Articles Book I - Pg 66-180 (1977) - triadoption

Arlic/e SEVENTEEN IWGAZINE 

OCTOBER 1977 

REPRINTED BY PERMISSION OF 

E.J. LIFTON 

by Betty Jean Lifion 

adoptees 

search for their parents 

During lhc past eight monlhs. I havc re. 

coivod hundreds ol lcllcrs lrom adoplcdorigins. 

Somctimoe not knowing can seem 

unboornblo. As one Icon snid: "I holc being 

low. Thoir slalls hnvc gcncnlogical skPla: 

they kcop lilos on ndoplcos and nalurel 

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end nonodopled-rondors in rcsponsc lo 

my nrliclc in SEVENTEEN, "My SC~lcli 101 

My Roots" (March. 1977). aboul o 1ccn.ngc 

lold I'm no1 old enough lo know." 

Why dld lhey glvc me up7 

11's hnrd lo undcrslond how a molher 

porenls wilh lhc hopo of molchinp them. 

Whom do I lind7 

Many odoplecs are olraid 01 whom they'll i 

odoploo's scorch lor hor nalural mother. could givo up her bsby. Ollcn. Iho kids lhlnk lind-or ol bcing lurnud away by lhosc lhcy 

Whol slruck me mosl nbwl llicso lollere lherc was somcllilng wrong wilh llicm. A locale. Bul lhcy usually lind o vary nico. 

was how dcsporalely odoplcos necd lo 

share lhcir lcclings and how lsolnlcd lhoy 

lrcqucnl qucslion: "Wos I illegilimolo?" 

Mosl adoplecs' nolurol molhcrs arc 

ordinary woman who is married and has e 

family of her own. If the mothor has 001 hid- 

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loo1 wlien lhey don'l. For ollhough lhc ma. young, unmarried womon who could no1 den lhe eorllcr blrlh, sho may be glad lo 

jorily apoko londcrly oboul lholr ndoplivc ptovido o homo lor their bnbios, who, nllcr hear lrom lhc adoplec. Bul If sho has kcpl 

parentti, many ol lhosc sarno pcoplo were a painlul doclsion, arrangod for lho baby this painlul secrcl lo herself, shc's likoly lo 

alraid lo discuss lhcso feelings wilh lhcm. lo bo placed wilh o suilable lnmily. hcsitalo ond lhcn arrange> private meCl. 

Somo hnld-lo.answor queslions were ropoolcd 

In every leller, and lhcso arc llic 

ones I've chosen lo wrile oboul iicrc. 

Who am I7 

Everyono asks "Who Am 17"-bul parliculorly 

icon.agcrs, sinco odolosconco is 

Ihc lime lor pulling logelher an idonlily. 

And lhis Is on cspccisiiy hnrd qucslion lor 

Somc ol tho leller wrilcrs wore unmarried 

moltiors who hod reccnliy givcn up 

thcir bables lor odoplion. Thcy wrolo ol tho 

ogony they'd gone llirough becnuso ol lho 

love they lelt lor lhclr child. Mosl hopcd 

lhol somcdoy lhclr child would search lor 

Ihom-and lorgivo lhcm. 

Tho adoplecs did no1 cnpress anger at 

ing. Few niolhors reluse lo moo1 lhc edoplor-only 

aboul onc in a hundred. 

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Ollcn tho nalural rnolhcr is rcluClnnl lo , I 

reveal tho nomc ol tho lalhcr.'And he may ; 

be ombivatcn\ nbout hearing llom !he 

adoplee. Ho may, lor cxamplc. fen1 a / 

l~nancial claim will be made on him. ! 

What happcnt allar reunlon? 

odopled kids lo onswcr, sinco llioy ollen 

know nolhing aboul lhoir background. 

One edoploe wrolo: "I canal holp won. 

being given up-lhcy iusl wanlcd lo know 

why. One wrolo: "I was never mad ol my 

rvolher. Evon lliough I don'l know who she 

Adoplccs who hove bcen reunilcd wilh j 

one or moro pnrenls soy things like: "I j 

lee1 bellcr aboul rnyscll." "I1 has changcd i 

dcring, whorl I mccl sorneono, il lliis person is or wtlol shc's I~ke. I love her because my Idle." "My mind is now ol easo." 

could bo my brelhcr or sislnr." 

to me ~ho's my Only nlolhcr." Olhcrs I lhink 11's solo lo say lhal you lind nOl 

Evon lhough sdoplecs lcaiiro they aro wanlcd lo lliank lhoir mqlhors lor giving so much a parcnl 0s YOU find youlscll. I 

Iho sons and dauyhlors ol llioir ndoplivc lhcrn a grcal lilo will1 lhcir adoplivo parenls. don'l know ol nny ndoplcc who is sorry shc 

pnrenls, il they wan1 lo, lhcy sliould bo nblc 

lo know who lhoir origlnol pnrcnls are loo. 

Who are they7 

A lo1 01 adoplecs lhink aborrl lhcir natural 

porcnls whcn lhcy look in lho rriirror, wondoring 

whoso cyes lhoy have, whoso color 

01 hair, whose rlosc, whoso body typo. 

How do I bcgin lo search7 

For many roosons. 11's hard lo ligura 0111 

whore lo slnrl looklng. You cnn'l scarcli 

wilhoul o name. which mosl adoplecs don'l 

havc. Records arc legally sealed in oll bul 

Iwo slolcs-Alobomo and Kansas-ond 

adoplion agoncios give only doscripllons 

ol pnrenls. not idonlifying 

has searchcd-no rnnller whom she finds. 

Everyono needs to know lho lrulh. How- ; 

over, be propnrcd lor a feeling ol lcldown 

allerrcard. Nalutol parenls aro i"volvcd In / 

lhcir own lives. Thcy ollun lcclguilly aboul 

Iho adoplce-and cvcn the adoplivc par- i 

onls. And the ndoploo finds lhal sho )ins no1 1 

magically clicmgcd but is alill lho solno 

-1 don't know any adoptee 

Inlormalion. Mony odop- 

I~VC porcnls dony having 

person wilh tho soma problems, alltiougli 

Iho reunion is likoly lo enablo hor lo don1 

who's sorry she searchedno 

matter whom she finds' 

lnls lnlorrnnllon, and ndop. 

lees ore ollen alrald lo ask 

lhcm lor it anyway. 

WtlCn on ndopleo is 

with lhcm bcllcr. 

Mosl adoplcos do no1 loci Ilia1 tho I ' 

woman lhcy lind Is lholr molhor, bul ratlior 

a very spc~ial friend. They also lool closor / 

ClflillCCn. she con oeliliori lo lhcir ndoolivo nnrenls becnuso ~ lhov I 

All kids a1 one limo or onollior prolend 

lhnl lhoy'ro odopled, lhal ittoir ruol parents 

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tho court lor hcr rocordo in lho s1o16 whcro know thcro nro no more sccrols. i 

llcr adoplion was rnadc final. II It10 lud~o 01 courec, not cvery adoptcc has lo , 

oro royally who will suddenly oppear and leels she has sliown "good catlso." 110 will rcarch lor hor natural parcnls, bul I boliovo 

claim lliom. Bul llie ndoploo is nOl inlagin- open hcr lilo. Thin ctinnnel car1 bo ealicri- you havc tho righl lo know your oriuins il ; 

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ln0-sI10 really does Ilovo 0lt10r 1)~110111s. SIVC.--and does no1 always work. Tllo bcsl you wan1 lo. As ono lccn wrolc: "I noed my 

And though silo rrlay dreom llioy IloVC royol roulo is lhrough one of Ill0 niany adoplec pabl in ordor lo linish growing up." 

blood, she elso worries lliol Ilioy may no1 search groups around Itlo counlry: ALMA nol t,llon ;, rho , ,,,. 

bc such nico puoplc. in Now Yr~rk arid Cnlil~lnin: Orpllon Voyage OUI or -0 Asorled Oauphlsr" (P*niludi. I? $0). Any. 

ll's dillicull lo havc n aood opililori ol In Cr!rliucdgo, Co:orado. and Qoslon; Ycs- """ I" """"'0 *" '"""* pen "Or 

wriru rho svrhor in cars or SCVCN~TEN. HM ihird 

youlscll when you think you rriigtil Illlvo bad lvrdily's Cll~ldr~.n in Chlcogo, lo rbamc jlrsl a N,. yorr.'~.y. IW. 

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Adoptees push for 'T 

1 right lo S G ~ pa;-eni., ; 

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SAN FRANCISCO llnl - I( MI% Rlllcrs r~v~~llvcl WIIIIVX "1 III~III'I know whnl lhnl Ill~-lr 11#11111 chllllrcn wlrh nlhcr. ! 

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lwh hlnry JI Rlllrr~~, WIJI wtlr rlI~'r111~t11 11%. S~.OI,IO~II Ill~'nlll. 'l'llrrc WII~ nl~nlllcr lon~ w1.r. 

nllnplrd 11s chlhl, rl~hl ypllrr 111 ~~r~~.!~.t11~~1~1Sll 11'1$1 .-I* 111!r..l llrr 111111'~1~, 111111 IIII'II IIr ~llld, 'Thll la A lnurp n~tnlt*r~~Ir rapprw h li 

Irnrr hrr roclls, llul ihr rmrc)l 111 trnlt I' Ilg'r I*~!I*?.!,. "II~I~~III:II 11 111~ IIIIIQ~I~IYI 

dny 111 IY Ilfc: f11v1111vl by h i llnn.l~~l, n 

pnl~l oft. srr~r,t (11 I~VI 8th I:I IIIW~III 

IWU "WI, )!III nn n plllrlr In II frw f111111tl~~r 111 1111* Atlr~lvlrtl I' Irvnlr 

ARslnrl lhr fnrmlclnhlc II~. V~rrk~." 

hllllrs 111111 rwnl Ihc wrrhrnd ('IIIIIIIIIII~I~, 11 [lrlvlllr IIII:~~I~II. 

31111.Irr nf $ln!e lIlws 111nl prr. Aftcr "n frt~slrntl~~t! r

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' foumk of lhe Ado led Parent8 Comn111~,'a privalo or. . pampa of adult idq~leea md pup@ ~yeb.6~eking each 

W o n in New hrk state, und ita legal cow!, Aamn : :plhcr,: : . . . :, ! I ? , ., .. 

h- a Law Ielmdcr and adopUyp iatbcr, ,. .. . . :. ... :,,I .....- & .\ . $ . 

!. ., , M k Bandol sa He favw pnw~ fou~syn f p.;rdu& s ~ be- c ~ 

8 adult ado tees are en~~ed @'tho do- . fore they yo s0o*.rdtolus~nam$&Mm'lcp."~c~. 

Wlr cd thok blr X mnd adoptfon. ". . . but not.at tho expcm 

d Fdr biological parontn." 

M t r d~ d Wb oren wrda deny mwi. la 

patural parent8 rnuld lead b greater ab owyt of un- 

, Bub fine and Britvan su8gesr an agency' , . (~'&-~alch 

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vrn conrlou)y thlnklng about talnr tile prcrlnus namr thal llrs clone hluflcld htada the A~soclrtlon for the 

rtarchln~, wr4 a sign 01 disloyally nnd to the mid nf The Search Evm If there Prmectlon nf the Adnptlvs Tdangle. 

in~ralitude Low~rd thclr bdoptlve pa(. wrre, it would prolubly be scalnd, as whlch 1111 ahwt 650 people fmm all

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People 

/n search of parents 

they've never seen , 

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. Paty Golt(rmllh. Ibtt, and Mary Anna do 

Parcq,cwrdlnotor of tho Southern Callfor. 

nla chapter 01 ALMA IAdopleos' Llbarty 

Movement Aisoclaflon) look over somo of 

the 5W Phone books stored in Mra, do 

Parcq's gorape. 

nycuw.ya.Iu. 

ah11 nlkr 

I# Denmkr, sh rmls Ur d 

V11.l BUllallu la Tm#on, NJ.. drlnl 

A1 11 a.m. Mmmlt 11. Paly 

Uum br nnolhds lvnv and rn -%I. 

Uddan~lth yak8 lo her ln~hrr la ih. llnt mat* yur d hu bah 

Urn in hsr 1111. 

ButUubumuRpsrdUvyol.adsdnrr. 

For Urn. UddmlY. as. Ua klcphana Informallon, wB Y ha ardmdhr'm 

CaU was lh mlmllullon d 11 yeam 01 pun, rblch .h otdcdy dM ad Lmw. 

*-I - frau~hl Wlth fwvatlolI, dead In Mmbrr .nd J w . Mrs. 

udr Jblank walls. 

aoldulllh ararcbsd Ur Monm nkr in 

Mrs. Ooldunllh la an .due, ud 1.8 bq Dueh. In Fch-ury. .h nd. 10 UY 

r*M U an onl &Id AIhyh ml hpnnwd d tI*& fn Hew Jmq and 

unhnpp~. I ~ ~ ~ U ~ ~ ' w l t hrr h l b d l NU : ~ unl I ropl d bcr -I Mnh 

bbly1c.l mY.r. 

*fflUl.. 

ltb rmtnlned IL. wcl dik d hcr 

mW'a blnh d La prrnu' urn. 

WUb thls Mmasbn fn hud. &In. 

Uol&mlib went lo Lb NmUonaI Arrhlra In 

hnul. Nlwl lad LPvd hn mthsr'l 

prmll. blnh dales. rhm UYy td Ilrd. 

%. flva run .no. aha -~.. .-- ld-i ih. -- 

hhrn CdilorGs chaw .f AUIA 

(Adopled Ubrty Uovemrd ~uoda. 

hl, an lnknullmrl, rn~prdtl amlt,. 

Lba Ch.rt.nd In Uw slakol New York. It 

h.8 ch.p(en sped all acrw Ua U.S., 

Canada, Europ and AunIr.11. 

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"U I1 badn'l bccn lor 1hn1 twmhn ol 

ALUAl I 

~ b o.w.p.~ a na her m under Uu" 

wwldn'lhavskmwnDa lowrlk 

had. In 

U whu* lo wrtb for 111 Uw 

.m la Murk. M.rrI3 II,, 

Inf-tlun I 

whld~ itrluled Ua v1l.I WccmaLbn,l 

have awr11YIa1d." Mn. OddsdY uya. 

U,.. Oddsntllb'r luU nu ad prun)., 

Sh* aoym thll unlU lwl Nor&. #h addrela. 

h.d nwlalw lo go on exrrpt Uul ah ktmw 

whrlt M,I. ~~lrtvnlth uureml ~u lonil 

Ih war Lwn la tk.tUa. 

dida~ua call frpol TWM. Uurh 11. 4; 

Ortr tlm years. ha wrote hundmla ul 

wvmut namd H*. ldd hr lhal Prr 

*Ilm la IMwrlnlnlt. d lln.llh at4 

Itulbanl Id u( @wlhr ~nrd Clnrq: 

1lYrea~ 01 VI.1 . . Rlnll.Ilcr . -. . - . - 

Lul Nuvrmbr, ihs got vwn order lu 

11. Llruwn. 

I1.r tn0ih.r b d awn I& klkr In lid' 

h.ve hr ulopllun 1110 opmd. 

NWIV.~~. 

'Wnl's whm I 

d ..d @Id hr arnnWnuIl8. 

rwelrd my .dup(lun 

Ier.ln.law, *.lbUl my dsUghW." $I*, 

Pn an layurlyllul blnhmrUfu.u, atrl 

E'arv~d for ih lint t1me my auo(hrr4o 

1vr.r hnd ldd mu)*n. blm 

MU. o o u uys rt* kn"~ 11': 

ulne S14 Ihal nha was Lwn In Naw 

~YI itelen war 

Jarmy." Mrs. Uold61elUn savn. 

u hsr n u ~ tmu. s nd, 

whrnlhoCdd.l INWtrdl kr UIIIIUISII 

blr urkd urs -,I,IL~ u Qu wm14, 

"Ilk. lo apak b Qua." 

.#I ~uulh~ Y nayu~f. my mci~w< 

VIUIY. I uu 5n: anl I ru rrrltlu . 

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1 . ~ 1 vnd.. ~ 0l.lu. nut khr'n 

mi(. ' 

nrd. Uq mrc4 bark lo Ban PdW. 

'-when p.1~ pl involved In AIHA 0pd 

d~uovanluz muful mwrn the mr*

. "I rh. ~rarih IIJ thy 

at%seellng "nolhr" a d 

~sl.lhrr.* h Jnad hm p.r. 

nu. lh" krY. B* IL I4 a. 

p(rsdd.prtdVmnrlm.WYL 

OYI I"..l* IMI M t I . ,"."I : 

Mm infhonp*l. 

?hefnrmWlmmY~ 

a .noun. h Wra' - 

WY 

mown4 bUlon. a Nn Yat 

bud or,.d"llon. hm -,.I ; 

I. nm lham lm 1nmU1 mnloa, , 

dm n .#a I d lm Inl. 11 Lr 

mmhm na1h.e a d rhlplm h / 

18 udn ad 1. I* : 

Mnnbrl ih.n mvrh 

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mimrauktwwrmb I 

Inl.mmalln. lbq dr kb d : 

seek 'Themselves in Na turd Parents 

Adoptees' 

Search 1 

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Wittroutknowiog Uleir hd@, 

many adoptees feel &&mplete. 

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AL~~,MEMBERS.FROML~FT,CHRISPORTER, 

CWRDINATORMARYANNADEPARCOANOPATMORRIS 

hlo*.h*hlOUID10101A / 

Surnln~Phow BmkI And Wrlllw LtllInBIEoms AWIqOfLlteFw Adult AdwtmSerrchlnbFa N~lvralPrrent~ 

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e l br. my ndlr.1 mads I 

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AdopteesFind Natural Parent. 

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,q I/ -I $:...tL...dd C,r,/ J~L*,.' 

Search for Natural Parents 

Results in 

Creation 04 Agency i 

Ily Mcllssn Berg 

tlnmcr 01 ndl,ptd parents nnll 

hlrs. Cervas and hcr r.~l!.cr wcre ! 

A urma~olIh~Sl~l1 cr pnrcnls. Foster pnrenls ~rroally reunit* nt Thank581v1nc. 1973. 

In 1873 Mrs. Snlly Anderson Cer. know who ~ ~ vour ~arenls are, shu It was t11e11 lhnl Mrs. Cc:vns and ! 

vns decldcd to flnd out who h1.r snld. . . . . -..-nelurnl 

pnrents wcre nnd nfler n 

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hcr 6Istcr. Pegfiy. uhr? h ~th had ' 

0. Slnrt with il:c ngcllc)' uhrre br.cr1 iadol;tcd by n Sew Jcrscy cou. ! 

month search, lncl~dlng v:slls lo nn you wcre ndopld. .Ask fur pnrcnls' pie, und#!rslaxl u,hy lhry were ; 

ndoptlon oge~~cy nnd n foilcr nlolh. Ilnnies, pllrrer find dates of trlrlll, glt'rn nwey. 

er In Sew Jcrscy, she dld. 

!hen ict~d for thzlr l8irtI1 ct.rt11l. >:rs. Cervias Ic.urnc4 her lirthcr 

And lhnt, occording lo Mrs. Ccr. cnlt-s. whlch uli: have grotrdp~ir who had died in IWd. ha4 Lxwl an ' 

vex, whose molllcr gave her nwny enLr' _ norncs _ _ nnd s2drcsses. 

alcoholic whu nbl~scd kt': mother. ; 

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when she wns 3 yenrs old. Is "sonic. a Senrch in lelrghone bouks and >Ira. Anderson lold hrr dauglllcrs 

thlr~g everybody hns n rig111 to cnll nnyone wilh the anmc Ins1 shc Rave up lkem and lhclr hrolher. : 

know." 

name. 

Ceorjic. In 1853 wlrrn she wds on the : 

To help olhcr ndulls flnd llielr 

verge of a nervous brenidcwn and ' 

Place newsyswr nds and 

nnlurnl pnrelils hlrr. Cervnr. 27. 01 

fell ahe could no longer care for 

check wllh the hospilnl where you 

salPS. Emery Rood hns estnbllrt~cd 

them. 

uere born. 

Fnmily Flnders. For $35 plus ex. 

George, then 8, was &Wen lo 111s 

penres she wlll scorch for s per. 

N%m you do Iwnle your family. lother's sister lo bern~srd ind Peg j 

son's nntursl pnrenlsor lor $10 give 

Mrs. Ccrvns sold I1 is hcllcr lo gy, then 6, and Sally.3, ucrelurned 

perlcdlc consultallon. And for 52 

wrlle n letlcr or hrr e someone else over loo chlld welfare agency. 

she wlll send lnsln~cllons on how lo 

lulk to them first. 

airs. Anderson. wtd lold her 

conduct your own search. 

"It's no1 rlKht to barge Into your dsrlfihlers she hnd lnte~dcd lo re. 

Though there nre npenclcs in 

pnrenb' Ilvci. e,~c.rlnlly when turn lor them. wns hosp;l~li~ed for : 

Sew York. Chlcngo nnd Denver 

you're on llleflllmate chlld." she a yeor. When she wns reieascd she 

lhnl provlde lnforniutlon on how lo 

aald. "They may have a new life auld slle could 1101 reccmbcr the 

conduct n scnrch nnd lawyers u'ill 

and would u-nnt your existence in nnlne 01 the agency wt.e:e she had 

track down pnri8tlls, Mrs. Cervns 

lhelr . .. llves to come abut gradual. toke11 her dll~~hler~. sold lo her knowlt,dgc Fnn~lly Fin. 

ly :. 

Snlly nnd Peg~y urrc plnced In 

dcrr Is the only ngetlcy lhal oclunl. "\Vhrn nppronct.in: lJc80ple abaul three dilfcrenl lorlrr honrs In the 

ly mnken tllc scsrrh. 

any irformnllon. polltc, but let next three yearr until they wcrc , 

Slrc re1 up 1110 conlpnny In Janu. them knuw you uiii not bc? discour. ndoplrd by llle J~~~~~ 

nry, she snld. txcnusc "on nu.ful lo1 ngedenslly." shc added. In 1850. 

of pcoplc hnven'l the vnguest idca" Mrs. Cervns wis lucky In her However. lhelr llvcr didn't lm- ! 

01 where tostnrt senrchlng lor lllelr scorch. She already knew her prove, Mrs. Cervos sald. Thelr 

nnlurnl parents. tier rcrvlce Is de. forrner surlinme ar.d lenrned from ndnpllve mother bell tiem and . 

slgned. she added, to "help people o lornler foster mother she wna pullrd lhelr hair, pr~nptlng both ; 

go through lhelr searches a1 the adopted In Slorr~stown, S.J. She glrls lo runaway sevcrr! :imes. ! 

least cost." 

' went lo the njisficy there and 

r Cervas ocknowlcdged 

requested lhr nn:xes ond ncldrrsres L'tlnviny m:. sisler tt.cre mode il : 

senrchlng Is often n conlroversisl, 

of her nutur~ll porcr.1~. 

ersler, bul I kepl hop,r.i that our i 

pnrenls would come azd gel us.': ! 

difflcull nnd fruslrellng lesk. A soclnl worker pul the file on o hlrs. Cerves %aid. "I a:?ays lnata. 

"\V~lh private ndopllon ngcnciea desk and then lrfl tt.e roorn for 10 slzerl tlint It irould ha;.e ten cite ; 

11's hnrd lo gel nny inlurn~ntlun." nllnules. It wn5 obit0~14. 51rs. Cer. with nly nutural parents." 

she snld. "You hove lo ho e the so. vns sold. 1I1c soclb! worker u.nntcd 

clal worker Is cnmpuss[bnntc lo her lo see the (lie, bul did not want Mrs. Cervns snld she never fell j 

yoqr couse." 

lo hrenk pollcy by aclunlly stiowlng biller toward tier nnlural mother. : 

11 

In hlissmurl ndoptlon rrcords . In . h,.r. . . - . . 

unlike her si5ler. 

muy br opned only nt the discre. Frorn tllc file :Or. Cervur 00. "I just thr,u~ht lk.31 wmt!thln~ 

llon 01 lhc court nnd with "good ~nlr~c,l her pitrenu' first names- bud gone wrong. I Ge\'er uill. { 

ca~isr." cxplaincd J;? L. Andersun, oa- 1°K lo UcceP' 'hat mY n~thtrdidn'l / 

nn Independence lnwyer. tiislurl- c~nd thclr blrlh datcs. She sen1 lor Wnnlus. 

cally, judges hove lnhen a nnrruw tlielr blrll~ certll~ciles whic11 llstd It is lmportnnt, she siid. lo be i 

vlew of wI1n1 const1lutc~ good her grnndi~nrenls r.6mcb nnd u here prepared lo nccepl uP.al you find t 

cnusc, Andcrson nddcd, and only they llv~.d. OUIB~NII~ your fomrly. ! 

pcrrons with serious hercilltnrydls. 

1 

Knuwllrg licr matcrnnl grnr:dpar. Mrs. Ccrvns snid $he w~ll no1 i 

I eases or lilc.thrculenlnu lllr~csses ents Irad llvrd iri tkc Philndrlphlo se~rrcli for llir chlldren of parent3 1 

have ken auccesslul k openlng urea, bnd they had nn unusuhi~lasl wlro hove glvcn lhem up lor ndop. 

ndupllon records. 

nomr-Ili~ll~cla!;e colled every llon, though she pl8r.r to stnrl s : 

h'cw Jersey. Cnlllornlo arid 01110 nrtlilel in the telephone Iwk unt~l cross.flle of parents srekrng their I 

nrr stoles lhol have more lll~rnl 

$11~ lound n man uho snld he was nnl~lral children. i 

pulicles regarding disclorurc of her nrother's icccr,G~ousit\. 

Ttle plncemi~nt of en ndo bled 

adoption records. Mrs. Cervnr sold. Through hlnl Mrs. Cervas chlld Is ,101 revcolt4 to 1t.e blofogi. ! 

Ilul for thobe wl!lin# lo undertake n Icnr~lvd llrr moll.er was livlng In cnl purrllls, and mony ct.lldrcn who : 

, scorch, sonie 01 Mrs. Ccrv;rs'r rec. Ellston, 1'11.. ~rnd rrraligcd lor her lrhvc ken given up for ndopllon , 

omtncndallons: 

molhrr's minlslrr lo conlncl her muy not know they are rduplrd, aha 

. 

First wrllc down lnctr you know und Rive her Mrs. Cervns's phone snld. 

nboul youraelf nnd your notlrr~rl ntln~kr In Kunber Clly. "I don't think It's rlghl for people 

' fnmll~: Names, dales and plnces of "She culled 81 imn nr lhry were to keep I1 Ithls lnformrtlon) from ' 

birth, place and dula of udoi~llon, lhrouyh lnlklng," Mrs. Ccrvus said. us," shurald. a 

. . . . 

! 

!

lb ram. which could change 

subsunUdy the degrc~ r~f conlldenliality 

in adoption cues. nre 

expxtl to be d~~irl~.cl in 3 or 4 

monUu. 

,\ lawyer lor A!%. r\Nletls b~uise 

.%lap4m d ha ,\ngrlt!s said lhdl 

Jodgt? Illchrd Spnnkle ul the 

Jaawn County Circuil Court hnd 

:grad Ms. Mnples' psychological 

i need.r in reilrsiny her request. 

, Paul iL GiJhrL n Las Anadesse- 

1 curitv mad whareoresenird him. I 

I &,j,,'Jd-& &* &,Judge La". . m Smith, also of lhe Jackson To irotrct and strengthen the' 

I 

aJoptws frorn 

, telkIs required l~lm lo swk nb;rndomg lh*lr new li~mily fur 

wt hk meston to ohC~:lln 

8 tion 

f 

zdva. I I theu ruturd >*rents. I 

To natural pareno rbbn 

wan1 loremain anonymous. 

Anvnjmlty. :.llchaeis arywl. ~s 

Cndcr >li%wwi law iniormat~nn 

ah1 &?turd pnren~s 01 at!oplw 

m2.v h ~ISCIWI at Uttt aiicretion the only revon for beeping the rcc. 

d circult courts. The Supreme onh secret O I I ~ chudren reach 

OHin xas tnld, hu;r.evt~r. that as a ndul~hrd. Yet te nold that when 

geneml practice !vlissnuri cour~r Judge S;ridde uitd ar.onym:ly in 

have refwedsuch requesLq. 

denyinq SLs. Alaples' rcquust, ho 

Tte high cowl was oskul to set lalled to contact her nalcral par- 

I d m circumsL?nrea under which ent$ to S C whether ~ they still want. 

U.e informallon should be disclncid edLobeamn)mow. 

and the procedures lor hrin~in hlichaels cit~l a sxdy shomng 

:ojelher adop(ces nnd theirnatwa7 that 82 per cent of parenu uho dvr 

parents. 

up a chdd for adoption do rmlob;ecl 

James 0. Sraney. Jr.. attorney to hea~g lrom the child once he or 

for the Jiackrsr~ County Juv*mle she reaches odulL.wd. 

Coun. nrgurd that the state h ~ no d GUbrt. who is 47 yenrs old. (old 

r~;r~nsiblllty to prsvidc the infor- ~ u thnt n both ol hu adoptlve 

.-r.a?un ar.d cuul~oc~J ;qa:nst ill. pnrenu are dead and he now wanu 

Ce call;-~I i;rrtmU' rt;;hi to tocontact hu nalurnl parenL1. 

1:rlvncy. !ic said psrt!nLq ubm i;ivc "At some pint in tim L$e right 

"I a .child !a: o1111puon arr to km,r uba your nalwal parent$ 

prumkl con~plt!tu nnonymity by an brrurnes all abbnlute rir*t." 

.the sbLe and he r~rql~vl tkat the I '.Ci~twrrar~ued. 

plrclge sktirld t8! 11,~nor.d hy the He told ulr cuwl lhat the Churcn 

mu= 

or Jehu Chr~t of 1Atter Day Sunu 

Jolur hi~cha~ls, attorney fvr Ms. has a lundanlmlal txllel chat or& 

>!aples, said tt1;11 nd~~ptron rt!wrdr la~rulies wll be eadtrd. hlemhrs 

encrnlly urre kept codidr.ntial are required lo scorch out tkeir 

or lhrecrraurnr: 

L ancestors to obtain salvauon.

wonlaln of sixty, adopted in infancy, Itas bccn searching 

[or ller "rcal motller" for thirty years. "I'm determined 

to linct iler," she told me. "so I can die happy." 

She is not alone. In recent years tl~ousancls of other men 

and women raised in adoptive l~omcs have begun searching lor tlleil 

bioiogiwl ~~arcnts-with varying degrees of s~~ccess. Orgartizations 

desigr~ed to aid the adopted in their search ltavesprtlng up all over 

the country and often llave long waiting lists for their services. As a 

result, courts and adoption agencies have bccn Iorced to reexamine 

their rulesand proceduresrcgardingconfidcntiality. 

The numerous book and magazine articlcs published on this 

subject have been of apecial interest to mc-l~crsonally as well as 

professionally. In adtlition to my long career in family relations, I 

happcn to IIC an adoptive motl~cr. And wl~ilc it is we adoptive 

parents andour cllildrcn w11o are most directly alfected by this issue, 

I thinkit bas impliwtionsfor almost everyone. 

All of us, whatever our llistory and unique characteristics, are 

l~avingdiffict~lty with our"wnsc of identity" tl~aedays. We feel 

alienated from cad, other; we live mostly in big, anonymous cities 

where we hardly knowourneigl~bon; we have nogcnuinerww 

anywllve. The concrete andglass, the noise and dirt, the crowds 

around us make us feel insignificant-unsure ot who we are and what 

our lives mean. We live in an environment of change and are not so 

sure what we believe abu~ anything anymore. Old rules, old 

customs, old values often seem itrelevant. 

As d~ange becolnes more and more rapid, ae all talk more openly 

about what we find unique and sj~cial about ourselves. Those who 

were adopted are no exception-and what is ilappening to tllcln 

secms to be a reflection ofwhat is happening to all of us in one way 

or another. Wedon't want to ixanonymous; we want to know who 

we are and where we are going. 

In that context, 1 am deeply concerncd about those who searcli lor 

their bio1ogic;al roou. I'm not bothered by the fict that they wan1 to 

-that seemsentirely natural-but by tl~e fact that they give in to tl~is 

impulse. I[ psychology lrar taught us anything, it 113s made clear 

thatweare almost constantly bombarded by in~pulscs to which we 

must learn ftol to give in! There are times when we'd like to 11it 

someone, times wllcn we'd love to steal, timer when we feel like 

saying something cruel. Maturity conles when we learn tocontrol 

such impulses, 

Tl~e wish to scardl lor biological parents is onc of those tlloro~lgl~ly 

undersundable, absolurely human in~pulses. But it secms to rrtc that 

in most circumstances it? an impulse that nectls to be controlled. 

"Now that I'm an adult myself," one adoptee told me. "1 see many 

girls and women having babies out of (ronli~trrcd otr page 21.1)

' 

SEARCII FOR TIIEIR 

"REAL" PAILENTS? 

ronlir~~~~~l 

/ror!t pngc f0 

In Iacl. lvllrll~rr a11 adnnlnl trmlqrr 

wantr lo srarcl~ lor Ibis or her l,inlr%ic>l 

I,arrnts 111 not. a,llnalinji r;ln l,c vrrv help. real Iwiing5. 

IuI. A

I psychologists, including Margaret 

1 MahIer in the United States, believe 

i , 

\to \\IDELY ACCLITELI "tmths" in / adoptcdand later restored to their nat- ~iian~~al workers, while thrccoi the re- ; 

psychology are that early experi I ural parents casts doubt on both tlicse stored children had parents who were 

cnces nre crucial to a child's develop- I assumptions. In 1970, psychologist either profcssionals or skilld workmcnt 

and that his natural parents arc Barbara Tiznrd of London3 Thomas 1 crs-two factors that could bc ex. I 

almost al~\~ays the best ones to raise Corom Research Foundation started pectcd to produce higher IQ swres, on 

him.~ohnBovrlby inGrrat Britain and looking at how institutional care sf. the dvcrage, among thc restored 1 

Rcnf Spitz in the United States both fected children who wcreplaced soon childrcn.) 

have argued thnt n child who suffers after birth in ori~linnnges and rcsidcn. She also askcd thc parerits what j 

maternal deprivation up to the age of tial nurseries. Most of the children in I problems they had with tlic children. ! 

two will be Irreparably harmed. For thescnurserics are orphnns, but somc 

! 

Theadoptive pnrentsrcpmtcd few be- \ 

Bowlby, mntcrnal care has to bc given have living parents who give them up haviorproblems. The children tended ( 

by thcbiologicnlmothcr~ lieonce told fur various reasons. Their mothers to bc exceptionally obcdicnt. Most of 

me that he had found n few cnscs in may be unn~urried, nnd unable or un. ! thcmatc well andslept tr+cll, although 

I which substitute mothers had been willing to care for them. Or the two children \vet their bcds wcnsion- 

1 effective, but tliey were mre. Other 

mother may be married but have too ally. 01ily four of the 24 had temper 

many other children to care for. tantrums-fewer than among the 

Tiznrd started with cliildren who workingclass children in the control 

I that a substitute mothcrcan he iustns had not been adopted by the age of 

1 good,pro\,~ded that onc person consis- two, and follo~vetl their emotionnl, in- the adoptive parents found 1 

tently cares fur the child. A series of tcllcctunl, and social dcvelopmcnt I only one consistent flaw in their chilo ; 

1 substitut~s will not do. 

over the next six years. By the age of drcn. Tlicy rc~ided to do anything to ; 

Even psychiatrist R. D. Laing has four and a half, 24 children had becn 1 get attentinn-any thin^, that is, exi 

takcri pains to sct the record straight ' adopted and 15 I . . . 

had becn restored to I cept to he naughty, This hunger for at. : 

i and affirm thnt natural families are , tl~clr or~g~nal mothers. By examining ' tcntion, coupled with a reluctance to 

1 good, healthy, and fun. Laing, ~vho 

1 niodc his reputation arguing that the hoped to dctcr~ninc the effects of late : residential tiurserics. Tirard found 

games some iamilics play led tu adoption Her work also would cast that the ~iurseries are rather Iikc old. 

schizoplircnis, told me in a recent in- 1 light on just how importi~nt the bio- fasliioned homes, Meals are formal 

terview: "You're interviewing me in I logical 

.. 

nic~tlier was, as tvcll as how and good table manners are expected. 

the midst of my family. I cnioy living cr~t~cal and pcrninlicnt were the i Tliccl~ildrcn arcl~laycd withand read 

In n inmily. I think the family is still : effects of institutionalizatirlh. As 3 i 10 at least once a day. They get per. 

i tlic best thing that exists biologically ! control, she cornpared tlicir develop ! fectly good care, with one exception: 

! 

, as a natural thing." 1 ~iient with that of 30 v,orkin~class j since the nursery staff changes fre. ; 

/ The hclief that blood ticsmakc good / children in ordinary families. : quently, staff menibersarc warned not : 

: parents of us all has strongly inllu. 1 She found mi~rked differences i toiurm;~clorc !:ondwithanycliild, so i 

' how each group had fared, Tizard 1 bebad,wasale~~cyoftheir1i~~csinthe 

: cnced the way children arc treated in I among the two groups of formcrly in- j the children get little personill moth- ! 

both the United States and Great Brit. stituiionalized children at age four i cring or fathering. Thus, the competi- 

sin. Social workers ust~ally assume , and a half. On an IQ test, the 24 1 tiun for the attention of adults. I 

that thc best solution is to get a child atloptcd children had anabovc.average ! 

bock to his natural family, rvl~atcvcr j mean score of 115, co111p;lred with a ! lie restored children had consider 1 

tIir circumstances Moreover, it II;IS niwn of imfur the renixed cliildrcn ! T a ~ rnnre y prob~ems. Many wet ( 

becn taken lor granted tbat il a child I Tizord also felt that the adopted chil- the~nsclves by day, had tantrums regsuffers 

matcr~lal deprivation during \ drcn coricentrated \>etter on the tasks ! ularly, and fought constnntly, Tliey 

the first twc~ ycursof life, heorslic \\.ill j the psycI~uli,gists set for them, and I claniorcdforatte~itioneve~imore than 

be forever a stunted creature, cmo- i tiscd la~ijyagc more iniaginntively. ! the atloptcd childre~i. I.lall of them 

tionally and ititcllectt~~~lly. Didn't that ! [The difference irl 1Q scorcs iniglit climbed into the psycl~~rlogists' laps 

j l~appen to the ti~unkeys in 1-IarlatvS ! be explained partially by the fact thi~t 1 during tht interviews, hilngcring for 

; experiment that had c1111ti1ct only : the ;~iIi~l>tivc lrilrcnts were i~ble to ; i~lfectitrn. Only a few 111 the i~dopted 

I 

i \vitli"wireninthers" tl~;ltprov~dt:d lit. i choose their children i~nd therefore children did tliiit-iind none of tlie 

tlcwnrmtlii Why shouldl~ol~icsd~~a~iy I r~ii~ylia~c~~ickutl tlicl~riglitcr~~~~~s. 011 / \vorki~ifi.closs CIIII~~II~S. 

I hcttcrl : the rrthcr lii~~id, ill1 the i~di~ptcd chil- ( The nnxictics of the restored chil. 

A rcccnt l3ritisli su~dy of cliilclreti j c11c11 had ni~turi~l parents who were I drcn were perfectly ri~tio~~i~l. Many of I 8 

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the naturrlmothcrs expressed i~m- The resttired children, on the other to adopt a child. Once 3 British couple 

hivalence cilu.nrd their children. 011ly hand, went into environments that have been acceiited as adoptive p.11- ; 

six of the a5 mothers wlio took tlicir wcrc generally poorer than tl~ose of cnts, an c1;rborntc ritonl l~cgir~s. n~ey : 

children tad: liad ~nnintained a close thcir nurseries. Their parents had less visit the child i~t the nursery and can i 

relationsh+ with tlicm at the nursery. time and cnergy to devote to playing take him on ciutings. Tlie~i thcy may 

Somctimn,.nhey claimed thntbccsuse with thcir childre~i. They lind am- tnkc him 11otne for a wceke~~d to scc 

the childrw werc not in tl~cir care as bivalent feelings about thcn~ and so how wcll they get along. niercma). bc j 

babies, thc~wcre notc~pnblcof loving lessniotivntion to play and "be" with a number of such visits to case the i 

thcmpro~mly. Asoncniotherput it,"I tlicm. 

child into his new home. 

didn't wanc'hiri~, I didn't warit tlic re. Anotl~cr consistent difference illus- Tlicrc is no such courtship wlini a 

sponsibilrr~. I rvantcd him adq~ted. trated tl~c contrast hetween the natu- childisrctur~icd toliis natural mother : 

Tl~c sociep kcpt on asking me what \ rnlanil adoptive family environments. or parents. What nsurlly happened, 

was going co do with him. 1'11 be glad The adoptive ~notlters and fntl~crs al- Tizard found, was tlii~t the mothcr 

whcn he p w s up. Often he irritates ways insisted on ~nccting with tlic would simply turn up ar tlic nursery 

me just by being in the room. I used to psychologist together, since thechild's and say, "You're coming with me." 

thump him a lot, but now I can't he development was a joint concern, no Since British and American laws hal- i 

bothered. f just kcep out of his way." natural mothcr insistedon the father's low the blood bond, tliis' was usually , 

In such sircu~nsta~ices, thcrc is being there. In fact, many demanded cnougli for the authorities. The : 

nothing surprising about the pathetic clandcstinc meetings with Tizard and mothcr simply assumed the child i 

hchavior GK one four-year.old girl wlin her collca~~ucs: they would coopcrltc would be delighted tocotnc home, not ! 

kept askic~ hcr mothcr if she loved 

realizing that the sudden change I 

ha. Her mvrhcr toldthepsycliologists 

might cause problems and confusion. j 

that this oras rather embarrassing if it 

"'I didn't want him,' 

Tizard tells of onegirl who wassud- ; 

h~ppenrd i3 a bus or a shop. 

dcnfy reclaimed by her motlier-"re. 

Other m.mral mothers threatened said one mother who took her possessed" midit be a hettcr wordtosend 

tharchildrcn back to the nurs. child back. 'The society and had to fit into a family tvitli five : 

cry. 1ndccd.jourof the childrcn threat- kept asking me what othcrchildren, all of wl~om had spcnt : 

ened to remm to the nursery tlicm I was going to do with him. some time in institutions. The girl 

selvrs, alrhough legally thc institu- 

wet and soiled Iierseli day and night. 

tion could not have taken tlicm back. I'll be glad when he grows up.' " Sliequarrelcd with all her siblings and 

Parents,mayabnndon cliildren, but 

was particularly adept at inventing 

childrcncm"cbandonparcnts at will. 

ways of infuriating her mothcr. lust 

Tizard worked up a check list of only if their man would never find out. before the fn~iiily was visited by 

problems~wrt~nls, bcd.wctting, con- (Only two of the mothers wcre still Tizard, the child had flooded the 

stant seehog of attention) and rated living with the child$ natural father, mother$ flat by turning on the nSatcr ! 

each clrilda~ir~st it.Adopted children eight others were single parcnts~ four tapsin the sink,desrroying everything 

11511 far lo--tr prohlcm SCO~CS than the wcrc livi~igtv~tl~ ;~nothcr man, and one they owned. 

rcstorcdc5~ldren. Cle~rlv, at tlienrc of fathcr wl~oreclai~ncdl~~s 

~ cliild ~ 

.. 

was 11v. 

~ ~. 

four and J half, the adAptecs werc ing wit11 a womnn.j 

lie researchers revisited both 

doing bertez that) those who 1111d becr~ Why, tl~cn, did motliers take thcir T groups of cliildrcn several yesrs 

retur~lcd totheir natural fi~milies. The cliildren back? Tizardpoints toseveral later (when they werc about eight) to 

rusons are casy to see. 

causes. Despite thc glories of the check on their progress. They could ; 

Adoption standards are strict in swinging 60s and the women's move. seeonly 20 of the 24 adopted cliildrcn, ; 

GreatBriuin,astheyarcin theUnited ment, most people in Grcar Britain since one family had cmigmted and i 

States. Unless a husband and wife are still consider a mother who does not thrcc refused interviews. They wcre 

stablc and have a good inctimc, they look after her own cliildren a personal able to see nlnc out of the 15 families : 

can't adrqi~ a cluld. As a result, the failore.lt marks a womali as incompe wiili cl~ildren who had been resto~ed. I 

adopted childrcn have more toys, tent and pnfeeling-even unnatural. For children in those f;~milies wlro ; 

more book.5, outings, and niorc stim. Tl~crc is much social pressure for her werc i~ltewiewcd, earlier differcncts ' 

ulation in general. But Tizard bclicvcs to takc the child back: 

lind bccn acccr~tuated by the age of 

that tlieid.uptees'hig1iar IQscores and hli~ny of tile real niotl~crs wcre niis- eight. The adopted children still 

1 

lower problem scores reflected dif. led by vvliat they saw when tlicy vis- scored l~iglier on 14 tests, and, more 

ferenccsin attitude as well as wcnlth. ited thcir childrcn in the residential important, they were doing tvell at 

The adoptive parents very mucli nurseries. There, the cliildrcn wcre school. 

wanted to be parents. They liad bccn well lookc~l after and appeared chnrni. Tlicir teaclicrs did say that niany of ! 

through cmsider3hle bureaucrntic rip ing, lovabie, and casy to handle, on them liad problems. Some, for inmarolc 

before being given a cl~il~l. 1111 impulse, the tiiothcrstoc)k the111 back. stancc, were described as unpopular, I 

onecasc, 3~0~pl~11~1dt0111idergo eight Only after a few wccks at 11on1e did with classmntes and considered quar ! 

nicdical examinations.) They werc thcy learn what it really meant tocnre relsomc, but tlicir academic progress 

willing to spend o lot 111 time playing for them. 

was good. The restored children did, 

with thcir children. Often, they wcrc These mothers did nut linvc toget to poorer sclioolwork than their IQ 

teacl~ers a proferrio~ial people wlio know their youngstcrsheftrrc beingal- scores promised, and tl~ey had more 

played in wnys that fostered intel. lowed III toke them 11omc-in con. behavior problems both at school and 

ligcncc ard verbal skills. 

trast, ironically, to tliosc who wanted at home. All but two of tlic adnptetl

childrcn helped re&ulnrly around tllc feelings for them. More than half of drcn who fared the hcst had rrtutncd 

housc, while only. nhout hall the re- the natural mothers, on theothcr tan home in which the motha lived 

stored childrcn wcrc helpful, ITizilrd hand, fclt there was tlot much of a low alone or with tecn-agcrs who could : 

bclievcs the difference l~etwecn ingbond bctwccn them and their chil. hclpcnre for them. Othcrcl~ildm~uf- j 

ndnptedandrestorcd wouldhavcbcen dretl. Tti make matters cvcn morc fcrcd whrn they were suddenly ! 

tilore marked if she had bccn able to difficult for the restored children, fcw tl~~ownlnton ncwhomc whcrcnoone 

intcrviewallof thcfnmilies.Foiexam- of them had developed nny relation- rcally wnntcd them. 

plc, thesixrestc~rcdcl~ildrenwhowere ship wit11 the man thcir mother was As her rcscurcl~ dcvcloped. l-i:ard j 

"lost"11nd the highest problem scores living with.' studied six other children who had I 

it nge four and o half. Tiznrd, Ilowcver, ny the age of eight, six of.the nine beenndoptcd hetwccn thcsgr.sd four : 

also points out that any such snlnll restored children hid bectl rcfcrrzd to atld a half and eight, and scvm ttthers 

sanlplc fan provide only impressions a child.guidance clinic for psychiatric who hitd been restored to their moth- .' 

and not statistic01 evidcnce.1 help. This figurcis even more striking ers between the snme ages. Thcir dellcscarcllers 

asked the nlothcrs how considering that it was tl~c six chil- velopmcntwav sinlilar to thcchildrcn : 

they fclt about theirch~ldrcn and how drcn Tizard couldrtor follow upat the in theotllcrgroups. Again, theadopted 

. . 

the children felt about them. Only age of ciglit who had tl~c most prob oncsdidbcttcrntschoolandhadfov~r 

:.. jthreeof the adaptive inothcrs sccmcd . lcms three ywrs earlier. cmotionnl problems. In these uses, ; 

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to'dislik~;,thcirchildrcn 

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. or doubt their . . Tizard fotind . . that the fistorcd chile . . . too, , . thcndoptivcparcnts . 

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.;p7d:!2;:New'York Sil?tc.,courti.~wc~c~ :torsof rice or hhndic~p';~oll&in~~hi . pnrcntsurc cniitlid to areview of their,, : 

~~icpa~edto.retumthccldld tothcnht;.; :pra~icis of childicn thrbugh'fosicrj ..,. i.li. jintc'ikst iira:child.~The Courtupheld.' 

.uiiil~mothcr;'wl~o lind~volun~nri~.: :'homes to ndo'ptivc:purcnts~,~~oul~~~ thcNcw:York Sthicprocedu&~o~r~" 

$vcriUp rights.aild then cliari$cd:l+r ', nicnngenernlizing about vastl~iiiffcr-: , .:movinF;:cliildren from fostcrhaq'&-: 

mind bcfore'thc $ccrcc was final. Thc ' ing expcricnccs. In most stnt&S;;ou611;, .wllicll,cntitlc ,the fostcr famll>to:a; 

prosp~ctiv~doptive fled with :. cnreisrcgnrdcdas tcmpornrjii childicn'. hcariiigonly in ccrtnln caars.Says Sol; : 

. thc'childto . Floridn,~.wheicthc . courts; . may beshuttlcdbetW~cnfo~tCihoinc~' nit "Thc~U~r$ne Court'8~lntcrpieta-.: 

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found in thcirfavnr.:, ':-::. . ' ; ::,. : ::scvcral times, This crcatcs an Unict:. . . tion of the l3.w says thntif a child bas.: 

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efforts tocasetl~eircliildrenkwiy into 

new lives. While they tolerated imnlnture 

bcl~nvior [sucll as the demand by 

oncsix.ycar-olrl that tl~ey always dress 

him), the natural parents wcrc less 

,. forgiving. Several cotnplnined that 

thc child didn't renlly love themcouldn't 

lovc them, in fact, because 

they hadspent all those yearsapart. It 

wasas if thcpnrents'roles Iiadbcen re. 

versed. Tlic adoptive parents tl~ooglit 

of the child as thcir own, while the 

natural parents often snw the cliild as 

not really theirs. 

T 

izard thinks adoption can be successful 

even if a child is two, four, 

scven,or older, if the adoptive parents 

are willing to fscc tbcdifficultics. She 

doesn't hclievc in the maternal-dcprivation 

hypothesisncceptcd 

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by many 

: social agencies. 

. ' 1n thcresidcntiolm~rseri~s, the cliildren 

rcceivcd no personal motheiing. 

By tlicngc of two, wch liad been cared 

for iiy al>out 25 adults, and by the age 

of four, by 40 adults. llcarly loving 

care isas essential as many theorists 

believe, d ~c children* cmotlonal and 

: intcllcctual ... growth .... should l~avc been 

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"It was as if the roles had been 

reversed. The adoptive 

parents thought of the child 

. - as their own,whlle the 

real parents often saw the child 

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as not really theirs." 

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stunted, with littlc hope for lmprovcment. 

Yet, in Tizal.dk study, the cliildren 

who wcrc adopted late did quitc 

well. 

Indeed, they had hccn eager to make 

friends with any adult at the nurscry 

and wcre fickle in tlieir affccrioos. nut 

givcn n good home, they developed a 

very strong natural fecliiig for their 

adopted parents. They learned to love 

: by being loved and cared for, even 

tlioudi lovcdidn't sturt until tlicageof 

four, five, or, in the case of one child, 

seven. 

Tiznrd would like to see foster parents 

givcn a better chance to adopt or 

l~ccon~cgi~artlians of a cliild they have 

c~rerl for. She also fccls strongly that 

social 

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tvorkei and others who deal 

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134 pa~umr toor? tmtusinelt 

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with the children must scccpt the fact 

th~lt there arc tinles when a motlier 

shnt~ldti't he pressed to tnkc licr cliild 

back. Many social workcrs in England 

seem to be dogmatic in tlicir belief 

that a child Is better off with lliv nntural 

motl~cr. In the groups studied by 

Tizard, social workers often fostered 

the guilt that drove mothers to re. 

claim tlieir children, even when the 

mothers expressed a great dcnl of anibi~nlencc 

and wercn't really prepared 

to carc fcrr tlie~n, As a result, there 

wcre Ytrong feelings of hostility between 

parents and social wcrrkcrs. 

Tizaril recog~lizcs that her findings 

tverestrongly i~dlucnced by economic 

factors. All the restored children she 

studicdreturncd to fn~tiilies that were, 

often, quite poor. The adoptive families 

were better off. Docs this mean 

that cliildrenshouldnot bereturned to 

poor people but should be givcn up for 

adoption to the rich? Tizard argues. 

that ultliough money helps, it is not 

merely n qucstion of money but rather. 

of thefeclin~snnd attitudesof the nnt. 

urn1 parents. hr too often, thcy are 

badgcrcdintoralsinga child they don't 

wantandcan't hondle.ln such clrcunistances, 

they arc unlikely to be scnsitive 

to the needs of eliildren who have 

been thtough a lot in their first years 

and consequently nccdn lot of devoted 

carc. I~radoxically, the autlioritics 

tend to see a cliild restored to his fnm. 

ily nsn happy ending. 

It is easy to pick scientific holes in 

Tizard's research. She used a small 

sample. She relied a good deal or. what 

' parents said about the children, hc- 

I licving that questioning the children 

directly might create more problems 

in their relationships 'with thcir parents. 

Despite these limitations, the 

picture that emerges from the study is 

clear and consistent. It sccrns obvious 

that families should not be forced, 

subtly or otherwise, to take children 

back simply because we assume that 

blood is best. And, important as the 

first two years of life may be; we need 

not give up on childrcil who may not 

11i1ve been given much lovc and atten-; 

tion in those years. n 

David ~ihon is a British journalisl wt~o writes 

on psychology tor magazines in Britain, 

Franco. Germany, and the UniledSlales and is 

also active in leievision. His most recent bwk 

isPsycholooists on Psyclrolo~y: Modern Inno. 

vators Talk About Tttolr Wrk (Taplinger). Ho 

tlos recolved a grant from the Leverhulrne 

Trust in London lo study tho dovelopmont ol 

lauglltor. 

For roprints, seo Clossllied Adverlising.

CatherlneBunIn was 6 yenrs old and 

tlred of answering pleymales' quos- 

tlons about her edoptlon. She declded 

to write a book about It. Wlth the help 

of her mother, Sherry, a publlc relatlons 

dlrector for the New York Coullcll on 

Adoptable Children, Catherlne wrote Is 

That YourSISTER?It Is about her own 

adoptlon and that of her younger sis- 

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ter. Carla, four years ago. Published 

last fall by Pantheon and almed at 

5-venr-olds and UD, the llttlo book. wrll. 

tin in simple chlldllke style, has been 

prnlsad ps a warm, sensllive explane- 

,tion of adoptlon. Says Mrs. Bunln, 

"There aren't many books available 

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and almost nothing a child con under- 

stand.fhere really was a need for a 

book llke this." Catherlne also had to 

cope with other questlonsahout her 

famlly-her parents and two older 

brothers are whlte, and sheand Carla 

ore black. "The kids at school would 

say, 'That can't be yollr mother.' It 

sounded so stupid to me," snys Ceth- 

erlne. Now 0 end a fourth-gradeiat a 

Manhattan publlc school, Catherine 

would llke to wrlfe another book 

and confides, "I already have one up 

my sleeve." But stle's also eyeing a 

showblz career as e slnger and actress. 

"I plan to be all," she explalns. 

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6.1977 ' ~4k.i foi the , . ~dofl.. 

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frustration a .tl*nt feels in t n t s la n adop- i 

tion to n ehlh &d tlta daub &a chi; el. on.; 

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thatfl 

';stance now U~nnlt,waa moliernl yam .pf "LJ:. 

.the bqk, lbere'r L lolot exprese* I eling on. 

C 

id 

ithere ilncs: "Most ~rown.upn don't know any more 

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1' about adoption than kids -nod lhqask thi same 

dumb questlons. The ask too many questlons and 

It makes me fail &ny. It mnk me wish mx 

mom~ny Anothcr had book horll altcnlpts to ace t tly hr. the 

SQ11stming to (11. eq~anat~on I a -s mewy 1 

Use's Chlld" (Warne, 55.05) '1 Rob ta SII an. Tho I 

youlrgslor is finall given ins ght In pare I love j 

through an advenfurc story in which ha joins tile , 

search for dogs lost in the snow. 

The rlory tends to e uale a dok owneili love or 1 

. :, . hls pet& wllh an adopt 1 vo pamnl s 1ove:And that ! 

..,,-:ma etrlko you Ps.1 mls uldcd, shallow equallon, i 

.- .: anlone .that ir as srccharkne in its own wa , sr th~ I 

:!'. ;.:hpren baby" ldcar(0n mo other hand, grvqn.tha! 

-. way ronra. ehlldren":fcel. about Urclr pcu, 11, fiy .j 

I' .p%rito,be a uasluli1Iutt~llon. The crldcoi $l~\oSuol 

-: jion ibis way: 

: : Thcse dogs cnehn a lot to us, Sntl:c .' 110 looked ! 

down at me. 'Wl~en you'va hnd anima< slnco they 

WC~C IIUnJ. WCII. thov RCL Into Your boner. - nlcv - .-, he. -- 

'$1 con~e'pn'rt of you.' ltoilared biraigl~t ahead tho way: 

proplc do wllcn thoy'rc nfrald the ara golnl: to cry. . 

"'711~ wnv klda do?' " I uktd sofilv. - ~ 

" . "'I guess-so. I guess so.'" 

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nftcr 11o11r shc'd it tritl~ himcnlm, 

nercne, ncver in~pntirut. 

Jt tvn~ I \vl~o grew i~npntir~rt. 

in a wl~celchnir, who couldn't Dnrlc eyes OII mine. 

fipcnk or mnlk. Sn~nll nnd light of "You nre fit and hcnlthy. Burry 

bone, he wu no more thnn n shnd- ifin't. nccds me more. . . ." 

o\r7 in tl~e roon1'8 corner if you I puzzled nt it. 

didn't look nt him direct, And I "lrou cnu't go throc1g11 life on 

seldom looked nt l~im in tl~osc cnrly your orvn," I snid to l~er. "You 

days. It \\*IIS his motller I loolred nt, necd u man. Yo~l're young-nod I 

bccnu~e I was in love with her. call be OII IIIIII~ to look nftcr Bnrry 

IVhen I nskcd l~cr to marry me, . . . IIC'R ouly n wee cl~clp, 11~'s no 

n11e WRR ~erio118, solemn. "1~'011ld tro~lblcntnll." 

you wnnt childrent" sl~e asked, "IIe won't nlwnys re~nnin s~nnll. 

nnd I ul~ruggcd. He'll grow. IIe'll need me nuore 

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"J~rt 'a JIII~ 11itn to l~ed," I 'd nn.v. 

"nnd go out for n bit. Your inoll~cr 

will look nfter him for us." 

AII~ ~orneti~nes RIIC'~ do jllul : 

tl~nt. . . . nut if we nT\.cre nt tlle ' 

C~II~~II~IL or 1111ring n mral somtvpl~rcc, 

1 '(1 a~ncl~er cyescrrrpbu~~ci~~g 

nt. her u,rinta.nt~*lr, cir~tl J'd know ; 

hrr tl~oagl~tx ~\-rrc* wit11 llnrry l~nck 

I~olnc. Ile'd ilr wniting to luspoonfvd 

llix lnst ~nerll of thr dny, for 11iu 

tt~et11 tu I I clm~~rd. 

~ lri~ h1.v to IJV : 

q~onge 1111tl11!rl, his dinpr to 11t! i 

cl~l~~~grd. 1,oog ro~~tinrn waiting to 

IJC tlonr! enell und every dny. 

I'd i~orer ]net lore likr it llcfore 

-my idens of love had been fio : 

I~lor, no wlf-centered. Wl~at 

~~rivilcged few nmo~~g 115 l~nlly 

know what lovt? is? \Ve kno~v self. ; 

lovc, pride-lore, power-lovc, I 

money-love, co~nfort-love, dcpendent-love. 

1\'c know J~allom-lovc 

nud glitter-love 11nd love by mnny 

otl~er nnmrs; \\*c know n~an.womnn 

love, ~vbicl~, IIH time passes ru~d 

yo~rth wit11 it, turns into the snfety : 

of comfortnblc habit. Tl~ero nre 

good nnd rich loves, too. . . but 

tl~cro nrc different levels nnd ; 

dtaptlrlr of lore, nnd tl~e deepest 

depth of nll is this closed world of 

love \'hiell exifit8 between n mothcr 

nnd the hdplcss creature mlricl~ 

15.1s tl~e cl~ild dramn in pain from 

her body into n poisoned light of 

dny. 

Early in our n~arringe I xvns , 

working for n builder. I wnsn't enjoying 

tl~r work, but the 11owekeeping 

rnolley was coll~ing in. 

"I wnut to tnlk toyon,"my wife 

mid, cr1111l nnd prneticnl-not lec- ' 

turir~g or unggin~. IIelping nlc. : 

Have you over ~vondercd how yo11 ~vould cope with 

a l~nnclicnp~~cd child? Po11 mny fii~d your nnslvci. 

after rending this moving story. By AROI-IIE HILL 

'X 

e wrui 14 years old when "I can't. I l~nve Barry-l~e 

I 5rst met him, n wcc needs me." 

little thin chap living "I necd yoa." 

"One or two, perhnps," I nnid, nnd rnorc 11s 11e grows older." 

"I Cell it1 love wit11 you bccnuse ' 

"but one would be all rigl~t." J thougl~t bout it, illen let my of your III~II~," %be snid, "11ecn11se 

S~~dness in her eyes. III~~II sl~rug it8 fil~oulder~. of tl~c contents of your n~iutl-nucl 

"h'o," fihe finid, "I wn't ~nnrry "I'III not botl~ercd nl~out clril. you're nut tloin~ justicc to youryou." 

dt.cn,'' I finid nl ln~t. "It doerjn't hX!lf." 

"Cnn'tf Or won't?" n~atter if I don't hnvc n child . . . I wns disturbed nnd purzled. 

I'll mnke llnrry my child." ''Son inmn you're uot sntififled 

Anctut: IIII.I. runs brolrgR1 rp ~ I I Her fnce softc~~ed, the Ivnrrn IIII~ cvill~ my just being n rvorkmnn," 

E~~uliz~d d~~rillyj tkr Dc~).c.ss~o)I. rtldinnt. IJCOII~~ U~IIIO IJIICIC. JVc I ~isketl llcr, "\renri~~g orcmlls rind 

rl?~ alcoholic by tlrr ooc of 20, lrix tvcre n~n~~ried soon nftcr. 

getting 111y l~rlnds dirty?" 

joltrllcy 0111 of 111ci1tul i~~rnlilt~ti~~rcs 1 116e(l to IYII~CII 11er wit11 II~III, "SUII I~IIOIV I cion't IIII!IIII that II~ nltd "rkitl role" loot 10 ~turs. Ilc no n~uall a1111 tl~iu. She'd prop rtll. I rrnl~ect the 1vn.v you worlr- 

Nod of lrin prruiorrs tut.ilinu is II~III con~forl~~bly on the tiofn, nit IIII~ 1 111i11k ~ OII hnrt- l~tattcr ~II~II@bared 

oti tkir period of his lifc. Ilr ~~lorlguide Ilim nnd try to get l~iu ill you, nntl you \vou't let tl~t!rn 

nlso wrilcsfor rntlio a ~ trlcvi~ir~r~. 

~ d t111g~'r~ to ~n~u~ip~llnte l~nilding I:UII;P out." To p,~.qr 130 

CO?IIIUWt C 10~~111t~1~~1LL.r~OY1MI 

IWL'CLOIIDUORLDOILOII" ~UILI~YIDmIsIIoU~scI(Us111 

FAMILY CIRCLE .,I1111 ramllv Clrcl~.Auousl2J,lO77.Vol, B0.No.S. Publlmh*dll llmm*y*mrl *voryloutwr~k~ by Thmhmllv Cud*. Ino. mlU.s.Rouls~5. 

lualtoon, 111. Slssa. s.cor~d.clal1 pomhg* paid at mlloon. 111. ~uimrt~pt~onm: Potelgnz '0. O~HS..I U.8. UIIIIaly P.t1on~f

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the told us. "One da at a time," she said softly. 

my life hu been taken one 

asked. "LC's vny difficult unlcss you a at a rime, every day of it." 

know what to do-difficult ro fced." r.you know," 1 said, "the doctor lut 

"We can manage him, don't wony." week paid ou a beautiful uibute." 

But on our second visit the ward "Trrbute!" 

sister told us that they couldn't ,qet "He said he wu amazed Barry h:d 

Bury to take any food, so och mornrn livcd so Ion . . . he said pco le wrth 

nrly I drove my wife the hospi4 Baby's con ! rtion usually diJ before 

"h ou manage him? " my wife "lt sccmsd 

and there she stayed all day to feed and they rcrchcd sixteen. He said Barry had 

nurse hirn. on1 livcd so Ion6 because of your love 

"The operation war a succns, uun't anJcaring for ~llm." 

it?" I asked the doctor. She wu silent so long I thought she 

He sccmed a bit vague. hadn't h~td me. 

"Oh yn, ir wu 1 SUC~CSS~U~ opcm- "What a strange thing to say," slle 

don. I just want a word with you ~d ,aid at jut, mom to herself than to me, 

your wrfe next week.': "what m almost tenible thing to say. 

"Why docs he wrrit to rcc ul?" she ofcoursc I love him . . . he's my so?." 

asked. 'Why not Barry?" I clcrrcd my throat. I knew m vorcc 

Afta a while she seemed to rdu. was 6oing to come out gruff sdf- 

The week passed and on the mornin CO~SCIOUS. 

we had to sce the specialist I got mysefi "I want yo11 to know" I said. 

rady, backed the car out of the drive- "-and 1 wish Ban could know+ 

way, then went back into the house to you to know t 1 iat I owe you 10 

wart for rrry wife. ?hen, u we wne on much, both of YOU. I have to tell you. 

the point of laving the house, m I migllt go through all of my life and 

bulance pull4 up outside and the ncvn say it again. Bur I want you ro 

attendants came to the door and asked L.~., " 

for Barry.' 

"We've got it mixed up," my wife 

rdd to me. "Of couoe they'll want to 

see how the opcrarion is haling. We 

must have lnrsundastood what the 

donor srid. You stay hm. Tile mhulance 

will bring - Barry !nd me home 

again." 

She quickly, got him droscd and 

mrdv. I went unsrairs to mv . tv~cwrita ,. 

and icctlcd dosin to work. . \ 

Abour three hours lata I hcud a -- 

.a- ". 

"You don't have to tell us. We 

know." 

"nianks."l raid."Just.. . thanks.". 

TEARS 

Ttarr on rbi ourridr 

Pall 10 I& tmund 

And an rbu~b rulqt away. 

. Ttan m rb inrldr 

Pall on I& rout 

vehicle pull u outside and I lwkcd ~ ~ andrfay, d ~ ~ ~ ~ , 

from my winsow and saw the ambu. -DoNAU) WAVNB 

RASII 

lance was hack. nrc two mm bruugl~t 

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I 

WOMAN'S DAY / FEBRUARY 1977 

Nmu procodtires for tlte rlctcctiotr and trentmeht of defective gmtes enable #rospectirw nrothers to stoh 

wor~yitzg about wltetirer tltcir Dnbies will be nonnal 

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8 Joan and Charles Martin 

(not their real nanta) Itad 

lookccl lonvard to the birtlt 

of their firstcltildwitlt great. 

joy. Tltcir happiness quickly 

dis~ived,'l~orvever, IVII~II 

Ai~tlrcw was hnt with spina 

bilida, an opclting at the 

I)ase of the spine that can 

lead to crippling ant1 mental 

retarda~io~~. Tltc birth 

tlefect, wl~iclt nfllic~c 8,000 

I~abics a scar in tl~c United 

Slates, rvas so severe that 

Andrew tlictl witltil~ a week. 

I\'OLfAN'S UAYITLBRUARY ID71 

Siuinginghnppily irAprilMur. 

thy, a healthy 1hreeyem.old 

who made medical httmy by 

bring the tfrrr pcraon nure~s. 

' . jully trrntrd jor a gnutic dr. 

frrf bctarr ahr cum horn. 

tvould be afilicted with an 

inheritccl disorder called 

TaySaclts-a disease that 

slowly kills its victims durlmL^K'"d 

ing their childhood. Altl~ouclt 

the Bavlins are mr- 

v 

fectly Itcalthy tlremsclvu, 

HOW DOCTORS they'd narticioaccd in a 

Facet1 with a I, percent 

cllancc t11a~ their next cltild 

woultl be similarly tlantngetl, 

tl~c Alanins ltcsitntcd 

tn ltavc anotl~cr baby. Br~t 

alter a consttltation ~vitlt 

CAN ASSURE 

MORE. 

PERFECT BABIES 

By JANE URODY 

screening program that revealed 

both of tltern as car. 

ricrs of tlte gene lor this 

Ictl~al disease. 

While rare in the general 

population, thc Tay-Saclts 

gene is carried by one out 

their obstetrician, they tlc- 

ot dtirty Jews of mid. and 

ciilecl to try again. \Vltcn -a tapping of the fluid in arc now expecting another eastern.E~~ropan origin. 

Jon11 tr;~s tltrcc mo~ttha ltreg. which t11efetu~issrk~~ndetl. cltild. "1 would never have When two wrricrs marry, 

nant, tllc doctor sent her to Tl~c tat d;otved tltat the taken the cl~ancc if not for tltcre's a 25 percent cltancc 

a genetics clinic run by tl~c Alnr~itts'seco~ttlcl~iltl~vould tl~is ~vonilerlul, reassuring illat ll~cir offspring will in- 

IJniversity of California. itof l~avc spina bifida. The proccdt~re," Joan says. herit the TaySncl~s Fne 

Tl~crc, n counsclo~~ told 11cr tll;~gnosis wai 1tapl)ily con. Candice and Carl Bnylin lrnm both parents .and thus 

tltat in a IC~V weeks 11cr un. firmctl live ntontlts later krlcW bclorc they even c~~cntually dcvelop the 

11orn cltild could be cram- wllco Joan had a lte;~ltl~y stnrted a family tltat the tlixasc. (Each of us carries 

i~lctl lor tl~c defect by a pro- eigltt.lmund hoy. Delighted chances tvcrc one in four a h ~ si): t such ptentially 

cetlurc r~~llctl an~niocc~~tcsis rritl~ ille results, tlte XIartins tllat endl ol their cl~ildren (rottliniicrl OII pngc 150) 

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,~,otirturd /ror,l /wgr 63 

hlule Illan 11111 Illor xlto lnn~lrrgrl ant. 

II;IIIIIIIII ~I.III:J. 11111 it', nltly WIIVI~ )it. nni~lc, 

~~inc~:~~t(.sll arc wnmcn lllirlyiivr 111 ovrr 

1vi11h wnircl~#!~~~iral 

dc~lrrt. 

Tmlay A rll is a dlccrful ~ltrrc.ycar.old. 

h~lt silt's stl;~ on a special low rrotcir~ diet. 

1)nclon cl~cck her urine l>eria/inlly lor an 

exccyr of lllc polsnnul~s arid. Anal acrnrd 

ing to Dr. Mary An~pnla, rhc pnlialrician 

and cnrlic co~~n~elor at Ilaslon Floatillg 

Iiosp!ral~lln llas lrcatccl llcr IIIICC ~IIC was 

a 1~111s. A ril "is growing norn~ally, is men. 

tally dcvcropcd wcll ahcacl of lhr norm and 

ir rx~rctnrly wcll adjt~stnl snrially." 

p i parcllls arc, in her mothcr's 

warcls. "cata~lc that April is as ltralthy anrl 

happy ar tl~c ncxt chilcl" 2nd arc: l~oping to 

hxrc anotllcr clllld now Illat llley know tllc 

clirn~~lrr all bc rllcclircly trr=lral. 

'Cllc hfarlins. Ilaylir~s and hftrtpltys arc 

all happy l~c~~cliciarln ol a trcl~~ti~lt~e tI1a1 

Itas, 111 less Illan len ycan, rerollltlot~irnl 

(rnnfi~l~lc~lon (mgr IJ2) 

tllc 6c1d of gcnelic rnonreling. For a large 

n~lmbcr ol wrlo~~s lrlrtl~ dcfccts, a~nnioccntnis 

has changed cnunsclit~g fmm a matter 

01 dctcrmining the odd8 of a d~iid's king 

abnormal lo aarllring rn11111a 111at tl~cir 

dtilclrera will not I~arc tlrc dcfnt in rl11n 

i n . ' I o lllarily of Ill? tcchniql~c has 

~ W I I ral>b& ill tllc last thrcc y n n 111 

I'nG an utlmarrrf 5.000 pr -nmt W~ICI 

I1m1 a~nniorc~~~csls. FOI~IIII~~&, more than 

95 ~lcrcnlt of lllnn learned tllal lllc lrallln 

lhcy wnc carryltlg wcrc frcc of lhc dls. 

nrclcr for wl~ich lllcy were tcrtrd. 

!Vitl~ol~l a~nniom~~tc~lr, Inany of tlteac 

wolnrn would 11ercr l~avc clam1 la l~crnme 

p~cglntlt ancl nlatly olhers wrllllrl have had 

alurlia~ns rat11c.r tllat~ risk Ibcarin~ SCVEIC~~ 

~lrlnagnl l~alricr. 111. Jarnrs D. Elscn, dircctlrr 

of ll~~ l~lrll~ dulrcls prcvc~~tlo~~ 

prnxnm at IIIC Univcrally nl Nebnska 

hlmliral Ccnln, myr Illat tlte am~~iucc~~tnis 

prnFrm11 Illcrc prntl~~rnl "an unrxprctnl 

i'lili-IIII crlsu Itad plrlltlnl lo 

have. ul~orlio~~s ~l~anji~il tlnclr ttiintls w11a.11 

~SIIILYI t11;tt 111t.Ir lr~l8io wrrv IIO~III~~.'' 

!\'llrn lllc IIII~I~~II ~l~ibl is fou~ld In IIC 

abllllrn~al a1111 al~~rli~n is I1~~arwplablc In 

lhc Jl."c111% it 11 W)IIIP~II~CI 

[~~~slldr-~s 111 

Al~lll hlllrplly's arc-lo I,ryln lrratnlcnt In 

IIIL~ IV~ I. FW 13la11y o111t-r I)I- or ~IC~CCIS, 

~IC.:IIIIII.III i* jmoI >lmliteml,";t,, ,lt~~~llt) (1" I"," n~ltcrs i~~volvi~~x a xx.li~~kc~l ~Iisn~tlrr, IIIV 

Ir Artrrtn~ PICIIII~SII~ ar TUI. ~n tile firu rm#nlcll lrrrc can).iny malcr silh a 50.151 

cast. 01 its Lind r1-1~11tml in tl~c ~nmlic.d I rl~ann: 111 11:tring IIIC rlritrt. Tltirly6ve of 

litcrat~~r~. Sau Vrancihcrl cl~~~:tll~s wcrc at,!- tllew! Ivc~l~Ivr~ rlr'lnl In teltllilnle ll#q:ir 

lo #tr,rnl a11 almrlinll lly a lollyllr ht.o IW~I:IC~I,S. I;I~IBI or IIIP~~I II;I,I ~I~UI~~CWLS 

II;I~/ g;stc chila! 1vi111 ChtI~y's mr~nia >=I ; IU 1~ra~vcnI tluc l~irtli of a cl~iltl !vill~ I)I~~II'S 

did 111~1 1,2111 11) riJI I1r.11111j: a111~1111.r. 11111 : I)III~IIIIIII!. illld 1111 SIlLll

1 

clatnl. alm111 Lplw.ll~tnlr 01 

~~t~clcrnta~~~lal~ly 

tl~tnc ~C I~ 111 have all ab~~~brlllal Icttll de. 4 Farnlly 

vclnp prycl~olsglcal ~~ruhlcsls, Dr. Ilinch. 

NON-Making the Case 

llorl~ rclmrls. l'llcw tnay illcillde limp dc. 

prwlon, atro~~g gallt frrlings an11 cvrnlu. 1 for Childlessness 

I 

ally C~CII IC hrralill 1 01 tllc marriage. 1111 Economics aside, low cbup!es in our so. 

rincc NBU(IIC, IVIO {lave a cl~llll wit11 a ciet~ Opt not lo have children, perlinps : 

rrlot~s 1111t11 dcfrct expcrIc11rc 111a111 of 

~IIC U ~ C pmblcn~s, they cannot IIC mid to 

because they are sold on lhc joys of par. 

IC a~rml II~ a~n~~lnrrntcds. enthood beloro lhey realize iilal not hav- 

~IOU~II prcvrllti~l 01 l~lrtl~ dcfrru ing children is a viable, healthy option. , 

tl~ror~~l~ anltlioccnlnir and illterrllptl~n 01 

ahnormal prcwando I3 likcly to rmaln 

This, el least. is the assumplmn on whicll 

, 

: 

~IIC ~ ~ ~ r PIIPI(UC~I ~ t l . ~ for l man). yarr, Iho National Organization for Non.Par- 

lnnliol rocarchcn pn: ~llsmrcrin~ mp ents (N0N)waslounded. NONis hulplng ; 

to partially or mm lctcl mrrul a grow. couples realize thal lhey do have a 

in8 mumher or rlektr 7mtl1 bcforc 2nd 

.Itcr birth. AL least twcntynvc lnl~nitd Choice. and is allempling to change so- 

E I~incllnnlul dekrts TLTI)OIIII lo Yitalnln CIety'S negative altitudes toward childtrcatmcnt 

alter l~irlh, a1111 mnlc of dlw free couples. 

llt-likc ~prll hlt~rl~hy'a-bc treatat~lc 

IC ~IIC II~II~ IS SIII~ 111 thc wnn111. In at NON, a nonprofit group, al~errip~s lo 

Icrrt onc ICI dlsor~lrr. nllnl ~ a ~ ~ ~ t w ~ r ~ l ~ . counlerbalance "pronatalism." tho alfitrcaur~n~t 

la frcqucntty 11 1111 Iry tntrict. ' lude tha! exalts motherhood and as- 

In8 thc inntl~cr'r intake i?milk pmlua. , 

,111ri11g prqyancy, wit11 a rlmilar mwk- : 

SUmeS Or encourages parenthood lor all. 

~IIIII on IC i~al~y'~ dict altcr hlrlll. This allilude, says the group, .'is found in 

I 

nearly all !he inslilulions in our SOC~OIY: 

itc trcatmcnt 01 lnl~crlcd bi~hmial i 

c~YIc~~S. 

cllardcra may involvc allppl~lng the I 

SC~OOIS. adverl~sing. media, 

mij~ln~ mctahollc wbnancc, mlltmlllng law, and medicine-and, of course, ; 

clicr or taking drugs lo prNCnl ole buildup 1 families." ! 

01 n po~w~~ous III~I~CC. The clclcction I 

YI~ trcahncnt 01 pl~cn Lcto~l~lrfa.or PKU. 

Through public-sowico radlo and lele. ' 

in llcw~lorlll is now w~io~~rcrtt~, witll forty- vision spots. ads, and pamphlets. NON ,: 

thrm atatn rqulring l~orpiwis to Mmn encourages polential parents to ask : 

t~e~vbonts lor thin diwnlcr. ny IimitinR 

child's diet until almul tllc alle 01 

themselves some hard questions: Do I! 

rnrr~tal rctanlatlon a11 iw. prcvcnlcd. 

like children? Have I had enough experi- 1 

A ~CW dlronlcn call iw: partlallr mr. 

ence wilh babies? loddlers? teen-agers? j 

rcctcd b lurgcry. In two of the 

storage irircasn, for cxan~plc, sur N Qn 

Can I lolerale noise and con!usion? Do I 1 

rcamnge blood vwls so that 11 4" od rich 

enjoy chiidcentered activities? Do I need i 

ill g~llmx lud~ Ll~c 11cart. For habia 

fmrn ~.ftll cyatinosis or Fabry's dixar. 

a Child lo make my life meaninglul? Have : 

WICW ascntial kldncy enzymcr am lading. 

my partner and I adequalely discussed ! 

trans 11at1t of a hnlthy kidrley rhowr prom. 

ir ol mntrnlli~~g UIC mb~cm 

or. R. Roclnq i owell, lmfcsor of 

. . nilatria and genctia at the niwnity 01 

kxaa Mnllal SCII~I, nyl dl11 *,P-S 

III trcatis~ gcnctlc dllrau an cxWal 

! lo mntinuc." He noto, how~cr, tllat 

: imtment: will bavc to be dn.elopd 

w antcly for tach dimsc: "lhc IlkelihGal 

asy dnnlatic,, ovcrall brcaktl~rough 

xcms rely rcmotc. 

TIC Nntlollal ~ountlation~Marth 01 

Dinlc~ (no* 2m, \vhltc I'lalns, Nm York 

IOF,~~) docs rcxarcll in gcnclics, SUpporta 

l~olc~~~ 01 gcnctlc rnunwllllg centera 

th~oughot~t illc muntry and help )*It 

ald yottr pliyldan find our wllat gcnelic 

rrp~crs arc and rvhcrc. The Natlu~nl 

Ccnctlca Foundation (250 lVc11 57111 

~trc-ct, NCIV York. Ncw York 10019) main. 

alld 

treatment ccntcn in 111c US. and anah 

t3f11s P ~aetwork nf ~CIIL~~C COU~UIIII~ 

mad will dimr you 10 tllc nlml a 

rrt~tcr tor your particular pm rP'priatc I cm Yo11 

mig~l~ dm chcdi )our swtc or city hcallh 

clcpartmcl~t. 111 a numlrcr of amah lllcx 

igc~~dcr proviclc im or low.cuu 

n~~cca. A%!i, 

i 

our reasons for wanling a child7 would I / 

l 

1 miss lost leisure lime and privacy7 

Pressures from society and from their 8 

families often force couples wilhoul chi!. 

dren 10 feel guilty and self.conscious, 

and I0 become delensive abut their de- 

cision. Yel these pressures are evidenlly 

oulweighed by olher benefits. A s~udy by 

Angus Campbell, Philip Converse, and I 

WillardRodgers ofthe University ol Mich. 

igan's lnstitute for Social Research 

showed that child-free couples under, 

age 30 had a higher level of ble satislac. 

lion than lheir counlerparts wilh children 

(see "The American Way of Mating: Mar- 

riaDc Si. Children Only Maybe:'P~yc),ol. 

OgY Today. May 1975). Even ialer in life, I 

the child.free couples' general conlenl- 

' 

men1 was as great as or greater illan that 

01 paren~s. 

Many NON members are parents 

Ihemselves and recognize lhal having 

children isa lulf~lling experience for marly 

PeOPlo. But. !hey say, it shou~d not be a 

hangover from a time when birlh conlrol 

Was not readlly evailable and childboar. 

ing was almosl inevilable. 

-4henda Bush 

Tho National Organizalion fcr Non-par- ( 

CnlS is localcd al BOG Roislcrstown Rd.. I 

Ballirnore. Md. 21208. 

.

of Suy~enderin~a Child 

271 y g m up flreir drildretr for idoptiotr for ilre kit of rmsotrs. 

doirrg? 

Now illaj mrdcr: How nre tlre d~ildrm 

by Amretie Bnmtl, Rorbetr Pntrtror, ntld Arfl~rrr D. Sorosky 

"I'DONTTIIINK tl~erc is a woman alive ritory of u~iwed motlicrs. No adoption called such a pregnancy a purposeful 

who has been tlirough this, as 1 hnvc, agency would allowusacccss to its rcc- and neurotic acting out of underlying 

whodocsn't wonder what happened to ords. We were admonished by experts conflicts, typically a punitive act by 

her'khild. It doesn't mnkcany difference that an unwed motlicrkanonymity was girl apinst hcr mother. But societyS 

how many other childrcn you hnvcl 

they ncvcrtaketheplaccof that oncyou 

vital tolicrsuwival, tlintshchadsinncd vic\vof out-of-wcdlockprcgnnncy is 

and suffered, paid dearly, and deserved changing. During the 1960s peoplc 

'put out' for adoption. I would like to to hc lcft alone. No one, we were told, began to rcly lcss.on psychological ex. 

know if my first boy is happy and had the ridit to bargc into her life and planations as thcy saw increasing numhealthy, 

and if he forgives me for what I ruin it. bers of young girls and boys dating 

did. You know, I don't even know Early literature about adoption dw1t earlierand formingsexualrelotionships 

whcthcrhebalivcordwd."Thc woman with tlic psychology of illegitimate morc readily. When young teen-ngcrs, 

spwking was pregnant out of wcdlock 

17vcarsaeo. onc of thousands 

who hvc up children 

for adoption and 

pregnancy. llie psychoanalytic school often impulsivc and irresponsible, bccome 

~- smallv -~ . active, illegitimate 

births arc 

inevitable. In 1975 nearly 

disappear into socicty, 

600,000 teenagers, 40 

unable to discuss their 

loss with anyone. Social 

percent of then1 unmar. 

ricd, had babies. Thc 

' workers, psychiatrists, 

' and adoption administrators 

may speak for 

and about them, but no 

onc has cver asked them 

to speak for themselves. 

Four years ago wc 

formed the Adoption Re. 

search Proiec!. Each of us 

had worked with adoptees 

and wc knew how 

much thcy wanted to 

meet their natural parnumber 

of out-ofwedlock 

pregnancies 

among girls undcr 15 in- l 

1 

crwsed eight percent in 

one year. 

Wchavecncountercda 1 

growingnumbcr of un- 

I 

' 

married mothers who 

haddccided to keep their 

babies in our changing, 

morcrclaxed society, and 

wehavchcnrd from morc 

and more natural moth- : 

cnts. Weknew that many 

reunions had occurred, 

despite scaled adoption 

crs who told its they 

could not forget the pain 

records and legal prohibitions. 

We wanted tolearn 

rensoos for an adoptee's 

scarch and thc effect of a 

reunion upon a11 thrce 

mernbcrsof the adoption 

triangle. 

Of primc importnnce 

to us were the attitudes 

and fc,~lings of tlie natclml 

parcnts, the ohiects of 

the adoptecs'senrch. 

However, we were severely 

criticized for dar. 

ing to invade tlie 

sensitive and sacred ter- 

I 

of having given up n 1 

child, despite tliepussagc i 

of years. Incrcnsing nutn- , 

bcrs of natural parents 

return to social agcncies 

seeking information 

abOut the babies thcy re. 

linquished. They also 

want to update the facts I 

ahout tliemsclvcs in the ! 

ageocy's files. These pnr I 

I 

ents have not forgotten 

thechild they gavcawny. 

For years at~tliorities 

tried to 111nke tlie~n for. 

get by not permitting a 

wonrnrl toseeor hold hcr

haby, by moving hu'off thc maternity lookback on thosc mcrnnrics and tcars phone calls, and visits we received. 

flwr quickly,and by whiskingtl~c baby well in my cycs. I am happily married, Twothirds of all thc people who con. 

away for adoption as soon as possible, with two lovely childrcn .... l am a tactedushadgivcnup thcir babies IOto 

7hosc JnOVC3 failed. Motherhood does tcachci,andI work with preschool chil- 33 years hcforc. Ovcr 80 pcrccnt did so 

not end when a baby is rclinqulshd:ii:. . drpl.3~ ,\Ilj\>;;j$;~;~;; 3::.; :.~/J:L ,, ' bctwccn the ages of 14 and 21. Tluec- 

"~rsgnanl, young, pndmcarsd." Wc IC$?!-"I have~sl~~cciccovercd mycqui- quarters married subsequently and 

cently askcdpmplc,il~roughncwspii~af Iibriuii'bn&th'l ~uilt.~~'~4low1~ disap- . ' ,.. . , . . . most di thcm had d~ildrin; Eighty-six; 

article and pkogrqrns bn.lo&il ;ind:n'a';;'pchring,, but\thc;f&cling.,~~;a,: tl!ild "'pcrcEnt told tl~rir spous~about,the . .. il-I , . 

. donil . telcvision;to'~b;n'iP'ct th; ~do$$.'Foncki~cd int%~,b~dj; bid g(v+ !way 1,; legiiimdic'ehlld.;~li~ people rcprS.1 

tion Rcshrch'Projcct,to dq+ibc their.~~!:~~~i:r;!:,;; . sentcd all'sodw~hnomic levels. Forty): 

' own 'apcrienccs or reactions to adopa.: '..$.'-"I would bcmost hgppy if [could ever 1 five percolt ofoursmallgroupl~~d corn-:. 

tion and the scalcd-rccord contiovcrsy.~ see my daiighter.As far as'dcmandirig:; plcted high school, 42 paccnt collegc,~ 

Thc'rcsponscwds staggering. Wc:rc-: 'herbackjIforfcitid thairight thcmbni-.I and 13 percent gra'duetc school:.;:?, '\.$' 

caved lctters, phone calls, and visits ., ing I signed tho& papas. I hope sh'c is;',,:;~:~c unwed parents' wc'intc~iewcd 

fromndoptccs,nndnaturaland adopdvc, happy with her adoptive family and. hid vcry'mixed feelings. The passage of 

parents, as wcll as thcir rclntivu and wish them wcll. 1 am gratcful to thcm : ycan had duilcd their pain;.Many had 

friends. Unexpectedly, 'the 'largai-rc-. for raising her ;!;.I would like her to growingchildren.Thcyfclt thcir family 

sponsc came from the natural pnrcnts., know, though, when she is 21, that if 

In hundreds of letters thisgroup told us ' ahcwishcs tosce mc, she would be we].. 

how grateful thcy wae that someone comcd. My husband knows about her 

finally showed an interest in thcir andfcclsas1 do. Wcplan totcll our chilfeelings. 

. . . . drcn ahwt hcr whcn they are oldcr.!' 

relationships werefairly good, and they 

sawthemselvesasfardiffcrcntfrom the 

troubled tccn.ager in a problem prcgnancy. 

But they also harbored deep, unresolved 

feclingsabout bnvinggivcn up 

Onc woman wrote: "After reading . We conducted lengthy interviews . a child. Evcn those whoplcadcdfor sc about your rcsenrch in the newspaper I with38 naturalparcn~s-36 fcmalcnnd 

rcllizcdthat I could at last tell my story two male-whosc opinions and attiand 

hope that it would be of l~clp to tudcs reflected the hundreds of letters, 

others .... At age 16 1 

found mysclf prepant, 

young, incxpcricnccd, 

and scared. Reality was 

kicking mc in the stomach. 

My 17-yenr.old boyfriend 

had fantasies 

about marriage, but was 

renJJy more jntcrcstcd in 

his car. 

"My parents CVCIItually 

found out and sent 

mc loa rnatcrnity hornc. 

I did a lot of lonely mcditoting 

during thosc six 

months. My only companion 

was my baby in. 

sidc. We cricd together. I 

grcw oldcr by 100 years. 

My parents said that 

keeping the hahy would 

ruin my life. The social 

workcr ngrccd. No one 

thought about what it 

mennt for me to give hcr 

crccy and had nodcsirc for contact with 

thdr children needed to describe the 

pain thcy still fclt. 

Agcncics do not usually 

ha& much information I 

nhout the natural fathcr, I 

often becausc the 

mothcr rcfuscs to divulge 

his name and 

i 

claims thc relationship 

was fleeting and casual. 

I( thc agency makcs no 1 

furthercffort to obtain j 

facts about the father, 

thc adoptive pnrcnts end : 

tl~cadoptcdchildusually ; 

imagine him as a villain 

who shunned all rcspon. 

sihility .and victimized 

the natural mothcr.Or 

the child may,have no 

imagc of his father at all, 

as if he had only onc natural 

parent. 

We found that over 

half the pcol~lc we intcr 

viewed felt that they had 

hecn involved in caring, 

UP. 

"Lahnr lasted six 

hours .... As soon as slre 

was out, they whiskcd 

her away. I was so shat. 

tercd, I figural l had 110 

right to evensee hur. The 

next morning, I had pa. 

pers poked undcr my 

nose. I was assured trl a 

good honle for the hahy. 

That niadc me Iecl hut. 

ter. Today, at agc 35, 1 

Ann Cqlb., 

-- 

meaningful relationships 

with thcir unwed 

partners. Thcir memuries 

of thcir mntcs wcrc 

sad but jicncrnlly [tot 

hostile. instead of thc 

stereotyped gay blade, 

sowing his wild oats, the 

unwed father was conccrncd 

about his chil. 

drcn, but hindcrcd by 

immaturity and farnily 

pressures.

Typsaol lrlherr. Some of the wometr 

had been involved with married men 

wlio could not support tliem or witli 

inesponsihlc young mcri wlio panicked 

and disappeared upon learning of the 

pregnancy, Nonethelcss,all the women, 

except one rape victim, had detailed 111formation 

about the father of their 

child. As society has relaxed, the role of 

the unwed father lies beulme more important. 

Women no longer autrrmat. 

ically protect his identity or even keep 

the prcpiancy from him. Information 

about fathers belongs in agency files, 

but because only a mother could legally 

relinquish her baby (until recentlyl, 

\vssrclieved tobeclcarof that tiicss., but 

it lins always bothered me .... 1 li;~te the 

sniveling, cowardly baby tlint I was." 

'Givirlg tip 111y child Most unwed ~iiothers still guiird their 

zw tile sflddat dny of secret. They tilay tcll tlieir I~usl~ands 

but often keep tlieir children igtiurnnt of 

111y lqe. I'll tlrirtk tlieirout-of.wedIockl~ahies. One 

0f~2~111 nhys." 

tvrnnnn told us, *'I ninrried n tvt~ndcrful 

riian who acccpted my past and understood 

my hurt. We have firt cliildren, 

nuwalmost grotvri up, and they drink I 

had made it, were respected citizens, am agoodperson. 1 hnvcal~s~ays tried to 

hadfamilics,and werclinppy.Abovea11, teach them 11igIi sundards of morality. 

they wanted tlieirchildren toknow that It would be very hard for IIIC 111 liavc to 

they cared. Running d~roud~ the inter- tell them that I was pregi~~nt illid gave 

vicwswcrcsuchstatcmcnts as, "I never up a baby before 1 marricd their father. 

agenciesdid notngressively seek infor. got over tlic feeling of the loss," *'I still On the one hand, I dream of seeing my 

mntion about the child$ father. have a sense of guilt and hurt when I first daughter someday, but on the other 

The unwed parents easily explained think about it," "giving up the child linnd, I am frightened about d ~e conse- : 

why thcy gave up tlicir cl~ildren. The wasthcsnddcstdnyofmy life,""l think qucnces for my relationship with my , 

pressure of ministers, sodnl workers, of him always." Eighty-two percent children .... If adnptces get the ridit to 

and parents wasenormous. If they real. wondered what the baby lookcd like, locate thcir biological mothers, it could 1 

ly cared about the futureof their child, whetherhc wns well.carcdfor and wliat causeagrwtdcalof disruptiontonlot of i 

they were told, diey would relinquish kind of person he or she had become, people I 

....'I 

him, because a child born out of Nearly 4,Opercent snid they thought Mllitant mothers. Many of the unwed ' 

wedlock was doomed ton life of misery. about the child on his birthday and mothers fear the opinions of neighbors, : 

' 

Beingsingleand youngmeant that they many commemureted tlie day in sonic collwgues,inlaws, and menibcrs of the 

could not provide their child with a st* way. community. Potential gossip and loss of 

ble family life or manage financially. These natural mothers carricd their status keep thcir secrets hidden. As one 

None of the unwcd parents had the baby's birth andrelinquishment as a woman put it, "If my dauditcr found : 

strength to swim against the prevailing lifelong burden. Althoudi it is more ac- me, my family probably could accept : 

tide. ceptnble within our culture for men to her, but bow could I openly admit her 

The natural parents cxpresscd grati- fathcr children they do not nurture, existence to my friends and to my hus. 

tudc toward the wuples who adopted mnnyof them alsocanieddeep undcrly bands co-workers andtheir wives?" 

I 

their childrenj thcy felt that thcir child ingfcclings of guilt and frustration. The Howwer, a small but rapidly incrcaswas 

nssured of a happy, loving environ. two men in our small group are repre. ing group of militant women are now ; 

ment.Mostundcrstandwhy theyhad to sentntive of all die men we heard from opcnly declaring their status as unwed ; 

give up their babiesi they know th~t wliofaced theproblem of unwedfathcr- mothers whogaveup tlieirchildren. 

thcy lacked viable alternatives at tlic hwd. One told us, "Ffcr family was so Buoycdbyadoptees'rifihtsgmups,tliese 

time. However, many of the unwcd againstour marrying] tl~ey wauldr~'t lis. women are forming tlieir own associamothers 

were pained by lingering fears ten to anything I snid .... I really wanted tions and proclaiming their right to up- ! 

that their child would not understand to marry her and rdse the child, but da te their records and to offer : 

why lie was given up and would feel they sent her away and there was continuinginformation to tliegrowi~ig 

rejected,and that thecliild would think nothing1 coulddoabout it. 1 heard, after adoptce. They feel that althoudi they ! 

poorly of them, picturing his natural it was too late, that it was a boy, and I relinquished an infant, once lie is an 

parents as callous and immature. will always wonder if there is a kid out adult they have the right toget to know 1 

One well-groomed, self-possessed there who is mine, svliolooks like me, him. I 

woman spoke wistfully of wanting the and wlio thinks lie 110s a louse for a Thirtyone out of 38 (82 prrcent) of 1 

opportunity to explain her Icrlings as a father. It llurts nie more than I can tlienatural parents want a reunion with 

frightened teen-agcr with nochoice. express." their children, though must would not I 

She snid, "Do you think she [tlic child] Uncomfortable feelings of weakness actively seek it. Some of tlic natural 

still sees me as a teenybopper, going haunt many of the men, who find it parentsarestoical.Thcy feel they made 

steody with thedunib basketball star in difficult to forgive themselves. "I was a decision and have to live witli it, dc- I 

high school, getting a bad reputation, such a big shot in liigli school ... when spite unfulfilled wishes and desires, If 1 

andcausing my parcnts so much shame 

and griefl 1 wish I could make her feel 

better about me and her heritage by 

showing hcr that 1 have amounted to 

somctliing." 

"I thlnk of hlm alwryr." Ninety.five per 

centof ~Iicparentssaidtliey wantedtlic 

inforrnatioti about thetnselves in 

ngcncy case records itpdated. They 

my girl friend told meslic was pregnant, their cliildren want to meet them, fine, : 

I was scared and 1 didn't know wliat to but they feeldcvoid of any rights to tlic 1 

do. She didn't either .... Her parents ciiildotlierwise. One wrote, "Myrcfound 

out first and then all licll broke grets and miseries are my own, ;~nd I 

loose ....My fatlier ... wasn't going to let linve no right to interfere wit11 my 

sn~necrazy accidetitruin my whole life. childb life. Igavel~irn up forever, nr~dl~is 

Hcpnidforsendingllcrnff tost~mckind parents are tliuse who raised 11ir1i. I 

oflioniefor utiwedmotlicrs.l~er fanlily would riever po looking for Irim, but if 

moved bcfrire she conic liume, and I lrcsltouldeverwantornecdtr~fi~idmc,I 

wni~ted tlieirchildrcntoknow tliat they ncvcr saw lier again. Sure, ;it the time I (ConrinuodorrpogeLID) 

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'. a would welcome him and try to answer 

'any of his questions."Still, las than 10 

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percent arc completely opposed to the 

Ida of a meetinn. Tllc maioritv . , denv 

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dny wish to assu& the role of mbther 

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view as the child's trueoarcnts. -, and 

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they rc&c thcmlcoffricndorrelntivc 

for themselves. However, most of those 

favorinnreunions fear abrupt mn1ronta.I 

.., . tions, &d see the meeting as a poten- 

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tially difficult emotioi~al process. 

, Eightypercent of thepnrcnts, therefore, 

...... .,. . . . . would feel morewmfortable with out- 

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... aide intimediaries to help prepare for 

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just the opposite and usually regard any 

, . thirdpersonas anob~tacleinthar~ath. 

I 'Adoptive parinis and mental.lt&ltlr ..,. . 

. . . . . . nrofcssionals'continuc . , . tonrnue that' 

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vat0 praclice, go( herrna6ler'sdegfeefmmihe 

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pawised a comnunity adopl~on agency and 

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directed an adolescent lreetmenl progrom a1 

ucu. Reuben Pannor isa cl nicalsoclal worker 

in private practice: his ~ sis w frm Columbia 1 

Univorsilv at Sauthern Celitornla. She has nu- 1 

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Unlversitv. His research has concenlrated on I I 

' Ihepmbiemo of pung palienls. and he'pi. I 

oneeredin workwith unwed lalhets. Arthur D. I 

Sorosky Is a psychlatrisl and assistant clinical ! 

prolessor in the Division ol ChiM Psychlalry at 

Ihe ucl~ Cenler lor the Heaiih Sciences. His 

M.O. Is fmm the Universlly of Miami, and he 

look hlspsychialric training a! uu. Bafan, 

Pannor, and Sorosky are cornpieling a bwk about the psychological implicnlms ol adoption 

and reunion, tenlalively laled Adopllon 

end the Sealed Record (Doubleday). , 

For more Inlormation, read: 

Osl@n.A.. RavbanPum@ndA 0. Srmrv.'Oparaop; 

M'I~WIIM.MYC~~O~~.W.ZI.H~ 2.~p.01.100. 

hnw. RhAwn. F. U.s.sr* an0 E. E V ~ lhs . LMurnad 

Faher. Wnper. 1911. $195, papet, 15%. 

8mollv. A 0.. AMU. oa!mard ANbnRmw. '.Ellacl# 

ol~lledA.~waAbDD~~n"ln*m~~~.~nbrbrn~ldPsyCh##. 

to'. AwuU 1970. vd. 1U. No. 8, pp. Paw. 

soro8kv.Ao. AnnellrOu#n mi AwbsnPnm "ldsnlly 

MntlclsnAmpts#~-n*msncm~unYol0rmoPs~. 

my, 1olb.vd.45. m. I, PO. 18.21. 

Sololkr 6.0.. Anno. 0u.n am Raarn Pulmr. "lh# 

RounDn~11dopl#~smaB1lhR~~l~#~-n~arr~r0llbuln 

and AWxarc.. IOl4,VOI. 3. PP. 195.216

KNOW YOUR RIGHTS j I 

Somewhere Out There Is a Daughter of Mine 1 

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by.'lo&alnc Dusky ... c;,: i ; i;,, :,-.',. . , . 111c righi io 11;at of her orlgina~ llrth 

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i':%:~*,? ! . ,a: .. --:::$;:;,.::.' .; ,. ., mrtilicato. Why? SommnocLre decided ., j '- 

en ycnqagoJ hnd,n,chlld ivl~om I ' .T.. . . . .. 

yam ago it was,httcr tl~at.wny~,~a~ :; .': 

1,. ,JJSVCI uppr;~dop~~on3T)~+. N,ow . cvcryone went on and madc.a nqzvc"fo,:'F[! 

i+c3?~6ced lor tl~fpcoplc who know for tl~cmsclvcs, 01at tha past,,--..on{! ,:.;.: ' 

,be b{itlol;'t r$ly,know8mc to wbnrlcr : rwts, on& l~crltnge 7 could simply ba :,: 

whyk$"glc 

.< - and'sc&iingly bnrkti - wipcd ofl thc date. and'.lorgott+.,l~ ;. ,,:P 

woman: k intcrcct$~ln the toplc of wooldn't matter, tl~c locllng wcnt. 1.c. : -2 

tidopiion. I pm bccm~sc.~mcwhcre'out . It seems that k not working m ,u.cll. 1. , : 

by the thousands go. . f 

there 1s.n dnughtcr.of mine. And so ndopt~ . . I'm not lwking for her per re: I llvc looking lor thcir natural parents. No one . ,::. 

on the assumption that for now d~c k knows with any ccrtalntyhow many of ;. 

better oil, without mc. I a h musf the npproxirnntely five.milllon udoptw.' 

bclicvc - cvcn rccitc it likc a litany - arc out scnrcl~ing 

! 

for lam that lwk Uke 

theins. .~~ ~, tnxauw --- ~~ .In ~ cvcw ~ state ~ ~ 

cxccpt Alabama, scr lnr.as one 

can tell, the rrwrds arc scaled 

by law. Forever. Since the 

wording of the laws und their 

intcrpretution by the numerous 

state and social agcncics 

involvcd vary so widcly - 

sornctin~cs from county to 

county - information that 

lnay Ire uvuilablc in one place 

will be unobtninnblc ucroa the 

slrcy!t. 

The rccurds arc sornelinlcs 

ol~ened by a court order when n 

~r~cdical l~istory ir considered 

nuccssary. On occnsion, xvcrc 

psycl~ological darnage is 

~IIIII, but somcllrncs even 

t11cr1 the judge says no. M'ilho~tt 

n court ordcr. the scurcl~ for 

one's r~ut~trnl parcnts Is oftcn 

Iirr~g, t~suulty tortuo~rs, und freq~~cntly 

etched with a network 

ol l~~ttniliuting ]la, half.truths, 

innuendo and on occasion. 

clownright pleading. Thc 

thut she is happy and in a good 11c1mc 

scsrclt tmunon the netl~er side 

of wlrnl is Icgul. strictly spcaking. 

ultl~ougl~ no onc has actually bc~n 

with parcrrts who love bcr and tukc cure ~I~JSLTIII~~ for. scarcl~lng or llnding: 

ol her. 

But I do lock lor her. I look lor ltcr in 

.the llttlc girl on the elcvutor in llloon~. 

IIII~~~SS yo11 count t11at case 111 Culiforniu 

u lc\v ycirrs lruck. 

A motl~cr trnknowingly murri~d her 

ingdalc's, on the bct~cl~ nt Puradise son; when their rclationsl~ip wu dls. 

Island, In the daughter of the p~v~plc co\tercd, they were charg~d wwlll~ hth 

who moved in down thc 11all. I know incest und bigamy. The woman wns not 

that none ol thew? approxlmutely Len. 

year-olds Is my daughter - but if that's 

ofliclully rltvorccd from a l~usbur~d who 

11ad dcscrted her romc ycurr earlier. 

not rho, whcre Is she? 

The inwt charges were uventt~nlly 

I don't think of hcr every day. So as a dropjrcd, but the couple did serve time 

nut~~ral rnother, or birth rpoll~cr, or 

biological mother (110 onc'r yet found a 

narnc cvcryone L con~lortnble wltl~), I 

lor bigumy. Out ol jail, thcy arc 

scpurutcd now, no onc knows wl~erc. 

Ccrtalnly. !Ills melodrntr~a Is ittypical, 

have b~vomc involvrd in the udoptucr' but It illustrnles the kind of travail that 

rights nluvemunt to open their seuled the scvrccy involvcd in rnost Aa~crican 

records und find out who they arc. Wc sdoptlons krstcrr. No reports of havoc 

arc not talking a11o11t cl~ildrm. Wk are trlcklc a11t ol l.'lnland. Scotland, lsrucl 

tulkin~ nlm~~t adults. Tl~c adopted child and Nnvu Sccrtin, whew tl~c rrcords are 

rrtrcn. 

Ncw Wornan

Adopt~w insist that society has taken 

awe? their rights. as sarely as if they 

w m slaves. What I can 

rcqusting and sending 

certificate. 

,- 

It te1ls.m~. Jn 

am, whcr~ I .Nt.into~tl~c 

" .*..;: +qb~':r ]'-....:.: ., 

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;-...::a :%'i;$!;+7',,, 

wi'd > 

. :. ::'.:Y>~~na;a:??',:".,,*, .: 

Imagfne:&r :szmom 

l'carn+,tylay ,*:p 

belkving were yo111 phre 

you had no right:to,hnd 

you inherited.l do not think t 

nay lo l v e , ,. .;.i ; *. : 

1 ~ppox nly. douglltcr har gone ., 

through thk already., hlayhc she's &n '.. 

told I'm dead. ThntS always been a 

ppulnr story. A -car crnsl~ suib the 

purpor? well, because then both parents 

can bc wiped out.ln one fell swoop. 

Adoptcm claim that the bond of 

secrecy made when thcy were infants Lr 

unconstitutional nnd denies !hem qua1 . 

protection under thelow. The argument 

Is that the two parties - the state, ar 

repraentcd by a co~lrt or adoption 

agency, and the natural mother - had 

no right to nlukc a contract forever 

1)inding upon n third party, u person 

who grows up and cnn vote and get 

married and buy and scll property. 

In Chicago, an orgnaizalion cnllcd 

Yutcrday's Children 1111s brought 11 suit 

bcforc the fcdoral district court to unseal 

the rccords. and plens lo curry It all Ole 

wag to tllc Sllprcme Court. if nwtsnry. 

"I'm a llmited edition. /'m an only chlld." 

1 

The Adoptecs' Liberty hlovcrncr~t "Tl~c father could be a doctor or u s\raincd. it at least answers the 

Aswintion (AIAlA). Is scheduled to file lawyer. . . the mother a nurse or u c ~~cstions. From thcrc thcy can begin lo 

n sin~ilar s11i1 in New York district teacl~cr." 

I lakc pen= within them

N&W YOUR RlQMS 

nrstlrvrdlrnm VaRIJS 

+llc siglling of 11 iqlar illny Iln\,c IIIIIIII of C~II~PIII~~I~ is IIIII~~II~ :l~c! IIII~!II ! 

n,,!)ifilal lltly Iegtll rvs~l~ll~i~li~~tie~. 

IJllt rc.ct~rds IIOI r~~tr~~~~ctitc: u.11iei1 of CI~SI! 

that act cnnnnt n1111ify 111). fcsellllb!s. 

~l~~ scilrc~~ for origirls ~rr~lr~lly l~cgins 

in a~l,~esecll~c, wllr~~ arty cl~ild tries 

~!xcl~~cl~~s III~ d~~~rgi~ter IIII~ III,!. SII~,II 18 

lllw wolllcl Ill! rlcnrly ucllcll!lllic, sillcc! tl1c 

IIIIIII~II:~ of ~II~IIII~ ~IIIII~IIIIJIIS 1181s 50 

n*al,lidl 1111 id~llllt!. of 11~1 lJ\"1I. 1' is dr1111111tic11lly cir0~1~1r!0 111 r t ycsllrs 

cr,mmtl~l frlr rnsny sdolc~~t!flts 111 I~VCIIIIS~! 

111 the 11111 111111 C~IIIII~~II~ innres. 

inagi~le tllut tl~cy II~P UCI~II)~~~~ - lllelr 'I'III! c,lllllllissloll llllcl 011Iy OIIU 

rral l)nrc~ll~~ 11rc certuit~ly tllnre exotic or 

C~IIC-SI~IIII I tnc: If tl~orc cmisls crllc 

,,.onderhll ~IIIIII those rrltller orcllrrnrl' t~i~lllr~~l 111nt11c-r U~IIJ ~IO~SII'I \\'IIII~ to 

pple in tile Ilo~nc - 11111 for fl~osl. k1111w 11c.r cl~lld, clots tllill ~llcrtl~er 1111vt. 11 

i:lurion is replnccd by rcllllty. 

rigI1t to llllllllylllit~? 

ncseurcl~ers oftcn flrltl tI111t tile Yo11 ure tnlking 11111nlt IIII infinilcsiadoptce 

is rcluctnl~t to shure llcr 111111 Ilere~nlllge, 1 i11slllle1l. 

qu15tlns \\!it11 l~cr purel~ls: will lllcy 1$11t if sllc exists - 111x11 ollc pcrsclll 

tilink I r~j~cting tll~m, ~IIL. wllo !r~~lrts ller [~rl\~rlcy - deles slla illl\Y! 

adolesccr~~ ~vnnders, rind. if tllnl is tllc n rig111 to it? 

cnsc, \\.ill tlley tllen reiect ~ne? hllcl So Silc~~cc slfteil tl~ro~~gli the I1c.uri11g 

or sllc wuits for tile ndr~plivc ilurellts 10 rcnlnt. 

,jjxuss tile nluttcr: tlrv urlo~~tlve llurcnts, I. I snid. Not wllcr~ l~rr rlxllts 

oftell ileset wit11 tl~cir oufn fenrs tllnt ir~fril~ge 11pon ll~c rlgl~ls of ullolller 

\\.ill "lose" tlleir child, llsllnlly group. And rcrr~c~~~bcr t i : u~l~en I 

prefer to believe tllut the clrlld's silence signccl tl~nt i11111er - for \vhnlcvcr 

means disinterest. 

reuson, llrlder wl~utevcr pressure - I 

psyc~lolog~s~s who work \\'it11 ndoptcd IIII~ the option ctf rnnking a cl~oice. An 

children believe otllerwisc. "We must ndoptcd pera~~l tlnes nnt: sl~e wns never 

uulne tl~ut every ndopted cl~ild is ill 

~lskecl \vl~nt IVIS 111 her best inlewsl. 

She ulld I sit across n tnblc: nt tile 

search of finding the real mother," says 

Dr. Zelllg Ducl~, n scl~~rol psycl~ologist in 

tllc New York nrcn. "I wnnld ql~cstion 

sommlle who u*nsn't e~lriolls. Tllerc nre 

feu* ll~lngs in tl~i world tllnt are not 

interchungenble, nnd tills is one of tllcn~. 

Every IIII~UII being 1111s 11 n~otller and 11 

fulhcr. UII~ it Is natural to wnnt to know 

who tbcp urc." 

hly Friend 

Ilns Bwn Scnrcblny 

Por Five Ycnrs 

As fur us one can deterrnitle, o~~ly ir~ 

Fil~lund nre ndolescenls nblc to recelvc 

inff~rn~ullon uboot tl~clr arlglns, ever1 

includitlg hlc nume of tl~e rnutllcr und 

father. Tl~r rnuin udoplion ngur~cy tl~ere, 

H.IIICII pluces fc\ver 01ui1 300 cl~lldren n 

?cur. provide% ndoptecs nf nny uge wit11 

binlofiicul ~rurents. Often. Ole ndoptive 

parent visits llle ugcncy \v1tl1 llle cl~lld. 

The long-tirne dircctor of thc njiency 

repclrts tllnl tile service S~TIS to lluve 

been of infinite benefit to tile users 

\r.itho~rt du~nnge to the otllcr pnrtjes 

in\*ol\*ed - tllc udoptive puretlts urld tllc 

nutlrrul j~urents. 

Tile oft-lleurd ur~~~n~ent for keellillp 

the rcvnrds seulcd is tl~ut tile lll~lurul 

mntller 1111s n rig111 111 prl\,ucy. t1111t sllc 

docs not \vnnl ller life disr111,tcd Ily II 

cl~lld slle's fi~rgotte~~. 

I'\'c si~nkel~ to rrrnyl~e fifty 

wllen I \\,;is five. YOI llenr 111111 you lire 

IIII~I~~I~ 

mntllerri. I've never Inel ol~c \~llo sl~i~l 

ndoptcd, UII~ your first ~II~SII

I NNOW 

YOUR RIOIC13 MNOW YOUR RlOHlS 

A l'hone Cnll 

con~tnud/rorn ~ " ~ 3 7 mnrrnurd/ronv ttngrsz 

I'rntn a Stranger 

-r\~,, ~CUIS II~O~ I tc~tifie~l in co11r1 for a thc. I~ I!P fin~ls l~-ss.lI~~~~.lr~vi~~g It is II SII~II~I~II~ lllor~~i~lg t\vo \vv~;ks 

,V,~I SI.I!~~II~ her rccr~rds. Sitlee tllut 1111rt:r1ts - III I:VC.I if IIIIIII~III i~~lr~~~ll\ 

01 IIII~*~, ,i,ll,! il~lr,ll,a riIlgs, 1 ll,~llr tl1,- ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ . k . 

lily, I I IIIIII~~ 1111 tele~~isl~~r~, ~~rlollt~t*, clllll'l \\*i!-ll in ~)lllillll~. 11 ~I,~IIIIII ~\~II~C.II llslllllly ~ , ~ ~ ~ 

\vritt,.n IIIII~UZ~~C II~IICICS, slloken I0 ~IIII~IISII~I - I III~~IIII I r lIis~lllll.l~. 

rlll~ I e IN~CIS, hcndrd IIII~\\,C~CY~. \\t!gnrtll~~ss t>f \\~III~ tI1tk tr11111 "Is this I.III~~I~III! 

i)11sky7.. 

Ii~~nels rlf IIIIIII~U~ ~~~oll~ers fur ut~dicnces is, rri~lily is l~etlcr ~IIIIII 1.11111(,.\s f1111111\)'. "~'I.s. \~'IIII is this?" 

ndoptees, hccn IIII tllc front page of 

Tllc ,\'ntlot1111 Obsrrccr und the Op-Ed 

Will hly Da~~gl~trr 

*'I I,IIII'~ tell ~IIII. 1l11t I IIIIV(*II'~ IIIY-II 

Ilgc The! NCIII York Titnca. 

Sny No? 

IIIIII- 111 sl1>e11 S~IICI! I SII\V y1111r iiietnr~! irl 

IIIII~ the 

111~ [IIIIII!~. hly I~IIII~~III!~ III~I~S so IIIII~II 

s~ll~ject of fe11111r1r stories nl)self. Sorne- 1 11111 IIII\'~IIR IIIIIU~I willl II li1111lic ruhl- likl! y,l,l - tllc. ,!yl!ss tllc: 11111,1~~1, tlI1! 

tilllc$ my picttlrc r1111s IU. 1 wsnt those ~~OIIS c~xc~!~~tive ~IIII WU IS 1111. to ~ 'rit~! 11 l~,l~,lr ~l,lir. yllllr c~lal!ks 

rcc~,r(ls n11e11 for 111s da~~gl~ter: I will do story U~IIIII~ his client. 'l'lle IIIIIC~I 1111s 

nly purt. 1 g~!t III;I~I fro111 11t11er IIU~II~II~ Itrcll Ix~st~~~~~~~!:'I 

whv~l I we111 10 hll~ilny fllll~.r. I:VI:II I? IIIIS~IIIIII! SII\V tilt. : 

l~~ntl~ers \~IIII SII~ they SI~I~I~ \\*IIIII I 11111 11) t(5tify. I SII~ 1 WIS in All1~11y. !I(! 11sks ~~~~I*III~I~IIIIC~C. 1 kt!e11 t11i11ki11g 111~ ! 

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1111ing. 1,111 lllcy nre not \vllllng to go \r,lly, all11 I FIIIIS~~C~ suying si~nl~ly 11~~ix111111rs 1li11. ~UII. 1'11~ 11rii1!1~~ s11i11 y1118r 

1111 1111ltllc record. Svmctlmcs there nrc l l n v r n r 1 , , n o f dir~~ghtrr \vn< tvn. i)11I ~IIII rrrviln tl~i~t 

ICIII~-cllst~~nce pllo~le c~llls late ut night. 

sil(~llt III:~IIII~~ 111e :111iic can v~~sily ~it~~r~~ll~? 

Ilicl yott IL,I IJ~I~ ten?" 

"I've never spoken to unother wonburl 

I>rrnrrlc 1118 I~u~lr's CIIII\~~:~;I~~OII. 'I'llcrc Is t11i.s tt1f3 11111t1tvr 01 III!~ 1:11it~l? Aly : 

wllo gave her child awn)'." one womun 1 11111 ill llry, I for I I lleilrt is 11u1111ding. tllere is 11 fi1111 of : 

IC~ISOI, sl~id recently. "I hnve three other I tell 1I1e \VIIII~C~ tr11t11. 

s\vc'i~t 1111 III~ forel1(.110 ill111 11!111111c~. 

children, but1 cnn't get my mind off the 

"I 11~~~1e y011 dt111'1 III~II~ Iwarirlg tl~is, "I!ll\\, 111cl is yntlr d~~~~gl~ler?" \\It& 11rc ' 

one I pu~~c nwuy. Ile's tl~irl~vn." llllt 1 lluve an ud~~l~tcll dilllct~tcr," he ~llllyil~g \\,ill1 cilcll other, to see ~IIII \vill i 

I r~vcrgnize In her vc~lce the snnle 

says. I've 11~u.n tl~~r~(~gl~ 

lllls l>cfure, 11111 1 first re\.e111 tile 111issi11g ~~~II~I~III~IIII. 

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sllnky grouncl of guilt and sorrow on ~IIII'I hcrll~ asking right off the bat: "llow Sllc's elcvct~." 

\vhich we lI\fc. IJke me, she clingr. lo the old is sl1c7" 

Not trlit~c!. "hly di~~~gl~ter is t1.11." 

few fuc11111l dclnllsof whicl~ we are sllre: 

"Twenty." 

IIIII the ciiikr W IS to ~IIII\V IIIC* , 

age. wcigl~t. tl~ne of birth. And get these cxilcl l~irth dntr, si~~ce she is 1101 con. 

Or~e ~IIJIUII. 

children urc more thnn nmorpl~olls. To / vl~~ce~l yet Itcc~~~rsu 1 IIIII~ so IC~I like 

"1 clon'l wunl lo llllrt Soil- but snme- : 

llur cl~ll~~l~ter \vllr~ IIIIS I 

us. tlicy nrc real. nlilll~~ll frielldr. 

tllirlg interesting I~sppc~~ed last yeilr." I ller llllllg,ltcr \v~ll, is 

Once yo11 start talking uboul it opcnill 

every 

No call ll~r' r1lr )JIO~(. thall Ibr ' l~llssillle, IlJre t~lllll ly ~I~~~~~~~~~~ 

$lie 

ly, the ljeoplc who nre in tills trap with nlr~.rrdy hlrrl ~tlysrlJ. 111111 l~er IIIISIIUIIII CIIIII~ IIIIV~ ev~!r IIUII. 

you seem to come out of the woodwork. "1.11st yeur u.1: g ~ a ~ cilll t lrun~ 1111: 

The cli~y ~lnd IIIIIIII~I (lo nut IIIIII~~I 

A rcl~orter interviewing me 111 Albnny, ncll~~tinn njienc). where \r.c ~crt 011r 

l.itll(.r. 7lIt, strllngcr rill tile il~l,lne sicils, 

[rlrl~d I ollcc worked \\.it11 on u news. duuglllcr. She's lovely girl. she's ill 

1 11111 11111 sllrC \l.~lellll.r 1110 llliSlllllte~ 

puper. p~ts down hls pc~lcll and pnd and clrllrgc, we tllink tllc! wllrld of her." ~ I I S r i f I I I U S Ile tvnr 

SII~S: "l'l~e sume thir~g 11nppenr.d to my 

Ilrlnx. I krloa~ yr~lr'rr lrrrific i~orrllls. gllillg lo ~lallg if tll(! in~llrlll,ltioIl 

sister. 1 don't know ho\v she feels about "Anyu.11~. the a~l:c:nc? cull4 suid . corresill,ll~or~. ~l~~ ,ilillg 1 sllle 

11 bern~rsc sl~e's never tulkcd about It." llli~l her pllrcnts waolacl lo mtvt her. . 

,f is tllllt 1 lion.l kilo,\. \,.lint 1 fcol, t~Iat 

Another reporter who's writing n story ~hcy \vcrs in college \vl~cn o18r daughter till! rlllolil,ns Isre tllllllllillg lt, \,.,,itinC 

nl~out c;llls buck for more informu- \vns I)~I~II. Thcy got ~r~nrricd later utld / I,l be lolll ,,.llicll gellr lo sllift lo, 

lion. ''1 cnn't bcllevc 11." he says. "1 told IIIO\.C~ ID Culif~~rnia, urld the 1111111 1111s / stlC \\.,lI1.t ,I le \,,llert! slle is callinl: 

I I U I I next lo me wbnl 1 WUs I~rcnole 1111ile s~~~vcssflll ill his b~~sit~ess. frolll, 

\v~~rklng on, nod she says she's natutul ~11d tiles lluve tllre~! el~ilclren. \Vt,ll. 1111: Sllc says 111111 sllc kno\vs I IS~ Io\e 

rnotllcr loll. 1 never would llnve tllo"gllt c~n~~~lacnr~~e III Nrw Ynrk I~II a visit. rind llollg,ller, unl, is sllre tllrll sc,rlleit." 

I a~nflde my story to n new friend. 

\\,rnt it, tllc ilgellcy 11er1111sc tl~r? \vnntcd I lllly \vc.ll fill(l L,lll~~l llt~lcr, ~~ll!ll ,,.(, x,, 

"Oh my Cod." she ssys. "hle loo." to lncct olbr ~lfl~~gl~tcr. Now. !.rru'r~* not i cl\.er sr,lllu of tile slllllc collvl~rslltir,r, 

\\'hut I ~llran 11y all this Is that ure g,,illg 1ikl! tlIis, 11111 we si~icI 1111." 11eca11sc -- fur w1111e rt:uson - we are 

I~copIe IV~II urc as normlll us we cun be. "Yo111 t11111~I:hter didn't \\.urlt to meel ~11,1~~11~ fllr ll r~.ilslJ c,lllt~lllle 

\fie 

tl,c 

lleve ~oneoo to lrlnke new lives. Uut ~II,!~II?~~ \vi/i ,I~ I~/ I!~ soy ,811 - L,,lnllt,ctillll, l~llell 115 \vi$,.,l!s Illat 

we rr~uke theill \\'itl~ the children in our "\\'e cllcl~~'l ilsk her. Sl~e's never ICC otller I]le llliscillg llc.rsall, l,llt I 

~nintls. t*si~rc:swd IIII~ IIIII!~L~I 111 IIIL-I~II~ III!~ rcc,lgnix(! 

t~lllt llr,, ufrlli‘l tl,a. 

\\'hut allout tllc reullions? lleurd nnt~~rul irilrcnts, all11 ifsll~: l~ud just ICC rmlily. \vc: flIr llnlltller nlillllt‘: or 

II 1111 of stories: sui(1 she \. ICI~ III IIII!~~ l11(,1n ..." I\%,II in tllis lilalli~, und 1 rcslize thut ju5: 

"I found her lo Kunsas. When 1 I t11i11k I,[ 1111 the- IJI~~~III~I:~ l'vc ICI ut 

called she suid 'Wl~nt took you so longl' Al.hlA ~nceti~~gs wlltt ha\%! told tl~vir 1 US I f~~r~tusize III>OIII tile "profes%ionki 

Cun ~IIII l~clicve tllut? 1 met her llllsbund ill,rmlt~ they were sllclpl~ing that ilftcr- I ll~~ol~l~~ 

\\ti111 IIII\,I! III~ littlf! girl* 15 

IIII~ r11y l1111f sister nl~d brother ~'llell I 11,11 ,lr~isi~i~lg~~~l IIII g1111ery. 1 think of ful1tllsix~~~ I~BOI ilcr 1ittlc- girl's purcrj+r 

\\,cot IIII~ tl~crr. 11 \.IS \vollderflll to feel tllc llclt~ptecs \\,IIO si~y they r ~n~it WI 10 \\r~! IIIIII~ 1111 II~II I SIIL'II~ I~IB IPSI DI ti.? 

that tllcrr \vur u fullllly I was collnected hnrt t111,ir lrnrnltr or lin\,o thuln tltink IIII~ in II 1111xe. 

lo." IIIL:). i~rt! IIC-~II~ II*~I~CII!CI. I \v#~rl(lcr if I've 1 111118111' 111). di~ttgJ~t(:r's fillller il Ic.~: 

"'l'llc strange pnrl is. nfter 1 Inel evl!r 1111~~ Ills ll~lllgllter. I S liter I I l~irn U~I I:,. 

my ~~~r~tl~er, 1 felt closer t1111n e\'er lo rny "Ill11 y1111r cli111gI111:r is tin ad~~lt." I ~OII~I!~\III~OII, I\IIIICIII~II UT rurcly \jn.+i. 

otl~rr l~~rrtl~cr -- tile c~ne wllo raised III~." rcsl~e~~cl \vht!rl 111). vi~icr: cntcflrs 1111 \vitl~ we kvel~ 111 IIIII~II. 011r 1111t1gi11er SIY:J~: 

"\\'II~II 1 I-1 llcr. we like IJr;lin. "Call y1111 tl~i~~k of UI). (1t1ac.r III' 11 L.#III~~.C~IIII: lll~k ll~at itincls 11s %ti. 

slri~~~p~rs. 13111 can ).(Ill illlugille l(10ki11!4 cilsl! wlloro yt111 \v011111 ~I~I!SIIIII~~ 10 SI)I*II~ 11~ II~III!IS~IIIIIIS 111y 11t.1.11, III). clrive trr i,. 

fur tile first ll~llc 111 Your life at ull(Jlller frlr ll(~r? SIIV cncll~l rlliirry II IBUIIB, UII~ i11vc1lv1.11. ,IIIII SOIII~YI~I)., IIV ~ilys, 1st. k!:. 

fi~rr \vlllcl~ rcscllllll*.s ).~illrs? Aftcr\\'llrds, cll~~l~l~~'t clo ill~ytlll~~g IIIHIIII it. 1\1111 I1o1~11s 111 I

I'l~nrnix, AAlonn. 21nnclay. Jenll#rr Dl, It77 

0 * mm 8 -*) 1 

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Ze11~ Cnckrell's rrv#lsn rllh her chlldren was 8 hi Ys hctn n srllrre and dlvod men1 

lhwklng nnd unhnpp, rrprlrner. ZNa, oulsMe brr tfmrs .Inca (he cMldrn rae adopled 7.5 fnn .&a. : 

Reunion upsets mom and kids 

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25 yours nftcr ndoptiu~t, el~il(lrc!tt cnl111crl relate lo parent 1 

Jlm uid b rrfm 10 111 ~brr .(MI 

slrpmlhm n "Mnr." b. I rmld 

aon rrll 2rill mlhrr:' . 

'.I dm1 -r my uslad mrk 

my mlhn." br wid. "I can't Idnlfl~ 

.W 7.el1. W t h im dilltau pnplr. I 

h.u my llfr u bt* and P h.n d*. 

We're ml csra nbM any-:' 

. Jim. rM Id awl trlh h Dl*. 

ud lr's had r brd llme rmp~n( kf 

In sub I 6bn Urn. 

'mtt IYI'I MY CRY re ram dp~ la 

rxi dkr m vrkl1." h. ud +Yw 

dm1 lull .nf( wlh~lhin~ 1111 UUI 

"*,"Chi." 

I 

Shlrlcy a ad J I m sidd t k .m ~ I 

hbrd la kar UIlr nnlkr -8% ht. 

lllr lur ihrm tmw I~CY awmd rh I 

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Noiflry, m. Nrtlcd und tk n ~ h: r 

01 an crrardd dwchlrr, ud I he 

w*rr r,m ~hnphl slmv~ hr utz.,~ 

m#kr lttt111 a ply rrllnl hr rn 

trllbbr nfd ln*l kr Ih.1 k r mkr 

*a. Mi". L.- L. 

Shlrlry Ann Cmk Ja~vm R. fill1 ' Uhtn tlb F.(cr cnllnl. I t+.q m r 

I 

llale of dwL" rl. mid. "I dMsl tlrn 

Lmw &c .a hnng." 

Jlm. a *a -1 .$rlronn Sink Ildrrr. 

all).. Uld h -19 rrmlalty &id br. 

raw lr .ru e an vdnptlan apnr). 

81 SUSAN IXONARD rh uid. 'Thy dm'l haw no llnte lor '.SIX wmh t. u &ma w h .sd b 

7l~nlj.iIve pars 8 I n n Wnjr me." Ire 1 ~*mllr ard I lold hrr. 'I rml do 

dlvorct~ - .I I 

~lck wllh l~rmlorln and o. 

lhrl. I hol mn know m' and 

wr1t.r. - Enre up MI I*. loddlcrl lor GX-X Iran. I have dwm* Ih.1 didn.1 mmprr)xrd I&I .u: 

I 

rdoptlon hauy ih. cwldn.1 lake cam ~~~hu~",br&~ : 2 .hirle~ ua 6* mlidnr kr nm : 

01 UKm. 

drrrmd d IrWlp and of ixlnl gkpmoih.r krmIkr. 

Dvfna 111 tha )ram. nrllhcr U* rmM. MI I am *as sn unw~n~d in "SM 

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17mt udnunl ~h* 

rh8ldrm mr Urlr mUu hew anythlns my "hl~ HIC" =r art m is chlldrrn .o~m etd 

sbu1 anch dhrr. 

llcr rNldna Jamu n. "Jlm" 0111. 

Ih*(.l lk -4 B b:'ShlrW m. 

' nut femnll~ nus Ccctr.11. M. krl* a. mew, .,A *by A , m. 29. T~~ @ hr b hrr 

hrr chlldrm ad Wh * and the nm- rn UI , ds- ,by. my I,, and lo#* k ma Ilk* snr oUll CNM 

im*n rhlldrrn wid Url vrn Ihockrd I~I;~~,~.~ 

tm hI bn.l have b*eg tklr bul I lold IW I muld. 

and upe( awl ha1 ~ * W. r 

Inllogs lamud an*, but ~lwy mn.1 "'I do lhaL on FU 

LIIa, rho rldll lire h lknlx. mnlldcr her Wr molhr n nd an 'wd"" -" 

lnkrvlr, Uul brr rhlldrm ml nnnop4 by hn mulrnl lclrphonc crllr. . Shldry s 4 11 m me Mwd w I 

nlx8ul In ~ - 3 A R ~ lnq!nlrlna alm)~ m~, 

I 

nvllhrr pnl .n hM lhnt the ma$ drnd. 

Jim nnrl %d+r &-id thy rln rnt 

rtwlrrl In 1lm.l $39 dlllcrmn~. b 

I*wn 1 hrmrt lrr6 mrl 7rlle. .ll#n 

aIlriklln( IW m inhe dillrmnr h 

b r l l l w ~ mtlmnmml. 

"Chm I rd hard (my ntnllnr rat 

Imkiw la nr,. I rna hind n( lhtilld 

rhlll 11." h uU "I cnn'l mll~ ay 

rhnl I was npdln~. I dldn'l kmr 

nhnl In cum bul l me dn.W and a 

llllk dI0mn1.J I r n 8 rl(n1i~ 

.ntlw.* lilr rr. .I far n* ~rrmnrltly. 

rlrlle nnd am. llul nllr III~.XI,III 

srthrr rrd m*d In 'rue. m~.rt 

... 

Inltfedcd In lu. 

"shr 11 I abym." mid shlrly. who tud ik umc ern h. mn11H*1 Mrrrnl. (hlr Frmll. 

"My Udl don't nar om sbout nx." hu only Idtd b Irll. m Lha ahone. hn IlW Lm b.d Ulm dmwnkn lllrs are dilled. tm 

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?*Ill 11"s kn m rrllarr dnre hrr 

&lMmm ror h. 

"I nrvrr rrpulrl tl~nl." uid Jamn. 

"1 tbaII1ni M** k p*vl of 1110 !mkIn# 

rlau, luql htr )a "4 nv." 

In mk~lllon w V* dllfrrmrr. ln I". 

mllv nnl pnru~!).. Khlelry ind JIU 

P*lllur( r I'mcl A.18

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Mom's unhappy reunzon -- 

ConllPud from Page A.1 her," Shirley =Id. "If them was'any 

said they wem dl-r way to help her, I would, but I can't." 

lhst thelr mdbzr fs less educated. Wla said she Just wanlr c6mpanlon. ... 

Jim and ~hirtey lald 'bey don'L'dislh Ship. . , .. 

Zella. "I'm so lonelv. I live alone i'A dl. 

Zella' vo&. I've nekr ~w'aqy 

laid don n' want to 

Shirley or Jlm again. 

rrlative in my whole llfe,"she said. "I 

can't klieve my.dreams have. var$hed 

"I want to 'forget the= ldhs snd p;t- U L this." ~ 

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tend I never met (hem," she said. "I'm 

bmgh them. ~y~ve.shown me Zella was divorcA from ihe;c&en's ' ' . . ... 

thqr don't about me. I afn't going . lathff beion? he hq. bf?ldopd 

to take up any d my time them lion when they were 3 end 4iye- old. 

aqymors." ' She said she's heard he bas died. Since 

lhen, she sald she ,has been. marrled . . . . , . . . 

el la 118s me other son, from another . ... . 

*lquite a few ~mea, but miage1 jut 

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-W, w b she gave UP fa aP don't work for me, so I'm not going to 

' ti011 whtn he W U 10 UI~nths. dd. He . . : 

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pt manid again" .: ... ,'-., ...:, 

, . . . . shauld be 25 now. She satd ahe Med to .:. I . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 

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Iind hlm but is glvlng up her aearch 

because her other two children have 

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, shown YJ little interel In her. . . . . . 

"Since &'others are treating-me : , . . . . . 

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this way, I'ni Just gdng lo, forget him," . . . 

dte said .' I . . 

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BO& Jlrn kd ~ r i esaid j hiy have- : 

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n't declded htber they're going to try ' 

lo mntad Zella agaii~ . : . 

Shirley sald she is curlous to meet ; 

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Zella in pemq but her doctor has ad- . . . . 

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vised her against 11. . ., . . 

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Jim said he hes confllding feelings. 

"I want to see her, but I don't because : 

We gel Upset end them's talon When ,' 

we see each othe~." , a 

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Wla said she . locatd her. children . 

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with the help d a lawyer and a Superior , . . . . . 

CMUr judge after a hao-year suurh . . 

Ha lawyer Uled a peUUon wilh the 

Juvenile Court to open the adoption rrc- . . 

Mds and Judge Morris Rozar, acting ar . . 

specla1 Juvenile. Court judge, a g d to 

conlad her children. . . 

Since Jim's iniHal vlsit wlth Zella in i ' 

Oclober, she visited him me other Ume 

at hls aparlment and has telephoned : 

hlm mnhy tlmw. 

Shirtey fist spok'e to Zella akul four .. 

we& ago when Zella called her and 

has spoken to her several Umn s h on .: 

the telephone. q 

"The 'first 'lime she called me, she 

.asked If she could llve here," Shirley 

said. "I told her, 'It'r not pauible. We 

don't have the mom and we don't have 

the money.' Then she hung up on me." 

Jim said alla suggested that Uley live' 

togelher but he wouldn't agree to it ei- 

ther. "I don't want lo live wlth any of 

my famlly," he sald. 

"She seems to think I should have an 

obligallon to her since she's my mother, 

but I don't feel an obllgatlon to. help 

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cltcn ~hls uome nd+spopw! 

niilkcr publld Ule SO ersonal on* prl. 

vab OIIODltS of s vn YP n ul olcounlcr be. 

tnccn lux3 ndulls'ild lhcir moU15r who I 

Rpvd thcin up. fur, ildoptlon wlicn they 

: WLTE bablcs, mnkcs front pago llcsdllncs 

of 11, and cvcn 'prints thclr plclura ,- , 

!.The .. . Republlc stoops* lo the lcvol ol . 

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.mUc4pklng Ipblo!d. . 

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~~~L'BSDAY, FEBRUARY 10. in7 . Section C. 

Adoption search 

brother. 

, turns u p 

"Cdllradl~ddpbrobmh 

uddlydfla~a~U*~b * . 

thlnnnW&wd,+adfdne . . . ..^" I 

maaoma~uudkmocba 

l , " Y r ~ " a d U * ~ . 

UlU~,(lrudHmo 

Immm*rrNm&lPmd"ltm, 

dbsblnbU*~.h,~ 

k - u d U * ~ t h a & l u d ~ a 

bdhora&bm. 5 

ara$.klU*~llmM.bsl 

dkblnb 

~ & % % d ~ u ' 

M b r P a ~ * l h ~ r o m 

hroarrdt. 

U h O r u d ~ ~ , & 

l v m P d a ~ ~ ~ M 

~mda~;~~npldsb~)n.ma~m 

Orand Hnm pm boa W I 

mlde nmuy. 

"srtm1Wbbbrlla~ I 

r o u d ~ ~ r . ~ ~ q ~ ~ l 

LbWuuVm.ha)rwaaUUI, 

b.rrwurnvm,l~wpls , 

9a AdDpLbO. 2C 

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RIPDDIIC #h10 b I S U Len 

Nancy Palmcr . . . "My life wodt 6e complele until I lind 11cr." 

Love for 'lost' mother 

leads to 10-war search I 

J 

Ey SUSAK LEONARD 

Nnnry Palmer does not linorv hcr 

rznral molher's nane. l~lest!~lc or 

\\I erealouts, but lost .\lay rllc cclcbraled 

Lhe woman's bi:tl~d:~y. 

dntr to L!e names of all malcs born 

in 3938. >!IF said. She htr~s UInt her 

mother tad a bmlltcr who was four 

yalrs younger than hrr'. 

She and her Bycaiwld mti htichael "The pssihilily Is very good thnt 

buu;lit 3 ihocol;ttr c:Ae imicd uith 

the nods. '~lloppy UuU~day llom" 

ln honor of the occitriun 

Ulcn? mU pmbably be only one 

mntch and thcn 1'11 know ~iho my 

molhcr is," she dd. "I might sound kind of stan@ but The manager of UlC slate Departsfic's 

s ~ i a 10 l me," htiss I';llmcr, mcnt of Health Senficcs Vital RcC- 

Ti, of Lang lie:rh, Cal~f.. sdd in ords Won, I~owcvcr, mlusd ller 

Phcenix lac1 week. "It's kind of my ncccss to the hirlh ccrlificatcs and 

way of saying. 'lf I knmv wlem you told her lhat shewill hare to make 

ace Mom,'I'd remember ydu'." her requst in wrillng to the depart 

mcnt'r diteaor. 

h1lS.9 Pdlmcr* '~~ adopted Dr. hrn],,, depart. 

\\bn she was 16 days old, has cclebratcd 

her mother's bim~&y for the 

men1 diwr, said hlonday !hat sllc 

past four ,.eNs - ever since does w1 mow \vl*ther she will ap 

fwnd ~l~ womn waF t,om hia? PmVC Palmer's mlue*. 

25, 1'132, in Arizona "I juJge each cnso lndivldunlly," 

prsnnally believe 

&he mid. "I muld hnve lo see nhs 

thinks of me on my birthday. too," 

shc wars the Inlormallon. But In nny 

,he said, donot you giw C;ISC, \m would not let her thumb 

thnlu;h a whole Wup of mrds. We 

1111 a child and nc\rpr think nlmul her 

to 

nga~o." 

do remrch,w 

Sliss Pdmcr, who has bcen scml~. 

Dr. Way billd hrlldna' binh m- 

i,, , ,. ,,,,rtlll,r , ars, 

tif~~:atrs arc not considered publlc 

clllk lo I,hwllix lilht In llopcs ~~uids mder slitlc laws and ore not 

01 ending her odysscg. 

avuileblr fur unrcrlrictcd .public inspcrtion 

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"I'm right on Ulc vrrae 01 llndlng ull.s y, i,,,,tmtin~~ e,d . .M~~ 

her." sh~! said. "OIICIS I l;nd out her p,,,ner, a pudnsing for a 

name, my scnrcll is cssenliully corn. .\ 

eolltair.cr coprptlon, "1 5~ . , 

plcte. It shoulcl ]us! -bc u nlat!cr of ,miles I'm ,b w,dld~ a 

months nfler that!' ,' .: I 

Shr =Id. howewcr, bat (ii npl .i 

Shc intrrdcd to find u111 l~cr moU~.:. .givM up ,lo, bpqucal , 

er's nanlc by comparing tlic name8 of 

frmillcs bun! on 11cr n~othcr's birth , . contin& O; P& g2. ;,. , . , 

'IICS., Nnv. 20, '77 Tho Arizona Rcpubllc 

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Cnnlln~~rll frnm Pnfie n.1 

crulrl nrrlrr npr.nlng llie blrlll rr~'o~rls 

if Dr. I);III~c~ rejrcls hrr rrqursl. 

hlisn P;llrrlrr f11111ld 0111 IIIT nlolh. 

cr's b1rU1 l~if~l~~t~~nilon fmnl ll~c Flnrrnrr 

Crillenlnn hlalcrnlty ilonlt! In 

Drnvcr, !vhem hliss I'nlmcr !mr 

horn. 

Ilnrvcvrr, s h co~~ld ~ not find nut her 

ltlot~lcr's nnmc bucilllse lhc woalan 

used nn nllns. 

"That waa n very comtiion prnctlm 

nt tho llnlr." sha sflld. "(;lrls who 

cnnlc lo n~ntrrnlly ho~nrs aerc ltnnd. : 

rd n llst rrf n;imrs nnd told lo plrk 

onr for lhc durnlion of Uiclr slay." 

lllss I'nlmrr said she hn~ n fmllng 

that hcr mother is still livlng in 

Arl7nnu. 

"I feel Ilk0 sho's here. Don't ask i 

nl@ why, lnlt I've just alwnys telt j 

comforlnblc here." I 

Sha mid she hns lravelcd erlrn. 1 

dvely in tho \trcskrn stutes, spending 

H.Obl nnll oounllcss l am looking for 

her mnother. 

"hfy Hfc am't I% complele tntll T 

flnd her," she wld. "l'vc got to flll 

thnt void, thnt big vncuum that 1 

Iw!' 

llrr pnmnls have mpprld hrr 

effnrts to find her natural mother, 

hliss Palmer said. 

"I'm not lmWng for n s~~bstltule 

molhcr. I'vc got pnrrnls," she snid. 

"I just wmt ta flnd out who she IS 

and If she cnnlc out all right nnd lct 

hcr knnw wlto 1 am and that I cnlnc , 

out all right 1 

! 

"I don't cvrn cam If shc slim~s lhr : 

dmr In niy foca or tolls mc lo gct out j 

of her lilt. I just want lo lind hrr. It , 

she's dcnd. 1'11. ha dlsnppoi~ltcd, but 1 

it's better than not knowing." 

One of the thln~s hflss Pnlnlrr snld 

shr needs to know Is why her molhcr 

gnro hrr up. 

"\\%en 1 was In Mgh srhml. I used 

lo fantnslzr thnt she was a hlgh.clnss 

pmstlllllc and gnve mc up hause I 

inlerlcrd with her cllrnlrlo but lhat 

nppa!.enlly Isn't Lrue," she mid. 

She knmvs Utnt her molhcr was 18, 

had flnlsl~nl hrr junior ycnr in ltl~h 

rrhool arld npparently was dnglo 

n.hm she hnd hcr child. 

hlislr Palmer aLw hnd n child out 

of urdlock al~cn she Pias 18. 

"It's nbsolutely incdble that 

thrro nre m many thlngs the cwmo 

brtacm lhls ~von~nn l11nl l'vc ncvcr 

cvrn scrn NUJ IIIC," sht? snld. "Our 

Iivcs nrs almost parallel. 

The wolncn both were Sfcrt.7 nnd 

\vcigl~cd IM punds when Ulclr chll. 

drcn aerc born. Do@ wcro heavyset 

and lnrgc lnnnl. 

htiss Palmer alu, has fnund Ulnt 

dc and JIIT tnothrr h;lve tl~c sanle 

hobbirs: ncwisfl, slnglilg, fishing ond 

s1nri.x 

"I love U~nt lndy nnd I don't wcn 

know IIP~," Miss P:llnIrr wid with n 

lcnr in her ryc.

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, . ~.orblic.mt*w J ~ M I D ~ ~ ~ 

"I'm lust klnd of ln-sevcnlh henven," said Nnncy Pnlmer,, whose 10-yenr'scarch his ended. 

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Nsncy Pnlmcr mct her natural 

mothcr Saturday after 10 yeus of 

mrching. 

They hugged, kissed. sobbed, took 

on tbclr glanes to wipc aivuy tenn, 

and then cmbrnced some molt. 

"ll~Is is the mst unbclicvnhlc 

thing I'vc cvcr heard of in niy life," 

said IIiss Palmcr's mother. who 

asked notto be identifled kcainc it 

miglit cmhrnss her rclnUvcs. 

"Would you ever belicvc for one 

mhute thil this could have hap 

?" ahc sald. "I'm just so 

red 

ppy. It's jL.4 like somebody wavcd 

aslaglc ad." 

bliss Pdrner, meanwhllc, sald she 

was "just shaking like n leaf" because 

6hc %as so clcltcd. 

"I'm just kind of in seventh hcavm." 

she @Id. "11'6 a very strange 

Iceling." 

Tbe two rnct at Sky liarbvr Inter. 

nation:rl Airport nflcr hilss Palmer. 

26, of Long Bcacli, ~nlif., new lo 

Phocnix. 

Her mother, tvlio lives in Phoenix, 

mad a story in The Arizona llepiihlic 

1 as t werk irbout Bliss Palmer's 

srnrrll for hcr nioll~cr and realkcd 

thal the !vomcm was herdnughtcr. 

They talked to cach',pUicr on tbe 

lcl~pllont for about nn:..trour and 

mode plans for lhc hirlnrt rcfidcz- 

VOUS. . It was obvious fmm ilks Pnlmer's 

r3diillIt Smile lhnt she had filled 

"Ulal void. that big vncuum" UI:I~ she 

said she ha long felt. Slic was 

sdoptcd wlrcn slic was.lO days old. 

Sliss l'almrr canit- to l'lrc Rcp~blic 

nfl~r tho stab Ucpilrlincnt of ilenlih 

Srrviccs a Ilc~onlu Seulior~ refus~I 

to let licr iwk 101: licr mother's 

birtir c~rlilicate. 

10-year search for nmther / 

Ily SUSAN LEONARD I 

Tho F16ferico' Cnttcnton nlatimltg i 

llome in Wnver, whcre hIlss Palmer I 

was born, told her that hcr mother 

was born jn Mlmnn but woulh't teu 

her the woman'a nmc. , . L 

She lntrndcd to Ilntl out her maul. 

or's name hy rnmparing the name of 

femnles horn on her molhrr'n blah 

dote - hfoy 25, 1932 - to thli names 

of oll males born in IN', she S~I,!. I 

nbout belng pregnant Worn yodm 1 

married," she anid:: '7t may l 

unloriunate, hut it's not bd." 

The aomnn, who wnrks at IlOneY- 

well, married about four ye" after: 

nliis Palmer mas horn and had lour 

children. One of those chlldren had 

haby 0111 of wedlock when sha was 17 

the mother sabl. Miss Palmer also 

had a bniry when 'sho was 18 and 

unmarried. mth kcpt their chlldrcn. , 

Khcn lirr cl~lldren mcre young, 

hilss Pillnier's tnothcr said she told 

than abaut tho haby sho had given 

up but had in rctell thcm again last 

\vwk hrcamc smo of Ulcm had 

forgotten. 

"They wcm nll just BI happy Rs 

me." aho said. "Thcy'rc glad lo hsve 

an older slster." 

She also plans to slowly starl !ell- 

Ing her frlcnds and relntlves about 

her newly found daughter. 

Sho knows thnt her molhcr hill1 n 

brother who was four y~'iirs younjicr. 

hr It turned out, hllss Pnlmrr's I , 

rnolller was no1 born In rblzona hut 

everything else thnt the tuo know 

about eacll other matches pcrfcctly. 

FOP example, 111s cldcr woman hnd 

a baby on Jan. 4, 1951, and nmcd 

hw Vicki Lynn. hllss Palmcr was 

born on that date and nmed Vicki 

Lynn. 

Both women iwk vcry simlliar nnd 

all tho physical dacrlptions and 

rticdlcnl history that they know about 

cocl~ olhcr matches perfectly. 

rite ddcr uomnn, wlro hns lived In She sald the slr or sevcn months 

Arimll tllost of her life, was n junior she spcnt in Uio maternlly home 

In high school in Phwnix nt the time were "vcry frlghlcnlng, . . lonely . 

she bccamo pregnant. She, dropped Ilmes." 

, 

out Of 6~11001 and ncver \vent hack. 

',It was terrlblc," she said. "lt'~ns 

"I can't rcmcmbcr why I mrnt to ' nlmost llkc a reform sr110ol. Wo 

Dciivcr," she sald. "I don't know U 1 could hardly cvcr get pnsscs to get 

my pnrcnb lrrndc me, if thcy advised I cut nnd uhen rvc did. tho Wplo 

me lo or If I just cliosc la. 

mund thcn! mado fun of us!' 

"I Lrled lo p~rl all of those things she sald she also &l~ctcd to Ule 

out nf my iiiind bl-rn~isc I nrvrr 1 home's method of coun2lIng. 

tliought I'd src hcr ugaln. I tried to "~hcy took good care of us - gava 

forgct as nrlicll 11s possible." 

us good medical cnrc, food and cxcr- 

Sho snld shn did not hcsltnlc lo cet cise," she sald, "hut tho ~~IISellng 

In cnnt:lct wiOl bliss l'nlrrler ryhen %a5 prctty onc.sldcd. It ivas 1111 

she rcnd i~lwrut her. 

ntmcd at making yo'.! give Up Your 

"I hn$c lclt vvry guilty orrr ihis child." 

all my lilo," she said. 

~iss palriicr spnt the weekend nl 

If sllo llad lo do It nil over agdn, hm trlofhrr's mn~fortnblc, nlid611!ciasv 

home. ~lic women sald thcy ; 

shn snld she would have kcpt her 

riir~iglitcr evcn tlinsgir ah13 dldn'l aant spent the titno tnlkhg. 

to marry tho child's falhrs. 

"She (MISS pnlmerl Is going to 

"l'lic wny I fcrl ahout thlrrgs now, I have n home here and can come 

rlon'l for llie llfn of me know !thy 1 lipre any time ~ I u-~nfs." 

C the elder 

gave livr up. Utlrlcr Ihc silrnc rlrrum. \\r,man said. "I war.1 her to bo pilrt 

our Ilvcs but I realize sh0 bas 

I 

stnnt!c.s trulny, 1 %vuuld cc~lairily krcp 

"1 don't see atl)Ilrlng tililt's so bad ar,othcr set of pnrcr.:5. I gllCiS !V~'ll j 

hare tn be like ste;Qarents or pitr. 1 

cnts number two!' 

,

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b. 

:. ~wcy..:Mcnd~hxn~s'. ehoo~ios ' in ym .sdo*a.b~hcii;fiho: WPI .a. 

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. &d 1.j toll her !hot s;id rns, &-,$ " nwnth old. : : . ;.i : , . 

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I;ahd ........ : . . . 

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............. ;, ,.' ts,,.l;., . . . . ... . ,' . ...~,. ...... h~..:cls~d 'fb' '&lit :nbactl firm.'* 

.......... 

,. Or didn't 'even undo~ind wimt it : jnc:ult.", .nIrs. Ucndenbnll, 92. 01. 

somedJy~l 

. : . . a68 snGi:.:'~i alwayi lho~d. 

I would,: 

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in nn interview, I: . .Mondoy hci c$eq &ll!como lkfl.',. 

: 1920 W. mgie, m~d 

!'Whm I W3.p I4 I asked my older The u;& &,&.: .im &o&i-. to 

: bmlller nnd ha.!old me that I .was. . have lhelr ikt reunlon In Photsnlr. .. 

d,,$UF" ';': , . . , ' .,, ,:: . , : ... .... , ... ... .:. . '.'. "It's' 't& be ' fi~t'ns~~c:' .'snld 

': . ~rn&nntn, 

. . hdwavg, denled it:'. ' . Mrs.. Afcndcnh~fl, Uta tnslluetor Of::, 

...... 

Ula reunion. 1'1 on't wait. Il'ti gulltg 

:;#ma "ex; (lmo they .~ett, I' Gni- lo hu the byst dvistmns I'ra over 

hagd thrOUgh ihcli rmnds a n d Mad.'! : : ,: .. .'.>, . .... 

.....;... . I i : (.fl "' 

4ound :.my b ~r~h . ccrtl~catc;* cl h e '2 .. H gdsle;9, '*&in de 

!;aid. "I faund out that ~womnn 

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:crho hod llval nut door to ma all equally oxclted. ;. :. :. .I 

.ins: Ula,wa~ 

' . localcd ' aller . a lona .search. .a' 

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mj mother,': ' . ' , ' ".' . . i?,l'm lookln~.'fohuahi 10 'it,".; 416 

j?mEht 'tf?&i, i Mrs', ~f&'&* 8h!rley hnn Collfnn.,BB,. nI Sun 5060, 

:marebod next &or. .... ., . ; ...- Callf. "All my IIf4 1 L!tsrkht I was. . 

,.;,,I . '. fust: &lknf;,in,t and I :.&id .: m orphm:. 11 1% .g$, +:ha+ . ... u 

. . , 

r ' ... family?. 1';' .; :*' ,!You're mv mother; ,mn'; yoq'?!;, \;:. , 

.. ! ,,, !,, ,, ,>,; ,;, . 

,. .. 

.?- MIS. .~end;~nbhfl 'l~alrd an$.nlet: 

' iT60 d~staiIcndrahnlSs; n~olher, :In fact, ;.ha: 

Umc,. ......... Dui.l~t, ,.. 

'a tbs$onun .who adopted br .am :' ;17.dnys :ago,. die '&d lo Che' ofher. 

~*r$j . . . . . ,. 

I., 

,:.... ;..:, 

. . , ., ... . :sfstir-Iy 0 $4,. of Allldcn;. 

. ; . . . 

1. ,e :. . Mn- Mendenall's mthm also ht) : .hlqan, - for (h bat ..... Urqo,: .:',.! 4: r :., 

jlkr Uiat shc had two othcr. daugh- .: :;,,t'&'qui&, ~ h p t ,o,,,&~~ 

k ~ 

icrs Utat Were pul up for adoption-' ..; ..... . 1.. .: 

!&'~f U, fia",o t$l~ bh. Mends. .[:... ...... 

,.I: ;, ... . . . 

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adoptive~liomcr for;~vhai are tcded "un-. 

adoptable :. ehll,&cn," ,..state. .. dty:and 

private ~lldc~m:. egnc!es. fi findins 

that black boys ,wet- 7,.yean of, age pro 

the:mbst difliurlt!d.plrcc;~~~~. , :. .:I$. .; 

These' boys M "the, laant' de?lrablc, 

child-care speClalisls sdy, because they. 

are pmludged to.bc unmanageable. . 

'We 'ore finding :that :olhw agencfea 

arc referring an nvenvhelmlng numk of 

black, boy8 w us:! sald.l(athryn Donlcy; 

dlreetori ot .'New, ;Y uldlng 'tor 

~hildren,.an;egonc; $&%ng la Wd: 

fng homes for,child&t~ . . :corisidcrsl.coiisfd . "hard 

to nlnm!' ..... . , . . ,. 

dty'ch~d.&&'~fl~l& $& 

at. SpaUldin~ offlcea" lhst" week st '19 

i West 44th Stmt to announce thatZthe 

:a ncy wwld hclpO4-childare. aken- 

:cg use,mom elfectirid methods to flnd 

homes for. more thnn2,OOO foster chltdren. 

'dbemed eligible for. adoptlon but, for 

............. ..... 

. .:. ., ~~rh'E-aiIer to,p~a&, 

' There., is 8 relatively 'larger pod'.~L 

:.pmsmliva whltc.sdopUvo parents for a 

relatlvcly! mallet number. of dlglble 

whlte children. Thbse chlldren ere easlor 

,.tu 'plncu for adoptlon. Whitc children 

liai'e nlso'.heen conaldered ndoptnblo at ? 

Infer a c than black children. 

: ~ uc%~idum t experts say girls ot both 

;races ore more easlly laced than bays 

, hecause they am U~ougit to be ewlcr 10 

Itsndle; 

niat leavu p large gmip of black 

........ 

f AnU~ooy:~,'~eronlco,,who 

wlll mn the 

the children. 

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.~ ~ 

:were at iho Wedritsd~y ncws mferenee. 

[One wai a 1Een:a ed white youth, an- 

,,other's young &8d vi1.h Do- Syn. 

! dromc, another . & carsld black &{Id 

wlth minlmll Vtn "I rtlon, and a 10.y~- 

[old. black 'boy who [r In the mun of 

- 

The b6y-bas then placed In the 11. 

ot hls s~ster's foster par@. who ado 

her last ymr. But the cauplo found 

wcro not ablo to adopt hlm'qnd hc 

llvra in a group home on S&tm rsl

The increased availability of abortion and biith 

control and the trend among unwed mothers to keep 

their children have reduced the supply of newborn 

babies to the point ttiat agencies are now focusing their 

attentions on ... ., the . . .,. children -who4iiid previousty &n. 

.'I I. -.3.$,",.,-. 

written'offhs .. - .* ,.l.,.r. ~niido~table~~housand4'of 

.. ..? ,..- b... l ..... is old,& chil;; 

4.- " 

;. 

dren,'ininorilyand .. .*, -A-C. , ., 

.r..Y..e interradilch~laren . . ,.,. .++. .-...-.A a j\#, d th'osewlth'; ..... . 

emotional;mental;and physibl hand~ca~sareflndin~~ 

, ..,,.." ,,.-..,..; .-,>: , . .. -"-.?r+I .,.,. ;.., - .- 

. homes . .,.. .wrth:woinen and inen.who don t ronIoAhi to: 

,#.. ' .".. , . ,-. .. -*(. .., . ' 'i.,--(.:'. .... \ ?., . 

+e dd pra"e,fl.the i+hli+bpti~e parent. ,ManY '61 

. . . : . . I-..< 

these . .-:,.-- new parents amnoiwh/te,'dr , . .. . . , . m~ddlcclas's, and 

many are'not'mi~ed., .$:';.>::.;i,J-;: .~~'~L~~..', 

. .. d .. .. ,. .> : . 

,'.In . - .. ~oL';mbcr ,df 1965; the 'Loi' Angeles County 

~e~artmeniof ~db~tionsfilaced the first child in this 

country in a single-parent home, after the California 

State Department of Social Welfare bad passed a 

regulation .stating that "single-parent applications 

may be accepted only when a two-family home has 

not been found because of the child's special needs." 

At the time, "special need" children were defined as 

"Negro and Mexican children, and those of all races 

and nationalities with severe medical problems." 

Today that definition includes racially mixed children, 

WHAT 

IT'S LIKE FOR . . , 

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FOUR FAMILY STORIES i 

1 BY GINI KOPECKY ' 

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4G/Sfs. 

ttvo year+, the agency s.iid they litid ;I biracial ciglit- 

year-old n~mcd Susan \vho nucdtd .I liome ini- 

mediately. Could Elainc iiikc her in tivo clays? 

Susan hid been living witli a Sp,inisli-speaking 

family whtl took her witli tlicm to I'ucrt~r Rici~ witli 

intcntitrns of adopting. Noiv, after t\vo ytrars, ihcy 

\vcre hrinsing her back bcc.iusc of "difficulties alljusting 

and ptxlr performance in scliooi." (SLIS~II'S version: 

they hit her ;I lot, and rn.i~lc8 her c,it her tiicals 

scp.ircitcl~. JI a doll's t.iblc j~lacctl in .i corn~-r.) 

I-laving ken told nothing of the fanlily's rc\,ers.il, 

Suwn thcru);ht slie %spas returning 11, the 51;11cs jusl fur 

a visit until someone from thc~ agency csplaincd the 

sltuaiion to lirr. "That tr7as it," says Elainc. "l'llc)~ 

glossed over the fact tliat tlicrc might be any 

I 

1 I 

problems." 

Nearly four years later, with tlic help of ongoing 

tlicr.ipy, problems still remain unsolved. "Sttsa~i is .i 

gorgeous cllild." Elaine says. "She's very cliar~iiitig 

and outgoing. Ui~t the relationships slie formsarc very 

superficial. She docsn't lia\rc tlic ability to trust. The 

I 

more slic fcds that this is lier home, the niclrc slic 

fights it. Shc's Lwcn disappointed bcforc, and she's 

11111 going to let it happen apiin." El,line is trying to 

understand th.il Susan's resistance is not aimed syccifically 

at lier, but it still bothers her. \Vhcn Susan docs 

tlirorv her amis around her motlicr in a spontaneous 

Iiug, Elaine cannot always find it in hcrsclf to hug 

back. It is a difficult time for tlicrn both-cmotionallp, 

and in terms of tlicir different needs iln~i habits. 

"Somctimcs I really tired to be alone," Elaine crplains. 

,*Bu~ Susin likes compa~iionship, and at first 

I 

S 

p-~ p~ p~-~ 

I i 

usnn likes companion- 1 

~ htook c my need f~rrsirlitttdc ,is $1 sip1 of rc~jcctirrn. So 

no\\. I don't insist on it as much." Elaitic li,isaIso had 10 

relinquish sonic of the total indcpcnlicncc she crticc I lc \sfas \vliite; rtry n~utlicr was black. Slic wurca wig." 

enjoyed. 'Tlicrc arc all these other pctlplc you liat~c ttr 

rely on to hclpcare ioryot~rchild: teachers, drrctors. A 

Elainc doesn't mind hearing Susan talk about her 

past affections and lias gone out of her way to i~bt.liti 

child really docs absorb a lot of time and crii~rtional sncipsliots of the other families fur Susan's album. She 

energy." Bccat~se of the nccessar). ert,sion of Iier docs \\wry that tlic child's idealized vision of lier first 

privacy and indcpcndc!icc, Elainc hasiwch careful nut fanlily prevents her from dealing \villi present 

to sacrifice the things lhilt arc iniportant to licr: her realities. "Susan thinks if only she were back there, 

\\fork, her pottery, her adult friends. 

everything would be fine. I3ut the first family probably 

So far, Elaine fccls the racial difference lias mrt wasn't perfect and lier last family probably rvasn't as 

prcscntcd a problem. "Certainly the \vorld my fricnds Iiorrcndous as she says. It rvould be nice if she could ' 

arid I travel in is racially mixed, and I \vould never livi! 

anyrrhcrc that SIIS.III COLII~ not lliiv~> blilck as well as 

get that straight, but it takes tinie." 

In previous families, Susan lias also had two 

white fricntls." Sttsan considers licrsclf black. "l3ut brothers and a sister, and slic wishes slip had a sister 

slie'salso livccl ivilli ,in interracial family and a Pircrti) now, "lo talk to, and Iiclp clean my ruom." 1:lainc has 

Rican family," says Iilainc, "str slle sees licrs~*lf ,is 

Sp.~nisli and tvliitc, and she's .ilscl jcwisli bcc,ilnt~sc Itiy 

decided agiiinst ii scct,n~i adoption. She fccls it ivrruld 

LK. Iiard 011 Susa~i 10 sli,?rc her nttcntioti. 

~nr~tlicr gives l~cr presents for Clianuk,ili." 

tlltliou~li lil.iinc is nut considering ~n,irriag!,c. ,it tlrc 

Instcad, a group of other si~iglc arioplivc parents 

scrtccs ,is tlicir cxtcndccl family. "It's nice for the 

~~iomcnl, Sus.itl \vould very nii~cli like to ll.ivc a father, 

,, 

to lia\,c somccrnc ttr run to \\-lien hlt,~iimy an11 I 

clliltlrcn iind tlic adults to l ~ a s~rmctr~ic \ ~ ~ clsc tcr talk to 

.iboul ciiliimoti diffictiltics. Sonic of 11s ailopt \trilh 

airgi~e. 

~~nrcalisti~ cxpcctotions-citlicr abtrut our particular 

"I've h.ld four motlicrs .lr~d tllrrc f.~tllers,'~ Susan cliildrc~i, orabo~~t cliil~irt~~i ill gc~i~ral. YLIII can end up 

says, retallin): licr Itvir jlrcvicrus familit-s i\tid her fcclitig disapptrintcd. YLILI n~iglll have an intcl\cclud\ 

k~iological part!nts ~\~licrtn slic ilors not kntr\v. "My understanding crf your prtrblcms, hut it rlocsn't 

ship, and at first she I 

! 

took my need for solitude 

as a sign of rejection. NOW I j 

don't insist on it as much."

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litti, Alc.rnitdi9r, ntld Dltnirc' Grcct~:/hrt, 39, isn mrrslrlln~tf 

. . fi~rll~cCiti:~~trs'Ct~aliliott/orCl~ildret~. Heisnlson~tnc/or, fl 

arlrsicinir, ntld nt1 nvid ir~doorgnrdcttcr. Hc is 11lnck nsnre/tis 

lun nrlollltd sotis: Alexnr~dcr, lot ntld n /in//, nrtd Dttntte, 

rlhrr. Tlt~y littc it1 fl cottlorlnbly fitntisllcd fi~urllr-finr 

d~tplt~x it1 n Inrxr n/mrlaroil cotr~plcx. 

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titnt- I I ~ 

~~~tblir.~til~n, c~rl~td 

IIIII IN* ~ ~t~~~~t~~;r.~l~tlt.d. 

already developed a (sunlcrvhat grudging) liking and : 

for each other. Jim has even gotten reports froin I 

scllool that they now to each other as "my 

brothcr." 

&fore being adopted, cacll boy hid grown up in a / 

different foster home with different experiences. A\- , 

exander, reticent and shy, had arrived in a stale of ' 

physical neglect, wit11 worn-out, ill-fitting clothes and 

a freshly shaved head. "I-lis foster parents had done it 1 

Right now, Jim Green's biggest problem is the 

rivalry between his two sons: Alexander, whom he 

adopted ttvo years ago; and Duane, rvlio arrived in 

September. "Alexander sincerely wanted a brother," 

says Jim, "but he didn't understand the h~ll impact 

just before he left, hoping to make him unattmctivc ' 

enough for miB to change my mind. After all, I was i ; 

taking away their sullporl check." i 

In cc~ntrast, Duane's foster parents had taken ex- j 

Duanc wtluld haveon his life. At first he really ovrrdid trelncly good care of him. "1.1~ arrived with very nice i 

the big brother bit-lying Duane's shoes, combing his clothing and a taste for calf's liver," recalls Jim, 

hair." One day the two boys were sitting at the table, 

and Alexander wassaying, "My father this,"and "my 

father that," when Duane interrupted: "You keel1 

saying your father, your father. You talk like I don't 

live here. Ije's otrr father." 

Then the conipctition and the blorvs began-much 

of it initialed by a jealous Alexander. But Jim, a firm 

disciplinarian, refused to take sides, and ~hclnlyshave 

. . - . - . - . ..- - - . - . . . - . .. . . . - . - - . . . . .. . . , . . 

'Di~on~ (nnl his rral nami-), \v111,si*odcrplion $\.as no1 I#n.~ti,td ol llw 

"whcrcas Alexander's cravings leaned more toward 

bologna. At first Alexander couldn't believe that he , l 

wouldn't bc moved aviii, and once during an argu- : 

nlent, he thrcatcncd lo run ;twny, until I told him he'd 

have to leave Iris new winter coat behind-but nothing I 

drastic. Duanc, on the other hand, really seems lo j 

understand that tllisishispcrmancnt homc. l-le'svcry 

verbal nnd demonstrative, and he's helped Alexander ! 

~CCOIIIC more olllgoing." 

Ni~itllcr of Jim's cliiltlren suffers from scrinus inen-

tal, emotional, or 11liysic.il disorders. Jim believes tliat 

a child witli scverc liandica~s rciluircs the kind uf care 

rvas riot mi ,iltrt~istic decision; I thoup,ht .idupling 

would iio a lot for me. I \v.intcd lo raisccliiltircn. I had 

Ilia1 is best prtrvidcci Liy a t\vo-parent Iiomc. Wlicn lie 

originally filed liis a}iplic.ition in late 1972, tlic agency 

p,ru\vn 1117 believing tliat dating led to marriage and 

then family. but it didn't happen that \\.a!.. As I 

offered liim only severely rctardcd and plipsically a~~pro.iclicd 30, 1 rc~alizcd that you cat1 only c.irc so 

handicapped children. 

"It was ilicir way of trying to disciiuragc nic," lie 

nitlcli for somnmc else's cliililrcn." 

Katliy liad asked for a Iiard-to- lace child-\\'liiclr 

says. "'flit agency assu~ncd that si~nirlliinp, must be 

rvrong witli me. I \\,as asker1 \vhy I didn't just riiarry 

she figt~reil \roulll n1c.m '1 girl, non\vIiilc, sixor seven 

years olii-tliottgli she di~in'l feel she could Ii,~ndlc n 

and have my own cliildrcn. I was asked about cliild rvitli serious lianilicaps. She had not cotttitcd on 

lionioscxuality. And, of course, no one would believe being offcrcd .I boy. "Everyone says boys can't get 

that a single man is capal~lc of cooking and cleaning along without a man, but mine have plenty of opporand 

caring for a child." 

lunily for ~ilalc contact. I worry Inore about same-sex 

It is to his sisters, or liis neighbors, that Jim some- adoptic~nti: girls witli \\-omen, boys will1 nicn. \Vlicrc 

D 

are tlicsl: cliildrcn going lo learn lo interact tlie 

opposite sex?" 

uane arrived with nice Scan canic to Katliy in September, 1972, and Fabian 

came in January. 1975. "After I liad Sean, 1 decided 

clothina,and a taste for that niy second child should also be dark-skinned. I 

calf's liver,"~ecalls Jim. I felt it was more iniportant that they look like each 

other than like me, sincc they would be facing the 

"~lexander's cravings I world togctlier." She also rcqc~ested that the second 

leaned more toward bologna: cliild.lia\~e allergies-something that she and Scan 

already liad in coninion. 

times turns for cnicrgcncy advice. Though parenting "Fabian came to me witli minimal brain damage and 

held few surprises for liim, his life lias changed. "I learning disabilities. His condition liad never been 

can't go out as freely, or entertain as la\rislily, or properly diagnosed. So 1 was confronlcd with an 

p;impc?r myself as much as before, bccause tlic cliil- eight-year-old tvho didn't know the alphabet even 

drcn come first. I go to PTA nicelings now, and 1 help though he'd h ~ going n to scliool sincc lie \\,as three. 

rvitli homework. Tlicrc arc a few tI?!~igs that you do by And lie was terribly angry at being taken away from 

trial nnd crror, like learning to shop for children's Iiis second foster home. He was extremely mistrustful. 

clothes. You niakc a fe\v mistakes at first. Uut after a I.lc broke ivindoivs, lie ran away-until it came time to 

while, it a11 becomes very nalural." 

sign the adoption papers. Then lie had a breakdown. 

I-le tliouglit I niiglit string liim along wen farther and 

1111!1r reject him. At tliat point I knew I either had togct 

help or consider rcturniiig liim. So I postponed the 

adol>tiun until I could g1.t govcrnmcnl subsidies lo 

send liim fur triBatmcnt [in New York City st~cli 

sctbsidics tiiust be approved by tlic lltrn~.iu of Child 

\Vclfarc before final adoption papcrs art! signcdl, and 

to liavc! him scrci~ncd ior spccial classes." 

Scar1 also is in thcrapy now. "Altlioirl;l~ ttc didn't 

want lo leave his foster Iiomc either," Kathy remcnibors, 

"lie understood tliat tlit~ri! was somelliing in 

this fi~r him:' It rvasn'l until after liis brother arrived 

tli,it Seain's deeper anxieties bcgiin to surface. "As ilic 

kids beconic older and niorc aware of their past, they 

also become moreconfused. Sciin was angry a1 having 

been rejected more than once, and lie transferrtrd liis 

- ~ -~ p~~~ 

~ ~ -~~ ~ 

"I kniw* what kinds trf cliiltlrcn \\!ere availiihlc; I'll 

\vorkcii \\!it11 tlicm," says Katliy. "I \vas cvilling lu 

i~cccpt llic fact tliat lliesc were da~iiagcd cliilllrcn. It 

., 

anrcr ti1 riic. If I said 'nut on vciur belt' ur 'flush the 

ttiilct' he ~\~uuld Iii~\~c a temper lantruni." One day, 

Katliy c.1111c ho~iic to find a slit in the arm of tlie 

living-rc~ilri~ c~trch. Sean siiid lic tlid it because lie 

knc\v K.itl?y liked tlic~coucl~ .?lid bccatrsc "I'm .il\vays 

angry at yi~u.""r\ hurt lhnt tlci*l) lias LoLli*dcalt witli," 

says Kathy. "I knew that as liis motlicr I \v.is not tlic 

pcrstm ilualifit!d lo do it." 

'flii~ighirc gcncri~lly c.ilmcr no\v, a11r1 Kathy Illinks 

(t~tr~llilr~~t'tl 1111 /~tr

SIN(;I.FX \$'I10 AI)OIrT 

COSTINUEI) FI~I)>I I',\(;I: U( 

. . . . . . . .. .. .. .. 

tlicir recent movc-~vcvy~lnc moving togrthcr. likc a 

real family-had sonirll~ing 111 do ivitli it. 

]:inding a lionic \\!as a bit 111 a prcrble-111. "\\'c'rv not 

tvliat you call an a\,t!r,igc-lrrcrki~ig faniil!., .tiid vur 

neighborhood is very n~id~ilc-class." Kntli:,, siys. 

"llutof all the problems \\*c'vc conic tip ag~iirr.;t, race 

has bccri tllc least i)f tlicm-maybe L ~ c ~ ~ ~ KC L I ~ c 

prcparcrl for it. I try lo keep the racial issue up tront. If 

tnic of the boys has to do a book report, I'll suggest a 

bouk on black history. \Vlicn we were in \Yasliington 

recently, we made a point of visiting tlic* htusecln~ of 

African Art. I'm not just raising my children tok men. 

I'ni raising tlicm lo be bl,ick men." 

I-lcr solis \vould likc a fat)icr. l'licy ask her \\-lien 

they'll gcl one, and \vliat color he'll be. Thcowtic,llly, 

she would prcfcr.it if lie wcrc black, btrl right now 

Ilicrc arc no men in hi-r life. "I-low can I nr~rt men?" 

Kathy asks. "I wn't pay a baby-sitter so I can sit in a 

bar. I can't casually invite a man liomc." 

Kalliy isn't considering anr~tltcradoption right nor\.: 

"I wan! to rut mv cncrcies inlo mvsplf for a ivliile." 

instiluticrn anel ss.irv her sitting tlicrc,it this little table, 

that I knew she was nip cliild." 

T~vo and a half )~c,irs latcr, Min.1. now ~iinc. is .in 

cstrcmcly open a~id affcctionatc cl~ild IVIIO n*.~cts 

i\~'ir~~ily to visit~~rs. Slic's bcgili~iing t11 ,isscrt her rvill. 

"Slic tvants the indepcndcnce of an adult \vitli~~ut thi* 

rcsponsibilitics," says Lynn. "Slit- svcrn't ?;cttIc ior 

yes-no anstvcrs.. She wants cxpl.in,ilions and she 

\Taints ((1 dcb.ltc." 

hlina still has .I p1.~ble111 with acWptilig dix-iplint:. 

"I'll givc her a goud dressing dt)!\~n," Lynn e\pl.lins, 

"and slic'll burst into tears and try to hug ~iic. Slic 

doesn't underst,ind that just because I adrnlr~~ish licr 

dwsn't nlc,itlrl I doti't l~vc licr." Nor dcres hlin.1 deal 

\vcll witli bcing,ilonc. " 'I.onclincss,' to her, connotes 

rcjcclion," Lynn says. "Somctimcs I'll sit by myself 

in the living room wliilc Mina's in the bcdnxltii doing 

her homct\*ork, atid she can't ondcrstand that. 

She's okay '1s lo11g as I Iiavc ihc slcrco going, but if I 

turn it off she'll come out and say, Mommy, I'ni 

alonc.'Slicm~kcs me promise tliat I'll ~ic\~crlcavc her, 

and swears that slic'll ncvcr leave inc. Sonied.iy she 

tvill be iridepcndcnt, but I want licr alrv;~ys to hasre a 

sense ~ - .~ - crf . ~ ... lionic ~... and ~ ...- ~ ..~ faniilv. ..... , - 

"I've already done a lot of things witli niy lifc, so I 

don't lia\~c tliat conflict bctwccn what's best for me 

and what's best for my child. I'd refuse a job offer tliat 

rvould triple my salary btr! kccp me arvay froni Mina. 

She conics first. One of the things I can give her is nip 

linic. , . . She asks me why licr nit)thcr rejected her," 

Lynn says. "I explain tliat her niotlicr gave licr upotlt 

of lii\*c-bccaust! sl~c knew slrecouldn't givc hlina the 

kind of lifc she r\~anlcd her child to lia\ec. I tell her tlie 

truth-that now is not the right time tor thcni to get 

logethcr, but m.lpbc later. I ~icln'l \\,ant toerase blir~a's 

background. I \\.ant to help her live with it." 

.. 

Parents, I>.O. Box 4074, as hi rig ton; D.C. 2b015; 

L!yrrtr fit111 Miim I1rclslnl; ld!yrl~r Prt-slt~rr, 4U, 15 rrrnrAt*t- New York Council on Adoptable Children, 125 

rs~trclr /ir111ror " r ' rrr~t:irr. S I I I - East 23rd Street, Newr York, New York 1W10; 

~~r-l~r~/ilcl 1111rt1r I I I '1'1~ 1 I I I - North American C(runcil on Adoptable Children, 

/r~~rrr/~~rlrr~~r~! 

I I J I IIII-~JJIII//J. C/I~ i.inda Dunn, 250 East I%lainc Strecat, Rirc*rsidc, 

California 92507. ('l'hc North Ariicrican Council is 

Mina's foster pircnts caret1 fur hc~r ciccpl!.. ,inti had all org!inix.itio~i of all local atloptivc parent grirups 

considered adcrpticig licr. Ilut licr biologii~l ~iiotl~cr .>cross tlie United Stiles ant1 Canada, ant1 can put 

coullin't iluitl. give her up either. This kit h1in.i in intcrcstc~f persons in loucli \\it11 thc parent group 

linibo: slrl! \\.as not 1cl;nlly freed for ado;.ticrri until nc-.irest tlicm.) 

'lc)7,4, Ly \vlijcl~ tir~ii- lie-r f~rstcr iiiotlicr h.?d $riifc~rt~~i ;I 

scvelrc lirss of sight. In hlin.1'~ best intcrcsts. her it~stcr 

I>,ircnts surrflid~~rcd li1.r to an inslitution. hk~ping 1I1,it Girl; Ki1111*ck!y, 1~1rrr1~1111!/ 11r1iclvs t*~/ilor (11 "\'iil~r" M11sits~rmctrnc 

\\foi~ld iluicLly .idol>t l~cr ,in~l girt. fier,i niorc :ir~t~, tlic-~t*s t/r~~~t~irrI~/o~~r~~r~~r~f/i~~~r~/~rs 

r~iccfpliiit~ 111 rfisil, 

siiit.lblc lionic. 

11rlt l'rtf 1111t ti8itl/!/ to 1ir11- ll~~~ri~." /..or t111i0, sJrlS CI~II~L.III~ 

"Mirial ;rdl~pttd 1111. right n\vay," says l.snn. "My 11c*rs~*/f 1oiIlr 11lii!/irr'y fni~t1ri11- IIIIII~ 10 Iwr ~rit*ctn 111ii1 IZ~!II 

cr\v~i co~ii~i~it~iic~~it 

111 Iicr tt~uk ~i litllc Io11p.r. It \vCisn't 111-/1lt1,ti~s. Slrv 11~0~1lil Iikt*so~rrc~~l~r!/ 10 lrnirt*lt tltr~i~~lrl~~r 111 SII 

r~nlil lily fourtli or tiitli visit, ;IS I !v,I~ Ic.~ving 1111' fis11irfs 11~il11.

- 

by Rita Rooney 

copla nk Wl maw up mv mim Md a maaims In lvly 1976 to dlfor 

adopllm Serrnlm *can th & d ih. Wrth mlhn md lh 

ago. Ihen llltls choice for r#rWs mpmlbllly toward hr. 

a preyant tmug*r. I'm mno 

T h L a hsrln Cwnh [kpnnunt 

lo bellm It was th right thlns lo do. of Adwmv Is on0 of MY agmdn 

I only with I had bem rllmed lo dad now pmnfin~ sroup mslons for blnh 

with It motiarully. Imtnd, m w a molhen Gwp leadst Idilh hdlrr 

told me to put th nporlmcs behind rmptuum 7h mothen am nat 

me. Out d klndnns. mv prmu nrrrr mtms (Ix h pu-of pttlng Mp ulkd wilh me about IL'And JI tho In bun- pld chlldm. Thq arc* 

urns I necdcd dapmlrCl lo Ulkr the I-liy of dlnqulhmmr 

pat^ O'Canan. a Mldrmtm wife thlhrr. dr youp dm lhrm an wlln 

I., pnlQ detlel.'' 

with hr prt, but on& ail., mn of 

unrndvcd fecllng hut hr win PIychohgiul amputation 

drughlm She Isonsda ym(nsnum- Whit n unu of ih.i. rml.Ual Pamy IYGonnrn &I wt lo pma h.h of lur IUbml IdunIlon fa Adoptin 

bn of blnh 10, lulunn p ~ mNH u Or. Arch Som~ky, a Unknly of 011. 41. "I had to ha I m M ra, Familk), a hllnncdiburd otynl. 

jdnlng 10- lo right A mplh Imm lomla at La Andn mhl.lrlrl nfrn . thins" he uw *I nnl lo CWcw ud muon that addraur id1 lo adoplm. 

of lha natural wthn md help nmen to the limr up d a chlld u PI)- 801 I lob. I mlhd brd, bah Il adoptkr p#mu md. fw th mat plt 

rho may slill bo clwtd with their ch0losk.l Impuuuon. Somtky, uha job and at nylnlng IUM ulf-wprcl. Mnh moth ucnL 

has a m.l&pub- 11 wr yean before I M& IL And Ihr, Awlhe, gmup, n* M0pUOtl FON~ 

lhc Dcpnmml d Hullh. Eduutlon ll~hd W on rdoptlon, ua m w wen lonely wid^ m m I rmld d Phlladdphla. wu lormed to promar 

and Wdfmdr Chlldm's Burru oll- btnh mohrn In hll prlvau pnnla nrlly -(ids In" 

mmmunluuon .mng tnditlaul a& 

mrtn them am S mlllbn rdoptd per- He Dbvrm lbl molt don't mtrr PI)- It wun'l until s h ru 18 thx hw -ria "Uz." m d lu kadso. uh 

MI in the Unltd Suur lhmrcclcrlly, chothcni.r butM the* yn up a ~d.d Sha WU U) blCD.N th~hrnunb.mdhddbruuxhn 

Iharr 5 mllllonwwnmuha hawplmd child. l k hm managed m 4 tht pnyant ayln and dd gulls mmd adoptkc pma d d not undrntrnd 

chlldnn for doptlm Pmfoliwls In npn- hm th wbcdan llu~ Was Ih. bclng punhhedl Shdd r h h r lnrdmL 

the fidd haw 1- bm adrmrnt In It dlm dm as tho kq m lhdr in haw held out .@nu rrrnmtlonl Mwl fight horUUty 

"pmlmln~ Ih. Mnh mother. Now the abilly to mp. 

WhnswnhrMmmwlWIhq 

molhon an Nng lhq don'l -1 pro- Sm4hbwfof New Imqup t h ~ fwnd a pod home1 5tm cbmn, il a inmen& 

trctlon. Wh.1 they & want Is deals In hn au pmsum started bulldins "11 I- rtnnje, but I &dm mn amwnt of hat(lih drcctd to worn from the burdm dpllt Ihqum.And Immrdui.Cy &her th Mnh of hf ' ~NH If Ihq mn toQlhn. Ho one uha sh up b&)a for adopllon. Uh 

Ihr, wml their chlldm to bow thq drvghla h 19%. It wl th fad lhm ' Idd mo I hd ddtt m tht Wamr fomtutrly, much d It mmn f m 

urn. 

for hegh rdml drlr lo belong lo dubs. tlon. I only know imld hm rr, pan adopdn &mu lrhoam bllnded 10 dr 

Hush& don't know 5mdy f d het nnt opn njmtm In lhdr lk. I vu SUM m toqrl blnh molhtl urntire. Mat d c 

whm rh rmrrned lo vhod and got a .IIaboul lhn" lPmy hr $Inn kmwd rdopl r &,Id bruvu ltwlrn Inlcndr 

In many pm d lhc cwnlry, a+ lenrr frm h.r dub pmldmt dm-4 hotwimarotognhr.ud~hamt. In dupmllon lo, h chlld lhcl *MI 

tlon rgmcln haw bosun lo rymd to In8 *w blmt her manknhlp otd. 

1.n m I.=,. krnt in ih. a- FJ.. oh m much. thw oltm 1111 lo undcnwd 

Iha ~ n& -~-. of -. banh - ~.~~ arnntr Th. Chsl. "I k*d caltr thar I1 I wanted to 

r- - ~-~ - - 

dm's Horn Soclm of Min-u was lurvhr. I hid to kean . &v .. ml h1dd.n. 

one of lho nnt to bm pat-adop~~on As r mwk I llvcd for wan In a ucm , "&l:' member d rhs La haelm pRnt g k p I1 CUB ~Con~md 

wunldlng. Man& Spmcer, dlrcctor wrld d v mn," ha reullr 

Cwny grwp who wna to -In United Ulnhprmlll, I mllonal oaaniof 

lh. plognm, rrpom that a mjody Sharm mnglOv7 of st. Paul. M~M. ~nonymws bvxa hn ldmbn -Id zrtion wllh orlglnl a lhs tall CMIL 

01 the blnh moth- rho xck round- was 17 .t-?n rho pro Mnh to a un hum hcr rglng pamu rnua. 'fnv Uke la munlepm. CUO pmvldn np 

ing ara lhov rrhD placed chlldrm Not und h was 4 months old -Id m applauds lh. dopcna pamu &11 dons lo, wmm rho faced ihr IOU 

yeae befm~. Thq mns lor wwnnce ha ricn dmqul~hnunl papom 

fwhawnaaldndrnd IwthbirLh of a chlld through adopurn. It Is 

and dlrdm. Sent hw mm tdd "All r)ul lime. h. wu In a fmtn mollter rho ucdfld het mn (dl1181 I-kd In pwhlng lrddatlm leadins 

lklr hu$bnds.A y.amnumlrrmfry homo,'rh qlrlm "I went tom hlm IO hmr hlld mlmht - hw a hmw fw a lo an crdunp of Information arms 

rbout huhm to dl thdr chitdmn. ono day, nd I know I had no c h h beler llfo." 

adoption agmclrr Nona al th youg 

The sutras d t h Mlnnuota pm- but lo Ahmward, I mnt ham. ud Amnd the llms adoption pmfa- dn as~lstmcs lo m m xrrchlng for 

srlm has pmmpted asmdn In 16 slrln marked b birthday in black on q liunals bcyn pmrodrns d i n s ch~ldrm. As I CUB leader ilplaim. 

loask~n~pen&$ hlp ln ddopn# calmdu. . . My btgnnl pmblnn wn wrrlcn lot blnh rmh, nmm 7h.h whv . w dl . blnhturentas or* 

r~m~lar ~ n l c On n a ru~tonrl lml. The (NIL It m r long toma belolo I l .mud lhmwlrn wen fonnlng u(fhdp 

Chnidtm's Wdlrn L~ma of M,,o lo llurl .mwa ayln" 

gmup, Pay O'GolMn is coloundcr 

trndcd family, lib yandpamt. We 

rn not tying I0 dace the adopllve 

!nrnU'' 

Adoptlon leadm m united In their 

bdlef lhrl It Is Umo for r rcvarvl In 

rtlitudo tmrrd umed motherhood. 

Shannon Maturnam, chief of fmlly 

and communiy mien for IDnus. 

poinu out lhcn hu been a subtle 

lwilch fmm hunnlng a w n m~ a n 

bcouw Jts geu pmrnt to shunnlng 

hot because sha cham adoption for 

her baby. She uw yrls lahy an lac- 

Inn namous pmrun lmm lhdr peen 

to keep lhdr brbin 

Or. Sannty dainn the trend 01 teen. 

rgen Leeping L U k might chmsa II 

the molhcnwsr.rltomd la prtlripln 

In apm rdoplims. He ctln numerous 

om In which m v n d mother hn 

staled sip would place 11cr child lor 

rdoplbn 11 yuratm wrur't abwlula. 

Il. akato plan ~ ~~orlng #he blnh 

molho mrr,lonrl nriu and infomulion 

about k b, lcrrlng her lussurd 

she made the right decision. 

Then at. -. ,nrlu#ling MarluU 

Spmca. *ha tltlnk d en needs. n m 

.doptlon lrnaursa. "11's wronl" ,It. 

more M w thn !ha social carlrrn 

w. call rmnugws m ~ of n d ~ v 

Ins th bru fuNn for h., chrld." 

Spmur Worn the uud t h word 

"mntm" a1 !mII, suggullns it plant. 

fear In ih. mid of adoptm prmu "The blah moh nmr komn pn 

of the chJds family, w them it no n 

unla Wm 4n ulkltlg abovl r mltns 

be- &n *,~d Mnh mothot." 

Dtttnrnt to &ughtm 

Sh. ~~. '7h chrnsn In t h 

rvallabml,y d btnh mntml and aboc 

llon hid lrwro -1. lo R-eumlno 

tho n4- rhl ih. blnh mother hu 

brm m outua Y.n *so, pmu held 

up, slrl rho 'pl In ih. Irmlll waf u 

dunmu 10 J.u&tan who ml&ht 

mako ah um m lrb Thrt Und d 

wrd. We want IO be part of an n. 

conlinutd 

dslnmnt Is simply iwdld In odfls 

YxI~N." 

been a+rmmlng Iha lnmr mnflln that 

follow nlinquihmmt. It tmk r pat 

pat& O'tamun, who d m het marria- 

has adopted four child- IVI 

deal of painful lnlmpealm, but todw 

Yvrm tIanln#ton nolonger mtb het 

he only mlly bayn to Mk*. n hn 

om xlf.mrth when rh adopt& her 

flnl wn and tsrllzd th Iq rh had 

ginn other parmU 4 hr &don 

pn More. She~dds: 

M'S blnhday In blrrt Instead, rh 

lhlnb of hlm 15 he 11 tdy, not as rh 

m dm. "tla wn 16 rrrrntly," urr 

Sham. "I Itwwghl of him sslllns hh 

flnt ddn

uuaaty I oo, variable, 

~lacenients ?oo Many; 

Case Loads ~oo~lf&avf 

- .. 

nnr.tcvm ~at~- were u~ cm h MI rhm 

ehe "., 11-8 lwmi I" WW,I 1 4 I.. ,tl" d l.dml, 

IMltllhn 1M .ntrnlu un1r.a kzxr h nll.mullr 

Fhr n

GIGANTIC SYSTEM WITH MAJOR PROBLEMS 1 

. 

slid Muhrll, WU. 4wClLl d Vr 8laa 

Crnlrn la T m mhl lhr m!d.Wlllhk dU. 

Imocln~ r!w-~.n.*p.salobrr 

nwlr n.kn%r IMnk lhrr un fir. m 

-sar uln!mmlla m,Wn u.1 m. 

ddmkrnmi Mhnmmku 

n w d lnlwmaI!%bM I puUNlu &Id 

k*UVrrdnl.vl~Ym*lomRl 

w?m-i lh& om and ran 

1 

% 'criteria used in determining 

where lo place dild 

oflen cause probisms. 

",4,". 

11 p1W-d lhc burdrnm lk mnrnvnly lodrrc)il F 

KNM lhrl rwld NU.(( -way ad MW :-. 

11sr lonk hrlp mhulurll~, 

Whl hlmnd lrrtm(.u). mnr Ir lhrllhnr k0.n. 

Rtn mlr IA Im rmeh 11 dell& I~UW lo ml 

*J(ER lhm dl. lhy u). m e d b do w i-n 

b~lhrrloFlct Ikmvpt-. 

Pallcc OtIIclrlr ur &a1 ln Ue nm irnw mut d m 

I ~ irm~ 

Y 4.721 jmgstm w BI~IU d~m*n-~~. 

~ 8 ~ Innrirntr 8 . mfcr rutm ud 11- h ) ~ PS. h 

lnalhcumcpnhwsrr~rum.n.a~ I,mumr

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bllhvindmlnl~nr theto),. 

I'lhm IhC to t rrrr 6nl Ukm Inla tllrld Ihr LIj 

IN- wtkm I\II ~n, tathtt k.1 ~hrm mdtkn Jd rnt 

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7hr rm plmd In lmpnr lalrr hnbul lhh 

madn lo U. childnda *rb aakn, Wr Ir!he< 

stand sRmlnt w n w rrmm lhmlmlnlkdh 

CHlLDllH IN' WAmNO-Smol Jddren wWrper ond welch 'N a Ilny and c M 

n~ysallR* 

Juvenile Coui.t:.Scene 

. . of Conflict1 

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iu&ta~n 

At the llw~rmnlnlra whlrixnlhclnlmmrllm I0 

tlhr dqwly -1, rmsrtl, (ha BUlrr. rho nn hr8r rn 

01 1h17, lwkt 11 hh ~ 1 n~td ~ hurt 3 tranlrrln nllln~ down 

hl. rhrrks. Ilr rlsd walks lo lhc rcu d tho mwlm 

cn4 rlm hhlarr. 

I1 ll I1 lpbn bwUar.a cu *.el or 1 mlmr~lc$tl re# 

nunbrr.Lhr#e~nurwl:y luoorunt tmertnvd.~m 

meam Lnfy sl!..tr w lxk 81 !he t ~md~l? 11 we 

CP'II I IppICpNIt It, th(3YIW).. 

H.Ithrrrstc.llotunln rh.rhrob~nd"re".+b 

T&Y I pmblwn o!Dmr lmm tim ru U h rrw. 

111 vsnu u llnd a Ian511 wl -,:I uke&,1!.)tu.oid 

tor.a5.lrn:O.ulrh hlcndam blue eyer 

lh o1lm I~J lhr lmvp It41 lo? U.e Lnl rcrm ynx cI h~ LII.VI toy *I$ ?118t~lly ant menul.y lbwe by 

b* now. sd -8, nRutu~ u, VI? h-mn E( n..urel 

Wunrhllr, the mmlrwnul huldla lk ka mni 

hlmtdndnktlhm rhrnlh~~~anI~~I~.~ll~m~Yl Y IhelnnlB Mr. 

lPhc rmwl lnYm the -1 lhll lhm I mr I rm. 

nlola~rro~kallarm andlhrdrpmmmL 

rncmmmu~rarrlmtlmn~rmupolpur~~~brn~~ 

(pr~ralc a~larrys the m l y hlrn lor rml pnnu 

htinlthctlma fin w in thc Iuu nitin*. 

andrh~ldm in thr -1) and "kc a Ma~lmrlo 8th wl01(~~~mmn.lhrb3ywuplrndh~~&lour. 

nr lohnds the ur: 

tnl 1 W hemu and IndllUn unul k ru hrvlly IU. 

ihp dm&,, ul. la a cwy 01 tho r d nnd nlkc ld 01 8 cwle el bx~l.ne$ and pnuon 01 

OIQIO ~hc lhlrrdlml)wngtlcI% . 

I" M. 

u~~ru~vmd~rrrwths~~mLXp.m~n~ 

"111. tyyt," rho sap mllln~ and Mrlng m cbt OvW lh ollkmuyt lhe toy hukn Involve4 rllh.lc&d 

ad mrWm zmm ihe ~ I01 C 10 md hr orrdscd an 

m t lo hmm Tm @ng Lo k rwr brm. u!d Ulrlud64 

A lone boy its in YsoIatiM' in his I 

ah,r&aawoi lliL;c;~~wii~

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'Juvenile Court:. 'Glimpses of,.'Conf Iicts . 

Gay youngsters hro kept' 

togothor so homosoxuaiity is: 

out in open, he said. 

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into emotional jumble I 

Conllnucd hom Page A-I, Geneva did'noi, know wns thnt she' was, nnolher ~nemo willen by Mrs. 

i lhe depi;rlmci"t had filed a, potitlon qpparcnlly, w a. 6.:'beallng her hcnd Crandnll after she vlslled . the Infant 

: with Superlor Court. saying it wuld : agalnsl II stone vjall:c:A dccislon hsd boy when he was a year old. ' : : 

I take tcmprnry cuslody.. . . : . . ! rllre'ndy &en '~i~ndc'thnt ihe. chlld "tils eootd1nati4 is kr . in hy 1 

. ' 0n0cl;:31,~lQO3, when' the biby : %auld no1 be rcturncd Lo hot: 

'. . . ! opinion," she wrote, "and he holds 

.lwo, monlhs ,,old, Geneva . ap- I After ~cnevi 'itrrlved 111' Phoenix.' , his 'math open in a pccullor. way, all i 

peared. nl'a hearing ' in Graham ; .ah@ conlacld ':lhd' Marict5pa. County 1 01 'which :leads,,me.to ,J~!ll~ve' hc may i 

~Cocmly Superior Court and was told Public Welfare Department, wlllch in! he is 

. 

by 

. no . meanp mmlally relardfl, 

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that she had ,about thtee months to ':turn con(;1~~cd.:Grahiill1 County for' 

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'. .'i+lji"'said .l h a 'dcsci;ipllon. in- ; 

get her llfc slralj~hW out .and ;. bncltground mnccmlng , the .~vomnn : 

:wme Up wilh "a definlk plan" for and her. bhby., Mrs. Crandall filcd a 

clutded !n :the' mcmo was to. haunl : 

:her futut.6 or her parental. rlghls to ,: momorandum;on ;Nov. 12, lau, wiu~ 

': Bllly -for lhc next 10 years, even 1 

lhough. it 

j her child. svould be taken away and : ,'was: labr detormlncd. that.; 

Gearge Crane; director of the welfore 

;the chlld w6uld be .placed for ador depattmcn( in ..Phoenix. .fie mcmo : . . hols . . by no,means . . mentally . . . rclanletl. . . ! . 

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. 'Geneva ~silited'ln her allempls to: 

!:i. :J&mj &binson, :C&&& :I&,,&, i,;,,,"It.Ss ,thc~inLntion'~ii 'the cod' 10 regain:. h e r:;qo n . atid;.in:.lu70 he, 

Pcxplaincd ln'.uo*t.lhat.hiii client was . sever h$:dghls sa :the child can be : Arlzoria Supreme;, Cdurt': de$ar@ Qb ! 

l h ~Ib'.posiUod'~Sbe. was:.uo.. : p1accdl.f o r - adopU0ii.: However.. lo severance' nuU,.and:void. : Fo,u,pears 

i sk - had wt .:oven, mmplelcd. .'~3~flen'ih~'bld~,: (he f ~di~, l01d hlr~rs; later. stie !ear@; $at hir.:son,:hqd{ 

: 

i hlgh schodl +.'and was Unblncd for. :,.Hendorson::(Gcn~a tha~-~ If ..you never; beenlegaIty: ndo~ied by :any- 1 

!W job.> IWlhiq~ow ge ,fould. not, .. hnvcn'C:,mme~ up $kh: a workable, 'one; !,and .d&manded .lhal he & .'p 

hPb:f?'T :\?ilfarei: lo ,.provide :the; ;, dellnilc plan p'+re. (br.this:&ild.h 'Itun#bome..', ... ....:\.':::;: ,:,; 

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~'W-ardered. chlld .+ becay her; : .thr@:or: lour.moqtl~s:.i the cmt will, : !:Di.:Job L... ~chord~h,~a~~child;pyfild 

had: &en taken from her, thus : TreVer ,yaw: dg&ts.:!o'.hhin;sb U~at he . . chlol?st,:'said he ..first saw ;Geneva 

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iinaRins,her..~~giblp:for:F;l&:as~ist. : 

: clln be plamt fo~*..,adoptl,on:,?bls may : 'arid B11ly Wayne -.whb,now UVe in! 

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!;6und. bar31 : lo yoli,"onn.:.lho rwfoce,. 

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Tucson .- last.fall.!Schorsch, l&tilj. 

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I!'I~-: dicumenls :nid'.';fn { S"pedor 

:but+: \i'@:\vho, hab':Mrked. so many 

. I nu ;Mby In,: the ' Superioc',Courl 

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Foster caro is a major problem in 

Arizona. Thoro are loo many chile 

drm and not onough foster homos. 

In addition, thoro are not enou h 

B 

casaworkns lo handle the iob a e. 

qualely. Tho rosulls somelimos can 

be disadrous. 

Ry Rll.1, alcCLEl.l.AN 

I( was trouhle from the brglnning. 

- When the l~tcvllablc occurred. whcn lhcrc wag 

anolhcr "lncldunt." lhls lime wlth Ule rclrrded 

bo the lo.rlrr parcnln asked DES for r chlnlrlc 

I& for III ~O~OYI~~I. ~ h c wcre lord 11 ass 

'unncceuary. TI^ were s~md nlvisrd to keep 

the boya aparl. &hen the fosfcr parcnls asked 

the1 the homorxual chlld bc removed, thcy were' 

lold lhrt was lmnrautlcal. 

And whcn lhc nlluallen finally cruplrd, when 

the pollcr rcrc flnally Involved, whcn a local 

klvlc orgsnlration llnally dclnandcd \hat some. 

I lhlns he done. DkY look acllon. 

llnnk waadolng prrtly rill. 

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The sibntlon remiined unchanpcd~~ihiiuh 

Chrlstmar. Mr. and Airs. Clhson a vpcalcd lo D~X 

for psychlrlrlc hclp for' Ilank. dhcy wcre told 

such hclp waa unn- Alan Ramdell, (Y- 

llavcrb supervisor, cxplxs lhat cassworktm 

havc 0 cerhln dcprm of exprllse In IIIM matters 

Ulal oltcn mnka conslant nsYchlalrlc cow 

So Hank was not lakn to a nscl~lalrld 

Sunday mornlng, Janunr ih, llank conld samcthln lo Mrs. Glbson. fie lold ltcr ahout hlmself, 

Rob& and Manuel Vasqurz, the ad1111 who 

lives ncarby, 1fa11k alleged that there was 

I~omoscxual acllvlly among the lhrco. 

Tha olica were cnllnl. miry look stalcmn(a 

from lenk, Robln and Vrsqucr. Tho lnvrstlgr 

tlun 1s allll undervav. 

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O'nawr came over tho ncxt dny. Ilnnk iald 

hlm hc wanted to bo mwcd. Mrs. Gibson aa 8 

she a reed thal was r good Idea. Ollovor nays ).re 

Ann blamrd cvcryll~lnp on lhc fuslcr parrnts. 

: Mr. end Mrs. Ilohert Glhn,n hare brrn faslrr 

parcnln In Arlzem for It yrars. l'hcy have one 

natural son. In addlllnn, lhcy have adoplrd two 

hoya who first came lo lhcm as lostrr rhlldrrn. 

They are in the rntrsl of ado Ilng r Ihlrd. Ilc, ~loug'kt 11 would bc impractical. 

too. first cam0 ro iho.~;~bson \oms aa a forlqr lhm wu allll no nsvchlalrk hcln for Ilank. 

chlld. 

Mrs. Clbson wlled,b'l~avrr's n&rvlaor and 

asked for psychlrtrle hcl lor llonk. Ramsdell 

That Is also how 13.ycar.old Robln came to the rclrycd the mesago to 6'llsvcr who r.rllcrl a 

Cltuon home two years ngo. 110 la retarded. psychlatrld who, ono weck laler. callcal the Glb 

And lhat is how 12.yrsr.old llank came to the &on3 lo aay U~rt It dldn't sound like ilank really 

Glbson hnma In Augusl. Ila has a hlnlory of ndcd urrml bclo. 

humowru~l brhavlnr. 

It ros d;lcrml~nl thnl Ilat~k would b marrd 

nolh chlldrrn arc nna hornltnllrrd. 

to rsothcr home In latc Januar Ih war awaiting 

a cuslod hcarln In the Est rrrk of tha 

II Is unrlrar why llank rrmalnrd in thr Ciltsnn month and dllrrer 6id not wan1 to ntovc hlm 

hnnlt!. Ills cascrorkrr. O'llavrr, rays lhat llank lnforc 1110 hcrrllte 

nskrd lo br tnnvrd on nurncrolls occr~lons, hlrr. 

(ill!san rays rlte also nrkrrl, an srvrrrl nrcaslonr. On the ZJrd of ~anuar Qulnn rrntov~ll Wwlry 

lo have llank rrtnovcd. llul thcrc Is a shorlrgc of from 1110 home. Wrslc k d lold Quinn nbout 1110 

luntcr homrs. according to 1)):s olllclals, and allc Fd roblcma wl& Vayurr and otnut tho 

rumrllnlrs unplrasanl slturllons aro prolon~rul. rcla!ions?tlp hclwc~n Robln an11 llank. U'rrlcy 

also mads olher allcgatlons to Qulnn, allqatlrms 

Whlch 1s who1 heplrrtlrd al lhc Glltsot~s'. 

Ulal no ona hu been ablo lo aubslnnllalc. 

'I'hc utlplrasanl nituallon slmmrrrd lltrnufill Nxco I, occor~lln to Qulnn, a rnsaworkcr 

lulr sun1tnt.r OIIII fall. I'IIF~ hnvr llrrn all~pn. nnmed Tcu~ Lon*. 

lions lhal Ilnttk nlbprsrvh*d - 6 ulnn nrya that lang, who 

and was larnr*l was Wesley's cmaworkcr. (old hlm thcro was J 

rloin by - , 

olller rhlldrrn In the Glhson home. 

'U~rn In Dcrrnlbcr, lhlnpa went out of control. 

Turn to CplL Para FJ 

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One or the Gll,sons' nloplrd chlldrcn cru Id 

I!mk and llnhln lo elher in a comprom~sfn~ 

s~l~~atiun. IIc lold hf# prrcnl. They called O- 

Ilavcr. - 

In n~liI~Drwntl~.-r, 12.yrar~oIrl Wrslcy arrlvrnl. 

It war his flrxl lurlrr home =ad, front tho rnP 

11v.d he wallin! In lbr d~bur, hr hated It. Ile nnyn 

lhr Ilvlnc rtlunt was loo narrow. Iln aaya hlrr 

(iilat~n 10ttk~1I Ilk0 a wll(.lt. 110 wyn he halnl llta 

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I~'t~rlr~llalrlv. 11,- didn'l Lava. In s rnd nlurll 

l1111r ihesrr. Ilr Ilml a ValI~y Ill# Ilro!lt~r, Krnny 

Vatinn. \\'?rlo~y ~rrt\,~.ol 1t lhc liltlson IIOIII~ on 

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Call For Help *. 

unheeded 

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?!ontinuedl?kom~-1 lieve they won't be s breakdown. 

hktory of complaints given any more chit- this overwork. 

aEout homosexual ac- dren. ing; the coordlnatlon 

tiyity in the Gibson The Gibsons say that - that theoratlcally should 

heme. Long now denies the fault lies with DES go into making place. 

eGhr . saying that. for placing such a merits just doesn't 

Plptective Service olll- potenllolly dengerous, occur. ltJs the old push 

cials strongly deny the group of children in one and shove situation. pd 

nl&gations. and then like to tell you it wasn't 

Grmed with informa-. give psychiatricheip. so, but with all our sot;& 

from Wesley and al- "They're trying to .phlstication and know 

IGedly from Paul Long, cover their mistakes by how and knowing bet- 

%inn appealed for help closing u$" Mr. Gibson ter, when you're stuck, 

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from othsr Valley Big says. . you're stuck. It's not an 

~~aers. On Jan. 27, ' At Ifeast one Dm olfi- , excuse. ltls a reality:! 

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i.epresentatives from . cia1 partially agrees. . .y . . 

the ,Big Brothers 'met Mike Hayes, a super- ,.. 

with DES oIlldals. . ' visor In the Chlld's.1 . . . 

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:s; ' result of {he' Protective Services divi- ' . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 

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TP rn ~muun. lhlr rtrltar 1 

cqurrad I mrta. 

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drrk hll . 

Ih.1 epm me tbe ilrr.Lkl I#W of i 

: thr old bid. Wdr. older mrn cbl, / 

trO .,.A r ejlrt Wlal b .tw ; 

M A man laabhd dam : 

.an ..d ,,t.d hoprvlly I[ it,. / 

. ' r.pdrt.r.pbslay~er 

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IMm vm u , 

. 'cc.lwbm 

. ... -I~.)uc~~ daoa i 

; UraM'idmImddrrSalbl! plrr fsr I& W but be I 

'' " u T t so. brim .p( rnr ue 4-e : 

'.&-~rll*&k~ . . ! 

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'' . . A 'i-. -in rM VIM / 

thvv hnt brr IODI b*cf hlr 

uwrd tn lhavldnr hM 1 us 

: ma iml it lublulh.. lad Mil U. 

. -6. m 1 Mr. t(rom,br 

Uk" M:. rrr* bl OU bb mu ml) 

.Wn 6- rt Prt Ildr WI 16 MD. ; 

. . : la ~DNI "re S% dw'L un *baa 

I s t ur *em. be f d l lhll w 

mod. X1 c.obr lor blm La Ur ' 

iltdn-. . . , 

a t m U Y IS dr:ng tat Jch* -. 

(kn mp u all the met* rrrnlrkr* 

Maul b 16 no1 ihc baby'# Iu1ur.l : 

fmw. &-rwa. ram erYli;uJ m e 

IP pan tdcrr Jwalhrn ws* 

bar. u fn*m&,lIraa's Wmt-I ' . 

*,IL 

lo one ur rl ku. Brk" blUa 

Irr ~113L olf. ks'd .1Hnre pr 

mtnlr rn &by. ha LnrLnrrP m 4 b*rv 

fnl.fbrdrnlJ war rmrtvd a d nc-. 

h ezp'1. lo (a*{ l bnk 

~lfalt Nm.1111. 

hr b npra tbC 1cfknl Mlh I.. 

dart 1M h ~ l uMh l Y hY ; 

0.4 &:~:m;~cJy ~dd!in( blm ell hU 

b. au row Plndt UthUy : 

err ~br &fs ,mu or v*tchnt ,un : 

M)~b.wmvmornLbrorw 

-oe-~btslbtsle!..:_.. 

i J~NIu~'. oelutr: !.rar. MU mlc; 

7kn .u tdt qur:Lin :a sky i ~nl bm ,wtt~.t;a rut autlulur. Irir. 

& , 1 101s IM AUIVI~ P.?.cL llrcrn lnli. 

li.l Ibl DI *.I *w,.:t ."4 llIYd 

1PIY IWk me 10 tW:I ($1 I.* I.*,. i (b.l,, YU rnl,I,', to p,",,nu ., . 

I>(: 

Ch:t* I Ie10d W 111b1 *P far 

ID 10 Itm ML Ut children nn 

IUlnbJ r*ll u Cud ILT~U~LIV~ 

S111. 

Im nu u futhldda by Uw to ; 

dirw la I ~~IDI of frmndllnts or 

oUU LtiU.70 La Vrl, cullcdy. .%",t. 

h rrlrr In. srul. 1, irrount 

#Dwaine 8ruro rrl!rd Cnmrn'a 

Yorum lr awuo10cd Dim In Lu As. 

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;. ,:. . Sm *C,scO.:~l.+~&~ a' && &+= hint up : 

' 8horuy sfleu be *rs bod And 6 &ls'becPrna the oNy , 

prelthe'lpv~rpuu~~:, ':>::: '?' .,:;::.':.:. . . . :. .;. ........ . 

;.:': \!*its SIX' jtceks, old.&: ii~bse~u~fitl~. 

. .:, lrmsferred from one roslei. home lo 

nnoUler UUlhe 1c.u 1o'ye~i~ old. .:< .. 

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.:: ' 1. He Ilslencd: and do(rbi, ~{"t;ed 

:, . : when a' clihd ' psychialrlst : took Ole 

'., stand ~d loldl~ow Billy Wayne rid 

.. .to kill hlmsell last sunimcr .ate[ a 

s - , debate over . w h o would ~vash 

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' : The story .bf Geneva Bryant &d .. 

t; ' Billy .Vayne 'Hendemn fs ae..bbe;k. 

ground of :m' ? 1 1 mllllon :; lawsuit ', 

, "N'hich Geneva has bmugllt .'a#alnst: 

: ' , the: . . State . . :Di!pm~nt::of Econo,f,lc: 

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Tile suit alleges thnt .UI~ ;vc~fire 

sulhotitles lllcgally kept her cbild 

Imm her for 10 yca~ and, because a[ 

Ihe.slale's negligence In llte core it 

, , ~ ~ ~ lfor d eblm,thal d the hy . was. 

in.@ffect,. an emollo~~al jumble wben 

.be ~va a returned to h 1 s natural 

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. . me.w;ly that Genevn fosi her baby, 

remains a bit sketcby. Shortly before 

ulc baby was born slleapplled for. 

. wan denled _......_.. nrllare; Before B~II~ ! 

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waB SIX kccks i~ ~cnevo'a mother' :.I 

drove llcr and the baby to Tucqn to 

look for work. . . . . . I 

Tltey stopped in +nGn on theway 

and .Geneva satv a sign, In: a a a 

r~llldow: \Vallress'wanted; She ask'd 

about IbC @b and got It, and her, 

.molhtr agreed lo Lnke thc bnby.bnck 

to Snfford tinlII Geneva could get her , 

flrsl PiIychedi sltld W l l ~ 8 C ~ 18~0 lo c 

live. 

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Before t b e aeck we 8 up, iier 

nlolller lelephoncd from Snffoid. She . : 

wus being 'hussled by !"llis fathcrv- 

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,whether by Cceeva's fat~lcr or tho 

cblld's 11oturn1 falltct is ultclcnr 

(Geneva's luwycrs will not discuss 

UIO case wlth ally reporter). ..I , . 

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Btit Geneva's mother felt she hnd:: .; 

lo gel rld of tl~e baby bocausc rt was : i 

crcnllng . pmblems. Geneva salt1 sl~? i 

couldn't get home unUl UIC weckentl. ... . 

; By lllc tin;e she anlvcd home, 'Ilha , 

fnIherwl~tid. placed the bnby with a: 

frlend, 1110 ,Graham County Wclfure !. 

Depyrtnlcnt kdd km contuckd and . :, 

: . Canthual on Puw A4 

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'Pi-ezde'nt~efends court's Action i 

Contlnucd From page A1 --- 

supporlcd the Supreme Court dceision crimlnrl gmupa. 

lenving HI^ matter to the discretion of 

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U. S. Modtorlng Raportdd . ! 

a and doclor in dy 

niontlu 01 pregnancy. 

The Times account also sald that thq 

National Security Agency had bnn lnonl, 

Driim fodnY, vice President MondalC toring some donlrstlc long-dlstanca calls 

and Joseph A. Callfano Jr., the Secretary 

, 

hy A~crlcans, in part (o lrecp tnck o 

at Health, Education and Welfare, lo- 1 lorclpn Rgents in the United Stat- nnb i 

nounced an Administration proposal to in port 10 monitor Soviet earndropplng: : 

provide Government subddla tb families Mr. CII* said that whlle he still had : 

[hat adopt I ~ ~ ~ ~ . ~ litr. . *me ~ (li.sagmmcnu.with I ~ ~ ~ COIIPPC~S--O~ ' 

nuclear breeder reactors and on wetn : 

Calitano dcscrlbed the plan as "obvh%ly +he 'thought "id' 

en aIternative to abo~llon!' i goal sndn~rtura 

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iy to become law in same form. 

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f~lnilirs that are ahlo to odop( them. hlMY llllvc f~Iuu3 and s~~bsidtzc some nlcdical cosu nand other expenses. 

physical disahilllles and birtl~ defects. Oftell they can 11 the llil18s provisir~ns were now in some 1?0,000 

be helped to kcad more normlll lives only hy n'series of chiltlrell could benetit Ilnnicdialcly. Tllcrc are men und 

operations or cxpcniive spcclnlized care. wonlctl willlng to strctch out tllcir honds to these 

Although mnny prlvicte adoption scrvlces nnd public rhilrire~l. Government at cvcry level llns en ohligation I 

ajic~iclcs have tricd 'o nccotnniodste their n~les to tt~day's to mnkc It ps easy ns pnssihlc lr~r tlleln to (lo so. 

.. 

i 

' .

IlcV. ll.)eRrald rlrth tndrro 

~ $ e ~ ~ : ~ * , ~ ~ 

mnditlm. % lhclld Is drvrlbcd .I 

~ rhlls , mrllh VdnrX I halr. lle wlll bs carol 

'7ha poll- uld eta tqs *era 1118 and 

lrlL Norman .a! Hrnq ira very rc 

far by Lr Chllcl PMrrUve &dln unlll ipmrlblc Imp nf Mlratlvs d Ls 

"I rr* * llllls nmoir8 whw I lomJ the p.r,.(, found or k 10 ,bi;$ird. dulclll MY hn. h ke$ Wr am1 

Ihe haby,'' Normau nld, "but he r18 w 

mrlrrllr .IIII. 1h.l la vcmcd b la lklrrll\rs mM Ula rhlld's. uablllral prlnmted rrm17 mdl." 

. .~ ..., ~. . . ~ 

&1d and I E o 1 ml rared uuf mrd xaa tlol wlUl r rtrln~. ~hdlc.~nr ihc lays m ((I mm d Mr. m4 MR 

ahm the lays rrtslnd mmlb lln baby *an lmllh~.'~~l ud.rllfll 

un. norm^ rtlumnl to hls mtt* "1 wmds lhrn mnr 'IH 

~na \v. IIUI~ la c.11 the 

lnllcs 1~ 

.I 

rlyn Ule *lM ran 

llrnly am1 arm" UK dm1 In IIm 

bOm prnnrturtl~. 

lnnna c4 Jmn Wlnmm md Ud hrf 01 Whm In wns laud I:o$ a.m.. 11 ! 

IImq ukl hls nrUhr Klrd urpld 

nhm ha bltrkrd m irr llmr lo 

tat1 In the tmrnlnt and #rknl "Ih8 

)nu Know ntty!lilnt n ~ WI~~V t 

Nw~l~atl sald Ua bby shod m 

MIFI d life unlll MIS. Wlgman Imk It to 

her hms. 

We wrre very I~IIPY~~ b llnd lhnl 

IIIF hahy uiu ~III illvr." said H!rnlm 

uhe rallnl ~IIIIII~L md dlrmlnl Ills 

~wlln alxl n lrrnt d lurawdln I0 Ihr 

l~l'.,,,"" I",

Abandoned: 1 

Legalities I 

come. first r .. ; , ' 

IIy CAllOl.SOIFI3llS 

ANIsI~III Fdltor 

Womcn'r Forum 

. . 

mspl~c the lnlrrrst In Ulckry j 

:and two olhcr lnlanls abandnned 

(hls jrar. Ihr lluhllc has IIIIIc : 

chance 01 dlrovcrlnp what cvcn- 

: lurlly hspprns lo Ihrm. 

In March. a hlrricouplr lound 

an lnlsnl wilh uml~lllcal curd sllll 

~tlachcd In a ht~ll~flllc~l lrash hrrre1 

aI ihc corncr ol Flrsl Avrnuc , 

and hlsdlson. And lasl Srplrmbcr. 

8.monlh.old Johnathan nnhcrl 

Ilrown was lnvnd by pollrr In \he 

rarc or s nnnrdrlrl raaplr in a 

l,vo.room "shack ljpe" aparlmml , 

dovnlown rltcr 111s midher. 1mo.j 

Erne Brown. J4, allcpcclly sold or 

rwapped hlm far some vodka and 

wlnr. rccordlnz " to ret~ortr. . 

In all caws, Ihc rhlldrcn wrrc 

, It, hul crlllcs counlcr 4hol In solne 

cssrr the rlrlule' allown public 

'a~enclcs lo hlde Uclr chlld place. 

mrnl bungles. 

; In rome rlalch child advocale 

proupr hrvc nblslnccl court orders 

o have such records omned lor 

I 

In rnmc rasrn "11 would hc 

poarlblc In placr hlm In a pelrn. 

(la1 arlnpllve homc rhllc arrcr- 

-. .- . ... 

'fhc prorcu may lakc lram 

"three' Weeks lo a6 much 88 

car." sald Ilavld Dalncs ol Chlld 

Lo~rct~ve Servlccs. 

homrs. 

nu1 brc.ru.u 01 an Arlrnna law 

lhc puhllc, uhlrh "8s rlm sllrrrd 

by ihc ~>llghl ol IIv unnrmrd 

"lrabh harrtl lnl>~," wlll nrtrr 

lrnrn whnl hapl>chl In hlnl. lo' 

Irlickry. tar any ol lhc downs, nf 

olhrrs rhn hnvc ltrcn ah#ndunc~l 

uvrr lhc years. 

Ilc rddd ihrl hla nlllcc ~ nrl l 

Icrst IWO dozen call1 lrom ~ollle 

ollcrln hllckc r home hut he 

rald D& rlrcrd; has roll ll

' 

IS BETTY FOLEY A WIDOW? THE 

WIFE OF A POW? OR JUST A STATISTIC u 

IN THE AGONY OVER VIETNAM MIAs 

W e aren't efrald of leernlng that 

these men ere dead. We wouldn't be 

asking these questions I1 we couldn't 

accept the answer. Whet Is unconsclonable 

Is thet no answers ere 

forthcoming." 

The speaker Is Betty Foley of Dayton, 

Ohlo, mother of flve and the wife 

of Brendan Foley, a U.S. Alr Force pllot 

who dlsappeared over lndochlna nlne 

yeere ego. Betty, 42, Is a prlme mover In 

the National League of Famlllcs of 

Amerlcan Prlsoners and Mlsslng In 

I Southeast Asla, a closbknlt commu- 

nlty of what ofllclel documents coldly 

term Next of Kln. The league clelms 

thet 1,338 Amerlcans are stlll unec- 

counted for In Indochina. The Defense 

Deparlment says the total Is 756: 162 

other men have been reclasslfled as ' ' 

kllled In action on the besls of new 

evidence, end 445 h,ave had thelr sta- 

tus changed to presumed deed 

because thelr famllies requested It. 

Lest month a speclal congressional 

commlttee sold the remalnlng 750 must 

ell be consldered deed too. 

Mrs. Foley dlsegrees sharply: "They 

are concluding that tho men ere deed 

simply because they can't find them 

ellvo. 1 won't accept that kind of loglc." 

She never (Ires of polntlng out thet the 

1073 Perls peace agreement specllled 

that the U.S. end North Vletnem 

would cooperate In eccountlng for 

MIAs. Such an accountlng has never 

come lrom Hanoi. 

Betty Ahern met fellow New Yorker 

Brendan Foley on 8 blind date In 1952 

when he was en ROTC student at 

New York Unlverslty and she was at- 

tending the College of New Rochelle. 

When they marrled In 1856 after her 

graduation, he had already gone Into 

pilot trelnlng. They had tours of duty In 

Europe, Celltornla, Troy. N.Y. end 

Wrlght-Patterson AFB In Dayton. In 

1987 he was ordered to Vietnam and 

on Nov. 24 of that year took off on the 

recon fllght he never returned from. 

"He was lest known to be alive and well 

over Leos," says Betty. "Laos Is un- 

B.lty wjh andlo,., pktun, known territory when you ere talklng 

of hw w.dd*la and husband Bnndrn 

#kmhnb.djoan walhD.vton.Ohk. - . - 

prlsoners. I thlnk there may stlll be 

POW8 there." 

Both she and the chlldren have adjusted. 

"We've held togethervery 

~~nguqm*hrol*q8'Yadopt8d" 

l d q , ~ k ~ N 0 u y m h d d 8 Q closely," ~ ~ she says. "I thlnk each ol us 

manth.,andbltyW8Dat,J,a8~ 

4,Thu,T,MdTq4etmdonUua(.ln 

has at one tlme or another come to 

' 

the conclualon that It doesn't look llke 

Daddy's comlng home." Four of the 

chlldren are old enough to remember 

thelr lather-Brenden Jr.. 17, Molra. 16, 

Shella, 15, end Patty. 13. The llfthchlld. 

Kevln, Is only 10, and nover knew hls 

ded."That'secrylng shame,"says Betty. 

"Kevln has mlssed so much." 

The Foleys, who are Roman Cathollc, 

were of one mlnd when Cethollc 

Cherltles sought sponsors In 1075 

for Vlatnemese refugees. "We applled 

lor a family of SIX," says Betty. "They 

lived wlth us for SIX weeks and then settled 

a few blocks away." 

Mrs. Foley attends mass dally end 

says. "When we needed help and guldance 

there has always been someone." 

Tho family has few Ilnenclel 

problems; they contlnue to recelve 

Brendan's $2,000 monthly paycheck 

end other mllltary benefits. A major 

when he dlsappeared. Foley has slnce 

been promoted to colonel. "We have 

had e lot of falth, whlch Is a gift," Betty 

Foley says, "a lot of hope, whlch I 

thlnk you always have as long as you 

Ilve, and a heck of a lot of love to 

bulld on." BILL ROBINSON 

homm at onco,~mtiy 8prawlsIn th* play. 

mom wtth, tmm Iaft, Palty, Bnndan, 

Ydn.K*vhurd.h.Yr

. - 

the cases of chlldrcn wllh 

on average Of 2.7 foster home for A basic aim of tho hill would ba 

most, mom for the hardest to plnce. to pu,h different agcncles into com- 

Senl(or ~ lbn ~ranakn of Chllfornla bining re~out'ccr, n~vtlatfng Mthon'J 

nrowau to do aon~elhina about Urls 

.. -. 

aorry altuatlon, but tlle 'Cirtrr Admln- 

IrtraUon Is opposed to his plan-not 

kcuuss of irr $20 ndllion first year 

' cost. Bince the Cranston' plan almost 

'surclywould'eflect great snvlng over 

the present system. But tho buraaoc- 

racy has aonlelargcr schcmo in mirld 

and bel~cvcr Mr. Cranston's proposals 

would "lurlher frnr~jimcnl" Uo socinl 

servicw system; UIO Depanmcnt or 

fiealth, Fducation and Welfare prom- 

Isec to have ready a comprehcnsivc 

-. TN THE NATION 

another, and elimlnallng barriers 

ercctcd hy loal prejndlcer, outdated 

ideas nl~d rigid altll~~dcs. 'lhc subsidy 

zppmach, in particular, has solid preccdcnls. 

Slncr 197.1. tvhcn Ncrv Jersey under. 

took stich subsidies, 675 "hard-tnplaco" 

J~ildren have been adopted. 

In Caiifon~la, after hubsidles acrn in. 

reform of this syatpm, Including clril~i troducc,l, 84; such childrcn wero 

cnrc. in 1779 or 1 ORO. . 

adoplc~I last y?Ar at a saving in fosler 

. . 

, 'm 

home rzpcr~d~~ures esri~l~ated at $19 

a~ilfiun. t-o~ts 51ati:s andths District 

To lhose condrned fur children- 01' Colurnbin~have subsidy iegislnlio~l. 

or even; :]uxt--for lax do1lnr~-the r!li~ough many states havo no funds 

H.E.W. attitude toward the Cranston to impicnrrnt ~$e lows. Those tllat do 

blll ,~uggasU a famlly tho1 Jots 1l.s ~epurc subit~ntlal savings, slnco fortcr 

house rot rather than give it a tlmcly car0 costs abut $4,000 to 56,000 a 

coat of paiht. Why wnit ulllil 1979 venr per ch!!d idel~endlng on tho I 

or. 1960, a1 a Federal-slate cost of itate), instit~!lianll care Cosls at lcnst 

$1.2 billion a year, lo lmpmve Llic IH'/CC that, and governments have &I 

chances of 100,000 to 300,000 young ccntlnuc pay1r.g ono or both icr un- 

OCOD~C? 

ndopted child:en until Ulcy are 18 

.~--r--scars 

old. 

Some of theso children are hard to 

nlaca . In adontiva homos because thcv U 

~ ~ - ,... ~ ~- ~~ 

ore ten ycan old or more; nboG haif 

aro members of .minoriUcs; some., nru Adoption subsidies am often lowcr 

part of lar~e albllng groups; and nran). thnn foster wrc payments, and also 

are severely hnndlcnpped--or appear cllrninate foster clro and lnrtltutlonnl 

to be--emotlonally or physicall:, Tllosu admlnislrative and ovrrhcad cosb. 

long In tho foster horno..rystem lrc. Otllrr provlrioss of the Crbnstrm bill 

qucntly havo bchavorlnl problemq, ore cxpected in Nrn up many familks 

But Uere are olhrr reasons such 

1vli:io~ to adopt even difficult childrcn 

children arc "hard to place!' Lnck 

\vlthoul subsidies. 

of coonerntlnn hecwwn dlffer~nt rrdcrnl ndoplion subsidles would be 

cdoplio~agcocles, lack of commttnlcu a\.;~ilahlu nnli~n3lly and would undcrlion 

and uniform standards among the rin plngrnms La states whcm funding 

stnlu. uncertain funding arrange. might hc: unccflaln or lirnltcd. And de. 

menti from rtato'.to ntnl;?, adoption spite 1T.E.W. oppnsillon, It's the Cranagency 

deflcicnciw In funda and staff stnn approaci~ that would cenlrallze 

(some agcncles have workers wtth alnto cffortr, and tho lattcr that are 

cadodds u hl~h as 200' d~lldrc? "l~agmcntrd," to borrow the bureauaplm), 

ri~ld allltudc~ toward hnndi. crats' word. 

( I Of Federal and State ~k ; 

Unn. lhe couple l~lsled. The Tax Court m. 

cenlly rimed lhnt "ut~der certaln clrcurn. 

I~RIIC~S" care lor an expectant molhe 

"mllmntely wnnccled MU, the tlesJU~ 

'.I thc 

(unborn) child" and mlgtll bc deducllblr by 

lhr udoptlng pnrenla. 

U~ahapplly. fhough. ihe ruvple dldn't 

, n~othcr mre a0 prnrlnlnt

d t happened whe~t I 

milkman. I SII~I~IOSC tll~ 

was nineteen, a fr~hmnn 

only ~~ossibility I miucd 

in college, cramming for 

was tl~c one my lllother 

final exams. The lovely 

r~ow rcvcalctl-one that 

spring day outside tlitl 

I ivo111tl rlevcr llave 

not tlistract me; I'tl al- 

gucsscd ill :I n~illiot~ 

ways been one of tl~osc 

years. 

book~vorms ~vho enjoy 

"I10 yo11 r~lllclllller 

the academic grintl. So 

tl~nl nice doctor yott 

tl~cre I sat, crms-leggcd 

went to \v1tc11 you ir'crc 

on my bed, lost in my 

little? Dr. Seymour?" 

notes. 

"Yes, I rememl~er I~cr." 

Then, suddenly, my 

It was strilngc. Altho11g11 

~notl~er arrived But that 

I 11atl11't tl~ottgl~t aboitt 

is too tame a dnniption, 

Dr. Seymo~~r for years. 

like saying tlnt a fifty. 

tl~e ~nc~~tion ol her nntllc 

knot gale arrived. hIy 

rnllerl her 1111 ascl~arIy 

mother, a fiq little 

:IS :I ~~l~otogrq~l~. I saw 

dumpling with flashing 

:I large, I I ~ C woman 

eyes, ' never simply ar. 

dressed in ivl~ite. I l~enrcl 

rived. She burst on the 

her voice. always kind. 

scene, filling the room 

nl\v:~ys conccr~~ctl. 

rrith her presence. 

"IVcll, that's !rhcrc 

Ilother came right to 

you ~ ~crc co~~ccived.ri~l~t 

the point. "I'm leaving 

tl~erc in 111.. Seymour's 

your father. I can't go on 

anymore." 

All right. It was bat1 

news in some ways but 

not reallv a shock. For ~ ~ 

Testiube Babv I 

oflicc. l'ottr sistcr too. It 

\\-as c;~llctl cthcrenl con. 

cel~tion." 

UV LILLIAN AFRICAN0 J I "Etl~crcal COIICC~Itiot~?" 

AIv rnothcr's com. 

gears tlteir rehtionslril~ had rescmbletl not so 1nuc11 tnand of English was quirky :lt l~cst, I~ut this !\,as a ttcw 

marriage as civil war broken spor;~dically by tense and one on me. 

brooding ccasefircs. I !:.as 11ctl1 glatl the figl~ting a:ts "Yes. yoti know. :\rtificial. 'I'cst.tul~e l~abies." 

going to end and sdii t11;1t our family :Is I had know11 it 

rcould no longer be tl~c same. 

1 miai~eil to Aort it OIII. "Yo~~'rc tnlkit~g :~l~ot~t tarti- .. ... 

licial inserni~ralion." 

IVc talketl abotrt the 111nlre. Alotl~cr said that she "Yes. Ilul 1101 frotn yottr htl!er. I:rcm :~~latl~er !x:r.;oll. 

was going l~ome-hnll~vay aro~lntl the worltl to Syria, So~neonc !\-e don't know." 

wl~ere both my parents lratl IICCII born. Inste:~d of liv- Imagine walking into your living room :tntl lit~cling 

ing at the tlorm. I woultl tt~trve l~ack wit11 my ttvclve- everything moved, rc:~rra~~gerl, I ol place. Elfcry 

ye;lr.oltl sister and our f;~tl~cr. Together, the threc of 11s chair, every cr~sl~ion, et-cry ;~sl~u:~y-ercrytl~i~tg. Yo11 

woultl have to rc.crcate a hon~c out of n mothcrlcss recognize it, ant1 yet yo11 tlo~l't. You kt~orv where yo11 

llollse. 

:Ire, and yet you don't. It's still tl~e s;ltnc ftlrnit~lrc, I1111 

Just when there secmetl to Ilc little lell to say, my it's not the ,ante roorn. I s~tl~l~osc tl~;~t's tl~e \vny I mw 

motl~er drolIl,ed tlte I~on~l~shell. 

my life at tl1:11 tnonlcllt. S:lmc furr~it~~re, tlilTcrc~~t rootn. 

"By tl~e way. Lily, tl~ere's sornetl~ing you sl~oul

I WAS A TEST-TUBE nAnY 

conlinurd/ron~ Pace 36 

Now I ptr it. I felt ~ood act~~ally. Odd little 

bits of my part that iiad nc\.cr cltkilc fit 

were coming togctl~cr nnd rnaking sense at 

last. 

1 lmkcd at my motl~cr and atnrlcd to 

laugh. Sly parrntr, IBI~ funny little mama 

and ~ta~d, had done tldr cxtrnordit~:~ry 

thing. It sccmcd so o~at of cl~aractcr, so 

Illnlly! 

Artihrial.in~c~ninnlio~l donntion (AID) 

is :I fairly widespread practice todny. 

I:\.cry ycar same tcn tllat~atnd to twenty 

tl~ousand Arncricnn babin arc born to 

motl~crr irnprrgnntcd witl~ spcrtn from an 

nnon molrs donor. Ilut I was born during 

tl~e Jrprcssion, wltcn donor it~scmlnation 

was nor only a rarq but n \cry controrersin1 

procrdurct rais~ng all kinds of scnrational 

and ethocal q~~estions. ncyo~ld tl~at, 

artificial inscnlinnl~on was llle very epitome 

of nmrreqrivc . - wrqtcrn seirncc, and 

nro~rcssivc \restern scicncc wns not cxhcti; 

thc cornerstone of my parents' way 

of life. They wcrc hidclm~~nd, trnditionxvnrchininc 

. . -. . r--~ Arnlra. relics 01 nnothcr ccn- 

~ ~.~~ ~~. 

tttry, real&. I still smilc, partly with ndmiration, 

whcn 1 think of them facing 

tllc utterly forcigrl sitoation Illat gave mc 

life. 

And ct they did it. How? \Vl~y? At the 

time I round oat, the whole tl~ing sccrncd 

nln~ost.impos~iblc. I think I scc nlore clcarly 

now. I think I ~tndcnland n littlc l~cttcr 

my parents and 111c world tltcy l i d in. It 

was a very dinerent world from the one I 

know today. 

Bnc day Early in tl~c ccntt~ry a travclcr 

parsed tl~rougll my fatl~cr's town in 

Syria. This man spoke with Papa's fatl~cr. 

He talkcd in olowion terms i~bollt a 1)lace 

;ailed Amcri;a. ~Gryonc was rich in 

.~. ~ ~ ~ ~~ 

ica. This man was snid to-bc making a 

fortt~nc in tllc retail business in a place 

called New Jcrsey. Did tile travcler know 

New Jcnc ? 

~cs. hcKad heard of it. 11 wu n vcrv 

rich city. 

'I'hrc night my gmndlathcr rcachcd a 

decision. His cldest son wo81ld go to Amcrica 

nnd bccomt rich. When IIC had done 

so, he would send for the rest of tllc fanlilv. 

l'he cldest son was Pam. He was cialtt - 

yiars old. 

After IIC landed in Amcrica, Pnpn somchow 

rnanaged to find his way to New Jersey. 

?'llcre tltc wvcaltl~y relative, art imcle, 

li\.cd in a town ncar the waterfront, in n 

t~eigl~borl~wd known ns tl~c Dardancllcs 

for 11s humn~ing hod~cpodge of hicditcr. 

rnncan and Balkan cultures. Ilir va?t retail 

ernpirc turned out to be a tiny nc~gl~lorhood 

groccry. 

Papa worked in tllc grocery until hc wns 

old enough to tr a tradr.?'hcn IIC bccatna 

n silk wcaver. his \ms to be his jobtwclre 

houri a day, six days n wcck-far 

yrars until the decline of thc naturnl ilk 

andustry lorcccl him to look clsewl~ere. Hc 

fo~~nd an even more tedious and demanding 

'ub, monitoriny the 1111ge cnil~roidcry 

mac{tincr in a textilc plant. 1.11~ work required 

unrclcntit~g alertness; n n~otnent's 

dnydrcan~inu could result in l~undrcds of 

yards of slloilrd goads. Dllrin~ llilrl1 tilncl, 

tltc ibnv was lcn dollars for ;I scvctlly~two~ 

11~11; s"I~II

I' 

IIOII~C" 

Arabic nr "(~ra~~dfnll~cr's lzou$e." "Oral~dfnll~er's w;ls IIC\.. 

cr tm 1311sy fur us, ~ vl~nt~v~r t11c 11i11tr. It was t11c frosti~~g 011 the 

cake, nll thr extras \vc ncvrr \vut~ld l~i~vc had otl~crwimr.. 0111 

Cbrist~nas nntl lrirtl~dny gifts fron~ 0111 pnrrntr wcrc 11s11n1ly things 

tec t~rcdatl nnd wrrc glad lo gel, 11111 "C;rnlldlntllcr's hollsdl \vlll 

nnothcr story: Ont: ul the trio nlwayr cnllcd 011 18% in n rrntud 

Snntn suit RI C11rist111ns. and IIIF gifts they l~r011g11t tvrr~: t~cvcr 

~~rccs$itics. I rr~nct~drcr nn rlrctric tri~i~~, n doll nnd, best of nll, n 

typcrvritar for nty 11igI1 ICIIWI gr;~d~~ntion. 

"Crnnclfntl~cr's I~allse" ,mr also olrr refllgc rvh1.n 0111 pnrcllta 

were angry with 11s or rrit11 ench othcr. 'l'hc lnttcr ritt~ntint~ came 1 \vAs A ' ~I~S~-'~UI~l~ I!tlBY 

tsp no re ;III~ liture as the jrnrs wcnt lay, llosr nnd I tscrc fright- cotllinur,l 

erlrd nncl cn11,nrrarrcd 1ly IIIF long rind (lo 115) ~CIISCICI~ SIIUII~~II~ 

n~ntcl~us that ~rr~ned to begin the ~no~ncnt I'nl~n COIC 1101nc from 

It was only nfter tny own n~nrringr to III~ high srl~wl~r~vrrt- , 

work. \Vc 11eci1111r nc~~trly ntvnnr of t11c wny mm~d tri~vc!l#!cl ollt rill llcnrt ~,:~~l 

~,mkel illat 1 drriclrd lo go ~,~,.k to rFrxn~l~~~~l. (sly I 

open npnrtn~cnt window, nnd for the first time, tl~crc scc~nrd 10 ~lis~ory. .rllc cllditlg of I,IRrringC ne\.crcly dnlnUud ,,.lllC , 

be tao ~nnny n~.igI~Imrs on our block. of identity. llcfnre I could n~nkc n ncw lifc for tt~ys~!lf and nly 

\\'hy was it I~:appcning? Xlnyl~e it w;~s j ~~st the sixteen-y~:nr nur ; cl~ilclrcn, I nccdrd to know ~norc nljot~t who I wnr. 

dilierencc, finnlly taking its tall, hlnyln? it wnr disillt~siun~ncnt. So bnck I wcnt, twenty yonrs nftcr thnt convrnntion wit11 tny 

'Ille rorl~n~~tic young girl, nu lo~~ger \.cry yoltag, wnlng ncnrly : l~~oll~ur, lo incdici~l lil~rnri~!~ nnrl c111sty olrl filcs scnrcl~ing fur 

dry of ro,,~n~~ce, lwking to tllc flltllrc nnCl sCEillR OlllY I,ittcr qtlar- . \Y~I.IIC\~C~ t11cre IYIIS to know ZI~IOI AT11 nnd i11w11t thr doctor 

rcls in $I,.n.,nontl, -,v,l ll,ll. .rllc J~~,,I,~~~~, fcclinR : \vho hnd l~elpcil i\c nic life. Ilnck I won to n~y l~nrcnts to n ~k 

cvcv ~~~~~s!iott I 

riot ollly I]lc nl,wnce of hi, ,vifu's love nld rr,llcct I,,,~ tlla . 

$rind cvcr 111011gltt of. I 11eIicvc to SOI~C extent 

thnt tl~crc 15 n proper rcnson for nll things, and Illis ti~nc of lifegnaw 

in^ ccrtnnity tl~nt, after n lifctinle of bnckbrexking lal~or, nflcr I llnd rllnrri,ld n,ld nlotllcrcd tllrcc cllildrcn ownhe 

would ncrcr have mar11 rnorc of tl~c An~cricnn drcao~ thnn he sccrllcd to tlIe riBllt ,enlol lo look ngnill root,. 

had now. hlnylm, tw, it had so~nctl~ln~ lo do wit11 the lenlter of 

children. It wns clrar now that t11urc wo111d nrvcr he n son, nor 

any rnorc cl~ildrrn nt all. Artificial inscn~i~~ntion is not chcnl, today, 

nnd tllc cight ycnrr that pnsrcd bctwco~ III~ hi1111 nnd Itme's 

reflect its cost to my parent3 nlon IIIIIII nny tally of dollars and 

cenu. 

Not long ago, I wns talking with I'apn nl~o~at the old ncig11- 

\Vllntcver the rearons. tllc qaorrcls l~ec~~llc mom frcrlllclfi nlld I 

l,orl,ood, tl,c olcl tilllE,. ~Olllc~lO,V t~IC coll\.crsntioll 

tllrncd to 

Inore ~lj~licnl. IInnd-to-h~nd dllclr wit11 nloP and llroonl I~srdships 01 the Dcprcssian, ,,lid he recnllcd IIIC stmgglc jast to 

raged tl~mogl~oat tl~c house. \Vhilc tbcy rcctn colnicnl todv ill keep foot1 on the table and n roof over our Itcads witl~ot~t going 

tnen~ory, nl the time my rirtcr nnd I yrnrncd in vnin for 6OlllC 011 rclicf, 

sign of n Insting truce. Uy accidcnt of fate nnd ti~ning, Rose livcrl "hly God, I'.apn," I mid, "bow cotald yoo ever hnvc nliordcd 

msch of 11cr cltildl~d on that I~;lttlcgrot~nd, rind shc woi~ld llorc nt~d tnc?" 

cnrty wit11 her for inany ycnrs n ccrtni~t clen~cntnl mdnes. 

Ilc rcplicd witho~~t 1111: sliglltot I~csitation. "YOI !ccrc the 

1 was pcrl~nps II little Itlckier. In tho Inst yenrs of IY pnrcnts' I i~i~:~s5t llnrgnina ltlY lift." The End 

mnrriagc, I wnr beginning to 11nv~ visions of IY III~IIIC. I had a , 

Imyfricnd and fnnlasics of n lnnrrlagc of my own. hforc inlpor- ; 

tnt11, I was going to college. It hnd l~cen my drcanl for ycnn, i 

nnd, in n way, I hclic\r its co~ning t1.11~ wns linked to iny AID . 

birtl~. In tl~c Arab view of the titnc, collcgc cducntiot~ for women 

was abut ar acnsible ns an extra hcnd, hly parents certainly fclt 

this way despite tlte lull scl~olnnl~ip I hod rucci\.t:d. Yet in lhc 

cnd, they rclrntcd, and I think it tnlrst I~n\,t: l~nd so~nctl~ing to 

do wit11 their secret. I \F.I nlrrndy n little dillercnt, nnd so wrrc 

tl~cy. r\nd 11i:rlnap1 tradition co~nld br bent till nnothur time. 

So I rvcnt away to collcgr, ahere life \v;n acndcmic nnd sl~cltcrrd 

and rclnti\.ely inne\~cntft~l 11nti1 that fine spring dny when 

rny rno~lter l~rougl~t me her stnrtling ncsvs. 

rnrtitioecrs of .~rtificial-inrvr~~in;~tio~~ donntion usivenally rcc- 

P on~tncnd tl~a~ the child ne\.cr l~c tmurn:~tired hy tl~c tnlth. 

Srcrrry is the first con~rnar~dn~cnt tl~rougl~out tl~c c~ltirc proccd~~rc. 

Why, tl~cn, did my rnothcr tcll inc? I'm not sttrc, l'hc only 

vxplntlalian #l>c ercr gavr was Illnt allc war di4lrallght nl the 

tirnc. "erhops she felt that the s~~ndurisg of hcr ~nnrringc can. 

rclcd all other vows as ~rcll, inclt~dil~g ;my lnlcdgc of rccrccy concerning 

tl~c cl~ildren. I'crhnpr thr f;~ct thut she wns going away 

lorn yr or so, leaving us in IY fi~tl~cr's cl~nrgc. ~nndc her want 

to ma c nn nddi~ional clailr~ on 11s. Or url~nps thc secret bccnn~e 

ri~nply too hca\y lor her to 1,enr nny ~onger. I felt t11.t \v=igl~t 

In wlf during the yenrr I witl~l~cld t11c tr11t11 fron~ Io$ititt, tl~in~, It ~ivcs n ) ;?.ft~ling ~ thi~t lilr* is opt*i~.i!ndcd nnd 

filled ,vi;ll IIII~IIOWII ~ ~ ~ s ~ i l , ~ 1111t l ~ 1~~1yond 

t ~ ~ ~ s thnt, . I think I full 

for ntnny t,~rs that any show of ct~riusity 111igl11 constit~~tc! it kind 

of disluy~~~~ to tr~y father. (cot#lit~ard on pasr 143) 

\VOII.\S'S DAY/JUI.Y 26. 1977 141 

J L

living" a3 to "hi~c~crInsnrryilIR 

mmclult~n." In fact. Iiial.iri;~ is C ISC~ hS 

protnraa-carrying rr.orquitocs, and yellow 

j fc\cr by vlri~s.carr)~np rn~wquitncs. 

.I~IIUI~IIIII 

.711elcst ixhavior 

~nixcd with xnselcu pun laus prli~ces 

I rnseless k~llinpa 

I Lurr.~ Hird~rran 

If it.~hirrgrurr. D.C. 

1 

i 

It's ;I bl~i~nic u?~nc~?nc did llol 

s11out hin~ dead kforc he \rns ci~pturcd. 

And nou-oh essence oi all stk~piditict 

--it will bc la% moneys from all of us 

even iron1 Social Seiur~~y pittances lik 

mine,-tliataill k ured lo keep him nliv 

In 2c1 asyluml"-- .. 

'- C'or ,i~lw S. .\lu:rf s 

TIME mngurinc. hut u.as plcas;~nl 

/ i' tiurh , Al~fr rfr 

. . ...

Ing ns provided by law. 

Before an adoption file is ordcrcd, 

unsonled, nolica to all il~ndved ppr(icst 

must be glverl so they may lakc nposi.: 

ti011 at a hcoring as to wl~ell~cr the; 

file nlaY be Unzealeri. In sucl~ pro.; 

ccedine tha party accking to *unraI j 

Ute record, cven if it is thc punon! 

. . .- -- 

ndoplcd hi~~~.wlr, must establish that i 

"IWN cause" exists for openjllg the ) 

file. such "good ca~pcu usunlly in-: 

volvc~ the heal& or welfare of 

son. 

pn. 

.\pplicalions to unsmi adopllon rec. 

Ords nro nlJt JlghtJy granted. (jreac, 

scnsilivit~ CXlsta to tl~e deslrc of ,lnt., 

Ural P~rL.IlIs for cOnlidenliol(ty onrj 

allen for anunYmir)~. Under cjr. 

great pail~s nro ~~k~~ to 

d djsclosin~ [he identity of nnl. 

D.lrcllls even when n file is un. 

6 

$e led fur good cause. A ~ ~ o u ~ 

'b silo or u e senseless ,qlaughficr 

'. * (11 Iil&oll &$am'' killing should 

i ~ b@nxlct t 

ser secrecy on tho 

01 those%.kCd ln ,gt1opllonq. 

'"&e 111e hincidc!nc~ that D~~~ 

' brkbtz a&krr to be ;m nrjoptkd 

~ ~ 

:c'lil'p ((Jui$~i RERIXAM R, 

.! *ll~mwdrs cmn, nmnx crlllntY 

4 Bmnl. AUK. 30, 1977 

h

EV~~Y~O~ 

Arlccslral grounds: Conlc in Italy (left), hlcCuires in Illinois 

Search for 

I 

I 

'I'l~is yi-i~r, 111111 III\\, is ill ~IIII li~ri.~*. 

I I I II~III!IIIII~I ~ A~llrric~~l~s itrr 

clIgg111~ ill111 Illeir rt111Ir lo rcc111i111 11 

l~c*rili~ge ~roucass IIIL*~ 21r1: grt111i11~ lo\\.~~rd 11 

rc!clc~li~~lli~~~~ 

111' ll~vir AIII~~~~IIII~~III. 

27- 

Alirr n~sc.~crol~ir~g 111s 1)1111ily l~i!r~.. 

yci~r-old SIL!~>II~~II CIIIIII* I~IIIII ~~IIIIIIIIlirlcl, 

S.J., t~sl>ll~r~*cl tile stn~i.ls 111'l1is 

1i1111iIy's 11;11ivv viI111ge 111 cc~~lricl IIIII! 

ill111 lrii'cl 10 (!11vis11>11 IIII\V his griltl~lli~. 

111t:r k!Il III~: 11igl11 l~vli~rc Ire, l c ~ f Iitr ~ 

,\111i4ric11. "I CIIIII~ l!rl~clic~~lly see* IIIIII 

I'bc4 IIII! l>rvst.tlcl! 111 III~ IIII~C~S~II~S," IIL- 

,,. . I 111~: I.IIIIIII sl~n~ts I18111si8s \\it11 

zttlrcgl n ~~lls, Illo clo~~kcys ill tl~i- slrtrcl 

;III~ 111~- Ii~ctic-s ~lrc~src~l (11 III~IcL \vi.rcs 

i~u~ully 11s I 11i1cI i~~~i~gi~~c-cl. l IISIXI 11, II~, 

IISII~IIIICLI oI'I>~il~g l111lii111 11e.i~1111si- 01'1111' 

h111Ii;t slc-ria~~lyl>~:, IIII~ 

\vllcrc I co1111. I~.IIIII 111111 \~IIIII it I~.IS." 

IIO\V I IIII~I~~~IIIIIII 

'BETTER THAN BINGO?' 

.l'l11*11! \\,ill III! si111i111r \to.vi~ge2s t~l'tlibc.tl\.vry 

lllir IIIIII~ Cl~il~lr~l~ IIII~I 

~r~~~~~l~~l~ililr~:~~ 

01 i111111igri111ls llris visiti 

~ ilr ~ 11111risls g 111~. l>cc.li~~g I~illls t11'151115 

1%1it1111. 1111S 

1111. r11sl1 !,I rools 1111s IIL!IIIC*II ~IOII\II~: ih

Exploring a London t,?niily tree 

Lacalctltrclircllcllrs ;Ire cilsl~ll~p III 11s 

well, r\ Detroit fir111 is oITcri~~g'I' sl~irts 

cirilili~zori~~cl "Ar~~crlci~~~ Hr~ols." Cillifin~ii~'~ 

Crrilt \\'cslcr~~ Si~vi~~xs itrlcl 

~III Associ~~tio~~ is issul~rg II roots 

~IIIII~)IIII.I tlli~l ~II)~!IIS 011 it11 OI~IO~IS 

aiitc: "II').IIII ~IUII'I tnkc steps IIO~ to 

clln~r~fcle yoltruaw life IIII~ ((1 preserve' 

I iisry I I fi~~~ily, t11 II~ 

prcp~rccl 111 slip silcl~~ly i~~tcr tlic r;ulks 

of slecliil~g i~~~ccstors." A l,os A~~gclcs 

I~o~~scwife is t~lreri~lg lo tape 00-111il111lc: 

"on11 l~ist~i~y" i~~tcrvicws \vith elclerly 

pec~plc i r ~ tlirir II~~III~S, cllurxi~~g $65 

per old gnty 11c.ncl. 1)y IW f11c rools 

n1$11 11x1s II~~IIII to rc!sc~~~l)le ;I vcri~i~lilc~ 

IIIII~OII~II j~itrlor IIIIIC, i~lld tllc f11dcl1sl1- 

11css IIIII~CS ~iroie~ssl~~~~i~ls 

\V~IICC. "\Vl~i~t 

I n.sel,t, si~ys Cilry Ilol~crts, II rekrcllcc 

lil)r;~rii~~~ 811 tllv h'ctv Er~filr~r~d 

Ilislt~ric

SPECIAL REPORr 

n~ignu~ls but foundlings, totisetl down on by the lntc scrciologist \Villinm I. Thomns hiost etl~nic An~ericn~ls hitvc h.~cf sitrli. 

the doorstep of a strnnge country, \r*ii11 tl~nt n " 'destn~ction of me~l~orics' was l81r encul~ntcrs will^ whnt ii:;ur r~allr 

tl~cir.nnlne lngs oftc~~ ~nisspelled nntl tllc essence of the An~cricnnizinf proc;. , :'the .bleaching trf A~r~ericn. Author 

their rc~dpfo~enanee ]lidden in 1110 con- css." Assimilntc or ycrlsl~, wrir t IC i,h Lui i Bnrzini, who liver1 in thr U.S. ns 11 

scriptlor) lsls of n cznr's nm~y or t11c tnx . licit co~nmnnd. In his~nulo~ios;lipl~icnl~."~cl~il 5 bcforc\rct~~rnlng lo Ilnly, rt.alctn: 

, mils prpn obscnn,linro~~y;:yJooy I'ntlcr- , fook; 5'hlnking l,,".Col!~mc,~lnr~:~nr~ ri:' ,. lic~:\y$~ni:'tl!e,i~~e!Iing pol".ruIc%{ $11rncsscr 

+I+, found .l~e+If in:thc .yo!ld, i1ne::~lt6~~Ndrrn~~~~P~ho~tz 

;Tdcn$~'~i;iem~ .J"I'~$pot wos n yrcht hbrnotxhizit 

.,iithoul*put~~~~.o,m'nd.o hcr?,Noon.c ; tM~~cdtcnd~~CWP~~,~i~n~~~~i~&;mbrhlnb;lntbwl~lc . . . , , n\;cncd:nIl, 

r . C t l 1 0 c k e I I , . rccocio~rsi,i~hrpy~i,~h'~Ciii~~~~X?Th~ you ta+-Ithe 

'~'~Yo~:;~~~,$~{~,. . ".$,;:.;-'I', :.;:j :': 6d'n gift, "to my cln~lghtcr Sarah Du?. ; 

or &role hlerritt, 1'11~ search stnrtid ' fnmilies to whomilivedl~clongedl,hlnny :. hain',-nhmc thnt showsr~pin blc.mtt s ' 

F" on n lnzy s~tnl~ncr nnemoon nt thc slnvcs took new n6riibs:nfter the Civil '.~mntcmnl fnnllly line, most significant1 

court clerk's office in Athens. Ga. On the Wnr, mnki~lg it difficnlt ,even to trnce. as the mnidcn nnrnc ofgreat-grcnt-grin $-; 

basis of research clone by her tnother their nriginnl urhite owncn nnd nilrnc-; fnlher Alfred's wife, Nice. In lhc spring i 

fiftecn yenrs earlier, hlerritt wns renson- snkcs. Finnlly, the abscnccofsyslcinntic of. 1073, Memitt found records in the 

nbly sure thnt her grent-great-grar~dfn- record3 nrld the fnct that slavcs were University of Gcorgin lihrnry for the a- 

thcr Alfred l ~ w hnd e lived in ncnrby forl)idden by law to re1111 or \\,rite nlnkc tnte of onc Lindsey Durl~i~ln. Among the . 

Oconce County after the Civil Wnr, but documcnts was n l~ill of sale dated I 

now she wnntcd to carry the search 1111ck Dec. 7. 1826, for "n Ncno \\,oman 

to Lowc's life as a slave. The clerk hand- nbout 28 years, old nnd nanled 

ed ovcr several vol~~mcs of land deeds Dinnnnh, nnd her cllild, nbollt 

nnd wills Crcrn~ the 1800s. wnn~ing her three ycnrs old, nnmed Nice, for 

rcntly: "You're looking for n needle in u the sum of $500." The discovery 

knystnck, honey." ndded nnntlier generntion to Car- 

Only twenty nlin~~lcs sncl two volumes ole hlcrriltk fnmily tree nnd put , 

Inter, hlerritl cnmc ucross tl~e words she 

tho birth dnic ofl~ercnrliest kno\rsrt 

wns looking for: "1 l~nvc given to nly son relntive-Dinr1nnl1-4 1798. 

John H. I,o\rne Jr. in money nnd prapcTty 

1s-Mtte Walk: In further rcsenrch 

twenty-four hundrccl clollnrs and I now illto the Durhnm nncl L0u.e fa111give 

r~rrd beclueatl~ unto llirn the Negru ilies, hlerritt discovered 111111 her 

boy Alfrctl, nhorlt seven yenrs old." "At 

Krent-Krcnt-grn~~d6~t~~er Alfred wns 

'first, I col~ldn't believe whnt l wns see- 

sold nwny to nnotJ~er pl~u~tntiun 

ing," Merritt recalls. "Then, ns I rend it while his wife, Nice, re~rlnirled on 

over nnd ovcr, I was flllccl with elntion." the Lowecstntc. Evidencealsosug- 

The nnen~oon's discovery inspired hler- gests t11i1t Alfred visited Niceofte~~. 

rill to continr~e n scnrch 1l111t hns li~stcd wnlkiny the 15-~nile trip in n day. 

fivc years nnd succcssfirlly traced her nIt110ugl1 they never lived togctllcr 

Glnlily bck six generations in Gcorgin. 

ugnin ns nlnn nnd wlfc 1111til nl)uli- 

I 

"Thnt nlenns my people Ilnve' Ixen in tion frcecl tl~cm. "This contr~~diuts i 

this country since its enrlicst dnys," she tl~c rnyth th~~t Sot~then~ hist,i;riirns 

snys with pride. "iiow inlirly A~llcric~~ns l~nvc \vnntc!d to pcrpetllnte, snys 

cnn si~y thnl?'' 

hlerritt, "thnl slirves were II~\\~II).s 

No Shamo: Now M~*rrilt, 36 anti it tr~lns- st1111 it1 fi~n~ilics."Nevcrtl~eless, her 

j~crrtrdioll ~~li~~~~~erf~~rtl~~!A~li~nti~llcgi~~~i~l G1111ily history ulso indici~tes the 

Ct~~r~rnission, 11:15 11eco111e :I sen~iprc~fes. stre~~gtl~ oftheir roots. "?'l~c fiunily 

sionnl root trnccr: sl~eis:~l'l~.D.ci~~~clitl~~te relll;lined n ril~nily n~lcl never lust 

ill A~l~crical~ studies 111 EIIIII~). University to11c11," she snys, "en!l ni\crtI~e WII~ 

ilnd Iilsl 111c1111h helped orgiulize \v11111 rllny U"l "8'"'. , llley wcrr rcllnited. 

he tlw nntion's first 13111ck Ge111.111ugicuI ~~vri~rill at WO,~: A sixth-gcner~tion Ceorgiarl hfcrritt's next go111 is to rclocnte ) 

liistorici~l Assucietiim. "Fivc? or tell yenrs tile sites of 1111 the plnnta~io~~s her 

i~go, ill lhc civil-rights illt)velntrl~t, \r.c 11lt1ck ge~~culogists especinlly relii~nt crn fitn~ily lived OII, IIS~II~ 11111d.clec:d TCCOTI~S : 

\rtere figllting and ci~ruing our pl~tcc so I~uncI~vs, nI,scurc fri~gn~ents nncI tile om1 ant1 recollections of tl~e Lowe fulllily 

tllnt now \r,o 1111n't l~irve 11) 111: II~~I~IIII~I~ of I~istory of tl~eir living rt:lntives. clesccndt~nts nnd tl~osc of lllc hlortolls. I 

tile pnsi." sllc snys. "Now I think l~li~cks 'I'ltc Alfred Lotvcu~l~on~ C~~rolehlerrltt t)~eirrvl~ite~,w~~crs, Ulli~~~t~lely she'd like 

ltrc rcncly to look l~nck 181 tit~~c to tl~eir ~IIIIII~~ IIII her first clily 1111 the tr.111, for tn res~~lrch IIIIIU~ I~istory f~lll-ti~~le, U I I ~ 

gc~~ei~lopy." rxntllple, turnell out IIIII to be her grct~l- fincl ways togcl i~~~~ckconllllll~lilies i1lItbr- 

'I'lle ~liscovcrics tlo 1~11 colnc c:i~sily. grent-gmnrlfi~tl~er- after nll, but rnther n . cstecl in tl~eirllistory.To tl~nl encl.Ct~rrrl~ 

I~t)\\*cvcr, esl~ccially fur I~lncks. Hccituse co~~sin oftl~e sume nu~ne~~ncl ngc. It wns n hlcrritt ~ircnlns of reco~lslr~~clil~g 1111 e11sli~vcs 

\\,ere give11 tl~e fillllily II~IIII~S OF cur nntl n hulfl)cfi~re hfcrritt t~lr~~acl 1111 tire Suutltcrr~ pln~~ti~lion colnrnu~~ily o11c 

their Illnstcrs, it is trfte~~ nccessi~ry for icr clirect f~~rcl~ear. "YOII keu I gc~it~~ clsy-it sort of tnw-11,-life warking \\'il. 

rcsc.ilrcl~crs to tracc IIOI t)nly the ljluuk I~nckovcrit 1111c1 ovcx it IIIIII sun o / plnyitlg I~IIIIISIIII~~ of sinvcry. 

line ofrlesrc~~t IJUI i~lstr tlltlt r~ftl~c wl~itc with IIIIIIICS ill yollr i~~intl." 

WMI'n N1.n. 

s11e SII~S. -1011 SCHWAIIIZ "ah I ~ L Y 

Nt:waw~!t*k, July 4, 1077 2')

. - , . . - . , . - . . . . , . 

embark lor Swedish hornl., where he nosed at 17 reiuwr;its 111 ree111citn111t 

Ody.~sey: Holmberg, 89, and daughters 

1rc111 

CII~~II~II 111i11istries. P~SS~IIest;~l)li~l~~~~cnt 

a11d s:~id, 'YIIII \\-IIII'~ let 11s aer lists crf i111111igri111t s11ips 11111)' IIII\~~ 

illto the 111eIti11g pot, Ir11t ylrll~ll IYLV~ 111 heell reportccl III t11e pcr111t of ~ I I I ~ I ~ ~ ~ I I - 

~~~~~ ~ ~~-~~ ~ ~~~~~ .?~, 

111kc 11s i111o uccullr~l'." It \\*;IS tlllclcr tile ti011 riltller tlllln tile poli of entry. 

$10.. Texlls, ~lccclrcling tci n state-s ilnpctus of the black-prirle III~~~IIICII~, Doll~ertio rescurch cart lie e11u11lly dissorccl 

sllrvey of ctl~r~ic n~ols, 1111s ut PI1- east Novl~k snys, that ohlet ctl~~~ic grnllps Ile- 11i.ilrIe11i11~. Lr~cill ri*c~~rils ill sotl~e stntes 

26 clisti~~ct Lultl~rcs \vitl~l~~ its 1111rders. gat1 lo ex >Inre tlleir II~VII l~nck~ro~~~~~ls. 

A an. CIIII of g;~ lr 'rile Clllcac~r fire \r.ipcll 

flnul p11s11 toward tile seti\.c scilrcl~ fc~r clI1t alll~ost city 1111~~ cotlllty recorcls IIp 

crrigil~s cilrlle last yeer \vi1I1 lrvil~g to IH72. X~IIII~ CIIII~CII I~I~CIIIII~II~S Itre 

II~rwc's "\iforld of Our I.'i~tl~crs"-n t~~siri~icl ill LII~~II or ill tllc 1111tive 

vl~ki~als (wllo l~eve just eclel)r~~ted their III~IIUIII~II~II~ study of Juwisl~ illlll~igru. tollalle c~f otl~l~ic pilrislles. I)escc~iiln~~ls 

sccollll 1lllllll;ll Czccllfest). 

tion-i~nd I~elcy's el>ic "llcrc~ts." 

rrf slaves lillil rese;~ml~i~~g Ii~~l~ily III~II~CS 

Ileley's 111xrk \rill Ire I~~IIISIII~P~ illto CIIIS~VC~: oncll IIIC I~IIIIICS were ~IIOSC OF 

'TAKE US INTO ACCOUNT' 22 li~~~g~~nacs. 

U I I ~ IIC fei-Is it t011cl11~1l the slnve owllcrs. ' 

hlicl~ncl Ncrv~tk, sulllrrr of"l'11e Hise of "SIIIIIC dc'ep pulsi. 1I1i1t ~~;IIISI.I!III~S r;lciill 1'11~. sc11re11 CIIII IIU costly-ill tr~~vel, 

tile UIIIII~~~II~I~~ Etl~~~ics." sees tile ilc\rr IIIIII~s." I4rr A~aericn~~s. "1l1111tr" src~~~c~l tillie, or rvell I~IIS~;I~I~-IIIII~ scr111r [>rc~l~et1111ieity 

11s 11 ki1111 II~"IIIIJ!II~ rc11eIli1111" to 111rIcl 0111 11 p11rtic111;tr IIII~IV t11;1t t11t.y I~YIIS CYIII o111y IIC clescril~e~l 11s S~II~IIIII~. 

l~guil~st tl~c WIN 1 iilei~l III IIIII~~I~ t.11111- e11111tl fill 111 their II\VII lr11111ks. rvi~iiir ~III* i i 15. CIIIIII!I~, 

~ tllc S!)-ye~~r-c~Icl 

ti~r~~s 111111 COIIIC/y S~CCUII. NII\'CIS like 11ruken contilinity ~~l'tl~cirhi\r~~r). ,it SIIII C~:I~IIIIIII 11t St. l~liz~~l~~~tlis ll~~spit;~! 111 

Illill Illltll'~ "l'lliillo!~'~ Clrlll~llilillt.' City's 1111ge hlor1111111 C;IIII~CII ~CIII*- \\li~sl~i~~glcr~~. I).(:., II~~:III lri~ci~~gl~is IIIIIIl~el~>ecl 

11ri11g I ~ I I ~ 11 Il~re~~~tl~rc~~~gl~ I ~ 

xvit11 IIIII~ICIII 1il1nlt-y. t~tllic II;IS II~IIIIIS~ I~IIII- il? 11n1.r IIL. \\~;I~I~IIc~II "lln~rts" 1111 tclcvitlloir 

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SPECIAL REPORT 

lrll~cks irom hlicl~lgnn. The senmil for 111s own li~te~~gc bnck trr King I)i~vi~l). Cl~i~r- rind llron~llt to IiSe. "You see II II~IIIIC n11 

fi~lhcr's fn~t~ily took hln~, lnst hle~norlnl . lcrn~~gt~c seeins to be n fnvorile ol)jcclivc lln~t inicrofilm." snys Lnrn~ine Fergl~so~~ . 

Dme. ~...~ lo L11n11,crlon. N.C.. ~- where he wrlr of tl~c one-~rnnen. So is Lcif Erlestrn. from BOIIIIU~III. UIIIII. 11 rt:(r11111r nt I ~ P 

~ ~ -..tuld 

chn1.n sveed-choked .cen~c~tery,.l~a,'~Lestcr ~o~~d~;lc,oldcr I~rutl~er of tl~c hlunnon Iibrnj, "ri~rl . ~;ner \you've ' :, 

hod to cx~lon? tvu reetltina witl1.nitl>-Vi~~'Psosidcnt,1~w followcd the fwnily ,~ looked for it so lonx, it's notlost n nnnlc. .. .'. 

tlcinnkes. lie hns'vet tb rht fgdt in it:.Ii:i..bnuk tl~Nu~l~Nb~~h~~tonll~reofn~llit~tN 

I'rn nlnd to ; q . 

.:' 11's so~~~~(o~~~I~~mGfro~~.nnil 

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. ~'mv'&ndfntl~cr .- hnd ken illeeltimntc:lt ~;~octhu'i'5'r'u~ Id l~ciluc~'udnirist~.mortdi~v~I Y mrins!iAuatrtnns :nnd.Bnvn~nnJi~i'.l~irI:~t~i? 

wns quite n distorl)ing tl!sru~e~y."~sl~c: 

:recnlls,',;'l J~ad nlwn .s been idcr~tified 

. with his surni~mc, E d dy. Relntives t ~s~d 

to lellmc.'.You do thntjust likcnt~ Edd 

Suddenly. they admitted his i1 r"' e-: 

gitirnscy. nll thnt idcr~tity sccmcd. to 

! evnpor$. I really n~ou~;ncd thnt 'for a' 

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YOU~ ..'.., PEOPL~,'.;:, . 

. . ~ h pitfdls c nre cndlcss, rind. someseurcl~crs 

end with littlc tnow t11n11 nn 

uncongerrlnl rostcrofnn~ncs nntl dntes. It 

tnkes luck. persistence and n inensure of 

intailion lo ncl~icvc mom. Ben Brcnnnn 

McCuirc, w11o fnundcd tl~c Cl~icngo 

Irish Aocestry'Worksliop two yenrs 11 PO 

(its slogi~n: "Like to S11?t1t11? Join tke 

CIA"), played n ln~nch when sl~c \vns 

looking for her grnildfi~thcr's n~nther's 

denth certilicnte. She knew he hi~d been 

born in 1864, nr~d that. neeording to a 

fnmily story. Ile hi~d fletl IIUIIIC ~ II his 

teens begas~se or al~ntcd stcp~notl~er. If 

he detester1 the stepn~othcr so IIIIIC~I it 

. wss likely he Ir;~il known his ~notl~erwhich 

n~cnnt lle n~igl~l hnve l>eet~ nt least 

G when she dictl. 

On that nssnmption, hlcc~~ire wrote 

I!IC Regislrnr-Cc~~eral's OKce in Dublin, 

usking for n olieck af 1870 

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dcc~lh certificntes. She svns onlv Way stations for roois voyagers: Ncw York's Ellis Island, rockbound ~ormon. vaulfs 

n yeurofl-thc inother hnd died 

in 1871."011e ofthechan~cteris- 

sion: "I'rn 1111 Alnerienn, but I'm every. 

tics ncccssnry is to l)e n detec- 

thi~~g L.~SC, too"-n re~~sonablc response 

tive," htcGl~ire udvises. "Sou 

to the cj~~cslio~~ t1111l J)ogins the senrch. 

pick up 1111 the cl~rcs nnd use 

Tl~i* r~irts OIICS~ 11ns hcco~ne n tl~irdcrur 

inlnyinntion." That helps 

zce I the scnrch intcrestir~g ns 

well. "~cop~c t~on't lenvc n 

plncc !ornoreason," snys Pcg~). 

Tock Sinko, l~eud of the Newberry's 

genealogy dep~rtment. 

"So you think,'\\'i~s tl~ere n I~LIIIine? 

A distorl~ancc?' Sou 1nig11t 

histtrry course

A Maid &om Finland 

% tI1i0 o1l111io 

rcvlvill l~llve Itcell gro\r.lng 

!,hisre lit tl~c lnst tell yc!itrs. S111crr 

l~llots,'~ it I111s l1t~~lll~ to fi1c11s ,111 gclll~llli$. 

ogy, ltecc~~tly, Illere 1111ve 11ce11 striking 

1i1 I i i li1lt11111t I I I I I l111ck III 1703. OIIII!~ li~~~~ily IIICI~~IC~S i~~st~~r~cos 

II~~IJIIII~ i~clrrlt~ \VJIIII~II~ !I) re- 

1:i1111lsl1 stock, 1111~1 tltey IIIIVO (i'lt t110 tt~g IICIIIU~I cl~~ri& t11~ I~IIOII~L-, IIII~ Illst yenr '-p SIIIII~ tl~c (ill1 etl~nl~ s1tlu111111r of t11(+ 

1 i r nit I i r lives. 11ir 7 I I \ill A~cric~~ ~IIS~IIS 1cIc1 IIIIIIICS (I~eir pilrcIIIs sl~~!!lc~~eil. "\Vr 1111cl 

~ r -s I t I l l ~ klli!~tt s IIIII~S~ I~cv p11t togctl~cr 11 cl~nrt of tl~c Ii~~nily .% 11 CBSO 1101. IOIIK II~O, snys 'I'IIII~IIIS 

IIIICI ~i1i.s 111t1111i~6 II~IIIII hlntnln. 80, stili ge11ci111t~. AIII trt*nsllrcs it. Kt~wulrki.~~rrsl~lu~~laFtl~e Pollsl~-A~~~t-ri- 

Is 11 ltit IIII~~IIII~I~~IIIII~ 111 KII~IISII ~~flor 55 Since 1064, \ V~I~II the 1i1111ily 111ctvec1 to ' ~IIII Corlgress. "Tl~i! st111 st~icl, '1 tlon't 

ycilrs 111 tl~c U.S. 1l111 il \vnsn't 1111111 111st SIIII IJicgn fro^^^ IJIIIIIIII, h111111.. 111c IIiI- 9 \VIIIII 10ilc~11y111y r~~~tsllkcn~y liltl~crrll~l.' ; 

week 111111 1lc111 iiil~u~~cn, n 4D-yc:er-~tlil IIIII~IIS l~evc I~rcn i~~*n~crsc~l it1 l'it111ls11 :. lie fell llle i\~nericn~~izccl IIIIIIIC di1111'l : 

stn~c(~tr.ll supunisorr~t 11 vctcmr~a' I~cts[~l- c11l111rc. h111cl1 of'll~eirsoeir~l life rc!volvcs & ~.ctnvt:y tv111t III! rcv~lly \\*II.~.'"~II~ ~L*III~II of : 

tal in Snn Dicgo, took 111s li1111i1y 1111ek to 11roi111i1 ~IIC I~CIIISC oI' lii~~l~~n~l, II city- -+ 

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111c IIII~~VO is CIIICIIIII~ ctn. AIIIIIO~ lrvinx 

1iI11i fir I 1irstI~1111cl I t t i S I C s~~or~sr~rccl gootl\:.ill urgsni./~11it111 wl11cl1 !Vnll~~cc!'s ~IIII (nlld recent ct~llnl~nr~~tcrr) 

clin~lti~~g III'III~ I'IIIIIII)~ tree, I l111i1s. I I Ails t i I I 9 1I)nvid 1111s rirnss~~~~~ctl tl~e oripini~l fi1111l1y 

Ills IIIII~II cctnccnl \vns lo lenrn nl)oclt IIIIIC~. 11~11) gre\\, Itttcrestcil in hie ow11 nnllle W~~llcclli~~sky. 

111s ~nntl~er. wl1o l~ad ctnign~lcil 111 1012 il~~ccstry. Tl~iu~ks to 111s Itnrther, svl~o 1.11ere 1% dtill II I~ostile lone 111 tllc ; 

IIIIC~, worked ns 11 IIIII~~ 111 Nu\\. York s1ic111 cigllt yei~rs 11s 11 C~IIISII~II~ oFficI111 111 .% CJIIIIIC IIWLI~~II~II~. It is fi~eIed 11). IIIIgcr 

I~cforc ~nnrrying 111s fi~tl~er, u yocrllu III~III IIcIsl~~kI,bc (~11s UIIIC to Irnec hls f&1!1cr,11 i111d rJvuIrIes. SUIIIC SOCIRI criIJcs see it 11s 

wl~o lscl leli Fllllnr~d Lo avoiil scrvlt~g in . hllnrrcsolr~ l~ot~~cstc~~ilcr, Imck to .!111to 9 11 li~rtl~cr sti~gc nftlrc frn~~nentntlo~~ ihnl 

the nussln~~ r\r111y. The 1n1cl11g wi~s un- IIJIIIIIICII, III) eIg~~tee~~tI~-ee~~t~try 

I'inn- IIC~IIII in ll~e '80s. hlost ~ L~II~CCOIIIIIIII~~- 

,cxpcc!cdly cssy; cl~l~rcll records in 11 is11 ltu~~tcrwl~u . fitu~~clcrl 

. aslr111ll el()'. l'hu tles still Feel ~~~~clcrrcprcscntcd In gov- I 

crnrncrlt, yet instr;a~ CifsllllrillgIl se~lseof : 

cott~mn~~ pligl~l they grct\r. lnorc i~~s~~lnr. 

. . 9 l'ltcre 11re i~lsi) iro~~ie~ irr tlre r~~ov~n~cnt. 

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ocl of'lirow~~ U~~ivcrsity. 

a s k : I I ~ ~ I I I ~ I I I S J S ! I I V)III?-~~~~.SIIIIIII~,)~ Itrn~~rsc gn~vc silrs -; "To 11o IIII AIIIL-ric~~n is to 1)elicvc 111 

I I ' i r I t i visitl~g I Lfl ~lntonclcd urc givo~l awlby tiller $10 f ccrtein ll~ings, 11111 tli 111: II L'C~III~II tiling. 

i t I I I s I A i iir~~ts, ycnrs. 11111 it wns11'l 11 1111cl slnrl. Allel ;~l\er ':f Tl~st's wily lllc Co~~stitc~ti~~~~ 

Is SCI ittlpor- 

IIII~ lltc;y I~ring t.o~~bi~lrr~~l~Ii! Iti~rkprolnl~l t111.g IIII\'C clct~lc \YIIII( tl~ey CIIII 10 tnlc:e ti1111 to 11s- 11s 11 1111ifyt11g ~I~~~IIIII~II~." 

I I a . I r visit IIIIIIIII I I11tlis lill~~ily, IIIC II~IIIIIICIIS ~IIIII to IIIIIVC '2 

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13111 111 r~!rnlll~~g tllt*ir rnc~ts, AIIIL-rice~~s 

155 I I s I I I I ~ I r ~ I I 1111 I 10 S\V(!~I~II 10 look l111ct Aili'~ fi1111~r's 9 IIIII~ f111d 11 1110rc pi~lj)ilI~l~ st)IIrcil of IIIII- 

\\*it11 her il~~ttl~cr's iil1!111i(ill ~(!IIII~vcs. line. \\'it11 I~lck, sl~i! SII~S, sl~i! el111 tr11cc tv-tl~c si111i111rity of tlteir nrig111s. Il'itc~il : 

S ~ rI l I ~ ~ I I I ~ I I I I : I ~ I I 111111 1111 IIIC \\'i~y IIIIL~ to the I.IIPIIIIIIIC~S. ~L~IISL-s II 11-SSCII~II~ OF t.tI111i~ lr11siu11 111 

1 gri~~t-~li!cs I r 1 1 I ~ t oI r -roNrscHwmn~fll,MARrINK151HDoRPn6an~ .:. tl~c cltrrr#ll g~!t~cri~tl~)n. "'l'ltcrc scelns lo : 

t~rgil~~izc~l VII~IIIII~ t11i1t tnlc~:d 1111. li11111ly MI JANEFIIIEOMANI~I~PI.UIII Ile n gr11w11tg o~j~i~city to ltu 1111 AIIIC~~CIIII 

. .$" - N~whwt.ck, July $1.. I977

SPECIAL REWRT 

c!clgccl by 1111 licoplc to 11 greater eslcr~t.'' sense of III~IIII~.~~-~IC-IIC~S. II si~nse (11 

Yol~llgcr A~r~cricni~s IIIII~, i~~tlcccl, be niisslo~~ to tell pcoplc11ow11111cl1\ve1~1vt~ 

tllovillg llcyolld tl1c trlc!llillg pot. Ill sn- in ~~IIIIIIIIII." Tllc COIIII~~~ is II IOIIC \VII!' 

~~cxll~g tl~cir l~crllngc t11cy SCCIII 111 11q frolo l~rotl~url~cru~l, l~ut roots scokrrS tlrr 

\\fill t;tkc illto II~COIIII~ iiviclcr s ,cctnllll lenvl~~g I~ol~l~~cl tlle ni~costn~l ~~IIIIIIIIS I I ~ rollo\\.illl; IIIIIC~'S PII~II \VIIII \rl!n.r .III(I 

111. cxpcrienccs ~ IIIII CIII~IINI TII~ IIIIIII~~~II~~IIII nt~cl sssi~~~ilntl~~~~. 

'They nrc co~~fl~lc~~c~!. 'Tl~i!y nrc 111nki11g ~IIL-ir ~WII 

"true! cl~nrnclcr of A~~~crlcn, l~c snys, is II~~IIIII~II~ secure CIIIIII~~~ In ~I~IIC~II~III clisa~vcrics n11c111t tl~c itr~mlgrsnt lust. 

t1111t "\vc tlre II CIIIIIIII~III c~~lture \VIIICII 12 ll~clr ronts i~~stcscl of clis~c~isl~~g I~I~III. Like 1.orr11i11c 17erfi11hc111, tl~vy nn- 1111 

\villlngly ~ IIIII~IIIS~C~ ofdivcrsc cult~~ms. Ale!x llnlcy 11i111sclf lccls ccrlni~~ lllnt elo1111t I ~ I I ~ I ~ 111111 I I it is pe~ssil~lc toh 1111 

r\ltd cvcn Cl~lcsgo's prot~d Poles 11nvr tlie awnkcni~~g l~c did so IIIII~II 3 pro- r\~~rcrice~~ 1111 t cvcrytlill~g else. tuu. :\IIII 

II~:~III to c!11111n1ci! tI1i11 ilcfit~itie~~~. 'TIIL. 111c11ia is i~ 111111eft11 I~CVI:IO~IIIICII~. Very. in tl~c tlroccss. ~IIIIY 111;iv l~c furuinc thc 

I~leck rcut1l111io11 li~rcil~ly clrcrv ntIc111io11 vrry fcw ~~eoplc in ll~clr o\rrn lifeliti~cs 

to All~cricnl~ p1ur11lir111, snys TIIII[I~IIS IIIIV~ tl~c l~lessi~~g III pln n it~njor role ill 

Ko\\.;~lski. As ;I rcst~lt, l~c ntlds. "tlic 111111. SIIIIIL.~~I!!I tl~nt is patcnlL, nlllnllntivc for 

lic~~ltun~l cc~l~ccpt 11~s 11ce11 ; I~~IIII~I- snciety, 71c s~~ys. "I nrnrk i~ow \\'it11 e 

How 

just 11s It ol~cc wns for 111s o\v11 f~~lnily. 

to Find Your Roots Altl~o~~gl~ gct~cnlolly is 1101 1111 IIII~ 

garlics, for tl~c socccssf~~l roolcr, ntaccstnl 

~~~~ccelotes n11c1 i~~forrnetio~~ arc more 

dclicio~~s tl~nn tr~lfilcs. hlr~st fi~ir-\vrsll~cr 

11c scrtrcl~ for roots III;I~ evoke colc~r- gcr~anlrngists follow the Four C's: cot~rt gencalogisls give up r~ncr 

T cslal~lisl~i~~g n 

fill G~ntnsics ofro~~~io~tlc encounters rccorils, ellurch rcconls. ccn1e1erii.s nnd . few gcncn~tio~~s, rending tl~cir lill ofl~or- 

111 run11 cl~urcl~yards nnd r*rsol~nl epipll- civil rccorils. It cnu be \\rorthwl~ilc rim- Log cloc~~mci~ts or writing 11 co~~plc of ,. 

unicr on colil~lcd streets, 'i. 1111 innst . of~t . is ply to \\s~~lk tl~e streets, visit stores ~~ticl lcttcrs. Ut11 for tl~osc \v\')io pcrsevcrc. the 

just plain 1111rcl work. Evcry gc~~cnlngist cl~nt wit11 il~c to\vt~ clerk. A ccnlctcry is e sci~rcl~ fnr tile pnst 11ns I,~~IIIII~ ;I nloclcn~ 

is cnt~fronted wit11 frt~stn~ting grips IIII~I grcntrcfcrc~~cclibri~ry,~~rovi~ling~~i~n~cs, nddictiol~. "You cnn ilcvrr s;~y y111ivr 

111issi11g pieces, wl~ile l~ours ofporing 

over oyc-plnzing dnct~~nct~ls 

IIIII~ lend to disl~c~~rtcl~ing clcnd 

ends. Dl11 for 1l1e intrepid root 

I~~rntcr, Illere nrc II re\\! bnsics. 

Genci~logy sinrls ill l~or~~c writ11 

tile Illllllos 111111 lllilli-I~istorlcs of 

every nr-nilnblc reli~tivc. Desk 

dmuers, nttlcs IIIII~ ugecl uunts cnu 

prove to l~ave i~~vitl~rnl~le diaries. 

scrapbooks, ~ncr~~entos ni~d reccrrds.n~~d 

eve11 tl~e s~l~ullcst fnct Call 

lend to ndiscover).. Evelyn Nordyk 

elf llo~rsta~~ foullcl n latter tI1;1t lecl 

I~er to 11 forgottell 80-yci~r-old reinlive: 

rind 1111 IIII~IIVWII iliecc of ~LIIIIily 

proper( . I~~IIIIII~, II hn11 letter 

sent (11 all i11owt1 rcli~tives, nski~~g 

for l~iugrnpl~ics, di~lcs i~r~cl rc~~~il~iscenmSs, 

olten turns up cll~cs. 

$9 h His Pockol: Arnlecl \vill~ pri- ! 

vale sources, tl~e i~spiri~~g gc~~cri~logist 

is ready to tncklc 1110 vnst 111111 

I~e\vildcri~~g maze ofpc~l~llccollcc- 

(inns. Al~~~ost ever innjar i,tlblic rltrcc for fhc family frcc: For ttle roof ltu~iter, J few basic fools 

lil~n~ry 1111s n genes ogy CIIIICCI~CIII. 

So~r~c include locnl col~rt nncl civil rec- ~li~tcs n11c1 LIIIIIY tics LIE svell 11s i~~slgl~ts fi~~isl~c~l or ~UIIII~ out \vIint ~IIII \VIIII~," 

ords, lists of i~nn~ign~t~ts nntl lu~~d.gn~~~t into life lo~ig ngo. snys I'OX~S tri~vel II~CII~ n111l gc111!;1111gi\t 

st~~tistics. hlost stntes n~~d solni! to\v~~s 'Tl~c ntll~ltcnr gc~~cnlofiist is II~IIII~ t e ~ .\Inry Sext1111, \vl~o 1111s tr;~uccl IIL-r f:1111i1y 

i~lso hnve c~~enlogicnl sociclies. The spend tilne Hounclcri~~g uro~~nd 111 lltc lo 171fi. "It's never cr~cll~~g, tl~nl's ll~c 

I.'ccler;ll arc f 11vcscontni11 census records, 111nny pitfirlls of tl~c cillli~~g. NIIIII~S ;~rc 11ci111ty of it." 

~~~ilitury rosters noel passenger lists. An on el^ n~isspcllctl: even tl~c colllllloncsl, +USN CWEEVER CMY *.ah OETSY CARTER 

iminigrnnl's date of nrriv~tl nncl poll~l of SIIIIIII. IIIIS 11ccn scrnwlccl S111it IIII~ 

cl~~lurlii~tio~l urc onen c~~ough to loci~tc Sn~ylli IIII~ SIIII~IIC 11y t11c 11i1sIy IIIIII~ uf 

tile ir~hr~nntion recori~ci~ on l~asscngcr i,t~~~licomcin~s, Ul~~ck slrivcs O ~ ~ tnok- I I The S~urces 

lists. Stepl~c~~ Contc. n Nu\%. Jcrscy Itnl- or wcrc given-ll~clr ow~~crs nulllcs, 

la~~-.\rncricn~~, kt~e\r, tl~cclntc his j;rn~ldfi~- wl~icll l~ns Ice1 lo vnst gcne~tl~~gic~il cunf~l- I.ikr 1111 rcsc~~rcl~ors, n1111s sc!ukors 

tl~cr leR Ilnly. lilg~~rl~lg tlli~l 1I1u crossing slo~~. Jc\visl~ sttnlnnlcs ~IIIII Brst IIIIIIII~S IIIIISI silt-1111 1111urs 111 Ill~n~ric!~, sl~~clsl~~fi 

tuok sevc~~tccr~ ~li~ys, 11c li~uncl ol~t that \\,ere II~CII si~glicizcd or sl~t~rer~i;~tccl lilr I~II~IIIII~II~S, cl~nrts nt111 IIOII~S. A list 01' 

I~is forcl~c:ur IIII~ s;tilccl 111 VII tl~c hlari. olnclnl rcc~~rcls: CII~IL~II II~L.IIIII~ Cnc, S~IIII~ oftl~e eo1111t1y's I~est KOIIL~II~II~~CII~ 

lia, that 11c \vns n I7.yesr.1rld l~erl~er a1111 \Vl~~lcr~~ltz 11eci1111c \\'l~~ters. C~IISIIS rt:r- collt.ctio~~s IIII~I IIIIII~~: 

Illat he 11nd j~~st $11 in 111s p~~ckc!t. ~rrels dcp~~~dcd, ~it11 vilryi~~g ~IIOII III~~, 

The nlosl ndventun~~~s pnrl of tl~c IIII tl~c lnclllcrry crf cncl~ l~r~t~scl~nlclcr. A The LsHordoy Sotnts Ubrory In Soti Lake 

sc;ul:h fur 81 pilst is vlsili~ig the hltlily's rent IIII~I!'S IIII~~III ~rgc!tf~ess Clty, Utah: 'l'l~c \v~~rlcl's 1;lrgcst gc!~lc~lle~g). 

II~BIII~~II\\*II~ IIIIII \'iIIi~gcs. 

11r11111c:111 li~rtl~et trncc:r- IiI~ri~ry \vitl~ g~vi~r~~~~lellt, 

CCIISIIS IIII~ 

'I'l~is IS \\,l11.11. C~IIIIII IIP ;I IIIII~II~

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I '. fnmlly nnnic nntl more tlinti 00,000 works 

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htond~y. Dcc 19, 1977 

In n reaI.wrld end 

'.be ln@ffell(lve. Thereln Iles Mr. Mslobn'~ 

: 'dlsstrvice lo Mr. Mcdmnn. 

Paul 6amuclson, in hls ecanomlc p ~ncl Et 

plos text. crcdlls (iwrp Brrnnrd Shaw 6. 

wlUl the obrcrvallan thul with respcet lo 

the worknblllty of Ule perfectly eompcUtlve 

model, nobaly redly knew brcause, llkc 

Chrlatlanlty, nobody had over tried it. The 

same mlgltt be sald of hullon Frledman's, 

Idens. 

The Obvious of Alternatives 

Edllor, The 1V1111 Strcel Jounrol: 

It wns pod to rend Jottnlhnn Kwltn~'s mother and wlll : 

nrtlcle IOEc. 2) l~cndllned "Sulclde, hlolh. . be eternally grutefullo the woman who ! 

erhwd nnd Mnrlncss-But Not Adoplkbn?" had the wurage and support nrnllable lo 

lo 1111 whut one must cottclutlc was nn in hcr and chose adoptlon ralhcr lhan flbJV 

tentlonsl gap in tllrt HEW ofliclal's llsl of llon for our chlld. 

nlternotlves to nlarllon. Tlte colu1t111 was a 

ELKANOR F. C~UNBKLUAN 

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;.,St Icpulred would be .conrlde 

', -:hd nal.. No. tvrongdolng on 

+.the adoptive. parents wal 01 

.Id 

Jder slate law. 

, . A rack011 bureau official whc 

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~rriispltal workers to keep In IUI 

~k py-markct adoptlon lawym w 

7.18 knowledns of an lmpendillg 

matc blrlh. ~~~..... ' 

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wno s naa on 11 cglllmnb baby." 

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or lhreo people at Ihs hoaplral h 

hcr. 'wlmr arc you going to do 

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.'LEGAL* IMIHIUATION 

Onc ol ll* m,m,. r,l,lr.d LO LIBh. 

.elman bp Nebn ,.nd Lh.1 lid-n 

had utld hr I. lip wmr paprs in 

bln .II!ce and 1b.l r1l.r *be had 

dgcd M 1.16 htr rh 1.6 Clllly 

hnd'tu air. her baby 16 Mlchltl. 

man Llor~llo Ih. Uanhll1.n PIDYFUlor, 

"Id I~~~U~DI pap,# b IYI bd 

no 1e1.1 I"ar1ng. 

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