QNotes, August 20, 2021

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Open Relationships vs. Cheating
Tell Trinity
Dear Trinity,
There’s no such thing as an open relationship.
A relationship is a “contract,” a “commitment,”
and if that contract is broken, there’s
no relationship. So, if my partner came home
after screwing around on me, then said, “I love
you,” I’d ram a pipe up their backside!
Commitment or Pipe, Kansas City, MO
Dear Commitment or Pipe,
Did you know, some people have “closed”
committed relationships like what you’re describing,
while others have open committed
relationships, which includes sex outside the
relationship, and that, believe it or not works
great for them? Talking to many folks in long,
long-term relationships has exposed me to
many ideas about relationships, opening
my (closed) eyes. If you have an agreement
to be monogamous, then you don’t have an
open relationship, period. But, honey, if your
partner one day does “cheat,” then hopefully
you’ll love them enough to deal with it
“openly.” Agreements change throughout a
relationship and throughout time whether
you pipe it… I mean, like it or not!
Love, Trinity
Hello Trinity,
My boyfriend loves me but wants me to
be things I’m not, like playing or watching
lots of sports. I don’t enjoy them, but I do it
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for him. Lately, he keeps insisting that my
pleasure of people watching or shopping at
the mall is something he wants me to stop.
Will I ever get to be me?
Sincerely, I Gotta Be Me, Dallas, TX
Hello I Gotta Be Me,
Sure you will. When one becomes two,
there’s a little give and take, sometimes
even a lot. Good for you for being flexible.
And, pumpkin, if you start feeling disrespected
or being disrespectful to your own
needs, you and he may need to have a
“lets’ compromise” pow-wow!
Dearest Trinity,
I’m originally from America, but I’ve
been living in Montreal, Canada for the
past three years. The gay men here are tres
gorgeous but are lacking personality, unlike
men from the states. Help!
Montreal Men, Montreal, QC
Dearest Montreal Men,
Americans do have an open spirit
that may lack amongst some beautiful
and gay Quebecois. Why do you think
the Webster Dictionary puts “looks” and
“personality” 320 pages apart! But don’t
be discouraged by what you’ve seen so
far in the dating scene. Darling, keep
meeting people, keep kissing cheeks
and eventually you’ll find a Quebecois…
with an American joie de vie.
Love, Trinity
Hey Trinity,
I’m dating a woman who drives like a
maniac. How do I get her to drive normally
when I’m in the car without sounding like a
neurotic date?
Thanks, Driving Complaints, Cincinnati, OH
Hey Driving Complaints,
When some folks drive, they forget
they’re on a date, and not at the Daytona
500. So sweetie, besides offering to drive
(for the rest of your lives together) try
sending her:
Trinity’s Cautious Tips for Driving With a Date
1. NO tailgating. It’s guaranteed to scare your date! One car length for every 10 mph please!
2. NO road raging. Having to listen to someone yelling, being aggressive AND driving is
awful and unattractive!
3. NO speeding. It always makes someone feel like they’ve been kidnapped!
4. NO breaking the law. If you’re trying to impress a date, running lights and stop signs
definitely won’t do it!
5. NO talking on the cellphone. Not even your loving mother wants to watch you drive
and chat. Plus, you’re on a date, so TURN OFF the cellphone!
6. NO driving offensively. It makes your passengers fear for their lives!
7. However, DO drive defensively. Let others make mistakes around you without having
to reprimand them. A date is a time to act light, peaceful and forgiving!
8. DO drive patiently, like you have Lady Gaga in the car.
9. DO wear your seatbelt.
10. And lastly, DO remember, a car is a weapon that can kill you and your date, who is just
trying to get to know you… not trying to share a funeral with you! : :
With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity hosted “Spiritually Speaking” a weekly radio drama,
performed globally and is now minister of WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings. Sponsored
by: WIG Ministries, www.wigministries.org Gay Spirituality for the Next Generation!
Send e-mails to: Trinity@telltrinity.com
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