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<strong>to</strong> <strong>big</strong> <strong>questions</strong><br />
<strong>Small</strong> <strong>answers</strong><br />
Roshan Daryanani
Acknowledgements<br />
This book came <strong>to</strong> life because of the large<br />
number of crea<strong>to</strong>rs - artists, authors, poets and<br />
dreamers - whose heartfelt work I wanted <strong>to</strong><br />
share. I am very grateful <strong>to</strong> all of them.<br />
In particular, I started listening <strong>to</strong><br />
the Unmistakeable Creative podcast about<br />
halfway through this project and was influenced<br />
by a number of interviews from the show. Thanks<br />
Srini, Brian and Derek for bringing <strong>to</strong>gether the<br />
ideas of some very inspiring people!
Introduction<br />
The internet is overflowing with beautiful,<br />
inspiring pieces that can make your day a little<br />
(or a lot) better.<br />
In this pages of this book, you will find<br />
(underlined) hyperlinks <strong>to</strong> articles, videos,<br />
podcast interviews and books. I hope that some<br />
of them resonate with you. In my experience,<br />
taking time <strong>to</strong> digest and act on those ideas<br />
which stir something deep inside you can bring<br />
about great change in your life.<br />
Explore these resources in any way you like<br />
– you can start with the <strong>questions</strong> that<br />
particularly interest you, spend time on one<br />
question each week or flick <strong>to</strong> a random page.<br />
When it comes <strong>to</strong> accessing books, there are<br />
many ways <strong>to</strong> do this without necessarily
uying the books first-hand. Try <strong>to</strong> find them<br />
in your local library (or check if they can be<br />
called in from a neighbouring or central<br />
library). Look for them in your local secondhand<br />
books<strong>to</strong>re, charity shop or on Amazon.<br />
Swap books with friends. And search online<br />
libraries like Scribd, which can give you<br />
access <strong>to</strong> a number of e-books and<br />
audiobooks.<br />
May the ideas collected in this book motivate<br />
you <strong>to</strong> start an adventure of your own!
You want <strong>to</strong> find what you lights you up inside<br />
and do it often.
Write, build,<br />
play,<br />
volunteer,<br />
perform,<br />
travel!<br />
Spend<br />
some<br />
time<br />
alone<br />
Listen<br />
<strong>to</strong> Elizabeth<br />
Gilbert's<br />
advice<br />
on passion<br />
Experiment<br />
with your<br />
interests<br />
Practise an<br />
activity for a<br />
few minutes<br />
each day<br />
How <strong>to</strong> find<br />
Try<br />
love<br />
not<br />
<strong>to</strong><br />
idealize<br />
what<br />
<strong>to</strong><br />
you<br />
do<br />
other's<br />
work<br />
Shonda Rhimes on<br />
Dreaming vs. Doing<br />
Jim Carrey<br />
on doing what<br />
you love<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong><br />
people who<br />
inspire you<br />
- then act<br />
Try<br />
not <strong>to</strong><br />
idealize<br />
other<br />
people's<br />
work<br />
Debbie<br />
Millman on<br />
courage and<br />
the creative<br />
life<br />
Explore<br />
these great<br />
posts from<br />
the wonderful<br />
Brainpickings<br />
Read<br />
Elle Luna's<br />
post on The<br />
Crossroads<br />
of Should and<br />
Must<br />
Watch The Do<br />
Lectures<br />
Find your own<br />
way <strong>to</strong> add value<br />
<strong>to</strong> the world<br />
Shonda Rhimes<br />
on Doing vs.<br />
Dreaming<br />
Or listen <strong>to</strong><br />
her at the Do<br />
Lectures
The pressure of work deadlines. The failing<br />
health of a spouse. The struggle <strong>to</strong> make the rent<br />
this month.<br />
Thousands of times a day, these thoughts creep<br />
in<strong>to</strong> our mind, dragging a heavy knot in<strong>to</strong> our<br />
s<strong>to</strong>mach. In spite of them being our constant<br />
companions, we’re not normally taught how <strong>to</strong><br />
address them. Learning <strong>to</strong> manage our negative<br />
thoughts is an invaluable practice and a lifelong<br />
process – one that we should be talking about<br />
more.
1<br />
Accept them<br />
We all have them -<br />
they're part of being<br />
human.<br />
2<br />
Rest<br />
Can you spend some<br />
time in nature or just<br />
have a lie down?<br />
A nap is an great way<br />
<strong>to</strong> hit refresh.<br />
3<br />
Music<br />
Music can change<br />
your perspective and<br />
work worders on a<br />
jumpy mind.<br />
What<br />
<strong>to</strong> do<br />
with negative<br />
thoughts<br />
4<br />
Sit with them<br />
Try simply observing<br />
your<br />
thoughts rather than<br />
getting lost in them.<br />
If this idea is new <strong>to</strong><br />
you try reading<br />
Awareness<br />
by Anthony de Mello,<br />
or watch these powerful videos of his<br />
Rediscovering Life retreat.<br />
5<br />
Express them<br />
If you feel<br />
overwhelmed, write<br />
down your thoughts or<br />
talk <strong>to</strong> someone you<br />
trust.<br />
6<br />
Get inspired<br />
Create a bank of<br />
uplifting thoughts,<br />
videos and books<br />
that you can go <strong>to</strong><br />
when you need them.<br />
Start with The<br />
Ultimate Guide <strong>to</strong><br />
Feeling Awesome<br />
and Ultimate ALL the<br />
time by Lisa Esile.<br />
It's wonderful.
What if you could find ways <strong>to</strong> move your body<br />
that you looked forward <strong>to</strong> each day?<br />
It’s possible; it really is. We know that exercise<br />
can be one of the best daily practices for<br />
improving our wellbeing – perhaps it’s just a<br />
question of finding a form of it that we actually<br />
enjoy.<br />
Walks around your neighbourhood. A stroll<br />
through the park with a friend. Classes at your<br />
community centre. Games you play with your<br />
kids. Exercise videos you follow along with at<br />
home. New sports you’ve always wanted <strong>to</strong> try.<br />
Experiment enough and you’ll find something<br />
that suits you.
Remember how good<br />
it can feel <strong>to</strong> move<br />
Try a<br />
Youtube<br />
workout at<br />
home<br />
Dance!<br />
How <strong>to</strong> use movement<br />
TO GET<br />
UNST UCK<br />
Mercedes<br />
Peynado<br />
Join a<br />
fitnessrelated<br />
group in<br />
your area<br />
Rise up<br />
Try<br />
yoga<br />
Meetup.com<br />
Find ways <strong>to</strong><br />
stay in motion<br />
during the day<br />
with this article<br />
Yoga with<br />
Adriene
As a child, you are discovering the world the<br />
world for the first time.<br />
You question why we do things and where we<br />
come from and why stuff happens.<br />
Your powerful imagination and unaffected selfconfidence<br />
mean that you think more of<br />
possibilities than of limitations.<br />
Any emotion that’s inside of you is allowed <strong>to</strong><br />
come <strong>to</strong> the surface instead of being bottled up.<br />
You don’t build a false image of yourself for other<br />
people – you just are what you are.<br />
You laugh easily and often, because you don’t<br />
need a reason <strong>to</strong>.<br />
All of which is <strong>to</strong> say that spending time with<br />
children reminds us of how <strong>to</strong> live life more fully.
How <strong>to</strong><br />
make<br />
really<br />
cool stuff<br />
The ability<br />
<strong>to</strong> say what<br />
you think<br />
How <strong>to</strong> keep<br />
dreaming<br />
What it<br />
looks like<br />
<strong>to</strong> do what<br />
you love<br />
The way<br />
<strong>to</strong> put ideas<br />
in<strong>to</strong> action<br />
How <strong>to</strong><br />
keep<br />
wonder alive
When you’re completely lost and overwhelmed,<br />
what do you do?<br />
There is no easy answer <strong>to</strong> this question.<br />
At the hardest times, perhaps it’s best <strong>to</strong> simply<br />
do what comes naturally. You make room for the<br />
pain. You cry or you shout or you curl up on your<br />
bed; you let your body do what it wants <strong>to</strong> do<br />
without judgement or blame.<br />
This practice also helps you <strong>to</strong> be there for others.<br />
While you may never be able <strong>to</strong> fully experience<br />
their fears, grief or frustration, you can sit with<br />
them and hold their hand as they try <strong>to</strong> work<br />
through the chaos that life can sometimes be.
Find out how our shadows can become rocket fuel<br />
Learn about Tim Lawrence's perspective on grief<br />
and listen <strong>to</strong> an interview with him here<br />
Read Man's Search for Meaning by Vik<strong>to</strong>r Frankl<br />
and read Eva Schloss' book: After Auschwitz<br />
On finding healing<br />
IN DARKNESS<br />
Read about letting people be broken sometimes<br />
Read Kitchen Table Wisdom by Rachel Naomi Remen<br />
And read her thoughts on seeking help in a<br />
crisis here<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong> Jerry Colonna talk about challenges<br />
and resilience
“The best thing for being sad," replied Merlin,<br />
beginning <strong>to</strong> puff and blow, "is <strong>to</strong> learn something.<br />
That's the only thing that never fails. You may grow<br />
old and trembling in your ana<strong>to</strong>mies, you may lie<br />
awake at night listening <strong>to</strong> the disorder of your<br />
veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the<br />
world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or<br />
know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser<br />
minds. There is only one thing for it then — <strong>to</strong><br />
learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it.<br />
That is the only thing which the mind can never<br />
exhaust, never alienate, never be <strong>to</strong>rtured by, never<br />
fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting.<br />
Learning is the only thing for you. Look what a lot<br />
of things there are <strong>to</strong> learn.”<br />
-T.H. White<br />
* Recommended episodes from the Tim Ferriss show:<br />
Derek Sivers, Whitney Cummings, Kevin Kelly
Try one new<br />
thing each<br />
week (or<br />
every day!)<br />
Visit your<br />
local library<br />
Medium<br />
Brainpickings<br />
Pindex<br />
Explore the<br />
web<br />
Or join an<br />
online library<br />
like Scribd<br />
Skim through<br />
book summaries<br />
here and here<br />
How <strong>to</strong> keep<br />
Learning<br />
Stay curious<br />
Join a<br />
group<br />
Meetup<br />
Keep<br />
asking<br />
<strong>questions</strong><br />
Talk <strong>to</strong> real<br />
people!<br />
Start<br />
a conversation<br />
with a<br />
stranger<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong> a<br />
podcast<br />
The<br />
Unmistakeable<br />
Creative and<br />
The Tim Ferriss show*<br />
are great<br />
The<br />
<strong>answers</strong> may<br />
come in time
Not <strong>to</strong> get all dramatic, but spending time alone can change<br />
your life. Really.<br />
We come in<strong>to</strong> the world as unique beings. Even as children, we<br />
are individuals, each with different dispositions and tastes,<br />
each with a fresh set of <strong>questions</strong> and observations about the<br />
world that makes our parents chuckle.<br />
As we grow up, we are <strong>to</strong>ld that there is only one way <strong>to</strong> learn,<br />
<strong>to</strong> behave in society and <strong>to</strong> earn a living.<br />
But there are as many ways <strong>to</strong> live a full life as there are people,<br />
and using someone else’s principles <strong>to</strong> guide your existence can<br />
leave you confused and dissatisfied. Find what makes your days<br />
meaningful <strong>to</strong> you and then live your life accordingly.<br />
The very idea of figuring out what you want can sound<br />
daunting <strong>to</strong> many people, but it can start in incredibly simple<br />
ways. Take a short walk. Sit quietly without your phone for five<br />
minutes. Browse through your local library and find a book<br />
you’re curious about. Use time spent by yourself <strong>to</strong> think about<br />
what it is that really makes you happy.<br />
It’s a worthwhile practice, trust me. Or I should really say, trust<br />
yourself.
"Our society does not encourage a lot of self-knowledge.<br />
You go <strong>to</strong> school, you go <strong>to</strong> industry, these are all the books,<br />
these are all the blogs, these are all the movies, these are all the<br />
newspapers. You know, there’s so much external stimuli that’s<br />
vying for our attention, and we get taught that success comes<br />
from our ability <strong>to</strong> absorb and analyse everything out there in<br />
the world. It is rare that we are taught that our inner world is just<br />
as vast and expansive and rich and deep and powerful and filled<br />
with insight as the outer world.”<br />
- Whitney Hess in an interview on the<br />
Unmistakeable Creative Podcast<br />
Why and how <strong>to</strong> spend time<br />
by yourself<br />
Read<br />
two great articles<br />
on being alone<br />
here and here<br />
Watch<br />
How To Be Alone<br />
by Andrea Dorfman<br />
and Tanya Davis<br />
How <strong>to</strong> be alone<br />
by Sara Maitland<br />
Enjoy<br />
this book<br />
recommendation<br />
on Brainpickings<br />
And the related<br />
EVOLVE project<br />
Explore<br />
The 100-day<br />
self-connection<br />
experiment<br />
with Kyle Cease
The tiniest, most ordinary adventures can be<br />
incredibly fulfilling.
Easy ways <strong>to</strong><br />
be happy<br />
Feel the sun on your face Take a bicycle ride<br />
Go for a drive Read a book Call an old friend<br />
Turn on the music Surprise someone with a gift<br />
Sing (not just in the shower) Run Watch a movie<br />
Pet a dog Play an instrument Take a nap<br />
Eat some chocolate Walk in the rain<br />
Dance<br />
Meditate Pay someone a visit Go outside<br />
Take a ride on a swing Write a thank-you note<br />
Make a list of what inspires you or makes you smile<br />
Volunteer Get crafty Hang out with a kid
Ah, food.<br />
It’s a source of community, pleasure and relaxation. It’s<br />
also a part of life that a large number of people struggle<br />
with.<br />
Unfortunately, a lot of the advice out there has us<br />
thinking that a healthy lifestyle necessarily involves lots<br />
of restrictions and lots of kale.<br />
It is true that turning down some of the more harmful<br />
foods we are surrounded by every day can be difficult,<br />
given how tasty we find them. However, it is also true<br />
that food which is good for you can be satisfying and<br />
delicious. And cooking can be part of the fun*.<br />
It’s worth spending some time trying out different foods<br />
from your local market. What fruit, veggies, nuts and<br />
seeds can you add <strong>to</strong> your diet instead of taking things<br />
away? You may find that having a wide selection of good,<br />
wholesome foods that you actually like at home means<br />
you turn <strong>to</strong> cookies less often.<br />
*Try this cookbook, generously made available online<br />
for free by the author, Leanne Brown.
How <strong>to</strong> nourish<br />
your body<br />
while truly enjoying your food<br />
Visit Summer Toma<strong>to</strong><br />
Darya Rose has a<br />
comprehensive blog <strong>to</strong><br />
help sustainably change<br />
your food habits<br />
Start cooking with<br />
Deliciously Ella<br />
Ella Woodward's blog has<br />
some great recipes and is<br />
particularly good for those<br />
who love sweets<br />
Try these delectable<br />
food blogs<br />
If you feel up <strong>to</strong> taking it a step<br />
further in the kitchen, these<br />
sites will keep you busy<br />
Follow the Food Rules<br />
Michael Pollan's<br />
advice on how <strong>to</strong> eat is<br />
refreshingly simple.<br />
You can also read his<br />
in-depth essay on food,<br />
Unhappy Meals<br />
Read Transformational<br />
Weight Loss<br />
Charles' Einsenstein's profound<br />
book on reconsidering your<br />
relationship with food is worth a<br />
read. It's freely available online<br />
Also, explore intuitive eating<br />
with this article
I used <strong>to</strong> think that being creative was about enjoying<br />
craft projects the way I did as a child. Now I see that it<br />
is about so much more. Many of our everyday acts<br />
also involve bringing <strong>to</strong> life what wasn’t there before:<br />
a father trying <strong>to</strong> engage with his teenage son in a<br />
different way, a woman cracking a joke <strong>to</strong> help her<br />
friend feel better, a pensioner taking up a new hobby.<br />
The act of making something new doesn’t simply<br />
enrich our lives. What we create can <strong>to</strong>uch other<br />
people and enhance our connection <strong>to</strong> them. As Neil<br />
Gaiman points out in his beautiful commencement<br />
speech, we should keep creating when life gets<br />
difficult. Perhaps Kurt Vonnegut puts it most<br />
poetically in his letter <strong>to</strong> a group of high school<br />
students: creativity makes ‘your soul grow’.<br />
Don’t get hung up on whether or not you are a<br />
‘creative person’: just try making stuff that you enjoy,<br />
whether it is music or food, and see where it takes you.
You can start<br />
with her 'Magic<br />
Lessons' podcast<br />
Create<br />
something<br />
with this<br />
fun, free<br />
online class<br />
Read<br />
the wonderful<br />
'Big Magic'<br />
by Elizabeth<br />
Gilbert<br />
On the<br />
marvellous<br />
mystery of<br />
making things<br />
Creating adds<br />
meaning <strong>to</strong><br />
other's lives<br />
(and your<br />
own!)<br />
Enjoy<br />
'Make people<br />
gifts' by John<br />
Green<br />
Collaborate<br />
creatively on<br />
HitRecord<br />
Transformed in<strong>to</strong> a<br />
lovely car<strong>to</strong>on on<br />
Zen Pencils<br />
Watch this<br />
wonderful<br />
Soul Pancake<br />
clip<br />
The morning pages<br />
Sarah mentions are<br />
a remarkable <strong>to</strong>ol, as<br />
described here<br />
From an interview<br />
with Sarah Peck<br />
on the<br />
Unmistakeable<br />
Creative podcast
Every day, each one of us wakes up and faces our<br />
own challenges.<br />
Sometimes, we start <strong>to</strong> question the point of it all<br />
and feel that it has become impossible <strong>to</strong> endure<br />
our burdens. At these times, we turn <strong>to</strong> others for<br />
help and comfort. We need them <strong>to</strong> remind us<br />
that we are not alone.<br />
Over time, as you go through more and more of<br />
the <strong>to</strong>ugh stuff, you start <strong>to</strong> realise that you are<br />
far more capable than you believe.
What you can<br />
learn from<br />
Adversity<br />
Read The<br />
Yellow World<br />
by Albert<br />
Espinosa for<br />
lessons the<br />
author learnt<br />
from cancer<br />
The lesson that hope can be found in<br />
the most unexpected places<br />
The value of supportive friends and<br />
family<br />
To discover what's actually important <strong>to</strong> you<br />
The idea that limitations<br />
can sometimes be creative forces<br />
Watch<br />
Embrace the<br />
Shake<br />
by Phil Hansen<br />
That there's strength you didn't know you<br />
had, which you can pass on <strong>to</strong> others<br />
Meg Worden talks courageously about<br />
how time in prison influenced her life.<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong> her on the Unmistakeable Creative podcast<br />
Explore s<strong>to</strong>icism<br />
as a summary<br />
in some depth
We supposedly live in a self-centred culture, but<br />
if we s<strong>to</strong>p <strong>to</strong> think about it, do we really put our<br />
own wellbeing before everything else?<br />
Caring for yourself is about prioritizing your<br />
health and mental peace and taking actions <strong>to</strong><br />
maintain it. If this is something you don’t do<br />
often enough, consider that it can really<br />
revolutionize your own life as well as influence<br />
that of those around you.
You can watching his<br />
uplifting talk<br />
here<br />
Enjoy<br />
'The Art of Self-<br />
Love':<br />
an article by<br />
Alexandra Harra<br />
Read<br />
Kamal<br />
Ravikanth's<br />
'Love yourself'<br />
and 'Live Your<br />
Truth'<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong> this<br />
interview with<br />
Robert Holden<br />
on the Adventures<br />
in Happiness<br />
podcast<br />
Read this<br />
wonderful<br />
Facebook post by<br />
Elizabeth Gilbert<br />
Why self-care<br />
and self-love<br />
are vital<br />
Enjoy 'Learning <strong>to</strong><br />
Love yourself': a<br />
book<br />
by Gay Hendricks<br />
Read this<br />
article<br />
by<br />
Kristin Neff
The death of our loved ones is probably the<br />
hardest event that many of us will bear.<br />
Could this be in part because we don’t<br />
acknowledge the reality of death often enough?<br />
It’s <strong>to</strong>o morbid a <strong>to</strong>pic – we’re not meant <strong>to</strong> bring<br />
it up in conversation.<br />
But I feel we should.<br />
If we really faced our fears around death, our<br />
overpowering grief, our uncertainties about<br />
whether we’re living our lives fully and spending<br />
enough time with those most precious <strong>to</strong> us –<br />
maybe this would bring <strong>to</strong> light the deepest<br />
desires that we all share.
Watch Anita Moorjani's<br />
heartwarming<br />
TED talk<br />
Dig in<strong>to</strong> Patti Digh's<br />
book<br />
Life is a verb<br />
Read Paul Graham's<br />
no nonsense essay:<br />
Life is short<br />
Spend 5 minutes<br />
reflecting on<br />
about this classic book<br />
by Seneca<br />
Or listen <strong>to</strong> her interview on the<br />
Unmistakeable Creative podcast<br />
Explore how the<br />
Zen Hospice transforms<br />
the experience<br />
of dying<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong> this short<br />
message<br />
from Alan Watts<br />
How <strong>to</strong><br />
think differently<br />
about dying<br />
And watch this wonderful video from<br />
Brandon Stan<strong>to</strong>n, crea<strong>to</strong>r of HONY<br />
Reflect on this<br />
profound advice from<br />
Roy Remer
How do you manage anger, sadness and fear?<br />
Growing up, we’re not normally taught how <strong>to</strong><br />
deal with our feelings, even though they<br />
influence every single choice we make.<br />
This article by Pema Chödrön is a great starting<br />
point for learning <strong>to</strong> let emotions pass through<br />
you. While it requires patience, developing a<br />
healthy relationship with feelings can help us <strong>to</strong><br />
spend less time reaching out for our phones or<br />
for chocolate and allow us <strong>to</strong> actually connect<br />
with ourselves and with each other.
How <strong>to</strong> befriend<br />
Your Feelings<br />
Watch this great talk by Sarah Peck<br />
Read this article by<br />
Karen Horneffer-Ginter<br />
Reflect on The Guest House by Rumi<br />
and All Feelings are Children by Jeff Foster<br />
Enjoy this profound essay by Susan Piver<br />
Read the Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte<br />
You can start exploring its basic premise in this<br />
article and interview
There is something powerful about quieting your<br />
mind enough <strong>to</strong> really absorb what’s going<br />
around you.<br />
When you truly listen, you put aside your beliefs<br />
and judgements for a short while <strong>to</strong> take on<br />
something new. And when you are ready <strong>to</strong> take<br />
on something new, who knows what could<br />
happen?
How <strong>to</strong> harness the power of<br />
L I S T E N I N G<br />
s<br />
Read 'Just listen', an article by Rachel Naomi Remen<br />
Reflect on how listening impacts what is said<br />
Discover the sounds around you with this article<br />
Absorb William Ury's thoughts on listening<br />
Enjoy this fabulous talk on listening <strong>to</strong> classical music<br />
Learn about the power of listening <strong>to</strong> s<strong>to</strong>ries<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong> Cal Fussman's reflections on his interviews
When we fail, most of us feel a distinct burden in the pit of our<br />
s<strong>to</strong>mach telling us that things haven’t gone the way we wanted<br />
them <strong>to</strong>. Instead of trying <strong>to</strong> run away from this feeling, we can<br />
learn <strong>to</strong> view it as something that happens naturally when we’re<br />
on a new venture. It’s funny how often people who end up<br />
being successful are the ones who are willing <strong>to</strong> fail, because<br />
they don’t see failure as the end of the road. They can see it as<br />
one more step on their journey, or as re-direction on<strong>to</strong> a<br />
different path, or simply as part of being human.<br />
In her warm-hearted and inspiring book, ‘Big Magic’,<br />
Elizabeth Gilbert writes about a quote from the author Clive<br />
James, who discovered that “Failure has a function. It asks you<br />
if you want <strong>to</strong> go on making things”.<br />
What if we completely reversed what happens at school and<br />
<strong>to</strong>ok on projects even if we knew we might fail at them?<br />
What if our decision <strong>to</strong> take on something new was not based<br />
on whether or not we are likely <strong>to</strong> succeed at it, but on whether<br />
we might enjoy it or learn something useful and interesting<br />
from it?<br />
What if we failed, and went on making things and making<br />
things happen? Our lives might look quite different if we did.
Also captured as<br />
a zen pencils<br />
comic!<br />
Learn from<br />
JK Rowling's<br />
talk on failure and<br />
imagination<br />
Consider Read<br />
what Amy Poehler says<br />
about failure as a gift<br />
on zen pencils<br />
Consider<br />
the unexpected path<br />
your life has taken<br />
after a setback -<br />
did you gain insight<br />
or experience?<br />
How <strong>to</strong><br />
think differently about<br />
The Art of Work<br />
has some great<br />
examples of this,<br />
particularly in the<br />
chapter 'Pivot<br />
Points'<br />
failure<br />
Create<br />
a 'failure resume'<br />
as Tina Seelig suggests:<br />
write down everything<br />
you've learnt from your<br />
personal and<br />
professional<br />
failures<br />
Enjoy<br />
the Youtube video:<br />
Expanding yourself<br />
through experience by<br />
Dave Vanderveen<br />
Watch<br />
Jodi Sagorin's<br />
TEDx talk<br />
on rejection
To give is a natural human impulse.<br />
Fear of scarcity causes us <strong>to</strong> try and accumulate<br />
things for ourselves and our loved ones.<br />
However, we’ve all experienced moments when<br />
we were able <strong>to</strong> contribute and s<strong>to</strong>pped <strong>to</strong> share.<br />
Who can explain why we sometimes step forward<br />
<strong>to</strong> relieve someone’s suffering or make their life a<br />
tiny bit better? It just happens – and when it does,<br />
a little more love is released in<strong>to</strong> the world.
What<br />
Happens when you<br />
give<br />
You<br />
feel more<br />
connected <strong>to</strong><br />
the world<br />
Reflect on<br />
Amanda Palmer's<br />
words on the<br />
beauty of giving<br />
your art <strong>to</strong> others<br />
You<br />
start <strong>to</strong> feel<br />
more<br />
grateful<br />
You<br />
get back in<br />
unexpected<br />
ways<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong><br />
Peter Singer's talk on<br />
effective giving<br />
Watch Mark<br />
Boyle's wonderful<br />
talk on<br />
moneyless living<br />
Enjoy Charles Eisenstein's<br />
talk about stepping in<strong>to</strong> the<br />
gift<br />
"Give without any<br />
expectation of<br />
receiving, without a<br />
moment’s thought of<br />
credit or debt, and<br />
you will receive<br />
whatever you need<br />
when you need it."<br />
Mark Boyle
We tend <strong>to</strong> have a fixed perspective on money. It<br />
can be a burdensome subject for many people<br />
and rarely one associated with ease and choice.<br />
If you are willing <strong>to</strong> explore new ways of thinking<br />
about money you may be able <strong>to</strong> identify what it<br />
actually means <strong>to</strong> you and how you can improve<br />
your relationship with it.
Can rethinking<br />
money<br />
BUY<br />
YOU<br />
Learn about frugality on the<br />
(unrelated)<br />
Frugtastic<br />
facebook group<br />
4 ways <strong>to</strong> quit<br />
the rat race is a<br />
good episode<br />
<strong>to</strong> start with<br />
Explore<br />
Mr Money<br />
Mustache's<br />
blog<br />
Entertaining,<br />
inspiring advice on<br />
early retirement<br />
Follow The<br />
Voluntary Life<br />
podcast<br />
FREEDOM?<br />
Ideas <strong>to</strong> help you<br />
live on your<br />
own terms<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong><br />
Barbara Stanny<br />
giving her<br />
perspective on<br />
money<br />
Her focus is on<br />
changing how<br />
women view<br />
money and<br />
power<br />
Tune in<strong>to</strong><br />
Radical Personal<br />
Finance<br />
More ideas<br />
on managing your<br />
money<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong> this<br />
perspective on<br />
money from<br />
Jose Mujica,<br />
former President<br />
of Uruguay<br />
Explore<br />
Early Retirement<br />
Extreme<br />
A thought-provoking<br />
blog which<br />
will make you<br />
question<br />
modern living<br />
You can start by listening <strong>to</strong> Kate's interview on the<br />
Unmistakeable Creative podcast<br />
Learn from<br />
Money: A Love<br />
S<strong>to</strong>ry<br />
This book can help<br />
you <strong>to</strong> think about<br />
your relationship<br />
with<br />
money
Everyone talks about how healthy food and<br />
exercise are essential, but having enough fun?<br />
That’s a serious matter <strong>to</strong>o.
How <strong>to</strong> have<br />
more fun<br />
Experiment with some<br />
suggestions from this<br />
Tiny Buddha article<br />
Experiment with<br />
Laughter Yoga<br />
Be like this kid<br />
Here And here And here<br />
Enjoy 'A playful path'<br />
by Bernard de Koven<br />
You can read it online<br />
for free<br />
Read more about the power of<br />
improvisation...<br />
Try Improvisation by<br />
joining a Meetup group<br />
in your area
All poets go on tiny adventures.<br />
Think about it – poetry is about breaking the<br />
rules of language and life. It’s about questioning<br />
and staying curious and carving out something<br />
beautiful from something ordinary.<br />
If you don’t think you enjoy poetry, watch<br />
‘Unlock the Universe’ a talk by the lovely Emilie<br />
Zoey Baker about the power of this art form.<br />
Also enjoy the wonderful Sarah Kay performing<br />
‘B’ and ‘Hiroshima’.<br />
Then read some more – and write some poems of<br />
your own!
Poetry<br />
that can teach us<br />
how <strong>to</strong> live<br />
Unlock the universe<br />
Emilie Zoey Baker<br />
B and Hiroshima<br />
Sarah Kay<br />
As I began <strong>to</strong> love myself<br />
Charles Spencer (Charlie Chaplin)<br />
Desiderata<br />
Max Ehrmann<br />
A brief for the defense<br />
Jack Gilbert<br />
"He Would Never Use One Word<br />
Where None Would Do"<br />
Phillip Levine<br />
The Sun<br />
and<br />
Mary Oliver<br />
When Death Comes
Good food, health, companionship, nature and<br />
meaningful work.<br />
We know these are the ingredients for a fulfilling<br />
life. But often we need a reminder.
Mathias<br />
Lefebvre -<br />
Piano Man<br />
The<br />
Minimalists<br />
on a rich life<br />
with less stuff<br />
Matt<br />
Weinstein<br />
on what<br />
Bernie Madoff<br />
couldn't steal<br />
from him<br />
What<br />
we really need<br />
<strong>to</strong> live<br />
a good life<br />
(in 7 TED talks)<br />
Jon Jandai<br />
on<br />
how life is easy<br />
David<br />
Steindl-Rast<br />
and Louie<br />
Schwartzberg<br />
on<br />
gratitude<br />
Marti Stano<br />
on<br />
minimalism<br />
and happiness<br />
Teresa Carey<br />
on her<br />
American<br />
dream
A smile is a strange thing.<br />
You turn up the corners of your mouth and<br />
suddenly feel a teensy bit better. Weird how that<br />
works, don’t you think? Pulling down your ears<br />
doesn’t have the same effect.<br />
Sometimes, we can use a little help <strong>to</strong> get our<br />
facial muscles <strong>to</strong> relax. One action on your part<br />
can liven up someone else’s day and do the same<br />
for your own.
How <strong>to</strong> make someone<br />
Smile<br />
Start here<br />
Tell them a<br />
joke<br />
Make them a<br />
cake<br />
Send them a<br />
handwritten<br />
letter<br />
Make them a<br />
compilation of written or<br />
video messages from<br />
their friends<br />
Play them a fun song<br />
from their childhood<br />
Buy them<br />
a good book<br />
Show them this<br />
Play a game<br />
the Scared is scared<br />
Also featured on the<br />
fantastic Brainpickings<br />
site<br />
You can find some<br />
ideas in and in deepfun.com<br />
and The Lost Art of Having Fun
Finding out who we are and what we’re doing<br />
here is the <strong>big</strong>gest question. Perhaps the most<br />
important reason <strong>to</strong> explore it is <strong>to</strong> discover what<br />
you can contribute the world and how you can<br />
thrive while doing so.<br />
As Anne Lamott puts it, in order <strong>to</strong> find out who<br />
you are, you must realise who you aren’t. Over<br />
time, as we keep letting go of the thoughts and<br />
behaviours that don’t resonate with us, we get<br />
closer <strong>to</strong> what we truly are.
THE QUESTION<br />
OF<br />
WHO YOU ARE<br />
and how <strong>to</strong> be<br />
honest with<br />
yourself<br />
Philosophize about who you are<br />
with this TED-ED video<br />
Watch this inspiring clip about<br />
connecting <strong>to</strong> yourself<br />
A very powerful<br />
book<br />
Read Anne Lammott's thoughts on<br />
finding out who you aren't<br />
Read The Untethered Soul<br />
and The Lazy Man's guide <strong>to</strong> Enlightenment<br />
Freely available online.<br />
Not an easy read, but includes<br />
some deep insights<br />
Enjoy the candid Unmistakeable Creative<br />
interviews of Wes Chapman and AJ Leon<br />
Reflect on being the author of your own<br />
life with Reema Zaman's wonderful<br />
Unmistakeable Creative interview
This is perhaps the most controversial question<br />
and not always applicable <strong>to</strong> every situation.<br />
After all, life can take truly difficult turns that we<br />
may never understand and other people can<br />
sometimes carry out act actions that are<br />
unforgiveable.<br />
But what if, wherever possible, we were <strong>to</strong> adopt<br />
a more graceful attitude <strong>to</strong>wards whatever<br />
happens? It is so hard <strong>to</strong> let go of wanting <strong>to</strong><br />
control almost everything that happens, yet<br />
doing so can bring deep peace.<br />
You have nothing <strong>to</strong> lose by experimenting with<br />
this idea.
Listen <strong>to</strong> James Altucher<br />
interviewing the author<br />
here<br />
Explore the<br />
Surrender<br />
Experiment<br />
by Michael<br />
Singer<br />
Read this<br />
article on<br />
gratitude<br />
by Joshua<br />
Becker<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong><br />
Eli Trier's<br />
interview<br />
on the Becoming<br />
who you are<br />
podcast<br />
Including interesting<br />
comments about:<br />
What<br />
if it's all<br />
happening<br />
for us?<br />
-How gratitude is not<br />
a denial of the<br />
negative but an<br />
expansion of your<br />
awareness, allowing<br />
you <strong>to</strong> see that every<br />
situation has both<br />
light and dark<br />
- The power of<br />
deepening rather than<br />
broadening your<br />
gratitude practice<br />
Enjoy<br />
Let your<br />
life speak<br />
by Parker<br />
Palmer<br />
Reflect on<br />
this article<br />
by Kathy<br />
Cordova<br />
Read<br />
Outrageous<br />
Openness<br />
by Tosha<br />
Silver
We have this idea that changing the world always<br />
entails some momen<strong>to</strong>us transformation. Can<br />
we aim <strong>to</strong> help thousands of people or a large part<br />
of the planet? Of course we can. At the same time,<br />
we can forget the power we have <strong>to</strong> influence our<br />
lives and those of our communities through our<br />
tiny, everyday actions.<br />
The detailed plan <strong>to</strong> start your own business, and<br />
the friendly conversation with your new<br />
neighbour: it’s all valuable. If we pay more<br />
attention <strong>to</strong> all of it, whether <strong>big</strong> or small,<br />
perhaps the results would surprise us.
Why you will<br />
change the world<br />
(and are already doing so)<br />
Listen <strong>to</strong><br />
this.<br />
Consider<br />
this.<br />
Watch<br />
this.<br />
Read this.<br />
Reflect<br />
on this.<br />
Think<br />
about this.<br />
Enjoy<br />
this<br />
book.
"One isn’t born with courage.<br />
One develops it. And you develop it<br />
by doing small, courageous things, in the<br />
same way that one wouldn’t set out<br />
<strong>to</strong> pick up a 100 pound bag of rice.<br />
If that was one’s aim,<br />
the person would be advised <strong>to</strong> pick up<br />
a five pound bag, and then a ten pound,<br />
and then a 20 pound, and so forth, until<br />
one builds up enough muscle<br />
<strong>to</strong> actually pick up 100 pounds.<br />
And that’s the same way with courage.<br />
You develop courage by doing<br />
courageous things, small things, but things<br />
that cost you some exertion<br />
– mental and, I suppose,<br />
spiritual exertion."<br />
- Maya Angelou