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What is Intelligence? 65<br />
We are scared to ask an “awkward question” even if it's something we<br />
desperately want to know. We don’t want to upset anyone – we don’t<br />
want them to howl at us, and make our security feel threatened.<br />
So we may even go through a period, as is typical, of being called stupid<br />
by our parents, teachers, brothers or sisters, or school friends.<br />
Or we just get ignored. Maybe we are a girl, and our parents make an<br />
incredible fuss of our younger or older brother, and act like we don’t<br />
count, and don’t really have any right to exist.<br />
So then our little mind warps, and we have got an agenda – we think to<br />
ourselves – “I will show them.”<br />
Like in “The Birdman of Alcatraz” with Burt Lancaster as a murderer,<br />
who eventually becomes an acknowledged expert on birds and gets books<br />
published.<br />
But in the early days, when he adopts a little bird with a broken wing, the<br />
bullying prison guard says (approximately) “that boyd is just a punk like<br />
you, that won’t never fly.”<br />
So the bullies (teachers, parents, brothers, sisters, schoolmates, etc.) say<br />
we too are a little bird that won’t fly. You count for nothing, and are<br />
worthy of no praise.<br />
Then with that burning desire to right their wrong judgment on us, that<br />
spirit of “I will show them”, we study hard at some subject – it hardly<br />
matters what – and study and study and study until we pass those exams,<br />
and get that certificate, and then that degree, so they will say:<br />
“Hey – maybe he or she is not such a bad, stupid kid after all. My kid just<br />
got a degree. I must be smart too somewhere down there. I am proud. He<br />
or she is ‘a chip off the old block’ after all. Let’s celebrate over a drink<br />
and remind each other how great we all are.”<br />
And then we feel proud too, and feel a little grudging love towards us, a<br />
little twinkle to us from that judgmental eye that has punished us and<br />
ignored us for so long.<br />
But as our reputation grows, and the accolades pile up, we think ourselves<br />
far better than our parents ever were, and as we get the approval of the<br />
wider world, what our parents think no longer matters much any more.