Letters from a Father to His Son
Letters from a Father to His Son John Mackenzie, 1848-1849 TRUTH, SELF-DENIAL, INDUSTRY, ECONOMY/FRUGALITY, CONTENTMENT, FRIENDSHIP, GOOD MANNERS, HEALTH, POLITICS, MORALITY,
Letters from a Father to His Son John Mackenzie, 1848-1849
TRUTH, SELF-DENIAL, INDUSTRY, ECONOMY/FRUGALITY, CONTENTMENT, FRIENDSHIP, GOOD MANNERS, HEALTH, POLITICS, MORALITY,
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GOOD MANNERS<br />
London, January 20th, 1849.<br />
My dear son,<br />
Manners, it has been said, make the man. This, however, is not<br />
al<strong>to</strong>gether so, because there are people who, <strong>from</strong> birth, habit,<br />
and a constant interaction with good society, possess the most<br />
unexceptionable manners—but nothing else. Such people, you<br />
must understand, would, in all probability, have been unbearable<br />
but for this advantage; and, if good manners make men, without<br />
natural good sense and ability pass current in the world—then<br />
how persuasive and engaging must be their effect when added <strong>to</strong><br />
a well-regulated mind and superior attainments and talents!<br />
Some people of vigorous intellects are apt <strong>to</strong> adopt a roughness<br />
of demeanor, showing their contempt for what they term a<br />
mincing gentility. Affectation of all sorts, whether of plainness or<br />
the reverse, is <strong>to</strong> be shunned. There is, nevertheless, a happy<br />
medium—that of being neither <strong>to</strong>o plausible and silky on the one<br />
hand, nor <strong>to</strong>o blunt and direct on the other hand—which it<br />
should be the study of every man of sense <strong>to</strong> attain. Indeed, it<br />
needs not much study <strong>to</strong> acquire such a manner, because the first<br />
step <strong>to</strong>wards it is the entire absence of all pretense and affectation<br />
<strong>from</strong> the mind, and the rejection of everything like foolery and<br />
foppery on the one hand—or rudeness and slovenliness on the<br />
other—in dress, language, and appearance.<br />
Young men should never obtrude their opinions on their seniors,<br />
nor be forward in speech among those older than themselves. I<br />
saw a youth once, not above fifteen or sixteen years old, tap his<br />
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