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I HEAR YOU’RE AFRAID OF DYING<br />

OR AFRAID SOMEONE YOU LOVE WILL DIE BEFORE YOU<br />

this stage of their journey and return to their former<br />

state, and do so with our prayers and presence as<br />

well as our good hopes and intentions."<br />

My divorce led me to write a book and create a seminar.<br />

Soon after my first wife and I separated it became<br />

clear to me that I did not know the ingredients that make<br />

up a healthy marriage or long-term intimate relationship.<br />

So I took classes from Howard Markman at the University<br />

of Denver. I learned more about healthy relationships<br />

during that time than I had previously known.<br />

It was there he introduced us to the research, work<br />

and teaching of John and Julie Gottman, 3 David Olson, 4<br />

and Smart Marriages headed by Diane Sollee. 5<br />

Markman, Gottman, Olson and Sollee’s efforts led<br />

me to writing a book about how to create a marriage<br />

that is healthy enough to last a lifetime. 6<br />

I also developed a seminar for every couple I marry. 7<br />

3 www.gottman.com<br />

4 www.dibbleinstitute.org/david-olson<br />

5 www.smartmarriages.com/index.html<br />

6 The Marriage Maze, McLaird’s Guide for the Journey<br />

7 Titled ‘Mastering the Marital Arts’<br />

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