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BY IAN-MICHAEL BERGERON
@ianmichaelinwonderland
The Book of Jealousy
Last month, I went to a book
release party for my friend Billy
Merrell.
His new book is called
“Vanilla.” Through poetry, it
tells the story of a gay high
school couple going through
the complications of sex, love
and self-identity. I’ve read the
book three times since that
night, again and again, making
sure I’ve read every single
word, making sure every word
has made its mark on me.
Billy’s husband was at the
party - he sat behind me,
hearing selections he’d
probably heard a million times,
and read a million times more.
Listening to Billy read, I started
to panic. Jealousy, mixed with
anxiety, overcame me as Billy
went on. I wanted to be the
one up there, reading from my
published book, my husband
listening intently from the
second row. I wanted it to be
me so bad it hurt.
“All they have to
say is ‘love’ and I
swoon, a cut flower
going limp in
water. Dammit.”
Jealousy has
always been a
problem of mine:
I’ve never dated
writers for that
very reason. I
know that I’d
feel way too
competitive, and that energy
would build a wall between us.
When one of my close friends,
GF, told me that a short play
he’d written was going to be
published and performed, I
was instinctively upset that he
had something new published
and I didn’t. And I don’t even
write plays! Just like I don’t
write poetry.
“I don’t want anyone anymore
to sing me to sleep, to guess
my wishes, to kiss my ring
finger.”
It’s hard, sometimes, not to
feel inadequate. I moved to
New York five years ago to
write—and sure, I’m writing.
If I wasn’t, you wouldn’t
be reading this column,
not to mention a dozen
odd writing-related jobs
in between. But I moved
here to publish books,
and nobody can publish
something that I haven’t
written. In five years, I
haven’t finished a single
first draft of a manuscript.
Not to mention I live in a
city amongst some of the best
writers out there - many of
them my friends.
“How can you do that to a
person, fill them so up with
love that they’re full. And then
let them go?”
As Billy finished, he smiled
wider than I’ve ever seen him
smile, and my eyes welled
with tears. Yes, I was jealous
of him, but beyond that, I was
so proud of him. Now that
I’ve read the book (a couple
of times), I’m not just proud
because he published a book;
I’m proud because it’s damn
good.
I do my best to turn my
jealousy into motivation. I
want to smile like I saw him
smile that night.
“Sometimes I picture Vanilla
alone, smiling, shy, waiting to
be found.”
All quotes from “Vanilla” by
Billy Merrell (Push Publishing)
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lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat.
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lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right
away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white
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urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several
days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain.
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together with safer sex practices.
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Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA
for PrEP are stomach-area (abdomen) pain,
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that bother you or do not go away.
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This is only a brief summary of important information
about taking TRUVADA for PrEP TM (pre-exposure
prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1
infection. This does not replace talking to your
healthcare provider about your medicine.
MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP
Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP:
• You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get
tested to make sure that you do not already
have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to
reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are
confi rmed to be HIV-1 negative.
• Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in
a person who has recently become infected.
Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include fl u-like
symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches,
headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash,
night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the
neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you
have had a fl u-like illness within the last month
before starting TRUVADA for PrEP.
While taking TRUVADA for PrEP:
• You must continue to use safer sex practices.
Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep
you from getting HIV-1.
• You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking
TRUVADA for PrEP. Get tested for HIV-1 at least
every 3 months while taking TRUVADA for PrEP.
Tell your healthcare provider right away if you
think you were exposed to HIV-1 or have a fl u-like
illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP.
• If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need
more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat
HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA,
your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time.
• See the “How to Further Reduce Your Risk”
section for more information.
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TRUVADA may cause serious side effects,
including:
• Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection.
TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you
have HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if
you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking
TRUVADA without fi rst talking to your healthcare
provider, as they will need to check your health
regularly for several months.
ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP
TRUVADA for PrEP is a prescription medicine
used together with safer sex practices to help
reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This
use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at
high risk of getting HIV-1.
• To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk
openly with your healthcare provider about your
sexual health.
Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you:
• Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not
know your HIV-1 status.
• Take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B
infection.
HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP
• Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just
when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1.
• Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may
increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection.
• Use TRUVADA for PrEP together with condoms
and safer sex practices.
• Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. You
must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA
for PrEP.

POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP
TRUVADA can cause serious side effects,
including:
• Those in the “Most Important Information
About TRUVADA for PrEP" section.
• New or worse kidney problems, including
kidney failure.
• Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic
acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical
emergency that can lead to death. Tell your
healthcare provider right away if you get these
symptoms: weakness or being more tired than
usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of
breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with
nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and
feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or
abnormal heartbeat.
• Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can
lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider
right away if you get these symptoms: skin or
the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark
“tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of
appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or
stomach-area pain.
• Bone problems.
Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA
for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain,
headache, and decreased weight.
These are not all the possible side effects of
TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right
away if you have any new symptoms while taking
TRUVADA for PrEP.
Your healthcare provider will need to do tests
to monitor your health before and during
treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.
BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP
Tell your healthcare provider if you:
• Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver
problems, including hepatitis.
• Have any other medical conditions.
• Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant.
• Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed.
Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive,
HIV can pass to the baby in breast milk.
Tell your healthcare provider about all the
medicines you take:
• Keep a list that includes all prescription and
over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and
herbal supplements, and show it to your
healthcare provider and pharmacist.
• Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist
about medicines that should not be taken with
TRUVADA for PrEP.
HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK
• Know your HIV status and the HIV status
of your partners.
• Get tested for other sexually transmitted
infections. Other infections make it easier for
HIV to infect you.
• Get information and support to help reduce
risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex
partners.
• Do not share needles or personal items that can
have blood or body fl uids on them.
GET MORE INFORMATION
• This is only a brief summary of important
information about TRUVADA for PrEP. Talk to your
healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more,
including how to prevent HIV infection.
• Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5
• If you need help paying for your medicine, visit
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Michael Dean
‘Are You the One?’
All-American boy Michael Dean, a
muscular hottie from season 6 of
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One?”, is a model and former fitness
competitor who has managed to build
an Instagram following of over 290,000
fans.
MTV’s dating reality show combines
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interviews to help 20 single men and
women find the perfect mate. If all of
the singles are able to match up with
their predetermined mates (which
are kept a secret) by getting to know
them socially, they share the largest
cash prize ever awarded by MTV, and
leave with the potential of a lifetime
partner.
Aside from his modeling career and
MTV stint, he’s a young man with
a heart, wanting to do something
fabulous for mankind, and has
established that with the prize money
he received from MTV. I spoke with
Dean, who is a confident, well spoken
and passionate kind of guy.
You are currently based
in New York, correct?
Yes, ma’am.
Where are you
originally from?
I’m originally from Knoxville,
Tennessee. I moved up here
about two years ago.
So how did you become
involved with “Are You
the One?”
So funny enough, a girl that I
was dating at the time thought
I would be funny on it. I guess
she wasn’t very serious about
it when she said that, but
I thought, “Maybe I should
audition.” So I just auditioned
like anyone else. I sent in an
application online, then I got
a call a day or two later when
they saw my Instagram. I had
a good following then, about
100,000. They saw me, they
liked me, and I killed the first
Skype interview. I wasn’t very
seriously dating this girl, so
when I got the opportunity on
the show, I told her.

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How old are you?
I’m only 21 years old. I was the youngest
guy on “Are You the One.”
What kind of career are you
looking to have?
I love the entertainment industry, so I’m
going for hosting jobs. I would love to
do what Terrence J did on “Are You the
One?” That’s like my dream job, aside
from being a fitness model. Me and
my friends started a personal training
company, which we now own. It’s called
Model Trainers, because everyone on
our staff is a signed fitness model.
Do you do personal training?
I do personal training on a day-to-day
basis.
You’re very ambitious for being
21 years old.
Yeah. I was in the University of
Tennessee. I was pre-med, I had a great
GPA, everything was going well, but I got
the opportunity to go to New York and
decided I’d rather do that.
How many hours do you spend
in the gym?
Training myself, about two hours a day.
Then being a personal trainer, I’m in the
gym a lot more than that.
In your own worlds, what was
the premise of the show?
So the premise of the show is you take
10 guys and 10 girls and essentially out
of that you match them with someone
of the opposite sex who would be the
best fit for them out of the 10 guys and
10 girls. With that they are trying to
help us find love, because we all suck at
relationships. That was kind of our pet
phrase on the show, that we all suck at
relationships. It really did teach me my
pros and cons, where I need to work
on myself and where I can actually help
someone in a relationship. So even
though I didn’t actually find love on the
show, I did learn a lot about myself, and
I’d say that’s the best advice I had.
What do you do on a day-today
basis?
On a day-to-day basis, with my prize
money I actually started a nonprofit.
I used some of the money to start
a 501(c)(3). What I started is called
Building for Better. I know tons of
people in the fitness industry, models,
actors, singers and everyone says they
want to help people; However, no one
really has the time to do it. So I started
this nonprofit organization, and we
throw parties, and I get my friends to
headline and things like that. We accept
donations as well as charge a cover.
Then that money gets donated to a
charity of my choosing. So the first
is an organization called Friends of
Thai Daughters. It’s an organization in
Thailand, and it helps girls avoid getting
sold into sex slavery, and it helps also
educate the girls from sixth grade all
the way through college. We’re trying to
make a difference.
You’re much more than just an
MTV reality show contestant!
I have a little more brains than that, I like
to think. So between that and organizing
fundraisers, I’m doing some charity work
and going to the gym. I just bought a
guitar recently, and I’m teaching myself
to play. I think that pretty much takes up
most of my time.
What would you want your
followers to know?
One thing I would say is that “Are You
the One?” is not a perfect reflection of
who I am. Although I did do everything
on the show, there is a lot more to me.
The main thing I’d like to say is that
I think everyone is given something,
and that means everyone should give
something back. Living on this earth is
not free, and you should do something
to help people.

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