Business Strategy E-Magazine August 2021

• EMOTIONAL ACCEPTANCE
– The important thing here is to
recognize, notice the emotion,
stay in the moment and accept
the emotion. Every emotion is
experienced for a reason and
knocks at our door to get our
attention. If we deny it, do not
attend to it, suppress it, it will
keep on trying, keep on resurfacing
until we pay attention.
The moment we acknowledge
and accept the emotion, its intensity
reduces by itself. We
must name the emotion. For
example, I say: “I feel left out
and insecure because I was
not invited to the party, but my
friends were.” It would help to
view the emotions as understandable,
hence, I might think:
“No wonder I feel left out — it’s
natural to feel that way in this
situation.” Treating ourselves
kindly and understandingly
given the way we feel helps us
accept our emotions as reasonable,
and assures that it’s OK
to feel whatever way we feel.
Emotional Acceptance means
acknowledging the feeling or
the emotion but not getting
overwhelmed by it.
• EMOTIONAL TOLERANCE
- Something in the external
world triggers it, and we feel
the splurge of emotions inside
us, and without knowing we
have an impulsive, spontaneous
reaction to the situation.
When the intensity of the emotions
is gone, we often realize
that we shouldn’t have reacted
the way we did. The intensity
with which we feel the emotion
might change tomorrow, but
what we do, how we react out of
that emotion is permanent and
can leave scars on our relations
forever. What we need to remember
is to avoid this impulsive
reaction, tolerate the emotion
and not react to it. What
is in my control is my reaction,
not the trigger. Our ability to
stay with the overwhelming,
disabling or uncomfortable
emotion till the intensity of the
emotion goes down is called as
Emotional Tolerance.
• EMOTIONAL RESOLUTION
- Our feelings never come
from circumstances or people.
Our feelings come from
our thoughts. For example – I
am not feeling UPSET because
my boss yelled at me, I am feeling
UPSET because I feel he is
yelling at me as he does not respect
and value me. The words
that we attach to the feeling
when a situation occurs is what
troubles us. We are constant
meaning-making machines.
We attach meanings to almost
everything that we experience.
Does it means giving meaning
is wrong? Maybe not but think
about the price that we pay at
the end of the day by reacting
to these meanings.
Managing emotional reactions
means choosing how and when to
express the emotions we feel. People
who do a good job of managing
emotions know that it’s healthy
to express their feelings — but it
also matters how and when they
express them. That’s how they’re
able to react to situations in productive
ways. We always have a
choice about how to react to situations.
It’s easier to make choices
that work out well. Learning to
react well takes practice, but we
can get better at taking emotional
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