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her husband. When he looks at her, she pleases
him." (BAIHAQI).
It is the habit of certain women as soon as the
husband steps into the house after a tiring day
at work, they start complaining that such and
such a thing is not in the house or begin to shout
at the children. A pious wife does not have such
a bad habit as she welcomes him cheerfully and
pleases him with her company, inquires about
his work, welfare and tries to amuse him.
Divorce was, a rare occurrence within the British
Muslims, but lately it has become more common
due to the fact that the husband and wife are
both ignorant of Islam and the guidelines that
Islam has set. These guidelines if followed and
acted upon, will lead to a successful and happy
marriage. This article deals with the ideal pious
Muslim wife and the characteristics she should
have and, the do's and don'ts which acted upon
will bring her happiness in this life, her husband
will never divorce her (Inshallah) and Jannah will
be waiting for her in the hereafter.
4. One who guards and preserves her house
and her husbands wealth in his absence.
"The best woman is when he absents himself
(goes away on a journey etc.) she protects his
wealth and honour." (BAIHAQI)
5. One who assists her husband in the matters
of Deen
"The world is a commodity and the best
commodity is a pious woman who assists her
husband in matters concerning the
hereafter." (RAZEEN).
1. A pious wife is one who is obedient to Allah
and her husband.
"The woman who performs her five daily prayers
and keeps the fast of Ramadan and protects
herself from evil acts i.e. adultery and obeys her
husband, has a choice to enter heaven from
whichever door she pleases."
The wife should leave no stone unturned in
obeying, respecting, serving and pleasing her
husband. She should be obedient and loyal with
a willing heart and obey him without hesitation
and negligence in all matters which would, in the
cases of disobedience, put the husband to
trouble or deprive him of some service. No one
holds any right over anybody greater than the
right of the husband over his wife and to
emphasise the high status of the husband and
that the wife should have a great regard for him.
6. One who, if her husband is angry with her,
keeps on politely asking for forgiveness until he
forgives her and is pleased with her again.
“Shall I inform you which woman will enter
heaven?" "the Sahaba (R.A) replied "yes most
certainly." Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alaihi
Wasallam said "the woman, who has children, is
loveable, when she becomes angry the husband
consoles her and when the husband becomes
angry she says that as long as you do not
become pleased with me, I will not even apply
surmah (antimony) to my eyes." (TABRANI)
7. One who manages the household affairs
wisely, decorates and furnishes the house.
Keeps it clean and tidy, renders personal
services such as cooking etc., and doesn't over
incur expenditure of which the husband
disapproves.
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2. A pious wife is one who doesn't permit
strangers to enter her house and anyone else
who's entering her house displeases her
husband, even though it maybe her friends.
"O men! It is your right over your wives that they
do not seat strangers on your bed and do not
allow those men whose coming to your house
you do not like, without your
permission." (TIRMIDHI).
3. One who pleases her husband when he looks
at her.
“That the best woman is the one that pleases
8. One who doesn't ask her husband for more
than he can afford.
9. One who doesn't engage herself in optional
worship (nafl ibaadat) without his permission. As
this optional worship may hinder the discharge
of the husband's rights.
"It is not permissible for any woman to fast
optionally without her husband's permission, and
it is not permissible for her to allow anyone into
his house without permission." (BUKHARI).
AL-ISLAH - Issue: 26 www.rabetah.com Nov/Dec 2009 - Dhul Qa‟dah/Hijjah 1430