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44 The Search For Significance SCHIZOPHRENIA Schizophrenia, which could be called the "Hider's Disease," is a condition in which people try to escape the pain of failure and rejection by creating their own separate world. Strong elements of rejection that are related to schizophrenia will be discussed in a following section. DEPRESSION Experiencing failure and fearing subsequent failure can lead people into deep depression. Once depressed, many people become passive in their actions, believing there is no hope for change. On the other hand, a depressed person may also experience intense anger concerning his failures. Depression is the body's means of blocking psychological pain by numbing physical and emotional functions. CHEMICAL DEPENDENCY Many people attempt to ease the pain and fear of failure by using drugs or alcohol. Although the chemicals are supposed to remove the pressure to perform, the pleasure of the moment is quickly followed by the despair of realizing an inability to cope without the chemical. This pain-pleasure cycle continues, slowly draining the life out of its victim. Users of cocaine, a currently popular drug, provide a clear example of this condition. A major reason for cocaine's popularity is its ability to produce feelings of greater self-esteem. However, it is interesting that generally, only successful people can afford the drug. Therefore, if success truly provided a sense of self-esteem, these people
The Performance Trap 45 would not be in the market for the drug in the first place. DISHONESTY Dishonesty is an attempt to hide a person's failure, but it seldom blunts the pain. Few of us tell blatant lies, but many of us are dishonest in a more subtle way: exaggerating the truth so good things will seem a little better or bad things will seem a little worse. Exaggerating the truth is another way we try to hide our failures or impress others. LOW MOTIVATION Much of what is known as low motivation or laziness can be better understood as hopelessness. If people believe they will fail, then they will have no reason to exert any effort. The pain they endure for their passivity seems relatively minor and acceptable compared to the more intense pain of genuinely trying and failing. SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION The emotional trauma caused by failure can cause disturbances in sexual activity. Then, rather than experiencing the pain of failing sexually, many tend to avoid sex altogether. The more sensitive you become to the fear of failure and the problems it may cause* the more you will understand your own behavior as well as the behavior others.
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ADDITIONAL MATERIAL AVAILABLE Workb
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