Agathokakological Tendencies

I have been thinking about men’s (or more broadly, human beings) indifference to other humans. Specifically in connection to violence against each other in regards to sex. So I felt grateful we were reading this article. I haven’t
read anything before that puts in such plain language “the indifference that men...who have been racialized as inferior, exhibit to the systematic violences inflicted upon women of color.” On a personal level (and I apologize if you
actually read these reflections...) but I carry in me a constant fear that something I do will somehow trigger “the other” in someone. “The other” being the hidden private character that sees me, and treats me, as an object. I carry
with me a fear that somehow something that I do gives them permission to expose this side of themselves where they have their way with me regardless of my consent. It is something I fear can happen at any moment without much
notice. And why do I feel as if it is my responsibility to tame that within someone else? And, like why the fuck would you treat some like that ever to begin with?
This year, feminism has been a big issue in South Korea due to a series of crimes
of sexual exploitation of females. This has shown that gender discrimination
and exploitation have been thoroughly carried out by the capitalist system This
is because they exploited the victim’s sex and labor in an efficient way by
targeting the young and inferior class of women.
The reason why sexual exploitation is the act of killing one’s souls is that it
objectifies those who are exploited and make them as an ‘other’. It resembles
colonialism, nationalist ideas that reject differences. So to me, the colonial
exploitation that Maria Lugones is describing throughout her writing was very
compelling. And her view on exploitation make me feel shame because I
hadn’t thought about the racial and sexual things.
Engageing with “Coloniality of Gender” has left me with an apprehension or perhaps a lack
of understanding of the lived experiences of women of color / feminism. Lugones begins
her essay with a polemical statements, “men who have themselves been targets of violent
domination and exploitation, any recognition of complicity or collaboration with the violent
domination of women of color”. Any conversation that aggregates an entire array of lived
experiences as “violent” can be militant and dismissive of the vast differences of experiences.