PERSPECTIVEMy son HanifBy Mohammad AbsarMohammad Absar lives in thevillage <strong>of</strong> Maddhyam Sonapahar inMirershorai Province, Bangladesh.He has three sons and threedaughters and supports his familyby running a small tea stall.My son Hanif is 9 years oldand attends the second grade.When he was 4, he got injuredwhile playing. He started complainingabout pain in his leg,which became red and swollen.We took him to ChittagongMedical Hospital. The doctorsthere tried to save Hanif’s leg,but it was severely infected,and eventually they decided toamputate it.After Hanif lost his leg, otherchildren used to torment him:They called him ‘lame’ or ‘leglesscreep’ and pushed him tothe ground when he tried toplay with them. They also usedto tease his brother, who suffersfrom mental illness. This alwaysmade me sad, and it used todrive my wife crazy. She wouldquarrel with people who said badthings about her children. As forHanif – he became very reluctantto go out. He was miserable.Things began to improve afterthe local, non-governmentalOrganization for the PoorCommunity Advancement(OPCA) started conducting meetingsin our area to raise awarenessabout disability and encouragepeople to have a positiveapproach towards those withspecial needs.A rehabilitation worker fromOPCA visited our home alongwith a teacher from the primaryschool. They encouraged us toenrol Hanif in school. Becausethe local primary school is half akilometre away from our home,I had to carry my son to schoolevery morning. I started a smallshop near the school so I couldbe there to carry him home atthe end <strong>of</strong> the day. At first, Hanifhad a lot <strong>of</strong> trouble at school. Hisclassmates, just like his peers inthe neighbourhood, mocked himand called him names.One day, the rehabilitation workerinformed us that the Centrefor <strong>Disability</strong> in Development(CDD), a nationwide nongovernmentalorganizationbased in Dhaka, would providemy son with an artificial leg.We travelled to the capital,where Hanif was fitted forthe prosthesis and given severaldays <strong>of</strong> training. He alsoreceived a pair <strong>of</strong> crutches. Hisstump is quite small and thismakes it a bit difficult for him toclimb stairs. Other than that, hecan now do almost everythingon his own.When he first got the new leg,people stared – it was verysurprising to see him walkingagain. I myself had never imaginedit would be possible. Some<strong>of</strong> our neighbours came tovisit our home just to see theprosthesis.Now that my son can walkagain and participate in all sorts<strong>of</strong> activities, other children havestopped calling him names.They don’t push him to theground anymore. I no longerhave to carry Hanif to school –he walks himself, and his classmatesare eager to walk withhim. The most important thingis that Hanif is happier andmore confident. His artificial legallows him to be independent,and he no longer feels inferiorto the other children. He isdoing better in his classes and30THE STATE OF THE WORLD’S CHILDREN 2013: Children with Disabilities
Look at Hanif and you will see that with proper supportand encouragement, people with disabilities can beeffective in society.can now enjoy sports like cricketand soccer along with his peers.A rehabilitation worker hasvisited Hanif’s school severaltimes to conduct awarenessmeetings on disability and theimportance <strong>of</strong> inclusive education.Hanif’s surroundingenvironment is more disabilityfriendlythan ever before. Hisschool works to accommodatehis needs. For example, Hanifhas trouble climbing stairs, sowhen one <strong>of</strong> his classes wasscheduled on the first floor,the principal agreed to move itdownstairs to make it easier forHanif to attend.home and take care <strong>of</strong> it. AsHanif has grown, they haveadjusted his artificial limb.Hanif also receives a disabilityallowance <strong>of</strong> 300 Bangladeshtaka each month from ourdistrict’s Department <strong>of</strong> SocialServices. I take him to the localbank to receive his allowance.Hanif will need additional supportto ensure that he cancontinue his education withoutinterruption.Above all, I want my son to bewell educated. An educationwill empower him and helpguide him so that he can build ameaningful life. I think it wouldbe best for Hanif to get a deskjob so he doesn’t have to walkor stand too much. Perhaps hemight work in an organizationlike CDD, where the environmentis very disability-friendly.I saw people with various disabilitiesworking there. Suchan environment would helpmy son work to the best <strong>of</strong> hiscapacity, while at the same timesecuring an honourable positionfor him. He can becomean example: Look at Hanif andyou will see that with propersupport and encouragement,people with disabilities can beeffective in society.While he’s in school, Hanifenjoys drawing pictures.Outside <strong>of</strong> school and duringbreaks, he loves to play. Hewants to be a teacher whenhe grows up, just like his rolemodels – his schoolteachers Mr.Arup and Mr. Shapan. They loveHanif very much and supporthim in every way they can.Because our family is verypoor, my son’s artificial limband associated expenses wereprovided by CDD through thePromoting Rights for Personswith Disabilities project fundedby the Manusher JonnoFoundation. If Hanif has anyproblem with the prosthesis,rehabilitation workers visit ourHanif taking part in class. © Centre for <strong>Disability</strong> in DevelopmentA STRONG FOUNDATION31