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history of small hurts and betrayal, without commitments except to the present. This is
clearly the case with a brief adventure, but it can be the case as well with an established
affair. Weiss (1990) reported with another woman, men find escape. Yes, there may be
anxiety because outside her door is a world from which he has only temporarily slipped
away. Because a man's relationship with a new woman is free of the burden of the man's
past, the man can assume a new self without her. “With the new woman, he is the
person he is today, not, as may be true for his wife, yesterday's person dressed up in a
new suit. New understandings begin to be established with the new woman, new ways of
seeing himself and the world that feel to him more true to himself than the
understandings he shares with his wife. He feels truly authentic only with the new
woman” (Weiss, 1990, p.249).
Opportunity
Kurtz (1986) stated a man will not have trouble finding extramarital sex these
days, though he may have a hard time avoiding it, and he is bound to have a difficult time
getting rid of it. Berkowitz (1990) suggested stripping away the moral absolutes and think
of a straightforward cause and effect to explain infidelity. Traditionally, men have
cheated because they have had more opportunity to cheat. Most men when asked say
they are not on the lookout for extramarital sex, but if it presented itself they would not
fight off the women too hard. It appears some men are open to affairs because there are
many women who are sexually available and see all men, regardless of their relationship
status, as available partners. Part of opportunity is where these married men find these
women. Weiss (1990) reported men meet potential sexual partners not only in the
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