Grandmaster Ken MacKenzie - Taekwondo Times
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I am “un-offendable.” At least that’s what I keep<br />
telling myself every time someone offends me.<br />
A good friend of mine who literally mentored<br />
me in the TV business, told me straight up when I<br />
got my first TV break, “If you really want to make<br />
it in this business, you’re going to have to learn how<br />
to smile and keep your mouth shut.” It was the best<br />
advice I ever got, and I soon found out why.<br />
What a funny business. It seems you get hired<br />
because you’re deemed “better” than all the other<br />
candidates out there. Sometimes, you have to beat<br />
out hundreds of other talents to just get a shot at a<br />
major market position. Then once you get that job, all<br />
they do is tell you how you’re not “measuring up.” You<br />
get viewers calling in telling you how much they hate<br />
your outfit or hair-do. If you let it, you’ll go home and<br />
that business will just suck the soul right out of your<br />
chest.<br />
But not if you can learn how to smile and keep<br />
your mouth shut. It’s a real battle over the flesh to do<br />
it, but it teaches you how to not be offended. In the<br />
long run, I’ve never seen it not pay off.<br />
Those of you who have dogs know exactly what<br />
I’m talking about when I say that man’s best friend<br />
cannot be offended. I used to come home and head<br />
straight for the bathroom. Seconds later, there was my<br />
dog, busting through the door. I used to yell, “If you’re<br />
going to do that, the least you<br />
can do is close the door<br />
behind you!” It didn’t<br />
matter what I<br />
said. Poncho, my<br />
mischievous wiener<br />
dog, would<br />
just stand<br />
there with his<br />
tail wagging,<br />
because, like<br />
all dogs, he was<br />
un-offendable.<br />
Webster’s defines “offense” as something that<br />
offends or displeases. In our martial arts training,<br />
offense is the opposite of defense. More simply<br />
put, offense is the attack mode. Yet, we don’t find<br />
offense in being offensive because that’s just the<br />
way it is. In their basic process, the martial arts are<br />
the tactical training of offense and defense.<br />
I remember when I was an orange belt. We had<br />
a guest instructor from Korea teaching class that<br />
week. He was really into hook-kicks, and I really<br />
couldn’t do them. So the next night, I thought<br />
I would be the good student, come in early and<br />
personally ask him for help with this kick before<br />
class. He didn’t speak much English, but he did<br />
pull out a chair and say, “200 times each leg.”<br />
Though I never did ask this particular instructor<br />
for help again, his actions didn’t offend me, because<br />
I fully understood that he was trying to help me<br />
become a better martial artist.<br />
I wonder if we can apply that same principle<br />
to those in our own lives whom we find offensive.<br />
Could it be that they have been placed as<br />
a teacher on our own stage to make us a better<br />
person? As a “master,” I have discovered that those<br />
who have offended me have forced me to look more<br />
closely at the things that I have not yet “mastered.”<br />
The most offensive people in my life have<br />
also taught me the hardest hitting lessons of my<br />
life. Like how to be patient, tolerant and have<br />
unconditional love.<br />
All I know is, when I smiled and kept my<br />
mouth shut on the job, whoever was being offensive<br />
toward me had no other choice but to go<br />
away. What else was there to say? By the way, I<br />
also have a pretty mean hook-kick!<br />
Karen Eden is a fourth-degree black belt and master in the art of<br />
Tang Soo Do. She is also a published author, former radio personality<br />
and TV journalist, who has appeared on CNN, FOX National,<br />
and Animal Planet. She has also appeared in two major Hollywood<br />
productions. Karen has written for and appeared in many martial<br />
arts publications over the years. Her books include The Complete<br />
Idiot’s Guide to Tae Kwon Do (Penguin Books) and I Am a Martial<br />
Artist (Century Martial Arts). She is also the poet behind the popular<br />
I Am a Martial Artist product line, also available through Century<br />
Martial Arts, and Dojo Darling martial arts wear, available through<br />
Karatedepot.com. Master Eden currently teaches at-risk youth<br />
through the Salvation Army in Denver, Colorado. For contact or booking<br />
information, email her at sabomnim@toast.net.<br />
Woman of the <strong>Times</strong><br />
By Karen Eden<br />
taekwondotimes.com / November 2009 81