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24.Don't Believe Everything You Readrelationship. This is not the time to explore your fantasiesof your alter ego – save that for later!The second rule of meeting people on the Internet isactually just plain common sense: If something looks toogood to be true, generally it is! Do not believe everythingpeople tell you about themselves.Unfortunately, there are a lot of people online who lie aboutthemselves. They may not do so maliciously; they may justbe trying to give a better impression of themselves. (Wouldyou tell someone online every terrible thing you've everdone, or that you're 15 pounds overweight? Probably not.)Others lie to protect their privacy. And sadly, there arethose rare few that lie out of deceit. Some may say they’reblonde when they're really brunette, 25 when they're really40, single when they're really married, or even femalewhen they're really male.Start with a phone callYou should move from fantasies and chatting online to aphone call before you meet offline in person. The safestway to do this is by using a public phone. Once you arecomfortable enough, you can share real phone numbers,but make sure you have caller ID service. If things go sour,you can always block their calls. It also lets you know whattheir number really is. If they block your caller ID, do notaccept their calls.When you do meet, do it with a friend and in avery public placeTake your timeProbably the number one rule with Internet dating is totake thing slowly. After chatting online, you may feel likeyou've known the person forever, creating a false sense offoundation. It is easy to proceed too quickly, oftentimeswith heartbreaking consequences. Tom recalls meetingDebbie in person for the first time after chatting formonths. "We had so much in common, both from brokenhomes, both coming off of bad relationships. The first timewe met, we went too far, and it's been on mind ever since.I feel so guilty." Their relationship ended badly and Tom isin another relationship with someone he met online – thistime taking things very slowly.The first time you meet in person, bring a friend. Meet ina mall, or fast food restaurant. Plan for a short first timeget together – coffee or a soda. Tell them in advance thatit will just be for a few minutes, so they will understand.Treat this as a blind date, only with more care. In a blinddate, someone you know knows this person, whereas in acyberdating situation, no one really knows this person. Ifthey insist on meeting you alone, do not go.Compare what this person told you about himself or herselfonline – does it match reality? If it doesn’t, find someoneelse. Remember the honesty thing (and I am not talkingabout a few extra pounds, a little less hair, or a few yearshere or there). Use your head – you might be lonely, butyou are still safe.Cyberdating has become increasingly popular in today'ssociety. The Internet makes it possible to form friendshipswith people around the world, reducing barriers like raceand class. However, this form of meeting people alsocarries potential dangers. Educate yourself about theserisks and enjoy the online dating experience safely.Be HonestWhen you go to one of those dating sites, they ask you yourheight, weight, religion, income and lots of other personalstuff. In addition, maybe you are not as thin, tall or makeas much money as you want to. Maybe you have not beento a church, temple or mosque in thirty years. Maybe youare afraid that if you tell them your mother is living withyou (or even more embarrassing, that you are still livingwith your mother), no one will want you.However, if you start out lying, you will eventually becaught. If you want to shave a few pounds off, or use anolder picture, fine. Nevertheless, confess once you thinkthe person might be more than a one-time romance. Donot bait and switch as it's the best way to end a promisingDo not believe everything you read onlineYou can be anything or anyone you want to be online. Ikeep trying to get people to believe that I am tall, blondeand gorgeous! (So far, no takers!) That cute brunette24-year-old guy may not be cute, may not be 24, andmost importantly, may not be a guy. There is not truth inadvertising propaganda that you are protected when youengage in dating activities online.Tell a friendDon't be shy to ask around. Talk to your friends or coworkers.They may or may not have used the service, orthey may know someone who has; either way, they mayhave an interesting tale to tell.Make sure someone knows whom you are meeting, whereyou are going and when you are coming back. (Someoneother than the person you take with you.) Store all of thee-mail conversations, and let your friend know where to
find them. If anything goes wrong, they will be the sourceof information on how to locate the person you have beenchatting with.25.Never leave or go home with themWhen you are considering meeting your cyber-date inperson, take the same precautions you would if you metthem at a park, at the bus stop, in a bar, at a restaurant, ona plane or anywhere else you could meet someone. Chatover the telephone for a period of time before arrangingthe first face-to-face meeting. Bring neighborhood friendsor family to the first meeting at a very public location suchas the mall or zoo. Tell them you are bringing friends. Ifthey object to this for any reason, continue your searchwith someone else.You can extend the meeting to dinner or anything elsein a public place, the operative word here being PUBLIC.Remember when your mother told you never to get intoa car with a stranger? Do not go home with them, or to aprivate place of any kind, at least not for a while. Take thisslow, even if you are not used to taking dating slow; thisis special.e-mail account you have set up specially for this purpose.Do not give out your website address if it contains personalinformation, or a personal e-mail address.If someone makes you uncomfortable, report it to yourdating service right away. Make a copy of the message,and keep copies of anything you found offensive so theycan check it out. Many also have an e-overlocking featureto keep you from being harassed from someone. Try notto make your essays provocative. Cyber-flirtation escalatesquickly and it is almost impossible to step back to a lessamorous level.If you have a problem with your service, contact them. Wedo not endorse any services, but have found that match.com and matchmaker.com seem reputable and have a safecyberdating area.Report any attacks or threats to law enforcementConclusionIf things go wrong, whether you followed the rules or not,do not be embarrassed to go to the police. Give themall the facts. If you do not report this person, they, in alllikelihood, will do it again. You are allowed to say "no" andhave it respected. If anything goes wrong, it is not yourfault.Do not be embarrassed to insist onfollowing the rulesYour safety is paramount. Anyone who cares about you willrespect you for being careful. Safe cyberdating, like safesex, is just smart! Although we hope that the person youmeet online is your true soul mate, we want to make sureyou are safe. It's like defensive driving – even if you arethe best driver in the whole wide world, there are all thoseother drivers out there to worry about. This is defensivecyberdating. MOREOVER, IT IS JUST PLAIN SMART!Make sure you're using a reputable online datingservice or chatIf you become the victim of stalking or harassing behavior,don’t hesitate to report it to the legal authorities such asthe Police Force, just as you would with such treatmentoffline. You may also be able to report such conduct tothe offending party’s Internet Service Provider. Do notrespond when the cyber-stalker contacts you. Just ignorethem – most of the time they go away. Never share aphoto with anyone online if you do not want it broadcastto 120 million people all over the world. Often cyberromances end in one party cyber-stalking the other. Donot give them any ammunition. When the old-fashioned"for a good time, call Sally" is posted on one bathroomwall, the results can be horrible, but when it is posted onthe Internet's cyberwall of sexual groups and chats, it canbe very dangerous! If you meet someone online, take itslowly. You may think that you know the person becauseyou have been corresponding via email, but remember touse common sense.Therefore, have fun, but be smart...and do it safely! •ReferencesMost will give you a free trial period. Make sure that you canuse all of their service during that free trial. Make sure theyuse anonymizers or re-mailers, to mask your real e-mailaddress. Some people may, at the end of the free trial, giveout their e-mail address to allow the other person to findthem when the free trial is over – just make sure it's an[1] http://wiki.internetsafetypodcast.com/index.php?title=Cyberdating[2] h t t p : / / w w w . h e l i u m . c o m / i t e m s / 1 1 7 4 7 8 3 -cyberdating---safety-in-meeting-someone-online[3] http://cyberdatingexpert.com/cyber-dating-safetytips-2e-Security | <strong>CyberSecurity</strong> <strong>Malaysia</strong> | Volume 21 - (Q4/2009)
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