The truth about life - motivational ebook, moving on

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A Journal
Dedicated
To
My Daughters
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Table of Contents
Money and materialism
Eliminating habits
A quick explanation of Karma
What will you say when you’re seventy?
<strong>The</strong>re’s always someone fights a harder battle than you
To be a child again
Happiness is congruent to your values and beliefs
Its all in the way you look at it
Overthinking is more harmful than you may realize
Clear the mechanism
You matter!
Don’t follow the trend of society
How do I know if what I’m doing is right for me?
Nobody has a perfect <strong>life</strong>
<strong>The</strong> different phases of our lives
<strong>The</strong> Backfire effect
Friends and their role in our lives
Follow your beliefs
<strong>The</strong> design of our lives is so precise
You are the sum of all your fears
<strong>The</strong> software of <strong>life</strong>
Life is a video game
Getting over the hurt
Judging someone else
When a goal doesn’t come to fruition soon enough
Positive focus
I’ve searched for my passion but can’t seem to find it
How do I know if my passion is bleeding me dry?
What’s your happy place?
Why are you still blaming them?
What should I write <strong>about</strong>?
But, they said I couldn’t…
What if I feel helpless?
What if I make a mistake, or if people laugh at me?
What does it take to become a good leader?
Stop thinking the grass is greener
Stop being so concerned <strong>about</strong> what everyone else has
My message to high school students
My main regret in <strong>life</strong>
What is <strong>life</strong>?
<strong>The</strong> law of attraction
Moving on from what’s been holding you back in <strong>life</strong>
A poem tying in all <strong>life</strong> lessons
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Let’s Get Started
I spent some time gathering my thoughts <strong>about</strong> <strong>life</strong> recently. I’m not usually
a person to journal but I wanted to write my wisdom down on paper so my
daughters can one day read and be inspired. My journaling was inspired by
my interest in finding the reason behind our lives. Since I started my profession
as a youth motivator when I was eighteen, till the height of speaking to
one million inspired individuals, my mind was wired to find the reason behind
our lives and what separated the unhappy between the truly happy people.
I’ve connected with hundreds of youths and adults of all ages, numerous parents,
grandparents, single people, principals, teachers, and various individuals
of every kind across North America over the past eighteen years. I gathered
hard facts <strong>about</strong> what made them tick in <strong>life</strong>. Through deep connectional
conversations I was able to pull pertinent details to understand what brings
the average person to finding true happiness. My conversations with them
led me to understand that happiness can be generated by anyone despite
race, religious beliefs, or anyone who’s experienced a serious setback in <strong>life</strong>.
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<strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; happiness is a very tough nut to crack. It comes filled with every
characteristic you can think of. It’s extremely complex. And, each of us are
different when it comes to finding true lasting happiness. But, the wisdom
I’ll share in the next hundred pages harnesses everything you need to ensure
your own happiness. My journal entries contain pertinent <strong>life</strong> lessons that
you too can apply in your own <strong>life</strong> to gain optimal happiness. Rather than
a typical journal, each entry is more so a discussion based on theory and
opinion. <strong>The</strong>y’re not specific to any religion, nor are they bias towards any
specific culture or sex. All you need to do is apply these lessons into your
daily regimen. I suggest you implement one lesson every two weeks for a
full year. You can start right now, with lesson one – a lesson on materialism.
My experience doesn’t come from the typical educational background of
degrees and study books. It comes from over a decade and a half of hard
efforts in the field of motivation. My experience has led me to motivate

over one million youth in the Nation; focusing on encouragement and leading
youth to make healthy choices in <strong>life</strong>. In doing so, I understood that <strong>life</strong>
isn’t a physical game. It’s all psychological.
Over 90% of the entire world population aren’t living an optimum <strong>life</strong>style
congruent to their values. <strong>The</strong> most important lesson I learned
in my own pursuit to finding ideal happiness is that when your thoughts
are congruent with your values and beliefs amazing things happen and
your <strong>life</strong> becomes more enjoyable. But, with all the hustle and bustle, the
busyness of our lives, and the complexity of it all, our thoughts become
weaker because we don’t always choose the best most thought-out decisions
for our lives. When we make improper decisions, we surround ourselves
around negative influences, or we decline to promote ourselves
to living happier. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; if you choose to find the positive in every
given situation you’ll start to see <strong>life</strong> through a much healthier perspective.
<strong>The</strong>re’s always positive within any given situation, including the negative.
When you accept this your perspective of reality will become clear
and positive and you’ll grasp onto what you once thought was impossible.
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Often times, this kind of motivation isn’t always absorbed properly and efficiently
because it all sounds like hogwash. Honestly, some of it sounds imaginative
and hokey. But, I assure you if you even give it a second thought to
<strong>moving</strong> forward and applying the lessons I’ve written; if you allow it to absorb
into your conscience and actually make a simple effort to apply each lesson
into your own <strong>life</strong> you’ll be a more confident and happier individual overall.
My story: After graduating from high school and losing a dear friend of
mine in my adolescence, I started speaking to high school students gearing
towards making healthy choices. In my years as a motivator, my message
has broadened to helping teenagers find their passion and how to
find abundant happiness. During my career, I’ve spoken in nearly six hundred
high school gymnasiums, auditoriums and classrooms. In the midst
of all this I’ve learned some incredible <strong>life</strong> lessons that I believe are essential
to living abundantly. All of which I wish to share with you today, in
hopes that it’ll help you be more in tune with your own ideal happiness.

Imagine what <strong>life</strong> would be like if you knew everything you needed to know
to become happier. I know that sounds great and all, but this wisdom is surely
something very few actually commit to and try to find because they’ve
either heard it before but tried and failed, or because someone they trust
stood in their way of accomplishing happiness, or they don’t give it a chance
because it sounds ridiculous - that we control our own reality. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is;
you are in charge of your <strong>life</strong>. You can choose to commit yourself to finding
true abundant happiness. I will prove the path to get there, you just need to
take the first step.
You’d be impressed with how many lives this very information has helped
move forward towards a happier more fulfilling <strong>life</strong>style. People of all ages
and different walks of <strong>life</strong> actually. I’ve written a series of <strong>life</strong> lessons that I
believe everyone should learn and apply in their own <strong>life</strong>time. All of which
are included in the pages to follow. Each lesson is a stepping stone of the
path I will lay out for you. Honestly, when you incorporate this <strong>life</strong> knowledge
into your daily regimen you’ll endorse a new positive perspective of
reality which will entice you to make positive change towards a new <strong>life</strong>style;
the one you’ve been waiting to live for many years.
I started journaling to gain a clearer perspective of my own reality. In fact,
much of the motivation I teach to teenagers refers to gaining a meditative
and clear state of mind. I believe that in order to achieve what you want
in <strong>life</strong> you need to gain a very clear perspective of what you actually want.
That’s really the first step. When you have a clear perspective the next step
is to gain a belief that it can happen. Without either it simply will not happen.
With a dedicated mindset towards your vision, you’re destined to live
out your fantasies. <strong>The</strong> problem I’ve found, even in my own <strong>life</strong>, is that it’s
extremely difficult to continue the belief process because of our daily negative
choices, peer-pressure from loved ones, our weaker traits seem to get
in our way, or our negative influences steer us on a different path. My goal is
to help you achieve a more interesting and positive perspective of your own
reality so you can actually live out your dreams, rather than letting them eat
away at your conscience.
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I personally handpicked forty-two <strong>life</strong> lessons from the heap of writing I’ve
journaled over the past six years. Everything you’ll read in the next

one hundred pages is designed for you to absorb and reflect within your own
<strong>life</strong> experiences. I believe that we all learn the same <strong>life</strong> lessons, just in different
form, but not everyone learns what they need to move forward in a positive
direction. Consider this <strong>life</strong> knowledge as a new modern way of viewing reality.
You’ll be glad you incorporated these lessons because your <strong>life</strong> will change
in the most positively profound ways. I assure you you’ll notice small positive
changes daily almost immediately when these lessons become habitual.
I believe each of these <strong>life</strong> lessons are pertinent to living an optimal <strong>life</strong>.
Sometimes our lives aren’t congruent to our ambitions because one or more
characteristics (such as the ones written in these pages) aren’t properly
balanced. Each lesson in this journal is packed with a clear perspective to
help you achieve your goals and become truly happy in <strong>life</strong>. I learned these
<strong>life</strong> lessons in the first 35 years of my <strong>life</strong>, and now I wish to share them
with you so you don’t wait too late in <strong>life</strong> to experience them for yourself.
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Some of these lessons may seem like common knowledge whereas others
will surprise you because they contradict what you were taught from your
influences as you grew older. <strong>The</strong> best way to read this journal is to clear
your mind of anything you’ve learned in the past. Read with an open mind.
In fact, it’s been proven that many of the things we’ve learned in the regular
school curriculum aren’t fully <strong>truth</strong>ful, nor do they offer the best most favorable
approach to any specific <strong>life</strong> experience. <strong>The</strong> lessons within these pages
are guaranteed to make you happier. Over seventeen years of hard direct
research specializing specifically on what triggers happiness proves they will
catapult your <strong>life</strong> much like the thousands of mindsets I’ve already influenced
in a positive manner. All you need is your own inspiration and willpower
to incorporate them into your <strong>life</strong> for a more profound <strong>life</strong> experience.
<strong>The</strong>se <strong>life</strong> lessons will amuse you to look further into yourself to make
a positive difference. Doing so will not only increase your own happiness
but it will increase the happiness of your loved ones as well. <strong>The</strong>re’s
<strong>truth</strong> in the statement; when you excel in your own <strong>life</strong> your loved ones
will too. This statement ring true because you’re only able to help others
when your mindset is nourished. When your mindset is malnourished
it doesn’t allow for any growth. You’re unable to help others believe in

themselves when you don’t believe in yourself. I promise you an exponential
<strong>life</strong> revelation will happen if you apply one of these <strong>life</strong> lessons every two
weeks for a next year. If you open your mind to absorb each lesson, and stay
dedicated to applying them into your own <strong>life</strong>, your <strong>life</strong> will change further
than anything you’re living now.
I’ve worked 28 different jobs in my <strong>life</strong> to date since the age of thirteen.
Some of these opportunities were merely to pay the bills, while others were
grueling odd jobs or short-lived careers. Only one of these opportunities
transpired through passion – my role as a <strong>motivational</strong> speaker. In the realm
of all this, each opportunity served a different type of pay structure, taught
me different things and gave me a different level of satisfaction. Some opportunities
provided more extravagant <strong>life</strong>styles, whereas others were more
of setbacks. Each one however provided <strong>life</strong> lessons which is really what <strong>life</strong>
is all <strong>about</strong>. In the aftermath of it all, I realized I wasn’t happier with more
money or more of anything other than love from my family and myself. I
can’t wait to share with you all the other <strong>life</strong> lessons I learned in the process.
I’ve surely lived enough experiences to realize that everything happens for a
reason. Through living and chasing my ambitions I’ve also understood how
to properly utilize the law of attraction; the single most important characteristic
in the realm. <strong>The</strong> Law of Attraction is the belief that your thoughts
equal reality; meaning when you think negative thoughts you experience
negative realities. Vice versa for the positive. I’ve personally used it to create
a healthier perspective of my own reality. This is yet another characteristic
in the happiness realm.
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Another realization I came to was that we are all the same in this game of
Life. We all harness the same amount of potential, we experience the same
amount of negativity and we all generate the same amount of opportunity.
Even though we look different, have different beliefs and are brought up in
different families, we all harness the exact same components. We all have
the same amount of capability. It’s just shown to us differently, experienced
through different mediums. Although we may seem different in so many
ways, we are all the same breed of species.

Those who choose to utilize their talents and believe in their ambitions; those
who have a desire for more happiness in their lives; and, those who have
an interest in seeking their own true potential; these are truly the happiest
people on the planet. <strong>The</strong>se people create a positive environment where
happiness runs through their veins because they’ve chosen to eliminate the
negativity that surrounds them by focusing on the positive. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; we
all experience the negative. We all make poor choices from time to time. We
all wither in own self-pity on occasion. We all get ashamed of things, and
become resentful of our experiences, and, we’ve all hurt someone in the
making of it all. <strong>The</strong>se are merely just a part of our similarities. All of this gets
intertwined in our perspective of how we see the environment around us. It
really is all <strong>about</strong> perspective. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; we live the thoughts we perceive
in our mind. Your fate, your reality, your <strong>life</strong> experiences are all a reflection
of the choices you made last week.
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My realizations have enlisted a whole realm of self-help practices that I’ve
personally used in my own <strong>life</strong>. In fact, everything you’re <strong>about</strong> to test (within
these pages) has already been thoroughly tested myself and have also
been shared and helped an incredible amount of people of all ages across
North America already. Teenagers, adults, teachers, parents and the like.
This message is geared to anyone that truly wants to live a more fulfilling <strong>life</strong>.
It’s really at the tip of your fingertips. You simply need to make one choice;
to choose something more than you’re currently experiencing. And, to stay
committed in doing so by applying these values into your current regimen.
<strong>The</strong>se <strong>life</strong> lessons aren’t in any specific order. You may choose to sporadically
flip from page to page at your own leisure, or read it like a regular book, flipping
the pages in order. I assure you there are valuable tidbits of information
in each paragraph I’ve written. <strong>The</strong> final lesson ties in everything I’ve written
in this entire multi-lesson. I’ve even enlisted some of my <strong>motivational</strong> poetry
to keep you entertained. I hope this knowledge inspires you to be the best
you possibly can be, like I believe you can be.
Word of advice: It’s beneficial to write your own journal. Hard <strong>truth</strong> has been
uncovered that’s proven incredible mental growth for those who write consistently
in a journal. Writing increases mental capacity, it acts as incredible
encouragement and breeds inspiration. <strong>The</strong>re are plenty of benefits that you
can experience just by picking up a pen.
Read on!

<strong>The</strong>re’s absolutely
no way to be content
with a mindset that’s
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soiled by
negativity.

Jan 7, 2017
How Important Is Money & Materialism
When I ask people what serves their happiness I usually get this type of response:
my job, the money I make, how many possessions I can attain, generally
something materialistic. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; neither money nor possessions
are pertinent to our happiness. Money and materialism doesn’t serve any
true lasting meaning in our lives, other than money to cover the necessities
- shelter, food, education, etc. After that money and materialistic things only
serve as an illusion of happiness in our imagination.
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This I know because I’ve witnessed the dissatisfaction in the eyes of people
after their favourite purchases through the years, including my own. <strong>The</strong>y
would anticipate their happiness upon buying something that promised
satisfaction on television, only to become disappointed after they already
swiped their credit card.
Buyers remorse: Happiness runs through the veins of consumers in the aisles
of the big box stores. But as they make their purchase they soon realize it
isn’t what they imagined (it never is), or it’s so poorly made that it breaks
right in front of them and they have to soak more money into it, meanwhile
they regret buying it in the first place. Sometimes consumers feel the remorse
of their purchases before they even leave the store.
People who have all the latest gadgets, the huge homes, the four car garages,
the highest paying jobs and the most materialistic garbage are usually
the ones that are the most dissatisfied. Materialism only fills the void of our
unhappiness.
I’ve been taught through my own <strong>life</strong> lessons to live without the latest gadgets
because they only add stress and depreciate with time. I guess it all
depends on your own individual perspective. How important is it to you?
Your answer will help you clarify the meaning of your <strong>life</strong>. When you learn
to appreciate what you already have and succumb less to your greediness
you’ll understand that happiness can’t be bought in a store.

I think everyone has to experience an understanding of materialism in their
own way because we don’t all want the same physical things or see <strong>life</strong> with
the same terms.
Some people get addicted to materialism and always need to have the latest
and the new. Some compete with their friends and neighbours for it. It’s
really weird how far someone will go to reap it. <strong>The</strong> damages of materialism
cannot always be taught immediately because the commercials on television
make us seem like we’re naked without them.
Society has led us to believe that materialistic things, higher paying jobs, and
a number of physical possessions define us as individuals. This couldn’t be
further from the <strong>truth</strong>.
Exercise: Part 1 - Make a point to go to a nearby shopping mall in the few
days. As you roam the hallways and stores be sure to pay attention to how
attached people are to their purchases. Note how long they take making a
decision. Pay attention to how quickly they shop, or how routine they are
with their roaming. Be sure to reflect on their facial expressions as the cash
register rounds their total or when they hand over their credit card to be
swiped.
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Part 2 - In the meantime, do your absolute best to refrain from making any
purchases. Go ahead and window shop as much as you like, but refrain from
buying anything, no matter how bad you think you need/want it.
As you conclude your mall outing be sure to write your thoughts down <strong>about</strong>
the experience in your journal.

Humans have the best
quality – observation
of their own happiness,
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yet they fail to use
their second best trait –
willpower to make it
happen.

Oct 3, 2016
Eliminating Habits
I spent over a thousand hours in my thirties questioning habits and addictions.
In doing so, I came to some incredible realizations. First of all, it’s quite
difficult to eliminate any given habit because we are addicted to the shortterm
satisfaction it serves us. <strong>The</strong> problem is; the severity of the negative
effects that are attached to them worsen over time, but we fail to see the
negatives because our addiction to it serves us satisfaction each time we
adhere to it. When you succumb to even the simplest habit it makes it extremely
difficult to even consider getting rid of it because your mind has
been hardwired to seek pleasure in <strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong> short-term satisfaction you experience
acts as an illusion of happiness.
Regardless of your addictions and habits they’re weighing you down and
blindfolding you to the actual happiness that you fail to seek; the type of
happiness that’s long lasting and measurable, like quality time spent with
loved ones, and the pleasures that don’t come with heavy temptations.
<strong>The</strong> most fascinating tidbit I learned in the process was that no habit/addiction
is any more powerful than another. <strong>The</strong>y’re all just as damaging as each
other.
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We judge our habits based on the severity of our own opinions <strong>about</strong> them,
but our opinions aren’t accurate because they’re merely based on shortterm
satisfaction and defined by the opinions of other people.
<strong>The</strong> reality is; an addiction to food is just as bad as an addiction to heroin or
any other street drug. Both do damage to your esteem, <strong>life</strong>style and livelihood.
You cannot place any specific addiction higher on the ladder of naughtiness.
Period. <strong>The</strong>y’re all just as damaging to your psyche.
Eliminating your addictions and habits can be made fun. You can play a
game against them.
Here’s a suggestion that I’ve personally found has worked wonders in eliminating
habits.

Leverage against them
Our habits and addictions can be extremely difficult to get rid of, especially
because they’re usually replaced with another negative habit when we try
and get rid of them. I believe if you put enough on the line when you’re in
the elimination process you’ll be able to fade away any given habit. Your
mindset and willpower is all you need. You need your mind to really believe
it’s toxic. That’s the first step.
Next. When kicking any habit you need to weigh just as much leverage against
it in the opposite direction. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; you’re not trying to eliminate the
habit, you’re trying to change your mentality <strong>about</strong> it. This will encourage
habitual psychological patterns.
Write down your daily routine.
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It’s been proven that recording your daily activities can act as inspiration to
make positive change. We all fall into such instances where we’ve developed
a habit without even realizing it because it was just a part of our everyday
exercises. We overlooked the habit, or we failed to recognize it as something
habitual because it fell into the ordinary. When you record (write down) activities
such as meals you’ve eaten, workout regimen, or really anything you
do habitually on a daily basis, this will help you recognize and understand
your habit(s) a lot clearer. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; most of us are oblivious to 90 percent
of our habits because they’re so normal to us. Often times it takes someone
else mentioning it for us to perceive a developed habit. When you write
something down on paper it help paint a picture in your mind. It lays out
the foundation to the change you need to succumb to in order to live with
abundant happiness.
Our habits generate twice as much power each time we succumb to them.
But, they decrease three times as much every time we fail to succumb to
their temptations. Every time you fight against their will your willpower to
achieving happiness will be magnified.

<strong>The</strong> “cheat day” approach
This is a great exercise to help assist you with writing your daily activities. It
will help you pay clearer attention to your habits and unwanted activities.
Food is a great incentive. It’s something we can all relate to, and it’s the easiest
way to encourage you to stay on track to a healthier regimen. I wanted
to keep financial cheat days out of the realm because the whole premises in
this journal to help you understand that the physical characteristics aren’t
important in the realm of finding happiness.
A cheat day happens once a week (usually on Sundays). It’s where you’re
able to delve into any of your cravings. It usually includes ice cream, chocolate
and other tasty fetishes. It’s not meant to delve heavily into your addictions
like smoking cigarettes, alcohol or drug abuse.
A cheat day is meant to be earned as a privilege, not a right. You need to
set your mindset to move forward with healthy daily habits rather than
succumbing to your temptations of your addictions and habits. In doing so,
you’re setting yourself up for a more rewarding and enjoyable cheat day.
And, it leads to a happier <strong>life</strong>style too.
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Here’s how it goes
Example: Starting Monday morning through the rest of the week. If (for example)
your addiction is coffee - for every time you skip a cup of coffee you
get to add an item to your cheat day list. Once you get to five items you get
to start adding points to the list. But, if you succumb to drinking a cup of coffee
through the week you’ll need to erase an item from the list, or delete a
point of your progression. You’ll need to keep track of your activity using the
points system. At the end of the week you’ll either be in the positive or the
negative. Being in the positive allows you to indulge in a much more satisfying
cheat day. A negative number means you’ll have to wait till next week to
earn another cheat day.
It starts to get really interesting when you add all your habits in the mix. Over
fifty percent of our daily activities are actually habits. We just don’t realize it
until we take the initiative to write our daily activities down on paper. You’ll
notice when you pay more active attention towards your daily activities

you’ll start to unfold many habits you didn’t even realize existed. For example,
you may see that your spending habits are out of control with simple pleasures
like buying junk food through the workdays, or data over usage from
scrolling your news feed too often. Each of these habits are draining to your
psyche. <strong>The</strong>y persuade you in the opposite direction of happiness. Remember,
every habit, no matter how severe you place it on the ladder of naughtiness,
it is damaging to you and your <strong>life</strong>long approach to finding happiness.
This activity allows you to weigh the differences between a <strong>life</strong> lived
with habits and without, and it actually allows you to apply your mindset
against your habits throughout the week. It’s also a great way for you
to keep track of when your habits arise and how often you succumb to
them, so you can witness first-hand how negatively they’re affecting your
<strong>life</strong>. You have no idea how positive your <strong>life</strong>style will change by doing so.
Some cheat day items you might consider adding to your list:
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Chocolate bar, ice cream cone, pizza, pop, a trip to your favorite restaurant,
a glass of wine, a bag of chips, a small bag of candy, extra bacon,
French fries, cinnamon bun, brownies, cookies… I think you get the idea.

Happiness makes a
point to block all
the negativity in
your <strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong>
bigger your
smile the
better
your
<strong>life</strong>style.
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A Quick Explanation Of Karma
Dec 20, 2016
Karma acts in the same way as your bank account. When you’re in the positive
you’re happy but if you’re in the overdraft you’ll instantly be dissatisfied.
I’ve been studying Karma and it’s affects for years, and based on what I’ve
learned from my own decisions is this. It’s like clockwork - always on time
and nearly perfect. What goes around comes around is the best way to explain
its effect in your <strong>life</strong>. If you do good for others/society good things
will come back to you. If however you do negative against someone or
society the opposite will happen – you’ll reap nothing but negativity.
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This I believe is also applied to the quality of time we spend with others.
If you don’t actively participate and spend quality time with other
people your karma account will be deducted. Thus, taking initiative to
spend quality time with others will increase your karma account as well.
<strong>The</strong> positive side of Karma is magnified because positivity is more powerful
than its counterpart. This should act as encouragement to be the best you
can be all the time. When you do good for society you’ll attract better people
and bigger opportunities into your <strong>life</strong>. If however your actions are constantly
filled with negative choices your <strong>life</strong> will be a reciprocating ball of negativity.
Everything comes back to you in equal effect
Karma is similar to your bank account. If you do good for society the universe
will make a deposit into your Karma account. But if you do something
negative (depending on the severity) the universe will withdraw
from your Karma account. It’s worth doing your best to ensure your Karma
account is in the positive. You never know when you’ll need the funds.
<strong>The</strong> best way to increase your Karma account is to do random
acts of kindness for someone, anyone. It doesn’t even matter
if the person knows your intention; if you follow through on doing
right for them it will be accounted for in the bank of Karma.

Examples of Simple Random Acts of Kindness
- Shovel someone’s driveway without them knowing
- Pay for someone’s expiring parking meter while they’re in the
store
- Say something nice to a complete stranger
- Help someone that’s in need of assistance without asking
- Take some time out of your day to listen to someone’s troubles.
Actually listen and be a guiding support
- Hold the door open for everyone behind you
- Write a heartfelt card and give it to someone; anyone.
- Go out of your way to attend a sports game of a friend you
haven’t seen in a while, or a nephew, or anyone.
You’ll be amazed how one simple act of random kindness can
go. It makes the person who receives it change their perspective
to a more positive one right away. Plus, it adds funds to your
Karma account. <strong>The</strong> more Karma funds the happier you’ll be.
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<strong>The</strong> quicker you’re able to eliminate ill
feelings from the past, the quicker you’ll
be able to move on as a happier soul.

Sep 12, 2016
What Will You Say When You’re Seventy?
When I was younger I quite frequently imagined myself as a seventy yearold
man sitting in a rocking chair. As I rocked back and forth I pondered
my accomplishments; wondering if I worked hard enough at achieving
an optimal <strong>life</strong>style. I have always questioned if I took advantage
of living. I’m not sure if these thoughts made me work harder at achieving
everything on my bucket list, or if it inspired me to enjoy my <strong>life</strong>
more. Either way, it made me contemplate what true happiness really is.
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It seemed like every two weeks I was changing my mind; fulfilling whatever
my mind told me to work on. I was frustrated because I couldn’t make up
my mind. Happiness seemed so distant and difficult to accomplish at times.
Now, as a thirty-five year old man, I ponder the same questions. But this
time I feel less frustrated because I’ve already accomplished a better <strong>life</strong>
than I once imagined. Although I once thought an ideal <strong>life</strong>style once consisted
of money, fame and materialistic things, my experiences have led me to
understand that the true meaning of happiness doesn’t include any of this.
I’m truly content with my <strong>life</strong> today because I chose to fulfill my passions
early in <strong>life</strong>. I didn’t procrastinate regardless of the obstacles that
stood in my way, and I didn’t allow fear to run my decisions. I just went
for it. In fact, I was always passionately working on some type of project;
whatever my mind told me to work on. Although the constant
change frustrated me, my progression helped me become the best I
could be because I didn’t procrastinate. It encouraged me to enjoy <strong>life</strong>
more than the rest. And it erased any possibility of feeling resentment.
Going for it all when I was younger has allowed me to appreciate all the
other opportunities in my <strong>life</strong> outside of work/passion like my children and
wife. And now, as a father of two wonderful children I’ve enlisted my focus
on being the best possible parent I can be with less focus on work and
without the strain of a the less accomplished <strong>life</strong> I used to worry <strong>about</strong>.

My <strong>life</strong> has been filled with all different kinds of achievements over the
years. But, as I look back, I realize these aren’t important to anybody else
but myself. This fact led me to believe that the type of happiness we all
long for only exists within our relationships with other people, including our
friends, family and those we choose to spend our days with. Definitely not
something you can buy in a store.
I’m blessed to experience <strong>life</strong> through my own eyes without the materialistic
values I grew up believing was important. I am happier todaythan ever before.
I have excellent friends, a refreshed perspective of reality and my days
are spent with great people. And, although I’m only half the age of 70 I am
blessed to be able to say that I’m content with the <strong>life</strong> that was served to
me. I will continue to see the positive in my experiences as I move forward
because I’ve learned that <strong>life</strong> is a beautiful thing.
Moral of the story: Don’t wait too long to fulfill your passions. Take the opportunity
right now to complete a few tasks you’ve been meaning to get
at for years. Kickstart your imagination. When you’re sitting in your rocking
chair at 70 you’re going to be asking yourself these exact same questions.
What will your answers be?
What will your answers be?
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Sometimes it’s important to
take an inventory of your <strong>life</strong>
and your current <strong>life</strong>style to
see if you’re in
line with your ambitions.
Have you done that lately?

<strong>The</strong>re’s Always Someone Going
Through A Lot Worse Than You
Jul 14, 2011
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Take some time to think <strong>about</strong> some of the negative things your friends,
family and colleagues are going through currently. I’m sure you’ll realize
there are people in your direct circle that are going through something a lot
worse than your currently experiencing. I know <strong>life</strong> gets difficult at times but
just knowing there’s someone going through a far worse situation makes all
the difference sometimes. Life isn’t always positive. <strong>The</strong>re’s ups and downs,
trials and triumphs and everything in between. <strong>The</strong>se are pertinent to understanding
<strong>life</strong> and its importance. Each struggle we experience is also an
opportunity to make positive change for ourselves. It’s really all <strong>about</strong> perspective.
Nothing worthwhile comes without some kind of fight, so strap on your
boxing gloves and fight the obstacles standing in your way. Sometimes your
biggest obstacle is your own mindset. <strong>The</strong> quicker you can accept the situation,
the easier you can move on with a smile. <strong>The</strong>re always someone going
through a more difficult situation than you, no matter what situation you’re
going through.

Challenge yourself
today to eliminate
the negativity that
clouds your mind.
When a negative
thought pops into
your mind replace it
with a thought
the puts a smile on
your face.
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Apr 16, 2011
To Be A Child Again
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Often times I watch movies or hear songs that refer to being a child again.
At which point I imagine what it would be like to be a toddler, a 10-year-old,
or an adolescent again. At first, I ponder all the wonderful things they get to
experience, like less responsibilities, more imagination, and they seem to be
happier people. Sometimes my thoughts make me sad that my childhood is
over, but then my recollection of the troubles I went through back then, the
extreme lows and all the learning experiences I had to go through to understand
<strong>life</strong> as clearly as I do today. If I were a child once again this would mean
I’d have to go through all of this all over again which isn’t very appealing to
me. This would also mean that I’d have to re-accomplish all of the things
that made me who I am today which I have zero interest in doing either. As
I ponder the statement – to be a child once again, I can surely say that I am
content with being the 35-year-old self that I am today.
Life is all <strong>about</strong> perspective. My perspective is filled with wonderful children,
a beautiful wife, wonderful accomplishments, amazing talents and a lot of
love and fun. I don’t need to be a child again to experience any of this.
What perspectives of adulthood trump your childhood?
Happiness is only one small decision away.
What small decision am I talking <strong>about</strong>?
Deciding to tap into your spirituality;
finding yourself

Jun 11, 2014
HAPPINESS is congruent to
your values and beliefs and the
decisions you make on a daily
basis
Happiness comes and goes based on the quality of people you bring into
it, and by the choices you make each day. You’ll notice that your happiness
changes from day to day. Healthier choices and surrounding yourself with
more positive people will make you a happier person. Period.
Nobody is 100% happy all the time. Regardless if you have all the money in
the world, if you have healthy children and you’re healthy yourself, or you
have the best career possible, there’s still plenty of mishaps and miss-fortune
to experience regardless of where you are in <strong>life</strong>. During our difficult
stages is when happiness is lost because the difficult times harness stress
and discomfort. It is during the difficult times when your <strong>life</strong> clarity starts to
unfold. <strong>The</strong>re is actually a lot of positive learning experiences within each of
our negative experiences. You just need to search for them. But, who actually
searches for the good when bad things happen? Happier people do.
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Most think happiness is only accessible to the elite; the ones with the most
power and the most money, or the most materialistic things; when, in actuality,
it doesn’t take any of this to become truly happy. Often times, it’s
the exact opposite actually. <strong>The</strong> people with the least become the happiest
because they don’t have any materialistic things to break down on them.
<strong>The</strong>y’re not in competition with anyone else for more of anything either. As
long as you’re healthy and have a positive mindset you have the criteria to
fulfil your own happiness.
Happiness is a state of mind. It’s not an external force or something you
can buy. It’s something that only comes from within. You have the ability to
harness exponential happiness all the time. You just need to decide to open
your heart, let go of your frustrations and appreciate what you already have.
You will soon start to see what I’m talking <strong>about</strong> when you realize that even
the elite are unhappy people.

Exercise: Take some time to reflect on your habitual daily choices. Pay attention
to how your choices reflect the quality of your <strong>life</strong>. Write down any
activities you do regularly that act as road blocks to achieving happiness.
Are you spending too much time pursuing activities incongruent with your
happiness? How do these activities reflect your values and beliefs? Are they
getting you closer to ideal happiness, or are they standing in your way from
achieving the <strong>life</strong>style you wish for?
Often times we don’t realize we harness an issue until we actually unfold it
for ourselves. This exercise takes some deep thinking and brainstorming, but
even a slight focus on it will enable you to free yourself from limiting beliefs
and habits. Sometimes it only takes a couple of tweaks to pursue a happier
<strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong>re’s a good chance you only need to remove a couple incongruent
habits or even a slight perspective change to waiver a happier <strong>life</strong>.
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Imagine your daily routine in your mind. Which activities bring happiness?
Which ones are straining you from achieving an ideal <strong>life</strong>style? Write them
down. Create a list of the unfavorable activities, and decide to eliminate
them one at a time simply by being aware of them.

Chose to let go of what’s been
holding you back in <strong>life</strong>. Most likely
it’s an experience that really has
no validity in your <strong>life</strong> anymore.
You are an entirely new and different
person since that very experience.
It’s time to let go of your
emotional
attachment to it.
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It’s All In <strong>The</strong> Way You Look At It
Feb 22, 2010
Think of <strong>life</strong> in an environment outside of regular society. I mean outside
of the hustle-and-bustle and the traffic jams. Focus your thoughts on the
less domesticated version of reality. Hold that thought. It’s interesting to see
what comes to mind when you step outside of the ordinary.
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It’s been debated time and time again that freedom is an illusion; meaning
that freedom doesn’t exist. This thought is based on the fact that society as
a whole forces us to live a certain way. We have to live in certain neighbourhoods,
report our earnings and modifications to the Government. We have
to pay taxes and work certain jobs to make ends meet at the expense of our
advanced society. We are governed by laws and exclusions that hold us back
from doing what we want to do. It all gets intertwined into the breakdown
that freedom is an illusion. I guess it all comes down to your own perspective
and how you want to see your <strong>life</strong>. Some see it as a torturous place filled
with negativity, whereas others see it as an incredible opportunity.
Bring back the image you had of the less modernized society and compare
it with your current reality. Looking at <strong>life</strong> from two different perspectives –
the one with all the hustle and bustle, and the one surrounded with trees in
the wilderness, you’ll see there are pros and cons to each of them.
<strong>The</strong>re’s always something positive you can take from any negative situation.
And vice versa. It all depends on your perspective and what you do <strong>about</strong> it.
Let’s take a look at some examples of what I’m talking <strong>about</strong>.
Pros versus cons in a modernized world: Pros include more people to socialize
with, more possible friends, more opportunity, more activities to pursue,
and the like. Cons include more stress, less connection to the wilderness,
less quiet, fast-paced and overcomplicated, etc. <strong>The</strong>re are plenty of Pros and
Cons within every situation you experience. It really all depends on the way
you perceive each situation.
Is freedom an illusion to you? I believe freedom is granted to those who acknowledge
it. It’s given to those who admire it and want to experience it. It’s
also given to those who have no idea <strong>about</strong> the actual concept itself. In fact,
it’s available to anyone with a positive state of mind.

You don’t need
to know
every twist
and turn on your
path to success.
As long as you
understand
WHY
you’re doing it
you’ll be
successful.
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Over Thinking Is Harmful
Jan 29, 2017
It’s been proven that overthinking causes negative effects on your mind and
body. It’s actually causes quite a bit of stress. Stress is never good for anyone.
We all battle with overthinking from time to time. Most of us battle
with it daily actually. It’s something that just comes in this busy
fast-paced society that we live in. It often seems like our minds are
pushed to the extreme, overloaded with complexity and never turned
off from the troubles and pressures of reality. This makes for an overworked
mindset which causes chaos and high stress in our lives.
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I never realized how busy my mind was until I tried to meditate. I wasn’t
in yoga class. I definitely wasn’t wearing yoga pants. I was in the shower.
That’s where I do a lot of my intense thinking. It’s actually the only
place I can get peace and quiet, where my wife isn’t enlisting me in any
do-it-yourself projects around the house, or the kids aren’t screaming
in my ear. Come to think of it, the shower is my man cave. It’s the
place that allows me to take a deep breath and digest my thoughts.
Anyway. Getting back to my meditation. No matter how far I tried to force
my mind from stopping its cycle of thoughts I just couldn’t do it. I challenged
myself to stop thinking; to have a clear mind, free of any thought
for even just 60 seconds, but it felt nearly impossible. I tried over and
over again, but every time I tried I failed. I just couldn’t free my mind
from thought. I mean, I could put away a thought or two here and there
but when it came to complete silence, free from all thought completely,
it just wasn’t happening. I couldn’t believe how difficult this task was.
I then challenged myself to a much simpler goal of clearing my mind for 30 seconds
– half the initial amount, but even that was difficult. Over and over I tried
to clear my mind, for even just 20 to 30 seconds, but the most I could do was 15
seconds. This lesson taught me what the true challenges are in <strong>life</strong> – having a
clear mind free from thought; to stop our minds from over thinking all the time.

I was able to put it into perspective for myself – how bad overthinking affected
my own mind. I knew I was a busy minded individual and that I focus
on multiple tasks each day but I never realized how busy my mind actually is
all time until now. Even multitasking is a form of over thinking. It can cloud
your mind.
When your mind is clouded with thought you miss out on the important
opportunities that are staring your right at you. You fail to see what’s going
on around you. You miss tidbits of important conversations, you miss the fun
times. And you fail to experience the true meaning of living; to find peace
and enjoyment in the moment.
Yoga is one highly recommended way to relax your mind. It’s a great way to
exercise your mind muscles and learn to become one with yourself; to be
spiritual. It also gives you an opportunity to reset your thoughts for more
congruent images related to your values and happiness.
Slooooow your mind down and relieve the stress at least once a day. Take
a walk, try yoga. Whatever you need to slow down the pace of your mind.
You’ll be glad you did.
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What small task could
you go out of your way
for today that would
put a smile on someone
else’s face?

Clear <strong>The</strong> Mechanism –
Mar 28, 2013
When I get upset with <strong>life</strong>’s distractions it often brings me
down. I feel over whelmed and sometimes it takes my esteem
away. When this happens I take some time to refresh my mind.
Here’s what I do: No matter where I am I find a driving range and hit golf
balls. This is the one place where I know I can clear the mechanism; eliminate
all thoughts completely from my mind except for the activity I am pursuing.
If I don’t have my own clubs I’ll rent some and grab a large bucket
of balls. My goal by the end of the session is to master my shot. By the
time I get in my car and get back to <strong>life</strong> my mindset is already at peace.
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What one thing/place/experience will allow you to eliminate
all thoughts completely from your mindset except for the activity
you are pursuing? If you can’t think of one go for a walk in
the wilderness. Nature is often the best way to accomplish this.
Goals are merely a benchmark of what is
possible. It’s important to set your
sights high when trying to achieve any
goal, no matter what it is. But, in the
end, regardless if your goal was met, as
long as you did everything in your power
to achieve it then you were successful.

You Matter!
Nov 16, 2009
<strong>The</strong>se are the only two words you need to absorb at this very moment - “YOU
MATTER!” That’s right, YOU MATTER in more than one way in this world.
Take this time to imagine all the people you’ve made a positive impact on
so far in your <strong>life</strong>. Think back to all the years you’ve lived, and all the people
you’ve come across where you’ve done something that’s put a smile on their
face. You’ll soon see that you were a big part of bringing happiness to other
people quite a few times in your <strong>life</strong>.
Take this exercise even one step further and imagine these people smiling
back at you. I guarantee this will put a smile on your face.
You Matter!
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Don’t let friends, family or anyone
influence your decisions in any negative
way. Every time you succumb to their
peer pressure’s you are going
against your morals, beliefs and
judgments. This is where cowards
and hypocrites come into play;
something you’re not!

Don’t Always Follow <strong>The</strong>
Trend Of Society
Aug 1, 2006
I used to follow the trend of society – thinking that making money was so
important. I saw commercials on the television telling me I needed materialistic
things to be better and to feel better <strong>about</strong> myself. <strong>The</strong> faces on
the actors in these commercials were painted to show me that materialistic
worth was what I needed. In fact, I went to great lengths to accomplish just
this. I traveled far, took unnecessary risks, and pretty much did everything in
my power to make this happen, only to be let down by their promise. Here
is what I realized on my journey.
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After achieving great financial goals, surpassing my own talents and boundaries,
and pursuing nearly everything on my bucket list, I’ve come to realize
that our happiness resides in our experiences - the time we spend with loved
ones. It’s developed in our relationships with others, through exhilarating
experiences and through our family and social interactions, not through materialism
or fancy things.
No millionaire has ever said that money is the root of their happiness because
they’re forced to see beyond the perspective of necessity.
Exercise: Part 1 - Write down ten to twenty experiences that don’t require
much money to fulfil that you can participate with your friends or family
members that would bring happiness. <strong>The</strong>se include activities like fishing,
barbequing in the back yard, canoeing, hunting, going for a long walk, etc.
All of which don’t require much financial obligation on your part. List ten
to twenty different activities like these; activities you feel comfortable and
excited to participate in.
Part 2: Be proactive. Go out of your way to ask three to five different friends
or family members to participate in some of these activities with you. Stop
procrastinating. You’ve been telling yourself for years you were going to fulfil
some of these on the list. Go ahead and make it a reality!

When someone tells you that
you can’t
accomplish something, your
next step should go against
what they just said and
prove them wrong. Often
times, people try to steer you
wrong because they’re jealous
of your ambition. You
are more than what others
say you are!
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How Io I Know What I’m Doing Is
Right For Me?
Feb 26, 2010
Let’s say you wake up virtually every morning and repeatedly hit the snooze
bar while dreading to get out of bed every day. Every thought you host towards
your work is weighing you down with sadness. You hate your coworkers,
every one of them. You dread hearing your boss’ voice. And, you wish
you could move away from it all. I would say you should make a change and
find something different. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; this is reality for most of us.
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Statistics show that less than 10% of us actually enjoy our day jobs. Most of
us work the same bland routine job over and over again for years without
ever flinching for change. We choose nothing different because we’re comfortable.
We see our friends doing the exact same thing which makes living
in mediocrity easier. <strong>The</strong>n, at the end of our lives we question ourselves; if
we made the right choices. It’s a never ending cycle amongst humanity.
<strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; over 90% of the elderly wish they had have experienced more
and taken more risks in <strong>life</strong>. Some of the biggest regrets amongst those on
their deathbed: I wish I had have switched careers earlier. And, I wish I had
have accepted change easier.
What are you going to say when you’re considered elderly? Are you going to
be satisfied with the choices you made?
Exercise: Part 1 - Write down five things you feel you know you’ll regret if
you never achieve in your youth? <strong>The</strong>se are things like running a marathon,
playing an active sport, climbing a mountain, sky-diving; things you normally
cannot pursue when your body is too old to achieve.
Part 2 – Reflect on those five things and make a plan to fit those experiences
into your current regimen. <strong>The</strong>re’s absolutely no point in procrastinating
with the important things that you know you’ll regret if you don’t accomplish.

Physical achievements will help excel your progression towards your ultimate
happiness. <strong>The</strong>y inspire and encourage you to continue doing what you
love in <strong>life</strong> like fulfilling passionate experiences. Doing physical activities that
excite you will help you feel alive again. <strong>The</strong>y motivate you to get rid of the
negative aspects in your <strong>life</strong> like the crappy job or relationship you got yourself
into. You’ll know if you’re on the right path when it feels right. If it feels
awkward give it an honest try. If it still doesn’t feel right turn your direction
around and try something else.
Live your <strong>life</strong> like you play a board game.
Make calculated risks, take your time on
each move, be aggressive with each
opportunity, be assertive with every decision
you come across, and enjoy the ride.
Just don’t follow your friend’s footsteps.
Make your own!
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Jul 12, 2015
Life is so complex, it’s no wonder why
neither of us has a perfect one
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Think <strong>about</strong> it, there’s literally a plethora of different characteristics to our
lives. It’s tough to focus on one specific characteristic at any given time let
alone maintain a balanced <strong>life</strong>style. For example, there’s confidence, motivation,
determination, willpower, work ethic, goal setting, <strong>life</strong> planning,
and the list goes on. <strong>The</strong>n there’s our responsibilities – parenting, our jobs
as employees and business owners. And, then we have our wants, desires,
passions and needs. If they aren’t fulfilled then our confidence, motivation,
determination and willpower goes down in the dumps, leading us to an unhealthy
and unbalanced <strong>life</strong>style which only brings us to being unhappy. This
becomes a reciprocating cycle of negativity for many. It’s actually quite common
amongst humanity.
It’s not a wonder that we don’t have perfect lives, the wonder lies in why we
don’t take advantage of these characteristics to live an optimal <strong>life</strong>.
Exercise: Part 1 - List ten characteristics that are already successfully in line
with your values and beliefs, like healthy eating, physical fitness, self-employment,
working at a job you love, enjoyable coworkers, self-motivation,
healthy children, fulfilling relationships, etc. When you list the characteristics
you already have in place it’ll act as encouragement to fulfill the things
that aren’t so congruent to your beliefs and values. It’s all a part of the process
of being happy.
Part 2: List ten characteristics that aren’t so congruent with your values and
beliefs. Things like poor diet, unhealthy relationships, crappy job/working
hours, lack of motivation, lack of interest in <strong>life</strong>, etc. List the things that you
would like to change for the better.

Part 3: Reflect on your writing for no less than thirty minutes. Now focus
on one specific characteristic that you’d like to get rid of or change for the
positive and choose to eliminate it once and for all. This may take days/
weeks/months to achieve, but with each small step you take you’re gaining
a happier <strong>life</strong>.
Once you’ve achieved your goal you can focus on the next one and so on.
It doesn’t matter what you
choose to do with your
<strong>life</strong>, as long as you’re
helping society to be a
better place you’re <strong>moving</strong>
in the right direction.
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Oct 10, 2016
<strong>The</strong> Different Phases Of
Our Lives
One of my favorite times of <strong>life</strong> was in the late 90s. I was in high school. I didn’t
have many responsibilities back then. Although I wasn’t very interested in school
or opportunity I remember having more fun in that stage of my <strong>life</strong> than any
other. My experiences with my friends were what helped garner my happiness.
I’m not saying I’m not having fun at my current stage of my <strong>life</strong>. I’m just
saying that THAT phase of my <strong>life</strong> was one that I remember being the
most enjoyable. I think the lack of responsibility triggered it the most.
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I loved hanging around with my friends and making new ones. I could do
whatever I wanted back then. I could take risks if I wanted because I didn’t
have anyone else to look after but myself. I could go to the grocery store
without having to get my whole family ready for the experience. <strong>The</strong>re were
a variety of things I could do back then that I cannot today. As I look back at
this stage of <strong>life</strong> and compare it to the <strong>life</strong>style I’m currently living I see very
few similarities. Actually, it’s an entirely different <strong>life</strong>. My thoughts are different.
My responsibilities are different. My friends are different. I live a completely
different reality. And, I feel like a completely different person than I
did back then. What’s strange is that my worries are different too, and I don’t
have the same beliefs anymore. My morals and values are different too.
Random fact: Science has taught us that the cells in our body regenerate after
every six years; meaning that we truly are different living beings every six years.
This brings meaning to why the stages of our lives are so different and unique.
Anyway. Each stage of <strong>life</strong> is different. Each phase sends us different people,
new opportunities and different possibilities. Often times it isn’t easy adjusting
to these different phases of our lives. I’ve personally had some difficulties
adjusting to my own <strong>life</strong> changes. Parenthood has brought some difficulties.
Career changes are never easy. And opportunity seems to be limited
lately. It feels like our responsibilities get mixed into one. It also seems like
our days get mixed into each other as well. And, it feels like we don’t have

enough time to get done what’s needed. Bills and finances are even added
to the mix. All of this compounds to make for a stressful period of <strong>life</strong>. But,
there are many positives amongst the mentioned. Those of which we need
to choose to focus our attention on before we lose our mind.
<strong>The</strong> good things in <strong>life</strong> make it worthwhile, obviously. <strong>The</strong> good things are
usually the small things that we often overlook, like time spent with your
children and loved ones, and working on your hobbies. <strong>The</strong> reality is; you’re
the one that chooses whether any given situation is bad or good. This phase
of your <strong>life</strong> may be different than any other but it’s possible it just wants you
to find enjoyment within it. That’s YOUR choice!
Now-a-days my <strong>life</strong>style is filled with kids and kid stuff, that’s pretty much
it. Everything, and yes I mean EVERY part of my <strong>life</strong>style incorporates my
kids. In fact, the majority of my mindset includes thoughts that pertain my
children in some way. I’ve had a difficult time giving away literally three quarters
of my spare time towards them since they’ve been around. <strong>The</strong> first six
months was the most difficult because my previous single <strong>life</strong> allowed for
much more spare time to myself. Although the adjustment came quite tough
to comprehend at first, in the midst of it all I realized the true worth of <strong>life</strong>
came during this stage.
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My mother told me this when I was younger, she said, “I wouldn’t have
changed anything in my <strong>life</strong> because I wouldn’t have my wonderful healthy
children.” It took me literally thirty years to understand how she couldn’t
want a better more fulfilling <strong>life</strong>. It wasn’t until now that I realized my <strong>life</strong> is
much more complete now that my children are a part of it. I can honestly say
that I wouldn’t have changed any part of my <strong>life</strong> either because I have my
wonderful healthy children.
Our lives take us on an emotional roller coaster the entire way. That’s just a
part of the subliminal bill we signed when we entered this <strong>life</strong>time. Once you
can accept your current reality; where you are in your <strong>life</strong>, where you want
to be, and what you need to do to make it come true, then you can start to
make true lasting positive change. Until then you’ll continue to dwell on the
past; something you aren’t anymore.
Exercise: Write down five characteristics in which your current <strong>life</strong>style is
better than any time before. Really put some thought into this exercise and
imagine all the aspects you’re grateful for, or the things you didn’t have in
previous stages of <strong>life</strong>. This will help catapult your vision of happiness.

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Not everyone has the same
intentions as you. Be careful
who you do business with or who
you associate yourself with.
Also, beware who you
share your goals and initiatives
with. Not everyone is supportive.

Eliminating Habits -
<strong>The</strong> Backfire Effect
Mar 11, 2014
Habits are a big part of our lives. We all have them and we all succumb
to them. In fact, a recent study shows that almost fifty percent
of our daily activities are habitual. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> <strong>about</strong> most of them
is; they serve no purpose for us, other than to cause us negativity.
We are blinded by the small initial satisfaction we get when we succumb
to their desires. We then shame ourselves for doing it in the first place.
We continuously fall prisoner to them because they eventually dwindle
our lives down to mediocrity. <strong>The</strong> reality is; even if we knew our addictions/habits
were present the majority of us would do nothing to get rid
of them because we fear change. Our habits actually serve us comfort.
Think <strong>about</strong> all the common habits out there like smoking cigarettes, shopping,
eating unhealthy, too much sugar, scrolling our social media news feeds,
etc., they all serve the exact same negative feelings and emotions in our
minds. <strong>The</strong>y’re all destructive to the very same extent whether you realize it
or not. And most importantly they wither us down to lower our standards.
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Habits are addictions. Plain and simple. You need to treat each habit
as aggressive as you would an addiction. Only when you witness the
severity of your habits will you make a conscience effort to eliminate
it. Our habits are all the same in the realm of the amount of destruction
they do to our lives. No one addiction is superior. <strong>The</strong>y’re all the same.
I often write <strong>about</strong> habits and their destructive nature because I’ve gone into
great depths to seek their reasoning in our lives. I’ve seen highly addicted
people surpass their addictions and become truly wholesome people who are
no longer addicted. I’m talking <strong>about</strong> serious addictions, like heroin, cocaine
and other common street drugs, sex addictions and shopping addictions.
Where, the people who were addicted no longer are the same type of people
because they’ve enlisted a new and healthier perspective. <strong>The</strong>y replaced

their morals values and beliefs entirely. <strong>The</strong>y did what they needed to eliminate
their addictions because it was causing heavy discomfort to their <strong>life</strong>style.
I’ve also seen the other hand many times where someone cannot surpass
their serious addiction because they fear the unknown. <strong>The</strong>y continuously
dwell in their emotional self-pity and chose to embrace words from their
negative influences; those who tell them they’re weak because they fear
what’ll happen when they leave the situation (eliminate their negative influence).
No matter how many times they suffer from harsh verbal abuse from
their peers their fear of change overcomes their mindset. This is the exact
same story for anyone who suffers from serious addictions, not just those
who are verbally abused. All addictions contain the same feelings and the
same emotions. Although different in nature their destruction is all the same.
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Often times, people with serious addictions don’t feel worthy of getting assistance.
<strong>The</strong>y feel their lives are too far gone to be saved. Or, they’re ashamed
of their addictions and they don’t want other people to see their weaknesses.
<strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; it is possible to eliminate any given habit or addiction no matter
what the circumstance. Now that we’ve discussed the nature of habits and
their role in our lives I want to share my thoughts <strong>about</strong> eliminating them.
Eliminating any given habit/addiction will increase your happiness, bar
none. <strong>The</strong>re are some backfires however when overcoming one. For example;
often times, people replace their habit with another one when
they’re trying to rid of one. A smoker might binge eat during their regular
scheduled smoke break at work (rather than smoke cigarettes). This is
merely to replace the comfort the smoker once received from the initial
habit. <strong>The</strong>y became used to the instant satisfaction and looked forward to
it at certain times during the day. I personally gave up smoking cigarettes
but I became glued to the news feeds of social media. I needed something
to replace my comfort of smoking so I latched onto my phone. Now
I can’t put it down. This has caused an even bigger issue with my personal
<strong>life</strong> compared to smoking (without mentioning the obvious health effects
of smoking) because now I spend less quality time with my family
at home. My phone addiction has now surpassed my smoking addiction.
Be aware that you may replace your habit with another one. It’s your body’s
way of defending the discomfort of not being addicted anymore. A friend of
mine was a heavy drug and alcohol user. He replaced his addiction of chugging
beers with that of chugging triple-triple coffees. He drinks at least six a day.

Obviously coffee is a healthier addiction (you would think), but recently he
was diagnosed with stage two diabetes. Like I said before - all habits/addictions
cause equal amount of destruction. Period.
Our addictions/habits are self-defeating prophecies. <strong>The</strong>y serve no purpose
for us yet we continuously become blinded by their deceit and succumb yet
again to their desires. Don’t let your addictions ruin your <strong>life</strong> anymore. Decide
to eliminate them for good. But remember the backfire affect.
Be grateful for all your past
experiences - the good and
the bad because each of them
taught you a lesson or two.
<strong>The</strong>y helped pave the way to
who you are today. Choose
to see your daily experiences
as either an opportunity to
learn something new or as an
opportunity to grow.
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Friends and their role in our lives
Aug 18, 2014
Our friends play a big role in our lives. <strong>The</strong>y build us up, encourage us, and
stick around us through the thick and thin. <strong>The</strong>se are what true friends do
anyway. Others, they just stick around because we bring joy in their lives.
But, sometimes we don’t receive the same satisfaction from them. Very
few of our influences actually bring any wholesome value to our lives.
Sometimes they only show up when they need something. For these types
of “friends” that’s when the best decision is to relieve them of their duties
as friends in our lives and move on to more fulfilling relationships.
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Today I have less than the amount of friends I can count on one hand. It
may not be very many but these are the people that bring true value to my
<strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong>y make me feel wholesome, they appreciate me for who I am, they
build my confidence and they stick around during the thick and the thin
because I do the same for them.
Exercise: I recommend you take an inventory of the friends you currently
have. Are they bringing value to your <strong>life</strong>? Are they the type of people you
would introduce to your colleagues at work or your Mom and Dad? Would
they be there when you need them most? <strong>The</strong>se are valuable questions
that will help you understand your friendship circle a lot clearer.
Make a list of your current friendship circle and place a number (between
1-5) beside each person’s name. This number reflects the value they add
into your <strong>life</strong>. Be sure to include all the important factors when deciding to
place a number beside their name, such as; how often do they contact you
to see how you are? How easy is it to connect with them when you need
their assistance? Do they offer assistance regularly? Do they encourage
you, or do they discourage you? Do they show interest in your goals and
beliefs? Do they include your opinions in conversations or do they lead the
entire conversation with their own discussion? <strong>The</strong>se are all great aspects
to cover. All of which will help you determine which characters need to be
eliminated from your current friendship circle.
If they aren’t adding value to your <strong>life</strong> move onto more rewarding relationships.

Often times you see someone - the
work they do or the possessions they
have and you become jealous of
theirprosperity but what you may
not realize is that they think the
same of you. We all have attributes
that others wish they had. Be proud
of them!
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Follow Your Own Beliefs
Sep 27, 2015
When I was a child I was told to obey my parents and the law. When I was
a teenager I was told to listen to my teachers, and to study and get good
grades so I can find a good job working for somebody else. When I started
working I was told to obey my supervisor and to work hard for my employer.
I did all of this, then I realized I wasn’t happy. I had worked hard and was determined
for years to follow this pattern but it left me dissatisfied, angry and
broke. It was then that I looked into passion - what it is and how it can help
me become happier. I then changed my mindset completely and took the
opposite approach to <strong>life</strong>. Now, I obey my own rules, work my own hours,
associate with the people I choose to be around, and I’m working at fulfilling
my passions each day. I’ve since then become a lot happier, I’ve learned
lessons congruent to my values and beliefs, and I get paid what I’m worth.
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Follow your passion!
Passion is what
separates happiness
from mediocrity

<strong>The</strong> De s ig n O f O ur Li v e s I s S o Pr e c i s e
Oct 24, 2011
Think <strong>about</strong> it. We as human beings are designed with such perfection. From
our immune system, bodily and organ functions to our personalities, character
traits and everything in between, it’s perfect, almost predictable. In fact,
even the not so human characteristics of our lives, like the animals, bugs,
plant <strong>life</strong> and sea creatures. <strong>The</strong>y too are made with such perfection.
First: <strong>The</strong>re’s a lot more perfection to <strong>life</strong> than you may realize. As for humans,
there are the obvious differences like skin color, race, religion, etc.,
but these differences are what ads appeal to this thing called <strong>life</strong>. Although
these differences may seem imperfect, their real perfection is often overlooked.
North America is such a vastly multicultural atmosphere. Every type
of race, religion and culture reside here. Amongst all of us, we see small differences
that most would call imperfections, but you must admit that there
are hundreds even thousands of other people that look and act exactly like
them. <strong>The</strong>ir differences most likely put you as a minority. In fact, the United
States is only roughly five percent of the world’s population. Just think of all
the other people out there; people that you may call imperfect. <strong>The</strong>ir imperfections
are what satisfy our relationships and make for a more enjoyable
<strong>life</strong>time. Imperfections are equality.
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Second: Take a look at everything around you. A good portion of everything
you see is manmade. Almost every square inch of it actually. <strong>The</strong> house you
live in, the roads you drive on, the food you eat and all the materialistic
things were all made to perfection by human beings. Literally everything
around us has been crafted with perfection.
Life is perfect in every way because it was created that way. Learn to appreciate
the imperfections of your <strong>life</strong> because to someone else they’re perfect.

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When you’re setting your
goals dream as if you’re
eleven
years old. Imagine
yourself already
accomplishing the goal
with your utmost
imagination. And, act upon
it but don’t let
the negativity that
surrounds you take
control.

You Are <strong>The</strong> Sum Of All Of Your Fears
Apr 11, 2010
Remember when people used to laugh at you for being afraid of something?
Perhaps it was in your youth at school when you couldn’t bare the thought
of getting on stage in front of your peers to do a presentation. Remember
how your knees and voice trembled when you stood there and tried,
meanwhile, it seemed like everyone in the audience was laughing at your
weakness. Or, maybe it was at work the other day when you were embarrassed
because you couldn’t force yourself to climb a ladder in front of your
coworkers. It was just too fearful. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; we all harness fear, everyone
does. In fact, those who swear they harness zero fear are usually the
ones who are the most fearful, just in other ways that aren’t so obvious.
For example. A public speaker whom enjoys being in the limelight and someone
who doesn’t appear to have much fear at all. Although this person may
seem confident, he/she may host fear in a completely different realm of <strong>life</strong>
such as lack of commitment in relationships, where he/she just cannot commit
to fostering a healthy prolonged relationship with someone. Maybe they
became a public speaker (or whatever their career choice is) because someone
of influence told them they weren’t worthy of achieving it. <strong>The</strong>y became
who they are because they wanted to prove them wrong (fear of failure). Regardless
of who you are we all harness fear. Some are just better at hiding it.
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I still run up the stairs at night after I turn off the kitchen light. Thoughts of
fearful monsters still runs through my brain at the age of 35. But I have no
problem getting up in front of an audience of thousands. Geesh!
Even though we all harness fear there’s plenty you can do to get rid of it, such
as some of the techniques provided in this journal. Fear is just another negative
habit that needs to be replaced with more positive thought and action.
<strong>The</strong> best way to overcome it is to stare it directly and commit to chipping
away at it day after day until it’s withered away.

Fear only persuades your mind in a negative way. When fear overtakes your
mind it fills it with nothing but negativity. <strong>The</strong> good news is that fear is a part
of your imagination. It was painted into your mind from past experiences,
past emotional hurt and regrets. You can paint a whole new picture of a
more positive reality if you choose to do so. Challenge yourself today to face
one of your fears. Heck, don’t just face it, eliminate it!
Fun but fearful exercise: Make a commitment to yourself to TRY overcoming
one of your inner most fears this week. If your fear is spiders or snakes go to
a local pet store and ask to pick up or touch a spider or a snake. If your fear is
heights go to an indoor bungee jumping facility and commit to it. If you just
have an overall fear of <strong>moving</strong> forward in your <strong>life</strong> commit to TRYing something
new; something you would’ve never have done before reading this.
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Remember, you’re only “TRY”ing this exercise out. This means you can back
out if you need to. Taking the first step and actually walking into the pet store
or bungee jumping facility is the closest you’ve ever been to overcoming the
fear in the first place. TRYing is exactly what you need to do to eliminate it
altogether. Don’t delay, just TRY it right away. If you prologue your ambition
to eliminate it it’ll just sit on the backburner forever and just always be
something that never became.

<strong>The</strong> people you
hang around
with will
either
make you or
break you.
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<strong>The</strong> Software Of Life
Jan 11, 2014
<strong>The</strong>re’s an algorithm to <strong>life</strong> just like Google’s algorithm online. It works in the
same way to the same power just in different form. Google’s algorithm delivers
relevant results based off your keyword searches. Life’s algorithm is based off
your vibrational frequency; the universe responds in relevance based off your
decisions and actions. If you operate at a higher vibrational frequency by making
healthier decisions the universe will provide better people, better opportunities
and a better <strong>life</strong>style. <strong>The</strong> opposite is true for your negative choices.
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We live our lives like the
movie Groundhog Day –
similar experiences day in and
day out yet we expect our lives
to change without effort.

Life Is A Video Game
Jan 11, 2014
Life is like a video game. <strong>The</strong> more points you generate allows you to procrastinate.
This story has no guarantees. But it’s filled with amazingly wonderful things.
Universe is the name of the software. It generates billions of one-of-a-kind
avatars. All of them wishfully chasing to become a star. But, each of them
dissatisfied with themselves.
Systematically they’re trained for enjoyment, but they strive for everything
not important. <strong>The</strong>ir morals are constantly defeated by their choices, especially
when it comes to their own importance.
This video game runs on an algorithm that’s perfect, coincidental but subliminal.
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<strong>The</strong> characters within it mistake their own awareness. <strong>The</strong>y defend their
sins. And careless.
<strong>The</strong>ir minds bleed from sadness. <strong>The</strong>ir dreams of happiness are faded by
their own imaginations. Passion proves the law of attraction. But only few
take advantage of it. It doesn’t make sense in a lot of ways, but nobody questions
it.
<strong>The</strong>y want to be happy with themselves and with what they’ve got, but
they’re constantly broken down by their own individual thoughts. Mistakes
are mistaken for weakness a lot. Opportunities are withered away and wasted
without an afterthought.
Anything is possible is what they believe. Yet they’re starving for a chance for
any type of relief. <strong>The</strong> human body is the master of itself. Amazingly perfect
yet also very selfish.

Every character plays the role of the star of the show. <strong>The</strong> leader of the body,
the mind and the soul. <strong>The</strong> one who decides its purpose is also the one feeling
worthless.
Experiences are mixed with every emotion. Achievements let them live in
the moment.
Confidence is the master of their voice. But, their actions force them to live
with their choices.
<strong>The</strong>y enjoy the days of their lives, but they hate it at the same time. <strong>The</strong> Matrix
is the best way I can describe how their lives are in control of their minds.
<strong>The</strong>y’re addicted to anything that brings happiness in the moment. But, Karma
gets back at them when they go against their morals.
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Religion controls them. <strong>The</strong>ir actions are deceiving for absolutely no reason.
Happiness is attracted to their imaginations. But, they often succumb to negative
temptations. Abuse is learned from the parents who raised them. Nasty
comments soon becomes fear on their faces.
<strong>The</strong>ir happiness is driven by their own decisions. Yet they’re influenced by
negative ambitions. <strong>The</strong>y’re competitive with their <strong>life</strong>long wishes. But,
they’re jealous when they’re beaten by others.
<strong>The</strong> wars and the divorce rate replays their paranoia. It plays a role in how
they become joyful. Anything is possible if you see the possibilities. But, most
of them settle for less than what they believe they should receive.
This story goes on and on, and on and on ... and on, and on and on. How are
you going to play your role in this video marathon?
This video game is YOUR story of reality. You see it outside your windows
and inside of society. Imagine YOUR reality as how I described it as the video
game. What do you wish to accomplish? And, what level are YOU going to
play until?
Your best self comes to play when your
habits are put away.

Getting Over <strong>The</strong> Hurt
Mar 20, 2011
We’ve all experienced some form of bullying or abuse in our lives. Whether
it was dished out by a sibling, from a colleague at school or even a co-worker,
the abuse has caused hurtful feelings of resentment and anger. Deep down it
even hurts to discuss the issue. It’s extremely important to get over the hurt
so you can move onto a happier reality. Here are my thoughts on the issue.
It’s not a very common thing to talk <strong>about</strong> the issue of bullying, especially if
you’re the victim. I know this from plenty of experience in dealing with such
issues over the past decade and a half. Aside from teenagers, I know countless
grown adults who still lack confidence and passion because they didn’t
talk <strong>about</strong> their issues or deal with their abuse properly when they were
younger. <strong>The</strong>y still haven’t relieved the tension from abuse they experienced
way back in middle school.
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I get it - talking to someone <strong>about</strong> your abuse can be difficult. Nobody wants
to share their vulnerabilities. I’ve understood there’s a very small likelihood
of someone actually sharing their story of abuse with someone. This makes
it extremely difficult to move forward in a positive direction. I find the best
way to move on from the abuse is doing a simple visualization exercise that
I’ve been teaching for years. It works amazingly well.
Visualization exercise:
This visualization exercise is going to bring out your inner emotions <strong>about</strong>
the abuse you’ve dealt with. With a pad of paper and pen I want you to jot
down your most recent experience of abuse. I want you to search deep down
inside your mind and visualize exactly what the experience was like. When
did it happen? Who was there? What comments were said? Visualize the
scenario as best as you can. I want you to be as detailed as possible because
the details are what’s going to help you move on.
Don’t worry, you don’t have to share this with anyone.

As you’re visualizing I want you to imagine the exact emotions you felt. I
want you to relive the experience as close to how it actually happened.
Next: re read it over and over again. I recommend reading it once a day for
21+ days straight because it takes 21 days of continuous action to change an
old negative habit. This should help you move forward without the pain from
your past abuse.
<strong>The</strong> best way to get over a negative experience is to relive it over and over
and over again because the more you experience the same scenario the less
emotionally attached you get.
Next: Follow the same procedure for all accounts of abuse in your <strong>life</strong>.
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Sometimes being
successful means
understanding what
you have to give up.

Judging Someone Else
Oct 16, 2015
My writing isn’t based solely on option, it’s based on intense curiosity and
vigorous research. Questioning <strong>life</strong>; its components, its meaning, the reason
behind our experiences, literally everything <strong>about</strong> it has been my <strong>life</strong>’s
initiative. I know a thing or two <strong>about</strong> what I write <strong>about</strong>. Alright, now that
I’ve got that out of the way, I want to elaborate on something I have a lot of
experience in dealing with - judging others.
We all do it from time to time – judge others. It’s like it’s written in our DNA,
like a survival instinct or something. We are all guilty when it comes to judging
others. When you judge another person you’re actually judging yourself.
Every time you place an evaluation on someone’s characteristics or weaknesses
you’re actually placing an evaluation on yourself <strong>about</strong> the very same
thing. For example: if you see someone who has large hips or a receding
hairline there’s a good chance you’re self-conscious <strong>about</strong> that very thing.
Judgement is used to make yourself feel better <strong>about</strong> yourself. That’s it. It
has no other reasoning in our lives.
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Those who dish out the most negativity; those who are the most judgemental.
And those who make the nastiest comments <strong>about</strong> others are usually
extremely unhappy people. So, when you place judgement on another
person that means you’re dissatisfied with yourself. Yes, we all give a quick
judgments here and there, but if you see yourself consistently judging others
there’s reason to look within instead of constantly seeing the weakness in
others. Judging others serves no purpose other than a distraction to your
own fears <strong>about</strong> yourself.

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I once thought fame, fortune
and materialism was the root
of all happiness.
My experiences,
relationships, and parenthood
has shown me
otherwise. Happiness is in the
hands of being
grateful, no matter what it is.

When A Goal Doesn’t Come To Fruition
Soon Enough
Aug 11, 2016
<strong>The</strong>y say that anything can happen, and a goal, no matter what it is will be
brought to fruition sooner or later, it just takes time. I happen to be one of
those people. I’ve personally experienced it many times, where I’ve set my
mind to achieve something and within days, weeks or months I’ve already
accomplished it. This is no different than anything you’ve already achieved.
Nothing can be brought to fruition without the initial thought of accomplishing
it.
<strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; anything can happen if you believe in it. It will come to you if
you stick to your belief and never sway in the opposite direction. But if you
allow the negativity around you to overcome your ambition you simply will
NOT accomplish it. Your thoughts are more powerful than you may realize.
You must protect them from the negative forces that surrounds your every
decision in <strong>life</strong>.
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I understand it can be difficult when something doesn’t happen – something
you’ve been expecting to happen, like a goal you’ve been working on for a
long time and nothing is happening. Here’s my advice on this.
<strong>The</strong>re are a few reasons perhaps why your goal hasn’t been brought to fruition.
Maybe you’ve lost faith in it. After putting your hard efforts into something
you’ve believed in for so long, meanwhile failing miserably so many
times, in the midst, you lost your faith in your goal. You don’t believe it’s
possible anymore.
<strong>The</strong> second possibility is that negative Karma is weighing you down. Often
times over-achievers are also over-deviants; they do more negative things
than the average individual because they risk more than the average person.
<strong>The</strong>y’re more active in general. And, as you’ve read in my previous entries,
doing negative things brings negative Karma. This means your goal may have
been put on the slow track to success because of your negative habits in the
past. It’s possible your negative Karma is keeping you from achieving it.

When a goal doesn’t come to fruition soon enough chalk it up has bad karma
or that you’ve lost faith in your abilities and choose to move forward beyond
those limitations. Your goal is worthwhile, otherwise you wouldn’t have set
it in the first place. It will come with a little more positive effort and faith.
Trust it.
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Every negative word spoken takes
away from your positive
perspective of reality.
Change the words you say to
yourself and you’ll change your
<strong>life</strong>.

Nov 19, 2015
Positive Focus
<strong>The</strong> most common excuse I hear <strong>about</strong> why people don’t set goals is because
they don’t have confidence in themselves. <strong>The</strong>y feel their goals are merely a
letdown. <strong>The</strong>y’re afraid to accomplish them. Lack of confidence happens to
be a widespread issue amongst humanity. <strong>The</strong> good news is confidence can
be developed.
I know of people who have moved mountains when it comes to developing
confidence. I remember acquaintances in high school who were severely shy
and timid, barely able to strike up a conversation. Now they’re running their
own companies and masters of communication like myself. <strong>The</strong>ir actions
have proven that confidence is nearly a state of mind that can be altered
with practice.
Even I lack confidence from time to time, but after I learned a valuable technique
to bring it back I was right back in the game of writing goals and fulfilling
my ambitions. I would like to share with you this important technique
that will help you increase your own self-confidence just like it has done for
me many times in my <strong>life</strong>. It’s called a positive focus.
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<strong>The</strong> more confident you are when writing your goals means a clearer image
of what you want to accomplish. When you’re happy, confident and content
it’s easier to tap into your imagination. A Positive Focus will help you gain all
of this. This is why I like to write one before writing my goals. A positive focus
is a strategy that focuses on all your recent accomplishments. It helps build
your confidence and gets you in the mood to write your goals. So get a pad
of paper and a pen. let’s get started.
<strong>The</strong> technique:
Dissect a piece of paper in three categories – three months, six months, and
long term. Label them at the top. Now, visualize all your past accomplishments
in the respective time frame and write at least three down in each
category.

Sometimes it can be difficult thinking back into your past, especially the positive
things because our brains are hardwired to focus more so on the negative
aspects of our lives. But with a steady focus you’ll come up with at least
three in each category. Think long and hard of all of your recent accomplishments
– big or small. If you’re having a difficult time searching for them enlist
a trusted friend to help you brainstorm.
Once you list your recent accomplishments it’ll help you bring your confidence
to where it needs to be to optimally focus on your long term goals.
This exercise will kick start your confidence back in the right direction. After
completing a positive focus is the perfect time to start writing your goals.
I recommend doing a positive focus every six months. This will keep you on
track of a healthy self-confidence, and it will allow you to feel good <strong>about</strong> the
good things you’ve done. Plus, it’ll help you tap into your imagination.
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You’re never going to achieve
what you want if your actions
aren’t in line with wholesome
values.

Dec 14, 2014
I’ve Searched For My Passion But I Just Can’t
Seem To Find It
This is a topic I discuss more often than not. It’s something that most of the
entire world population deals with. In fact, only a small portion of us actually
know what passion is. It’s a sad fact.
Passion is something that takes some time to navigate. It’s found randomly
in our hobbies, our interests and our daily experiences. Sadly, not everyone
experiences it, and most of us are too scared to risk opening it up. <strong>The</strong>re are
a small amount of us however that do take advantage of it. <strong>The</strong>se people
happen to be the happiest I’ve ever known.
I believe passion is the most important fundamental to living a happy and
fulfilling <strong>life</strong>. You can find passion in literally any activity. But I talk to many
people who tell me how much they’ve searched; they’ve written their goals
and completed a positive focus but still can’t seem to find what their true
calling is. Here are my thoughts.
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If you’re having a difficult time finding your passion I believe it’s because you
haven’t experienced enough excitement in your <strong>life</strong>. People fail to find their
true calling because they haven’t tried new activities to experience anything
inspiring. Inspiration is the key to building passion and can be found in any
of your experiences. I recommend that you step out of your comfort zone
as much as possible and focus on participating in random activities you’ve
never experienced before – with friends and by yourself. Passion comes from
experience. <strong>The</strong>re’s no other way.
Exercise: Write down five fun-filled activities that you’ve always wanted to
try but haven’t had the willpower to participate. Over the next five weeks
participate in every one of them.

What Is Your Happy Place?
Jan 27, 2009
How do I overlook negativity when it stares at me right in the face? Find your
happy place.
My current happy place is a vision of me playing with my kids. It always puts
a smile on my face. In fact, if I’m ever dealing with negativity I always think
of them. As hostile as they are in their play tactics at home, the thought of
them soothes my mind. While growing up my happy place was standing in
front of an audience delivering motivation or encouraging someone in need
of uplifting conversation. That image used to bring an instant smile to my
face. Nowadays, my perspective of <strong>life</strong> is much different. It doesn’t take me
very long to crack a smile when my kids are present in my mind.
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Everyone’s happy place is different. I’m sure you can think of a place, an
experience, or something that makes you happy. Tap into your imagination.
When you’re dealing with negativity – when someone belittles you, or when
you’re having a bad day go to your happy place. It will make a world of difference.
Exercise: In great detail write down your happy place. Here’s some food
for thought: who is a part of it? Where are you (at the beach, your favorite
campsite)? What activity are you participating in? <strong>The</strong>se are all great questions
that’ll help paint a clear image in your mind of what your happy place
consists of.

When you’re
wishing for
a better <strong>life</strong>,
a better job, or
better anything,
just focus on
being a better
person and the
rest will fall
into place.
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Why Are You Still Blaming <strong>The</strong>m?
Sep 20, 2008
Most of our issues stem from childhood. Psychologists and scientists have
been studying the human mind for years. <strong>The</strong>y’ve found that our childhood
experiences stamp beliefs in our head. For most, these beliefs stay within our
minds for nearly our entire lives. Often times, blame, resentment, remorse,
regret and a variety of other negative emotions are never released or forgotten
from what we experienced when we were younger. We continue to host
ill feelings <strong>about</strong> the person or situation eternally. In fact, we harness blame
sometimes for decades, or even until death. I hate to be the breaker of bad
news, but, you’re never going to get to where you want to be if you host the
same ill feelings as you do today. When you’re able to let go of the blame you
host in your mind you’ll be well on your way to living happiness abundantly.
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It’s true; the way our parents parented us is a primary cause amongst some
of our current issues, but that doesn’t mean you need to blame them forever
<strong>about</strong> it. Your parents either did the best with what they had, or they had no
idea how to do it properly. I happen to be a candidate for both. Don’t let your
past affect your current reality by blaming anyone for anything. You have
every characteristic needed to achieve a wholesome mindset; exactly what’s
needed to relieve your blame.
We’ve all been hurt in the past by other people. Although the memory probably
still exists in your mind, even years later, long after the dust has settled,
it’s time to let go of your emotional connection towards the situation. It’s
only weighing you down.
Too many people hold on to their past negativity for too long. <strong>The</strong>y’ve tried
to forge their way to a better <strong>life</strong>style but they’re constantly dragged down
by their emotional attachment they host towards it. Until they let go of it
they’ll continue to live a <strong>life</strong> of mediocrity. Blame only eats away at your
psyche.

Think <strong>about</strong> the situation (you blame them for) from a variety of perspectives.
This should help you distinguish the fact that you’re only causing damage
to yourself by holding on.
You’re in charge of which thoughts get processed in your mind. Stop blaming
others for the hurt you went through. It’s not helping you in any way. Choose
to forgive, forget and move on from the situation. <strong>The</strong> quicker you can move
on, the quicker you can find ideal happiness.
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What Should I Write About?
Jul 15, 2009
Writing is a great way to release your emotional attachment to the negativity
in your <strong>life</strong>. I’ve found plenty of times it’s helped me personally in my own
<strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong>re are however numerous benefits to writing.
Writing allows me to clear my mind. It enables me to understand my problems
more clearly. It releases the tension I host towards any given subject.
I’ve made writing a habit because it makes me happier. Sometimes when I’m
journaling I have no specific topic to write <strong>about</strong>. When I’m in this type of
bind I just scribble <strong>about</strong> anything. Writing is a lot like reading - the content
doesn’t need to be specific, it just needs to be delved into.
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If you’ve never been much of a writer but you want to give it a try just start
writing anything down. <strong>The</strong> important stuff will follow. Once you tap into
your creative side it’ll unleash the goodness. Trust me.
Exercise: Write your own journal. I’m sure you’ve got a pad of paper somewhere
in your household. Go through your storage and find one. Start writing
whatever comes to your mind. Spend <strong>about</strong> half hour to an hour writing
<strong>about</strong> anything. Try to keep this up every other day, three to four times
weekly. You will see how quickly you can tap into your imagination with a
pen in hand. Your imagination is key to fulfilling your happiness.
As I’ve already mentioned, there are plenty of positives when you write. Give
it a try and you’ll be glad you did.

But they said I couldn’t..
Apr 14, 2013
How many times have you given up on something because someone said you
weren’t good enough?
<strong>The</strong>re are a variety of reasons why someone would want to throw a nasty
comment at you telling you you’re going to fail. Generally, it’s because
they’re jealous of your ambition, or because they can’t relate to your imagination.
Maybe they just don’t see it through your eyes.
Don’t let their negative comments bring you down to the point of giving
up on your goals. Your ambitions are important. <strong>The</strong>y’re meant to happen,
otherwise they wouldn’t bring so much joy your way. Don’t give in to other
people’s inferiority, or their ignorance. Those are the two main reasons why
they’re telling you otherwise.
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Reading challenges your mind
academically more so than anything else.
You’ll feel more confident after reading.
It boosts your spirits and inspires you to be a
better person.

What If I Feel Helpless?
Nov 19, 2014
My twenties were filled with days and nights of feeling helpless. I felt discouraged
often because I knew what I wanted but I didn’t know how to get
there, or where to start. I remember working so many dead-end jobs in my
youth just to make it through financially. <strong>The</strong>se dead-end jobs would inspire
me to want more and do more for myself. But, my feelings of helplessness
triggered anxiety and more discomfort.
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I can tell you from experience that it does get better. <strong>The</strong>se mediocre days of
reflection help us understand what’s most important in our lives. <strong>The</strong>y force
us to stop for a moment and think what will make us happiest. It’s during
these stages where you’ll learn to take the most action. <strong>The</strong>re is light at the
end of the tunnel. You just need to have patience and trust that it will get
better. Great things happen when you take action and believe in it.
Don’t get too discouraged if you’re at a lull in your <strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong> universe is trying
to prompt the best possible scenario for your happiness. It needs to gather
your thoughts so it can provide you an opportunity congruent with your values.
We don’t always get what we want immediately. Sometimes it takes a period
of time to bring to fruition. Keep your hopes up and focus on what you
want in <strong>life</strong>. Eventually the universe will provide it for you but you have to be
patient. In the meantime, practice being grateful for what you already have.
This will boost your spirits and bring it a whole lot quicker.

Creativity is yet
another underrated
characteristic.
It ranks in the realm
of the
imagination
and passion.
<strong>The</strong> ironic part is
that each of these
characteristics work
best when combined.
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What If I Make A Mistake Or People
Laugh At Me?
Jun 19, 2014
Taking any action in <strong>life</strong> can result in generating mistakes and laughter from
others. I know this from experience. <strong>The</strong>re’s a good chance I’ve made more
mistakes and have had more people laugh at me for making them; more so
than my friends or anyone that I know. But that’s because I took more action
and risked more than they did. I’m also a lot happier at this stage of my <strong>life</strong>
because I went for it all back in the day. Now, I can relax while they’re still
working on their goals and trying to accomplish their ambitions they gave up
on earlier in <strong>life</strong>.
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I’m a firm believer that when working on any goal or ambition you need to
give it your all. You need to put everything you have into it, and sometimes
this means being vulnerable, and, often times, showing your vulnerabilities
to others.
<strong>The</strong> more you get involved with your goal the more momentum you’ll build
towards achieving it. Don’t let potential mistakes sway you away from achieving
an ideal <strong>life</strong>style. Your goals are important. If you worry <strong>about</strong> making an
idiot of yourself in the making you’ll never achieve anything of great worth.
<strong>The</strong> people who have achieved the most in <strong>life</strong> are the ones that have made
the most mistakes.
If you’re going to make a mistake make a big one because you’ll learn so
much more.

<strong>The</strong> best way to boost your creativity
is to become a
kindergarten student in your mind.
Grab a coloring book and some cray.
ons and be creative. draw something
abstract with a pencil. Or, if you
have the materials, make something
out of clay, or write poetry, or
whatever brings back your childhood
imagination. This is a sure-fire way
to boost your creative side.
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Sep 19, 2009
What Does It Take To Become A Leader?
A leader is someone who guides, provides wisdom or encourages others.
It doesn’t matter who you’re providing this for, as long as you’re taking initiative
to provide mentorship to someone you’re a leader. <strong>The</strong>re are by far
more followers on this planet than leaders. In fact, our brains are hardwired
to follow the crowd rather than create our own path. This is why leadership
is so important. Without it we wouldn’t even know where to start. Life
would be confusing. Earth would be even more of a confusing place.
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Mentorship is a big part of our growth. Think <strong>about</strong> it, when was last time
you accomplished something of great worth? I bet you had some help, some
guidance, or maybe even a few people that took the time to assist you in
accomplishing your goal. Most of our accomplishments involve us collaborating
with other people to make it happen. Without their assistance we
simply would fail or fall short of achieving it.
We get plenty of opportunities in our lives to become leaders. Opportunity
to do so lies in the projects we work on and in the relationships we build.
In fact, almost every action we take allows us to lead the pack or follow the
rest. It really all comes down to choice. Are you a leader or a follower? You
can choose to become a leader simply by taking action yourself rather than
waiting for someone to do it first.
Think <strong>about</strong> what you would’ve missed out on <strong>life</strong> if you didn’t have proper
leadership.

<strong>The</strong> easiest way
to tap into your
spiritual side is
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to take a walk in
the wilderness.

Stop Thinking <strong>The</strong> Grass Is Greener On
<strong>The</strong> Other Side
Sep 19, 2009
If you’ve already made significant changes in your <strong>life</strong> I’m sure you’ve realized
that the new option always comes with baggage or other annoyances.
People come with baggage from past relationships, the new job/career you
have your sights on comes with new challenges, even the city you’re wanting
to move to comes with its own baggage – crappier weather, less social activities,
not optimal for bringing-up children, longer commutes to work, etc. It
doesn’t matter what you’re dealing with, the new option always brings new
challenges. It’s just the way it is.
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It’s time to stop believing that the grass is greener on the other side. You
will soon realize that the new challenges you’re forced to deal with, as you
make the change, are just as bad as the ones you dealt with before. Every
new situation comes with new challenges and new baggage. Often times,
they’re disguised in your sights of wanting a better <strong>life</strong>style. Be aware and be
prepare for them.
Tapping into your spirituality will make
you feel a lot closer to the type of <strong>life</strong> you
were meant to live – a wholesome <strong>life</strong>
filled with abundant happiness.

Stop Being So Concerned About What
Everyone Else Has
Feb 18, 2012
I used to get concerned if somebody had more of something than me. If they
had more fame, more money, more materialism, and pretty much more of
anything, I used to become jealous. My jealousy used to drive me nuts. It
frustrated me, angered me, and made me feel inferior. It wasn’t until I realized
that having what they had wasn’t actually what brought me happiness.
Society teaches us from a young age that more of anything is better, but it’s
actually further from the <strong>truth</strong> than you can ever imagine. More of anything
just means more problems.
Jealousy is a common emotion amongst all of us. We all get a little jealous
from time to time, but there’s really no need for it in your <strong>life</strong> because it
only makes you miserable.
Stop being so concerned <strong>about</strong> what other people have because chances
are they’re lacking in another area of <strong>life</strong> that perhaps you are better at. For
example: say someone has a lot of money, or a lot of fame – something you
wish you had. But, as you look into it more you’ll realize they’re lacking in
another area that you’re better at. Maybe they don’t have a solid relationship
with anyone, and perhaps you have a very fulfilling solid relationship
with someone. Maybe they’re quite lonely people and jealous of you.
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Happiness doesn’t come from having more than anything – materialism,
fame, fortune, etc. Happiness is a state of mind that can be developed by
anyone, no matter who you are or what you have. In the long run less is
actually more.

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You are the master of your
thoughts which means you have
a responsibility to keep them
in line with positive congruent
values.

My Message To High School Students
Please Share
Jul 26, 2014
High school is tough. I’m not talking <strong>about</strong> the studies, the books and attendance,
I’m talking <strong>about</strong> the rumors, the peer pressure and fitting in with
others. High school is quite a bit more difficult nowadays than it used to be.
High school was definitely by far the most difficult phase of my <strong>life</strong>. At the
beginning it was difficult to find friends I enjoyed being around. Most of the
time they didn’t share the same interests. I didn’t feel comfortable going to
school at the beginning. I felt inferior amongst others because I wasn’t prepared
for the drastic change from grade school.
Experiencing this change brought a lot of stress and anxiety. It got to the
point where I failed multiple classes, and, quite honestly, I lost interest in going
to school entirely. I wanted nothing to do with it. Even extracurricular activities
where of no interest to me. And, on top of all of this, I was supposed
to figure out what I wanted in my <strong>life</strong> – I didn’t have a clue.
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High school just isn’t the same as it used to be. It comes with new stresses,
more negativity and less acceptance. Today there are way more concerns
than when our parents went to school. Teenagers now have to compete for
respect. <strong>The</strong>y deal with a new realm of bullying, and I feel they have much
less direction than there used to be. On top of all of this, there are way more
career choices, more global issues and more people, which makes things
a lot more difficult to find the right opportunity. It’s not easy being a high
school student these days.
Aside from getting good grades and fitting in with others I believe the largest
concern amongst teenagers these days is preparing for their future after
high school. I know from experience that it isn’t easy having your entire
family question you <strong>about</strong> your ambitions, especially when you don’t even
know what ambition is. It simply isn’t taught in the regular school curriculum
but they make it seem like we should know what we want. It doesn’t make
sense. Here is my message to you <strong>about</strong> this.

High school should be a phase of our lives that gives us the opportunity to
meet new people. It should be an opportunity to get to know ourselves –
what our interests are, the people we like to hang out with and the studies
we wish to pursue. But, these are the very last things teenagers think <strong>about</strong>
because they’re caught in all the negativity that surrounds them.
Don’t be too concerned <strong>about</strong> what you want to accomplish when you’re
done high school. Just focus on fulfilling as many activities as you possibly
can. Most people have no idea what they truly want in <strong>life</strong>, especially in high
school because they haven’t experienced a whole lot of <strong>life</strong> yet.
Studies have shown the average person goes through ten different career
changes before they understand what truly floats their boat. Don’t feel bad
if you have to take a year off (after high school) to figure out what your interests
are. Besides, most students don’t actually fulfill their initial study of
choice. <strong>The</strong>y tend to choose something else before they even come close to
graduating. Or, they force themselves to continue even though they hate it
because they rushed into something without experience.
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Experience as much as you can when you’re young. Travel. Try new things.
Be who you want to be. Don’t follow your friend’s footsteps. All of this will
teach you what you’re looking for in <strong>life</strong>.

Our ambitions are
really only
important to
ourselves.
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To everyone else
they’re just
interesting.

My Main Regret In Life
Mar 29, 2014
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I wrote a series of books geared at <strong>moving</strong> on from what’s been holding you
back in <strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong> main premises was to unlock your true potential by eliminating
the negativity from your <strong>life</strong> – all the regret, remorse, sadness and frustrations
from your first chapter (so you can move onto your next chapter in
<strong>life</strong>). This technique alone allowed me to build my confidence back after desperate
stages. It brought back the passion I have for <strong>life</strong>. I now live with a lot
more happiness and satisfaction. While writing these books I searched deep
within my past to find the things I regretted the most, like arguments from
past relationships, or ambitions that were never fulfilled. I found the most
resentment I had surrounded my lack of speaking up when I was younger. I
couldn’t speak in front of a large group of people. I just didn’t have it in me.
When I knew the answer to something in class I wouldn’t speak up because
I feared to speak up and it bothered me,
I remember looking back at grade school almost frightened to answer any
question in front of the class, even if I knew the answer. I was terrified of
speaking in front of large groups. I’m not sure if my feelings stemmed from my
childhood, or if it came from making too many mistakes and being laughed
at. Either way, I resented the fact that I never spoke up when I should have. I
see myself today with no problems speaking up. In fact, I’ve become a public
speaker (probably to overcome this fear). It makes me feel good that I have
surpassed this roadblock.
What is your biggest regret in <strong>life</strong>? Have you surpassed it yet? Don’t let your
attachment to it stand in your way of living an enjoyable <strong>life</strong>. Release your
regret one situation at a time. Your <strong>life</strong> is too important to let your pesky
negative past emotions ruin it. You’re an entirely new person today.

We often get held back by
our feelings of
resentment. <strong>The</strong> best way
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to get over them is to write
<strong>about</strong> them.

Dec 28, 2014
What Is Life?
This topic can be explored into the deep depths. <strong>The</strong>re are literally a plethora
of different perspectives, scientific studies and religious beliefs that have
explored this topic greatly. All of which explain their own theories of <strong>life</strong>.
I’ve taken the time to explore almost all of them. I however have a different
theory.
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I know we get taught in grade school that this so-called Big Bang created everything.
Apparently, according to the text books, they – whoever they are,
believe that a random, one in a bazillion meteor-like collision gave us the
opportunity of <strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong>n, there’s the Bible thumpers who truly believe that
a human being created <strong>life</strong>. Everything from the stars and the planets to the
molecules in our DNA. Although neither of these stories makes sense at all, I
believe a completely different theory. Let me explain.
We are a computer program. <strong>The</strong>re really is no other way to explain the
perfection and complexity of our lives. From the minerals in our soil to the
different species on the planet, to the organs in our bodies and everything
in between. It’s impossible for one human being, or a big bang (theory) to
have accomplished on its own. Our lives are built as holographic characters
in a video game. We are an invention, an idea. Life was brought to fruition
through ones and zeros. We’ve even gone to the lengths of mimicking the
program of <strong>life</strong>. We’ve seen how realistic modern video games have portrayed
this theory, or the algorithm of our favourite online search engines.
This even goes well beyond my theory because the real question is, who invented
the computer programmers? And who are they?
I know this sounds like a very far-fetched idea to entertain however it’s not
much further from the slightly less far-fetched idea that one single person
generated all of this. Think <strong>about</strong> it.

If nobody knows what
you're going through
nothing can be done to
put a stop to it. Tell
someone <strong>about</strong> what
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you're going through.
You'll be glad you did.

<strong>The</strong> Law Of Attraction
Oct 4, 2003
<strong>The</strong> law of attraction is based on the theory that thoughts equal things.
When you imagine something, as long as you stay committed and harness
belief towards it, it will be brought to fruition.
Exercise: Grab a dictionary and flip to a random page. Pick a word. Any word.
Try to pick something you’re not too familiar with. Try to pick a word that
represents something positive because the law of attraction gives you what
you think <strong>about</strong> (positive is better than negative obviously). Try to be very
conscious of the word. Repeat it in your mind over and over until you’re fairly
familiar with it. Try to use that word as many times as you can throughout
the day when in discussion with other people.
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Here’s where the magic unfolds: You’ll find the universe will literally put you
in situations, or put people in front of you that relate to the very word you
picked. Example: say the word is sabotage (negative). You’ll find your interactions
with other people will surround that very word. Maybe you’ll come
across someone who has sabotaged their own happiness and now they’re
talking <strong>about</strong> it, or perhaps you’ll realize you’re sabotaging your own <strong>life</strong>
just by thinking <strong>about</strong> it. You can see how important it is to use positive key
words in this exercise. This way the universe will put you in more positive
scenarios.
Pick a different word each day and you’ll see what I’m talking <strong>about</strong>. You can
test this for yourself. This is a simple technique that’ll prove to you the law
of attraction really works. Once you’ve completed the exercise you can use
the law of attraction for other larger more important things, like achieving
your goals.
If you download the dictionary app on your phone or computer it’ll suggest
a “word for the day.” This is an easy way to run this exercise in your <strong>life</strong>. Give
it a try!

It’s been said time and time again
that we are given such a short <strong>life</strong>
to live, so why not make it worthwhile,
right? When you think back
at the last ten years you’ll realize
how quickly <strong>life</strong> has actually gone
by. Use this thought as leverage
to take the first step in achieving
what you once wanted to achieve.
<strong>The</strong> next ten years will pass by
quicker. Life really is short! Take
advantage of it.
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Nov 10, 2007
Moving On From What’s Been Holding You
Back In Life
This is a topic I’ve explored quite deeply over the past six years especially.
Six years ago I went through a divorce. It was a situation that shattered more
than my self-esteem. It ended my business and forced me to live an entirely
new reality.
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In my pursuit to finding happiness, I questioned my own values, beliefs
and decisions to ensure they’re on par with congruent ideals. When I went
through my divorce my mindset was overloaded trying to find the answers
to happiness. I didn’t understand how someone could get out of their funk
after such devastation. That’s how I saw it back then anyway. Today’s reality
however offers a much more positive perspective. It sees that I needed to
go through my divorce to become who I am today. My family is everything
to me today. I wouldn’t give it up for anything. Before my divorce my family
came a distant second.
I’ve broken this journal entry down into 10 stages to clarify the message
within. Here is what I learned <strong>about</strong> <strong>moving</strong> on from what’s been holding
you back in <strong>life</strong>.
1 Resentment
Holding onto resentment is something we’ve all been guilty of. Resentment
sends feelings of unease and discomfort but only to the one resenting. <strong>The</strong>
victimizer may not even be aware of your resentment. He or she may have
moved forward already completely unharmed and emotionally detached
from the situation. It really comes down to changing your own perspective
<strong>about</strong> the situation.
Resentment makes you feel worthless. You beat yourself up for things that
cannot necessarily be changed. When this happens it’s important to reflect
on the positive change you’ve already made since the situation you were
resenting. Use it as leverage to get a handle on it.

Whatever it is that you’re resenting you need to step back and assess the
situation because nothing in our lives is permanent; this includes relationships,
opportunities and pretty much anything you can become attached to.
Resentment only brings negativity, so start thinking more positive <strong>about</strong> the
situation. At the very least, you can focus on what you’ve learned so it never
happens again.
2 Anger
Built up anger is the reason you can’t seem to get your <strong>life</strong> back on track.
Often times we hold onto our anger because we remember how much it
harmed us in the past. Perhaps it was a parent who treated you unfavourably,
or a colleague who bullied you in school. Or, maybe it was a time when
someone embarrassed you in public. Whatever the situation was you need
to remove the hostile feelings you still harness from the situation. <strong>The</strong> anger
and negativity is only holding you back from what you want in <strong>life</strong>.
3 Eliminate your first chapter!
Getting rid of your first chapter means getting rid of all negative and hostile
feelings <strong>about</strong> your past completely. It means ridding yourself of the people
that no longer serve a positive purpose. It means gathering all the positive
pieces that made you who you are today and getting rid of any negative attributes
that bring you down. Your first chapter is basically everything you can
remember in your <strong>life</strong>; both positive and negative experiences.
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Think way back into your distant past. Reminisce <strong>about</strong> the negative memories
and choose to eliminate them one by one from your mental conscience.
<strong>The</strong> only way to move on from what’s been holding you back in <strong>life</strong> is choosing
to move onto your next chapter. This can only be done through the removal
of all the negativity from the first one.
4 We are our own worst critics
Often times we cause harm to ourselves by thinking the way we do. We get
upset with ourselves for making mistakes, or we focus on our weak attributes.
This way of thinking is habitual and only brings further hurtful feelings.
Whether we learned this in our upbringing, or we latched onto it through influence
the important thing is to acknowledge the habit so you can take the
first steps in eliminating it.

We are all created equally. We all have unique abilities, talents and things we
enjoy doing. On the other side of the coin, we all harness weak characteristics
and sometimes we make mistakes from time to time. Don’t let these
things stand in the way of your happiness. <strong>The</strong> more you waste your time on
feeding your thoughts through your negative habits the more unhappy you
will be.
5 Has it taken a long time for you to get over someone?
<strong>The</strong> feelings of isolation you get when you’re reminiscing <strong>about</strong> past failed
relationships and friendships can be quite daunting. I have friends who still
haven’t gotten over a breakup that happened over a decade ago.
As we all know, some situations are easier to get over than others, especially
when it comes to relationships. <strong>The</strong> best advice I can give you is to eliminate
the friends who are toxic. Toxic relationships are those that make you feel
worthless, or those that aren’t progressing in a positive direction. Although
relationships are essential to achieving optimal happiness they’re not essential
if they don’t serve positive value anymore.
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It’s easier to get over someone when you have leverage against the relationship.
I recommend mustering up as much dirt as possible in your mind <strong>about</strong>
each toxic relationship in your <strong>life</strong>. Soon it will encourage you to move on
from them peacefully. <strong>The</strong>re’s always better people around the corner that’ll
appreciate you and make you feel worthwhile. You just might need to step
out of your comfort zone to find them.
What goes up must come down – relationships are no different. <strong>The</strong>y’re
meant to serve a purpose in our lives for a period of time, not forever.
6 You won’t move ahead in <strong>life</strong> if you have someone or something constantly
dragging you down.
Although each of us has the ability to influence, not everyone is a positive
influence.
Influences help us determine our <strong>life</strong>’s path. <strong>The</strong>y help us understand who
we are and what we want. Often times we see <strong>life</strong> through their perspective
and act upon it. It’s important to associate yourself with positive influences
on your <strong>life</strong>’s journey. A negative influence will only encourage you to see <strong>life</strong>
negatively. <strong>The</strong>y bring you down, so get rid of them.

7 What’s the worst that can happen?
We often forget how powerful our bodies and minds actually are. We forget
to realize that we are capable of achieving literally anything we set our mind
to. All too often, we get discouraged by thoughts of failure. We fear we are
going to make a mistake or look foolish. <strong>The</strong> next time you’re questioning
yourself <strong>about</strong> what you can achieve take a look at what has already been
achieved in society at this day and age. You harness the exact same characteristics
these people used to achieve their dreams.
What’s the worst that can happen? Accept it and move forward to achieving
it.
8 have you been doubting yourself lately?
Have your thoughts been holding you back from achieving what you used
to believe was possible? Have you given up on your dreams, or are you just
tired of living a bland stagnant and mediocre <strong>life</strong>?
We often give up on ourselves shortly after something traumatic. It usually
happens after you’ve dealt with a hefty <strong>life</strong> experience. Often times we don’t
even realize we went through a change, or even noticed that it affected our
mind as much as it actually did. It’s important to take account of all your
recent negative experiences because there’s still probably a lot of pent-up
hostility and resentment from them. As soon as you get over it you’ll be able
to move forward and re-focus on what’s important – finding your happiness
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9 When was the last time you tapped into your imagination?
I mean really tapped into it. Negative <strong>life</strong> experiences often deplete our imagination.
From the time you were born till today; all the experiences you’ve
gone through have affected how you perceive reality and what you believe
is possible.
<strong>The</strong>re’s a quote that states, “Most of us die by the age of 18 because by
that time we’ve lost hope in ourselves, and we’ve lost our imagination.” Your
imagination is important in so many ways. It gives you hope to believe again,
it strengthens your mindset, and it generates excitement in your <strong>life</strong>. <strong>The</strong>
only way to strengthen it is to use it. Choose to tap into it! It’ll make you
happier.

10 Are you happy with your job/career?
Does your career serve you happiness? Or do you dread getting up in the
morning day-after-day to go to work?
<strong>The</strong>re are a multitude of reasons why we’ve become dissatisfied with our
jobs. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; well over ninety percent of the global population hate their
day job. That’s a sad fact. It comes from constantly being around unhealthy
coworkers, abundant repetition, or perhaps because it no longer challenges
us anymore. Our jobs are important in the realm of our happiness because
we spend nearly half our waking moments fulfilling them. If you continue to
do something you hate you’ll always be unhappy.
When was the last time you considered a job change? <strong>The</strong>re are tons of
opportunities out there waiting to be fulfilled. You just need to take the first
step in finding them. I’ve learned that it’s never too late to try something
new. Hell, I’ve tried over 28 opportunities in my <strong>life</strong>. What’s stopping you
from trying something new?
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<strong>The</strong> best way to be successful in
<strong>life</strong> is to follow your heart and
listen to your gut. When you
follow what your heart tells you,
and listen to your gut instinct you
will never fall into the hands of a
bad decision.

May 22, 2017
My Final Note
Above everything mentioned, it’s important to follow a path that is congruent
to your happiness, no matter what it is. Yes, there will be the lazy days.
<strong>The</strong>re’ll be days where you feel alone, frustrated, angry with the world and
everything in between. <strong>The</strong> <strong>truth</strong> is; it doesn’t matter what you label any
given situation, the important thing is to find the positive in every situation.
This will make your days a whole lot easier. Life is all <strong>about</strong> perspective.
I promise you this.
Lastly, YOU are more valuable to society than you may realize. You have everything
you need inside you to accomplish anything in your imagination.
It really comes down to your own level of belief and willpower to make it
happen.
I’ll leave you with a poem I recently wrote <strong>about</strong> the struggles of <strong>life</strong>. It
includes every message in this journal. It’ll hit home with congruencies in
your own <strong>life</strong>. I promise.
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Believe in yourself!
You matter!!

<strong>The</strong> Truth About LIFE
A poem tying in all relevant <strong>life</strong> messages
When I was young I dreamed of the fascinating things. Imagining my <strong>life</strong>
fulfilling and satisfying. I saw the possibilities. It was plain to see it when
dreams mattered to me. I couldn’t believe my energy back then. I failed over
and over and over and over again. Wishfully thinking I could be who I wanted
to be. But I only seemed to experience the troubling things.
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Wondering if my talents would ever amount to anything. Nowadays my
mindset is weakened by tragedy. It’s fighting for something that’ll make
me happy. Faded dreams becoming memories. Oh the days when <strong>life</strong> was
unique. Nothing stood in my way of becoming what I truly wanted. My parents
telling me I can be anything. But, they never even tried to be what they
could’ve been.
My Dad shamed himself in a trailer. Weakened by other people’s flavouring
thoughts. He hated himself for not chasing wealth. Deep down he knew his
intentions - were complacent.
His employment was disappointing. Conjoined by seeing no enjoyment in his
work. His hard work earned far less than I did, but he knew how to be father
and that’s all that really matters.
My mother on the other hand saw <strong>life</strong> differently. Though she appreciated
people, she battled reality. Shaming herself for not being who she wanted.
Tiptoeing around her thoughts of happiness.
Triggered by the lavish things. Swayed to break from her own beliefs. She
never understood what would make her happy. Faded dreams shortly becoming
reality. Blamed by her father.
Abandoned to become less than she wanted. Futuristically grieving her personality.
Chasing freedom through other people’s reasoning. Her mother
died when she was a teenager.

It shattered and broke her into pieces. Meanwhile, her father left her to fend
for herself. While looking good in the eyes of everyone else. He just couldn’t
see what everyone else saw.
When I was young I believed <strong>life</strong> was easier. Though they never achieved
much either. Later I landed the same opportunity. Practicing what I would
preach for completely different reasons.
Racist with the words I said to myself. Carelessly whispering poison. I felt it.
Complacent in my own freaking ways. Diligent with nothing that truly matters
in <strong>life</strong>.
Remembering what my mother said. You can be anything, as long as you’re
smart <strong>about</strong> it! If she could only perceive the way I see it today would she
agree this is an f’d up society?
After doing things and telling people I did, it should be done without wanting
anything. We play each other’s minds like a video game. <strong>The</strong> algorithm is all
the same equation.
Our ethics have changed. Today’s aim is <strong>about</strong> overcoming society. It’s <strong>about</strong>
playing mind games and training ourselves to become better than them. It’s
true. We generated this ourselves.
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We’ve withered our morals down to nothing. We can’t understand a word
anyone says because we can’t even justify our own feelings <strong>about</strong> something.
It’s the never ending story of us.
We’ve become materialistic. Too focused on less than important things. Addicted
to everything these days. Wondering if we want to be here, or if this
is all just a daydream imagination.
Speaking to teens <strong>about</strong> <strong>life</strong> when I was 18 without realizing how they truly
see it. Anxious to be in the limelight of society. It all ended when the economy
crashed.
In the days of me finally becoming a leader. I was suffering; mentality, financially.
Inspirationally encouraging them to make changes without being
complacent.

Wealthy with pride but bankrupt in their eyes. I’m screaming to be who I
want to be. Free from being treated like an enemy. Saddened by the lonely
stages of <strong>life</strong>. Seven billion beings fighting for the same things. Knees weakened
more than you can possibly feel. Life just isn’t appealing. I don’t even
practice what I preach anymore.
Interchanging their disgraceful ways. Jaded by <strong>life</strong> being a video game. My
perspective was tainted for so long in so many ways.
It’s crazy we can’t agree on the simple things. Your mind is plagued by lies
of your kinship. Phased by an alternate reality. Displaying something to you
that’s completely fake.
Your mind is an illusion, you see, awake and overthinking its heartache. Generations
of slavery is what we’re living today. Nothing has changed in the way
we place blame or hate each other.
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Genetics come with built in prejudice. Strengthened by our father’s references.
Pretending to be somebody we don’t even want to be. It only makes
sense in something you’re watching on television.
Why do we fail to see in front of our eyes? Why can’t we learn to live gracefully,
grateful for our achievements? Peaceful between enemies. Helping
create serious change.
My mindset is dangerously thinking on the sidelines of fantasy. Never going
far enough to amount to anything. Frightened by falling short of what I want
to be. It’s a part of the reality I created. I’m seeking answers to something I
can achieve.
Everything is made to generate reason. Tough finding <strong>truth</strong> when you’re
bruised in many ways. Education is interlaced with fake reality of the human
race.
It intertwines the complexities and the fables and the reason why we’re
here. No simple answer to the most interesting equation. We’ve been forced
to live an alternate way of living.

Bombs in the air is teaching kids to fight with their fists. Aggression weakens
their mindset. It forces them to be what they don’t want to be. <strong>The</strong> trials are
a part of the experience.
I’ve been brought down to my knees so many times, trying to be the one that
understands the most.
I can’t help but listen to my conscience; the one that tells me to believe
again. This f’d up reality makes me deceive myself. It makes me want to be
free, from the troubles of reality. Away from the sickness that dissatisfies my
senses.
My mindset is forced to focus on sadness. I’m so freaking depressed to find
any happiness. Trying to find a way out of the blackness. Practicing only the
things that made me unhappy.
I can’t stand to feel like I’m something, when I can’t even imagine what’s
happened. Head wrapped around a journey that seemed easy to fathom.
Believing in myself is the last thing.
I can’t believe my mindset is so dull these days, these nights are filled with
insecurities. I used to reincarnate the bad to experience the good. Dwelling
in emotional baggage. Telling myself I am strong enough, but I’m weak, I
know it and hate it.
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We can’t even justify our own words to ourselves. Words that’ve caused so
much harm to us.
My preaching can tap their creativity to understand and be the best they can
be. I can bring anyone to stop deceiving themselves. But I mistaked my own
reality.
Life threw me down infested devastation. Replacing my happiness by feeling
jaded. Embracing the hated to feel good later. Seen as someone who can’t
keep it together.
How do you perceive reality? Do you see it from their eyes, or do you lead
them to see it? Freedom is something only a few get to see. It only comes in
your dreams.

In the morning I presented an eighth grade class. In the evening I was shovelling
their driveway. Disguised in the background of society, hating my <strong>life</strong>.
Yet somehow still inspired.
Cleaning their school at night. Cutting grass where they’d smoke it. Trying to
find myself and my pride again. I can’t believe I can’t make a go of my own
fucking <strong>life</strong>.
Tainted by misery of their parent’s fate. Beaten minds from their so-called
caring. Tip toeing around their transparencies. Wondering what <strong>life</strong> would
be like without them.
We’re all broken, damaged and weakened. Very few seek to find the treatment.
Our minds are challenging us to be better people. Persuaded opposite
of what is peaceful.
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It’s good acting in a <strong>life</strong> that allows anything. Deep down we’re all battling a
weakness. You feel like you control your <strong>life</strong>. No more than those who can’t
sleep at night.
I don’t want to leave my <strong>life</strong>, but I think <strong>about</strong> it all the time. I’m dying to
rewind to when I was happy inside.
We are not where we want to be. We can turn around and be better people.
Achieving nothing eats away our feelings. It leaves you dissatisfied with reality.
Life is very much like a daydream. But it’s seems to be far less interesting.
Only fascinating when you believe it to be. You are the only one in charge of
your <strong>life</strong>.
It’s all just a fantasy. We are all really just pinned down and forced to live a
certain way. Hating our lives more and more and more and more and more
each time we reincarnate. Farther and farther away from our fantasies.
Generating hated for those in our way, or playing games with those we interlace
in our lives. <strong>The</strong> ones we shed all our tears on.

Your fate is not in the hand of your enemies, it’s from the choices you made
last week. Nothing you achieved was ever brought without it. Overcoming
what stands in your way. Your thoughts are why it’s so difficult today.
<strong>The</strong> creators of <strong>life</strong> better change the algorithm to something where we can
all win at. I can’t believe how our morals have depleted these days.
<strong>The</strong> same game but neither of us are happy. We are like ants in a community,
burned by it magnifying our dreams. You are like an avatar in a video game.
No different than what kids play in their basement.
Chasing something with no value or reason. We all become something,
you’ve got to be determined. Or you can just say fuck it! I don’t think I want
to do this anymore.
<strong>The</strong>se days I feel drained. It feels like Groundhog Day over and over again.
Every day is the same thing with the same routine. <strong>The</strong> exact same expectations.
Feeling very unstable. Wasting my <strong>life</strong> away. I’ve completed everything on
my excitement list. Learning to be a father. I have no idea what I’m doing yet.
It’s unsetting resetting my <strong>life</strong> three dozen times. It’s so difficult to bring happiness.
Laughter is replaced by feeling this way. I guess Life isn’t meant for
us to be happy.
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<strong>The</strong> words we say to ourselves. <strong>The</strong> things we tell others <strong>about</strong> us. We feel
we need to be better people. In a society that shows us our weaknesses, we
breed our kids to see it.
My mind intertwines my passionate side. I keep thinking how I’ve fallen in
<strong>life</strong>. I get caught up in negative choices. Each one dwindles the strength of
my voice.
Finding myself for the umpteenth time. Desperate for some faith in myself.
Disappointed by <strong>life</strong>, resentful, dissatisfied with the race we’ve become.
I know my fantasies will never be free. Yet I’m drowning in the possibilities.
I can’t understand why I haven’t achieved it. It’s satisfying to see how long
it’s taken me.

Stronger than my limitations. I choose to embrace in them. I am brave. I’m
satisfied with my accomplishments, though I am still afraid of them.
Don’t take advantage unless you’re destined for it. What is destiny when society
is filled with everything but what it actually needs. We treat ourselves
even weaker.
Be satisfied with the reality. Be grateful for everything in it. Appreciate the
little things. Everything can be appreciated. Even the negative times harness
happiness.
Try to sway from short-lived satisfactions. When it’s filled with nothing but
habits. Be there for your friends. <strong>The</strong>y only bring happiness. Challenge your
mind to adapt to it.
We all get the same opportunity. It’s not in the draw. It’s in your imagination.
When you understand this, you’ll overcome more than their accomplishments.
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Regardless of what you believe in, believe in yourself. Don’t let anyone tell
you otherwise. Search for the things that bring happiness. It’s too short not
to see it this way.
Eighty percent of the human race hate it. You can change your own perspective
<strong>about</strong> it.
Be who you want to be and challenge yourself to be the best you can be.
My soul is more than an empty basement. Facing the challenges of my esteem.
I can be who I want to be. Forget the fantasy. I choose to believe in
me. Although the universe generates uncertainty. Happiness runs through
my veins every day.
Everything I need to be there is within my grasp again.

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