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intentionally—with a clear sense
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It was always my father’s dream t
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SEEDS AND WEEDSAs monks, we learned
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wish… I wish…” I wish my part
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progress because we do not realize
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network, a narrow intention. Both d
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longer, is uncomfortable and tiring
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TRY THIS: BREATHWORKHere are powerf
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PART TWOGROW
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skills, study them, see how improvi
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The aging computers in our library
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You can’t be anything you want.Bu
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Second, a bad grade in school doesn
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ourselves spending our careers in Q
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she got a group of her colleagues o
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organized at Accenture were the hig
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live in our dharma. A Guide, as you
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Mode of ImpullseExplore and experim
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Build structures and frameworks for
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it. Do you like helping families pu
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Instead of listening to our minds,
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comfort zone. Though your dharma is
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Knowing your purpose and ful lling
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It wasn’t always that easy. Every
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EARLY TO RISEHere is my rst recomme
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Medditation. Spend fifteen minutes
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The goal of all this preparation is
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plan. But no, our leader is somehow
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Or vice versa, if you usually put o
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We are constantly experiencing a ra
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The brain processes sound even when
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GOING ALL THE WAYRoutines become ea
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I recommend using immersive experie
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The other voice urges me onward:
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then make us feel guilty or bad abo
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The parent is the smarter voice. If
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never meditated, and secured a ther
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bond, from rejected enemy to truste
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Start talking to yourself every day
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conversation you have. Even if you
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If you don’t like writing, you ca
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lessons we’ve learned in the past
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nothing, but that nothing should ow
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find in silence that I can’t get
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technology. Do you use it out of bo
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skills, he said, “We train our br
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present to the world. It is a compl
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THE EGO CREATES FALSE HIERARCHIESBu
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The fourth looks at his companions,
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barrier that nothing can cross, and
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Not only am I reeling with the idea
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aware of our ego on a daily basis.
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“You’re looking at how they’r
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she spent seven years going door-to
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The table above doesn’t just show
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encourage your intellectual growth
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REAL GREATNESSYou shouldn’t feel
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MEDITATIONVISUALIZEDuring meditatio
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You feel the sand beneath your feet
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PART THREEGIVE
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GRATITUDE IS GOOD FOR YOUIt’s har
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injuries, some discuss lost loves.
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the Creator. Imagine what the world
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goes to “this.” When you say,
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Kindness—and the gratitude that f
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feeling like you want to reciprocat
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and moments that you shared. Look a
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TENRELATIONSHIPSPeople WatchingEver
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He was right. Too often we love peo
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Care. We need to know a person care
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and principles, but monks aren’t
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as all seasons do. Another person m
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their responses would help to answe
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appeal with trust, we set ourselves
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AN INTENTIONAL LOVE LIFENow that we
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may not have spent all of my waking
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that will be your quality time, wit
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TRY THIS: MAKE YOUR CONVERSATION IN
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In How to Love, Thich Nhat Hanh wri
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with alcohol, with drugs, with work
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OVERCOMING HEARTBREAKIt can be hard
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yourself better. Build your self-es
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and I feel like I’ve absorbed the
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solely for the bene t of others. Th
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Studies show that when we pursue
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TRY THIS: EXTEND YOUR RADIUS OF CAR
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with fewer resources tend to need t
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bring your dharma to work, bring se
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Like Satyarthi, we are motivated to
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MEDITATIONCHANTWe have explored how
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chanting in a stadium—minus the a
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ConclusionI hope this book has insp
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3. Make yourself comfortable in thi
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conscious of now and forever. We me
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think about the impact you’ve had
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a. Documentaries, biographies, huma
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c. Urge them to have a drink or tak
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AcknowleddgmentsI feel truly humble
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Author’s NoteIn this book I have
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