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April 8, 2011 Arctic Warrior B-5<br />

Face to face, even in the midst of troubles<br />

Commentary by<br />

Chaplain (Maj.) Mike Shannon<br />

673d ABW<br />

Do you ever feel as though you are alone,<br />

in the dark, depressed, overwhelmed – sometimes<br />

up at night, unable to sleep, wondering<br />

if anyone out there really cares?<br />

We know faith and spirituality is important<br />

to many warriors we encounter.<br />

There was one ancient warrior who wrote<br />

a psalm at one point that seemed to feel the<br />

same way as described in my opening sentence.<br />

At one point he even states that he is<br />

not alone in these feelings, “There are many<br />

who say, ‘Who will show us some good?’”<br />

(Psalms 4:6)<br />

This is a great question, is it not? Who<br />

will show us good? Who does care?<br />

This warrior knew where to turn in such<br />

times and responds, “Lift up the light of your<br />

face upon us, O Lord!” and continues, “You<br />

have put more joy in my heart than they have<br />

when their grain and wine abound. In peace<br />

I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone,<br />

O Lord, make me dwell in safety.”<br />

(Psalms 4:6-8).<br />

The ultimate blessing this<br />

warrior needed and desired<br />

in order to have peace<br />

and to sleep at night is to<br />

have God’s face shine<br />

upon him.<br />

Recently I have had<br />

to walk with some people<br />

through grief as a<br />

result of some tragic and<br />

difficult events such as<br />

death and divorce.<br />

When faced with such<br />

things anyone can wonder, “Who<br />

will show us good?”<br />

Several years ago I read a book by James<br />

W. Moore, “When Grief Breaks Your Heart.”<br />

Moore tells a great story of a father and<br />

son.<br />

“A young man’s wife died, leaving him<br />

with a small son. After returning from the<br />

cemetery, they went to bed as soon as it was<br />

dark, because there was nothing<br />

else the father could bear to<br />

do. As he lay there in the<br />

darkness – brokenhearted,<br />

grief-stricken, numb<br />

with sorrow – the boy<br />

broke the stillness<br />

from his little bed<br />

with a disturbing<br />

question: ‘Daddy,<br />

where is Mommy?’<br />

The father tried<br />

to get the boy to go to<br />

sleep, but the questions<br />

kept coming from his confused,<br />

childish mind.<br />

After a while, the father got up<br />

and brought the boy to bed with him. But<br />

the child was still disturbed and restless, and<br />

occasionally would ask a probing, heartbreaking<br />

question.<br />

Finally, the boy reached out in the darkness<br />

and placed his hand on his father’s face,<br />

asking, ‘Daddy is your face toward me?’<br />

Assured by his father’s words, and by his<br />

own touch, that his father’s face was indeed<br />

toward him, the boy said, ‘If your face is<br />

toward me, I think I can go to sleep.’ And<br />

in a little while, he was quiet.<br />

The father lay there in the darkness and,<br />

with childlike faith, lifted up his own needy<br />

heart to his Father in heaven.<br />

He prayed something like this: ‘O God,<br />

the way is dark, and I confess that I do not<br />

see my way through right now. But if your<br />

face is toward me, somehow I think I can<br />

make it.’”<br />

In the midst of such troubled times, many<br />

warriors have learned the importance of going<br />

to God and clinging to their faith, that<br />

someone greater than themselves exist and<br />

cares for them.<br />

Here’s my prayer for you, “The Lord<br />

bless you and keep you; the Lord make his<br />

face to shine upon you and be gracious to<br />

you; the LORD lift up his countenance upon<br />

you and give you peace” (Numbers 6:24-26).<br />

Autism<br />

From page B-1<br />

requirements – many times unseen<br />

to your peers since you try to not<br />

bring issues to work with you.<br />

It has taken a toll on finances,<br />

family and career. That’s reality,<br />

but as a military family you get<br />

over it and press on.<br />

Having a child with autism<br />

changes you in so many ways,<br />

but strengthens you in ways you<br />

could never imagine. This strength<br />

becomes an asset for the realities<br />

of service.<br />

Military life can be particularly<br />

difficult for children with autism<br />

and their families.<br />

Children with autism need<br />

structure in their lives, and while<br />

the military focuses on structure<br />

and order for mission accomplishment,<br />

this doesn’t always translate<br />

to the home front.<br />

Stressors the general public<br />

typically don’t have to deal with<br />

such as deployments, temporary<br />

duty assignments, permanent<br />

change of station assignments<br />

every few years or less, exercises<br />

and so many other requirements<br />

can take a toll on these families,<br />

since autistic kids have such a hard<br />

time adapting to change.<br />

When we moved last fall it<br />

was our fourth move in just over<br />

five years.<br />

The military stresses providing<br />

a unit support system, when you<br />

have a special needs child it creates<br />

challenges for people who want to<br />

be supportive; not knowing how to<br />

approach parents and exactly what<br />

support to offer can act as a buffer<br />

against such volunteerism.<br />

This is where communicating<br />

these special family needs and<br />

helping people understand can pay<br />

dividends.<br />

Talking with leaders in your<br />

organization might seem difficult,<br />

but is necessary to help communicate<br />

concerns.<br />

If they aren’t aware, they can’t<br />

help you. For commanders and<br />

supervisors, better understanding<br />

of autism’s impact can potentially<br />

reduce or eliminate domestic issues<br />

affecting the unit.<br />

Get informed<br />

Education is one of the most<br />

important aspects of being a parent<br />

of a special-needs child. Learning<br />

about the signs, symptoms and options<br />

will be integral to your child’s<br />

recovery.<br />

In learning about and experiencing<br />

my son’s condition, I’ve<br />

been exposed to a great number<br />

of scientific topics, from chelation<br />

to sensory issues to oxalates and<br />

yeast.<br />

I never realized the impact of<br />

diet and therapies, and understanding<br />

challenges such as gastrointestinal<br />

problems, food sensitivities or<br />

sensory issues leading to what are<br />

called meltdowns.<br />

These may not be readily apparent<br />

to most people, but learning<br />

how the smallest thing impacts<br />

your child gives you a new perspective.<br />

Surrounding yourself with people<br />

going through the same thing<br />

can have a profound impact on the<br />

type of care you give your child.<br />

Online forums, local support<br />

groups and base resources provide<br />

a great means to talk about your<br />

issues, learn new options, and information.<br />

On Facebook, a quick<br />

search for “military autism” can<br />

help find a support group.<br />

With April also being recognized<br />

as the Month of the Military<br />

Child and National Autism Awareness<br />

Month, it’s especially important<br />

to recognize the challenges<br />

our children face; the sacrifices of<br />

our warriors: the mothers, fathers,<br />

family members and supporters<br />

of these special children; and the<br />

hope that we will one day recover<br />

all our children from this pervasive<br />

disorder.<br />

Our heroes deserve no less.

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