<br />
Whether it’s the act of lacing up our boots, the<br />
fresh air in our lungs, or the panorama of<br />
landscape – it inspires us to create and tell<br />
stories. She Explores is a growing resource for<br />
the creative outdoors woman, with more than<br />
200 women’s stories, photographs and<br />
artwork.<br />
MANY MOVIES AND DOCUMENTARIES ARE<br />
STARTING TO PORTRAY WOMEN AND GIRLS<br />
BREAKING STEREOTYPES AROUND <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong><br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
Afghan Cycles is a feature-length<br />
documentary that tells the story of<br />
brave Afghan women who challenge<br />
gender barriers and put their lives at<br />
risk for the simple pleasure of riding a<br />
bicycle.<br />
The documentary Speed Sisters<br />
portrays female car racers in<br />
Palestine.<br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
The short movie Muslim Girls Fence shows<br />
how Muslim women all across the world act<br />
as pioneers and are also supported by their<br />
families and friends.<br />
Sports help to challenge<br />
stereotypes...<br />
...and to create new stories.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Every morning, dance for five minutes! On YouTube, Fitness Marshall is<br />
there for you if you need help!<br />
Register your daughter in sports activities.<br />
Show your daughter new badass role models to inspire her.<br />
Watch inspiring movies or documentaries.<br />
Support your children to explore activities that may not respect traditional<br />
gender stereotypes.<br />
If you’re an athlete: speak up, intervene in schools and companies,<br />
inspire others to move their body!<br />
Learn a new skill: motorcycling, salsa dancing, or self-defense!<br />
Get out of your comfort zone: check the boxes off your bucket list!<br />
Whether it's bungee jumping, mountain climbing, or deep diving, set<br />
yourself a goal and go for it!<br />
Organize a hiking or biking trip with your best female friends!<br />
Go on a solo trek in the countryside and enjoy the solitude!<br />
Jump, run, dance!<br />
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RUN LIKE A GIRL!<br />
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Chapter 8 – Politics<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
MACHO POLITICO<br />
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We are the children of Greek democracy, where children, slaves, foreigners, and<br />
women were not considered full citizens.<br />
Image: Fun Facts About Voting. Joanne Tong.<br />
Women could not vote until the 19th century.<br />
Thanks to the movement of the Suffragettes, for example.<br />
I WOULD RA<strong>THE</strong>R<br />
BE A REBEL<br />
THAN A SLAVE.<br />
— Emmeline Pankhurst<br />
Women expressing their opinions triggered many fears.<br />
Images: Mitchell & Watkins<br />
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Women have progressively gained voting rights since 1893, from New<br />
Zealand to Saudi Arabia.<br />
1893<br />
Australia<br />
1906<br />
New Zealand<br />
1902<br />
Finland<br />
1944<br />
Panama<br />
France<br />
1941<br />
Norway<br />
1913<br />
1935<br />
Myanmar<br />
1915<br />
Denmark<br />
Cuba<br />
1934<br />
Iceland<br />
1915<br />
1932<br />
Maldives<br />
1917<br />
Canada<br />
Uruguay<br />
1932<br />
Lithuania<br />
1918<br />
Estonia<br />
1918<br />
Krgyzstan<br />
1919<br />
Azerbaijan<br />
1918<br />
Hungary<br />
1918<br />
1932<br />
Chile<br />
1931<br />
Sri Lanka<br />
Thailand<br />
1931<br />
Portugal<br />
1931<br />
1918<br />
Latvia<br />
1932<br />
Spain<br />
Poland<br />
1918<br />
Brazil<br />
1932<br />
1918<br />
Russian Fed.<br />
1930<br />
South Africa<br />
Albania<br />
1920<br />
Turkey<br />
1930<br />
1920<br />
USA<br />
1929<br />
Ecuador<br />
Czech Rep.<br />
1920<br />
Romania<br />
1929<br />
1920<br />
Slovakia<br />
1927<br />
Turkmenistan<br />
Armenia<br />
1921<br />
Kazakhstan<br />
1924<br />
1924<br />
Tajikistan<br />
1924<br />
Mongolia<br />
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Indonesia<br />
1945<br />
Togo<br />
1945<br />
Barbados<br />
1950<br />
India<br />
1951<br />
Antigua &<br />
Barbuda<br />
1951<br />
Grenada<br />
1951<br />
Saint Vincent<br />
1951<br />
Lebanon<br />
1960<br />
Gambia<br />
1960<br />
Paraguay<br />
1984<br />
1945<br />
Iraq<br />
Senegal<br />
1976<br />
1945<br />
Vanuatu<br />
Japan<br />
1975<br />
1950<br />
Mozambique<br />
Haiti<br />
1975<br />
1950<br />
Angola<br />
Saint Lucia<br />
1974<br />
1951<br />
Bahrain<br />
Dominica<br />
1972<br />
1951 Switzerland<br />
St. Kitts & Nevis 1970<br />
1951<br />
Algeria<br />
Nepal<br />
1962<br />
1952<br />
Bahamas<br />
Cyprus<br />
1961<br />
1960<br />
Rwanda<br />
Tonga<br />
1961<br />
1961<br />
Malawi<br />
Liechtenstein<br />
1980<br />
Timor-Leste<br />
1975<br />
Sao Tomé<br />
1975<br />
Cape Verde<br />
1975<br />
Solomon Islands<br />
1973<br />
Bangladesh<br />
1971<br />
Andorra<br />
1962<br />
Monaco<br />
1961<br />
Seirra Leone<br />
1961<br />
Burundi<br />
1961<br />
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Central African<br />
Republic<br />
1989<br />
Oman<br />
2003<br />
Kuwait<br />
1986<br />
Namibia<br />
1994<br />
Qatar<br />
2005<br />
Israel, 1969: Golda Meir<br />
becomes the first<br />
female prime minister.<br />
Argentina, 1974: Martinez de<br />
Peron becomes Argentina’s<br />
first female president.<br />
2006<br />
Saudi Arabia<br />
United Arab<br />
Emirates<br />
2015<br />
And the last<br />
country in 2015!<br />
Pakistan, 1988: Benazir<br />
Butto becomes prime<br />
minister at the age of 35<br />
and is the first female<br />
prime minister of a<br />
Muslim-majority nation.<br />
And women also started running for<br />
office.<br />
There have been over 70 female prime<br />
ministers and presidents in the world<br />
since 1960.<br />
Brazil, 2011-2016:<br />
Dilma Rousseff,<br />
President of Brazil.<br />
Sri Lanka, 1960: Sirimavo<br />
Bandaranaike becomes<br />
the prime minister and<br />
the first woman in the<br />
world to be elected<br />
head of government.<br />
Liberia, 2006: Ellen Johnson<br />
Sirleaf becomes president,<br />
the world’s first elected black<br />
female president, and<br />
Africa’s first elected female<br />
head of state.<br />
India, 1966: Indira Gandhi<br />
becomes the first, and<br />
to-date only, female prime<br />
minister of India.<br />
Chile, 2014: Michelle<br />
Bachelet becomes<br />
President.<br />
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Argentina, 2007-2015:<br />
Cristina Fernandez,<br />
President of Argentina.<br />
South Korea, 2013-2017:<br />
Geun-hye Park,<br />
President of South Korea.<br />
Malawi, 2012-2014:<br />
Joyce Banda,<br />
President of Malawi.<br />
Kosovo, 2011-2016:<br />
Atifete Jahjaga, President of<br />
Kosovo and the first female<br />
Head of State in the Balkans.<br />
Mauritius, 2015:<br />
Ameenah Gurib-Fakim,<br />
President of Mauritius.<br />
Costa Rica, 2010-2014:<br />
Laura Chinchilla,<br />
President of Costa Rica.<br />
More and more women<br />
are leading countries<br />
around the world.<br />
And for the first time in 29 years, Time's<br />
Person of the Year in 2015 was a woman!<br />
Yet, there is still a long<br />
way to go.<br />
In March 2017,<br />
there were only 15 female<br />
world leaders in office.<br />
POLITICS<br />
Women occupy<br />
only 22%<br />
of parliamentary seats<br />
worldwide<br />
IMPACT<br />
Decisions on policies affecting societies are often<br />
made without women’s substantive contributions<br />
or a gender perspective, and therefore may<br />
neglect thier needs.
WOMEN PARLAMENTARIANS IN UPPER<br />
AND LOWER HOUSES BY REGION.<br />
Scandinavia:<br />
42.0%<br />
Americas:<br />
22.8%<br />
Europe:<br />
20.9%<br />
Subsaharan<br />
Africa:<br />
19.7%<br />
Arab states:<br />
10.6%<br />
Asia:<br />
18.2%<br />
Pacific states:<br />
14.9%<br />
Source: CNN Women in politics<br />
Rwanda is the country with the highest number of women<br />
parliamentarians worldwide.<br />
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The European Parliament is slowly<br />
progressing.<br />
The US actually ranks behind<br />
Afghanistan, Ethiopia, and<br />
Nepal in terms of women in<br />
national legislature.<br />
Gender Composition in House and Senate<br />
Republican Party<br />
10% Women<br />
Democratic Party<br />
25% Women<br />
So we still lack women at the top of<br />
our countries and cities!<br />
WHY?<br />
What hinders young women’s political<br />
ambition?<br />
Young men are more likely than<br />
young women to be socialized<br />
by their parents to think about<br />
politics as a career path.
From their school experiences to their<br />
peer associations to their media habits,<br />
young women tend to be exposed to less<br />
political information and discussion than<br />
young men.<br />
Young women are less likely than<br />
young men to think they will be<br />
qualified to run for office, even after<br />
they are established in their careers.<br />
Young men are more likely than<br />
young women to have played<br />
organized sports and to care<br />
about winning.<br />
Fewer girls watch political shows.<br />
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To promote change, women prefer<br />
to work for charity than run for<br />
office.<br />
We don’t socialize women to think they can lead.<br />
There is a lack of female role models which impacts women to believe that they<br />
are less legitimate and competent to run for public office.<br />
Women also fear the widespread sexism experienced by female politicians.<br />
Because as with any male-dominated field, the political field is openly hostile to<br />
women.<br />
JUST BECAUSE INDIA ACHIEVED FREEDOM AT<br />
MIDNIGHT DOES NOT MEAN THAT WOMEN CAN<br />
VENTURE OUT AFTER DARK. <strong>THE</strong>Y SHOULD ENSURE<br />
THAT <strong>THE</strong>Y DO NOT BOARD BUSES WITH FEW<br />
PASSENGERS. <strong>THE</strong> WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT<br />
TWICE BEFORE BOARDING <strong>THE</strong> SUSPICIOUS PRIVATE<br />
BUS THAT NIGHT. THOUGH <strong>THE</strong> INCIDENT WAS<br />
CONDEMNABLE, SHE SHOULD ALSO HAVE BEHAVED<br />
KEEPING IN MIND <strong>THE</strong> SITUATION.<br />
— Indian Politician Botsa Satyanarayana on the Delhi Rape Case, 2012<br />
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I WOULDN’T WANT TO STAY WITH DAUGHTERS WHO<br />
ARE NOT GETTING MARRIED. BECAUSE THAT IN<br />
ITSELF IS A PROBLEM IN SOCIETY. I KNOW THAT<br />
PEOPLE TODAY THINK BEING SINGLE IS NICE.<br />
IT’S ACTUALLY NOT RIGHT. THAT’S A DISTORTION.<br />
YOU’VE GOT TO HAVE KIDS. KIDS ARE IMPORTANT<br />
TO A WOMAN BECAUSE <strong>THE</strong>Y ACTUALLY GIVE<br />
AN EXTRA TRAINING TO A WOMAN, TO BE A<br />
MO<strong>THE</strong>R.<br />
— South African President Jacob Zuma, 2012<br />
IF IT’S A<br />
LEGITIMATE RAPE,<br />
<strong>THE</strong> FEMALE BODY<br />
HAS WAYS TO<br />
TRY TO SHUT<br />
THAT WHOLE<br />
THING DOWN.<br />
— Former Republican Congressman<br />
Todd Akin, 2012<br />
ANYONE WHO<br />
HAS CHOSEN TO<br />
REMAIN DELIBERATELY<br />
BARREN... <strong>THE</strong>Y’VE<br />
GOT NO IDEA ABOUT<br />
WHAT LIFE’S ABOUT.<br />
— Australian Senator Bill Heffernan<br />
on Julia Gillard, 2007<br />
IT’S BETTER NOT TO ARGUE WITH<br />
WOMEN... WHEN PEOPLE PUSH<br />
BOUNDARIES TOO FAR, IT’S NOT BECAUSE<br />
<strong>THE</strong>Y ARE STRONG BUT BECAUSE <strong>THE</strong>Y<br />
ARE WEAK. BUT MAYBE WEAKNESS IS<br />
NOT <strong>THE</strong> WORST QUALITY FOR <strong>THE</strong> WOMAN.<br />
– Vladmir Putin on Hillary Clinton, 2014<br />
PEOPLE WILL<br />
VOTE FOR<br />
DANIELA SANTANCHE<br />
BECAUSE SHE IS A<br />
BEAUTIFUL BABE.<br />
— Former Italian Prime Minister<br />
Silvio Berlusconi, 2008<br />
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French politicians are another good example.<br />
ELLE EST COMME<br />
ÇÀ TOUT LE<br />
TEMPS LA P’TITE?<br />
— Arnaud Montebourg<br />
TOUTES LES FEMMES<br />
QUI VEULENT AVOIR<br />
L’INVESTITURE DOIVENT<br />
ÊTRE BAISABLES.<br />
— Charles Pasqua<br />
MAIS QUI VA<br />
GARDER LES ENFANTS?<br />
— Laurent Fabius<br />
UN MINISTÈRE DE LA<br />
CONDITION FÉMININE? ET<br />
POURQUOI PAS UN SOUS<br />
-SECRÉTARIAT D’ETAT<br />
AU TRICOT?<br />
— Général de Gaulle<br />
PEUT-ÊTRE AVAIT-ELLE<br />
MIS CETTE ROBE POUR NE<br />
PAS QU’ON ÉCOUTE CE<br />
QU’ELLE AVAIT À DIRE.<br />
— Patrick Balkany<br />
Including some infamous scandals, like the arrest of the former director of<br />
the International Monetary Fund.<br />
Some documentaries<br />
expose this situation.<br />
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And this is an international phenomenon. All over the world, many still<br />
consider politics to be a man’s business.<br />
The video of genuinely furious Australian PM<br />
Gilliard, who denounced various catcalls she had<br />
experienced, went viral. Her famous speech<br />
electrified the debate about misogyny in the<br />
workplace.<br />
<strong>THE</strong> EFFECT ON POLICIES<br />
Women only run 10% of the world's countries, so it is mainly men making<br />
policies.<br />
Our future is still decided by men.<br />
According to Riane Eisler, “Government<br />
leaders who are seen as unmasculine are<br />
demonized. Leaders who stand primarily for<br />
control and punishment are respected, and<br />
even loved, in yet another replay of the<br />
emotional habits learned in dominator<br />
families. Such politicians always find money<br />
for weapons but not for healthcare. We must<br />
regain the political initiative; we must create<br />
cultural beliefs, myths, and stories that<br />
support the partnership model.”<br />
Laws are still written and decided by<br />
people who don't know women's<br />
reality.
Countries with a larger number of women as ministers or in parliament<br />
tend to have lower levels of inequality, higher spending on health, and<br />
more confidence in government.<br />
Want creative solutions to tough national problems?<br />
Engage more women in public sector leadership.<br />
#WomenFastForward<br />
More women decision-makers and influencers in our public sectors means a<br />
more balanced perspective in designing and implementing new rules and laws,<br />
and a more inclusive approach to policymaking and service delivery.<br />
More women in power could lead to more women running for office.<br />
Simply having more local female politicians can boost aspirations and<br />
educational achievement among young women, according to a landmark study<br />
published in Science co-authored by MIT economist Esther Duflo.<br />
Better political representation.<br />
Evidence shows that politicians who<br />
reflect the people they serve better<br />
represent their needs.<br />
More efficient policy-making.<br />
Research also suggests that female legislators<br />
are incredibly effective: In the US, on average<br />
they bring 9% more federal spending to their<br />
home district, and sponsor three more bills per<br />
Congress, compared to their male colleagues.<br />
Research on panchayats (local councils) in<br />
India discovered that the number of drinking<br />
water projects in areas with female-led<br />
councils was 62% higher than in those with<br />
male-led councils.<br />
In Norway, a direct causal relationship between<br />
the presence of women in municipal councils<br />
and child-care coverage was found.<br />
WE THINK THIS IS DUE<br />
TO A ROLE-MODEL<br />
EFFECT: SEEING WOMEN<br />
IN CHARGE PERSUADED<br />
PARENTS AND TEENS<br />
THAT WOMEN CAN RUN<br />
THINGS, AND INCREASED.<br />
— Esther Duflo<br />
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Improved policy outcomes.<br />
On average, women sponsor and co-sponsor more bills than do men and are<br />
able to enlist more co-sponsors.<br />
Across parties, women are, on average, 31% more effective at advancing<br />
legislation and seeing continued success farther into the legislative process.<br />
Women across the political spectrum are more likely than their male<br />
counterparts of either party to prioritize issues affecting women, families, and<br />
children on their legislative agendas.<br />
Regardless of party affiliation, women have voted more consistently in favor of<br />
environmental protections and policies than men have over the past 25 years<br />
in both the U.S. House and Senate.<br />
CONGRESS-WOMEN DELIVER 9%<br />
OR ROUGHLY $49 MILLION – MORE<br />
PER YEAR IN FEDERAL PROGRAMS<br />
TO <strong>THE</strong>IR HOME DISTRICTS THAN<br />
DO CONGRESS-MEN.<br />
A new style of leadership.<br />
Women are more partial to non-hierarchical collaboration, consensus building,<br />
and inclusion than men, and they bring that style to politics.<br />
Female legislators gather policy information from different sources than men<br />
and rely on different types of information in making key decisions.<br />
Unlike their male colleagues, women in legislative and executive posts are<br />
motivated most often by policy goals, not power or prestige, in running for<br />
office and serving.<br />
Female lawmakers open the legislative agenda to new perspectives and<br />
issues.<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Visualize<br />
Humor<br />
Specific Communities<br />
ELLE UK launched the #MoreWomen campaign to not let women be<br />
airbrushed out of history.<br />
Image: ELLE UK #MoreWomen<br />
In France, Femmes et pouvoir gathers<br />
female politicians for different trainings,<br />
talks, and networking.<br />
These gatherings enable women to share their<br />
concerns, gain insights, and feel more<br />
supported.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
New Skill<br />
In the US, the collective Leadarise<br />
teaches girls how to be a future leader.<br />
CANADA NEEDS MORE<br />
WOMEN FROM DIVERSE<br />
BACKGROUNDS MAKING<br />
DECISION IN OTTAWA<br />
BECAUSE WHEN WOMEN<br />
SUCCEED, WE ALL<br />
—<br />
SUCCEED.<br />
— Justin Trudeau<br />
In the UK, The Parliament Project<br />
runs workshops to encourage women<br />
to get into politics.<br />
In Tunisia, Aswat Nisaa is<br />
training young women to speak<br />
in public and take a political<br />
lead. It also helps political<br />
parties to take greater account<br />
of women’s rights in their<br />
programs.<br />
In Lebanon, Women in Front is<br />
also encouraging Lebanese<br />
women to take part and<br />
become catalysts of change in<br />
Lebanese politics.<br />
The Center for Feminist Foreign Policy<br />
promotes a feminist critique of foreign<br />
policy through journal, events<br />
programming, and campaigning<br />
activities.<br />
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Humor<br />
New Skill<br />
She Should Run provides a network for women leaders considering a<br />
future run for office.<br />
She Should Run encourages American citizens to nominate women they know to<br />
run for office.<br />
She Should Run also created an incubator, an<br />
online resource to help more women envision<br />
themselves in public leadership. The online<br />
platform offers inspiration, a supportive<br />
community, access to role models and mentors,<br />
and thoughtful guidance and advice to ensure women leaders know their<br />
leadership is needed in elected office.<br />
Within their incubator, She Should Run offers a course for parents, with activities<br />
parents can do with their daughters to encourage them to lead.<br />
More women in elected office means a better government and a better world,<br />
and it means more girls seeing more possibilities.<br />
They also released a humorous<br />
book.<br />
VoteRunLead is a training powerhouse.<br />
VoteRunLead supports the aspirations of women who<br />
want to transform the U.S. and democracy through their<br />
participation as leaders.<br />
They offer workshops, training, house parties, and<br />
events across the country.<br />
You can find practical tips in their webinars, worksheets,<br />
and resources available.<br />
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New Skill<br />
Dilute<br />
Quotas<br />
Global Girl Media encourages<br />
girls to own the mic!<br />
Elect Her is a training program<br />
that trains college women to run<br />
for student government on their<br />
college or university campuses.<br />
Overall, countries with any type of gender quota have higher proportions of<br />
seats held by women in lower or single houses of parliament.<br />
Create a new political party<br />
The Women’s Equality Party is a new collaborative force in<br />
British politics uniting people of all genders, ages,<br />
backgrounds, ethnicities, beliefs, and experiences in the<br />
shared determination to see women<br />
enjoy the same rights and<br />
opportunities as men, so that all<br />
can flourish.<br />
It would have taken ages to reform and gain<br />
gender parity by changing old political parties<br />
from the inside. So the new French president<br />
decided to create his own party from scratch.<br />
Why fight the old if you can build the new?<br />
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Tech 4 Good<br />
Unite<br />
Some women are creating revolutions through civic tech.<br />
Firuzeh Mahmoudi founded the first civic tech<br />
startup focused on Iran. She and her team are building<br />
apps like Yelp for rating public officials and a women’s<br />
health tracker. And they’re using heritage languages that<br />
are currently banned from official use. Mahmoudi is using<br />
entrepreneurship and technology to help create a more<br />
free society.<br />
Fair Agenda is a community of 35,000<br />
Australians campaigning for a fair and<br />
equal future for women.<br />
Leonore de Roquefeuil runs VOXE to give<br />
tools to young French citizens to better<br />
understand political programs.<br />
Women's marches are powerful.<br />
On October 24th, 1975, an estimated 90% of<br />
Icelandic women took a "Day Off" to draw<br />
attention to their lack of political power and<br />
unequal pay. Women left work and refused<br />
to cook or look after children to draw<br />
attention to their importance in society, but<br />
lack of political power and equal pay.<br />
The effect was incredible.<br />
A year after the strike, in 1976, Iceland formed the Gender Equality Council and<br />
passed the Gender Equality Act, which outlawed gender discrimination<br />
in workplaces and schools. Five years later, in 1980, Iceland<br />
elected its first female president, Vigdis Finnbogadottir,<br />
who held office for four terms, until 1996.<br />
Some books portray new perspectives for young girls.
Toolkit<br />
International Knowledge Network of Women in Politics is an interactive<br />
network of women in politics who share experiences, resources, advice,<br />
and collaborate on issues of interest.<br />
They’ve created a lot of toolkits, including one sharing best<br />
practices used by political parties to promote women in<br />
politics.<br />
Political Parity supports groundbreaking research to test innovative ideas<br />
and strengthen our understanding of strategies to elect women to<br />
high-level political office.<br />
They launched a map of every resource available to women who want to run for<br />
office, an inventory of research on women in politics, innovative studies<br />
examining women’s motivations for and barriers to running for office, and an<br />
exploration of states that have elected multiple women to the Senate or governorships.<br />
Name It. Change It. was launched to<br />
hold media outlets accountable for<br />
their role in the U.S. government’s<br />
gender disparity.<br />
A GOOD TEST OF<br />
WHE<strong>THE</strong>R OR NOT YOU<br />
AS A REPORTER ARE<br />
TAKING SEXISM SERIOUSLY<br />
IS WHE<strong>THE</strong>R YOU WOULD<br />
CITE RACE, CLASS,<br />
ETHNICITY, OR RELIGION IN<br />
<strong>THE</strong> SAME CONTEXT.<br />
— Gloria Steinem, Journalist and<br />
Co-Founder of the Women’s Media Center<br />
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Speak up<br />
How to spin a story of sexism.<br />
Almost five years ago, on 17 July 2012, Cécile Duflot<br />
approached the microphone inside France's National<br />
Assembly – the lower house of parliament. At the time,<br />
the Green Party politician was Minister of Territorial<br />
Equality and Housing and and she was about to respond to a question on the<br />
urban development of greater Paris. But, before she could open her mouth,<br />
a cacophony of jeering and whistling erupted – not in response to the question,<br />
but to the summer dress she was wearing.<br />
Five years later, she is launching the #OpérationRobe ("Operation Dress")<br />
campaign toshare stories of everyday sexism, and the interviewees wear the very<br />
same dress Duflot wore.<br />
David Schwimmer, American actor mostly<br />
known for his role in Friends TV series, has<br />
collaborated on a new short film series that<br />
depicts what sexual harassment really looks<br />
like.<br />
Based on true stories, the short films illustrate various environments in which<br />
harassment occurs: a bar, a photography studio, a television show set, as well<br />
as the offices of a doctor, a lawyer, and a politician.<br />
The videos show what harassment feels like in everyday situations where<br />
predatory men take advantage of power structures in the workplace, pressuring<br />
women into uncomfortable, and even dangerous, positions.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Watch some movies about female political leaders.<br />
Read biographies of<br />
female political<br />
leaders.<br />
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As a parent<br />
As a citizen<br />
Encouraging your daughter to play sports from an early age may generate<br />
a greater sense of competition and, ultimately, political ambition among<br />
young women.<br />
Exposing young women to female candidates and elected officials and<br />
providing examples of how pursuing electoral office can bring about<br />
societal change. This simple step is crucial in helping close the gender<br />
gap in politics. This can go a long way in combating women’s tendency to<br />
self-assess as unqualified to run for office.<br />
Vote.<br />
Join women’s marches.<br />
Write to your political representative about the issues you are concerned<br />
about.<br />
Leverage social media to interact with your political leaders.<br />
Watch the TED Talk "It's time for women to run for office" given by Halla<br />
Tómasdóttir.<br />
Run for office!<br />
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A WOMAN’S PLACE<br />
IS IN <strong>THE</strong> HOUSE –<br />
<strong>THE</strong> HOUSE OF<br />
REPRESENTATIVES.<br />
— Bella Abzug<br />
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Chapter 9 – Leadership<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
DON’T BE BOSSY<br />
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Even though women earn more degrees than men, they are still<br />
underrepresented in leadership roles.<br />
1 in 4 Americans think it is more likely that humans will colonize Mars than<br />
women will comprise half of Fortune 500 CEOs!<br />
Women are still underrepresented at the top of corporations globally.<br />
<strong>WORLD</strong><br />
US<br />
Fewer than 5% of global companies have a female CEO.<br />
Women represent only 5% of Fortune 500 companies.<br />
Average percentage of women in executive team:<br />
US<br />
16%<br />
UK<br />
BRAZIL<br />
12%<br />
6%<br />
And at the end of the day…<br />
...more men named John run large US companies than all women!<br />
John<br />
David<br />
All Women<br />
Robert<br />
James<br />
On average, women represent<br />
only 19% of board companies in<br />
the European Union (EU) even if<br />
it has progressed in the last<br />
years.
Chile, Colombia, and Russia top the charts in terms of women's share of<br />
top management positions.<br />
WOMEN’S SHARE OF TOP MANAGEMENT POSITIONS IN EMERGING ECONOMIES<br />
Chile<br />
Columbia<br />
Russia<br />
Brazil<br />
Mexico<br />
Costa Rica<br />
Argentina<br />
OECD<br />
South Africa<br />
China<br />
Peru<br />
Indonesia<br />
Tunisia<br />
India<br />
Turkey<br />
Morocco<br />
Egypt<br />
45%<br />
43%<br />
38%<br />
37%<br />
35%<br />
33%<br />
31%<br />
31%<br />
31%<br />
24%<br />
24%<br />
23%<br />
14%<br />
14%<br />
13%<br />
12%<br />
7%<br />
Source: OECD<br />
<strong>THE</strong> COUNTRIES WITH <strong>THE</strong> MOST WOMEN IN <strong>THE</strong> BOARDROOM<br />
Norway<br />
Finland<br />
France<br />
Germany<br />
United Kingdom<br />
Australia<br />
Spain<br />
United States<br />
Switzerland<br />
Mexico<br />
Japan<br />
South Korea<br />
39%<br />
30%<br />
26%<br />
17%<br />
17%<br />
15%<br />
13%<br />
12%<br />
11%<br />
6%<br />
2%<br />
2%<br />
Source: PWC<br />
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WHERE ARE WOMEN MOST LIKELY TO BE YOUR BOSS?<br />
Countries with the highest perentages of female managers.<br />
Jamaica<br />
Colombia<br />
Saint Luca<br />
Phillipines<br />
Panama<br />
Belarus<br />
Latvia<br />
Guatemala<br />
Bahamas<br />
Moldova<br />
United States<br />
59%<br />
53%<br />
52%<br />
47%<br />
47%<br />
46%<br />
45%<br />
45%<br />
44%<br />
44%<br />
42%<br />
WHAT ABOUT BEING YOUR OWN BOSS?<br />
Nowadays, women start twice as many businesses as men and account for<br />
more than 50% of all businesses in developing countries.<br />
Some countries are more favorable than others.<br />
But there is still room for improvement.<br />
Only 30% of small and medium enterprises around the world are owned<br />
and run by women.<br />
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Whether it's in the air...<br />
...or in the kitchen<br />
AND THIS LEADERSHIP GAP<br />
EXISTS IN EVERY FIELD<br />
Only about 450 women worldwide are airline captains/pilots<br />
in command who supervise all the other crew members on<br />
a flight, according to the International Society of Women<br />
Airline Pilots.<br />
In the USA, about 5% of airline or commercial pilots are women.<br />
The gender gap varies by region. It’s wider in Mexico (only 2% women) and<br />
narrower in France (7%), Sweden (8%), and Finland (12%).<br />
Only 1% of Michelin starred restaurants have women chefs.<br />
Discrimination, or women can't cook?<br />
According to Nora Bouazzouni, in her book Faiminisme,<br />
Quand le sexisme pase à table, "When cooking leaves the<br />
private realm for the public one, it becomes valued and<br />
thus is reserved for men."<br />
In France, 94% of chefs are men. The renowned French chef,<br />
Paul Bocuse, refused to employ women in his kitchen.<br />
Netflix’s Chef’s Table series dedicates only 5 out of 22 episodes<br />
to female chefs.<br />
IS CHEF A<br />
MALE WORD?<br />
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HOW DO YOU EXPLAIN THIS<br />
LEADERSHIP GAP?<br />
REASON #1:<br />
EARLY SOCIALIZATION<br />
The Harvard study, Leaning Out, shows that the leadership gap starts at a<br />
young age.<br />
Many boys and girls expressed bias against girls as leaders in powerful<br />
professions.<br />
40% of teen boys and 23% of teen girls preferred male over female political<br />
leaders. 36% of boys preferred male business leaders, and 6% preferred female<br />
leaders. The daring, risk-taking qualities we cultivate in little boys, but not in little<br />
girls, partly explains the difficulty women experience in reaching leadership<br />
positions. Women are trapped in a terrible paradox: the qualities we value in little<br />
girls are actually not the ones valued in the professional world.<br />
Girls are not socialized to be leaders.<br />
GIRLS WOULDN’T VOTE FOR <strong>THE</strong>MSELVES.<br />
WHY WOULD <strong>THE</strong>Y VOTE FOR ANO<strong>THE</strong>R GIRL?<br />
— Leaning Out<br />
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Some mothers appear to be biased against girls as leaders. On average,<br />
mothers presented with councils led by boys expressed stronger support than<br />
mothers presented with councils led by girls. Biases against girls have many<br />
causes, including highly competitive feelings among girls, girls projecting their<br />
lack of self-esteem onto other girls, and girls being viewed as too emotionally<br />
“dramatic.”<br />
Explicit bias: powerful boys and nurturing girls.<br />
Source: Leaning Out | Teen Girls and Leadership Biases<br />
REASON #2:<br />
<strong>THE</strong> AMBITION GAP<br />
According to the "Ambition and Gender at Work" report from the Institute of<br />
Leadership & Management, the picture of female managers is one lacking career<br />
ambition or expectation, coupled with lower levels of confidence and self-esteem.<br />
Lower ambitions and expectations.<br />
In summary, the research reveals that women managers are impeded in their<br />
careers by lower ambitions and expectations. Compared to their male<br />
counterparts, women tend to lack self-confidence, which leads to a cautious<br />
approach to career opportunities and a less straightforward career path.<br />
Men’s higher expectations and increased confidence propels them into<br />
management roles three years earlier than women.<br />
The research found that, at the outset of their career, women have less clarity<br />
of career direction than men and lower career ambitions.<br />
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The ambition gap.<br />
The career ambitions of women managers also lag behind those of men.<br />
In general, women set their sights lower than men do and are more likely to<br />
limit their ambitions to more junior ranks of management.<br />
Fewer women than men expect to reach a general manager or director level<br />
by the end of their careers.<br />
Female managers also have lower career confidence.<br />
Men are more confident across all age groups, with 70% of men having high<br />
or quite high levels of self-confidence, compared to 50% of women.<br />
Half of women managers admit to feelings of self-doubt, but only 31% of men<br />
do.<br />
Source: Ambition and Gender at Work, Institute of Leadership and Management<br />
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And many women in leadership positions still suffer impostor syndrome.<br />
Impostor syndrome is a concept describing individuals who are marked by an<br />
inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being<br />
exposed as a fraud. The term was coined in 1978 by clinical psychologists<br />
Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne A. Imes.<br />
Despite external evidence of their competence, those exhibiting the syndrome<br />
remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they<br />
have achieved.<br />
Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or a result of deceiving others<br />
into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe<br />
themselves to be. An essay by a psychology professor suggests that<br />
impostor syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women.<br />
REASON #3:<br />
UNCONSCIOUS BIASES<br />
Girls are not encouraged to develop their leadership identity. They display less<br />
ambition. And on top of it all, when they grow up, women experience<br />
second-generation bias.<br />
What is second-generation gender bias?<br />
Women are not deliberately excluded from leadership, but they face subtle and<br />
often invisible barriers. Among them are:<br />
A paucity of female role models.<br />
Gendered career paths and gendered work.<br />
Entrenched organizational structures and work practices are designed to fit<br />
men’s lives (rotation to sales or operations, international posting.)<br />
Organizations undervalue behind-the-scenes work (building a team,<br />
avoiding a crisis), which women are more likely to do, while rewarding heroic<br />
work, which is most often done by men.<br />
Women’s lack of access to networks and sponsors.<br />
Lack of access to influential colleagues. Men in positions of power tend to<br />
direct developmental opportunities to junior men.<br />
Double binds.<br />
In most cultures, masculinity and leadership are closely linked: The ideal<br />
leader, like the ideal man, is decisive, assertive, competitive, and<br />
independent.<br />
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In contrast, women are expected to be nice, nurturing, and unselfish. The<br />
mismatch between conventionally feminine qualities and the qualities<br />
thought necessary for leadership puts female leaders in a double bind.<br />
Numerous studies have shown that women who excel in traditionally male<br />
domains are viewed as competent but less likeable than their male counterparts.<br />
Behaviors that suggest self-confidence or assertiveness in men often<br />
appear arrogant or abrasive in women.<br />
Meanwhile, women in positions of authority who enact a conventionally<br />
feminine style may be liked but not respected. They are deemed too<br />
emotional to make tough decisions and too soft to be strong leaders.<br />
Leadership and masculinity.<br />
Despite stereotypes about macho leaders, leadership is not<br />
inherentlymasculine. Because white men have held most<br />
leadership positions in society for so long, the concept of<br />
leadership has been infused with stereotypically masculine<br />
traits: aggression, decisiveness, willingness to engage in<br />
conflict, strength, and so on. These traits are not uniquely<br />
available to white men, of course, nor are they predominant<br />
personality traits in all men. Indeed, researchers have explored the essential<br />
ingredients of leadership and found no gender differences in leadership<br />
effectiveness (Hyde, 2014).<br />
Women have been leaders throughout history.<br />
From the pharaohs of Egypt to the queens of England, women rulers are found in<br />
nearly every culture and time period. Yet, in almost all circumstances, male<br />
leaders greatly outnumber female leaders. Moreover, customs and laws against<br />
female leadership can be found throughout history, most notably in every major<br />
religion (Christ, 2014).<br />
Source: "Barriers and Bias, The Status of Women in Leadership", the<br />
American Association of University Women (AAUW.)<br />
Persistent sex discrimination.<br />
Many women’s experiences in business, education, and politics are profoundly<br />
affected by sexual harassment.<br />
“Microaggressions” describe small mean-spirited acts, such as exclusion and<br />
low-level verbal harassment.<br />
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Hostile work environments are a form of discrimination that can shape careers.<br />
Women leaders are still perceived as masculine and are sometimes negatively<br />
stereotyped as “lesbians.”<br />
Lack of effective networks and mentors.<br />
Access to influential networks is critical to moving up the leadership hierarchy.<br />
Some studies have found that the social capital gained from networking with<br />
influential leaders is even more important for advancement than job<br />
performance (Eagly & Carli, 2007; Hewlett et al., 2010).<br />
More recently, scholars have focused on sponsorship, a form of mentorship in<br />
which sponsors share both status and opportunity.<br />
Caregiving and women’s choices.<br />
Differences in women’s and men’s earnings also contribute to the leadership<br />
gap.<br />
Women reported a lack of understanding and support from family and<br />
colleagues, as well as different expectations for themselves and their male<br />
peers.<br />
Balancing work and family responsibilities is one of the most challenging<br />
obstacles for women seeking leadership positions (Eagly & Carli, 2007;<br />
Sandberg, 2013), and it can be especially daunting for the millions of working<br />
women raising children on their own (Hess & Kelly, 2015). Women are usually<br />
the primary (if not the only) parent caring for children and other family<br />
members during their peak years in the workforce.<br />
The gender imbalance in leadership is both a women’s issue and a men’s<br />
issue. Being a leader is not inherently valuable or desirable.<br />
Leadership roles can be time consuming and often require great responsibility,<br />
which can cause a great deal of stress and leave little room for other priorities.<br />
Just as the status quo is holding women back from leadership roles, it is<br />
holding men back from embracing caretaking and support roles.<br />
Source: Barriers and Bias, AAUW<br />
And women face the stereotype threat.<br />
Stereotype threat arises when people become aware that they are<br />
negatively stereotyped in their current role or activity.<br />
Negative stereotypes affect individuals’ performance when they attempt<br />
difficult tasks in the domains in which they are negatively stereotyped
(Logel et al., 2012; Hoyt et al., 2010).<br />
Stereotype threat can reduce working memory and, because of<br />
its relationship with stress, anxiety, and disengagement, can<br />
lead to a wide variety of negative attitudes and behaviors<br />
(Hoyt & Blascovich, 2010).<br />
The subtle ways women are treated differently at work.<br />
Women are more likely to get lower initial offers.<br />
Women are less likely to get credit in group projects.<br />
Women are assumed to be incompetent until they prove themselves.<br />
Women get promoted on performance, and men get promoted on potential.<br />
Talkative men are seen as competent, and talkative women are seen as<br />
incompetent.<br />
When women show anger, they are often judged as too emotional.<br />
Men get a fatherhood bonus, and women get a<br />
motherhood penalty.<br />
Women are often interrupted or ignored in meetings.<br />
When speaking in public, women have to take command<br />
of a room.<br />
Women may not be invited to social events.<br />
Women are judged more harshly on their appearance.<br />
In 1996, Peter Glick and Susan Fiske wrote a paper on the concept of ambivalent<br />
sexism, noting that there are two kinds of sexist attitudes and behavior: hostile<br />
and benevolent. Hostile sexism is what most people think of when they picture<br />
“sexism” – angry, explicitly negative attitudes towards women. However, the<br />
authors note, there is also something called benevolent sexism. Rather than<br />
insulting women, benevolent sexists compliment women based on stereotypes<br />
in a patronizing way: Women have motherly nurturing instincts, women are more<br />
compassionate and kind, women are like delicate flowers. Even if this kind of<br />
sexism sounds friendly, it has the same insidious objective: keeping women in<br />
subordinate positions.<br />
It's lonely at the top.<br />
Typically, women view men who exhibit the classic entrepreneurial traits of grit,<br />
tenacity, strength, and leadership as desirable partners. Men, in contrast, may<br />
view women with those traits as bossy or may suspect they will have trouble<br />
compromising or settling into domestic bliss. And because archetypes are, by<br />
definition, embedded in our psyches and in the culture, some men are still put off
y women who call the shots. "Many men are uncomfortable with,<br />
intimidated by, and ill-equipped to handle a powerful woman. People assume<br />
that those with power aren't necessarily nice, and women are supposed to be<br />
nice."<br />
“Alpha types might seek to avoid partners who compete with them intellectually,”<br />
writes Baroness Greenfield, “looking instead for someone to bolster their ego.”<br />
Despite claiming to find intelligent women attractive, men choose not to date<br />
someone who is smarter than themselves, according to a new research by<br />
psychologists at the University of Buffalo, California Lutheran University and<br />
University of Texas, Austin. Feelings of diminished masculinity accounted for<br />
men’s decreased attraction toward women who outperformed them.<br />
Source: Inc. The Scarlet Letter of Dating Is 'E' (as in Entrepreneur). Meg Cadoux Hirshberg<br />
If the smarter you are, the more likely you are to be single, what message<br />
does it send to women out there?<br />
Men aren't educated to accept being second in the bread-winning competition<br />
and this is causing women to either settle or stay single. Isn't it a high price to<br />
pay for women leaders? Isn't it a subtle yet powerful unspoken punishment to<br />
discourage women from aiming higher?<br />
And this is not even taking into account the family pressure. Highly educated<br />
women are more often encouraged to find a husband and have children than<br />
climb the career ladder.<br />
So women sabotage their success…<br />
Using minimizing language.<br />
Apologizing.<br />
Asking permission.<br />
Waiting until they’re experts to take on a new role.<br />
Focusing on cooperation rather than competition.<br />
Questioning themselves.<br />
Not setting clear goals.<br />
Only setting goals they know how to reach.<br />
Not setting clear boundaries.<br />
Worrying too much about relationships.<br />
Getting too hung up on details.<br />
Using strategies to sound less threatening.<br />
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I have an idea...<br />
THREATENING<br />
These numbers are wrong.<br />
NON THREATENING<br />
I’m just thinking out loud here…<br />
I am sorry, are these numbers right?<br />
I’m not 100% sure, I hate numbers.<br />
Source: thecooperreview.com<br />
More than 75% of CEOs include gender equality in their top 10 business<br />
priorities, but gender outcomes across the largest companies are not<br />
changing.<br />
The report, Women in the Workplace, by Lean In and and McKinsey shows<br />
that, in the corporate world, women fall behind early and continue to lose<br />
ground with every step.<br />
Women are less likely to receive their first critical promotion to manager, so far<br />
fewer end up on the path to leadership, and they are less likely to be hired into<br />
more senior positions. As a result, the higher you look in companies, the fewer<br />
women you see.<br />
On average, women are promoted and hired at lower rates than men, so far<br />
fewer women become senior leaders. At more senior levels, we see women<br />
shift from line to staff roles, so very few end up on the path to becoming CEO.<br />
Women are subtly disadvantaged in many of their daily interactions. Fewer<br />
women are able to:<br />
Participate meaningfully in meetings.<br />
Receive a challenging assignment.<br />
Believe their contributions are appropriately valued.<br />
Regarded as a point person for input on important decisions.<br />
Women get less access to senior leaders.<br />
People who do more work at home are less interested in becoming top<br />
executives.<br />
We’re comfortable with the status quo.<br />
Many employees think women are well represented in leadership when they see<br />
only a few. Since they’ve gotten comfortable with the status quo, they don’t feel<br />
any urgency for change.<br />
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Men are less committed to gender diversity efforts.<br />
Men are less likely to say gender diversity is a top personal priority. Some men<br />
even feel that gender diversity efforts disadvantage them: 15% of men think their<br />
gender will make it harder for them to advance.<br />
Source: Women in the Workplace. Lean in and McKinsey<br />
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WHAT ARE <strong>THE</strong> TOP BARRIERS TO<br />
WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP?<br />
Women Fast Forward Initiative from Ernst & Young identifies 4 main barriers:<br />
Unsupportive culture.<br />
Organizational bias.<br />
Conflicts with raising a family.<br />
Shortage of female candidates.<br />
The study also identifies 5 disconnects that are holding back gender diversity<br />
and stifling innovation in business:<br />
1<br />
2<br />
3<br />
4<br />
5<br />
The reality disconnect.<br />
Business leaders assume gender inequality has nearly disappeared despite little<br />
progress within their own companies.<br />
The data disconnect.<br />
Companies don’t effectively measure progress toward achieving gender diversity in<br />
leadership.<br />
The pipeline disconnect.<br />
Companies aren’t creating pipelines for future female leaders.<br />
The perception and perspective disconnect.<br />
Men and women have different views on the gender diversity gap and how to solve it.<br />
The progress disconnect.<br />
Different sectors agree on the value of diversity but are making uneven progress<br />
toward gender parity.<br />
WOMEN WON’T ACHIEVE EQUALITY AT WORK FOR<br />
ANO<strong>THE</strong>R 118 YEARS.<br />
AS A FA<strong>THE</strong>R, I AM CONCERNED. AS A CEO,<br />
I SEE A CAUSE FOR ACTION.<br />
— Mark Weinberger, EY CEO<br />
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LEADERSHIP IS CHANGING<br />
Female leadership might be a response to the needs of the future.<br />
McKinsey asked managers to rate the importance of 14 trends on the profitability<br />
of their company over the next 5 years. Leadership behaviors are seen as most<br />
effective in addressing the global challenges of the future, and it turns out that<br />
women apply 3 of these 4 leadership behaviors more frequently than men:<br />
Intellectual stimulation.<br />
Inspiration.<br />
Participative decision-making.<br />
Expectation and rewards.<br />
So the change in how we define leadership also benefits women.<br />
As our economy continues to globalize, as the world gets “flatter,” and as<br />
technology continues to change how we work, leadership is evolving into a<br />
relational activity rather than a hierarchical activity.<br />
We’re transitioning from command and control to facilitative and collaborative<br />
leadership that works across teams, time zones, cultures, and disciplines.<br />
Having women as leaders changes the norms about who can lead and<br />
what qualities are necessary in leadership.<br />
Modern ideas of transformative leadership are more in line with qualities<br />
women have been socialized to develop: empathy, inclusiveness, and an open<br />
negotiation style.<br />
FEMALE LEADERSHIP IS ALSO A<br />
CORPORATE PERFORMANCE DRIVER<br />
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Diverse studies show that companies with women in leadership roles<br />
crush the competition.<br />
Can you afford a woman-free board?<br />
Companies with even one women director outperform those with none.<br />
#WomenFastForward<br />
There are significant benefits to having women in leadership roles.<br />
Diversity of thought.<br />
Groups that are more mixed will consider a wider range of issues, from a<br />
variety of perspectives, and generate more innovative solutions.<br />
Better governance and organizational performance.<br />
Research shows that economic performance results are better when women<br />
and men work together on boards. This is often referred to as the business<br />
case for gender diversity.<br />
Leveraging human capital.<br />
To get the very best leaders, we need to be selecting candidates from the<br />
widest possible talent pool.<br />
Representation.<br />
Research shows that the interests of women, children, and families are more<br />
likely to be taken into account by women. Diversity promotes a better<br />
understanding of a diverse marketplace. International data suggests that<br />
women are responsible for 80% of household purchasing decisions.<br />
And there is actually a greater preference for female bosses among those<br />
who currently work for a woman.<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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TIME WILL NOT SOLVE <strong>THE</strong><br />
GENDER LEADERSHIP GAP, ACTION WILL<br />
MANY TOOLKITS PROVIDE USEFUL TIPS FOR<br />
CURRENT AND FUTURE BUSINESS LEADERS<br />
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Toolkit<br />
How do we close the gender leadership gap?<br />
Individuals:<br />
Become a student of leadership.<br />
Seek evidence-based leadership training.<br />
Seek out employers that promote women's leadership.<br />
Look for volunteer opportunities that include leadership skill development.<br />
Ask for more.<br />
Learn and practice negotiation skills to ensure that salaries and benefits start<br />
fair and stay fair. Find a sponsor or become one.<br />
Be on the lookout for opportunities to learn from people in leadership<br />
positions, and as you advance in your field, make it your responsibility to<br />
invest in future leaders.<br />
Explore and address your biases.<br />
Find out about your biases and learn some practical tips for avoiding the<br />
mental shortcuts that can lead to unfounded judgments.<br />
Visit the AAUW website and take the Gender and Leadership Implicit<br />
Association Test.<br />
Understand stereotype threat.<br />
Employers:<br />
Offer flexible schedules.<br />
Schedule conferences and important meetings during core working hours to<br />
accommodate employees’ personal needs.<br />
Focus on productivity, not face time.<br />
When managers focus on and recognize employees’ contributions rather than<br />
watching the clock, productivity and morale improve.<br />
Offer evidence-based diversity training.<br />
Actively encourage sponsorship programs.<br />
While mentoring programs can be useful, sponsorship involves the sharing of<br />
credibility and standing in the field.<br />
Design better human resource materials.<br />
Policies and programs designed to reduce bias, such as blind review of<br />
resumes, can limit bias in crucial aspects of the hiring process.<br />
Policymakers:<br />
Tackle persistent sex discrimination.<br />
Strengthen pay equity laws and leave policies.<br />
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Leader<br />
Accountability<br />
Senior leaders are held<br />
accountable for<br />
gender diversity<br />
Fair and Objective<br />
Hiring and Promotions<br />
- Managers consider a diverse<br />
lineup of candidates for open<br />
positions<br />
- Managers evaluate performance<br />
using standardized, clear and<br />
objective metrics.<br />
MORE TIPS FOR HR MANAGERS<br />
Employment practice reforms.<br />
Research has shown that education alone is not enough to remedy historical<br />
inequities in the workplace. For meaningful progress, managers must be held<br />
accountable, especially for promoting women and men of color into<br />
leadership positions (Duguid & Thomas-Hunt, 2015).<br />
Job descriptions using gender-neutral language (so as not to imply that one<br />
gender is better suited for a position) have also been shown to make a<br />
positive difference (Lennon et al., 2013).<br />
The recommendation process is especially fraught with opportunities for bias.<br />
Talent management.<br />
Inclusive Work<br />
Environment<br />
- Company embraces diverse<br />
leadership styles<br />
- Mangers create a supportive work<br />
environment<br />
- Managers leverage the diverse<br />
strengths of all employees<br />
Outcomes<br />
Employees are more<br />
likely to think they have<br />
equal opportunities<br />
and report higher<br />
employee engagement<br />
Image: Women in the Workplace<br />
We know that women are more hesitant than men when applying for new<br />
positions. Men are willing to take greater risks when applying for stretching
Toolkit<br />
Visualize<br />
jobs; women are more risk-averse, preferring to apply for roles where they are<br />
certain they meet the job description.<br />
To counteract this problem, organizations should structure their talent<br />
management systems to ensure that the most talented individuals – including<br />
women managers – are proactively identified and encouraged to apply for<br />
leadership positions. Open advertising for internal positions may not<br />
necessarily produce the best person for a role. Personalized development and<br />
support programs for pre-selected employees can help women set more<br />
ambitious goals and encourage greater risk-taking.<br />
Flexible attitudes.<br />
Women are far more likely than men to leave the career ladder in order to raise<br />
families, pursue education, or tackle other interests. This often capsizes<br />
women’s careers and places them at a disadvantage when chasing senior<br />
leadership and management positions.<br />
An emphasis on "anytime, anywhere" availability and linear career paths is<br />
clearly not compatible with the roles many people with family demands are<br />
likely to pursue. Flexible working and work-life balance policies have a huge<br />
part to play in helping women align a more fragmented career route with<br />
senior management responsibilities.<br />
Rethinking recruitment and selection.<br />
When recruiting for top jobs, headhunters should be challenged to deliver an<br />
equal number of male and female candidates. At the same time, employers<br />
should challenge themselves to prioritize skills, talent, and potential over<br />
experience.<br />
Creating safe environments.<br />
Creating a safe setting—a coaching relationship, a women’s leadership program,<br />
a support group of peers—in which women can interpret these messages is<br />
critical to their leadership identity development.<br />
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SOME INITIATIVES PORTRAY INSPIRING<br />
STORIES OF WOMEN LEADERS<br />
Getting more women into leadership roles will encourage others to step up.<br />
Employers can benefit from raising the profile, voice, and visibility of successful<br />
women leaders across the organization through internal communications,<br />
networking, and development events, as well as leveraging their experience to<br />
help nurture other women managers.<br />
Like the first all-female crew flying<br />
Ethiopian airlines.<br />
Or the Brunei crew landing a<br />
commercial flight in Saudi Arabia,<br />
where women were not allowed to<br />
drive.<br />
Frequent, high-quality interactions with successful female role models have<br />
been shown to improve college women’s perception of their leadership<br />
abilities and career ambitions (Asgari et al., 2012).<br />
Exposure to counter-stereotypical role models can actually reduce the effects<br />
of stereotypical thinking in completely different settings (Leicht et al., 2014).<br />
Women’s advancement is strongly linked to board-level gender diversity<br />
(Skaggs et al., 2012).<br />
When women are in top leadership positions, women are more likely to be<br />
promoted to leadership.<br />
MAKERS' podcast showcases a<br />
collection of inspiring women's<br />
stories.<br />
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#JamaisSansElles is a French movement promoted by leaders from media,<br />
education, politics, and business who refuse to be part of debates if<br />
women are not included.<br />
In France, the feminist collective La Barbe (The Beard) wants to make male<br />
domination in the fields of leadership more visible. Their members,<br />
wearing a fake beard, invade all-male board meetings or panels and stand<br />
behind them to mock the situation.<br />
MANY ORGANIZATIONS OFFER<br />
INNOVATIVE MENTORING PROGRAMS<br />
Mentoring programs also have an important role to play in raising women<br />
managers’ aspirations and self-confidence, as well as driving their leadership<br />
development. Employers should look to identify successful leaders of both sexes<br />
to serve as mentors to female managers and provide advice and encouragement<br />
based on their own experience, helping them build networks and encouraging<br />
them to seize career opportunities.<br />
Source: Ambition and gender at work, Institute of Leadership & Management<br />
IT SHOULD BE A BADGE OF HONOR<br />
FOR MEN TO MENTOR WOMEN.<br />
— Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
The Coaching Fellowship provides pro<br />
bono executive coaching for<br />
extraordinary young women leaders<br />
globally.<br />
The Cherie Blair Foundation For Women matches women in developing<br />
and emerging countries with male and female mentors around the world.<br />
Wedu’s mission is to unlock the<br />
leadership potential of women in Asia by<br />
providing them with lifelong mentorship<br />
and innovative financing options to<br />
complete higher education and become<br />
change-makers in their communities.<br />
The Nawaya Network is a Lebanese nonprofit organization that empowers<br />
youth from marginalized backgrounds through training, innovation, and<br />
talent development.<br />
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Empow’her supports women's<br />
empowerment through entrepreneurship.<br />
They provide training, support, and<br />
network access to help women create and<br />
develop sustainable businesses.<br />
Female Future Force Academy<br />
is offering 52 weeks of<br />
digital coaching for women.<br />
The mission of Dress for Success is to empower women to achieve<br />
economic independence by providing a network of support, professional<br />
attire, and development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.<br />
Some apps offer career advice.<br />
Landit is the personalized playbook for<br />
women seeking to move their career<br />
forward.<br />
Apres facilitates the reintegration of women<br />
into the workforce.<br />
Teach a Girl to Lead provides the<br />
tools and resources to help young<br />
people rethink leadership and refocus<br />
the picture. If a girl can’t imagine<br />
a woman leader, how can she<br />
become one? And if a boy sees only<br />
men in leadership roles, what will<br />
convince him to support aspiring<br />
women leaders?<br />
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Rate<br />
Katharine Zaleski and Milena Berry founded Power to Fly to help connect<br />
women around the world to tech jobs they could do remotely.<br />
Glowork is the first website and movement dedicated to female<br />
recruitment in the Gulf States and the most innovative enabler when it<br />
comes to creating equal opportunities for women.<br />
In Saudi Arabia, women represent<br />
only 15% of the workforce even<br />
though 60% of women have PhD<br />
degrees (Source: Booz & Co, study<br />
conducted in 2008).<br />
SOME PROJECTS RATE<br />
<strong>THE</strong> GENDER PARITY OF COMPANIES<br />
LedBetter is a research group that<br />
runs a database and application<br />
showcasing the number of women<br />
in leadership at the world’s top<br />
consumer brands and companies.<br />
Its mission is to empower and educate consumers, policymakers, leaders,<br />
journalists, and others about the companies they support and to cover and<br />
improve the public’s understanding of which companies promote gender equality<br />
in leadership — and which do not.<br />
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Unite<br />
New Skill<br />
Includeed allows you to evaluate<br />
how inclusive your company is.<br />
Bloomberg announced the 2017<br />
Financial Services Gender-Equality<br />
Index (BFGEI), providing investors<br />
and organizations with insight into<br />
the statistics, policies, product<br />
offerings, and external engagement<br />
driving 52 firms’ commitment to<br />
building gender-equal workplaces.<br />
EDGE Certification is the leading global assessment methodology and<br />
business certification standard for gender equality. EDGE Certification<br />
stands for Economic Dividends for Gender Equality Certification. EDGE<br />
Certification is currently working with more than 170 organizations in over<br />
48 countries and 23 industries.<br />
SOME POWERFUL COMMUNITIES PROVIDE SUPPORT<br />
AND CONTACTS TO FEMALE PROFESSIONALS<br />
Girltank is a collaborative and global<br />
community of female social<br />
innovators.<br />
She Entrepreneurs is a recognized leadership program for young<br />
emerging female social entrepreneurs in the Middle East, North Africa,<br />
and Sweden.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
Femmes d’Avenir Méditerranée is a leadership<br />
program created by Sciences Po Paris for young<br />
women leaders of the Mediterranean region.<br />
Ogunte enables women social<br />
entrepreneurs to learn and<br />
connect.<br />
She Leads Africa is the #1 destination<br />
for young African women<br />
looking to build successful<br />
careers or businesses.<br />
SheWorx is a global collective of ambitious female entrepreneurs<br />
redefining leadership.<br />
Women 2.0 is the leading brand for women in tech.<br />
SOME EVENTS ALLOW FEMALE<br />
PROFESSIONALS TO DEVELOP <strong>THE</strong>IR<br />
VISIBILITY AND <strong>THE</strong>IR NETWORK<br />
The three-day Women in the World Summit, held at New York City’s<br />
Lincoln Center, presents powerful new female role models whose personal<br />
stories illuminate the most pressing international issues.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
The Women's Forum for the Economy<br />
& Society is the world's leading<br />
platform featuring women's voices<br />
on major social and economic<br />
issues.<br />
Women's Forum meetings convene<br />
leaders and influencers, women and<br />
men, to engage in wide-ranging, incisive<br />
debates on vital issues.<br />
In London’s Southbank Centre, WOW<br />
– Women of the World festival looks<br />
at the obstacles that stop women<br />
and girls from achieving their<br />
potential.<br />
The International Women’s Forum builds better global leadership across<br />
careers, continents, and cultures by connecting the world’s most<br />
pre-eminent women of significant and diverse achievement.<br />
I Am Tomorrow is an interactive festival and conference that brings together<br />
incredible women in tech, business, arts, sports, science, politics, and<br />
beyond.<br />
SOME INCUBATORS PROVIDE ACCELERATION FOR<br />
FEMALE-RELATED PROJECTS<br />
The Girl Effect Accelerator is the world's<br />
first accelerator dedicated to girls in<br />
poverty, born from a partnership<br />
between The Nike Foundation and<br />
Unreasonable Group.<br />
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F>>Lane, in partnership with Vodafone, accelerates social ventures that<br />
utilize technology to empower women worldwide.<br />
In Paris, Led by Her transforms<br />
women who have experienced<br />
domestic violence into successful<br />
entrepreneurs.<br />
Paris Pionnières is the first French<br />
innovation platform for women<br />
entrepreneurs.<br />
In Kenya, Akili Dada is an<br />
award-winning leadership incubator<br />
nurturing a generation of girls and<br />
young women from underprivileged<br />
backgrounds.<br />
Globally Spotted is a discovery and<br />
social amplification platform on a<br />
mission to champion more diversity in<br />
business and more visibility for inspiring<br />
companies with innovative, smart and<br />
purpose-driven business models, led<br />
and founded by women worldwide.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Read Lean In and join a Lean In circle in your city, or create one!<br />
SISTERHOOD IS POWERFUL<br />
Support your female friends.<br />
Practice the “shine theory”: The shine theory is frequently used by US<br />
podcast hosts Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow in their popular show<br />
“Call Your Girlfriend.” “When you meet a woman who is intimidatingly<br />
witty, stylish, beautiful, and professionally accomplished, befriend her.<br />
Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse<br />
by comparison. It makes you better. I don't shine if you don't shine. True<br />
confidence is infectious,” Ann Friedman suggested.<br />
<strong>THE</strong>RE IS A SPECIAL PLACE IN HELL FOR<br />
WOMEN WHO DON’T HELP O<strong>THE</strong>R WOMEN.<br />
— Madeleine Albright<br />
Check the Leadership Tips for Parents guide from Lean In and Ban<br />
Bossy.<br />
Practice the G.I.R.L. problem-solving protocol with your daughter to<br />
develop her leadership skills:<br />
G<br />
I<br />
R<br />
L<br />
(Gather Your Choices):<br />
Write about all the possible choices you could make.<br />
(I Choose):<br />
Pick one choice out of all the possibilities you just listed and<br />
decide what you want to do.<br />
(Reasons Are):<br />
Write in the reasons why you made your choice.<br />
(List the Outcomes):<br />
List all the things that could happen if you make this choice.<br />
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I WANT EVERY LITTLE GIRL WHO’S TOLD<br />
SHE’S BOSSY TO BE TOLD INSTEAD SHE<br />
HAS LEADERSHIP SKILLS.<br />
— Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO<br />
Source: Ban Bossy Leadership Tips for Parents<br />
BUILD YOUR OWN CONFIDENCE<br />
Here are a few tips for building up your own “savings account.”<br />
Exercise. A good workout can make you feel powerful, like you can take<br />
on the world.<br />
Be bossy. You don’t have to be everyone’s best friend, but you do have to<br />
practice taking charge and making decisions.<br />
Don’t work too hard. Without personal down time, you can’t recharge,<br />
focus, or be happy.<br />
Stop comparing yourself. Stop looking at what everyone else has or does<br />
or wears, and focus on what’s right for you.<br />
Don’t be afraid to be audacious. Audacious means being a daring, spirited<br />
one who sees what others can’t and goes for it even when not yet<br />
understood.<br />
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In her famous talk, Amy Cuddy<br />
gives simple advice about using<br />
your body language to make<br />
yourself more confident.<br />
Practice power posing.<br />
In two minutes, it brings your testosterone level up and your<br />
cortisol level down, and you truly feel more powerful. By<br />
accessing our personal power, we can achieve "presence,"<br />
the state in which we stop worrying about the impression we're<br />
making on others and instead adjust the impression we've been<br />
making on ourselves.<br />
Society tells women to forget themselves and sacrifice for others’ well-being.<br />
So consider self-love as a feminist endeavor, the first act of resistance.<br />
For example:<br />
Answering “Thank you” to a compliment.<br />
Using exercise as a means of self-love and not self-destruction.<br />
Recognizing when your romantic or sexual relationships are unfulfilling or<br />
toxic.<br />
Being more comfortable stating what your needs are.<br />
Becoming more comfortable with calling yourself an expert in your field.<br />
Being better able to communicate with the people around you in non-violent<br />
ways.<br />
Drawing clearer boundaries around who you want to spend time with, and<br />
who you don’t.<br />
Being more supportive – and less competitive – with other women around you.<br />
Read Brené Brown’s books! Listen to her<br />
talks!
Set yourself some challenges and goals.<br />
Learn a new skill.<br />
Buy yourself empowering clothes.<br />
Register for a coaching/mentoring program.<br />
Mentor someone.<br />
Start your own business!<br />
Develop your abundance mindset.<br />
Set yourself 3 challenges for the coming year.<br />
Sing!<br />
Identify your superpowers.<br />
Meditate.<br />
Practice gratitude.<br />
Create a habit or quit one. Commit for<br />
21 days.<br />
What is your bucket list?<br />
Dream big!<br />
GIVE US A <strong>WORLD</strong> WHERE 1/2 OF OUR HOMES<br />
ARE RUN BY MEN, AND 1/2 OF OUR INSTITUTIONS<br />
ARE RUN BY WOMEN.<br />
— Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO<br />
<strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong> NEEDS A NEW<br />
TYPE OF LEADER<br />
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Chapter 10 – Investors<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
MONEY IS NOT A<br />
WOMAN’S BUSINESS<br />
$<br />
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The Power of the Crowd<br />
Just have a look at our banknotes!<br />
Around the world, many activists have launched campaigns to update the<br />
faces of paper currencies.<br />
But they also face a tremendous backlash.<br />
UK activist Caroline Criado-Perez, who convinced the Bank of England to<br />
make Jane Austen the new face of the £10 note, has received rape and death<br />
threats from Twitter users.<br />
“We fought, and we won. For all the hatred and bile and fear of women taking<br />
up public space, we have achieved this small victory,” she said in a statement.<br />
Hopefully, things are changing.<br />
OUR COUNTRY IS NOT JUST<br />
ABOUT <strong>THE</strong> BENJAMINS.<br />
IT’S ABOUT <strong>THE</strong><br />
TUBMANS TOO.<br />
— Barack Obama<br />
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Yet, women are more comfortable talking about their health than their<br />
wealth.<br />
Eight in 10 women avoid financial conversations because they are “too<br />
personal” or “uncomfortable.”<br />
Even in romantic relationships, where financial assets are often shared,<br />
research by Fidelity Investments found that women are more likely to talk with<br />
their significant others about health issues (78%) and sex (74%) than salary<br />
(66%) or investment ideas (65%).<br />
Women’s anxiety about discussing money occurs even if they’re talking to a<br />
financial adviser. Less than half of women Fidelity surveyed (47%) say they’d<br />
be confident talking about money and investments with a financial<br />
professional, compared to 77% who would be comfortable discussing<br />
medical issues with their doctor.<br />
Source: Fidelity’s Money FIT Women Study<br />
Privacy worries.<br />
35% of the women in the survey didn't want to share financial information with<br />
those they were close to, and 27% said they were raised not to discuss<br />
finances.<br />
In short, it's really tough to talk about money when we are socialized to keep<br />
this kind of information private.<br />
We worry that talking about money will make us vulnerable, make someone<br />
feel bad, or simply cross a tacit societal boundary.<br />
Lack of confidence.<br />
In addition to privacy concerns, women often have difficulty talking about<br />
money because they assume they do not know enough about the subject.<br />
10% of respondents in Fidelity's study felt they did not understand finances<br />
enough to talk intelligently about them.<br />
According to Kathleen Murphy, President of Personal Investing at Fidelity<br />
Investments:<br />
“Beneath women's reticence to talk about money lies a lack of confidence in<br />
their knowledge of financial planning and investing. This lack of confidence is<br />
really self-imposed. Our analysis of more than 12 million investors shows that<br />
women actually demonstrated stronger saving rates than their male<br />
counterparts and enjoyed better long-term investment performance when they<br />
did engage. Unfortunately, too many women still hesitate to take control of<br />
their finances.” 274
48% OF WOMEN<br />
DESCRIBE<br />
<strong>THE</strong>MSELVES<br />
AS KNOWLEDGEABLE<br />
ABOUT SAVING<br />
AND INVESTING<br />
VS. 57% OF MEN<br />
Source: Blackrock Global Investor Pulse Survey, 2013<br />
That confidence gap can feel like a Catch-22.<br />
Women feel foolish for not knowing enough about finances, but asking<br />
questions is intimidating. So, women continue to worry in silence and assume<br />
they don't know enough to talk intelligently.<br />
Even when women are confident in financial matters, many persist in using<br />
self-deprecating language when asked about their ability to manage their<br />
finances.<br />
Only 18% of millennial women (compared to 29% of millennial men)<br />
demonstrate high financial literacy.<br />
While this is a concerning statistic, this is one area where the gender gap<br />
appears to be closing. The percentage point difference between the genders<br />
for millennials is 11 points vs. 21 points for Gen Xers and 25 points for Baby<br />
Boomers.<br />
The financial industry must take some responsibility for closing the confidence<br />
gap: Research by the Boston Consulting Group found that women (globally)<br />
are more dissatisfied with the financial services industry than with any other<br />
industry!<br />
As the industry is still mainly run by men catering to men, women often feel as<br />
if their needs are not being met.<br />
“Married women are often considered<br />
mere appendages to their husbands.<br />
It should come as no surprise, then,<br />
that more than 70% of married women<br />
fire their financial professionals within<br />
one year of their husbands’ deaths.”<br />
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And the pay gap reinforces the fact that women build less wealth than men<br />
While the wage gap between men and women is getting smaller, women still<br />
earn about $11,500 less per year.<br />
As a result, women save less and are hesitant to take risks when it comes to<br />
investing the money they do save.<br />
Per Wells Fargo, only 50% of millennial women have started saving for<br />
retirement, vs. 61% of millennial men.<br />
The lack of both knowledge and savings<br />
can be more costly for women since they<br />
tend to live longer.<br />
Poverty has a woman’s face.<br />
Women comprise half the<br />
world's population, while they<br />
represent a staggering 70% of<br />
the world's poor.<br />
MEN<br />
WOMEN<br />
70% OF<br />
<strong>THE</strong> POOR<br />
30% OF<br />
<strong>THE</strong> POOR<br />
Conclusion: Men still earn and control the majority of the wealth!<br />
Today,<br />
8men<br />
possess the same wealth as<br />
half of the world’s population!<br />
Perform<br />
66%<br />
of the world’s work<br />
Earn<br />
10%<br />
of the income<br />
Produce<br />
50%<br />
of the food<br />
Own<br />
1%<br />
of the property
MONEY IS POWER<br />
Today, the investment field is largely male-dominated.<br />
Just remember "The Wolf of Wall Street" movie.<br />
Fewer than one-third of venture capital firms in the U.S. employ even one<br />
woman who participates in business or investment decisions. Only 9% of<br />
mutual fund managers are women, according to a 2015 study by investment<br />
research firm Morningstar.<br />
There are plenty of women in back-office roles in finance, but few have the<br />
final say over where the money is invested.<br />
In a 2014 KPMG report, only 14% of executive women surveyed across the<br />
financial industry held the post of chief executive officer, and only 21% were in<br />
roles that let them manage money, with the vast majority of women relegated<br />
to marketing or compliance.<br />
Where are the female fund mangers?<br />
FUND MANAGERS<br />
BY GENDER<br />
FUNDS BY GENDER<br />
MEN<br />
RUN BY<br />
MEN ONLY<br />
2.5%<br />
RUN BY<br />
WOMEN ONLY<br />
184 funds<br />
90.4%<br />
6,711 funds<br />
9.4%<br />
WOMEN<br />
699 funds<br />
77.9%<br />
5,775 funds<br />
19.6%<br />
RUN BY<br />
MEN & WOMEN<br />
1,452 funds<br />
Source: Wall Street Journal. Where are the female fund managers.<br />
86%<br />
of<br />
Investment Advisors are Men, with an<br />
average age of 50+<br />
Source: Ellevest<br />
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Meredith Jones explains:<br />
“You tend to look for candidates that look like the people that have<br />
been successful in the role before. So if you’ve always hired white<br />
men, and they’ve been successful in those roles, unconsciously,<br />
you are likely going to continue to look for those kinds of people.”<br />
“Again, even if it is among the highest remunerated professions,<br />
less women are socialized to study finance. When they do, they<br />
face overt sexism and unconscious bias.”<br />
These biases make it notoriously difficult for women to break into finance and to<br />
make connections that provide that vital source of deal flow. Few women are<br />
opting for careers in investing as it is still perceived as an environment that is<br />
aggressive and hostile to women. They lack role models of successful women in<br />
finance, so it is harder for them to visualize it as a career prospect.<br />
As with many male-dominated industries, the lack of women can<br />
be explained by:<br />
Scarce pipeline<br />
Unconscious biases<br />
Fewer connections<br />
Lack of role models<br />
Rich women tend to become philanthropists rather than investors.<br />
Ledbury Research for Barclay’s Wealth found that women in the U.S. give 3.5%<br />
of their wealth to charity, while men give just 1.8%. And it isn’t just a U.S.<br />
phenomenon. In the U.K., women give 0.8%, compared with 0.5% for men.<br />
Source: Wall Street Journal.<br />
50% OF WOMEN GIVE TO WOMEN AND GIRLS<br />
CAUSES BUT LESS THAN 1% CURRENTLY INVESTS<br />
WITH A GENDER LENS.<br />
— Women at the Forefront<br />
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The Wells Fargo Affluent Women Retirement Survey showed that a startling 49%<br />
of affluent women do not feel confident about investing, which is, again, a likely<br />
result of the territorial “gentlemen’s club” mentality attached to the industry.<br />
Yet, funds run by women have better results.<br />
In fact, funds owned and run by women have returned an average of 59%<br />
since 2007, compared with an average of 37% for the whole industry,<br />
according to figures released by Chicago-based Hedge Fund Research Inc.,<br />
which launched its first index exclusively tracking women-run funds in 2015.<br />
Ironically, risk avoidance is part of what makes women better investors.<br />
Female investors behave differently.<br />
Studies have consistently shown that female investors behave in three ways that<br />
differentiate them from men:<br />
They experience fewer losses caused by overconfidence and overtrading.<br />
They exhibit greater discipline in their investing decisions.<br />
They focus more on protecting their investments from downside risk.<br />
WOMEN’S PROCLIVITY TOWARD LONG-TERM WEALTH<br />
CREATION OVER SHORT-TERM TRADING PROFIT MAKES<br />
<strong>THE</strong>M IDEALLY SUITED TO BE SUCCESSFUL INVESTORS.<br />
— Manisha Thakor, Director of Wealth Strategies for Women<br />
According to Christine Lagarde, Director of the International Monetary<br />
Fund, more women in finance would make banks work better. It is crucial<br />
to incorporate alternative values into finance.<br />
The lack of diversity in the investment world and its inherent herd mentality led<br />
to massive economic crises.<br />
WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED IF LEHMAN BRO<strong>THE</strong>RS<br />
HAD BEEN LEHMAN SISTERS?<br />
— Christine Lagarde, Managing Director of the IMF<br />
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In her TED Talk, "The feminine response to Iceland's financial crash," Halla<br />
Tómasdóttir explains that there is a necessity for a new model incorporating<br />
different values, a different way of doing business that looks for economic as<br />
well as emotional capital, financial and social return, profit with principles.<br />
Women also struggle to get funded.<br />
Women entrepreneurs contribute to job growth and innovation.<br />
So why are they struggling to get funded?<br />
#WomenFastForward<br />
People tend to invest in people who look, think, and have similar backgrounds to<br />
them. Since the investment world is mostly male-dominated, far fewer women<br />
secure VC funding, making them generally less successful in the overall startup<br />
ecosystem.<br />
Only about 10% of female entrepreneurs globally have access to the capital<br />
they need to expand their businesses, according to the International Finance<br />
Corporation (IFC).<br />
An IFC-McKinsey study noted that women face a credit gap of approximately<br />
$320 billion.<br />
<strong>THE</strong>RE’S PLENTY OF WOMEN’S LEADERSHIP<br />
PRODUCT, BUT IT’S A DROP IN <strong>THE</strong> BUCKET IN<br />
<strong>THE</strong> DEMAND FOR CAPITAL.<br />
— Blackrock Global Investor Pulse Survey, 2013<br />
In the US, only<br />
4%<br />
of venture capital<br />
goes to female<br />
entrepreneurs.<br />
In the EU, women are<br />
37%<br />
more likely to be<br />
self-funded.<br />
In the EU,<br />
male entrepreneurs are<br />
86%<br />
more likely to receive<br />
venture capital investment.<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
281
Visualize<br />
New Skill<br />
Fearless Girl is a bronze sculpture by<br />
Kristen Visbal, commissioned by State<br />
Street Global Advisors via McCann New York.<br />
It depicts a Latina girl standing defiantly in<br />
front of the well-known Charging Bull<br />
of Wall Street and was installed on<br />
International Women’s Day 2017.<br />
The intention of installing a Fearless Girl<br />
in the heart of New York City's Financial District<br />
was to celebrate the power of women's leadership and the potential of the<br />
next generation of women leaders.<br />
The statue won three Grand Prix awards at the 2017 Cannes Lions Festival<br />
and received tremendous social media coverage.<br />
Image: Associated Press<br />
Some programs provide financial<br />
education to women and girls around the<br />
world.<br />
Arora has partnered with the National Financial Educators Council to<br />
provide women with Arora-Ed, the first free financial literacy course<br />
designed for women business owners and their supporters.<br />
Arora-Ed provides women and their supporters with free, transformative, and<br />
user-friendly resources, giving them access to hassle-free credit, financial<br />
education, and money management tools.<br />
MyBnk is an award-winning UK charity<br />
that teaches young people how to manage<br />
their money and set up their own<br />
enterprises.<br />
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New Skill<br />
Aflatoun International offers social and<br />
financial education to millions of children<br />
and young people worldwide, empowering<br />
them to make a positive change for a more<br />
equitable world.<br />
Three Coins is an independent,<br />
award-winning organization specialized in<br />
developing educational tools to promote<br />
responsible personal finance.<br />
There are two main ways to get more women into investing:<br />
1<br />
2<br />
Investor training: Women are more likely to invest in other women.<br />
Increase the number of women investors through training programs.<br />
Invest in female entrepreneurs: Most business angels are former<br />
entrepreneurs. When more female entrepreneurs receive early stage<br />
funding, more will see their businesses prosper, and they will go on to<br />
reinvest their profits.<br />
TRAIN WOMEN TO<br />
BE INVESTORS<br />
37 Angels is a community of women investors whose mission is to educate<br />
early stage investors.<br />
In 2014, only 26% of U.S. angel investors were women and only 8% were<br />
minorities, according to the Center for Venture Research.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
New Skill<br />
Unite<br />
Pipeline Fellowship, an angel investing bootcamp for women, works to<br />
increase diversity in the U.S. angel investing community and to create<br />
capital for women social entrepreneurs.<br />
The time commitment is approximately two<br />
full days per month for six months for a fee<br />
of $4,500. Each Pipeline Fellow commits to<br />
invest $5,000 in the same woman-led<br />
for-profit social venture at the end of the<br />
program.<br />
By completing Girls Who Invest's rigorous<br />
program, talented and motivated women<br />
will be well prepared to enter the industry<br />
across all asset classes, including public<br />
and private equity, fixed income, credit,<br />
hedge funds, real estate, and<br />
infrastructure.<br />
She EO’s model brings together 500<br />
women Activators in each cohort, who<br />
each contribute $1100 as an act of radical<br />
generosity.<br />
The money is pooled together and loaned out at low interest rate to 5<br />
women-led ventures selected by the activators. All ventures are<br />
revenue-generating with export potential and create a better world through their<br />
business model or their product or service. Loans are paid back into the fund<br />
over 5 years and then loaned out again, which creates a perpetual fund to pass<br />
on to our daughters, granddaughters, and nieces.<br />
Isabella Forum is a network that helps women better manage their money<br />
around major life events.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
New Skill<br />
Unite<br />
We Are Enough advocates for women to invest their dollars into<br />
women-owned businesses, especially those in technology, finance, and<br />
entertainment – three industries that greatly impact the world and women.<br />
DEVELOPING FINANCIAL VEHICLES<br />
DEDICATED TO FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS<br />
Global Invest Her demystifies the funding<br />
process so women entrepreneurs become<br />
investor-ready and get funded faster.<br />
Global Invest Her offers community-based<br />
learning, webinars, and one-on-one<br />
mentoring.<br />
Some programs offer microfinance and<br />
loans especially dedicated to women, like<br />
Catapult or Women’s Worldwide Web.<br />
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New Skill Specific Communities The Power of the Crowd<br />
The Next Billion builds collaborative<br />
platforms that leverage the power of the<br />
crowd to connect the growing number of<br />
female-led enterprises worldwide with<br />
access to growth opportunities.<br />
Female Founders Fund invests in areas<br />
where women-led startups have incredible<br />
impact: e-commerce, web-enabled<br />
products and services, marketplaces, and<br />
platforms.<br />
Springboard Enterprises is a highly-vetted expert network of innovators,<br />
investors, and influencers who are dedicated to building high-growth<br />
technology-oriented companies led by women.<br />
Astia is a community of experts<br />
committed to leveling the playing field<br />
for women entrepreneurs by providing<br />
access to capital and networks for the<br />
companies they lead.<br />
The JumpFund's mission is to seed and grow strong, women-led ventures<br />
in the Southeastern US.<br />
Women Effect is an information hub<br />
based at Wharton Business School in<br />
the U.S. to promote gender lens<br />
investing.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
287
As a young woman, be proud to excel in math, science, and computer<br />
programming classes.<br />
Kickstart your financial education at your own pace with all the online or<br />
offline tools you can find.<br />
Enroll in personal finance and accounting classes.<br />
Talk about money and ask for help if you need it.<br />
Ask for a raise.<br />
Identify your financial advisor.<br />
Find a buddy to discuss financial matters.<br />
Start saving, even a little.<br />
Join a cohort of female investors and learn more.<br />
Investment channels money to the projects that will shape the future.<br />
You have savings? Invest!<br />
MONEY GIVES YOU <strong>THE</strong> POWER TO DO WHATEVER<br />
YOU WANT TO DO. I LIKE <strong>THE</strong> IDEA OF BEING IN<br />
COMPLETE CONTROL OF MY LIFE.<br />
— Louise Mensch<br />
BECOME A FEARLESS INVESTOR<br />
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Chapter 11 – Pay Gap<br />
289
<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
WOMEN.<br />
LIKE MEN,<br />
ONLY CHEAPER<br />
290
The gender pay gap is a reality all over the world.<br />
Globally, women earn 24% less than men on average.<br />
24% 33% 30% 23% 22% 20% 19% 14%<br />
Global<br />
South Asia<br />
Sub-Saharan<br />
Africa<br />
Developed<br />
Regions<br />
Central and<br />
Eastern<br />
Europe and<br />
Central Asia<br />
East Asia and<br />
the Pacific<br />
Latin America<br />
and the<br />
Caribbean<br />
Middle East<br />
and North<br />
Africa<br />
progress.unwomen.org<br />
#WomensProgress2015<br />
Gender pay gap in the OECD<br />
Men make 15.3% more than women on average, full-time workers.<br />
0 10 20 30 40 %<br />
Korea<br />
Estonia<br />
Japan<br />
Israel<br />
Netherlands<br />
Finland<br />
Turkey<br />
Canada<br />
Austria<br />
Australia<br />
United States<br />
United Kingdom<br />
Portugal<br />
Chile<br />
Switzerland<br />
Czech Republic<br />
Mexico<br />
OECD<br />
Sweden<br />
Iceland<br />
Slovak Republic<br />
France<br />
Germany<br />
Ireland<br />
Slovenia<br />
Greece<br />
Italy<br />
Poland<br />
Hungary<br />
Spain<br />
Norway<br />
Denmark<br />
Luxembourg<br />
Belgium<br />
New Zealand<br />
5.9<br />
5.6<br />
7.0<br />
6.8<br />
6.5<br />
8.7<br />
8.6<br />
11.6<br />
11.3<br />
11.1<br />
10.6<br />
14.5<br />
14.1<br />
13.7<br />
13.4<br />
12.8<br />
15.4<br />
15.3<br />
15.1<br />
16.7<br />
16.7<br />
16.5<br />
16.1<br />
18.1<br />
18.0<br />
17.9<br />
17.5<br />
19.2<br />
0 10 20 30 40 %<br />
20.5<br />
20.2<br />
20.1<br />
21.8<br />
26.6<br />
26.6<br />
36.6<br />
*Difference in earnings between<br />
men and women as a percentage<br />
of the earnings of men.<br />
Source: OECD Employment Outlook 2015<br />
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It affects people differently, according to country, race, and class.<br />
$1.00 77¢ 64¢ 56¢<br />
WHITE MAN WHITE WOMAN AFRICAN AMERICAN HISPANIC WOMAN<br />
WOMAN<br />
Even in the film industry...<br />
Data: US Equal Pay Back Project<br />
FORBES 2013 LIST OF <strong>THE</strong> TOP TEN HIGHEST PAID ACTRESSES MADE A COLLECTIVE<br />
$181 MILLION VERSUS $465 MILLION MADE BY <strong>THE</strong> TOP TEN MALE ACTORS.<br />
MEN<br />
WOMEN<br />
$181 MILLION<br />
$465 MILLION<br />
IN 2013 <strong>THE</strong> HIGHEST PAID FEMALE ACTOR, ANGELINA JOLIE, MADE $33 MILLION, ROUGHLY <strong>THE</strong><br />
SAME AMOUNT AS <strong>THE</strong> TWO LOWEST-RANKED MEN. FUR<strong>THE</strong>RMORE, AGE APPEARS TO BE A<br />
DOMINANT FACTOR IN AN ACTRESS'S MONETARY SUCCESS COMPARED TO MEN.<br />
Millions of dollars<br />
75<br />
70<br />
65<br />
60<br />
55<br />
50<br />
45<br />
40<br />
35<br />
30<br />
25<br />
20<br />
15<br />
10<br />
$75<br />
$60<br />
$55<br />
$52<br />
$46<br />
Of the 16 biggest paychecks earned<br />
by actors per film, not a single one<br />
was earned by a female actor<br />
$39 $37 $35 $33 $33 $32<br />
$26<br />
$22 $20 $16 $15 $14 $14 $11 $11<br />
Robert Downey Jr. (48)<br />
Channing Tatum (33)<br />
Hugh Jackman (45)<br />
Mark Wahlberg (42)<br />
Dwayne Johnson (41)<br />
Leonardo DiCaprio (39)<br />
Adam Sandler (47)<br />
Tom Cruise (51)<br />
Denzel Washington (58)<br />
Angelina Jolie (38)<br />
Liam Neeson (61)<br />
Jennifer Lawrence (23)<br />
Kristen Stewart (23)<br />
Jennifer Aniston (44)<br />
Emma Stone (25)<br />
Charlize Theron (38)<br />
Sandra Bullock (49)<br />
Natalie Portman (32)<br />
Mila Kunis (30)<br />
Julia Roberts (46)<br />
Median Age: 46.5 Median Age: 34.8<br />
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...or in sports.<br />
WHY?<br />
REASON #1:<br />
OCCUPATION AND “CHOICE”<br />
Segregation by occupation is a major factor behind the pay gap. It is a reflection<br />
of women’s and men’s “choices.”<br />
Women and men tend to work in different kinds of jobs. Women are disproportionately<br />
represented in education, office and administrative support, and health<br />
care. Men are disproportionately represented in construction, maintenance and<br />
repair, and production and transportation (U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics,<br />
2016b).<br />
Jobs traditionally associated with men<br />
tend to pay more than traditionally<br />
female-dominated jobs that require<br />
the same level of skill (Hegewisch<br />
& Hartmann, 2014).<br />
Source: The Simple Truth About The Gender Paygap 2017. AAUW.<br />
Women are over-represented in low-wage jobs.<br />
Research shows that the more women enter a field, the more the pay goes
down, even as the work stays the same. The same dynamic depresses wages in<br />
occupations that are primarily female compared to similar occupations that are<br />
primarily male. For example, janitors are paid about 22% more than maids.<br />
How college majors contribute to the gender pay gap.<br />
In the 2016 study, Demystifying the Gender Pay Gap, Glassdoor Economic<br />
Research found that the biggest cause of today’s gender pay gap is that men<br />
and women sort into different jobs — men into higher-paying positions and<br />
women into traditionally lower-paying jobs.<br />
Women earn 12% less than men as soon as they leave college.<br />
The study concluded that more than half of the gap is due to “occupational<br />
sorting”, meaning men cluster into degree subjects that result in higher-paying<br />
careers than their female counterparts.<br />
Men outnumber women in almost every science and engineering field in college,<br />
with particularly dramatic differences in areas such as physics and computer<br />
science.<br />
Under-representation of women in these disciplines fuels pay imbalances<br />
because the skills they teach tend to be highly rewarded, Glassdoor’seconomists<br />
explain.<br />
“When we isolate by major, pay gaps remain because men and women are<br />
sorting into different jobs after graduating - a clear sign of societal pressures<br />
and gender norms at play in the career paths of young workers.”<br />
Source: The Independent<br />
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REASON #2:<br />
NEGOTIATING LESS<br />
Traditionally, it has been socially expected (and therefore accepted) for men to<br />
negotiate for raises because negotiating conforms with the stereotype of men as<br />
assertive.<br />
But negotiation is especially tricky for women because some behaviors that work<br />
for men, like self-promotion and assertiveness, may backfire on women (Carter &<br />
Silva, 2011; Bowles & Babcock, 2013).<br />
Here’s the percentage of graduating professional students who attempted to<br />
negotiate their pay:<br />
MEN<br />
WOMEN<br />
57%<br />
7%<br />
Source: Lilyline. Washington Post.<br />
Consciously or unconsciously, women tend to ask for less money. Even top<br />
leaders settle for less remuneration. Women are four times less likely to<br />
negotiate than men. When they do negotiate, women typically ask for 30% less<br />
money.<br />
Women have thus progressively internalized a sense of lower self-worth.<br />
55% SAY <strong>THE</strong>Y DON’T<br />
NEGOTIATE BECAUSE <strong>THE</strong>Y<br />
DON’T WANT TO COME<br />
ACROSS AS PUSHY.<br />
— LEVO 2015 SURVEY<br />
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REASON #3:<br />
PARENTING AND TIME<br />
AWAY FROM PAID WORK<br />
Taking time away from the workforce or cutting back hours, which mothers do<br />
more often than fathers, hurts earnings (Bertrand et al., 2010). Many employers<br />
and industries still prioritize long, continuous, traditional work hours rather than<br />
flexible schedules, a preference that tends to put women with children at a<br />
disadvantage (Goldin, 2014).<br />
Women are more likely to take time off from paid work for caregiving.<br />
The motherhood penalty vs the fatherhood bonus.<br />
Many stay-at-home and part-time working mothers will eventually decide to<br />
return to full-time work. When they do, these mothers may encounter a<br />
“motherhood penalty” that extends beyond the actual time out of the workforce.<br />
Experimental studies have documented that employers are less likely to hire<br />
mothers (including mothers who never left the workforce) compared with<br />
child-free women. When employers do make an offer to a mother, they offer her<br />
a lower salary than they do other women (Correll & Benard, 2007; Kricheli-Katz,<br />
2012). Fathers, in contrast, do not suffer a penalty compared with other working<br />
men. Many fathers actually receive higher wages after having a child, known as<br />
the “fatherhood bonus.” (Kille-wald, 2013; Budig, 2014).<br />
Source: The Simple Truth About The Gender Paygap 2017. AAUW.<br />
Even in a country like Sweden.<br />
Globally, on average, the time women<br />
spend daily in caring for the home and<br />
children is still about three times what<br />
men spend.<br />
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Across the world, women spend more time than men do on paid and<br />
unpaid work combined.<br />
Source: State of the World’s Father 2017<br />
Even if countries start<br />
to introduce<br />
paternity leave.<br />
There is still a long way<br />
to go.<br />
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REASON #4:<br />
GENDER DISCRIMINATION<br />
AND BIAS<br />
Thanks in part to persistent sex discrimination, women are also less likely than<br />
men to reach the highest-paying leadership and executive positions.<br />
For example, a 2012 experiment gave science professors hiring a lab manager<br />
two identical resumes, one with the name John and one with the name Jennifer.<br />
The science professors judged John to be more competent and offered the male<br />
applicant $4,000 more than the female one.<br />
Source: The Simple Truth About The Gender Paygap 2017. AAUW.<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Humor<br />
Some videos make fun of the wage gap.<br />
Kristen Bell highlights the gender wage gap with “Pinksourcing” video. The<br />
satirical video, part of The Huffington Post’s “Celebs Have Issues” series,<br />
advocates for “Pinksourcing,” i.e., hiring women in your office because they’re<br />
both cheaper and more likely to do free emotional labor!<br />
In a Buzzfeed video, a woman’s response<br />
to discovering that she earns 78% of what<br />
her male colleagues earn is simple: she’ll<br />
only do 78% of her work. Easy!<br />
In another satirical video, comedian Sarah Silverman is sitting at a doctor's<br />
office, waiting for her gender-reassignment surgery. She says this "extreme<br />
solution" is far cheaper than the money she'll lose out on due to the gender pay<br />
gap!<br />
For other ladies who prefer to remain that way, Silverman has another<br />
suggestion: support her $30 trillion crowdfunding campaign, The Equal<br />
Payback Project, to pay back all the women in the US the income they’ve<br />
missed out on.<br />
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New Skill<br />
Unite<br />
Some websites train female employees<br />
to better negotiate their salary.<br />
YOU GET IN LIFE WHAT<br />
YOU HAVE <strong>THE</strong> COURAGE<br />
TO ASK FOR.<br />
— Oprah Winfrey<br />
Since benefits and subsequent raises are generally based on initial wages, a<br />
lower starting salary could mean a lifetime of lower compensation and<br />
retirement benefits.<br />
Because most employers have some latitude when it comes to salaries,<br />
negotiating your salary can pay off.<br />
Knowing what your skills are worth, making clear what you bring to the table,<br />
emphasizing common goals, and maintaining a positive attitude are some<br />
negotiation tactics that have been shown to be effective for women (Babcock<br />
& Laschever, 2008).<br />
The best way to close the gender pay gap is to make salaries public.<br />
58% SAY <strong>THE</strong>Y DON’T<br />
HAVE <strong>THE</strong> INFORMATION<br />
AND KNOWLEDGE TO<br />
NEGOTIATE SUCCESSFULLY.<br />
— LEVO 2015 SURVEY<br />
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Speak up<br />
Outlaw<br />
Some celebrities are being vocal about equal pay.<br />
IT’S OUR<br />
TIME TO HAVE<br />
WAGE EQUALITY<br />
ONCE AND FOR ALL<br />
AND EQUAL RIGHTS<br />
FOR WOMEN<br />
IN <strong>THE</strong> UNITED<br />
STATES OF AMERICA.<br />
— Patricia Arquette<br />
Some countries are moving towards transparency.<br />
In the UK, companies employing more<br />
than 250 people will have 12 months to<br />
meet a deadline to publish their gender pay<br />
gap figures.<br />
In March 2017, Iceland just made history<br />
by becoming the first country in the world<br />
to require companies to prove they pay their<br />
employees equally regardless of gender.<br />
The move came after a massive national<br />
The Global Gender Gap Index<br />
Iceland<br />
Finland<br />
Norway<br />
Sweden<br />
Rwanda<br />
Ireland<br />
Philippines<br />
Slovenia<br />
New Zealand<br />
Nicaragua<br />
protest in October 2016, in which thousands of Icelandic women left work at<br />
2:38 p.m., a symbolic move that protested the country's 14% gender pay gap<br />
by leaving their workplaces 14% earlier than usual.<br />
The government has recently implemented the Equal Pay Standard. Every job<br />
within a company is analyzed by looking at education, physical strain, mental<br />
stress, and responsibility. Each job is then given a score. If there are two people<br />
doing jobs with the same score but different pay, the lower paid person gets<br />
a pay rise.<br />
Companies who complete the process receive certification to prove that they<br />
offer equal pay for work of equal value.<br />
Global<br />
Rank<br />
1<br />
2<br />
3<br />
4<br />
5<br />
6<br />
7<br />
8<br />
9<br />
10<br />
Source: The Global Gender Gap Report 2016<br />
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Symbolic Claim<br />
Quotas<br />
Companies which facilitate maternity and paternity leave are better at<br />
retaining talent. Some businesses charge women 78% of the price of the<br />
products to make gender gap more visible.<br />
November 10th marks Equal Pay Day: The day of<br />
the year when women in UK are effectively<br />
working for free for the rest of the year due to<br />
the gender pay gap.<br />
Before industrial society, men and women worked<br />
together at home, or close to home. Responsibilities<br />
were shared, but both participated. The industrial<br />
production mode physically separated home from<br />
work, and women had more difficulties reconciling<br />
production and reproduction activities.<br />
Things didn’t change after Sweden replaced maternity leave in 1974 with an<br />
overall allotment of paid parental leave that could be shared however the mother<br />
and father chose. Fathers who took time off were derisively nicknamed<br />
velourman or velourpapa (velvet daddy) and derided for being unmanly. In 1974,<br />
only 562 fathers claimed parental leave, about 0.5% of new fathers that year.<br />
Good for children, good for parents, good for the economy.<br />
Since women’s pay was at that time usually much lower than men's, couples<br />
typically opted for the mother to stay at home with the child. But that decision<br />
perpetuated the pay gap, as women continued to be “mommy-tracked,”<br />
penalized for the possibility that they’d bear a child. Companies entrenched this<br />
divide by looking down on fathers who did take parental leave.<br />
So in 1995, the government rolled out “daddy leave.” It didn’t make paternity<br />
leave mandatory, but couples lost a month of subsidized leave if the father took<br />
less than a month off. That meant he could no longer transfer all of his leave to<br />
his wife. The new policy also compensated fathers and mothers at 90% of their<br />
wages, making it harder for fathers to turn down.<br />
And it worked. Within a few years, more than four out of five fathers stayed at<br />
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Quotas<br />
home. And when the government added another month to “daddy leave” in<br />
2002, the amount of time they took off more than doubled. The government also<br />
upped the reimbursement ceiling to make the package more attractive to<br />
high-earning men.<br />
One reason this works is that Sweden pays generous benefits for a relatively<br />
short period of leave. The secret to keeping<br />
mothers in the workforce lies not in giving<br />
them more time off, but in getting more<br />
fathers to stay at home instead.<br />
AROUND NINE-TENTHS OF<br />
SWEDISH MO<strong>THE</strong>RS RETURN<br />
TO WORK AFTER CHILDBIRTH.<br />
Losing workers to motherhood is not so great for the bottom line.<br />
The longer the leave for fathers, the less time women take out from the<br />
workforce. Strong parental leave policies reduce turnover, foster morale for<br />
employers, and support workforce retention for employees. In California and<br />
New Jersey, companies reported that paid maternity leave policies caused either<br />
no change to their bottom line or even cut training and turnover costs.<br />
Source: Quartz<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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As an employee<br />
Learn to negotiate better.<br />
Ask your colleagues how much they make.<br />
Ask your company for salary transparency.<br />
Read the book Women don’t ask.<br />
If you are a role model, speak up.<br />
Learn about your rights.<br />
Ask for more.<br />
Have a bottom, middle, and high number in mind while you’re<br />
interviewing, so you’re not caught off-guard when an employer asks<br />
about your salary history or what you’re hoping to make.<br />
The easiest places for initial research: glassdoor.com and salary.com.<br />
You can also connect with people who’ve been in the position before<br />
and are now more senior. Ask them: “Given what you know about what I<br />
do, what is the range I should be looking at?”<br />
Bottom Number<br />
Calculate your cost of living<br />
and know what you absolutely need to<br />
be making.<br />
What is that number?<br />
Middle Number<br />
What is the reasonable going rate for<br />
asimilar position in your geographical<br />
location.<br />
What do you expect?<br />
Kim says about 90 percent of job offers<br />
are at this rate.<br />
High Number<br />
What would you be thrilled with?<br />
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Say thank you but don’t accept immediately.<br />
Give yourself a day or two to form a strategy for how you’re going to<br />
handle the negotiation.<br />
Here’s a sample script that Linda Babcock, author of How Can I Make<br />
More Money, suggests:<br />
“This is a really exciting opportunity. I want some time to think about it,<br />
and can we discuss the specifics of the offer in a couple of days once<br />
I've had some time to reflect upon it?”<br />
Negotiating is a two-way street.<br />
You may be thinking, ‘I’m so lucky to have this job!’ Remember, this job<br />
is lucky to have you too.<br />
Source: Lilyline. Washington Post.<br />
As a manager.<br />
As a manager, make negotiating a norm.<br />
Review compensation to ensure that you are paying women and men<br />
fairly and communicate to all members in your organization—especially<br />
women—that it’s important for them to negotiate for themselves.<br />
Research shows that women will negotiate at comparable rates to men<br />
when given explicit permission to do so.<br />
Evaluate performance fairly.<br />
Male performance is often overestimated compared to female performance,<br />
starting with mothers overestimating boys’ crawling ability and underestimating<br />
girls’. This bias is even more pronounced when review criteria are unclear,<br />
making individuals more likely to rely on gut feelings and personal inferences.<br />
Over time, even small deviations in performance evaluation have a significant<br />
impact on women’s careers. This difference in the perceived performance of<br />
men and women also helps explain why women are hired and promoted based<br />
on what they have already accomplished, while men are hired and promoted<br />
based on their potential.<br />
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Look for opportunities for gender-blind evaluations in hiring.<br />
When evaluating performance, make sure managers are aware of gender<br />
bias.<br />
Be specific about what constitutes excellent performance, and make<br />
sure goals are set in advance, understood, and measurable.<br />
Ask managers to explain the reasons for their evaluations — and do the<br />
same for yourself.<br />
When people are accountable for their decisions, they are more<br />
motivated to think through them carefully.<br />
Source: Lean in. Tips for Managers.<br />
As a company<br />
Introduce equal paternity and maternity leave.<br />
Release your salary data. Be transparent.<br />
Work on your unconscious bias.<br />
Facilitate flexible working hours for all.<br />
Actively reintegrate mothers and fathers when they finish leave.<br />
As a parent<br />
Encourage your children to study non-stereotypical careers.<br />
Encourage your children to negotiate their salary and to believe in their<br />
worth.<br />
Ensure that men and boys in your household are actually doing 50% of<br />
the unpaid care work.<br />
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As a citizen<br />
Urge your elected officials to act on Equal Pay Day.<br />
Host an “unequal” bake sale or (un)happy hour where men pay full price<br />
while women get a 21% discount (since the gender pay gap is 21%).<br />
Launch an equal pay media blitz. Write and submit letters to the editor<br />
and op-eds to a variety of publications in your community to gain broad<br />
coverage on Equal Pay Day.<br />
Bring salary negotiation workshops to your community/campus.<br />
Influence employers and governments. There are more ways to make<br />
your voice heard than ever before—letters to your legislators and local<br />
papers, blogs, and tweets are just a few examples..<br />
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Equal pay<br />
for<br />
Equal Work<br />
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Chapter 12 – Science and Technology<br />
311
<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
BROGRAMMERS<br />
ARE SHAPING<br />
<strong>THE</strong> FUTURE<br />
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Women comprise half the workforce but less than<br />
25% of STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and<br />
Math) jobs.<br />
55%<br />
of Twitter and Facebook users<br />
in the US are women but only<br />
5%<br />
of US tech startups are<br />
owned by women.<br />
Less than<br />
7%<br />
of tech positions<br />
in Europe are<br />
filled by women.<br />
Source: The Guardian<br />
Worldwide, women are a<br />
minority within<br />
tech leadership<br />
18%<br />
in North America<br />
13%<br />
in South America<br />
11%<br />
in Asia<br />
Silicon Valley is still a man’s world.<br />
The tech industry has a reputation for being a<br />
boys’ club, and recent diversity reports from<br />
several companies illustrate how men<br />
dominate their global workforces.<br />
In Apple, Facebook, Google, Twitter, or Yahoo,<br />
male employees represent 70% of the<br />
workforce.<br />
Just have a look at the line at the male restrooms (for once) at developers’<br />
conferences!<br />
Even the Nobel Prizes have been<br />
awarded to 825 men and 49<br />
women so far.
Throughout history, female scientists whose work should have been<br />
recognized by the Nobel Prize committee have been denied that honor<br />
because their work was stolen by their male co-researchers.<br />
The denial of female scientists contributions in research is called the Matilda<br />
effect after the suffragist and abolitionist Matilda Josyn Gage who wrote Woman<br />
As Inventor.<br />
For example, male scientists more often cite the publications of male authors<br />
than of female authors.<br />
The gender gap in computing is getting worse and has severe implications<br />
for the economy and the next generation of women.<br />
Why?<br />
REASON #1:<br />
EARLY AGE GENDER<br />
STEREROTYPES<br />
A study by Verizon found that by age 6 girls are less likely than boys to<br />
think that they can be brilliant.<br />
Decades before they choose a career, girls think being “really, really smart” is for<br />
boys. From an early age, the gender stereotype of boys being better at science<br />
and maths discourages girls from studying STEM subjects.<br />
According to the OECD, despite similar performances in the OECD’s science<br />
test, more boys consider a STEM career than girls.<br />
In the US, 66% of 4th grade girls reported they like science and math, but only<br />
18% of college engineering majors are female. Only 14% of teenage girls want to<br />
become a scientist.<br />
Source: Verizon. Inspire Her Mind.<br />
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REASON #2:<br />
LACK OF TALENT<br />
In the EU, only 11% of STEM graduates are women.<br />
Although women receive 36% of STEM Ph.D.s, they make up 18% of full<br />
professors in science and engineering.<br />
This means that employers have a gender biased talent pool to recruit from.<br />
And the numbers are dropping!<br />
REASON #3:<br />
UNCONCIOUS BIAS<br />
We receive 11 million bits of information every moment.<br />
We can only conciously process 40 bits.<br />
Unconsciously, we tend to like people who look like<br />
us, think like us, and come from similar backgrounds.<br />
YOU<br />
are biased<br />
So am I<br />
Beliefs and values gained from family, culture, and a<br />
lifetime of experiences heavily influence how we view<br />
and evaluate others.<br />
It matters<br />
These thought patterns, assumptions, and interpretations – or biases – that we<br />
have built up over time help us to process information quickly and efficiently.<br />
Source: Unconscious Bias @ Work | Google Ventures<br />
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The Implicit Association Test (IAT) helps to detect our automatic<br />
associations.<br />
The following study was conducted at Yale.<br />
About 75% of people who have taken<br />
the IAT online complete the test faster<br />
when white faces are shown<br />
alongside pleasant words, when male<br />
words are shown alongside pleasant<br />
words, when male words are shown<br />
alongside career terms, and when<br />
women are sorted with liberal arts<br />
studies, not science and tech.<br />
All of the professors received the same one-page summary.<br />
Half of the fictitious applicants were named John, and the other half were<br />
named Jennifer.<br />
On a scale of 1 to 7, with 7 being highest, professors gave John an average<br />
score of 4.0 for competence and Jennifer 3.3.<br />
John was also seen more favorably as someone they might hire for their<br />
laboratory or be willing to mentor.<br />
Female professors were just as biased against women students as their male<br />
colleagues.<br />
Hiring managers tend to recruit those who are culturally similar to them. When<br />
this is applied to the tech world, it’s easy to see how a group of male friends will<br />
recruit other males when expanding a startup.<br />
And the recent scandal at Google shows that, despite investing in training on<br />
unconscious bias to improve the company culture, many still believe “women are<br />
biologically inferior in terms of technical skills.”<br />
The study "Elephant in the Valley" gives great insight on the reality of<br />
unconscious bias in Silicon Valley.<br />
It is difficult for women in tech to strike the right balance without being seen<br />
as too meek or too harsh.<br />
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47% have been asked to do lower-level tasks that male colleagues are not<br />
asked to do (e.g., note-taking, ordering food, etc.).<br />
84% have been told they are too aggressive (with half hearing that on multiple<br />
occasions).<br />
66% felt excluded from key social/networking opportunities because of<br />
gender.<br />
90% witnessed sexist behavior at company offsites and/or industry<br />
conferences.<br />
88% have experienced clients/colleagues address questions to male peers<br />
that should have been addressed to them.<br />
75% were asked about family life, marital status and children in interviews.<br />
According to Women Who Code these are the major career hurdles<br />
for female professionals in the tech world.<br />
Lack of opportunities for advancement<br />
Lack of female role models<br />
Lack of mentorship at work<br />
Lack of work-life balance<br />
Pay gap compared to male colleagues<br />
Lack of training resources<br />
Lack of networking opportunities<br />
Hostile macho culture<br />
Sexual harassment at work<br />
TECHNOLOGY IS A POWERFUL<br />
TOOL FOR CHANGING <strong>THE</strong><br />
<strong>WORLD</strong>, ONE THAT IS<br />
POTENTIALLY EQUALLY<br />
AVAILABLE TO PEOPLE OF<br />
ANY GENDER, ETHNICITY OR<br />
BACKGROUND.<br />
— Alaina Percival,<br />
CEO and Board Chair of Women Who Code<br />
REASON #4:<br />
IN-GROUP FAVORITISM CAN<br />
BE EXTREMELY HOSTILE<br />
60% of women in tech reported unwanted sexual advances.<br />
65% of women who report unwanted sexual advances had received advances<br />
from a superior, with half receiving advances more than once.<br />
1 in 3 have felt afraid of their personal safety because of work related<br />
circumstances.<br />
39% of those harassed did nothing because they thought it would negatively<br />
impact their career.<br />
60% who reported sexual harassment were dissatisfied with the course of<br />
action.<br />
Source: Elephant in the Valley<br />
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According to "The Athena Factor" by the Harvard Business Review, 41% of<br />
women in tech leave the industry, compared with 17% of men.<br />
The widespread sexism<br />
and sexual harassment<br />
is pointed out for the<br />
first time.<br />
Why is this a serious issue?<br />
Because of the loss of tremendous opportunities!<br />
By 2020, there will be 1.4 million jobs available in computing-related fields. US<br />
graduates are on track to fill 29% of those jobs. Women are on track to fill just<br />
3%.<br />
<strong>THE</strong> FUTURE IS IN CODE AND I WANT<br />
WOMEN TO WRITE IT.<br />
— Kathryn Parsons, Cofounder of Decoded<br />
Coding is still the most important skill of the future.<br />
80% of jobs in the next decade will require technological skills.<br />
Also because the lack of female perspective in science can have dramatic<br />
consequences.<br />
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Once again, in medical trials, male experience is perceived as universal.<br />
Women’s lives are being put at risk because drug companies don’t include<br />
them in drugs trials. So potential side effects are not exposed until drugs hit<br />
the shelves and it might be too late.<br />
It is urgent to include more women in science to bring their own perspective!<br />
Example 1:<br />
Heart attack symptoms<br />
differ in men and women.<br />
Example 2:<br />
Freezing in the office?<br />
It's because air conditioning<br />
standards are sexist.<br />
We’ve all seen the movie scenes where a<br />
man gasps, clutches his chest, and falls to<br />
the ground. In reality, a heart attack victim<br />
could easily be a woman, and the scene<br />
may not be that dramatic.<br />
“Although men and women can<br />
experience chest pressure that feels like<br />
an elephant sitting across the chest,<br />
women can experience a heart attack<br />
without chest pressure,” said Nieca<br />
Goldberg, M.D., Medical Director for the<br />
Joan H. Tisch Center for Women's Health<br />
at NYU’s Langone Medical Center and an<br />
American Heart Association volunteer.<br />
“Instead they may experience shortness of<br />
breath, pressure or pain in the lower chest<br />
or upper abdomen, dizziness, lightheadedness<br />
or fainting, upper back pressure or<br />
extreme fatigue.”<br />
Even when the signs are subtle, the<br />
consequences can be deadly, especially if<br />
the victim doesn’t get help right away. But<br />
we only know male heart attack<br />
symptoms.<br />
When researchers tested young women<br />
performing light office work while<br />
dressed in a t-shirt and tracksuit<br />
bottoms, they discovered that their<br />
optimum temperature was 75F (24.5C).<br />
Men, in contrast, were happiest at 71F<br />
(22C).<br />
Current air conditioning standards are<br />
derived from research conducted in the<br />
1960s which was based on the resting<br />
metabolic rate of 154-lb, 40-year-old<br />
man.<br />
Men typically have more heat-generating<br />
muscle than women, so they feel comfortable<br />
at cooler temperatures. Metabolic<br />
rate also decreases with age, which<br />
means that an older workforce is likely to<br />
need higher office temperatures.<br />
The office A/C may be biased toward<br />
temperatures that are more comfortable<br />
for men.<br />
Source: Telegraph<br />
Source: American Heart Association<br />
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Artificial Intelligence will shape our future.<br />
A McKinsey & Company study found that 30% of tasks in 60% of occupations<br />
could be computerized. Last year, the Bank of England’s chief economist said<br />
that 80 million US and 15 million UK jobs might be taken over by robots.<br />
Machines learn prejudice in language. And they are as sexist and racist as the<br />
people programming them.<br />
So technologies may perpetuate and even spread cultural stereotypes to<br />
a massive scale if we don’t intervene now.<br />
WE’VE HEARD A LOT<br />
ABOUT <strong>THE</strong> INTERNET<br />
OF THINGS – I THINK<br />
WE NEED AN<br />
INTERNET<br />
OF WOMEN.<br />
— Christine Lagarde, IMF Managing Director<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Specific Communities Data Mining Toolkit Tech 4 Good<br />
Anita Borg Institute connects, inspires,<br />
and guides women in computing and<br />
organizations.<br />
The Institute views technology innovation<br />
as a strategic imperative. They believe<br />
technology innovation powers the global<br />
economy and that women are crucial to<br />
building technology the world needs.<br />
You can’t improve what you can’t measure.<br />
Transparency is the first step in changing the<br />
situation. The project Open Diversity Data allows<br />
you to ask companies to publish their diversity data.<br />
Many companies implement training to<br />
challenge unconscious bias.<br />
Google has been running a Busting Bias workshop across its departments.<br />
You can download the toolkit online.<br />
Different apps have appeared to better spot unconscious bias.<br />
Textio uses data and machine learning to scan job postings and flag phrases<br />
that are likely to repel women.<br />
GapJumpers hides resumes and other identifying information, including gender,<br />
until job applicants perform a test devised to assess their skills.<br />
Blendoor lets job candidates and recruiters check each other out: Candidates<br />
can see how a company rates on diversity; recruiters can see a person’s skills,<br />
education, and work history, but not his or her race, age, and gender.<br />
Interviewing.io offers a free platform that lets engineers do mock technical<br />
interviews, giving women (and anyone else who might feel out of place) a chance<br />
to practice. It also has software that companies can use to mask applicants’
Toolkit Tech 4 Good New Skill<br />
voices during actual interviews.<br />
Paradigm is a data-driven company that draws on behavioral science research<br />
to design effective diversity and inclusion strategies.<br />
Unbias.io is a Google Chrome extension that removes faces and names from<br />
LinkedIn profiles to reduce the effects of unconscious bias in recruiting.<br />
Unitive is a hiring platform that helps companies create job postings and<br />
structure job interviews to focus on skills instead of stereotypes.<br />
Project Include has been founded by Ellen Pao, and its mission is to give<br />
everyone a fair chance to succeed in tech. They are a nonprofit that uses data<br />
and advocacy to accelerate diversity and inclusion solutions in the tech industry.<br />
Their website offers an exhaustive list of advice and tips for companies willing to<br />
take inclusion seriously.<br />
Many organizations teach girls how to code.<br />
Code to Inspire strengthens, inspires, and<br />
empowers women in Afghanistan through<br />
technology education.<br />
Girl Develop It is a nonprofit organization<br />
that provides affordable opportunities for<br />
women interested in learning web and<br />
software development.<br />
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Tech 4 Good Specific Communities New Heroes<br />
Dot is an animated children's television series challenging traditional<br />
stereotypes.<br />
Young, tech-savvy Dot is well-versed in<br />
technology and has a strong curiosity and thirst<br />
for knowledge. She uses electronic devices to<br />
help her learn, create, and explore. Dot gets her<br />
passion for technology from her techie mother,<br />
who develops apps. Dot's father loves<br />
woodworking and prefers not to betethered to electronics. The animated series<br />
is based on achildren's book written by technology advocate Randi Zuckerberg,<br />
who calls the titular character "relatable," and says she is, "that friend we all have<br />
who is energetic, adventurous and imaginative."<br />
Stemettes is an award-winning social<br />
enterprise working across the UK &<br />
Ireland and beyond to inspire and support<br />
young women to pursue STEM (Science,<br />
Technology, Engineering, and Math).<br />
In New York, 1000 Girls, 1000 Futures is a<br />
groundbreaking initiative designed to<br />
engage young women interested in<br />
science, technology, engineering, and<br />
math, and advance their pursuit of STEM<br />
careers through mentoring and<br />
21st-century skills development.<br />
TechWomen empowers, connects, and supports the next generation of women<br />
leaders in STEM from Africa, Central and South Asia, and the Middle East by<br />
providing them the access and opportunity needed to advance their careers,<br />
pursue their dreams, and inspire women and girls in their communities.<br />
In Australia, Robogals is a student-run organization that inspires and empowers<br />
young women to consider studying engineering and related fields.<br />
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New Heroes<br />
WE NEED TO PORTRAY NEW ROLE MODELS<br />
Women in tech careers yearn for female<br />
role models and flexibility in the workplace.<br />
Did you know that the first programmer was<br />
actually a woman?<br />
PROGRAMMING<br />
BEFORE IT WAS COOL<br />
Source: Pluralsight. Women Who Code.<br />
Ada Lovelace was an English mathematician who was the first to recognise that<br />
computers had applications beyond pure calculations. As a result, she is<br />
regarded as the first computer programmer.<br />
It is time to celebrate women scientists and inventors.<br />
When girls are shown what engineers do, 76% of them become interested in<br />
engineering.<br />
Grace Hopper was a computer scientist and US Navy Admiral. She was the first<br />
to use the term “debugging” for fixing computer problems. Hopper developed<br />
the first working compiler and developed COBOL, a programming language still<br />
in use today.<br />
The movie Hidden Figures tells the story of African-American female<br />
mathematicians who worked at the National Aeronautics and Space<br />
Administration (NASA) during the Space Race.<br />
Rana El-Kaliouby (born 1978) is an Egyptian-born American computer scientist<br />
and entrepreneur. She focuses on facial expression recognition research, which
New Heroes<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
is a subset of facial recognition designed to identify the emotion being<br />
expressed by the face.<br />
The blog Women Are Boring is filled with thought-provoking research done by<br />
women, in every field from arts and politics, to science and technology.<br />
Elise Andrew is a British blogger and science communicator, founder of<br />
I Fucking Love Science (IFLS), a website and Facebook page on popular<br />
science.<br />
We need to learn from the Middle East…<br />
Where 30-70% of the enrollees in computer science programs are women.<br />
And 35% of tech entrepreneurs are women, a surprising statistic, considering<br />
the global norm of 10%.<br />
Microsoft introduced a campaign themed<br />
Make What's Next to coincide with<br />
International Women's Day, part of an<br />
effort to encourage girls to enter tech<br />
fields.<br />
Launched in 2013, She Started It is a<br />
feature-length documentary film on<br />
women tech entrepreneurs that highlights<br />
successful role models for young women.<br />
The film is shot on locations all over the world,<br />
from Silicon Valley and New York to Europe<br />
and Vietnam. It is the first film to show the<br />
behind-the-scenes of running a tech startup<br />
as a young woman.<br />
Dream, Girl is a documentary showcasing<br />
the stories of inspiring and ambitious<br />
female entrepreneurs.<br />
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Visualize<br />
Specific Communities<br />
With technical women more visible, girls can picture themselves as future<br />
techies.<br />
We need to witness new examples, like when Mark Zuckerberg took weeks<br />
of paternity leave.<br />
In France, Challenges published a photo series of startup founders to illustrate<br />
France's new tech generation. Every startup featured was all-male. Female<br />
startup founders were so upset that they gathered top women in the French tech<br />
world to take the same photo series and invited the media to portray a more<br />
balanced view of reality.<br />
New spaces are appearing, such as the first coworking space for female-founded<br />
startups in Sydney or an all-women hackerspace in San Francisco.<br />
More and more women’s tech events and communities exist.<br />
We need to promote the women in tech<br />
around us.<br />
Even the smallest signs matter.<br />
More than 90% of the world’s online<br />
population uses emojis. While there’s a<br />
huge range of emojis, there aren’t many<br />
that highlight the diversity of women’s<br />
careers, or that empower young girls.<br />
But new professional emojis have just<br />
been added in both male and female<br />
options, and with a range of skin tones.<br />
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And we can imagine a feminist internet which:<br />
develops more open source tools and platforms.<br />
amplifies alternative and diverse narratives of women’s lived realities.<br />
regulates surveillance practices.<br />
secures a safe, healthy, and informative internet for children and young<br />
people.<br />
is completely free from online or tech-related violence.<br />
<strong>THE</strong> FUTURE OF TECH IS<br />
NOT A PRODUCT, IT’S PEOPLE<br />
Source: Anita Borg Institute.<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Become an ally.<br />
Hack your own unconscious bias.<br />
Hold yourself accountable:<br />
– Question your first impressions.<br />
– Justify your decisions.<br />
– Ask for feedback.<br />
Faced with sexist behaviour, point it out:<br />
– Share why it matters to you.<br />
– Ask the speaker to take another perspective.<br />
Hold others accountable:<br />
– Call out bias.<br />
– Make others justify decisions.<br />
– Make decisions collectively.<br />
Learn to code.<br />
Speak up.<br />
Suggest women or members of underrepresented groups to be<br />
speakers or panelists at events you attend.<br />
Set up your own website or blog.<br />
Join or donate to feminist hackerspaces.<br />
Nominate impressive women in tech around you.<br />
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Ask your employer to review their hiring process and HR practices.<br />
Ask your employer to run unconscious bias training and only to sponsor<br />
events with anti-harassment policies.<br />
Start your own company or activist group making a change for women in<br />
technology.<br />
Watch movies and read books about female scientists or inventors.<br />
Buy science/construction toys for your daughter.<br />
Introduce your daughter to female professionals in the tech field and show<br />
her their daily jobs.<br />
Bring your daughter to a makers fair.<br />
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Chapter 13 – Sex<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
SEX IS TABOO<br />
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Sex is taboo. As a consequence, we don’t know anything about it.<br />
In France, according to Haut Conseil à l'Egalité,<br />
1 out 4 teenage girls does not know she has a clitoris.<br />
Very few countries provide positive or neutral sex<br />
education, if they provide any sex education at all.<br />
In the US, only 22 states require that public schools<br />
teach sex education but it does not need to be medically accurate or it must<br />
include information on abstinence but not on contraception.<br />
And the consequences are clear in terms of the rate of teen pregnancy and<br />
sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs).<br />
IGNORANCE LEADS TO LINGERING MYTHS<br />
Religions around the world have convinced women that their body is dirty<br />
and that they should be ashamed of it.<br />
The majority of women still use euphemisms to describe their menstrual cycle.<br />
The Swedish may say, “Lingonveckan,” which means “lingonberry week” and<br />
the German say “Erdbeerwoche,” which means “strawberry week.” Some<br />
French even say, “Les Anglais ont débarqué,” which means “the English have<br />
landed.”<br />
A few myths about periods.<br />
In Afghanistan, it is believed that showering during your period will cause<br />
infertility.<br />
In rural parts of Nepal, girls are literally isolated during their periods and<br />
cannot participate in class.<br />
In Japan, women can’t prepare sushi while menstruating because they have<br />
an “imbalance in taste.”<br />
Men will become sick if touched by an “unclean” woman in India or Nepal.<br />
Women menstruating cannot enter holy temples in Indonesia.<br />
Women can’t touch a pickle in India or the pickle will rot.<br />
And many, many more…<br />
Source: 8 myths about periods. Meghan Werft. Al Jazeera.
And massive global consequences.<br />
UNESCO estimates that 1 in 10 African girls, for example, misses at least one<br />
day of school a month, leading to a higher drop-out rate.<br />
A survey in India found nearly 25% of girls drop out of school permanently<br />
when they reach puberty because they have no toilet at school.<br />
AND <strong>THE</strong> MYTHS ARE NOT ONLY ABOUT PERIODS<br />
MYTH #1:<br />
MEN’S SEXUAL<br />
ENERGY IS SO<br />
STRONG THAT IT<br />
CANNOT BE<br />
RESTRAINED<br />
Men are sexual.<br />
They have a strong irrepressible drive.<br />
They are obsessed with sex.<br />
They think about it all the time.<br />
They are always up for it.<br />
And this desire cannot be restrained.<br />
That is why women have to behave.<br />
MYTH #2:<br />
WOMEN HAVE A<br />
LOWER SEXUAL<br />
DRIVE THAN<br />
MEN<br />
MYTH #3:<br />
A SEXUALLY FREE<br />
WOMAN IS A<br />
DANGER TO<br />
SOCIETY<br />
A woman is portrayed as either a saint or a whore.<br />
Coming from a fear-driven desire of men to control female<br />
sexuality and reproduction.<br />
In primitive societies, men regarded women with the same<br />
dread they felt toward the natural world. The core of the natural<br />
world was the female womb, from which newborn human life<br />
emerged in a gush of blood.<br />
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One expression of this fear has been the centuries of witch-hunting, a<br />
man-made tool for women’s oppression.<br />
Women who seemed most independent from patriarchal norms – especially<br />
elderly women living outside the parameters of the patriarchal family – were<br />
most vulnerable to accusations of witchcraft.<br />
Between 1400 and 1775, 100,000 people were prosecuted for witchcraft, and<br />
at least 50,000 were sentenced to death.<br />
75-80% of those accused and convicted of witchcraft in early modern Europe<br />
were female.<br />
Steven Katz, author of the Holocaust in Historical Context, shows how<br />
women have been targeted in a manner similar to Jews: The witch hunts can<br />
be viewed as a case of "genderized mass murder.”<br />
<strong>THE</strong> ANXIETY<br />
IS PART OF<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MASCULINE<br />
STRUCTURE.<br />
FEMALE<br />
PLEASURE, 100%<br />
SUPERIOR TO<br />
MALE ONE,<br />
OVERWHELMS<br />
HIM COMPLETELY.<br />
— Michel Cazenave<br />
The vast literature about witch hunting is filled with nightmares of<br />
castration and lost virility.<br />
The trauma of this genocide of free women and of wise old women is still part of<br />
our collective memories. So we know, deep down, that being free with our body<br />
and our sexuality comes at a terrible price.<br />
WE ARE <strong>THE</strong> GRAND DAUGHTERS<br />
OF <strong>THE</strong> WITCHES YOU COULD NOT BURN<br />
Today, we do not burn women anymore, but we shame them if they behave<br />
“like sluts.” 337
Women are constantly shamed about their sexuality.<br />
<strong>THE</strong><br />
PERSONAL<br />
IS<br />
POLITICAL<br />
DOES MY SEXYNESS<br />
UPSET YOU?<br />
DOES IT COME<br />
AS A SURPRISE<br />
THAT I DANCE<br />
LIKE I’VE GOT<br />
DIAMONDS AT<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MEETING OF<br />
MY THIGHS?<br />
— Maya Angelou<br />
LET’S BUST THOSE MYTHS<br />
Boys feel pressured to have sexual activity or to pretend to have sexual<br />
activity to belong.<br />
Men do not think about sex every seven seconds, study claims:<br />
"Many, many men – about one in five – have such low sexual desire they’d rather<br />
do almost anything else than have sex."<br />
“In fact, almost 30% of women say they have more interest in sex than their<br />
partner has."<br />
Women also have strong sexual desire.<br />
When it comes to the craving for sexual variety, research by<br />
Bergner suggests that women may be "even less well-suited<br />
for monogamy than men."<br />
Sex is the way in which intimacy can be experienced.<br />
A recent article by psychologist Steven Bearman argues that men’s addiction<br />
to sex is the result of the lack of affection and intimacy with other men (and<br />
perhaps women) in their lives.<br />
For Bearman, sex addiction and pornography addiction are the ways in which<br />
men try to find closeness with others.<br />
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Nature wants all of us enrolled in reproducing the species.<br />
Women can become disinterested in sex as a result of childhood abuse, rape,<br />
social conditioning, unaddressed relationship issues, unskilled lovemaking or<br />
demands of juggling children and work, but these all represent deviations from<br />
her inherent nature.<br />
Women are socialized to channel their erotic yearnings into romantic fantasy<br />
rather than genital imagery, but when freed of sex-negative conditioning and<br />
social judgments, women desire erotic connection.<br />
When women are initiated into the pleasures of sex with a lover who is sensitive,<br />
considerate, skilled, and receptive to guidance, their sexual potential is<br />
awakened, and their interest in sex equals or exceeds the interest of most<br />
men.<br />
BUT <strong>THE</strong>SE MYTHS AND STEREOTYPES STILL<br />
CONDITION OUR SEXUAL LIVES<br />
This belief in irrepressible male desire has dramatic consequences on the<br />
lives of millions of young boys and girls.<br />
It legitimizes unfaithfulness, prostitution, porn, and even assault as a lesser evil.<br />
At this moment, there are 40 million prostitutes at work.<br />
Three quarters of them are between the ages of 13 and 25 and 80% of them are<br />
female.<br />
Female Prostitutes<br />
80%<br />
Male<br />
Studies reveal 1 in 10 men in the world have purchased a prostitute.<br />
This demand spurs<br />
the $58 billion sex trafficking<br />
industry.<br />
Sex trafficking is the fastest<br />
growing criminal industry in the<br />
world.<br />
Source: findingjustice.org/prostitution-statistics<br />
Sex Trafficking<br />
$58 Billion<br />
Cocaine<br />
$70 Billion<br />
Illegal Arms Trade<br />
$10 Billion<br />
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Child sexual abuse is far more prevalent than we realize.<br />
One in 10 children will be sexually abused before age 18.<br />
25% of girls and 15% of boys in the US, EU, and Canada will experience sexual<br />
abuse.<br />
60% of these girls and boys do not receive any type of help.<br />
Source: Vicky Bernadet Foundation, Spain (fbernadet.org)<br />
Men still have control over women’s bodies.<br />
Remember Donald Trump cutting abortion funding surrounded by men.<br />
And especially since most of our<br />
sex education is now done through<br />
porn.<br />
Including condoning genital<br />
mutilation.<br />
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A study of 50 of the most popular pornographic videos found that 88% of<br />
scenes included physical aggression and 48% of scenes included verbal<br />
aggression.<br />
The researchers observed a total of 3,376 aggressive acts, including gagging<br />
in 54% of scenes, choking in 27% of scenes, and spanking in 75% of scenes.<br />
They also found that the aggression was overwhelmingly – in 94% of incidents<br />
– directed towards women.<br />
Not only that; in almost every instance, women were portrayed as though they<br />
either didn’t mind or liked the aggression.<br />
Source: Porn as sex education: a cultural influence we can no longer ignore. Maree Crabbe. The Guardian.<br />
Women’s bodies are available and violable.<br />
It doesn’t take a great awareness of cultural theory to grasp the social meaning<br />
of images of women being repeatedly penetrated in every orifice to a chorus of<br />
“slut,” “bitch,” and “whore.”<br />
Porn makes inequality sexually arousing.<br />
The website Fight the new drug explains how pornography affects the<br />
brain, the heart, and the world.<br />
After being exposed to pornography, men reported being less satisfied with their<br />
partners’ physical appearance, sexual performance, and level of affection, and<br />
they expressed greater desire for sex without emotional involvement.<br />
Among the effects of the use of pornography are an increased negative attitude<br />
toward women, decreased empathy for victims of sexual violence, and an<br />
increase in dominating and sexually imposing behavior.<br />
A meta-analysis of 33 studies found that exposure to either nonviolent or violent<br />
porn increased behavioral aggression, including both violent fantasies and actual<br />
violent assaults.<br />
Source: Fight the New Drug<br />
*Fight the New Drug is a non-religious, non-political organization that exists to provide individuals the opportunity<br />
to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only<br />
science, facts, and personal accounts.<br />
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Some feminist movements are openly anti-porn and consider it cultural<br />
violence more than sexual fantasy.<br />
In her essay, Anti-Porn: The Resurgence of Anti-Pornographic Feminism,<br />
Julia Long explains how anti-porn feminism is back.<br />
Proving that porn desensitizes and actually limits our sexual freedom, Dines<br />
argues its omnipresence is a public health concern we can no longer ignore in<br />
PornLand: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality.<br />
Especially since most porn only portrays sex and pleasure through the<br />
male gaze.<br />
The main goal of porn is to feature a male’s ejaculation, their partners pleasure<br />
is secondary.<br />
This leads to less satisfactory sexual experiences for women.<br />
Source: Telegraph<br />
TALKING ABOUT <strong>THE</strong> ORGASM GAP<br />
90%<br />
of men achieve orgasms<br />
during sex, while only<br />
65%<br />
of women do.<br />
The gap between men’s and women’s frequency of orgasm is impacted by<br />
social forces that privilege male pleasure.<br />
Paula England, a sociology professor at Stanford University said, “The orgasm<br />
gap is an inequity that’s as serious as the pay gap, and it’s producing a rampant<br />
culture of sexual asymmetry.”<br />
In same-sex encounters, the orgasm gap disappears!<br />
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For three years, author Peggy Orenstein<br />
interviewed girls aged 15 to 20 about their attitudes<br />
toward and experiences with sex. She discusses<br />
the pleasure that's largely missing from their sexual<br />
encounters and calls on us to close the "orgasm<br />
gap" by talking candidly with our girls from an early<br />
age about sex, bodies, pleasure, and intimacy.<br />
Psychoanalysts have played an important role in that conditioning.<br />
When Sigmund Freud argued that a clitoral orgasm was adolescent and that the<br />
vagina was the fountain of the more “mature” orgasm, that theory definitely<br />
fueled the orgasm gap.<br />
“Stimulation of the clitoris is what gives a woman an orgasm. It’s the center of<br />
orgasmic function,” says Dr. Lloyd. “The clitoris is the homologue of the<br />
penis—they have the same tissue. In embryos, the same organ that turns into<br />
the penis, turns into a clitoris."<br />
Sexual assymetry comes from hook-up culture and lack of communication and<br />
education.<br />
Culturally, we overvalue penetrative sex.<br />
Lesbian vs. straight sex: Lesbian women have significantly more orgasms than<br />
straight women. For men, the orgasm rate doesn’t vary with sexual orientation.<br />
Women alone vs. with a partner: Women have more orgasms when they<br />
masturbate than when they are with a partner. In a study with 800 college<br />
women, 39% of women said they always orgasm during masturbation, while 6%<br />
said they always orgasm during sex with a partner.<br />
Roughly 75% of women can never reach orgasm from penetrative sex<br />
alone.<br />
Media shows us images of women having mind-blowing orgasms from<br />
intercourse alone.<br />
Evidence can also be found in the language.<br />
We use the words sex and intercourse synonymously, and we relegate clitoral<br />
stimulation to “foreplay.”<br />
We commonly mislabel women’s genitals by the one part (the vagina) that
gives men, but not women, reliable orgasms.<br />
We have countless nicknames for the penis, but few for the clitoris.<br />
Sex education generally doesn’t focus on pleasure.<br />
We have a double standard that judges women more harshly than men for<br />
casual sex.<br />
Most of us have little training in sexual communication, yet good sexual communication<br />
is key when it comes to female orgasms. Women differ in terms of<br />
what they need to orgasm, and what one woman needs to orgasm can vary<br />
from one encounter to another.<br />
Many women are plagued by body image self-consciousness during sex and<br />
it’s pretty much impossible to have an orgasm while worrying that you look fat<br />
or holding your stomach in.<br />
Finally, reaching orgasm requires a complete immersion in the sensations of<br />
the moment—or mindfulness—and few of us have mastered this skill in our<br />
daily lives, let alone our sex lives.<br />
And women still weigh the<br />
burden of birth control<br />
Is birth control a female responsibility?<br />
“Men typically do not have to dedicate time and energy to contraceptive care, or<br />
pay out of pocket for the usually expensive and sometimes frequent (often<br />
monthly, or at least four times a year) supply of contraceptives…”, says Lisa<br />
Campo-Engelstein from “Science Progress.”<br />
But research has still not found an efficient birth control pill for men.<br />
Attempts by pharmaceutical companies to<br />
develop male-centered contraceptive drugs and<br />
injections have largely been abandoned due to<br />
concerns about side-effects and the belief that<br />
there is no market.<br />
Talking about double standards…<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Visualize<br />
Toolkit<br />
FEMEN is an international women’s movement of brave topless female<br />
activists painted with slogans and crowned with flowers.<br />
Manifesto:<br />
“In the beginning, there was the body, feeling of the woman’s body, feeling of joy<br />
because it is so light and free. Then there was injustice, so sharp that you feel it<br />
with your body, it immobilizes the body, hinders its movements, and then you<br />
find yourself your body’s hostage. And so you turn your body against this<br />
injustice, mobilizing every body’s cell to struggle against the patriarchy and<br />
humiliation.<br />
You tell the world:<br />
Our God is a Woman!<br />
Our Mission is Protest!<br />
Our Weapon are bare breasts!<br />
And so FEMEN is born and sextremism is set off.”<br />
Provocation is powerful.<br />
The PussyHat is a symbol of support and<br />
solidarity for women's rights and political<br />
resistance.<br />
Thousands of women wore pink “pussy hats” the<br />
day after Trump's inauguration.<br />
Many innovative sex education programs flourish around the world.<br />
Open, honest, and sex-positive, the<br />
Love Matters program is the global<br />
leader in delivering information and<br />
media on safe and satisfying sex to<br />
18-30-year-olds in geographic areas<br />
where this information can be taboo.<br />
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New Skill<br />
Even Pornhub has launched a<br />
new sex ed site!<br />
Laci Green is an American YouTube<br />
personality, video blogger, sex<br />
educator, and activist. She has hosted<br />
online sex education content on behalf<br />
of Planned Parenthood and Discovery<br />
News.<br />
In France, “Parlons peu, parlons cul” is a<br />
fun sex education web series<br />
challenging entrenched taboos.<br />
Gynopedia is an open resource wiki for sexual, reproductive and women's<br />
health care across the globe.<br />
In her TED Talk “The laws that sex workers really want,” activist Juno Mac<br />
explains four legal models that are being used around the world to help sex<br />
workers. She discusses the model that she believes will work best to keep sex<br />
workers safe and offer greater self-determination.<br />
In a brave talk called “The price of shame,” Monica Lewinski takes a hard look at<br />
our online culture of humiliation and asks for a different way.<br />
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Reverse Tech 4 Good Gaming<br />
Reversing situations is always powerful.<br />
MAKE LOVE, NOT PORN<br />
The activist Cindy Gallop launched<br />
MakeLoveNotPorn to squash the myths of<br />
hardcore pornography and to begin a dialog<br />
around how real people have sex.<br />
SOME INITIATIVES ALSO WORK TO BREAK <strong>THE</strong><br />
TABOO ON MENSTRUATION<br />
Menstrupedia Comic is a complete<br />
guide on periods designed by Menstrupedia<br />
that is in use by more than 30<br />
schools across India. The books are<br />
being distributed in other countries like<br />
Nepal, South America, and Nigeria.<br />
The Period Game is designed to teach<br />
participants about what is happening<br />
within the female body and how to “go<br />
with the flow.”<br />
It utilizes abstracted representations of the<br />
female reproductive system, PMS symptoms,<br />
and various forms of sanitary protection to<br />
introduce players to these ideas.<br />
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Tech 4 Good<br />
Others are developing products adapted to women’s needs.<br />
THINX launched period-proof underwear that<br />
protects you from leaks and keeps you feeling dry.<br />
And they are famous for their provocative<br />
communication.<br />
Ruby Cup is a healthier, more sustainable,<br />
cost-effective, and eco-friendly alternative<br />
to pads and tampons. Made from 100%<br />
soft medical-grade silicone, the menstrual<br />
cup is safe, comfortable, and hygienic.<br />
GIRLS ARE LIKE SUPERHEROES,<br />
WHO ELSE COULD BLEED FOR FIVE<br />
DAYS AND NOT DIE?<br />
MANY PROJECTS LEVERAGE FEM TECH<br />
Glow is the world's best period and<br />
ovulation tracker and fertility calendar<br />
app.<br />
Eve by Glow is a savvy period tracker and sex app for women who want to<br />
take control of their health and sex lives.<br />
Clue is designed to make tracking your fertility<br />
accurate, fast, and friendly.
Tech 4 Good<br />
New Products<br />
The Boyfriend Log is the first ever app<br />
for tracking the health of any, or<br />
multiple, relationships.<br />
Some apps offer dating for feminists.<br />
Bumble, often described as the feminist dating app, was<br />
created by Whitney Wolfe, a co-founder of Tinder, after she<br />
left the company. What makes it different from other dating<br />
apps? Women do the talking.<br />
And many more: Siren, Vina, Wyldfire, The League, Whim.<br />
Source: Women.com, Ali Segel<br />
AND WOMEN ARE NOW DEVELOPING<br />
<strong>THE</strong>IR OWN SEX TOYS<br />
Dame Products was founded by smart<br />
women to make phenomenal sex toys.<br />
Pulse is an innovative personal lubricant<br />
dispenser that delivers your choice of<br />
water or silicone-based lubricants<br />
pre-warmed and mess free.<br />
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But the most important development is that women are now reclaiming<br />
their own sexuality.<br />
Sex positivity is “an attitude towards human sexuality<br />
that regards all consensual sexual activities as<br />
fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging<br />
sexual pleasure and experimentation.”<br />
IT IS MY OBSERVATION<br />
<strong>THE</strong> MOST INNOVATIVE,<br />
DISRUPTIVE THINGS IN<br />
SEX TECH TODAY<br />
ARE COMING FROM WOMEN.<br />
BECAUSE WE ARE<br />
FINALLY OWNING<br />
OUR SEXUALITY.<br />
AND FINDING REALLY<br />
INNOVATIVE WAYS TO<br />
LEVERAGE IT. AS I LIKE<br />
TO SAY, WOMEN<br />
CHALLENGE <strong>THE</strong> STATUS<br />
QUO BECAUSE <strong>THE</strong>Y<br />
ARE NEVER IT.<br />
— Cindy Gallop<br />
Reclaiming the act of loving your partner and making babies as positive<br />
and natural.<br />
Sex-Negative<br />
Sex is bad,<br />
dirty, wrong,<br />
and sinful.<br />
Sex-Positive<br />
Sex is good,<br />
healthy, and<br />
natural.<br />
The Future of Sex Podcast hosted by<br />
Bryony Cole explores the evolving<br />
worlds of sex and tech.<br />
SEX-POSITIVE<br />
FEMINISM EMBRACES<br />
<strong>THE</strong> ENTIRE RANGE<br />
OF HUMAN<br />
SEXUALITY AND IS<br />
BASED ON <strong>THE</strong><br />
IDEA THAT<br />
SEXUAL FREEDOM<br />
IS AN ESSENTIAL<br />
COMPONENT OF<br />
WOMEN’S FREEDOM.<br />
— Madison Young<br />
In Paris, you can attend booty therapy<br />
classes to learn how to feel proud of your<br />
own body.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
New Skill<br />
Or join the Skirt Club, an underground<br />
community for girls who play with girls…<br />
Esther Perel is a<br />
Belgian psychotherapist<br />
notable for exploring the<br />
tension between the need<br />
for security and the need for<br />
freedom in human<br />
relationships.<br />
Women are lucky, they get<br />
to have the only organ in the<br />
human body dedicated<br />
exclusively for pleasure: the<br />
clitoris! In this humorous<br />
and instructive animated<br />
documentary, learn more<br />
about this unrecognized<br />
anatomy and its unknown<br />
herstory.<br />
You can learn orgasmic meditation.<br />
Orgasmic Meditation is a practice that combines the power and attention of<br />
meditation with the deeply human, deeply felt, and connected experience of<br />
orgasm.<br />
YOU CAN ALSO DISCOVER FEMINIST PORN<br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
New Skill<br />
Feminist porn requirements according to the Feminist Porn Awards (FPA):<br />
Women involved in the production/conception/direction.<br />
Depicts real female pleasure/orgasms and agency for all performers,<br />
especially women.<br />
More diverse representation of races, genders, sexualities, etc.<br />
Somehow challenges mainstream porn tropes, expands the boundaries of<br />
sexual representation on film.<br />
Source: goodforher.com/feminist_porn_awards<br />
Good For Her, Toronto’s premiere sex<br />
and sexuality shop, launched the Feminist<br />
Porn Awards screening the most<br />
creative, expressive, diverse, and erotic<br />
pornography the industry has to offer.<br />
As porn star and performance artist Annie Sprinkle famously said, “The answer<br />
to bad porn isn’t no porn… it’s to try and make better porn!”<br />
Some websites help us to understand more about women’s pleasure.<br />
OMGYES is a modern hands-on exploration of women’s sexual pleasure based<br />
on new research and using touchscreen simulations so you can try it all yourself.<br />
We finally have the openness and research to take a clear-headed look at the<br />
many nuances of women’s sexual pleasure. The research combines the wisdom<br />
of 2,000 women, ages 18-95, revealing techniques that hadn't even been named<br />
yet.<br />
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Specific Communities<br />
The Pleasure Project offers a global mapping of<br />
people and resources who promote pleasure and<br />
sexy safe sex in the public health world.<br />
New communities explore alternative relationships.<br />
In Portugal, the Tamera community researches and implements new social<br />
structures that support relationships based on solidarity between man and<br />
woman.<br />
It is a political act to liberate ourselves from fear/guilt/shame around love and<br />
sexuality.<br />
According to Tamera, blocked and repressed sexual energy is the root of<br />
violence.<br />
Sexuality is the highest form of energy for humans that we know of. It must no<br />
longer be negated and vilified. It is the most sacred element of life.<br />
Tamera's Terra Nova online course envisions a<br />
radically positive post-capitalist society.<br />
Burning Man is an annual gathering that<br />
takes place at Black Rock City—a<br />
temporary city erected in the Black<br />
Rock Desert in Nevada.<br />
The event is described as an experiment in community and art, influenced by ten<br />
main principles: radical inclusion, self-reliance, self-expression, community<br />
cooperation, civic responsibility, gifting, de-commodification, participation,<br />
immediacy, and leaving no trace.<br />
SO LET’S ENJOY!<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Watch Erika Lust’s TED Talk: “It’s time for porn to change.”<br />
Read “She Comes First” by Ian Kerner.<br />
Watch the Hulu series “The Handmaid’s Tale” or read the book.<br />
The Handmaid's Tale is a 1985 dystopian novel by<br />
Canadian author Margaret Atwood. Set in a near-future New<br />
England, in a totalitarian, Christian theonomy that has overthrown<br />
the United States government, the novel explores<br />
themes of women in subjugation and the various means by<br />
which they gain individualism and independence.<br />
Read about sex positivity.<br />
Discover feminist porn.<br />
Register for a sexually empowering class<br />
(pole dancing, twerking, tantra yoga).<br />
Buy yourself a sex toy.<br />
Go to Burning Man.<br />
Join a women’s march.<br />
Knit a pussy hat with your friends.<br />
Embrace your body!<br />
NEVER FORGET THAT A POLITICAL,<br />
ECONOMICAL OR RELIGIOUS CRISIS<br />
IS ENOUGH TO CAST DOUBT ON WOMEN’S<br />
RIGHTS. <strong>THE</strong>SE RIGHTS WILL NEVER BE<br />
VESTED. YOU HAVE TO STAY VIGILANT<br />
YOUR WHOLE LIFE.<br />
— Simone de Beauvoir<br />
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Chapter 14 – Violence<br />
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<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
ONE IN THREE<br />
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One day I woke up to this…<br />
WTF?<br />
What world are we living in?<br />
Women live in a dangerous world.<br />
Where they avoid certain activities because they fear for their safety.<br />
TAXI<br />
Getting into subway cars with just men<br />
in them.<br />
Things women can’t do.<br />
Eating in public might attract<br />
unwanted attention.<br />
Letting the cab driver drop us off<br />
directly in front of our building.<br />
Get drunk, because you never know if someone might try to assault you when<br />
you’re under the influence.<br />
Leave our drinks at the bar, unattended, because someone might try to drug<br />
them.<br />
Move into certain neighborhoods or live on certain blocks, because the<br />
harassment is too severe.<br />
Meet our creepy landlords, the cable guy, or the electrician by ourselves,<br />
because it makes us feel unsafe.<br />
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Travel solo, because there are certain places where it’s just not safe to be a<br />
woman traveling alone.<br />
Try couch-surfing, because staying at a stranger’s house seems like an<br />
invitation for trouble.<br />
Run alone at night, because we fear attackers.<br />
Talk back to harassers, because you never know if the abusive words will<br />
escalate to violent actions.<br />
Go on a date or buy something on Craigslist without telling a friend exactly<br />
where we’ll be, because we’re aware there’s always the threat of danger.<br />
Walk home at night without holding our keys out, because you never know<br />
when you might need a makeshift weapon.<br />
Wear flimsy clothing when we’re out walking by ourselves, because harassers<br />
see it as an invitation to bother us.<br />
Wear loud or outrageous clothing because that’ll invite comments from<br />
strange men too. Wear anything that will expose our breasts or remind men<br />
that we’re women, because that’s seen as an invitation for leering.<br />
Wear a ponytail, because it will make it easier for an attacker to grab our hair.<br />
Wear high heels, because it’ll make it harder to run faster if we need to.<br />
Engage in small talk with a man, because he may interpret it as an invitation to<br />
come on to us in a lecherous way.<br />
Make eye contact with strangers, because it’s seen as an invitation to<br />
approach us.<br />
Even smiling can be seen as tacit approval to talk or approach us.<br />
Eat food in public — like ice cream cones — that migh t attract unwanted<br />
male attention.<br />
Ride our bikes late at night, because we don’t want to deal with the<br />
harassment.<br />
Stay at a party or a show after our friends have gone home, because we don’t<br />
want to worry about being stranded in a potentially threatening situation.<br />
Get into a subway car with just men in it, because we’re afraid something<br />
might happen. Instead, we scope out subway cars with other women already<br />
in them.<br />
Walk around late at night with headphones on and blasting music, because<br />
we’re afraid attackers might come up behind us.<br />
Answer the door to unexpected visitors, just in case it’s someone who got into<br />
the building randomly who might be planning to attack.<br />
Let the cab driver/our date drop us off directly in front our homes, because we<br />
don’t want random guys to know where we live.<br />
Walk directly home, sometimes, if we’re afraid someone is following us.<br />
Instead, we’ll stop at a neighborhood bar and pretend we’re meeting someone.
Give our last names to strangers or potential dates, because it makes it that<br />
much easier for a stranger to find out where we live, or where we work.<br />
Stay late at work by ourselves, because of the potential of being attacked.<br />
Use an ATM that’s outside or isolated, because we fear being attacked.<br />
Is it OK to live in fear?<br />
Source: Buzzfeed. Julie Gerstein<br />
Every day, anywhere in the world, walking in the street as a female is a<br />
challenge...<br />
Source: Europarl.eu<br />
...with drastic effects in terms of<br />
depression and self-esteem.<br />
Sometimes reaching a massive scale, like in Cologne or in Bangalore in<br />
the recent years.<br />
And most men are unaware of this<br />
constant unconscious pressure.<br />
Yet, it’s pretty simple…<br />
"This is what it feels like" art installation<br />
shows men exactly what it feels like being<br />
cat called.<br />
Image: www.andysinger.com<br />
Homophobia:<br />
The fear that other men treat you<br />
the way you treat women.
Everywhere, women are told what to wear or what not to wear to avoid<br />
violence.<br />
Sometimes men think the dress is too short…or too long.<br />
As a consequence, the female body has to<br />
be hidden because it triggers male desire.<br />
Or results in victim blaming.<br />
Or women being told they<br />
were "asking for it."<br />
Artist: Rosea Posey<br />
Katherine Cambareri's powerful photo series<br />
shows what people were wearing when they<br />
were sexually assaulted.<br />
It has nothing to do with the clothes.<br />
WHEN I'M RAPED,<br />
PEOPLE SAY THAT<br />
I'VE LOST MY HONOUR.<br />
HOW DID I LOSE<br />
MY HONOUR?<br />
MY HONOUR IS NOT<br />
IN MY VAGINA.<br />
IT IS A PATRIARCHAL<br />
IDEA THAT MY RAPE<br />
WILL DEFILE <strong>THE</strong> HONOUR<br />
OF MY COMMUNITY.<br />
I'D LIKE TO TELL<br />
EVERYONE, WHY DID<br />
YOU PLACE YOUR<br />
COMMUNITY'S HONOUR<br />
IN A WOMAN'S VAGINA?<br />
WE NEVER DID THAT.<br />
IT IS <strong>THE</strong> RAPIST<br />
WHO LOSES HIS HONOUR,<br />
WE DON'T.<br />
— Kamla Bhasin<br />
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Dress or behavior does not matter.<br />
Harassmap breaks down the clothing myth:<br />
“According to the Egyptian Center for Women’s<br />
Rights 2008 study, 72 percent of women who<br />
experience sexual harassment wear the hijab<br />
(head covering) or the niqab (full face and body<br />
veil). In 2008, that percentage was about the<br />
same as the percentage of total women<br />
wearing the hijab and niqab in Egyptian society, which indicates that the<br />
average Egyptian woman gets harassed regardless of her clothing and<br />
appearance.”<br />
No matter what they wear, women experience “the longest war.”<br />
In Men Explain Things to Me, Rebecca Solnit hits us with a barrage of acts of<br />
violence committed against women and is outraged about how we all turn a<br />
blind eye to it. She calls this “the longest war.”<br />
A world where one out of three women will be beaten or abused by their<br />
partner is not a happy place.<br />
1 IN 3 WOMEN<br />
worldwide will experience some<br />
form of physical or sexual voiolence<br />
in their lives.<br />
Source: World Health Organization<br />
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603 million women live in countries where domestic violence is not a crime.<br />
Worldwide, more than 700 million<br />
women alive today were married as<br />
children (below 18 years of age). Of<br />
those women, more than 1 in 3 — or<br />
some 250 million – were married<br />
before 15.<br />
At least 200 million women and girls<br />
alive today have undergone female<br />
genital mutilation in<br />
30 countries. In most of these<br />
countries, the majority of girls were<br />
cut before age 5.<br />
Adult women account for almost half<br />
of all human trafficking victims<br />
detected globally. Women and girls<br />
together account for about<br />
70% with girls representing two out of<br />
every three child trafficking victims.<br />
Around 120 million<br />
girls worldwide<br />
(slightly more than 1 in 10)<br />
have experienced forced intercourse<br />
or other forced sexual acts at some<br />
point in their lives.<br />
The most common perpetrators of<br />
sexual violence against girls are<br />
current or former husbands, partners,<br />
or boyfriends.<br />
1 in 10 women in the European Union<br />
report having experienced<br />
cyber-harassment since the age of 15<br />
(including having received unwanted<br />
sexually explicit emails or SMS<br />
messages, or inappropriate advances<br />
on social networking sites).<br />
The risk is highest among young<br />
women between<br />
18 and 29 years of age.<br />
An estimated 246 million<br />
girls and boys experience<br />
school-related violence every year,<br />
and one in four girls say that they<br />
never feel comfortable using school<br />
bathrooms.<br />
Because violence is about power.<br />
Through my staring, my insults,<br />
my threats, my stalking, my beating,<br />
my raping, my killing, I control you.<br />
I have power OVER you.<br />
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And this control takes many shapes.<br />
Financial abuse<br />
Emotional abuse<br />
Online violence<br />
Revenge porn<br />
I make sure you<br />
don’t have funds to<br />
run away and live<br />
your life.<br />
I humiliate you and<br />
destroy your<br />
self-esteem.<br />
You are afraid to<br />
share your<br />
thoughts online.<br />
Your opinion is<br />
not heard.<br />
I own you. If you<br />
want to leave me,<br />
I shame you in<br />
front of<br />
everybody.<br />
Sexual Abuse/Rape<br />
Genital cutting<br />
Physical abuse<br />
I own your body.<br />
I eradicate your<br />
sexual pleasure.<br />
You live in<br />
constant fear.<br />
A global pandemic.<br />
And perpetrators use different tactics.<br />
Source: UN Women<br />
Source: European Agency for Fundamental Rights<br />
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Financial abuse makes it hard for victims to leave.<br />
Economic abuse is a form of abuse when one partner has control over the other<br />
partner's access to economic resources, which diminishes the victim's capacity<br />
to support him/herself and forces him/her to depend on the perpetrator<br />
financially.<br />
It is related to, or also known as, financial abuse, which is the illegal or<br />
unauthorized use of a person’s property, money, pension book or other valuables<br />
(including changing the person's will to name the abuser as heir), often<br />
fraudulently obtaining power of attorney, followed by deprivation of money or<br />
other property, or by eviction from own home.<br />
It can take different shapes.<br />
Forbidding the victim to work.<br />
Sabotaging work or employment opportunities by stalking or harassing the<br />
victim at the workplace, or causing the victim to lose her job by physically<br />
battering her prior to important meetings or interviews.<br />
Controlling how all of the money is spent.<br />
Not allowing the victim access to bank accounts.<br />
Withholding money or giving “an allowance.”<br />
Excluding the victim in investment or banking decisions.<br />
Forbidding the victim from attending job training or advancement<br />
opportunities.<br />
Forcing the victim to write bad checks or file fraudulent tax returns.<br />
Running up large amounts of debt on joint accounts or taking bad credit loans.<br />
Refusing to work or contribute to the family income.<br />
Withholding funds the victim or children need to obtain basic needs such as<br />
food and medicine.<br />
Hiding assets.<br />
Stealing the victim’s identity, property, or inheritance.<br />
Forcing the victim to work in a family business without pay.<br />
Refusing to pay bills and ruining the victims’ credit score<br />
Forcing the victim to turn over public benefits or threatening to turn the victim<br />
in for “cheating or misusing benefits.”<br />
Filing false insurance claims.<br />
Evading or refusing to pay child support; manipulating the divorce process by<br />
drawing it out or by hiding or not disclosing assets.<br />
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Women also face emotional abuse.<br />
Psychological violence involves a regular pattern of verbal offense, threatening,<br />
bullying, and constant criticism, as well as more subtle tactics like intimidation,<br />
shaming, and manipulation.<br />
Psychological violence is used to control and dominate the other person, and<br />
quite often it occurs because the abuser has childhood wounds and insecurities<br />
they haven't dealt with — perhaps as a result of being abused themselves.<br />
According to UN Women, 43% of women in the 28 European Union<br />
member states have experienced some form of psychological violence by<br />
an intimate partner in their lifetime.<br />
Nothing is more damaging to your confidence and self-esteem than being in an<br />
emotionally abusive relationship.<br />
Unlike physical abuse, which rears its ugly head in dramatic outbursts,<br />
emotional abuse can be more insidious and elusive. In some cases, neither the<br />
abuser nor the victim is fully aware it's happening.<br />
Abusers consistently and repeatedly make mean jokes and criticize and<br />
judge their partner negatively.<br />
Abusers humiliate their partners. They insult and put their partners down both in<br />
private and in front of others as a method of eroding their self-esteem, which<br />
they hope will make their partners more dependent on them. Then, if the victim<br />
or someone else protests, the abuser will laugh it off as a joke and refuse to talk<br />
about it.<br />
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A few examples of emotional abuse.<br />
Constant criticism or attempts to manipulate and control.<br />
Shaming and blaming with hostile sarcasm or outright verbal assault.<br />
The use of shaming and belittling language, verbal abuse, name-calling.<br />
Withholding affection.<br />
Punishment and threats of punishment.<br />
Refusal to accept responsibility (mind games, gaslighting).<br />
Refusing to communicate at all.<br />
Isolating her from supportive friends and family.<br />
The French movie, My King, is a good example of<br />
what emotional abuse looks like in a relationship.<br />
According to Bonnie Burstow, being understanding over abuse from male partners<br />
who are hurting is part of our oppression as women.<br />
Emotional abuse, just like any other form of abuse, is about power.<br />
Emotional abuse, like physical abuse, is used to control, demean, harm, or<br />
punish a woman. While the forms of abuse may vary, the end result is the same:<br />
a woman is fearful of her partner and changes her behavior to please him or be<br />
safe from harm.<br />
Research has shown that being female is the single largest risk factor for being a<br />
victim of abuse in heterosexual relationships, something that is clearly reflective<br />
of women's lower status in our society.<br />
Source: American Psychological Association, Violence and the Family<br />
Violence can also be virtual.<br />
Women are being sent repeated, threatening, or harassing messages: trolling,<br />
cyberbullying, online hate speech, blackmail and rape and death threats through<br />
different social media platforms.<br />
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Technology allows abusers to stalk their victims online, locating them and<br />
monitoring their movements, leading sometimes to offline violence.<br />
As a consequence, women (especially young women or minorities) censor<br />
themselves online.<br />
In France, 1 out of 5 victims<br />
of cyberviolence closed an account to<br />
protect themselves.<br />
57% of LGBTQ Internet users<br />
censor themselves to avoid<br />
cyberharassment.<br />
Source: VsCyberH<br />
41% of women from<br />
15 to 29 say they censor themselves<br />
online because they fear<br />
cyberharassment.<br />
70% of female victims of<br />
cyberharassment say they have<br />
received no support from close<br />
friends or family.<br />
Source: University of Bedfordshire. Cyberstalking in the UK.<br />
Across the world, there are 200 million fewer women online than men.<br />
This means men have more opportunities to present their perspectives online<br />
and hold even more power over women.<br />
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Women are 27 times more likely than men to be harassed online.<br />
Women are more targeted by revenge porn.<br />
The Mischa Barton sex tape, Emma Watson’s leaked photos, and alleged naked<br />
shots of Amanda Seyfried have brought revenge porn to the forefront. Revenge<br />
porn is a violation of trust between two people whose purpose is to publicly<br />
humiliate the other.<br />
Work is not a safe place either…<br />
According to UN Women, in the European Union, 75% of women in management<br />
and leadership positions have experienced some sort of sexual harassment in<br />
the workplace in their lifetimes.<br />
28% of women in the US military experienced rape during their military<br />
service by fellow military men.<br />
The documentary The Invisible War tells heartbreaking<br />
stories of women assaulted by superiors or colleagues while<br />
defending their country.<br />
None of those who reported rape in the years covered by<br />
this documentary kept their job.<br />
Military women are more likely to be raped by<br />
a fellow soldier than killed by enemy fire!<br />
Only 8% of sexual assault cases are prosecuted in the military.<br />
Only 2% result in convictions.<br />
Young women also face dating abuse.<br />
Nearly 1.5 million high school students in the U.S. experience physical abuse<br />
from a dating partner every year.<br />
One in three adolescents is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal<br />
abuse from a dating partner, a figure that far exceeds rates of other types of<br />
youth violence.<br />
One in 10 high school students has been deliberately hit, slapped, or<br />
physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend.<br />
Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the<br />
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highest rate of intimate partner violence — almost triple the national average.<br />
Nearly half (43%) of dating college women report experiencing violent and<br />
abusive dating behaviors.<br />
College students are not equipped to deal with dating abuse – 57% say it is<br />
difficult to identify, and 58% say they don’t know how to help someone who’s<br />
experiencing it.<br />
One in three (36%) dating college students have given a dating partner their<br />
computer, online access, email, or social network passwords, and these<br />
students are more likely to experience digital dating abuse.<br />
One in six college women have been sexually abused in a dating relationship.<br />
Source: Love is Respect<br />
Every 98 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted.<br />
And every 8 minutes, the victim is a child. Meanwhile, only 6 out of every 1,000<br />
perpetrators will end up in prison.<br />
1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or<br />
completed rape in her lifetime.<br />
9 people are raped every hour in France according to Collectif Féministe Contre<br />
le Viol.<br />
According to UN Women, around<br />
120 million girls worldwide<br />
(slightly more than 1 in 10) have<br />
experienced forced intercourse or<br />
other forced sexual acts at some<br />
point in their lives.<br />
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And marital rape is still not<br />
acknowledged in many parts of<br />
the world.<br />
It even passes unnoticed in our<br />
movies.<br />
Remember that Gone with the Wind<br />
scene?<br />
“This one night, you’re not turning me<br />
out.” And how she wakes up smiling?<br />
SOME MYTHS ABOUT RAPE<br />
NEED TO BE BUSTED<br />
Myth: Women are most likely to be raped outside, after dark, and by a stranger,<br />
so women shouldn't go out alone at night.<br />
Fact: Only 10% of rapes are committed by “strangers.” 90% of rapes are committed<br />
by known men, and often by someone the survivor has previously trusted<br />
or even loved. People are raped in their homes, their workplaces, and other<br />
settings where they felt safe. Rapists can be friends, colleagues, clients, neighbors,<br />
family members, partners or exes. Risk of rape shouldn't be used as an<br />
excuse to control women's movements and restrict their rights and freedom.<br />
Myth: Only young, “attractive” women and girls who are flirtatious and wear tight<br />
clothes are raped.<br />
Fact: People of all ages, appearances, classes, cultures, abilities, genders,<br />
sexualities, races and religions are raped. Rape is an act of violence and control;<br />
the perceived "attractiveness" of a victim has very little to do with it. There is no<br />
excuse or mitigation for sexual violence, and it is never the victim/survivor's fault.<br />
What someone was wearing when they were raped or how they behave is irrelevant.<br />
Myth: When it comes to sex, women and girls sometimes "play hard to get" and<br />
say “no” when they really mean “yes.”<br />
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Fact: Everyone has the legal right to say “no” to sex and to change their mind<br />
about having sex at any point of sexual contact; if the other person doesn't stop,<br />
they are committing sexual assault or rape. When it comes to sex, we must<br />
respect the wishes of our sexual partner and believe what they tell us about what<br />
they do and don't want.<br />
Myth: If two people have had sex with each other before, it's always OK to have<br />
sex again.<br />
Fact: If a person is in a relationship with someone or has had sex with them<br />
before, this does not mean that they cannot be sexually assaulted or raped by<br />
that person. Consent must be given and received every time two people engage<br />
in sexual contact. It is important to check in with our sexual partners and make<br />
sure that anything sexual that happens between us is what we both want, every<br />
time.<br />
Myth: Alcohol, drugs, stress, or depression can turn people into rapists.<br />
Fact: Drugs and alcohol are never the cause of rape or sexual assault. It is the<br />
attacker who is committing the crime, not the drugs and/or alcohol. Likewise,<br />
stress and depression don't turn people into rapists or justify sexual violence.<br />
There are no excuses.<br />
Myth: Someone who has willingly drunk lots of alcohol or taken drugs shouldn't<br />
then complain about being raped.<br />
Fact: In law, consent must be fully and freely given by someone with the capacity<br />
to do so. If a person is unconscious or incapacitated due to alcohol or drugs,<br />
they are unable to give their consent to sex. Having sex with a person who is<br />
incapacitated through alcohol or drugs is therefore rape. No one asks or<br />
deserves to be raped or sexually assaulted; 100% of the responsibility lies with<br />
the perpetrator.<br />
Myth: Men of certain races and backgrounds are more likely to commit sexual<br />
violence.<br />
Fact: There is no typical rapist. People who commit sexual violence come from<br />
everyeconomic, ethnic, racial, age, and social group.<br />
Myth: It's only rape if someone is physically forced into sex and has the injuries<br />
to show for it.<br />
Fact: Sometimes people who are raped sustain internal and/or external injuries,<br />
and sometimes they don't. Rapists will sometimes use weapons or threats of<br />
violence to prevent a physical struggle, or sometimes they will take advantage of<br />
someone who isn't able to consent because they are drunk or asleep. Many
people who are sexually attacked are unable to move or speak from fear and<br />
shock. Just because someone doesn't have visible injuries doesn't mean they<br />
weren't raped.<br />
Myth: Once a man is sexually aroused, he cannot help himself. He has to have<br />
sex.<br />
Fact: Men can quite easily control their urges to have sex; they do not need to<br />
rape someone to satisfy them. Rape is an act of violence and control, not sexual<br />
gratification.<br />
Myth: People often lie about being raped because they regret having sex with<br />
someone or out of spite or for attention.<br />
Fact: Disproportionate media focus on false rape allegations perpetuates the<br />
public perception that lying about sexual violence is common when in fact the<br />
opposite is true. False allegations of rape are very rare. The vast majority of<br />
survivors choose not to report rape to the police. One significant reason for this<br />
is the fear of not being believed.<br />
Source: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/mythsvsrealities.php<br />
Rape is even used as a weapon of war, a deliberate military strategy.<br />
From the systematic rape of women in Bosnia, to an estimated 200,000<br />
women raped during the battle for Bangladeshi independence in 1971, to<br />
Japanese rapes during the 1937 occupation of Nanking the past century<br />
offers too many examples.<br />
Source: How did rape become a weapon of war? By Laura Smith-Spark. BBC News<br />
And many countries still practice female genital cuttting, denying sexual<br />
pleasure to millions of women.<br />
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Half of all women killed worldwide are killed by their partner or family.<br />
In the US, 3 women are killed every day by a current or former intimate partner.<br />
One every three days in France.<br />
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS<br />
TERRORISM WITH MORE VICTIMS<br />
Do you know that there have been more US women killed by their partners<br />
since 9/11 than military deaths from wars?<br />
The number of US troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and<br />
2012 was 6,488.<br />
The number of US women who were murdered by current or ex-partners<br />
during that time was 11,766.<br />
The US military response to 9/11 in Afghanistan and Iraq has cost up to $4<br />
trillion, and homeland security has cost an additional $1 trillion.<br />
In the same period, terrorists have killed 33 people in the United States.<br />
WE ARE <strong>THE</strong> ONLY SPECIES WHERE MALES<br />
KILL FEMALES OF <strong>THE</strong>IR OWN SPECIES.<br />
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And this has a serious cost. For the individual and for society.<br />
The personal cost of sexual assault in the US: $108,447.<br />
This is the amount an adult victim in Michigan can expect to pay in medical and<br />
emergency services, mental health care, and in lost work productivity according<br />
to "The Rape Tax: Tangible and Intangible Costs of Sexual Violence.<br />
The societal cost of each rape in the US: $267,000.<br />
Source: Huffington Post. Being A Sexual Assault Survivor In College Often Comes With Huge Bills.<br />
What is most costly for society? Domestic violence or war?<br />
Oxford and Stanford University studies argue that, despite much greater<br />
coverage in the media, war and civil violence account for less than 5% of the<br />
total cost of violence worldwide. The greatest burden instead comes from<br />
physical violence against women and children in the home.<br />
The gigantic cost of domestic violence: $8 trillion a year.<br />
Civil wars and conflicts cost 0.2% of global GDP.<br />
Source: Benefits and Costs of the Conflict and<br />
Violence Targets for the Post-2015<br />
Development Agenda<br />
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Yet, violence against women is not at the center of the agenda.<br />
In most democratic regimes, it’s not a priority. It is seen as anecdotal and<br />
marginal, linked to poverty or alcoholism. This denial is due to the fact that most<br />
civic leaders — politicians, judges, police officers, etc. — are still men and do<br />
not experience women’s reality.<br />
In authoritarian regimes, it is a very useful tool to keep the population under<br />
control.<br />
Women’s bodies belong to men in exchange for men’s bodies belonging to<br />
industrial production in times of peace and the state in times of war. Women’s<br />
oppression facilitates the state’s oppression. It allows men to unleash their<br />
frustration on a subordinate. If not, they would rebel. It is a kind of compensation<br />
for their obedience.<br />
According to Wilhelm Reich in The Sexual Revolution:<br />
“An authoritarian system needs submissive subjects and the most efficient<br />
factory of the later is the patriarchal families where power relations between the<br />
head of state and his people is mirrored in the ties between the head of family<br />
and his dependents. The authoritarian state has a representative in every family,<br />
the father who is the state’s most valuable tool. The best way for a father to keep<br />
his children in line is by clamping down on their sexual urges. Which results in<br />
the paralysis of the rebellious forces. Sexual repression is the hallmark of any<br />
dictatorship.”<br />
As a consequence, our society is very tolerant of violence against women.<br />
It’s embedded in our culture.<br />
Our whole history is plagued<br />
by rape.
The rape of women or youth is a common theme in Greek or Roman<br />
mythology.<br />
Hades and Persephone<br />
Apollo and Daphne<br />
The rape of the Sabine women<br />
Even the creation of Rome is based on rape.<br />
We learnt from<br />
Ovid that<br />
“no means yes.”<br />
And that<br />
women always<br />
lie.<br />
Iconic female figures of sexual betrayal like Eve have been used to create<br />
the notion that women aren’t trustworthy.<br />
And it’s not only powerful women who are discounted.<br />
“If you go back to medieval times, women’s stories have been seen as<br />
dangerous,” explains Leigh Gilmore, a visiting professor of women’s and<br />
gender studies at Wellesley.<br />
“They’re threatening to institutions, including the church, government, other<br />
interests. To keep women’s stories from taking root, people in power, generally<br />
men, go straight at the credibility of the woman.”<br />
Every day, “women who report sexual assault or rape are greeted with<br />
skepticism.”<br />
We follow the same patterns for undermining women’s testimony and<br />
credibility.<br />
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So, we celebrate rapists, like Don Juan and Jupiter.<br />
And we associate power with sexual domination.<br />
Romantic comedies and social media teach us that stalking is okay if it’s in the<br />
name of love. And that rapists walk away.<br />
Perpetrators of sexual violence are less likely to go to jail or prison than<br />
other criminals.<br />
Out of every 1,000 roberies:<br />
619 are reported to the police.<br />
167 reports lead to arrest.<br />
20 robbers will be incarcerated.<br />
Out of every 1,000 rapes:<br />
310 are reported to the police.<br />
57 reports lead to arrest.<br />
6 rapists will be incarcerated.<br />
994 perpetrators walk free.<br />
Source: RAINN US<br />
According to the UN, in most countries, less than 40% of women who<br />
experienced violence sought help of any sort.<br />
Of those, less than 10% sought help from the police.<br />
Women make up less than 35% of police personnel in all 86 countries with<br />
data.<br />
Because victims prefer to avoid the risk of being blamed, shamed, or not<br />
believed.<br />
In reality, only 2-8% of rape allegations are false.<br />
But we live in a rape culture...<br />
Rape Culture:<br />
A setting in which rape is pervasive and<br />
normalized due to societal attitudes<br />
about gender and sexuality.<br />
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...which does not believe women.<br />
Sexual assault:<br />
When someone touches any part of<br />
another person’s body in a sexual way,<br />
even through clothes, without that<br />
person’s consent.<br />
We constantly watch comedy shows full of sarcasm and humiliation and we<br />
listen to angry popular music with violent lyrics. The media teaches us that<br />
humiliating others is fun and models uncaring and hurtful behaviors as “cool.”<br />
Relations of domination, humiliation, and violence are sexy, glamorous, and<br />
desirable. If we lack love, we start to lose touch with ourselves and others, we<br />
become angry, cruel, insensitive, and violent. And we become insensitive to<br />
crime, terrorism, and war.<br />
Rape isn’t caused by drinking or short<br />
dresses. It is fostered by a culture that<br />
tells men that they can act with impunity.<br />
Violence against women is basically the<br />
symptom of society devaluing women and<br />
tolerating dominant male behavior.<br />
Source: Google Autofill Campaign UN Women<br />
Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which<br />
sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media<br />
and popular culture.<br />
Rape Culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the<br />
objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence,<br />
thereby creating a society that disregards women’s rights and safety.<br />
Rape Culture affects every woman. The rape of one woman is a degradation,<br />
terror, and limitation to all women.<br />
Most women and girls limit their behavior because of the existence of rape.<br />
Most women and girls live in fear of rape. Men, in general, do not.<br />
That’s how rape functions as a powerful means by which the whole female
population is held in a subordinate position to the whole male population,<br />
even though many men don’t rape, and many women are never victims of<br />
rape.<br />
This cycle of fear is the legacy of Rape Culture.<br />
Examples of rape culture:<br />
Trivializing sexual assault (“Boys will be boys!”)<br />
Sexually explicit jokes.<br />
Tolerance of sexual harassment.<br />
Inflating false rape report statistics.<br />
Publicly scrutinizing a victim’s dress, mental state,<br />
motives, and history.<br />
Gratuitous gendered violence in movies and television.<br />
Defining “manhood” as dominant and sexually aggressive.<br />
Defining “womanhood” as submissive and sexually passive.<br />
Pressure on men to “score.”<br />
Pressure on women not to appear “cold.”<br />
Assuming only promiscuous women get raped.<br />
Assuming that men don’t get raped or that only<br />
“weak” men get raped.<br />
Refusing to take rape accusations seriously.<br />
Teaching women to avoid getting raped instead of<br />
teaching men not to rape.<br />
Universities prefer to cover up the situation to preserve their reputation.<br />
Percentage of U.S. Campuses<br />
Disclosing Zero Reported Incidents<br />
of Rape<br />
9%<br />
91%<br />
reported zero incidents<br />
reported at least one incident<br />
Data: AAUW<br />
WHAT FRUSTRATES ME<br />
AT MY SCHOOL IS<br />
THAT WE’VE HAD<br />
PEOPLE EXPELLED<br />
FOR CHEATING,<br />
BUT NOBODY HAS<br />
EVER BEEN EXPELLED<br />
FOR RAPE.<br />
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More examples of rape culture:<br />
Women who come forward are questioned about what they were wearing.<br />
Survivors who come forward are asked, “Were you drinking?”<br />
People say, “She was asking for it.”<br />
The lyrics of Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” mirror the words of actual rapists<br />
and was the number one song in the U.S.<br />
The mainstream media mourns the end of the convicted Steubenville rapists’<br />
football careers and does not mention the young girl who was victimized.<br />
Cyberbullies take pictures of sexual assaults and harass their victims online<br />
after the act.<br />
In 31 US states, rapists can legally sue for child custody if the rape results in<br />
pregnancy.<br />
College campus advisers tasked with supporting the student body shame<br />
survivors who report their rapes.<br />
Colleges are more concerned with getting sued by assailants than with<br />
supporting survivors.<br />
Our tolerance fuels the rape culture.<br />
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And the most insignificant jokes prove our cultural tolerance.<br />
Source: Ashley Fairbanks<br />
Sandra Newman, in her article "Why men rape?” has a very clear answer:<br />
"Rape is easy, that’s all. The myth behind rape is that male sexuality is predatory<br />
by nature. And this theory leads to victim blaming. But rape is more a process of<br />
intimidation to keep women in fear: the motive is power, not sex. It is sexual<br />
behavior in the primary service of non-sexual needs. Rapists are regular men<br />
with misogynist beliefs. The overwhelming majority of rapists assume they would<br />
never be punished. Rape is the violent crime least likely to be reported: it has to<br />
become a priority. We need to change the culture at the base.”<br />
Sexual violence is not about lust. It is about control.<br />
We have learnt in media, family history, and religious texts that women belong to<br />
men. That men are superior to women and can do anything they want to them<br />
without being punished. That the role of a girl is to be chaste when she is single<br />
and docile when she is in a relationship. And that men are entitled to punish her<br />
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Women have to be kept under control.<br />
Women who challenge patriarchal norms are shamed and ostracized by<br />
friends and families. It is the price they pay for voicing their opinions. As a<br />
consequence, many women prefer to shut up and silently conform to the<br />
status quo for fear of being rejected and isolated. But the price to pay for<br />
disobeying the rules can be far more violent.<br />
Throughout history, and even today, women are burnt, locked up, or killed<br />
by family members merely for voicing their opinions or trying to claim<br />
control over their own bodies.<br />
Malleus Maleficarum, the medieval handbook for persecuting and burning<br />
“witches,” was blessed by Pope Innocent VIII.<br />
A woman who rebelled against Victorian domesticity risked being declared<br />
insane and committed to an asylum. This was usually at her husband’s or<br />
father’s request, and she generally had no right to contest or appeal. Women<br />
were further disempowered by moral treatment once locked away. This cornerstone<br />
of Victorian psychiatry claimed male<br />
dominance was therapeutic. The doctor ruled the asylum like a father ruled his<br />
family. Nearly all Victorian physicians considered women more fragile and<br />
sensitive than men. They believed women were more susceptible to nervous<br />
breakdowns. The classic “female malady” was hysteria.<br />
Electroshock therapy has been used to silence women about sexual abuse<br />
and sexual or physical assault. Electroshock therapy has no proven efficacy in<br />
relieving depression, but it is proven to be brain-damaging, controlling, and<br />
terrorizing for patients. Influential feminist writers of the time criticised<br />
psychiatry. They argued it was one of the main ways society controlled<br />
women. Women who did not behave “properly” risked ending up in psychiatric<br />
care.<br />
Another psychiatric therapy that drew feminist attention was the class of drugs<br />
called minor tranquilizers. The most famous was diazepam, introduced in 1963<br />
under the trade name Valium. The popularity of minor tranquilizers reflected<br />
how dissatisfied women felt about their lives. Their dissatisfaction was treated<br />
as a medical problem rather than a spur to political change. Feminist writers<br />
warned that psychiatric drugs were being used to silence women like asylums<br />
had been used in the Victorian era.<br />
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Psychiatry is a feminist issue.<br />
Feminist therapy considers mental disorders as coping mechanisms to survive<br />
trauma. According to feminist therapist Bonnie Burstow, “Insidious trauma<br />
[comes from] living day after day in a sexist, racist, classist, homophobic, and<br />
ableist society: being ogled by men on the street, slaving long hours and for<br />
minimum wages in a fish processing plant, hearing racist innuendos even from<br />
one’s White allies.”<br />
In her book, Radical Feminist Therapy, Bonnie Burstow reminds us that<br />
psychiatry is a white patriarchal European invention. Before its creation,<br />
powerful female healers known as witches, midwives, and wise women (often<br />
lesbian) were the most sought after medical experts in that culture (and in<br />
many other indigenous cultures) because they were the most affordable,<br />
reliable, and effective. Europe’s elite male medical clan, the Church, and<br />
businessmen were threatened by the power of these wise women and<br />
condemned and punished them, i.e. the infamous witch burnings. Before long,<br />
the male physician had rewritten history by casting the witch as madwoman<br />
and himself as healer. The strong woman was pathologized and placed under<br />
man’s control.<br />
But trauma is powerful. It contributes to the development of profound survival<br />
skills, an enhanced ability to understand other traumatized and oppressed<br />
individuals and groups, a passion for justice, a desire for a different kind of<br />
society, a certain critical realism, and what is particularly significant, a less<br />
distorted view of the world.<br />
Source: © Feminist Rag 2012 to present day.<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Naming<br />
Humor<br />
Visualize<br />
The creation of terms like rape culture, slut shaming, and revenge porn have<br />
given a name to widespread phenomenons so that women around the world<br />
realize they share the same experiences and they are not alone.<br />
Education is part of the answer.<br />
Parents raising sons hold all the power to change the world.<br />
Instead of our parents teaching daughters caution, start teaching your sons<br />
consent.<br />
Instead of our parents teaching daughters fear, start teaching your sons<br />
respect.<br />
Teach your sons about gender equality. Teach your sons what “No” means.<br />
(Hint: It means no.)<br />
Teach your sons that they aren’t entitled to any woman’s body, attention, or<br />
time.<br />
Instead of parents teaching daughters modesty, teach your sons about<br />
personal space.<br />
Instead of parents teaching daughters to avert gazes, teach your sons not to<br />
stare.<br />
Teach your sons about healthy masculinity, healthy romance, and healthy<br />
sexual relationships.<br />
Teach your sons to be enraged by rape, assault, and crimes against all<br />
women, not just women they can process as wives, mothers, and sisters. That<br />
all people, of all genders, warrant equal respect.<br />
Your little boy will watch movies in which the hero gets the girl by stalking and<br />
harassing her. Teach your sons that what they’re witnessing is a crime.<br />
Protect your sons from the toxic pop culture threatening to corrupt their<br />
notions of right and wrong.<br />
Source: Rega Jha. BuzzFeed India.
Raise your sons differently.<br />
Teach your sons that love is built, not coerced. That sex is<br />
agreed upon, not taken.<br />
Fathers, your sons will learn how to treat women from how<br />
you treat women. Demonstrate respect. Demonstrate<br />
equality. Teach your sons that it is manly to educate other<br />
men in equality, too.<br />
Teach your sons how to express emotion. That violence is<br />
not an option. That nobody, no matter what they’re<br />
wearing or drinking, “deserves” or “asks for” it.<br />
Instead of our parents teaching us to be wary of men,<br />
raise your sons to be men who don’t need to be feared.<br />
Don’t shame the girls, educate the boys.<br />
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Humor<br />
Awareness<br />
Project Consent is an international nonprofit campaign that combats<br />
sexual assault and rape culture by raising awareness and spreading<br />
education.<br />
Doesn’t mean I owe you campaign by the Avalon Sexual Assault Center in<br />
Canada raises awareness of entitlement, misogyny, language, coercion,<br />
consent, and bodily autonomy.<br />
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Awareness<br />
Visualize<br />
Toolkit<br />
Source: Doesn’t Mean I Owe You campaign.<br />
Avalon, Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada.<br />
This UN Women campaign in Mexico<br />
shows how men look at your<br />
mother/sister/friend every day.<br />
The Women’s Media Center Speech<br />
Project explains what online abuse<br />
is.<br />
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Tech 4 Good<br />
Technology is also offering new apps fostering women’s safety.<br />
Circle of 6 allows you to identify 6<br />
close contacts to alert in case of<br />
danger.<br />
Lifeline Response allows your<br />
phone to trigger an alarm system<br />
and call the authorities.<br />
Safetipin crowdsources information<br />
based on nine factors in order to<br />
measure how safe the area in<br />
question is. These factors are<br />
lighting, openness, visibility, people<br />
density, security, walking paths,<br />
transportation in the area, gender,<br />
and feeling.<br />
Safetipin is expanding its international presence. The<br />
app is already operational in Jakarta, Nairobi, Bogota,<br />
and Manila, and data collection is underway in eight<br />
more cities, including Rio de Janeiro, Kuala Lumpur,<br />
and Johannesburg.<br />
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Tech 4 Good The Power of the Crowd<br />
Jessica Ladd developed Callisto, a college sexual assault reporting system<br />
by survivors, for survivors.<br />
Started in the UK, the Everyday Sexism project allows people all around<br />
the world to give their own testimonial about their experience.<br />
It resulted in a book showing that assault or sexism are not isolated<br />
experiences but a global phenomenon.<br />
The app Hollaback allows women to<br />
share stories of sexual harassment and<br />
get support.<br />
In Egypt, Harassmap geolocalizes in<br />
real time sexual assaults in the streets<br />
of Cairo.<br />
They identify the areas most at risk and<br />
train shopkeepers, taxi drivers, police<br />
officers to help.<br />
Purple Purse is working on financial<br />
abuse.<br />
Chayn provides different toolkits for<br />
women to identify and escape abuse.<br />
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Tech 4 Good Toolkit The Power of the Crowd<br />
The Hunting Ground is a piercing, monumental<br />
exposé of rape culture on campuses, poised to light<br />
a fire under a national debate.<br />
Many college students who have been raped on campus<br />
face retaliation and harassment as they fight for justice.<br />
Since the film’s premiere at Sundance, it has been<br />
screened at the White House and hundreds of college<br />
campuses across the country. The documentary has<br />
inspired new laws in New York and California and<br />
changes in campus policies.<br />
Take Back the Tech! (TBTT!) works to get more women online and trained<br />
in new technologies so they can have a louder voice. It also seeks<br />
recognition for women’s achievements in technology, and for these<br />
achievements to be fairly documented on sites like Wikipedia.<br />
TBTT! is part of the Safety and Free Speech Coalition. Through this coalition,<br />
TBTT! has pressured Facebook and Twitter to change some of their policies to<br />
offer more protection for women’s freedom of speech and freedom from<br />
violence. The coalition also managed to get Facebook to relax its stance on<br />
people using their real names on the site. The policy was seen as a major issue<br />
for women with new identities escaping abusive situations.<br />
Protect Our Defenders (POD) is the only national organization solely<br />
dedicated to ending the epidemic of rape and sexual assault in the military<br />
and to combating a culture of pervasive misogyny, sexual harassment, and<br />
retribution against victims.<br />
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Speak up<br />
Humor<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
Artists change the narrative.<br />
Stop Telling Women to Smile is an art<br />
series by Tatyana Fazlalizadeh. The work<br />
addresses gender-based street harassment<br />
by placing drawn portraits of women with<br />
captions that speak directly to offenders,<br />
outside in public spaces.<br />
Transform your trauma into art.<br />
The famous baroque painter Artemisia Gentileschi was raped by an artist hired<br />
by her father to teach her drawing. Upon pressing charges against her rapist,<br />
she was given a humiliating virginity test and even tortured to confess she was<br />
lying. Even worse, her rapist got away with it. Gentileschi used art to express her<br />
outrage. During the trial, Artemisia began painting “Judith Beheading<br />
Holofernes.” The violence of Judith beheading the male general speaks for itself.<br />
Her protagonists were avengers, they did not wait for justice to take its course.<br />
Powerful photo series Still not asking<br />
for it calls out rape culture and victim<br />
blaming. Australian photographer Rory<br />
Banwell’s powerful photo series is<br />
tackling the culture of blaming the<br />
victims of sexual violence.<br />
The short movie Oppressed Majority<br />
from Eleonore Pourriat imagines how a<br />
man might experience a sexual assault<br />
in a matriarchal society.<br />
Louise O’Neill’s book, Asking For It, nails down a culture where women are<br />
blamed for what happens to them.<br />
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I NEVER<br />
ASK FOR IT<br />
Humor<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
In Scotland, the campaign Not Ever explains<br />
that, no matter how short or sexy the skirt,<br />
no woman asked to be raped. Ever.<br />
I NEVER ASK FOR IT<br />
Different comics or action heroes challenge the narrative.<br />
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Humor<br />
Visualize<br />
Data Mining<br />
Commando Culotte produced this comic that talks about “the impunity of<br />
famous men,” listing the violence committed by famous men and the<br />
punishment each received.<br />
Artist: Mirion Malle
Artist: Mirion Malle
New Products<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
Projet Crocodiles is a blog from<br />
Thomas Mathieu telling real<br />
stories of sexism and harassment.<br />
The harassers are portrayed as<br />
crocodiles pulullating in our<br />
streets, work places, or public<br />
transport.<br />
In India, the Blank Noise Initiative<br />
invites us to occupy public<br />
spaces.<br />
Some lingerie lines promote<br />
messages about consent.<br />
IF YOU ARE NEUTRAL IN<br />
SITUATION OF INJUSTICE,<br />
YOU HAVE CHOSEN <strong>THE</strong> SIDE<br />
OF <strong>THE</strong> OPPRESSOR.<br />
— Desmond Tutu<br />
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The Power of the Crowd<br />
Social media campaigns offer a powerful tool to denounce sexual assault.<br />
Pakistani women — and their online supporters — are not quietly accepting a<br />
proposed new law from the country’s powerful Council of Islamic ideology that<br />
would allow men to “lightly beat” their wives for a variety of offenses including<br />
refusing sex, dressing improperly, talking to strangers, or speaking too loudly.<br />
A campaign called #TryBeatingMeLightly started by Pakistani photographer<br />
Fanhad Rapier has gained momentum online as women have begun using the<br />
hashtag to criticize the bill. Rapier created a Facebook album with<br />
black-and-white photos of Pakistani women with captions about what might<br />
happen if a man tried to hurt them.<br />
Brazilian feminist NGO Think Olga launched a Twitter hashtag campaign<br />
#PrimeiroAssédio – “first harassment” – where women could share their<br />
experiences. The past year has seen a big increase in feminist activism in Brazil<br />
– a country where more than 10% of reported cases of violence against women<br />
are sexual assaults, according to Mapa da Violência (Map of Violence), a<br />
Brazilian organization that tracks violent crime. Among the victims, 9,000 are<br />
adolescent girls.<br />
A month after Think Olga’s incentive, Não me Kahlo launched another Twitter<br />
hashtag campaign that quickly gained momentum – #meuamigosecreto (my<br />
secret friend) encouraged women to share stories of machismo, “mansplaining”<br />
(explaining to a woman in a condescending manner), “manterrupting” (sexist<br />
interruption), and violence against women. The organization published a book<br />
about the campaign called My Secret Friend: Feminism Through Social<br />
Networks.<br />
Earlier on, the #BringBackOurGirls campaign was also launched after the<br />
abduction of more than 300 schoolgirls in Chibok, Nigeria.<br />
Source: Women of the World<br />
#MeToo revealed the ubiquity of sexual assault.<br />
Activist Tarana Burke, founder of youth organization Just Be Inc., created the<br />
“Me Too” campaign in 2007 long before hashtags even existed.<br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
Speak up<br />
The movement began on social media after a call to action by the actor Alyssa<br />
Milano, after the Harvey Weinstein revelations, who wrote: “If all the women who<br />
have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote "Me too" as a status, we might<br />
give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.”<br />
Nearly 68,000 people have so far replied to Milano’s tweet, and the #MeToo<br />
hashtag has been used more than 1m times in the US, Europe, the Middle East<br />
and beyond. The French used #balancetonporc, the Spanish #YoTambien, and<br />
the local hashtags in Arab countries have been predominant.<br />
Facebook said that within 24 hours, 4.7 million people around the world engaged<br />
in the #MeToo conversation, with over 12m posts, comments, and reactions.<br />
This movement shows how a hashtag can become a rallying cry and help<br />
uncover the colossal scale of the problem.<br />
Survivors are speaking up.<br />
Telling is breaking the silence injunction,<br />
joining with others, and standing up for self.<br />
Especially when the law is essentially patriarchal.<br />
Emma Sulkowicz, student of Columbia University was raped by a fellow student<br />
in her dorm room during her sophomore year and her attacker was cleared in a<br />
school hearing. As a protest, she walked around campus during the school year<br />
while carrying a mattress. The mattress was the centerpiece of Sulkowicz’s<br />
Carry That Weight senior arts thesis.<br />
And the resilience of women to centuries of violence is outstanding.<br />
In Spain, the Ana Bella foundation is changing<br />
the narrative from victims to survivors, showing<br />
that women who have experienced<br />
gender-based violence possess enormous skills<br />
of resilience and resistance to stressful<br />
situations. 400
Unite<br />
Speak up<br />
Portugal bans the verbal harassment of women.<br />
Several other countries have taken similar moves to tackle the problem of verbal<br />
sexual abuse. Belgium banned sexist insults in 2014, and Peru made street<br />
harassment punishable with up to 12 years in prison in 2015. Meanwhile,<br />
Argentina is poised to ban catcalling, with a fine of up to $775.<br />
How the SlutWalk has transformed the rape culture conversation.<br />
On April 3, 2011, approximately 3,000 women<br />
(and men) marched the streets of Toronto in<br />
what they dubbed a SlutWalk. Angered by<br />
the comments of a Toronto police officer —<br />
who had ill-advisedly said that women<br />
shouldn't "dress like sluts" if they wanted to<br />
avoid being assaulted — marchers rallied to<br />
protest blaming rape victims for their own<br />
assaults. To date, more than 50 satellite walks have taken place in major cities<br />
around the world, including Boston, London, New Delhi and Sydney. Dozens<br />
more are being planned, and the original organizers have said they plan on<br />
making SlutWalk an annual event.<br />
Eve Ensler is a prominent activist addressing<br />
issues of violence against women and girls. In<br />
1998, her experience performing The Vagina<br />
Monologues inspired her to create V-Day, a<br />
global activist movement to stop violence<br />
against women and girls. V-Day raises funds<br />
and awareness through annual benefit productions of The Vagina Monologues.<br />
In 2012, along with the V-Day movement, Ensler created One Billion Rising, a<br />
global protest campaign to end violence, and promote justice and gender<br />
equality for women.<br />
LET US DANCE TO END<br />
<strong>THE</strong> VIOLENCE. LET US SHAKE<br />
<strong>THE</strong> EARTH INTO AWARENESS.<br />
— One Billion Rising<br />
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Unite<br />
Speak up<br />
In West Africa, Tostan is working with the communities to reach<br />
agreements on the end of female genital cutting.<br />
In India, the video campaign Ring The Bell shows how we can ring the bell<br />
and stand up when we witness domestic violence.<br />
In Lebanon, the KAFA campaign<br />
No law, no vote engaged citizens<br />
and personalities to push<br />
politicians to approve a law<br />
against domestic violence.<br />
It’s also time for men to stand up.<br />
The powerful Dear Daddy video<br />
urges all men to fight rape culture<br />
to protect their daughters.<br />
FEMINISM HAS NEVER KILLED ANYBODY.<br />
MACHISM DOES EVERY DAY.<br />
— Benoite Groult<br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
403
Our task as individuals is to intervene at all levels.<br />
Read about the topic.<br />
Be supportive of people around you in a situation of violence.<br />
Help them find a way out.<br />
Engage your political representatives to pass laws ending violence<br />
against women.<br />
Stay woke. Woke is a political term of African-American origin that refers<br />
to a perceived awareness of issues concerning social justice and racial<br />
justice.<br />
Avoid using language that objectifies or degrades women.<br />
Speak out if you hear someone else making an offensive joke or<br />
trivializing rape.<br />
If a friend says she has been raped or abused, take her seriously and be<br />
supportive.<br />
Think critically about the media’s messages about women, men,<br />
relationships, and violence.<br />
Be respectful of others’ physical space, even in casual situations.<br />
Always communicate with sexual partners and do not assume consent.<br />
Define your own manhood or womanhood. Do not let stereotypes shape<br />
your actions.<br />
Get involved! Join a student or community group working to end violence<br />
against women.<br />
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Chapter 15 – Manhood<br />
405
<strong>THE</strong> PROBLEM:<br />
PATRIARCHY IS CRUSHING<br />
OUR MEN TOO<br />
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Starting as toddlers, men are consistently and aggressively taught to<br />
suppress their emotions.<br />
Progressively trapping them into a box…<br />
The Man Box refers to a set of beliefs communicated by parents, families, the<br />
media, peers, and other members of society that place pressure on men to<br />
behave a certain way. These pressures tell men to be self-sufficient, to act tough,<br />
to be physically attractive, to stick to rigid gender roles, to be heterosexual, to<br />
have sexual prowess, and to use aggression to resolve conflicts.<br />
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FIGURE 3.2 <strong>THE</strong> MAN BOX IN SEVEN PILLARS<br />
1<br />
2<br />
3<br />
4<br />
Self-Sufficiency<br />
Acting Tough<br />
Physical Attractiveness<br />
Rigid Masculine<br />
Gender Roles<br />
A man who talks a lot about<br />
his worries, fears, and<br />
problems shouldn’t really get<br />
respect<br />
Men should figure out their<br />
personal problems on their<br />
own without asking others<br />
for help<br />
A guy who doesn’t fight<br />
back when others push him<br />
around is weak<br />
Guys should act strong even<br />
if they feel scared or nervous<br />
inside<br />
It is very hard for a man to<br />
be successful if he doesn’t<br />
look good<br />
Women don’t go for guys<br />
who fuss too much about<br />
their clothes, hair, and skin<br />
A guy who spends a lot of<br />
time on his looks isn’t very<br />
manly<br />
It is not good for a boy to<br />
be taught how to cook, sew,<br />
clean the house, and take<br />
care of younger children<br />
A husband shouldn’t have to<br />
do household chores<br />
Men should really be the<br />
ones to bring money home to<br />
provide for their families, not<br />
women<br />
5<br />
Heterosexuality<br />
and Homophobia<br />
A gay guy is not a “real man”<br />
Straight guys being friends<br />
with gay guys is totally<br />
fine and normal (positive<br />
statement)<br />
6<br />
Hypersexuality<br />
A “real man” should have<br />
as many sexual partners as<br />
he can<br />
A “real man” would never say<br />
no to sex<br />
7<br />
Aggression and<br />
Control<br />
Men should use violence to<br />
get respect, if necessary<br />
A man should always have<br />
the final say about decisions<br />
in his relationship or<br />
marriage<br />
If a guy has a girlfriend or<br />
wife, he deserves to know<br />
where she is all the time<br />
!"<br />
!"#$%&'$()*<br />
Source: The Man Box, Promundo 408
And they progressively learn to mask their true selves.<br />
The documentary The Mask You Live In<br />
follows boys and young men as they<br />
struggle to stay true to themselves while<br />
negotiating America’s narrow definition of<br />
masculinity.<br />
Boys are forced to conform or face the threat of expulsion and abuse.<br />
Real men do not express their emotions, except for anger.<br />
Real men are financial providers, not care givers.<br />
Real men are heterosexual and dominant in and out of the bedroom.<br />
Real men are leaders and have the final word in any discussion.<br />
Real men are never unemployed.<br />
Real men are always confident.<br />
Real men play sports and talk about sports as their primary mode<br />
of interaction.<br />
We admire women who work in “men’s jobs” but we rarely admire men working<br />
in “women’s jobs.”<br />
Men and women are taught to equate true masculinity with violence<br />
and dominance.<br />
Myths portray men as aggressive and physically dominant.<br />
The pop culture environment that surrounds boys<br />
introduces them to a world where traditionally<br />
masculine traits—like toughness, aggression, and<br />
stoicism—are highly esteemed, while female influence<br />
is all but absent.<br />
Image: Fight Club<br />
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Media gives us ideal images of men as lonesome cowboys, isolated and<br />
emotionally disconnected.<br />
NEVER COMPLAIN, NEVER EXPLAIN.<br />
— Benjamin Disrael<br />
Movies like Fifty Shades of Grey glamorize and legitimize violence against<br />
women. We learn to equate love with possession, control, and dominance.<br />
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OUR CULTURE HAS INTENTIONALLY BLURRED<br />
LINES BETWEEN CONSENT AND ASSAULT<br />
David Wong, Executive Editor of Cracked.com, explains in 7 points why so<br />
many guys don’t understand sexual consent.<br />
1<br />
Forcing yourself on women makes them love you.<br />
In Star Wars, Han Solo forcefully kisses Leia Skywalker. The<br />
result of this encounter is that she falls in love with this man<br />
and spends the rest of her life with him.<br />
In Goldfinger, James Bond rapes Pussy Galore in a barn,<br />
which causes her to abandon her life of crime and join his<br />
side.<br />
2<br />
Women like to be pursued, and thus always play “hard to get.”<br />
3<br />
Asking permission is a sign of weakness.<br />
4<br />
Everything women do is intended to stoke male hunger.<br />
5<br />
Sexual assault = guy in an alley with a knife.<br />
6<br />
All sex outside of (heterosexual) marriage is wrong.<br />
7<br />
Boys will be boys.<br />
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And political or religious leaders still spread this vision of tough<br />
masculinity as an ideal to follow.<br />
IN TIMES WHEN MEN<br />
FEEL THAT MASCULINITY<br />
HAS BEEN DIMINISHED<br />
AND THAT <strong>THE</strong>RE ARE<br />
QUESTIONS MARKS OVER<br />
<strong>THE</strong>IR VALUE TO <strong>THE</strong> SOCIAL<br />
ORGANIZATION, <strong>THE</strong>Y CAN<br />
ENJOY IN FANTASY A RETURN<br />
TO SOCIAL CONDITIONS WHERE<br />
STRONG, INDEPENDENT<br />
MASCULINITY HAD<br />
UNQUESTIONABLE RELEVANCE.<br />
— MacKinnon<br />
This has also an impact in romantic relationships: We train women to<br />
believe that the ideal man is narcissistic and non-committal.<br />
“Women seek love from men who cannot give what they did not have. Everyone<br />
who tries to create love with an emotionally unaware partner suffers. Romantic<br />
love as seen in patriarchal society makes one powerless and out of control.<br />
Many men respond to women wanting emotional connection with emotional<br />
withdrawal and, in worse case scenarios, abuse.” — Bell Hooks<br />
“We know, for instance, that egalitarian marriages breed substantially greater<br />
rates of marital satisfaction and happiness, and that traditional marriages breed<br />
greater rates of anxiety and depression and dissatisfaction.”<br />
— Terry Real<br />
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What does it mean to “be a man” nowadays?<br />
Study results from Promundo show that the Man Box is alive and well in the US,<br />
the UK, and Mexico, with severe, real, and troubling effects on young men’s and<br />
young women’s lives.<br />
Young men’s mental health is in a worrisome state. Their bravado masks deep<br />
insecurities, depression, and frequent thoughts of suicide.<br />
Young men are more likely to report providing emotional<br />
support to others than they are to report being<br />
emotionally vulnerable or seeking help themselves.<br />
The Man Box is also a place of extremely risky<br />
behaviors, particularly binge drinking and reckless<br />
driving.<br />
Young men’s notions of physical attractiveness still link<br />
primarily with muscle bulk and body shape, as opposed<br />
to a more inward, individual sense of confidence and<br />
attractiveness.<br />
Men in the Man Box in the US and UK are as much as six or seven times<br />
more likely to report having perpetrated acts of online or physical bullying<br />
against male peers than men outside the Man Box.<br />
As these results show, the harms of living in the Man Box certainly outweigh the<br />
sense of comfort that some young men derive from aligning with social<br />
pressures to be a “real man.”<br />
Source: The Man Box, Promundo<br />
The International Men and Gender Equality Survey – Middle East and North<br />
Africa (IMAGES MENA) is the first study of its kind in the MENA region to<br />
take a wide-angle, comparative lens to the lives of men to better<br />
understand how they see their positions as men and their attitudes and<br />
actions toward gender equality.<br />
Some of their results about masculinity:<br />
Two-thirds to 90% of men reported exercising these various forms of control,<br />
with women affirming that their husbands sought to control them in these<br />
ways.<br />
The vast majority of the daily care of children and other household tasks are<br />
carried out by women, in all four countries.<br />
In most of the countries, the results show that a significant proportion of men<br />
are under enormous pressure (mostly economic), with little recourse to formal
healthcare, including mental health services, particularly for smoking and<br />
substance use.<br />
<strong>THE</strong>RE IS SO MUCH VIOLENCE IN OUR CULTURE<br />
BECAUSE SO MANY PEOPLE ARE TAUGHT TO<br />
VALUE POWER AND DOMINANCE, REGARDLESS<br />
OF <strong>THE</strong> COST OF <strong>THE</strong>MSELVES AND O<strong>THE</strong>RS.<br />
— Jennifer Siebel Newsom, Filmmaker<br />
Traditional and toxic masculinity is<br />
harmful to our boys.<br />
And later to our women…<br />
Source: The Mask You Live In<br />
Source: UN Women<br />
<strong>THE</strong> FIRST ACT OF VIOLENCE THAT PATRIARCHY<br />
DEMANDS OF MALES IS NOT VIOLENCE TOWARDS<br />
WOMEN. INSTEAD PATRIARCHY DEMANDS OF ALL<br />
MALES THAT <strong>THE</strong>Y ENGAGE IN ACTS OF PSYCHIC<br />
SELF-MUTILATION, THAT <strong>THE</strong>Y KILL OFF <strong>THE</strong><br />
EMOTIONAL PARTS OF <strong>THE</strong>MSELVES. IF AN<br />
INDIVIDUAL IS NOT SUCCESSFUL IN EMOTIONALLY<br />
CRIPPLING HIMSELF, HE CAN COUNT ON<br />
PATRIARCHAL MEN TO ENACT RITUALS OF POWER<br />
THAT WILL ASSAULT HIS SELF-ESTEEM.<br />
— Bell Hooks<br />
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Some extracts from The Will to Change by Bell Hooks.<br />
Patriarchal masculinity teaches males to be pathologically narcissistic, infantile,<br />
and psychologically dependent on privileges.<br />
Patriarchal masculinity teaches emotional stoicism; men are more manly if<br />
they do not feel, men don’t feel pain.<br />
Patriarchal fathers cannot love their sons because the rules dictate that they<br />
stand in competition with them. If the sons don’t behave, they use the A-bomb<br />
of family warfare: rejection.<br />
The spread of emotional abuse, where an individual systematically diminishes<br />
and destroys the inner self of another and belittles that person, injures boys<br />
and girls deeply.<br />
Unable to cope with the loss of emotional connection, boys internalize the<br />
pain and mask it with indifference and rage. They decide not to put their faith<br />
in love but in being powerful and dominant. They idealize aloneness and<br />
disconnection.<br />
In patriarchal culture, men cannot speak their pain. They must constantly wear<br />
a mask, live a lie, pretend.<br />
Men are hurting, but nobody wants to know about it. We don’t want to shatter<br />
the image of the strong man. They live their deep inner misery on their own.<br />
If patriarchy was so rewarding, why would there be so much violence and<br />
addiction? Why this overwhelming dissatisfaction?<br />
In reality, most men find it difficult to be patriarchs. But they fear letting go of<br />
the benefits. So they passively support the status quo.<br />
Source: Bell Hooks, The Will to Change<br />
PATRIARCHY IS <strong>THE</strong> SINGLE MOST LIFE-THREATENING<br />
SOCIAL DISEASE ASSAULTING <strong>THE</strong> MALE BODY AND<br />
SPIRIT IN OUR <strong>WORLD</strong>. BUT YET MOST MEN NEVER<br />
THINK ABOUT ITS IMPACT ON <strong>THE</strong>IR LIVES.<br />
— Bell Hooks<br />
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The male emotion suppression cycle has terrible consequences.<br />
Source: RemakingManhood.com<br />
MALE DESPAIR IS ACTUALLY A FAR GREATER THREAT<br />
TO PATRIARCHAL ORDER THAN FEMINIST MOVEMENT.<br />
— Bell Hooks<br />
The long-term challenges created by emotional isolation are incalculable.<br />
Living emotionally-guarded lives is robbing men of their hope, their<br />
aspirations, and, for millions of men, their very lives.<br />
We are raising our boys to lack empathy.<br />
Boys 4 and 5 years old are told to shake it off, man up, don’t be a crybaby,<br />
and, worst of all, don’t be a girl.<br />
This is because the Man Box devalues any form of emotional expression<br />
traditionally deemed to be feminine.<br />
A devastating result of this anti-feminine bias is that women, gays, and trans<br />
people face epidemic levels of bullying, rape, misogyny, homophobia, and<br />
violence.<br />
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In the 19th century, it was still ok to be close to your male friends in the<br />
US.<br />
The term “homosexuality” was only coined in 1869. Before that time, the<br />
strict dichotomy between “gay” and “straight” did not yet exist.<br />
Attraction to and sexual activity with other men was thought of as something<br />
you did, not something you were. It was a behavior — accepted by some<br />
cultures and considered sinful by others.<br />
But at the turn of the 20th century, the idea of homosexuality shifted from a<br />
practice to a lifestyle and an identity.<br />
You did not have temptations towards a certain sin, you were a homosexual<br />
person.<br />
Thinking of men as either “homosexual” or “heterosexual” became common.<br />
And this new category of identity was at the same time pathologized —<br />
decried by psychiatrists as a mental illness, by ministers as a perversion, and<br />
by politicians as something to be legislated against.<br />
As this new conception of homosexuality as a stigmatized identifier took root<br />
in American culture, men became much more careful not to send messages to<br />
other men, and to women, that they were gay.<br />
And this is the reason why, it is theorized, men have become less comfortable<br />
with showing affection towards each other over the last century.<br />
After WWII, casual touching between men in photographs decreased<br />
precipitously. It first vanished among middle-aged men but lingered among<br />
younger men.<br />
In the 1950s, when homosexuality reached its peak of pathologization, young<br />
men followed suit. They created more physical space between themselves.<br />
While still affectionate, they began to interact with less ease and intimacy.<br />
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The lack of touch in men’s lives results in a higher likelihood of depression,<br />
alcoholism, and mental and physical illness.<br />
Put simply, touch isolation is making men’s lives less healthy and more lonely.<br />
Source: Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men of Touch. Mark Greene<br />
In his acclaimed breakthrough bestseller, I Don’t Want to Talk About It, Terry<br />
Real exposes the silent epidemic of depression among men and offers hope for<br />
ending the pain and the shame.<br />
Men are more lonely.<br />
Men who do not connect emotionally find it<br />
more difficult to form lasting friendships,<br />
typically relying on their wives or<br />
workplaces to provide social connections.<br />
When men divorce or leave their<br />
workplaces, those relationships falter,<br />
being more circumstantial than emotionally<br />
resonant.<br />
The results? Widespread chronic loneliness for men as they enter middle age.<br />
One in three men aged 45 or older reported himself to be lonely or socially<br />
isolated, according to a 2010 survey conducted by AARP.<br />
The impact on health.<br />
Between 1999 and 2010, suicide among men aged 35–64 rose by nearly 30%,<br />
as reported by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.<br />
Although rates have been rising for both sexes, the study found that<br />
middle-aged men are three times likelier than women to end their own<br />
lives—27.3 deaths versus 8.1 (per 100,000).<br />
And the bravado facade is often a cover-up for deep insecurities.<br />
It is the underlying sense of inferiority that is the real problem for the narcissist,<br />
the grandiosity is just a facade used to cover the deep feelings of inadequacy.<br />
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IF I WAS TO SAY WHAT IS <strong>THE</strong> MAJOR EMOTION OF<br />
AMERICAN MASCULINITY, IT IS ANXIETY. WHY?<br />
BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO PROVE YOUR MASCULINITY<br />
ALL <strong>THE</strong> TIME.<br />
— Michael Kimmel<br />
AND THIS TOXIC MASCULINITY IS NOT ONLY<br />
HARMFUL TO MEN BUT ALSO TO<br />
<strong>THE</strong> PEOPLE AROUND <strong>THE</strong>M<br />
Cultures of domination attack self-esteem. And a wounded self-esteem<br />
retaliates ten times harder.<br />
“Abusive men have an increased sensitivity to the issue of abandonment. They<br />
are love dependent. If the drug is flowing (woman’s warm regard) then I have<br />
warm regard for myself. I supplement my bad self-esteem for her esteem of me.<br />
When she separates from me, criticizes me or disappoints me in any way, I go<br />
into withdrawal. I go into a crash, I have about two seconds’ worth of tolerance<br />
for those feelings, and then I go up from shame into grandiosity. I bounce up into<br />
grandiosity. Now I am an angry victim. Now I am a self-righteous victim. Now I<br />
am a revenging angel, and I can insult or be violent. It is my right.”<br />
NO ONE IS MORE ARROGANT TOWARD WOMEN, MORE<br />
AGGRESSIVE OR SCORNFUL, THAN <strong>THE</strong> MAN WHO IS<br />
ANXIOUS ABOUT HIS VIRILITY.<br />
— Simone De Beauvoir<br />
Psychologist Pia Mellody explains a strategy called “Offending from the<br />
victim position.”<br />
“You hurt me so I am the victim therefore I have the right to hurt you twice as<br />
hard back. I have no shame or compunction about retaliating because I’m your<br />
victim. It’s that righteous indignation, that righteous anger.”<br />
Boys feel the need to prove themselves. One way of doing so is to sexually<br />
harass girls, either verbally or physically, and to do so publicly.<br />
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While women do commit sexual violence against children, the vast<br />
majority of rapists are men, regardless of the sex of the victim.<br />
MOST VIOLENT PEOPLE, RAPISTS, CRIMINALS,<br />
KILLERS, TAX AVOIDERS, CORRUPT POLITICIANS,<br />
PLANET DESPOILERS, SEX ABUSERS AND<br />
DINNER-PARTY BORES, DO TEND TO BE, WELL… MEN.<br />
— Grayson Perry<br />
Given their risky behaviors and the need to prove themselves, men have a<br />
higher chance of being imprisoned.<br />
United States Incarcerations by Sex, 2017.<br />
Female inmates:<br />
Male inmates:<br />
12,703<br />
172,804<br />
6.8%<br />
93.2%<br />
Source: Federal Bureau of Prisons<br />
Whenever there's a mass shooting or massacre, there's a 98% chance the<br />
perpetrator is a man.<br />
IT’S THIS SHIFT FROM INFERIORITY TO SUPERIORITY,<br />
FROM INADEQUACY TO ATTACK, WHICH IS CENTRAL TO<br />
MASCULINITY. IF WE DON’T DEAL WITH OUR TRAUMA,<br />
WE’RE GOING TO FIND SOMEBODY TO GO ATTACK.<br />
— Terry Real<br />
Patriarchy and toxic masculinity are dominating America under Trump.<br />
“In the one-up, one-down world of men, you’re either in control or being<br />
controlled. So men don’t know much about what author and cultural historian<br />
Riane Eisler calls "power over" to "power with." Instead, it’s always power over,<br />
and you’re either up or down, one or the other. When women come in,<br />
particularly if they’re critical or controlling in any way, men are really phobic<br />
about that. They’re really paranoid about being controlled, and paranoid and<br />
phobic about being criticized, which doesn’t make them very good listeners.”
WHAT <strong>THE</strong>Y FEAR<br />
IS BEING DOMINATED.<br />
WHAT <strong>THE</strong>Y FEAR<br />
IS BEING OVERRUN.<br />
— Terry Real<br />
Mass shootings have one thing in common: toxic masculinity. But we never<br />
talk about it.<br />
IT'S NOT MUSLIMS OR PEOPLE WITH MENTAL HEALTH<br />
PROBLEMS WHO ARE MOST LIKELY TO KILL YOU IN A<br />
TERRORIST ATTACK. IT'S MEN.<br />
But men are not naturally more violent. They are taught that violence is the<br />
“right” way to react.<br />
Let’s break out of the Man Box!<br />
UNTIL WE ADDRESS<br />
OUR INABILITY TO<br />
OPEN UP, WE'LL<br />
CONTINUE TO DIE<br />
EARLY AND NEEDLESSLY.<br />
— Jack Urwin<br />
IF IT WOULD DESTROY<br />
[A 12 YEAR OLD BOY]<br />
TO BE CALLED A GIRL,<br />
WHAT ARE WE <strong>THE</strong>N<br />
TEACHING HIM ABOUT GIRLS?<br />
— Tony Porter<br />
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SOME<br />
SOLUTIONS<br />
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Speak up<br />
More and more role models are promoting positive masculinities.<br />
Justin Trudeau, Barack Obama, Ashton Kutcher, Ryan Gosling, and even the<br />
Dalai Lama are calling themselves feminists. Activists like Michael Kimmel, Gary<br />
Barker, and Jackson Katz are inviting men to take a stand.<br />
BECAUSE MEN OF QUALITY ARE<br />
NOT AFRAID OF EQUALITY<br />
In the UK, the All Man series visits ultra-male<br />
worlds to explore how contemporary masculinity<br />
shapes the lives and expectations of men in<br />
Britain today.<br />
In "The Descent of Man," Grayson Perry turns around to look at men with a<br />
clear eye and ask, “What sort of men would make the world a better place, for<br />
everyone?”<br />
What would happen if we rethought the old, macho, outdated version of<br />
manhood, and embraced a different idea of what makes a man?<br />
The solution, according to this book, is not to abandon masculinity altogether,
Counter Storytelling<br />
but to shift it a little. Perry points to a new model of manhood, a more tender<br />
model, embodied by Barack Obama and David Beckham.<br />
Millennial media challenges our stereotypes.<br />
Millennials are leading a much broader acceptance of<br />
diversity.<br />
This generation is witness to a collision between traditional<br />
masculinity and a new wave, one that values intimacy,<br />
caregiving, and nurturing.<br />
I HAVE GREAT FAITH IN <strong>THE</strong> MILLENNIALS. <strong>THE</strong>Y WILL<br />
TAKE OVER, AND THAT TRUMPIAN MASCULINITY WILL<br />
DECLINE WHEN <strong>THE</strong>Y DO.<br />
— Terry Real<br />
GENTLEMEN, IT'S TIME TO<br />
WRITE A NEW CODE OF MANHOOD<br />
For decades now, female writers and theorists have been dismantling their<br />
biological gender from the perceived feminine roles that can restrict or harm<br />
their lives. It is only recently that we have started to do this with men too, to see<br />
a man as distinct from the concept and construct of masculinity. Maybe one of<br />
the reasons for this is that we have a tendency to regard men as the normal<br />
human state of things.<br />
Source: The Guardian<br />
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Counter Storytelling<br />
Bell Hooks defines feminist masculinity as integrity, self-love, emotional<br />
awareness, assertiveness, relational skill, including the capacity to be<br />
empathetic, autonomous, and connected.<br />
“We need a vision of masculinity where self-esteem and self-love are at the<br />
base of identity.<br />
A liberated man, empathetic and strong, responsible to self, to family, friends,<br />
society and capable of understanding.<br />
The image of loving fatherhood embodies feminist masculinity in its most<br />
divine form.”<br />
We need to teach our boys about emotional intelligence.<br />
WE NEED TO RAISE OUR SONS AS FEMINISTS<br />
A mover and shaker behind the family therapy movement, Silverstein questions<br />
the way boys are raised to be men in “The Courage to Raise Good Men.”<br />
WHAT <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong> NEEDS NOW IS A<br />
DIFFERENT KIND OF MAN.<br />
— Olga Silverstein<br />
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New Skill<br />
Toolkit<br />
American universities are starting to offer courses for men to deconstruct<br />
toxic masculinities.<br />
The Duke Men’s Project offers a<br />
nine-week program that discusses<br />
male privilege, patriarchy, the<br />
language of dominance, rape<br />
culture, pornography, machismo,<br />
and other topics.<br />
In Lebanon, ABAAD is<br />
campaigning to challenge the<br />
traditional view of masculinity.<br />
Creating positive ideas of manhood.<br />
Abaad Men’s Center aims to improve men’s reactions<br />
and emotions due to daily stress, and to support<br />
them in better dealing with and managing this stress.<br />
Abaad runs workshops on the gender socialization<br />
process to transform the way men and women<br />
understand manhood and masculinities.<br />
Program RA adapted from the Programme H manual<br />
of Promundo Brazil gives very useful examples<br />
of workshop exercises to raise greater awareness<br />
among participants.<br />
MenEngage is an alliance of NGOs<br />
working together with men and boys to<br />
promote gender equality.<br />
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Toolkit<br />
Counter Storytelling<br />
Promundo has been working for years in the<br />
field of masculinity.<br />
Promundo’s Program H manual, translated into many languages,<br />
encourages critical reflection about rigid norms related to manhood.<br />
Once Upon a Boy is a wordless cartoon video that tells the story of a boy<br />
and his experiences growing up, including peer pressure, his first sexual<br />
relationship, his first job, and becoming a father.<br />
The video is designed to engage young men, educators, and health<br />
professionals in critical reflections about rigid models of masculinity and how<br />
they influence young men’s attitudes and behaviors.<br />
In Rwanda, Brazil and elsewhere, Promundo is engaging fathers via<br />
prenatal visits.<br />
MenCare is a global fatherhood<br />
campaign active in more than 40<br />
countries on five continents. Their<br />
mission is to promote men’s<br />
involvement as equitable, non-violent<br />
fathers and caregivers in order to<br />
achieve family well-being, gender<br />
equality, and better health for<br />
mothers, fathers, and children.<br />
Each year, MenCare releases the "State of<br />
the World’s Fathers" report to engage<br />
fathers to be more active in unpaid care.<br />
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Toolkit<br />
The ManKind Project is a personal development organization that offers<br />
life-changing experiential training and support groups for all kinds of men.<br />
Their objective is to create a safer world by growing better men.<br />
STRONG MEN – MEN WHO ARE TRULY ROLE MODELS<br />
DON’T TEND TO PUT DOWN WOMEN TO MAKE<br />
<strong>THE</strong>MSELVES FEEL POWERFUL.<br />
— Terry Real<br />
Lean In has produced different toolkits for male readers.<br />
Involved fathers raise happier, healthier, and more successful children. Be an<br />
active and involved father. Help with homework, read books together, talk<br />
about your kids’ daily experiences and goals. You don’t have to be<br />
perfect—you just have to be engaged.<br />
Fathers who participate in caregiving are more patient, empathetic, and<br />
flexible and enjoy greater job satisfaction. Being an involved father is also<br />
linked to lower blood pressure, lower rates of cardiovascular disease, and a<br />
longer life.<br />
Teach your son to value intelligence and thoughtfulness over toughness.<br />
Encourage him to respect his own feelings and have empathy for others.<br />
Avoid language like “man up” or “be a man,” which can be as damaging to<br />
boys as words like “bossy” and “know-it-all” can be for girls.<br />
Model gender equality for your son by supporting the women in your life and<br />
celebrating their achievements.<br />
BOTH MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD FEEL FREE TO<br />
BE SENSITIVE. BOTH MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD<br />
FEEL FREE TO BE STRONG.<br />
— Emma Watson<br />
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Visualize<br />
Speak up<br />
In India, the famous actor Aamir Khan launched the popular and controversial TV<br />
show Satyamev Jayate to give visibility on mainstream media to the violence<br />
experienced by women in the Indian society and to challenge the traditional<br />
norms of masculinity.<br />
Lynx, Unilever's male grooming brand, has launched "Is it ok for guys", a<br />
search-driven campaign that reveals how men are hiding behind their screens to<br />
ask questions they can't say out loud.<br />
The campaign is part of Lynx’s Find your magic initiative, encouraging men to<br />
ignore the cultural pressures and labels dictating what it means to be a man.<br />
Getty Images partnered with Lean In to portray new images of masculinity.<br />
Swedish dads get the most parental<br />
leave in the world. A new photographic<br />
exhibition shows just how much that<br />
policy is benefiting both the dads and<br />
their kids.<br />
LOVING AND CARING DADS WILL<br />
CHANGE <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong><br />
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WHAT CAN<br />
YOU DO?<br />
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Ask yourself some questions.<br />
What does it mean for you to be a man?<br />
Which stereotypes have been harmful to you?<br />
Is there anything you would like to change about the way boys are raised?<br />
Which change would you like to contribute to?<br />
Ending patriarchy is actually a way to liberate men.<br />
Read some books by Bell Hooks, Michael Kimmel, Grayson Perry, Riane<br />
Eisler, or Michael Kauffmann.<br />
Offer those books to your male friends, fathers, brothers, lovers.<br />
Watch some TED Talks (Roxanne Gay, Michael Kimmel, Jackson Katz,<br />
Tony Porter).<br />
Read Promundo reports.<br />
Download the Lean In manuals.<br />
Implement the Program H or Program RA workshop in your<br />
class/university/family.<br />
Watch movies or read books with alternative visions of masculinity.<br />
Join a men’s group near your home or create one. Question traditional<br />
masculinity with your friends. Have an open conversation about it.<br />
Learn nurturance skills.<br />
Be a feminist father who protects, shelters and nurtures his children.<br />
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Ask for help. Seek counseling.<br />
Set up a love school! We need to teach men how to love themselves and<br />
others!<br />
Express your love to your children, partner, parents, and friends.<br />
Learn to share your fears and vulnerabilities to better express your<br />
emotions and to analyze your anger.<br />
Be vocal about being a feminist man.<br />
Raise your son to be a feminist.<br />
It’s all about love.<br />
35 practical tools for men to further the feminist revolution, from<br />
Pamela Clark.<br />
1 Do 50% (or more) of housework.<br />
2<br />
Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate<br />
relationships and friendships.<br />
3 Consume cultural products produced by women.<br />
4 Give women space...<br />
5<br />
6<br />
...but insert yourself into spaces where you can use your maleness to<br />
interrupt sexism.<br />
When a woman tells you something is sexist, believe her.<br />
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7<br />
8<br />
9<br />
10<br />
Educate yourself about sexual consent and make sure there is clear,<br />
unambiguous communication of consent in all your sexual<br />
relationships.<br />
Be responsible for contraception.<br />
Get the HPV vaccine.<br />
Have progressive name politics.<br />
11<br />
If you have children, be an equal parent.<br />
12 Pay attention to and challenge informal instances of gender role<br />
enforcement.<br />
13<br />
14<br />
Be mindful of implicit and explicit gendered power differentials in your<br />
intimate/ domestic relationships with women whether a partner or<br />
family members or roommates.<br />
Make sure that honesty and respect guide your romantic and sexual<br />
relationships with women.<br />
15 Don’t be an online bystander in the face of sexism.<br />
16 Be responsible with money in domestic/romantic relationships.<br />
17 Be responsible for your own health.<br />
18<br />
19<br />
Don’t ogle or make comments about women. (i.e., Keep your tongue in<br />
your mouth and comments to yourself.)<br />
Pay attention to the sex of experts and key figures presenting<br />
information to you in the media.<br />
20 Ensure that some of your heroes and role models are women.<br />
21 Praise the virtues and accomplishments of women in your life to<br />
others.<br />
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22 Have integrity with your male friends. (i.e., Don’t be a “bro.”)<br />
23<br />
24<br />
Don’t treat your spouse like a “nag.” If she is “nagging,” you are<br />
probably lagging.<br />
Know that acknowledging your own sexist opinions and stereotypes<br />
you hold is not enough. Do something about them.<br />
25 Befriend women.<br />
26 Find female mentors/leaders. (i.e., Be subordinate to women.)<br />
27<br />
When in a romantic relationship, be responsible for events and special<br />
dates associated with your side of the family.<br />
28 Don’t police women’s appearance.<br />
29<br />
Offer to accompany female friends if they have to walk home alone at<br />
night…or in a public space where they may be likely to feel unsafe.<br />
30 Inject feminism into your daily conversations with other men.<br />
31 If you have a tendency to behave inappropriately toward women when<br />
you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, do not consume drugs<br />
or alcohol.<br />
32<br />
Be aware of the physical and emotional space you occupy, and don’t<br />
take up more space than you need.<br />
33 Walk the walk about income inequality.<br />
34<br />
Get in the habit of treating your maleness as an unearned privilege that<br />
you have to actively work to cede rather than femaleness being an<br />
unearned disadvantage that women have to work to overcome.<br />
35 Self-identify as a feminist.<br />
Reprinted with permission from: PamelaClark.tumblr.com<br />
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MAYBE <strong>THE</strong>RE IS ROOM<br />
FOR ALL KINDS OF<br />
MASCULINITY,<br />
INCLUDING<br />
TOUGH GUYS,<br />
AS LONG AS<br />
EVERYONE IS KIND<br />
TO EACH O<strong>THE</strong>R.<br />
— Grayson Perry<br />
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EMOTIONS HAVE<br />
NO GENDER<br />
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Conclusion<br />
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We hope that, by now, you are convinced to join the movement and to<br />
balance the world with us!<br />
Any country that wants to develop can't leave half of its population behind.<br />
<strong>THE</strong> BUSINESS CASE<br />
FOR GENDER EQUITY<br />
Research by the World Economic Forum (WEF) proves that GDP per capita<br />
correlates directly to the Global Gender Gap.<br />
INVESTING IN WOMEN IS NOT ONLY <strong>THE</strong> RIGHT THING<br />
TO DO, BUT ALSO <strong>THE</strong> SMART THING TO DO.<br />
— Hillary Clinton<br />
One billion women (The Third Billion) will enter the global economy in the coming<br />
decade.<br />
And this significant untapped market will have a large impact on GDP.<br />
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This is called “Womenomics.”<br />
The term "Womenomics" applies to a concept Shipman<br />
and Kay coined for what they see as an upcoming<br />
paradigm shift in the way individuals and companies<br />
approach work.<br />
This shift is due to an increase in the value of women in<br />
the workforce and changing attitudes of women towards<br />
balancing work and personal life.<br />
WOMEN’S EMPOWERMENT IS NOT JUST A<br />
FUNDAMENTALLY MORAL CAUSE, IT IS ALSO<br />
AN ABSOLUTE ECONOMIC NO-BRAINER.<br />
— Christine Laguarde, IMF Director<br />
And even Japan is following the trend given their shrinking workforce.<br />
“Gender equality is very contrary to the Japanese way of doing things, but the<br />
math does not add up on human capital. The job market is already tight and has<br />
become over-tight,” says Kathy Matsui, Goldman Sachs Chief Japan Strategies.<br />
Source: Financial Times<br />
WHEN WOMEN<br />
DO BETTER,<br />
ECONOMIES<br />
DO BETTER.<br />
— Christine Laguarde, IMF Director<br />
According to<br />
McKinsey Global<br />
Institute, advancing<br />
women's equality can<br />
add $12 trillion to<br />
global growth.
Yet, we’d better be patient…<br />
Global gender gap will take 100 years to close, says 2017 edition of Global<br />
Gender Gap report by WEF. And the most alarming is that disparities between<br />
men and women have widened for first time in more than a decade!<br />
Some even talk about 170 years…<br />
Around the world, the distance from<br />
gender parity is still between 25<br />
and 39%.<br />
The world is changing, but not<br />
fast enough.<br />
Source: Ernst & Young. Women Fast Forward.<br />
BRINGING GENDER JUSTICE<br />
TO <strong>THE</strong> NEXT LEVEL<br />
Sometimes, I lose faith.<br />
When I see the limited impact of some of the most committed activists versus<br />
the media impact of some world leaders. When I see the budget allocated to<br />
“women’s issues” when the same women represent 52% of the global<br />
population. When the funding priorities do not even align with objective bottom<br />
line benefits.<br />
Sometimes, I am even afraid.<br />
I fear that we are actually going backwards.<br />
And sometimes I dream.<br />
I dream that we invest in gender justice much more than we invest in military<br />
spending. I dream of a world where, as Sheryl Sandberg says, half of our<br />
institutions are run by women and half of our homes are run by men. I dream of<br />
schools talking about gender stereotypes, sex education, and sexual abuse.<br />
Universities offering gender studies classes as part of the core curriculum. A<br />
world where sexist ads and insulting songs are banned from the mainstream<br />
media. A world where sexual offenders are actually convicted. A world where<br />
girls and boys are free to develop their full potential. A world where respect and<br />
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love are at the base of our economy.<br />
In this book, we have shared with you dozens of initiatives, from grassroots<br />
projects to corporate strategies.<br />
I would love to see them adapted and replicated around the world.<br />
So, feel free to pick some and test them in your local community!<br />
LARGE SCALE FEMINISM<br />
Imagine scaling Harassmap in 50 to 100 countries around the world! Imagine<br />
financing the production of blockbusters that pass the Bechdel test! Imagine<br />
investing in feminism at the same scale as Rocket Internet is reproducing<br />
successful start-ups in emerging countries!<br />
My dream: launch an impact-investment fund focused on gender-justice<br />
projects. We could invest in or replicate successful projects, such as:<br />
Bootcamp training for future<br />
female angel investors<br />
Solo-traveler travel agency<br />
Children’s books of inspiring<br />
female leaders of each country<br />
Academy for young female<br />
athletes<br />
Gender-neutral toys<br />
Digital coaching programs<br />
Production company dedicated to<br />
movies and series with<br />
female-driven stories<br />
Feminist TV channel<br />
Coding schools, science<br />
workshops, and maker spaces<br />
Fem tech initiatives<br />
Feminist porn<br />
Leadership webinars and<br />
online education tools<br />
Sex education web series<br />
App limiting unconscious<br />
bias in hiring<br />
Educational and inspiring comics<br />
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Educational series for kids<br />
Sexual assault prevention apps<br />
Products illustrated<br />
with powerful women<br />
App geolocalizing<br />
street harassment<br />
Online toolkits and legal<br />
advice on violence cases<br />
Household and child<br />
management training<br />
for males and females<br />
Self-defense studio<br />
Inclusive speakers bureau<br />
In the meantime, we can all start working at our individual level.<br />
In a world that has taught women that their value is limited, self-love is already<br />
revolutionary.<br />
So if you identify as a woman, know that you are worthy.<br />
Point out sexism when you see it and encourage people to think critically<br />
about it.<br />
If you have children or you work with children, find teachable moments and<br />
instill a belief in gender equality.<br />
Make your home a space where men and women have equal rights, and equal<br />
duties.<br />
Raise your children with the message that their gender does not entitle or<br />
deny them certain privileges.<br />
Catch yourself and stop yourself when you judge other women unfairly.<br />
Read as much as you can.<br />
Talk about feminist issues with the women you come in contact with.<br />
Let the men around you know when they sound sexist, or behave in a sexist<br />
manner.<br />
Source: 6 WAYS TO BE A FEMINIST IN YOUR DAILY LIFE. Sareeta of Flight & Scarlet.<br />
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NEVER DOUBT THAT A<br />
SMALL GROUP OF THOUGHTFUL,<br />
COMMITTED CITIZENS CAN<br />
CHANGE <strong>THE</strong> <strong>WORLD</strong>;<br />
INDEED, IT'S <strong>THE</strong> ONLY<br />
THING THAT EVER HAS.<br />
— Margaret Mead<br />
Today, more than ever, we have a duty of activism. Questioning our learned<br />
patterns at individual level, the words we use, the music we listen to, the movies<br />
we watch, our daily behaviors. To question classical codes of manhood in<br />
parenting, ads, or sports. And we have a collective duty to spread the light. To<br />
spread the love. To strive for peace and balance.<br />
We need to transform our system from a dominator to a partnership structure.<br />
Question the oppressor within us.<br />
A new world is possible based on trust and love. We need a critical mass of new<br />
stories to create a new archetype. Because the achievement of full equality<br />
between both sexes is the prerequisite for world peace.<br />
It is a vital quest. A spiritual one. So that we can all find peace and balance.<br />
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ABOUT<br />
<strong>THE</strong> AUTHOR
Aurélie Salvaire is a French social entrepreneur who has been working in the<br />
social innovation field for 10 years, collaborating with Oxfam, Ashoka,<br />
Unreasonable Institute and Impact Hub.<br />
She founded and curated different TEDx events, including TEDxBarcelona-<br />
Women. She is passionate about storytelling and how new stories can empower<br />
individuals and balance the world. She founded The A Factor, which runs<br />
workshops and events in places as diverse as Beirut and Nairobi. She spends<br />
much of her time training women entrepreneurs in the Middle East and beyond,<br />
from Tunisia to Iran or Pakistan.<br />
She is also a frequent speaker, promoting greater diversity and shedding light on<br />
lingering stereotypes through the Shiftbalance platform.<br />
Shiftbalance is a think-and-do-tank sparking conversations about the need for<br />
a more balanced society.<br />
It is a positive activism platform wishing to renew the conversation around<br />
feminism in particular and gender balance in general. Making it more fun, more<br />
inclusive, more visual and creative.<br />
Our mission: to collect, produce, and spread information on everyday sexism<br />
and existing solutions!<br />
Our objective: transform each of us into a balancemaker!<br />
Contact us: shiftbalance@shiftbalance.org<br />
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BIBLIOGRAPHY<br />
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Here is a selection of cool feminist books you might be interested in. From<br />
deep theory to fun comics, you can learn more! Understanding is the first<br />
step to changing the world!<br />
The Chalice and the Blade: Our History, Our Future. Riane Eisler.<br />
The Power of Partnership: Seven Relationships that Will Change Your Life.<br />
Riane Eisler.<br />
The Real Wealth of Nations: Creating a Caring Economics. Riane Eisler.<br />
The Creation of Patriarchy. Gerda Lerner.<br />
We Should All Be Feminists. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.<br />
Bad Feminist: Essays. Roxane Gay.<br />
Goddesses in Everywoman: Powerful Archetypes in Women's Lives. Jean<br />
Shinoda.<br />
Feminism Is for Everybody: Passionate Politics. Bell hooks.<br />
Ain't I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism. Bell hooks.<br />
Separate and Dominate: Feminism and Racism after the War on Terror.<br />
Christine Delphy.<br />
King Kong theory. Virginie Despentes.<br />
The Second Sex. Simone de Beauvoir.<br />
Do it Like a Woman... and Change the World. Caroline Criado-Perez.<br />
Men Explain Things to Me. Rebecca Solnit.<br />
The Second Shift: Working Families and the Revolution at Home. Arlie<br />
Hochschild, Anne Machung.<br />
We Were Feminists Once: From Riot Grrrl to CoverGirl ® , the Buying and<br />
Selling of a Political Movement. Andi Zeisler.<br />
Free Women, Free Men: Sex, Gender, Feminism. Camille Paglia.<br />
Women Don't Ask: The High Cost of Avoiding Negotiation and Positive<br />
Strategies for Change. Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever.<br />
Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead. Sheryl Sandberg.<br />
Why Loiter?: Women and Risk on Mumbai Streets. Shilpa Phadke, Sameera<br />
Khan & Shilpa Ranade.<br />
Everyday Sexism: The Project that Inspired a Worldwide Movement. Laura<br />
Bates.<br />
The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are Used Against Women. Naomi<br />
Wolf.<br />
The Atlas of Beauty: Women of the World in 500 Portraits. Mihaela Noroc.<br />
Face Value: The Hidden Ways Beauty Shapes Women's Lives. Autumn<br />
Whitefield-Madrano.<br />
Womenomics: Work Less, Achieve More, Live Better. Claire Shipman and<br />
Katty Kay.<br />
The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance. What Women
Should Know. Katty Kay and Claire Shipman.<br />
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will<br />
People Think?" to "I Am Enough”. Brené Brown.<br />
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We<br />
Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Brené Brown.<br />
Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges. Amy Cuddy.<br />
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. Don Miguel<br />
Ruiz and Janet Mills.<br />
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD<br />
and Deepak Chopra.<br />
Unsuitable for Ladies: An Anthology of Women Travellers. Jane Robinson.<br />
Sport in Capitalist Society: A Short History. Tony Collins.<br />
Run Like a Girl: How Strong Women Make Happy Lives. Mina Samuels.<br />
The New Soft War on Women: How the Myth of Female Ascendance Is<br />
Hurting Women, Men and Our Economy. Caryl Rivers, Rosalind C. Barnett.<br />
Feminist Fight Club: A Survival Manual for a Sexist Workplace. Jessica<br />
Bennett.<br />
Full Frontal Feminism: A Young Woman's Guide to Why Feminism Matters.<br />
Jessica Valenti.<br />
Women of The Street: Why Female Money Managers Generate Higher Returns<br />
(and How You Can Too). M. Jones.<br />
Reset: My Fight for Inclusion and Lasting Change. Ellen Pao.<br />
Asking for It. Louise O'Neill.<br />
The Vagina Monologues. Eve Ensler.<br />
Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity. Judith Butler.<br />
The End of Men. And the Rise of Women. Hanna Rosin.<br />
Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman<br />
Archetype. Clarissa Pinkola Estés.<br />
Radical Feminist Therapy: Working in the Context of Violence. Bonnie<br />
Burstow.<br />
About religion<br />
When God Was a Woman. Merlin Stone.<br />
The Woman’s Bible. Elizabeth Cady Stanton.<br />
Qur'an and Woman: Rereading the Sacred Text from a Woman's Perspective.<br />
Amina Wadud.<br />
Women and Gender in Islam: Historical Roots of a Modern Debate. Leila<br />
Ahmed.<br />
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About education<br />
Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender<br />
Stereotypes. Christia Spears Brown.<br />
The Courage to Raise Good Men: You Don't Have to Sever the Bond with Your<br />
Son to Help Him Become a Man. Olga Silverstein, Beth Rashbaum.<br />
Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New<br />
Girlie-Girl Culture. Peggy Orenstein.<br />
Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape. Peggy Orenstein.<br />
Delusions of Gender: The Real Science Behind Sex Differences. Cordelia Fine.<br />
For your male friends<br />
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love. Bell Hooks.<br />
Gods in Everyman: Archetypes That Shape Men's Lives. Jean Shinoda Bolen.<br />
King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature<br />
Masculine. Robert Moore, Douglas Gillette.<br />
Man Up: Surviving Modern Masculinity. Jack Urwin.<br />
Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men. Michael Kimmel.<br />
Angry White Men: American Masculinity at the End of an Era. Michael Kimmel.<br />
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male<br />
Depression. Terrence Real.<br />
The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and and How All Men Can<br />
Help. Jackson Katz.<br />
Breaking Out of the "Man Box": The Next Generation of Manhood. Tony<br />
Porter.<br />
The Descent of Man. Grayson Perry.<br />
The Guy's Guide to Feminism. Michael Kaufman and Michael Kimmel.<br />
From Frazzled to Fabulous: How to Juggle a Successful Career, Fatherhood,<br />
Me-Time and Looking Good. MAN WHO HAS IT ALL.<br />
And some books in French<br />
La ville faite par et pour les hommes. Dans l’espace urbain, une mixité en<br />
trompe l’œil. Yves Raibaud.<br />
Les Femmes ou les Silences de l'Histoire. Michelle Perrot.<br />
Ainsi soit-elle. Benoite Groult.<br />
Commando culotte: Les dessous du genre et de la pop-culture. Mirion Malle.<br />
Culottées. Des femmes qui ne font ce qu'elles veulent. Pénélope Bagieu.<br />
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Documentaries<br />
The Mask You Live In<br />
The Hunting Ground<br />
The Invisible War<br />
Miss Representation<br />
FEMINISM IS A COLLECTIVE<br />
ADVENTURE, FOR WOMEN, MEN AND<br />
EVERYONE ELSE. A REVOLUTION,<br />
WELL UNDER WAY. A <strong>WORLD</strong>VIEW.<br />
A CHOICE. IT'S NOT A MATTER OF<br />
CONTRASTING WOMEN'S SMALL<br />
ADVANTAGES WITH MEN'S SMALL ASSETS,<br />
BUT OF SENDING <strong>THE</strong> WHOLE LOT FLYING.<br />
— Virginie Despentes. King Kong Theory.<br />
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Thank you<br />
This book would have never seen the light without the support of many people<br />
that I am grateful to have met.<br />
Thank you to the Pakistan based design team, including Tashfeen Ahmed, Komal<br />
Ashfaq, Hamza Tariq, Ahsan Qureshi, Usama Tauqeer, Moazzam Adil, for their<br />
outstanding work!<br />
A special thank you to Saad Hasnain for compiling the entire book.<br />
Thank you to all the creative designers who kindly allowed us to use their work.<br />
Thank you to Justin Sachs, Simone Alexander, Anna Cabó and Nisa Mac Mahon<br />
for thorough proofreading.<br />
Thank you to Najam Ul Assar for his patience and unconditional support.<br />
Thank you for reading the book. We hope you enjoyed it and feel free to<br />
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