Upbringing of Children
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The importance <strong>of</strong> the *ij\b is unquestionable and also its practicality<br />
is undoubtable. Parents need not impose *ij\b on their daughters, if<br />
correct education is given, and the correct frame <strong>of</strong> mind is made, they<br />
will eagerly wear the *ij\b out <strong>of</strong> their own accord.<br />
The mother should also explain to the daughter the harms <strong>of</strong> getting<br />
into relationships with the opposite sex. She must warn <strong>of</strong> the heart<br />
break and hurt that follows what she may feel is, “the perfect<br />
relationship”. Also make sure that the daughter learns the lesson as to<br />
why Isl\m prohibits it (the displeasure <strong>of</strong> All\h I, as well as practical<br />
reasons), and what the punishments are for those who indulge in such<br />
*ar\m acts.<br />
Male Roles And Duties<br />
Boys (and their parents) seem to think that the chores <strong>of</strong> the house are<br />
for the girls only. Thus they do not contribute towards the general<br />
upkeep <strong>of</strong> the family home. Many boys sadly enslave their sisters to do<br />
everything for them, (cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, ironing etc).<br />
This is very wrong. Boys should initially be taught that it is their duty to<br />
help in the chores. The parents can show the male <strong>of</strong>fspring that this<br />
was even the practice <strong>of</strong> the Prophet r. If they are lazy or refuse to do<br />
their share, they should, with wisdom, be ordered to do their part in<br />
helping everyone at home.<br />
Many parents seem to think that there is a lot less effort needed in<br />
raising boys. This is untrue. The upbringing <strong>of</strong> boys is just as delicate as<br />
that <strong>of</strong> girls. This is proven by the fact that negligence in them can bring<br />
about results as disastrous as those caused by negligence in girls.<br />
As the child grows older he needs from his father a friend as well as a<br />
role model. Friendship <strong>of</strong>fered by the father should not be in what the<br />
father thinks <strong>of</strong> as fun, but rather within limits what the child thinks.<br />
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