Jason Capital - Higher Status

people are the ones being pursued by others, and not the
other way around.
There is a fine line here though. It has to be natural. You
can’t retreat on purpose to get the result of someone pursuing
you, because that’s not carefree. That’s becoming
dependent on an outcome that is out of your control. In
that scenario, you’ve stopped judging yourself on your own
behavior and started grading yourself based on outcomes.
That is not the way of a high-status, carefree person.
Carefree people appear to retreat naturally for two reasons.
First, they don’t need anyone else’s approval, and
second, their high-status destiny keeps them constantly
in motion, on their path. They are not retreating from
others on purpose, but instead are continuously moving
forward on their path.
Trust me, you will stand out even more in this digital,
social media-obsessed world we live in today. With cell
phones and Instagram and Facebook and all that other shit,
people have literally trained themselves to be approval
rats, just constantly chasing the next online like or comment.
People will even post something online and, if they
aren’t pleased with the amount of likes or comments it
gets within that first hour, they’ll delete it. All they’re
doing is training themselves to be completely reliant on
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