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Joe Provence watches while his wife, Freda, turns a wheel on a press in the Steinway Piano Factory in
New York.
NEITHER: Worry is life
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when I was older made me
a true believer. At one time
I thought there was hope in
ocean water and desalinization,
which would involve
huge cross country pipelines,
but that hasn’t happened yet.
I tell myself that when water
gets as expensive as gas,
some entrepreneur will fi nd
a way.
Like Charlie Brown, I
have a lot to worry about —
the economy, immigration,
health care, education, if my
car is going to start every
morning, if my computer
will crash when I’m paginating
a lifestyles page, if the
camera batteries are charged
. . . I’m like that little dog
on the Travelers Insurance
commercial trying to fi nd a
safe place to put his bone to
the background of “wor-ry,
worry, worry, worry.”
My son reminds me when
I start a round of worries
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about the grandgirls driving
on country highways or in
big city traffi c (one grandgirl
and her girlfriend, both 19,
drove from Los Angeles to
Plainview in July, which
really got my worry machine
in gear) not to worry
so much. He outright laughs
when I start on things like
space junk.
Still, I decided long ago
that worrying is my job,
and my kids fi nally agreed.
I heard one daughter telling
a friend that she didn’t have
to worry about an upcoming
test.
“I’m not going to worry,”
she said. “Mom does it for
me.”
I’ve been thinking. If
your worries are getting you
down, send me a list and, as
a public service, I’ll do the
worrying for you.
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ed with a visit to Steinway
Hall in midtown Manhattan.
“We fi nished our day with
dinner at the Brooklyn Diner
and a carriage ride in Central
Park,” Provence says, telling
how the iconic carriage ride
was the perfect ending to an
exciting day.
Being that it was the fi rst
time in New York for the
couple, they signed up for a
fi ve-hour boat and bus tour
on Tuesday.
“We saw nearly every
major landmark in New
York. After our earthquake
experience, we attended the
‘Follies’ that evening. The
story line was a reunion
of old actors, one played
by Bernadette Peters. The
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musical was good and just
what you would expect from
Broadway.”
With their extensive background
in the fi ne arts, the
Provences attended two musicals
on Wednesday, “The
Fantasticks” and “Anything
Goes.”
Provence was in Wayland’s
production of “The
Fantasticks” in 1965, which
was the fi rst amateur group
to ever perform the play.
“ ‘Fantasticks’ was in a
small, intimate, black box
theatre, and it was wonderful,”
Provence raves. “We
were on the front row and
they actually sat in our laps
at one point. ‘Anything
Goes’ was at the Sondheim
Theatre. It was a true Broadway
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lots of outstanding dancing
and singing — Freda and I
left the theater singing and
dancing.”
Thursday was a rainy
day, and the Provences took
advantage of city shopping.
“It quit raining about
3 p.m. Later, we took the
water tour of the New York
harbor. The city at night is
something to see. It was a
glorious site with those tall
buildings and lights, and we
had a breathtaking view of
Lady Liberty.
“This was truly the trip of
a lifetime and one which will
live in our memories for as
long as we have them.”
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Daughter’s world is rocked when she learns of father’s infi delity
Dear Margo: I’m having
diffi culty coping with the
news of my father’s recent
infi delity. I found out that he
was in a short-lived relationship
with another woman
who is also married, and
only a few years older than
me. (By the way, I found
this out the day before my
birthday and was sick with
the fl u.) I never thought
my father could be capable
of such behavior. In truth,
I’ve always had him on a
pedestal. To me, he was the
perfect worker, father and
husband. He was the bar by
which I measured others.
Now, knowing the truth, I
feel my world shattering.
I need to be a rock for my
mother. She needs me, but I
can’t get past my own feelings
of hurt to be any help
to her. How do I get past my
selfi shness to be there for
her? How do I act around
my father when he wants to
pretend that nothing happened?
— Trying To Cope
Dear Try: You do not say
how he and your mother
have been dealing with his
brief affair. Your hurt and
your mother’s are quite
different. Many girls make
the ol’ man into Mr. Perfect,
which of course is unrealistic.
The fact that the fl ing
was with someone close to
your own age suggests a
midlife crisis, or at the very
least an aberration. I would
hope you could internalize
the fact that people often fall
short of our expectations.
You are not selfi sh because
you are hurt, but remember
that you are not the primary
wronged party.
MARGO
HOWARD
As for your dad wanting
to pretend nothing happened,
I hope you can tell him you
are disappointed and hurt,
and perhaps a useful discussion
will follow. The bottom
line is that I don’t think a
child is the one who can really
help the betrayed spouse
. . . unless it is to listen and
be supportive. — Margo,
maturely
Dear Margo: I’m not
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sure if you can help me,
but I fi gure it’s worth a try.
My boyfriend and I were
high-school sweethearts.
We’ve been together more
than 10 years. We want to
get married once our loans
and debts are paid off, and
“someday” is happily getting
closer.
The problem is, while I
know I absolutely want to
marry him, I’m very unsure
about a wedding. I’d really
like to do something to
celebrate the occasion, but
I am completely intimidated
by the planning and
process of a wedding. I
didn’t even attend my own
college graduation. Plus,
I bailed out of the graduation
party my family was
planning for me, so they
canceled it.
I defi nitely want some-
Howell and Bonnie George,
fourth.
Thursday
Section A
Hiroka Howell and Ann
McCormick, fi rst; Sue Glenn
and Jo Ann Young, second;
Bette Belk and Ruth Harper,
third; Alma Pittenger and
Nancy Greer, fourth.
thing more than a courthouse
ceremony, and a “small,
intimate wedding” won’t do
because I have a large family.
I also have an issue with
all the hype around weddings
and graduations. My
boyfriend and I don’t drink
or dance. We don’t even like
having our picture taken.
While I like some aspects
of a “traditional” wedding
(namely, the ceremony,
dress and cake), I would be
nervous about the whole
thing.
Money also plays a huge
role, as my boyfriend and
I would be footing the bill
ourselves. Any suggestions?
— Potential Runaway
Bride
Dear Po: You are clearly
not a girl who enjoys parties,
celebrations or attention.
Luckily, your fella shares
your views. Given what you
tell me, I would defi nitely
elope and save wear and
tear, nervousness ... and
money.
To make things more than
a courthouse ceremony,
why not invite both sets of
parents, sibs and only your
closest friends to dinner
without saying you will
arrive there as man and
wife? Ask the restaurant if
they would prepare something
wedding cake-ish for
dessert.
People will be thrilled
with the surprise, and
everyone will understand
that you chose not to go the
traditional route. — Margo,
minimally
Dear Margo is written by Margo
Howard, Ann Landers’ daughter.
dearmargo@creators.com
Polycystic disease causes kidneys to develop clusters of cysts, is incurable
DEAR DR. GOTT: My
son was recently diagnosed
with polycystic kidney
disease (PKD) at age 27. He
was told he’s had it all his
life since it’s hereditary. He
is upset that his newborn son
has a 50 percent chance of
having it, too.
He has been going
through a thorough work-up
to determine a base line, but
before he sees his nephrologist
again, I thought he
might benefi t from having
independent information to
help him.
Currently he has enlarged
kidneys with many cysts on
both and a liver cyst. He has
had a blood pressure problem
since college and has
been tired most of his life. A
heart murmur was detected
when he was young, so
he takes antibiotics before
dental work.
I’ve heard there are things
you can do to help slow
down the progression of this
disease. I know it is incurable
at present, but I understand
that a cure may be possible
within his lifetime.
The long-term problems
are diffi cult for me to talk
about, so I hope you will
mention them as well has
any other possible symptoms
and treatments.
DEAR READER: Polycystic
kidney disease causes
the kidneys to develop
clusters of cysts (fl uid-fi lled
sacs). The cysts are non-cancerous
and can also affect
other organs, such as the
liver. It varies in severity.
The most common sign is
high blood pressure. Other
signs include kidney stones,
kidney failure, headache,
frequent urination, urinary
tract or kidney infections,
back or side pain, an increase
in abdomen size and
blood in the urine.
Polycystic kidney disease
is most commonly caused
by genetic defects passed
from parent to child. Rarely,
a spontaneous genetic
mutation can occur, caus-
DR. PETER
GOTT
ing an individual without a
family history to develop the
disorder.
There are two types of
PKD. The fi rst, autosomal
dominant polycystic kidney
disease (ADPKD), accounts
for approximately 90 percent
of all cases. Only one parent
needs to be affected to pass
it down. Each child born to
that individual has a 50 percent
chance of inheriting the
disease. Symptoms typically
begin between ages 30 and
40, although children can
also develop them.
The second form, autosomal
recessive polycystic
kidney disease (ARPKD),
is much less common, accounting
for the remaining
10 percent of cases. This
form requires each parent
to have the abnormal
gene, passing them to their
children.
There are several complications
of PKD. High
blood pressure, if left untreated,
increases the risk
of heart disease and stroke.
Loss of kidney function
and kidney failure can
occur as the cysts enlarge,
increasing pressure and
causing scarring of normal
kidney tissue. About
half of all sufferers will
have kidney failure by age
60. Female PKD sufferers
carry a greater risk of
developing pre-eclampsia
(a disorder of pregnancy).
The development of liver
cysts increases with age.
Brain aneurysm is more
likely in PKD sufferers,
especially in those under
age 50. Approximately
one-quarter develop mitral
valve prolapse, a type of
heart valve abnormality.
Chronic back or side pain
may occur. And, fi nally,
diverticulosis is more common
in those with PKD.
While the disease is incurable,
many of the symptoms
can be treated as they arise.
Blood pressure can be controlled
through diet, exercise
and medication. Pain can be
treated with over-the-counter
and prescription pain relievers
as needed. Urinary tract
and kidney infections should
be treated promptly with antibiotics.
Kidney failure can
be managed with dialysis
and/or transplant.
Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician.
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