Letters from a Father to His Son

In cases where you come into contact with people many years
your seniors, or of a superior station to yourself, beware how you
allow any familiarity on their part to tempt you to a like
familiarity in return. Observe the same rule in writing letters.
Such people may call you by your first name, and may adopt a
friendly and familiar style of address towards both in speaking
and writing.
Do not, however, attempt the like with them. On the contrary,
maintain a proper and respectful address and tone, both in your
language, writing, and manners. This will show those who may
notice you your good sense and good breeding, as well as the
solidity of your character. They will see that they have nothing to
fear from any forwardness or presumption on your part, and
they will place a reliance on your disposition and conduct; while
a flippant and pert behavior, and attempts at facetious jocularity,
or ill-timed and vulgar pleasantry with your superiors—will only
cause you to be set down as a shallow fellow, unworthy of further
notice or respect.
When you are conversing with others of your own age and
station, do not be continually speaking of yourself and of your own
sayings and doings. This is called egotism, and is vulgar and
ungentlemanly, besides being a bore to your companions. Let
your talk be of matters of general interest, and be a patient and
attentive listener to others. Most people are fond of hearing
themselves talk, especially the young, and every one likes a good
listener.
In short, a gentleman's manners should be a type and mirror of
his mind. The mind should be industrious, virtuous, and
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