How to Show Gratitude forthe Blessing of Motherhoodby Sofia NasirPosted on Wednesday, March 13, <strong>2013</strong> in Islam & Productivitymake them proud of themselves and confident.Motherhood is a blessing which has been given to us by Allah 4. Ensure your child loves Allah (glorified and exalted be He):(glorified and exalted be He). It’s full of ups and downs, tears and Reminding them of all the blessings Allah (glorified and exalted belaughs. At times tiring, other times energising. Let’s face it, being a He) has showered upon them i.e. the eyes, ears, tongue, legs, etc.mother in the 21st century is not easy; so here are a few tips to keep the list is endless. This will instill only love and make themyou on your toes.appreciative and grateful towards Allah (glorified and exalted beWhat is motherhood? The responsibility of nurturing a child. The He). Also, in adulthood, it will incline them to the way of AllahProphet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) stated: (glorified and exalted be He) inshallah.’Paradise lies at the feet of your mother’ [Sunan An-Nasâ’i]. This 5. Be very friendly: This includes having regular talks about randomclearly indicates the importance of mothers and the high status things, this will make them feel comfortable with you in the longthey were given by Allah (glorified and exalted be He) and the run. Also play with your child as much as possible; trust me – theyProphet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him). Mothers are love this kind of thing.t h e f i r s t 6. Teach them responsibility: From a young age give themp o i n t o f responsibilities i.e. for their toys and rooms.comfort in 7. Keep them away from gadgets: In this fast growing environmenta horrible it’s so hard to keep up with technology for adults let alone children.situation, Have we stopped to wonder how this is affecting our lifestyles? Ina n d the name of efficiency and effectiveness, a new gadget is releasedtherefore for kids almost every day. You should try and encourage your childmotherho to play outside rather than on the PSP or iPhone. Encourage themod should to read a book rather than playing on the computer. I found that then o t b e more gadgets a child has, the lazier they become.taken as a 8. Inspire them: Rather than making them fantasize aboutl i g h t Spiderman and Barbie, tell them about real heroes like Abu Baqr asmatter. Sadiq, Umar, Uthman and Ali (may Allāh be pleased with them).A m a n For the girls, Asiya, Maryam, Khadiha and Fatima [ranham]. Tellc a m e t o them how these heroes and heroines strove for Allah (glorifiedt h e and exalted be He) and how they spread Islam.Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him)and said, ‘O 9. Involve them in acts of worship: If they grow up with your IslamicMessenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of character, it won’t be a burden for them when they are older. Praymy good companionship?’ The Prophet (peace and blessings of with them, recite Quran together, and discuss Islamic issues withAllāh be upon him) said: ‘Your mother.’ The man said, ‘Then who?’ them as a family. If they grow up seeing these values in effect fromThe Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: childhood, they will easily accept them when they grow up. They‘Then your mother.’ The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The will understand it’s the best way of life.Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘Then 10. Differentiate between halal and haram: You need to explain to ayour mother.’ The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet child what is permissible to them from Allah (glorified and exalted(peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘Then your father.’ be He) and what is forbidden. They need to know in terms of eating[Muslim].haram and halal, as well as actions that are halal or haram like freeWhile there is an abundance of tips on fulfilling one’s role as a mixing etc.mother, here are a few important ones I have compiled for you:11. Bedtime stories: This has been a very popular way of putting a1. Pray to Allah: Make regular dua to Allah, the power of dua is so child to sleep. You can read to them the dua’s of sleeping and theimmense. Say: “My Lord! Grant me righteous offspring.” [Quran: importance of it. Explain to them how the angels will protect themChapter 37, Verse 100] as much as you can.by reciting ayat ul kursi as prescribed by the Rasool of Allah2. Strive to be caring and compassionate: Be patient with your child (glorified and exalted be He).whatever the situation. Always remember children are innocent Something to keep you motivated through your journey ofand need your mercy. The following was reported about the motherhood:Messenger of Allah (glorified and exalted be He) : “I never saw The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) of Allahanyone who was more compassionate towards children than (glorified and exalted be He) said “whoever takes care of two girlsAllah’s Messenger (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him). His until they reach adulthood, He and I will come together on the dayson Ibrahim was in the care of a wet nurse in the hills around of resurrection and he interlaced his fingers.” (Meaning in paradise)Madinah. He would go there, and we would go with him, and he [Al adab Al mufrad]would enter the house, pick up his son and kiss him, then come I as a mother have faced many challenges, and above are the thingsback.” [Muslim]I felt worked for my children and made motherhood a little easierThe Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: SubhaanAllah. Please share your own tips to help others in their“A’isha, verily Allah is kind and He loves kindness and confers upon motherhood journey!kindness which he does not confer upon severity and does not About the Author:confer upon anything else besides it (kindness). [Muslim]Sofia Nasir is a mother of three, alhumdulillah. She is a student of3. Praise them regularly: This is a very powerful technique and will knowledge and looking into writing as a career.<strong>Bakhabar</strong>12
The role of Indian policeAbout 17 years ago a book on communal riots and Indian policewas published in English, Hindi and Urdu and was well receivedin earnest circles. Its author was Vibhuti Narain Rai, a seniorofficer of Indian Police Services. After a long research of oneyear, he, in the light of ground realities and authenticinformation, brought to the notice of the nation theirresponsible behaviour of Indian police and its heinous role inriots. But in fact this was not a book rather a research documentwhich he had put before the police establishment for seriousconsideration so that police behaviour might be reformed in itslight. But the police system totally neglected it. Therefore, Mr.Rai had to get his precious and extraordinary research workIt’s not about police aloneThe question here is why after all is this character of the policeof Indian State? Teesta has confined her analysis to thisquestion. But the area of the question should be wider. Is thereall well with other departments of the State? Now this questiontakes us to the formation of independent India. The situationrelates to a mentality which was created before theindependence. It was this mentality that created the situationfor partition and all the responsibility of partition was thrownon the shoulders of Muslims. A part of the land with Muslimconcentration areas was separated in the name of Pakistan.Then a well-thought-out unwritten policy was adopted for theMuslims opting to remain in Independent India. According tothe declaration, though the Constitution of the land remainsdemocratic and secular, in which all citizens hold equal status,there is respect for all religious entities; however the groundreality is quite different. A particular mentality was granted fullindependence and all facilities to create hatred againstreligious entities and prepare lots of biased governmentworkers with the help of its private educational institutions,literature and organised groups. Today it is that mentalitywhich is at work. The question is not about policeestablishment only; it is about the behaviour of the State.Therefore, people like Teesta Setalvad and Vibhuti Naraian Raishould concentrate on this very basic question.published in book form. Renowned and active human rights [ S o u r c e : k h a b a r - O - N a z a r b y P a r w a a z R a h m a n i ,activist Teesta Setalvad has mentioned it in her recent analysis sehrozaDAWAT, translated by: Abu Yusuf](The Hindu, 20 February). The article was written in the context http://dawatonline.blogspot.com/of the recent riots in Dhule (Maharashtra) which was in factone-sided police action against Muslims. The scenes of thispolice barbarity were well captured in mobile cameras but themedia did not pay any importance to them.After publication of the interviewThereafter Teesta Setalvad questioned the entire policestructure and its system and said that she had done a longinterview with Vibhuti Narain Rai in 1995 which was publishedin about 30 publications. In the interview, Mr. Rai, in the light ofhis experiences and observations, further highlighted the roleof Indian police, according to which the rioters belonging to themajority community take the police as their protector andfriend during the riots. Teesta has written that after thepublication of Mr Rai’s book and her interview with him thegovernment and the police department did not take notice ofit; however responsible citizens and some senior securityofficers, including the founder and former head of BorderSecurity Force KF Rustomji and DIG Padma Rosha, turnedtowards it. Expressing concern over this situation, he hademphasised that the police department should take stock ofthe serious issue of communalism and casteism and takeimmediate corrective measures otherwise this situation ofcommunal conflict among the various sections of society willtake a serious turn. In her article, Teesta has also severelycriticised the priorities of TV channels.<strong>Bakhabar</strong>13