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I have talked to many women in the states and no one<br />
really wants to talk about it. It’s the biggest secret and<br />
nobody wants to talk about menopause for what it really<br />
is. Or, they’ll talk about it when they get there. After you<br />
get through perimenopause (which gives menopause a<br />
bad name), the years after, during post-menopause, are<br />
really good. And that’s the point, but it’s this medical<br />
thing, and it’s the same thing for men, because men<br />
go through male menopause. It’s this fear that you lose<br />
your sexuality and you will become something less than<br />
you are, but actually you become more than the sum<br />
of your parts, and that’s a real opportunity. And nobody<br />
was talking about that. It’s all based on science and if<br />
you don’t listen to what your brain is telling you to do,<br />
which is really scary, then you think 50 is ancient. My<br />
mother and grandmother thought it was their right<br />
to sit in a rocking chair and do nothing, but we know<br />
now that’s not what successful aging is all about, and<br />
we have a clear idea now what successful aging is. Our<br />
generation needs to take that knowledge and use that and<br />
set the example—like we did for equality in government,<br />
equality in education—and take that activist mindset<br />
and apply it to the second half of our life. Then we have<br />
really given a gift to our children, to our grandchildren.<br />
Actually, we are going to be the first generation to live to<br />
four generations.<br />
BOWDOIN: This year coming up is the 40 th<br />
anniversary of women attending <strong>Bowdoin</strong> <strong>College</strong>,<br />
which means that, when you came in the fall of ’73,<br />
women will still very new here. It was the year of Billy<br />
Jean King and Bobby Riggs, the battle of the sexes,<br />
Roe v Wade was that year…What was it like to be on a<br />
campus that was only twenty-five percent women when<br />
you were a first-year student? Do you think it made you<br />
into a different kind of woman?<br />
SHAW RUDDOCK: It was amazing. No problem.<br />
I think I was always quite tough. I always loved<br />
competitive sports; I think I have a lot of testosterone<br />
in me! Some women do and that’s why I ended up at<br />
It’s this fear that you lose your<br />
sexuality and you will become<br />
something less than you are,<br />
but actually you become more<br />
than the sum of your parts,<br />
and that’s a real opportunity.<br />
26 BOWDOIN SUMMER 2011<br />
Alex Brown, and I really loved that role. Nobody scared<br />
me, and that’s a very male thing. Men don’t seem to get<br />
scared, but women are much more fearful.<br />
I loved it (at <strong>Bowdoin</strong>), and I was very happy. Also, for<br />
me, coming from the background that I did, to be in an<br />
environment like this, which is so beautiful, people are<br />
so bright, so interesting. I really did view it as gender<br />
neutral. I’ve never looked at men and women as being<br />
different. Three of my best friends from here were men,<br />
and there was never a sexual relationship, they were just<br />
friends. They are still my best friends, and I’m godmother<br />
to all their children. And, so, it was great and it didn’t<br />
matter that there weren’t many women.<br />
BOWDOIN: There are some women who say they felt<br />
like they were in a fishbowl and that it was hard to be in<br />
the minority, causing some to do things they might not<br />
otherwise do.<br />
SHAW RUDDOCK: I didn’t find that at all. I<br />
absolutely loved my years here. I loved the men I met,<br />
I loved the women I met (they are with me, still in<br />
my life). I really think it’s important for women to<br />
have close male friends, and I think <strong>Bowdoin</strong> gave me<br />
that opportunity to build these lifelong relationships.<br />
My godson is here now, and his father is one of my<br />
best friends. He got married and had five ushers in his<br />
wedding—I was eight months pregnant, and I was his<br />
fifth usher. He had his four best male friends and me. I<br />
could have been a bridesmaid, but it wouldn’t have been<br />
appropriate, as I really needed to be on his side. Whatever<br />
it was at <strong>Bowdoin</strong> at the time, I was willing to accept it<br />
because I loved <strong>Bowdoin</strong>.<br />
BOWDOIN: In your book, you talk about Freud,<br />
about scientific research, and about popular culture. You<br />
were a government major who went into advertising and<br />
magazines and then moved into finance. You are not just<br />
the poster child for the second half of your life; you are<br />
the poster child for the liberal arts. Do you think your<br />
education had anything to do with your approach to<br />
writing this book?<br />
SHAW RUDDOCK: I think <strong>Bowdoin</strong> had so much<br />
to do with it. <strong>Bowdoin</strong> is an incredible environment. It<br />
is a very safe environment to be able to explore all the<br />
different parts of your self, and there’s no fear of failure<br />
here; I think it’s really important that you can experiment<br />
and not have that fear. The early years were so important<br />
to me because I grew up in the inner city of Baltimore;<br />
I went to a state school (my school was 95% black). My<br />
elementary school was the first school to be integrated<br />
in Baltimore in 1963. By the time I got to high school,